Counting Crows - A Long December (Official Video)

[@celty234]

My husband and I both love this song. He died on March 4 and I listen to it for comfort. I miss you Larry so much.

[@omarrnickerson6405]

All my Prayers...

[@sarazarate7311]

My condolences.

[@davesalsberry4810]

My condolences,

[@maskedjason]

Dave Salsberry Nmnnnn

[@BillShockley]

So sorry for your loss!

[@DavidSullivandaily]

I'm turning 50 tomorrow, and last month was rough. I'm here because I need this.

[@weirdowilliams3723]

Doing better now man?

[@rknrbn]

Happy belated Birthday! The best is yet to come ❤

[@ACarstens-bq6im]

Happy Birthday David

[@Rodfather865]

I'm right there with you, turning 50 in a month. Where did the time go?

[@mdpurple]

Stay Strong, David. I wish you a better year than the last.

[@joshnelson3803]

This may sound weird, but i often come to these songs and read the comments so i don't feel so alone in my nostalgia, it helps, long live the nineties. Cheers to everyone from Australia.

[@RacerXGT]

You're not alone. None of us are. It's a great big world and we are all capable of great big things, no matter how small they seem in the moment. We'll all get through this long December.

[@joeh6236]

Me too

[@melissa-nb8td]

you'd probably be surprised how many are with you on this. peace friend. :)

[@joeh6236]

@@melissa-nb8td Goo to know we r not alone :)

[@garrickdouglas6804]

Not weird.I do the same thing.

[@lyndsayediger2286]

This song reminds me of getting sober. My sobriety journey started in December

[@tammymcknight7289]

🙏🙏

[@johnparo5800]

Hang in there, it gets better and it's worth it.

[@SoldierDrew]

The longer you refuse to drink that poison the less you miss it until one-day you despise it and can't believe you ever drank it. I've been sober since Jan 99. Can't believe I ever was addicted to that poison. The sight of it in stores now disgusts me. Watched a younger brother pass on last Thanksgiving day from liver cerosis from alcoholism and just buried an auntie for same thing. You're going to hate despise alcohol one day and never believe you once drank it. Find something healthy to replace it, like lemon water or herbal tea. To get the withdrawal symptoms out of you start running each day, sweat all the poison out, rehydrate w/tsp apple cider vinegar to every glass or bottle of water. I'll be praying for your healing and victory.

[@gileisenbarth2773]

Good for you my friend. I too am sober.

[@HorrorFanatic4EVER37]

@@lyndsayediger2286 sobriety suuuuuucks n gay as fuuuuuck

[@BB_writes]

Listening to this and crying. I listen to it towards the end of each year hoping the next one will be better than the last. Lost so many people in the past year and I'm currently struggling with a lot of grief, anxiety, and depression. I love this song so much. Sending love to anyone who reads this and feels similarly ❤

[@cathystruska1558]

Sending love back, I was a happy younger man in those days, I almost cried when I heard this for the fist time in 25 years. I’m a poet,so sensitivity is a occupational hazard. Best to you Sensitive one☮️❤️😊🌈

[@johnkerrigan6389]

It important for you to remind yourself that those who you have lost would want you to love your life, enjoy your life and help your friends and possibly family to remember the good times and to create good times for yourself. You are a good memory to others. Don't forget.

[@altestic9436]

I cried and I'm not even gay 😢

[@michaelblaine6494]

I think most of us have lost people in the past few years myself included,you’re not alone. Plus you have at least 25 friends right here❤️

[@sarahomiracle]

My husband abandoned me without a word last August and no one can get ahold of him. I emphasize with your pain.

[@theOstenHugo]

This band molded my childhood. I am a black suburban kid from Chicago area....my peers were listening to Tupac x Wu Tang x DMX x Nelly growing up x me? I was bumping Bush, Beck, Hootie, Jewel, and The Counting Crows in my discman headphones!!! Jewel was a guilty pleasure. Another one was Alanis x Tracy Chapman x Macy Gray...90’s full of the best music we will ever be blessed with!!!

[@melrosenberg8582]

Good taste, you!

[@melrosenberg8582]

Good taste, good ears, you!

[@davemcdonald9100]

Me too I'm from Chicago suburbs n listened to the same music it was a good time to grow up

[@tammykaser6808]

Love the way truly good music connects people from all backgrounds. I'm white from the middle of effing nowhere Ohio and grew up on all the same music you did (plus 80s and 90s country tbh).

[@MiloTheCat79]

Damn right homie! Right there with you my man...Jewel was my guilty pleasure as well:-)

[@Oguy2020]

This is one of the most underrated Counting Crows, yet, it still is my favorite.

[@epicstacker413]

I love this band dearly, but how is this underrated? It's one of their biggest hits. lol

[@t6mal]

It’s pretty big in my opinion but I love it

[@jonhohensee3258]

Oguy - It's not your favorite.

[@hamptonrover]

Perfect in every way, video,lyrics,recording so very magical!

[@javedk]

Turning 40 this December. The days go by so fast. Happy new year everyone god bless you all !

[@willritter4076]

I'd be honored if some 90s fans would take a quick listen to my acoustic piano & vocal YT performances of LONG DECEMBER by the Counting Crows kzbin.info/www/bejne/d6KTnmBprtCoeq8 and "1979" by the SMASHING PUMPKINS in tribute to 2 great standards of the mid/late 90s era. Live acoustic with no autotune. Peace out and stay safe in '025.

[@ScotttE]

It’s that time of year again

[@Gattsu_OG]

Every year brother. Here's hoping next year will be better than the last.

[@Grr8xtc]

@@Gattsu_OG amen!

[@smokingzombiefilms]

And I’m exactly where this song is, yet again…

[@gianandrearamasso6096]

And we still listen this Song! Even if sometimes Is not december

[@SuperChatsRNotTips]

never is brother never is

[@erikab3081]

I was a teenager when this song came out. I'm 39 now and I still listen to this every December and hope that the new year coming will be better than the last... Happy almost 2023 yall

[@michaelgale8138]

I played every December since I was a teen. This year is hitting me different. My wife she just past away on December 11. I just buried her last week. God taken her away too soon for me. People are telling me next year will be better. I don't see how that can be when my wife will not be there. Anyways I love this song. The song text me different now.

[@erikab3081]

@@michaelgale8138 That absolutely sucks. I hope they are right and next year will be better. In my experience time does help. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to be sad forever so give it some time and then try to to move forward for her. Try to live well for her.

[@chrish5018]

Right there with you.

[@samstricklandmusic]

Same. Keep thinking it's just gotta get better and this song is that prayer

[@Mrs.Jennatic]

Here we thought it would get better. It wasn't just a stage, was it?

[@darlenekostyk46]

I listened to this song religiously before going to rehab in December back in 2018. It took two more years, but now I am almost 3 years clean off of heroin and meth. This Long December is pretty amazing needless to say…I know my next year will be even more amazing.

[@trinisun]

It will be for you ❤

[@danielcropp8553]

Congratulations! Stay strong. :)

[@christopherfodor8236]

Rite on i been clean off dope two months

[@rcusick2465]

Your sobriety is such a wonderful accomplishment. It's the best gift you can give yourself! I'll have two years sober in February. Stay strong!

[@tsaeshae]

Congratulations on your sobriety. I have never been on drugs but I know it is very very hard to come off them. Give yourself a lot of credit

[@33cattt49]

This song kept me together as a homeless kid in 98, my fiance broke up with me and left me penniless as my father was passing away in the hospital. I had to travel with a carnival to survive, and slept in a ride as shelter. Came home when I was off the road to sleep in hospital waiting rooms praying for my dad to get better. I'm all grown up now have a beautiful daughter in HS and comfortably in very early retirement. Life gets better, and times gets hard but this year can get better than the last ❤️This song still makes me cry, ngl

[@AnnetteKillion]

Wow that's a lot to deal with prayers for you

[@larssawatzki1538]

After all the hassle and adversity you made your way, impressive. I'm not sure I would have had the strength. Enjoy everything you've achieved. I wish you and your family all the best.

[@rkd19]

Just turned 60 in October. I heard this when I was 38. Still sounds the way I remember it. Poignant. Positive. Here's hoping for a fabulous '22.

[@lexracquel7708]

I just turned 38, and I wonder what the world will look like at 60.

[@jaivyngreene7979]

im 12, almost 13 and i listen to this. i just wish i could have been alive when it came out.

[@moonglow630]

I tuned 50 in October, so it means it came out when I was 28. My bf at the times aunt knew the lead singer of Counting Crows. He asked her out right about the time their first album came out. I also worked with the mother of the drummer.

[@davidmontanya4718]

Likewise Brother ✌️ HT Happy Trails

[@maddydigrazia1]

I was 21 years old when I went up in front of the parole board in December of 1996 hoping this year b better than the last.

[@studyhistory2ctruth]

God I miss the 90s. Being a teenager listening to music like this hanging out with friends. Life goes quick guys hold on to these moments.

[@chickadeetle]

I think the same thing....but about the 70s . Peace.

[@GhostlyDogg]

I wish I knew that I didn't have that much time left in my teens. The pandemic started and before I knew it, I was an adult trying to get my life together.

[@creescrossgaming7256]

Here I sit at 35 and concur

[@marchapril5783]

I'm trying to impress this on my two teens right now but I just don't think you can grasp it until it passes. I didn't understand it myself when I was their age either. I think it's just one of those things you just look back on with a sad nostalgia.

[@lilacs-n-kiwi]

Same AF. 💕

[@johnathontilicki4396]

So many of us were so spoiled living through the 90s. This was a time right before Napster, before the internet took off. It's like a last gasp of originality sang to us in that timeframe, and we thank all of those who put out music in that time. You are the last of the mohicans of music, and for that, we thank you.

[@Jbirch246]

One of the Ramones (I can't remember which one) said that the 90s Alternative era was the last great era of music. He said that nothing like it would ever happen again, and I think he was right. It was the last time that a tsunami of new sound swept over a culture and transformed it. I'm grateful to have witnessed it.

[@josephweaver5385]

So True. Last of the Mohicans summed it up!

[@emmadilemma5274]

God I miss new good music.

[@tsmyangel]

@@Jbirch246Perfectly stated!

[@andydhillon1977]

So well-said!

[@paulerrington9413]

90s was biblical

[@adamkeim8711]

Take me back!

[@juanvaldez5422]

Yup

[@lisanolan2382]

definitely a long strange fun trip

[@willritter4076]

I'd be honored if some 90s fans would take a quick listen to my acoustic piano & vocal YT performances of LONG DECEMBER by the Counting Crows kzbin.info/www/bejne/d6KTnmBprtCoeq8 and "1979" by the Smashing Pumpkins in tribute to 2 great standards of the mid/late 90s era. Live acoustic with no autotune. Peace out and stay safe in '025.

[@MCUBloom]

"I can't remember.... all the times I've tried to tell myself to hold on...to the these moments as they pass". Beautiful lyrics right there

[@themacocko6311]

Those lyrics are actually what first caught my attention years ago in highschool because I caught myself doing that very thing. Only years later did I learn that the tighter your grip is, the more it escapes through your fingers. Loosen your grip and it fills your hand

[@willritter4076]

that's one of my favorite lines as well... I'd be honored if some 90s fans would take a quick listen to my acoustic piano & vocal YT performances of LONG DECEMBER by the Counting Crows and "1979" by the Smashing Pumpkins in tribute to 2 great standards of the mid/late 90s era. Live acoustic with no autotune. Peace out and stay safe in the '020s.

[@davidhornbeck1470]

Most definitely✌❤

[@brianhurt3271]

The smell of hospitals in winter, and the feeling that it's all a lot of oysters, but no pearls. THAT... is superb song writing.

[@sandyspaulding9484]

I concur. My favorite line from this intriguing song to add to my current noteook (of many) on quotes that emotionally move me!

[@TheZoidberg312]

I couldn't agree more. My grandma died in January 2010. The smell of hospitals in winter....it's just terrible

[@linda.wescott8925]

My favorite part-a lot of oysters but no pearls

[@JesusChrist_IsTruth-LoveForALL]

​@@linda.wescott8925 empty shells. 😓

[@lauren4871]

My mom was dying and passed christmas eve this part in the song breaks me everytime...

[@Shockwave5Six]

"It's a song about looking back on your life and seeing changes happening, and for once for me, looking forward and thinking, ya know, things are gonna change for the better - 'maybe this year will be better than the last.' And so, like a lot of songs on the end of an album it's not about everything turning out great, but it at least it is about hope... and the possibilities." - Adam Duritz

[@andrewturvill7145]

That resonates so much with me. I used to listen to this song in the depths of my trauma and never saw a way out , but was hopeful. All these years on i am healed, wrote a book about it all and it feels like the song gives me the same hope, but also things will definately be better, 100 percent.

[@katelynbrown98]

@@andrewturvill7145 May I ask what's the book? I may read it.

[@andrewturvill7145]

@@katelynbrown98 its about my horrific childhood but also how i dealt with it all years later. Also a mediumistic journey as the sort of undertone of it all

[@katelynbrown98]

@@andrewturvill7145 I'm glad you seem too be healing. I am proud of you.

[@libertasdemocratiam887]

It's amazing how this song has the nicest kindest comments I've seen on any video of any kind on here. I'm genuinely shocked, it's so nice to see. It's given me hope we're not doomed to destroy eachother with aggression and hate.

[@Dlain76]

My Dad died Dec 26 1987, almost a decade before this song was released. “ the smell of hospital in winter” hit hard for me. I love this song

[@tammymcknight7289]

🙏💕

[@4thegood927]

I feel that

[@AnnetteKillion]

yes !!!!! i understand

[@barryj3266]

One cold winter day I was laying in a hospital bed recovering from liver Transplant surgery, so yeah, the smell of hospital in winter. And the years did get better. Hold on.

[@bspierce81]

This song makes me homesick for a place that doesn't exist. There are many songs that give me this same feeling. Love it and hate it at the same time.

[@DEATH_TO_TYRANTS]

I've always felt like this. It's nice to see someone else put it in words.

[@michelleturner9666]

me too dude...me too

[@TheFinalGoose]

+Benjamin Pierce Songs like this make me nostalgic about things that haven't happened yet.

[@christopherwhite7502]

+orda woodward Been listening to this song for 20 years, always hoping next year really will be better than the last...they're all more or less the same, I'm afraid...not the Ritz but not the pits...I shouldn't complain (it's my own fault for not figuring out the game of life)...there's always great songs like this one to get lost in for 5 minutes, at any rate. It's the small things, right?

[@CrazyCow500]

yearning. feel the same exact way dude

[@cathleenmckay389]

When I lost my best friend to suicide, I was 18 years old and we lost him on 12/29/2000. This song was my lifeline for years after his death. And just over a week ago, on 12/20/2022, we had to make the heartbreaking decision to pull my beautiful, strong, and tenacious mother off of life support after a brief and debilitating illness that killed her from the inside out. Again, this song has become my lifeline all over again. Our lives will never be the same, and I pray 2023 is going to be a better year for us all. Rest In Heavenly Peace Mama🙏❤️💔

[@seasonsintheson]

Hope 2023 was as you desired and continues through 2024 as well. Your story of what you've survived inspires.

[@Michaels_shorts-q8l]

Losing a mom is so hard. My mom passed 2 1/2 years ago. Hardest thing I've ever dealt with. I also had a buddy that was a brother from another mother take his life. I was about 20. My prayers are with you

[@thegteam4349]

Sincere condolences, I wish you peace and healing ❤

[@AnnetteKillion]

prayers for you !!!!!

[@AnnetteKillion]

@@Michaels_shorts-q8l so sorry my mom passing was the toughest and a friend to suicide this nov will be 3 yrs he was 32 and so many other peaple too in the past 3 yrs alot of loss it sucks !!!!

[@jaegrsphere1689]

One of the most underrated bands of the 90's

[@Flowtester1]

I agree I used to love his voice when I was growing up in the 90’s

[@manchelyngdohmanchelyngdoh4337]

So true

[@chief5002]

Too bad they’re terrible live

[@TheJujunick]

I never knew Courtney Cox was in this

[@chief5002]

@TheJujunick the lead singer was dating her at the time

[@Korealignments]

This is one of the most beautiful songs of its generation.

[@doeeyes2]

Nostalgia is that ache in ur heart for a place that no longer exists. This song captures that painfully delicious sound. I come back every December to reminisce and take stock of the last year. Here's hoping next year will be better, less oyster more pearls.

[@univers_ALLYrad]

the ache. so explicitly explains it. its so deep i cant even put it in words.

[@bigglilwayne7050]

Owl City Fire Flies is the same way

[@nathanpurdy9435]

It's a gealic word... hereaeth, no direct translation to any other language.... but it describes how the 90 make many feel...

[@loucat2779]

So well put, my friend.

[@davesalsberry4810]

Indeed,,,

[@byrdieprey2590]

I was in and out of mental hospitals from the time I was 15 ('95) until I turned 18 ('98). This song always makes me think of that time. If you're struggling out there, just know....it gets better. But only if you let it.

[@cornbreadfedkirkpatrick9647]

Agreed

[@Dragonfly0674]

Agreed....93 June 21 my 19 birthday was my first of too many hospitals...2020 sucked

[@paulasmith7635]

Hope all is well for you. I had a boyfriend that was in and out of mental institutions for years. He was one of the sweetest souls I've ever known. ❤️

[@byrdieprey2590]

@@paulasmith7635 Thank you, I am living such a happy life now. But I wouldn't trade those rougher years for anything. They made me a stronger, more empathetic person and now I am so grateful for everything I have been given in this life. I hope the person you dated has a happy life now too. And I hope you are happy as well! You sound like a very kind and understanding soul. Thank you for your comment!!

[@byrdieprey2590]

@@Dragonfly0674 2020 has been rough, but you got this!! And no matter what happens, brighter days always come after the dark ones 💓

[@M3LTUP]

This song was big when i moved to CA. The World has changed so much in 25yrs. Wish we could go back to the 90s.

[@paddybpaddyb9940]

Sorry mate, we're stuck with it, have to make the best of it, you're right though.

[@libertasdemocratiam887]

@Fred Sanderson 100% agree. Heh love the use of lame, not heard it in ages.

[@dzonbrodi514]

you and me both bro

[@NathanSander777]

Damn. You guys are awesome!!! 1990’s was the bomb. Let’s make the best of 2020’s!

[@AnnetteKillion]

yes !!!!!!!!

[@davenelson5325]

Here we all are, again, having this song hit us hard all over again.

[@merindab]

Every year

[@SemperGumbi0369]

😔yeah. but we can't go back

[@SemperGumbi0369]

since this AI started counting blackbirds (crows). @countingcrowssupportsrefugees

[@jasonvalente1656]

I can't remember all the times I tried to tell myself to hold on to these moments as they pass... these words hit so much harder at 47 than they did at 22.. Lyrical genius

[@BrianCarnevaleB26]

the pain of loss slowly subsides. Stay busy, stay creative, and rock on!

[@inacher4762]

@@BrianCarnevaleB26 🤘

[@333pinkitty]

So true!!

[@PaperRaines]

The video hits harder too

[@bobkau2062]

Feeling this lyric bad right now.

[@robertdoerr5999]

Ever noticed how December makes people feel like checking out. All I can say is keep fighting the good fight.

[@kellyryan4779]

Amen

[@kellyryan4779]

@Jerry Doll you gotta just keep hanging on..it will get better yo

[@rchieg1559]

Them holidays are a Mf'er

[@Killsnapz]

The fight only over when you stop fighting, so fight the good fight and remember its always much harder to do the right thing than to quit.

[@vaughnmagro5024]

Robert Doerr Yeah that’s because some people can’t stand or be able to keep up the facade of happiness that they have been programmed to think they’re supposed to feel! And some just because they made any difference in the world they live in and just give up!

[@ashredd4810]

I've been listening to this song since I was 17 years old and found my grandfather's old Counting Crows cd hidden away in a drawer. This year I'm marrying my high school love, someone who I met at 17 and fell in love with over our mutual love for Counting Crows. Can't wait to finally dance to this song together at our wedding over a decade later. If Adam or the band ever sees this- thank you. You've been the soundtrack to our love story for 11 years now, and will continue to be for many decades to come.

[@h13390]

This song reminds me of my varsity days in the 90s the good times, bad times and sad times.

[@peterpratsch7223]

Those are some beautiful words ash. Thank you for sharing.

[@darrelmorgan1509]

Your one lucky Sob

[@ExperienceTransience]

Whoa your GRANDPA had this CD?!

[@ashredd4810]

@@ExperienceTransience He is a super cool grandpa who has always had amazing taste in music. :)

[@propertymanagement3860]

This guy describes the beauty and tragedy of life so beautifully. You feel the full range of human emotion, the story telling is amazing.

[@trouty42]

"I guess the winter makes you laugh a little slower, makes you talk a little lower about the things you could not show her." What an incredibly well crafted lyric.

[@EdwardGFunk]

what does it mean?

[@boblabla1329]

@@EdwardGFunk dead kids under the house.

[@rachelb6153]

So poetic

[@goldenageofdinosaurs7192]

trouty42 I remember the 1st time I heard that line. My whole body was covered in goosebumps.

[@josiahhockenberry9846]

@@EdwardGFunk My take is that December is a time for reflection due to it being the end of the year and when reflecting, one tends to think about mistakes that were made. Laughing slower and talking lower is a reference to the humbleness that one may experience upon the realization that they've been a jerk.

[@dominus3197]

The 90's wasn't depression emo music. More like artistic expression of melancholy.

[@danielcropp8553]

Well said!

[@interminablyperplexed4903]

Yes! Thoughtful observation and personal awareness turned into some timeless tunes.

[@crimsonmckenzie98]

More like Meaningful tunes... I'll accept that. Not all 90's was melancholy. It was more storytelling... love it.

[@kevinluther1368]

Im partial to 90s music as well..most decades have their similarities as far as types of music but there is something special about the 90s ..to me anyway

[@robhansen6553]

it was awesome

[@Shan-hc1xc]

After listening to this every December for ~20 years, I'm not so sure next year will be better than the last but I sure hope so.

[@danthemanBC]

Been listening since 96' and I sure hope it's better than 2021

[@yourmom9758]

It's always a lot of oysters with no pearls. Love.

[@dawnleister7511]

Feeling the same way💙💙💙

[@shelly2599]

[@shannonnonnahs6943]

Me too Merry Christmas 🎄

[@jenniferclark9575]

Feeling this song hard this year

[@darlai.4327]

I have listened to this song every December like people listen to Christmas songs. It would take too long to explain my love for this song. Hugs to all of you beautiful people.

[@willritter4076]

I'd be honored if some 90s fans would take a quick listen to my acoustic piano & vocal performances of LONG DECEMBER by the Counting Crows kzbin.info/www/bejne/d6KTnmBprtCoeq8 and "1979" by the Smashing Pumpkins on my YT in tribute to 2 great standards of the mid/late 90s era. Live acoustic with no autotune. Peace out and stay safe in the '020s.

[@fivestring65ify]

I do the same. It's a classic.

[@JanelClement]

I’m with ya girl. Every year. Especially this year.

[@hiscreation78]

I do the same

[@saini1976]

I f&*@ing HEART this song. Now more than ever. It’s December 30, 2020 and my dad is in the hospital.

[@HollyWood-do6fn]

I am 59 years old and love this song. Counting Crows is one of my favorite 90 bands.

[@sincitycapital]

you're still really hot

[@matthewmelton6755]

Absolutely one of the best bands from the 90s

[@carmaela2689]

My mom died in November back in '99. I was 16 and this song makes me remember that time but also makes me nostalgic for the 90's, before her death.

[@lindsayborodin9647]

I was 16 in 1999, sorry for your loss

[@canadaeast8358]

Sorry for your loss and I can totally relate. my comment is above yours it’s pretty similar

[@mnikolov11]

Aw so sorry. Yes the 90s were a great time. I pity today's kids who never got to experience that decade.

[@zuriendrinkscoffee]

Virtual hug, Carmaela! Take care!

[@LoveAlwaysAlisa]

same....except November of 98.

[@lauren4871]

My Mom passed away Christmas Eve. This song brings me comfort. I hope next year is better... It's been a long December. :(

[@Ibethepappy]

Very sorry for your loss. Time sucks.

[@kamisaiahisraelyoutube]

May your mom's memory forever be a blessing.

[@giornogiovanna8067]

I love you, stranger on the internet, hope all is well for you soon.

[@thegteam4349]

I just lost my Dad on December 18th, my sincere condolences to you on the loss of your Mom. ❤

[@cherylhurst7093]

Praying for comfort and peace.0

[@Anglynn74]

the 90s...back when us young adults were bummed out by something there was no internet or social media to vent, no internet soapbox...you just had your friends and music ;)

[@JunkiesRising]

Gods do I miss those days!!

[@charliebuckets8849]

AND ITS ALL WE NEEDED BACK THEN

[@kristinrust8948]

🙏🏼❤️ social media is evil

[@kristinrust8948]

Back when people were real and could go within I’m so happy and elated to be a Millennial and I can feel the authenticity of the 90s before the disconnect from humanity

[@raquelitar2443]

Yes!! The reason why we have meaningful connections and friendships.

[@0BAAC0]

This song was playing as I drove to the hospital the day my father died. It will always be linked with him for me.

[@donsterrett123]

Simple man was mine when my mom died.

[@MarthaLemondick]

;)

[@HankyBeagle]

Hope you're doing well 10 years later

[@tammymcknight7289]

🙏🙏

[@kateadams1990]

"I can't remember all the times I try to tell myself to hold onto these moments as they pass..." I have always loved that line.

[@resistor27]

I always have.

[@stevetyrell8721]

Kate Adams Every time I am going down to munch I tell myself to commit it to memory

[@argodude31]

Very true. One of the best lyrics in music. I'mm almost 55 and the line is more poignant than ever. Wish I could remember more!!!!!!!!

[@brod4173]

Kate Adams ( so so true!!!

[@mlipp4207]

Kate, I’m glad you said that. I feel the same!

[@sebastiankaiser5165]

Just look at Courtney. Quintessential 90s beauty. Like Winona. Or this song. Whole decade just one vibe across all culture. Once in a lifetime.

[@lenurban]

This is a gem. The 90's were the last great decade.

[@SisterGenX]

Absolutely..the last great decade!

[@lenurban]

@@SisterGenX Once GW Bush and 9/11 happened the 90's seemed so much more fun than the subsequent two decades.

[@SisterGenX]

@@lenurban and we had no idea just how good it was. I would go back in a heartbeat... I miss the 90s.

[@marcirwilcox1160]

Yep 2000s suck donkey balls. I hate this situation.

[@Alexander661]

Ironically, it seems we can maybe thank the internet for that.

[@timjanssens9818]

Fun fact: A long december was written and recorded in less than 24h. It's the one song Adam never get tired of playing.

[@brettcooper3893]

That's how it usually works with the biggest hit songs. Most of them are written in a short space of time.

[@Teow_of_Meow]

Probably divinely given to Adam in that case. ❤ Thanks for sharing this info. Makes sense because there’s so much depth and feeling.

[@stevemeyer8635]

I lost my 5 year old son 6 weeks ago and this song always spoke to me, now it makes sense. There will be a lot of firsts in the next year without him being around.

[@MrTheCanaan]

My heart hurts for you. Hold on, gotta hold on. Maybe next year will be less bad.

[@d.wesleydinkins917]

love

[@lvr2d]

stay strong friend

[@venereth321]

Does the feigned KZbin comment sympathy ease your burden?

[@crissindie.]

❤️

[@Jenny-s1s6g]

Never had a December quite as rough as this one. Have always loved this song.

[@dchoney9435]

December 2020, the longest December in recorded history.

[@tuenygaard8075]

Measured all time lowest number of sunshine minutes in Denmark, since start of recording data to like that.

[@FrederickFokker]

Ain't that the goddamn truth!

[@delshoemaker7616]

@@tuenygaard8075 Right?!?! Sounds amazing! Giggle! whatever, still in Denmark, must be better than here! I know the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence! Tue? you were measuring the amount of sunshine in Denmark! Perhaps you are a planetary scientist! or whatever! We here in the "good ol USA" , mostly just being bored!

[@TheHolyGhost777]

2021: Hold my sneer.

[@ResunaTrue]

There's no December 2020. It's *still* March 2020, over a year later.

[@thegteam4349]

I hurt for friends I've lost when I hear this song. When I was young, I thought life would always be the way it was. Lots of friends, lots of fun times and always something to look forward to. I didn't realize that people change, even your very best friends, to the point where your friendship is only a memory. I didn't realize people move away and sometimes never call again. I didn't realize that friends, young people, can get sick and die and are gone forever. And before you know it, the life you're living today looks in no way, shape or form like the life you'd been living or thought you'd be living..

[@bellabear653]

Youth is wasted on the young, because when you are young you don't have the wisdom to truly enjoy it and understand how great it is and impermanent. Be glad you still have the memories because when you get old even those will be taken from you as a final F.U by life.

[@lukethegardenman3747]

It’s only because everything is so intense in youth. It’s like a drug. Nostalgia isn’t for what happened it’s for how it made you feel.

[@LanceAdams-y1r]

So very true

[@michaeladams5636]

I thought bands would sell awesome cds forever or at least some form of physical copies. But boy was I wrong because that ended after December 1996!

[@chipsramek3868]

Sounds like You are trying to lay "Blame" others for changing ...You did too .... dwell on that awhile.

[@TheWhitehorseman1]

What was cool about the Counting Crows is made it ok to have that cool side yourself, and the attitude is far less in the words than the delivery and feeling, it is about emotion, always has been, what they gave me in the 1990's cannot be repaid, this is an awesome band.

[@StonedDead1981]

A very interesting perspective. One that I didn't know how to put into words until now. I agree, they are an awesome band.

[@coopermccormick]

💯

[@u.snative9727]

Well spoken.. im 35 now and all i know is this generation dont know a damn thing about music.

[@wanderingsoul4104]

+U.S NATIVE Can we not pretend your generation didn't flood your billboard 100 lists with shit pop?

[@u.snative9727]

As your watching the same video? Humm???

[@UnKnownrider720]

Adam said this is the one song he doesnt get sick of playing… definitely one of the best songs ever written IMO.

[@AnnetteKillion]

I saw that reel where he said that love this song

[@BumboRasKlat79]

My Pops passed away on December 22 2015. It's been a long December ever since. I only listen to this song in December. The last thing my Pops said to me before he left was "I wish I taught you to pray." I remember it because it changed my life!

[@danaheitman5105]

Sounds like your Pops did teach you how to pray. God is good All the time

[@BumboRasKlat79]

@@danaheitman5105 Those final words from my Pops are the greatest gift he ever gave me. He knew they would put me on the path to finding "The Way."🙏☺️

[@tammymcknight7289]

🙏🙏

[@69Ruskin]

I listen to this song every year around this time. We've all lost so much. Family, loved ones, homes, and a little bit of ourselves that will never be a part of us again. But maybe this year will be better than the last...

[@GradysMom]

*I feel so incredibly blessed to have been a teenager in the 90's. Absolute best music & this song brings back so many memories for me*

[@michaelking9818]

Sorry buddy look at the sixes

[@brianshull4974]

​@@michaelking9818Totally. 60s and 90s were both amazing for music.

[@michaelking9818]

@@brianshull4974 The Beatles, stones, led zep , floyd , and their just the English bands .

[@BartleyTroyan]

Loved this song for the past nearly 30 years. It's nice to hear a vocalist who doesn't need AutoTuning.

[@garymoore4087]

Missing dad and sis sometimes this song hits like a freight train out of control 😔

[@AnnetteKillion]

Prayers for you the song hits me hard sometimes to

[@blunderboy76]

25 years in a row. I listen to this song every Dec 31st. It's still perfect. Happy New Beginnings to anyone who reads this

[@scottmcgrath7163]

I love this song and I truly do with all my heart But Hate the smell of hospitals in Winter

[@willritter4076]

I'd be honored if some fans of melancholic 90s classics would take a listen to my acoustic piano & vocal performances of LONG DECEMBER by the Counting Crows and Mmm Mmm Mmm by the CRASH TEST DUMMIES on my YT channel in tribute to a couple of great standards of the mid/late 90s era. Raw acoustic with no autotune or digital enhancements. Thanks and all the best in the '020s.

[@brawnerbandwidthpartdeux643]

I nearly lost my life Dec 31 2018. I understand

[@mickeymerchant1276]

My husband died December 28 2019. Its going to be a long December this year and every year.

[@Skinnyd4]

One of my favorite songs. Ironically enough, the year this came out was a really good one for me.

[@bhughes8301]

Born in 81, grew up in the 90s. What a decade. What a song.

[@calvinbutler1919]

Same here, my G. Born in '81 and heard this song in December of '96 when the worst year of my life was coming to an end. The next year really was better than the last.

[@bhughes8301]

@@calvinbutler1919 heck yeah man, glad you’re doing well

[@yurdp]

Same!

[@kathrynkirkpatrick5707]

Same here.. born in 81

[@timothylivingston4135]

Right there with ya

[@dedknedy]

Growing up in the valley this song brings back vivid memories of driving down Laurel Canyon Blvd to the Viper Room, Whisky, Roxy, Trubador back in the late 90's.. fresh out of high school. What a great fucking time. Now that I'm in my 40's I really appreciate those memories, the good and bad.

[@southjerseyrn9208]

Never heard of Counting Crows till I was desperately trying to make it through nursing school and would walk a trail around a lake where there were turtles and ducks. One spring evening, I heard "Take a Holiday to Spain" wafting across the water at one of my lowest points - all I wanted to do was help people in a good, solid, concrete way as a nurse and raise my kids with my husband and keep ourselves afloat. Doubted if I had the strength to do it. A wedding was getting set up beside the lake and the workers were playing Counting Crows. I had to research who the heck sang Holdiay to Spain, or was it a local group's stellar song that never got recorded? Then, I found Counting Crows and the fan group (way before social media) and CC music and this song. This song, for sure, was my secret theme song getting through clinical rotations in trauma and cardiac. Yeah...That was long before I got up the gumption to get involved in other areas and discovered the grace involved in hospice. Thank you, Adam, for just saying it as it is. I felt like I could crumble many days in clincial care in various nursing settings and when I came home learning how to become a nurse. My husband died not long after I became a nurse and I had no support whatsoever from his family. But, I had my license and I had a big heart, good skills, and my patients KNEW that I genuinely cared. Thanks for the music that got me there.

[@jamesdixon6792]

Bless you, Carolyn. Yes, the music can help you get there.

[@johnz8224]

Bless you , for being a nurse. People like you are the only reason that I'm still alive. From the bottom of my heart; thank you for all you do...

[@MrGregbnice]

Hi my name is Greg. Could I ask what lake you are talking about? Lots of connections going on with these lyrics in my life. Raised in South Jersey living in Utah. Working in California. It goes on..lol

[@mditt7]

God Bless You

[@chrshsi6101]

Fellow nurse here as well… born in the good ol 90 😂 You made it kudos to you 🎉❤

[@jaredgiangiulio1526]

The older you get the harder this song hits

[@siskiyoucrest]

Aint that the truth Jared, heard it first at 20, now at 47 its the song I put on when the eyes want to leak but refuse to do so.

[@brawnerbandwidthpartdeux643]

Tell me about it

[@rachelb6153]

Damn. So true. I wonder if it feels like that to Adam and the band singing it now

[@williammurphy5186]

This 👆💯

[@justinforbeck4006]

Like this song

[@markparkinson7025]

I've been sick for three years and last year this song helped me make up my mind to go to the beach with my family. This year my wife of 17yrs leaft me due to me being sick but I'll always cherish the memories of the ocean with my family being whole for the last time and this song reminds me of such sweet and bitter memories

[@hi_its_dawn]

I'm sorry for your loss and sickness from the bottom of my heart. I mean that.

[@paulajones9114]

It's been a year , hope you are still here . God bless you .

[@erikalima2818]

I have no words to describe how this song and this band says about a time of my life. I miss so many things and so many places when I listening to Counting Crows.

[@BaxterAdventures]

Perfect

[@bryanduff2255]

4eo for r4o4 is Quio unino

[@jltthompspnjason1538]

God bless to him and you .....too

[@ksilva253]

Definitely get that same feeling too; great music and great music era

[@tavoiaiono7885]

Nice lips. xx

[@terrispilde5348]

Still so in love with this song!! My ultimate favorite part is "Drove up to Hillside Manor sometime after 2 am and talked a little while about the year...."

[@terrispilde5348]

@Howard White I love to sing and trust me I love that line too. 💕

[@21hazza]

Where is Hillside Manor?

[@stevencleere4912]

"I guess the winter makes us laugh a little slower, makes us talk a little lower. About the things you could not show her...."

[@terrispilde5348]

@@stevencleere4912 …… and with today being the 1st of January, I can officially say it’s been A Long December lol.

[@terrispilde5348]

@@21hazza No clue. Some people say it's a rehab, psychiatric hospital, apartment complex etc. You tell me and I'll meet you there and we will sing this song lol.

[@chase_james]

The 90s wasn’t a decade. It was an emotion. Right - Coree ;)

[@elislostbook8406]

I like that! That decade definitely hit different.

[@canadaeast8358]

Amen to that

[@faizalyusop481]

well said !

[@Izzy.largent.wasss.hereee]

Exactly. And it’s not just the music. The TV shows, movies, you not only heard, watched, you felt them.

[@Magoo78]

👍

[@jleblanc1220]

Today is my 37th birthday. I've always hated hated having a December birthday. But there's reason to belive maybe this year will be better than the last...

[@heezytaughtme]

reading these comments, seeing how all of us are here to relive the memories this song brought us with the ones who arent on this earth anymore. its heartbreaking yet comforting to know we all arent alone in how much it hurts.. 😢

[@jenniferprice6146]

I lay here sick with high blood sugar, fighting to get up to get ready to go to work. The work that keeps a roof over my head. Reading the comments is making me stronger to get up and fight another day in December. Thanks Counting Crows and anyone who wrote something to not make me feel so alone✌

[@nickhill8612]

I hope you're feeling better today.

[@jenniferprice6146]

@@nickhill8612 thank you ✌

[@nickhill8612]

@@jenniferprice6146 No problem. I hope you have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. It's not easy it seems like most days are a challenge for me .

[@benisaten]

Man this one still hits harder than most. To those who know what loss really is. Love and respect to you all. Hold her close.

[@matthewsomers9330]

My Dad past away 3 days before Christmas in 2019 I spent a week in the hospital with him before he passed. This song always reminds me of the time I spent with him his last few days which was definitely the longest December I can remember. I'm thankful this song gives me the opportunity to think about my dad and helps me with the grief of such a great personal loss.

[@tammymcknight7289]

🙏🙏

[@brownpunk1794]

Every xmas i sit down outside with a smoke and drink and this song onrepeat...boy does it bring up some emotion...think about the year gone past..the good..the bad and everything in between...peace...

[@susanmoreland2671]

Not a bad idea!!!

[@tyty17172]

I thought i was the only one. Glad to know im not

[@susanmoreland2671]

@timothy hassan good way to put it

[@judesxo5222]

brownpunk yup I feel like time is on fwd and I’ll never be wishing for another birthday to turn that one fucking year older

[@brianleech734]

holy fuck that comment hit me like a freight train, bad year this one for me maybe 2020 will be better than the last! love this song so much

[@lisarosser8372]

My beloved brother died on December 7th of 2020. He loved this band. So sad.

[@ianbraganza5795]

Sorry to hear this news

[@Voodoo_Child_33]

I’m sending love and strength your way. I list my mom on the exact same day and year. We will get through this!

[@jessicarose9441]

I’m so sorry for your loss; lost my older sister September 2019 it’s hardes t thing I’ve ever I’m so sorry she loved this band too. Remind me of good times with her. She was 29, I’m now 29 I’ll be 30 dec 7th and it’s fucning with my head so bad to age passed her I Can’t wrap my mind around it. I’m sorry to make ur comment relate to this but my birthday is dec 7 so it stood out to me before I read u lost ur brother and I’m so sorry for your loss it’s so hard

[@deanoriccardi8593]

My brother died too early...way too young. Hold it together. It does get better,time is the medicine

[@Moneys169]

1/1/2019. I remember when this song first aired on the radio in Chicago.... I was out with my dad. Driving around going to junk yards. Looking for a motor and some parts for my car. It was snowing and everything. And was December..... memories. Rip dad 8/17/16

[@robflude]

Some of the comments on this... gosh, just shows what a strong emotional attachment one can have to music. My friend sang this for our school valedictory (I did backing vocals) in 1999, and he recently passed away. Will cherish this song forever.

[@nbaoldgirl]

Aww I’m sorry for your loss! May this song and the memory of your friend live on in your heart as he lives on in Heaven ❤

[@lisajackson5875]

Sorry for your loss. What a beautiful memory. ❤❤❤❤Godspeed

[@debbieduraj9389]

My niece, my brother's oldest, played this today. My brother Phil passed on September 19th. She remembered driving with him and he said he liked this song. At the time, he was having business problems and said "maybe this year will be better than the last." RIP Phil Galaska. We will see you again. I'm crying as I write this picturing him listening to this song ❤️

[@debralytle9061]

RIP All the best,

[@paulasmith7635]

Songs do that....may his soul rest peacefully and it is all pearls for him now❤️

[@brynmcdougal8915]

I’m truly so sorry you lost your brother!!!

[@debbieduraj9389]

@@brynmcdougal8915 Thank you so very much 💖. He was the greatest.

[@skiz888]

This song is a musical masterpiece period.

[@typoclerk]

I agree

[@jasonkelleher9858]

Counting Crows.....definitely one of the best bands ever....the music and lyrics transcend you....

[@willritter4076]

I'd be honored if some Counting Crows & late 90s fans would take a listen to my acoustic piano & vocal performances of A LONG DECEMBER and ARMS OF AN ANGEL by Sarah McLachlan on my YT channel in tribute to that great era in music. Live acoustic with no autotune. Thanks and peace out.

[@Nicole-t2l7f]

The songs that take us back to a memory of life before living.. a childhood now lost.

[@ldylkr]

My beautiful son, I was hoping you'd see your first Christmas, but you left me before you could. All I want is to hold you once more, but I can't. I held you for the last time just 2 nights ago. You left me knowing you were and will always be my world. I love you, my son, my Autumn. Rest in peace.

[@jlhunter22]

So sorry for your loss!

[@birhan2006]

Death is a mind-boggling thing to me, it is impossible to exist at one moment and completely gone the next. That is not how it actually is but the deception of time.

[@danielcropp8553]

I am sorry for your loss. No one should have to bear that.

[@jeffturner8633]

@@danielcropp8553 imsuretheyrinbetterplace

[@jennifermyre3051]

I am so very sorry.

[@terryhurlburt9113]

Every song has a different memory or a meaning for us all. None are the same. We interpret the song our own way. This one stirs up a lot of different feelings and memories for me.

[@revjaybird]

Terry Hurlburt Couldn't be more right Terry!

[@eileenpiotrkowski738]

like

[@jpaas123]

+Terry Hurlburt At first I red 'Terry Butthurt', sorry m8....

[@susiehowey4141]

This song will forever be on the soundtrack of my life. ❤❤🐦‍⬛🐦‍⬛

[@jamesquinn4306]

My Dad died in March 4th as well.Miss you Pop.

[@TaconyBill]

Well, I re-read Joshua's post from 2 years ago and yes, life needs to move on. My initial memory of this song and beautiful lyrics was for my mother who died on New Years Day of 2000, hoping she would enjoy the Millenium celebrations which I think she did. Then my 45-year-old wife died suddenly last January 21st , MLK day and our day of service. So I dont look forward to January although my 3 kids have committed to helping me during our day of service on 1-20-14. Songs may take us through Cold November Rain and Long Decembers but I try to stay focused on my kids and who they will become through this adversity. I bury myself in the music and believe in making a difference.

[@nathangonzales2243]

My mom is 45 years old having had a stroke 4 years and has been hospitalized ever since. Her condition has been declining and the quality of life for her is terrible. My mother's family and my father have been fighting over medical control bullshit. I guess my dad "won" but covering the bills is not hard for him. I can feel my dad growing depressed everyday and finally today ( I don't know why he chose thanksgiving) he asked me and my older sister whether my mom should get a surgery ( I wont get into it the specifics of it but shes had like 5 surgeries in the past month shes very frail, weak, and can only move half of her body.) or not and let herself die off slowly. My sister and I both agreed that she should do what she wants. Later this evening my dad was talking about futures etc. and said that when i graduate high school hes going to retire and move back to the Philippines, his home country and is going to live in a hut on the beach. He says he hopes a sudden deadly disease will kill him in one day so it will be over fast. You see I'm a freshman in high school so this kind of lifestyle doesn't feel great. I don't like living like but your comment made me feel like their are other people in this world that are experiencing the same thing. Thank you for sharing your have truly made my Thanksgiving.

[@panep.5634]

Nathan Gonzales {{{Nathan}}} Because, I was just thinking the same thing, there are others experiencing this same feeling. I understand, because I know.

[@nathangonzales2243]

Thank you your words of kindness have really helped me.

[@Rick_Smooth]

I first heard of The Counting Crows back in the mid-90's, I was around 13-14 and a freshman in high school. This song, like many others instantly bring back that nostalgia feeling of the simple lives we lived during that decade. Those feelings you get are one of a kind and only people that lived it will understand and have that connection to this era.

[@Wali1977]

Completely agree!

[@kevinwilson1073]

It was nastalgic

[@madpipertn]

Unbelievably true

[@captainobvious5993]

Yes

[@johngoodyear6479]

31 December, 2020. Everyone needs to play this song, everyone.

[@melissacallia4230]

See you on the 31st John ❤️✨

[@deaconnavarro160]

See you on the 31st John ✌🏽✊🏽

[@oscarclarke2653]

See you on the 31st John 🤴🏽🥂

[@lascatnero1418]

See you on the 31st John 🥳🤞🏻🌎

[@talitasnyman8846]

Every day until then

[@do2219]

I always love the way he twangs that photo into the air.

[@robertkimmel5416]

Been reading through all the comments as I listen to this masterpiece that I have loved for many years and it occurs to me that music is the one thing that connects us all. We are all human, we all know pain and loss, and if we allow it, we hold onto the hope of a better year. Much love to you all.❤

[@lenacheri7624]

Agreed ❤

[@johnyox9515]

Listening to this song now makes me think of when my friends and I were college age and were inseparable and had alot of great times and then we all got jobs and got married, had kids and now we're almost 50. This song is timeless. Weird how I almost miss being young, broke and hungry.

[@AnimalNation]

When I was young I always wanted the super fast car and the glamorous job. Now that I have them I miss skateboarding to my minimum wage job full of my best friends. Don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone…

[@christinaFaith84]

You will always miss being young broken and hungry. Even when you love your family, home and security.

[@The2ndFirst]

Eventually you don't have anything to talk about anymore.

[@LordDrachenblut]

I've been fighting cancer for two years... so much of this song strikes deep within me... but how many more years will this year be better than the last. how long before the decline....

[@griffin3383]

Good luck

[@Pete0621]

God Bless.

[@keithbirch1]

LordDrachenblut a

[@scotlackey2807]

That is a fight I couldn't imagine fighting. Keep your head up and realize each day is better than the last and every time you open your eyes after sleeping say, "I ain't dead yet" and laugh until you win your battle. Then on that day, put cancer behind you and live out a long and healthy life. Praying for the best for you.

[@mandybuzzard9132]

LordDrachenblut sorry to hear that song has deep feeling and meaning for many

[@TheZoidberg312]

The smells of hospitals in winter, and the feeling it's all a lot of oysters, but no pearl. Damn.....that's lyrical genius.

[@bschuff]

It’s December 2020 now. Song feels more real now then it did 15 years ago. It gets better.

[@localgirl33]

More like 25 years ago :) Happy New Year.

[@micheller2283]

24 years ago 😭

[@marektoews6704]

It was put out 11 years ago wym

[@paladro]

@@marektoews6704 from the 90's bruh

[@DarrellYoung-jg6xy]

This song holds a lot of meaning for many people. Thanks, Adam, for bringing it to life.

[@LanceAdams-y1r]

💯

[@flythislol]

I remember listening to this song on a cold December day in 1996 driving home after a Christmas get-together. Little did I know, 24 years later, it would have meant so much more.

[@thebzz2299]

that's deep

[@michaeladams5636]

Same.

[@jeffnorris5357]

Was listening to Adam on Howard Stern and he said that this is the only song that he never tires of playing. Couldn't say why exactly. Totally get it...

[@whitiscool1]

the counting crows being a great band is what brought me here

[@shelleycox5877]

Omar Little. Being 52 and living this life with this band alwayx makes me feel like im 27 again. Awesome music in this era.

[@michaelblaine6494]

27 years later I realize what a great song this is,I heard it many times when it was new but now I appreciate it so much more

[@xdude2x]

Lost my wife in December of ‘22, this song hits home

[@andrewballenger4486]

I'm sorry for your loss

[@DaveAnderson-xh7qe]

Hang on brother, you now have you Soulmate to speak for you in Heaven. 🌟

[@cathydunphy2360]

The 90's brought bands that didn't just sound great but looked like people I was hanging out with. My people. Finally.

[@wallyingford]

Sometimes I always thought I would tell Adam how amazing his vocals were and how soothing is was for the pain I was going through.Learning about a few things he went through I realized how much we had in common but worlds a part. Getting older I feel life is precious ,short after friends have left without reaching them before I could never reach them again! Thanks Adam! The Fan...Fay

[@Bjorick]

Don't sweat those you couldn't do that with, they have and will continue to have a life outside of you, and it' snot your place to save them anyone who felt that way about me - *shrug* My life became a million times better when I cut out friends and focused on my family, no longer tangled up in the lies and drama of others 24/7 and actually working on my own life for a change