Country Living RULES (Don't be the newbie that breaks these...)

[@lynnbetts4332]

One rule I would like to add is to know your area's (state and county) restrictions on guns and hunting, and if your state is a purple paint state. We have lots of people moving 'out' and thinking it's fine to go shooting off guns willy nilly on small tracts of land (under 10 acres). Yesterday, I spent over an hour putting up orange flagging around the perimeter of my pastures, which border wooded property. Opening weekend for deer season is next weekend, and I have animals that are deer-sized and light brown. Our state rules are that you must know where your shot is going. Bullets cannot cross property lines. So, don't go setting up a deer blind facing your neighbor's property. And NEVER shoot towards your neighbor's house or barn, no matter how big that buck is.

[@chrissyfrancis8952]

Those rules aren’t just for country living, just LIFE. No matter where you are, YOU are responsible for yourself. Being dependent on someone else for basic life needs leaves you vulnerable. Not a place you want to start from in an emergency

[@Jeckenstein]

They are especially important for country living.

[@Supersquishyawesomeness]

@@Jeckenstein I don’t know, if you live in a city high-rise and you’re relying on others to help you out because there’s 1000 people in your building you’re probably fooling yourself. It’s a good mindset to have no matter where you are.

[@cherylwhite654]

and yet there are so many with their hands out not taking responsibility for themselves or their families

[@Supersquishyawesomeness]

@@cherylwhite654 even the rich will take the handouts that are offered to them. Ever seen the swag bags they get at events?

[@chrissyfrancis8952]

@@cherylwhite654 esp in recent generations for a lot of reasons & government/societal conditioning

[@donmartin7728]

Only rule I disagree with is going to your neighbor because their schedule is already set. As the one moving in, it may take 2 weeks to a year before you are settled in enough to make that pie or bread for the meet and greet. A decent neighbor would bring you a pie or stew saying welcome, I know your busy unpacking, here is a casserole to help you get by I live here bring the dish back when your done. When you bring the dish back have a recipe of yours in it as a thank you, also let’s them know you are settled and have time to chat for a minute.

[@17h127]

Yep. But if they don't bring something by, it's on you to try and start that relationship.

[@donmartin7728]

@@17h127 if they do not stop by then I assume they want to be left alone. If after a month they haven’t stopped by I am knee deep in fixing the place up to what I want. Therefore, I have made several trips to the hardware store, and the feed store, and restaurant, word of mouth spreads fast. To be honest, I am not driving down someone’s driveway just to go say hi as soon as I move in. Some consider it rude to come onto one’s place uninvited and is a good way to start off a bad relationship. If you absolutely have to let them know who you are, leave a note in their mailbox then wait for them. I guess the location and definition of country needs to be established. I grew up 12 miles out of town with my closest neighbor 4 miles away as the crow flys. Then their driveway was a mile long off of the dirt county road.

[@CocoisLiving]

Im happy someone mentioned this, I plan to move into the country and found this helpful but the amount of people ive seen or helped moved into new homes in the past barely get settled enough to feed themselves for a few weeks or months. A friend of mine just unpacked her last items after a year in a place. I just remembered when my mom moved into a Suburban area and it was fall our neighbor had an apple tree and brought us an apple pie to welcome us and her and my mom became close where as the neighbor my mom introduced herself to wasn't nice the whole time we lived there. But would be the busy bee it was odd. Some neighbors further down the road we introduced ourselves to or met at community events but i think this rule is the only one thats a bit more dependent on the individual. I said when i move i will hust put a greeting card when i find the time in the mailbox some of the rural areas around me tend to have really long drives and plenty of people have no trespassing signs. I just wouldnt want to walk on anybodys land as a risk to myself because they don't know me or why I'm there.

[@ashleylovepace1941]

Absolutely agree! The person moving into a place has everything new to handle. Culture shock, new home and place, all of it. The last thing they have is the wherewithal to bring something delicious to strangers they don’t know. I moved to the country a year and a half ago and still haven’t met most of my neighbors because I am so busy getting settled. I am grateful though for the few who stopped by and introduced themselves. I am still meeting people slowly.

[@MyName-zd9pe]

We moved to the country 3 years ago. Only one neighbor came by to introduce themselves. We were told by the locals at the stores "people keep to themselves out here". Hint, not to bother trying to be friends with anyone. They wore 😷 during the Plan-demic, had BLM signs in their yards, pro abortion signs, etc., "country people" have changed. They are not friendly, so we keep to ourselves, and are happier for it. 🙏✝️🇺🇸

[@MrGoatlady]

I moved to the country over 50 years ago and began my journey to live sustainably. I had been raised in the city and knew nothing. Neighbors and those in the farming community were welcoming and offered much. needed advise and sometimes help and tools. I was taught how to raise chickens, feed livestock, butcher and doctor my critters. I am so thankful, and now pay it forward from my years of experience. I like to think that all of us can look to each other in a positive way to keep and stay connected. It takes time and patience, and my take on it is that old-timers and newcomers should expect some sacrifice for each other, while being respectful and setting boundaries.

[@jimmyhand1259]

That's wonderful. You were fortunate.

[@lindaevans3815]

My neighbors here I think are , odd. One would rip me off over meat I'd buy from them. They raised cattle, hogs. , one of them has a problem with lying. 2 around here expect me to pay my s.o."s bills. I stay away from them No sense of community here.

[@Raymond.Butler]

Things have changed in my 60 years living out here. We used to be very friendly out here, then these city people moved out here and your little message is what we get now. You are responsible for yourself, so shut up and deal with it is the message now. You said it very nicely, but you still said it and I will never lower myself to live that way. I still take food to my new neighbors, I still check with them to make sure things are going well, I still volunteer advice and I still appreciate when a neighbor borrows things and return them in as good as or better shape in a timely manner. Yes you are responsible for yourself, but no one was born knowing how to live. Living in or near a city is nothing like living out in the country and those who make that switch are going to need help. Now leaving your city ways in the city is the only way you'll ever fit in and last out here, country has it's own way of thinking. We're stand-offish for a reason, take that time to find your feet, get to know the lay of the land and don't expect life out here to be anything like what your used to.

[@pnwfarmdog4090]

It was strange when I moved in and my neighbor across the road offered me his riding mower, my grass was waste high. I push mowed it so I could find out what was under it. And the people above me are renters but my street has come together. Our kids play together, I’m over at my neighbors once a week at least catching up and offering a beer. We all watch out for each other, and have connected. We have one lady and she has no sense of boundary’s, can’t read a room with a book and has alienated almost everyone. Her place boarders mine so I am the only one who will answer when she calls, and she can talk for two hours about… nothing. But I know her and her husbands vehicles so if I see one that isnt theirs I take a walk. We look out for each other, we work with each other and at Christmas we all swap cookies. I grew up out here in the country and my whole area has always been standoffish. We have houses in the middle of five acres and will defend those borders like it’s a country! So being in a community like we are is somewhat new for the area.

[@johnparkhurst825]

Great points but you may have been a bit harsh regarding Home Steading Family.

[@Raymond.Butler]

@@johnparkhurst825 I tried to be as caring for others feelings as possible and still get my point across, for that I will not apologize. What I am sorry for, is that I can not state my thoughts in the manner in which I best think they should be expressed. The world has changed as everyone rushes to the city, what are we vever going to do, is what our ancestors said when the industrial revolution kicked over and here we go in the opposite direction at the begining of the information age. I refuse to tell someone asking for my help, no, but that does not mean I will do or finance the job, simply I will help. None of us are getting out of this alive, if you were born, you will die. None of us can make it through this life alone, we all need help. If I don't help you, who's going to help me?

[@johnparkhurst825]

@@Raymond.Butler again, great points. No apologies needed nor no reason not to express your thoughts Just about everybody here likely shares in your sentiments. This society is not the same in which grew up in I'm 60 and never thought I'd look back to the 70's so fondly.

[@TheWayWalker]

I actually agree with what you expressed. Quite honestly and especially for Christians we are to be the ones to reach out, to be neighborly, to help and to simply be kind. That IS our witness! We were not meant to be the ones who hide away and stick to ourselves and tell people to basically shut up, mind their business. The one point I agree with what she said is that you are responsible for you 100%. And, medical advice especially living that far out especially when it comes to emergency management. It becomes very real when power is down and you're not prepared 😳 But this video came across way less neighborly and honestly a bit snobbish which is completely not how this family typically is. I don't believe that wasn't her intent... but intents don't always come across the way you want them to either 🤷‍♀️ One of the main reasons people who are tired of city life is its become all of the things she's pointed out as "rules" for people to follow. Less connection with people, neighbors are not neighborly and people just want to stick to themselves in their little bubbles because they have their lives all figured out and don't have room or time for other people. Yet that is not how Christ has called those who follow him to live. Quite the opposite. I'm a country gal was raised one all my life and now live in the city and there's nothing more draining than being a neighbor and not having one back. Its one reason I miss the country so much. Neighbors actually DID rely on each other. They actually were friends and helped each other out. Times are definitely changing and not for the better. That makes me sad.

[@tonileigh8660]

While I agree with most of those rules, I'm not the type to just move in somewhere and take something to the neighbors and introduce myself. To me, it's being pushy. Also, I'd add a rule for those who already lived there. Just because the last people living there let you do something on their property, doesn't mean the new people will. Ask first. When I moved out to the country onto 10 acres, it was to get away from people and crowds. I put up fences around the perimeter. I also put up every 10 feet very clear, very simple signs saying ABSOLUTELY NO HUNTING. This was my property and I didn't want anyone just wandering in thinking they could hunt on it. I also filled the hay barn to the roof with hay which I bought and it wasn't cheap. Within a week, I came home from work and there was a guy out back filling a wagon with MY hay. Mind you, he had to cut the lock I had on the gate to get back there. I asked him what he thought he was doing and he said the last owner let him take what he wanted so he figured I would too. I told him as politely as I could that I paid for that, I hadn't been there long enough to grow it, and I needed it for my own animals for the winter. Also, that the chain and lock should have been a clue that people should not go there. A couple weeks later, I heard my dogs barking a lot, something they rarely did. I went outside and there were 4 men walking between my barns, behind my house, and through one barn with loaded guns. This time I didn't bother with the politeness. My property was CLEARLY marked no hunting. It also had all new fencing around the entire perimeter. I asked them what the heck they thought they were doing. One guy said, "just out to get us some deer, little lady, don't worry". I lost it. Told them in no uncertain terms that this "little lady" had put up fences and no hunting signs for a reason, and they had 2 minutes to leave and not come back. Had they even knocked on my door and asked first, it wouldn't have been so bad. I'd still have said no, but it would have been the decent thing to do. The rest of the people in the area were great and I had no problems after that, but again, ASK the new person before you automatically do what the former owner let you do.

[@cathyhanley8658]

Well put Toni. I had almost the same problem. (Not as bad as you had it). I literally ran someone off my driveway to get them to stop, so that I could yell at them again about trespassing. I called the police and he was warned. If he had asked to hunt on my land instead of telling me what he was going to do, it would have been a different story. I don't care what the previous owner let you do. I own it now. Then the other next door neighbor thought they had a right to use my property to access the back part of their land. I had to park a car to block people from getting through my property. After talking to her lawyer, I told him that in no way would they be allowed to damage my property for a short cut. You have to put your foot down right from day one. I don't care that I was thought of as a b#*#*h.

[@thisorthat7626]

@@cathyhanley8658 It sounds like they were testing you possibly because they figured a woman wouldn't stand up to them. Glad you and Toni straightened them out quickly! Your land, your rules. Cheers.

[@ashleylovepace1941]

Oh my Gosh! I’d have been as livid as you! Well done

[@monicas2461]

Here in Japan because of the lack of people living in the rural villages, the government offers financial aid for families or individuals who move from the urban areas to the rural areas. Many people dream of the calm and “easier” life in the countryside, but then they realize the differences of living in a small city, the hardships and the necessity to help each other because everything is far. Keeping the tank always half full is good advice for everyone.

[@pollytaskey8322]

Great tips no matter where you move. A big one near the top for me is "Don't expect country neighbors to appreciate city lifestyle or party styles!". The country is not just a larger space to host more people at all night parties with more sound equipment, or to randomly shoot off fireworks or guns at all hours just because there aren't any police patrolling within earshot.

[@jimmyhand1259]

Truth..

[@silentbigsteve3429]

As annoying as that is. It also annoying telling people what to do on their own property. Talk to your neighbors if that happens.

[@cherylcook1942]

Well, yes it is. It is a larger space to live your life in.

[@joeyoungs8426]

Absolutely agree. In the last several years we’ve seen our quiet area infected with those fleeing the confines of subs and city essentially creating exactly what they attempted to escape. They also bring with them the very behaviors they likely tried to leave behind. Our road is now their speedway, they light their yards like an airport and this list could go on. Suffice it to say that many if not most people rarely give thought to their impact on others.

[@diannamc367]

While I do agree, sometimes it's kinda the other way around, lol. I moved out here 17 years ago looking forward to the peace and quiet only to have my nearest neighbor move their dirt bike track from behind a stand of trees to right in front of my driveway... The neighbor who replaced them ran his own business. We are on a dead end road. All of his employees would come flying in every morning and back out in the work trucks. Flying back in in the work trucks in the afternoon and back out in their vehicles. The newest neighbors have a whole batch of youngish kids and, while I have an appreciation of kids getting outside to play, the extra sounds bouncing off every tree in the neighborhood has brought a whole new element to hunting this year. Some people move to the country for peace and quiet while others come to make the kind of noise you get in trouble for in a city or suburban setting. While I appreciate some of these rules, I also think that most of us can agree, we moved away from "town" to get away from all the rules.😊

[@j.crabtree9284]

Loved this! As I watched it I kept waiting for you to say something about being humble and you didn’t disappoint. You saved the best and most important for last. Keeping our mouths shut and listening is admitting we are the outsider for now and we have a lot to learn from our new community. No one wants to be around a know it all. I grew up in the country, live in the country, and you are spot on with these. Thank you!

[@maryglidden2943]

Every city folk who is even moving into a small town needs to go to your rules class before moving! So many are moving into small towns and break everyone of these rules almost from day 1! Great video and much needed. Now to hope those who need to hear rhis will!!

[@cherylcook1942]

Really, so many are irritating you by moving to "your" country. Do you know that city people have been living, participating, interacting and communicating with people their entire lives? They are not ignorant in any of these areas.

[@nilayeo7405]

We have lived in the country for 39 years and unexpectedly we had to move 2 years ago. In God's mercy, we were not able to stay in our county and moved over in another county, onto a smaller farm. But as you said the farms around us were curiously watching and eventually came to meet us offering help. To their surprise we welcomed some meeded help, but at the same time we have been able to help them. One example was a farmer who hadn't taken a vacation in years, because they couldn't find anyone to take care of their animals. They were able to take a vacation this last summer, just for the price of some extra eggs. We have learned some new things and at the same time we have shared some things with them. 4 weeks ago a new city family moved in just up the road and it has actually a been culture shock to them, but they will learn and find their way. But we will offer assistance as we are able, as the community did for us 2 years ago. My husband and I were just talking today, about the great people we have met here, since our move. We farmers' wives have started a group among ourselves and have invited the new comers in. It's interesting to learn from each other, sharing ideas, friendships, talking about nothing and occasional potlucks and the list goes on. Yes, there are rules, even for the experienced in country living. Privacy, courtesy, respect, boundaries, etc...

[@Linda-dw8wd]

...Privacy, courtesy, respect, boundaries. Simple words, HUGE meaning

[@nataliebutler]

British countryside rules are be friendly and say hello when passing others, don't litter, stick to the paths and make sure you close the gates behind you when walking through someone elses land, not so much remember your neighbours are not your friends 😄

[@mrbim1954]

Wise words - Always return what you borrow - Thanks for making this video!

[@Ariel-xz8lg]

And in better shape than when you received it. Appreciation for your neighbor makes for a a happy life. If you break it, replace it with same or better.

[@doreenknapp2341]

Not everyone from the city is an idiot!

[@HomesteadingFamily]

Thanks for watching!

[@doreenknapp2341]

@@Ariel-xz8lg I never said I was from NY! I find her comments to be condescending and kind of rude.

[@dancnluc1]

Great advice. I moved here 10 years ago. I live with a cousin surrounded by other cousins who inherited their land and have lived here all their life. I have meet the other neighbors as well. We are the last on the list if power goes off and we are used to it. Our main lane is also last on the list for snow to be removed. Our lane is maintained by only a few of the neighbors and ourself. Several years ago a neighbor down the road would not tale responsibility for their dog that kept getting loose. The dog killed 36 of our chickens and a few weeks got out and killed another neighbor's chicken. Needless to say it attacked another neighbor's chickens and they handled the dog because everyone around knew this neighbor was not being responsible for their dog. In time of need, we try to help one another out.

[@stevescuba1978]

My dog recently got out and killed about ten of my neighbors birds. He shot my dog (he will be fine, but might live with a limp), and I understand. A lot of people don't understand why I'm not mad at the guy...fact is, MY dog left MY yard and attacked HIS animals. I would have done the same thing he did.

[@diannamc367]

@@stevescuba1978 I have so much respect for your comment. I'm not sure I would be so understanding at first but it's so true!

[@dancnluc1]

@stevescuba1491 I respect you for not getting angry with the neighbor. This neighbor lived quite a bit away. The dog was constantly getting out, and they refused to do anything about it. It is sad the dog had to pay the price of an irresponsible owner. I get they get out but to do nothing about it makes it different. My one cousin caught the dog and returned it to the owner (at the time he did not know he had attacked the chickens but went after his cat). The owner never said sorry or anything.

[@oregontrisha365]

Great advice. Last batch of neighbors who moved nextdoor started by borrowing and we had to go to them to get our stuff back. Then they explained why their dogs and chickens ran all over our place: they were free range. Thankfully they didn't stay long.

[@catherineasbury4532]

Another great way to meet the community, and introduce yourself, is at church. Many churches have time for fellowship or volunteer activities - food drives, clothing drives, etc. Be ready to get a LOT of questions, but the best tact is often to give a brief answer and then ask your own questions. Show more interest in getting to know the community than in sharing your own story. I like to joke that, in our area, most people either ARE related or USED to be. A big part of keeping your mouth shut is to NEVER say anything negative about someone. It will get back to them, and to their family and friends, so fast it'll make your head spin, and you will have alienated half the community without even realizing it. Even if you're correct in what you say, the long-time residents are usually more loyal to the jerks among them than to the newbies.

[@lynnbetts4332]

If you have kids, another good group to get involved in is 4H. You meet lots of people, learn a lot, and make contacts for vets, animals, feed, etc.

[@lpmoron6258]

You are so right about all that. Keep your mouth shut. Don't carry tales or offer opinions.

[@jessywinters5350]

So if you move to the country to try to create a better life for your children, don’t expect anything from your neighbors cuz they’re not to be mistaken for friends, but do have extras on hand to be ready to assist people who told you to take care of yourself….

[@trainingolives3370]

That’s what I heard too. 🤔 How sad.

[@believestthouthis7]

Good neighbors are definitely priceless and even rare. Seems to me that it's all about respect and personal responsibility. In the rare event that someone is truly in a bind they will be more willing to help. This works with family and friends also. Luke 6:31 - And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.

[@debrahaley1235]

Spot on advice! The people that move here (in the middle of nowhere) and then end moving out eventually are the people that move to cattle country and then are bothered by cows mooing all night and coyotes howling! What did you expect :)

[@pellis8985]

Fantastic and timely post with the migration away from cities and other areas like California. We have a lot of new folks moving into where we live and the primary point for me is don’t try to change the area you moved into. work within the existing culture.

[@agrarianarc]

This totally depends on where you live regionally. Our neighbor is literally always bringing over stuff for us to borrow, asking if we need help, and we look for ways to reciprocate. Some people are just more lonely, have less going on, or are looking for ways to be useful. We are in WI and people are super helpful and friendly.

[@cherylcook1942]

You seem like a very nice person. Are you sure you don'talso need a video on how to be a welcoming neighbor, and how to redirect misunderstandings? Remember, you were once a newbie at something, and needed to be directed.

[@bettypearson5570]

You must have really nice neighbors.i bought a rural home and once I showed up at the property I immediately had people stopping by wanting me to hire them to help. I did take a couple guys up on the offer and was promptly ripped off and they attempted to take my tools they were using claiming they were theirs - all my tools have had my name on them for years. After that someone broke into the pumphouse and stole my pressure tank. Then it turned out my neighbors on one side have begun dumping garbage on the far side of my property. They claim it's been a community dump area for years and that everyone uses it - the garbage isn't that old. The neighbor who appears the friendliest. While he was giving his rundown of my neighbors a dog wandered up the driveway. He informed me the dog belonged to his adult daughter, another neighbor, and the dog thinks my home is part of his territory even though they tried breaking him of that habit but I shouldn't try to pet him until he gets used to me. I won't be getting any animals until I have secure fences and trail cams set up. Not the rural rules I remember. Definitely won't go borrowing a cup of sugar.

[@hopegardens]

Sounds exactly like my "neighbors". I have tried so hard to do all of these things, but my "neighbors" are thoughtless, ruthless and rude. I keep trying.

[@bettypearson5570]

@@hopegardens more power to you. I have decided to just keep to myself as much as possible

[@susanhansen9934]

The comments here are great and spot on. It is so hard to be neighborly and friendly to new people when all they want to do is change the things they moved here for. Another I would add is respect those fences. We live on my husband's family 1903 homestead. The pandemic hit our area very hard with people moving to the country. We have a subdivision next to us now and find people on our property frequently. We are western cattle ranchers (meaning this is where are home and barns are, but cattle are on forest service, state or other private leases) and always have horses here and frequently have cattle here. Another I would add to your list is research and then do more research on the area you intend to move to. Know if it snows or rains, that there is berm at the end of the driveway that you will need to shovel out, that it gets cold, hot or both, the laws about living in a fence out state or any other local nuances, that the town you visited a few times for vacation or research is very different to live in full time, what is the job market, and much more. We so get your comment on 'keep your ears open and your mouth shut'. Our local FB page has gotten so bad that most of us locals have unfollowed.

[@Boringcountrylife]

That was awesome!!! I have never heard anyone hit on those points and it is very needed. We finally put our own fence up around 10 acres to keep the neighbor and his dogs out.

[@FtLivingRoomHomestead]

This is a great video that everyone moving to the country should see. Fortunately we pretty much did most of these things. We absolutely love our neighbors. I think we impressed them when we moved in and immediately built a full acre garden and a chicken house! We literally lit a fire under our neighbors who after 8 years of being there, finally built a chicken coop. They even said they wanted to make their garden bigger like ours next year, and of course, I offered to help. We are just now getting to the "fixing fences" to keep both of our chickens in our own yards, but right now neither of us care too much. Again, these are all GREAT rules to live by. Thank you for this video!

[@LadysFarm]

I’ve seen it twice where people moved here and quickly moved out of our road.

[@trishapomeroy9251]

EXTREMELY well said! We live in a very rural area and folks move here from the cities and make many of those mistakes right off the bat. It just puts people off and makes it harder for the new folks.

[@gailsgardenherbsmore1605]

Excellent advice. Over the years it's usually other people's dogs that have killed my goats, rabbits and chickens, very few times was it a wild animal doing the damage. The points you discussed were very relevant, thank you.

[@EdSmith93277]

Thanks for this. My wife and I moved into a small country community just this last year and had some incorrect expectations. You can bet I'll be taking some of the canned goods we created this year and taking them around to meet the neighbors! Also - my wife is an author and writing a book for young people about becoming adults... I am SO sharing this video with her because it applies in so many areas of life. Well done. You are appreciated!

[@parallelpinkparakeet]

As someone that has lived in the country for the majority of my life, this is really good advice. I live in the city now (hopefully we can move back to the country in the next couple years), and it's so easy to just get lost amongst all the people and keep to yourself. I can honestly say two of the worst things you can do is to remain mentally stuck in the city life, and/or act like you only live on your plot of land and there's nothing outside of it. I will say that "your neighbors are not your friends" is not always true. On a rare occasion your neighbors may very well become your friends. Growing up there were a couple neighbors I considered friends, and where my father currently lives in the countryside his neighbor is definitely a friend.

[@lynnbetts4332]

My neighbors are definitely my friends. I am single, and don't have some of the bigger equipment, like tractors, and he has helped me numerous times. They are like family to me, as I don't have any close by. Their grandson is fishing my pond this am.

[@jeanettewaverly2590]

A neighbor posted a link to this video to our Nextdoor community. It is very timely for us, as we are dealing with some folks who just can’t seem to keep their animals corralled.

[@katieyungen1647]

Between the lines I am reading that Bonners Ferry has had some new folks moving in that aren't used to country living and need to learn! 🤣

[@kellymiller615]

I do understand what you're saying. You don't want entitled people coming in, expecting to be catered to and absorbing resources without also giving back to the community. However, your attitude as well as the rules left me feeling cold and a bit offended. It smacked of "You don't belong, and if you do want to belong, you've got to work at it and prove yourself." Yikes. Over this way, neighbors take over a small plate of cookies or some brownies made from a boxed mix, and spend a moment saying hello, even if it's only for five minutes at the door. They are friendly. The Lord Jesus didn't make people come to Him. He went to them! You mean y'all can't spare five minutes and a handshake? I would not want to be a member of your community. Too cold and unfriendly.

[@brendaschmitt9719]

Maybe she had bad experiences. Everyone was nice when we moved to our 22 acres. I would not say we have made any bosom buddies but everyone is cordial. Several dropped by to introduce themselves(OK maybe to feel us out LOL!) The dogs do tend to run free but we don't have livestock and I like friendly dogs. If I did have livestock I'd probably try talking once after that the dog would disappear. I do agree it's best to be prepared for longer drives for services, be well stocked and to not "expect" anything from anyone but that last one is probably true anywhere not just the country.

[@kinthecountry4301]

The rule about the new people being responsible for meeting the neighbors is obviously written by people who don't move much (or follow the Bible's commands for hospitality). After 26 years of Navy moves -and 3 after retirement - I've been the new person plenty. It's so hard to move and start over with everything. All the things you take for granted having lived in one place have to be started all over again - your grocery store, your dentist, a new drivers license (moving out of state), the plumber - and literally every service you might need in a house. You don't know the roads, the weather can be radically different, even the sounds can be unnerving (gun shots in the city mean something very different than the same in the country). I have a neighbor with 5 dogs that bark incessantly at me when I'm on my own property. Am I supposed to brave the dogs to approach his house? The previous owner of my property was a recluse, hostile, and had vicious dogs. How am I supposed to know the character of the neighbors? I've never lived in the country before - and it totally unnerves me to go 1/4 mile into someone else's property uninvited to meet them. It may be true that no one will come welcome me (that's not just a country custom), but it doesn't mean it's right, or that you should encourage that. The Bible teaches us to welcome strangers and show hospitality. As a perpetual new person in the last 30 years, I'd encourage everyone to just go say hi to the new neighbor. You don't have to bring anything. Maybe just a card with your name and contact info if you want to connect further with them. Otherwise just be nice and welcoming and say hi.

[@beatricepineda5923]

You nailed it. I posted a similar comment about welcoming newcomers. The Bible truly does tell us that it is our responsibility to treat newcomers well and welcome them.

[@anniewildmush1284]

i agree but if i ask for a cup of sugar.. i give back 2... example... im in montreal city... canada... my neighbours and i text each other everyday asking for something... and this is how we build community... sharing harvest from our gardens ...just sharing....also bringing an extra piece of pie or cake.. or flowers when i have too many... was not like this 10yrs ago when i moved in... but i made it happen because i believe in it. now i dont remove the snow from my car... always (or almost) one neighbour who did it .. i dont expect it but its always a pleasure...

[@JeanneDee-zz5th]

This is so helpful for those new transplants. I'm glad you talked about this subject. Very necessary.

[@stephanieseegmiller6629]

Loved this video! We bought an acre of land in a very small town of central Utah this year and are SO excited to build our home and live in our beautiful new community. We have met several neighbors and are trying to get things off on the right foot. Unfortunately, we have already discovered that one neighbor’s fence lies 3 feet over the property line on OUR property. The seller of our acre did not disclose a verbal agreement and handshake he and our neighbor had over those 3 feet, and we didn’t do our due diligence well enough to catch the fence mistake until after purchasing our land (although that discovery would not have deterred us from buying). At any rate, we are desperate to know what to do about the problem. We hate to lose those 3 feet when an acre is so small, considering all we want to do with the land! We can’t reasonably expect the neighbors to move their fence. I suppose we will have to both sign an easement allowing them the use of our land for their fence. Who know little things could be so tricky?!?! We want to have good neighborly relations, but our experience talking to the new neighbors about the fence was not fabulous. Any advice would be appreciated!!

[@aessidhe6304]

Too right on not letting the gas tank drop below half. One of my father-in-law's favorite sayings is "Costs just as much to run it on F as it does on E."

[@hawksnestbooks]

Great advice here. Also, I have to say it. Every time I see your property my heart skips a beat. You have some of the most beautiful views I've seen....AND YOUR GARDEN!!!! 🥰. We are working on building our homestead for the future. We recently purchased 40 acres on top of a mountain. We have pretty views, but the land is still very wild. I'm taking inventory of the water sources and wild plants/mushrooms growing. We are trying to prepare some of the land to grow food & medicine. It's been tough. Quite the adventure, LOL! I have to admit your herbal medicine videos are my faves. Fascinating. I started an herbal garden last spring and I'm planning to add more medicinal herbs as I go. Right now it's a little overwhelming. You are so encouraging and insightful. I appreciate your channel and your information so much.

[@joannecarroll5504]

I've lived in suburbia, on rural property & in small towns & villages bordering the countryside in several countries- all where people actually DO those sweet & kind things (that you said not to expect) when they get new neighbours. They introduce themselves to welcome newcomers to the community & give them a number to call for safety & security - communities with Rural Property Watch programs have been proven to reduce crime (like the theft of expensive farm equipment & livestock) & to improve personal safety in their communities. Even if I'm an independent & self-sufficient person myself, if my new neighbours don't know how to behave in bushfire season, we could ALL end up dead - so we take no chances with the lives of our loved ones, even if it costs us an uncomfortable "Hello" occasionally. Last major bushfire season cost the lives of 1.5 BILLION creatures & drove many species to extinction - that is EVERYBODY's responsibility. We don't have to live in each other's pockets to have a safe, considerate community. You also can't expect a newcomer to make the 1st move, even if that means leaving a note or a card in their mailbox. They won't know when it's best to pay a visit on people who work the land - you know for sure they'll either turn up while you're up to your armpit in a cow, or after you've showered & gone to bed, LOL! The sun doesn't set down here in Summer till after 9.30pm, we could be hours into REM sleep when they showed up. I feel so sad for you, the way you described your part of country America, it sounds horribly inhospitable, (this from where we have skin cancer, spiders & snakes galore lol) but the parts I visited were all so warm & welcoming.

[@SeleneStarr]

I agree. I've never lived anywhere where the neighbors didn't introduce themselves first.

[@stevescuba1978]

I've never lived anywhere where the neighbors introduced themselves. I lived in big cities, small cities, a small town, several military bases, and now in the country. Not a single neighbor has ever come over to introduce themselves or offer a meal or help. After living in my home for a couple months, I finally caught one neighbor outside and waved him over. We have helped each other quite a bit, and lent tools back and forth. They are my friends now, which is great. I've lived here over a year now, and still haven't even seen my other next door neighbor (2-1/2 acre properties, so not mega farms here) I've heard them, but everytime I try to go out and introduce myself, they aren't out.

[@joannecarroll5504]

@@stevescuba1978I'm really sorry to hear that, the Americans I met when travelling were warm, welcoming & generous folk. I've travelled around the world but have only lived permanently around the UK & Australia, where it is the norm in country & semi-rural areas to welcome newcomers to the community. The cities/suburbs have a far greater population density with housing shortages & a much higher percentage of renters in short-term tenancies, so it's less community-oriented & less likely to happen there.

[@stevescuba1978]

@@joannecarroll5504 most people are friendly enough, I think it is a reflection of the times. Today, everyone seems to be too busy for anything outside of their schedules. With both parents working being the norm, families need to juggle ~80 hours a week at work, all the necessary chores at home, and any number of activities for multiple children. It is hard to fit strangers into such a life. Until we decide that both parent working has failed, it will continue.

[@MyName-zd9pe]

@@stevescuba1978 I agree, but country people nowadays also have lost their good natured hospitable friendliness. They are suspicious, rude, unwelcoming, etc. The cities are not the only ones changing in a dark way. God help us all. 🙏✝️🇺🇸

[@FoundThingsandFamilyLegacies]

Well communicated from a rural gal on a few hundred-acre farmstead. I once was GM of a nearby rural lake area community and WOW! All those who moved there or kept summer homes there from more urban environments - you've definitely touched on all the challenges the "locals" experienced and what I experienced as a GM.

[@fotochikyo]

gm?

[@FoundThingsandFamilyLegacies]

@@fotochikyo - General Manager of a lake association

[@mimikay0214]

I guess the nicest way I can say this is that I feel that the tone of this video is out of step with the channel. Maybe they are having issues with new neighbors? Everyone moving out to the country should want to be self reliant and a burden to no one. Disappointed with this one.

[@sfranken3]

Love this! All good points. So many people think country living means their dogs run free. That’s so dangerous for neighbor farm animals AND the dog. I’d also like to add to the list..know your property lines and NOPE..your neighbor isn’t ok with you hunting on their property. 🤣👍

[@DavidRJones82]

The only one I disagree with is not welcoming people. To me that’s backwards as someone who was displaced you have to come up with something to bring to people who are well settled.

[@parallelpinkparakeet]

I agree with this, unless you got settled really quickly or something. Just come introduce yourself. You don't have to bring anything.

[@lynnbetts4332]

@@parallelpinkparakeet And tell them if you have dogs, etc. Even with good fences, dogs can get loose when people get distracted at a new place. Let them know what your dogs look like and give them your number if they ever see them loose.

[@parallelpinkparakeet]

@@lynnbetts4332 Yup. Or anything else that can escape. We'd always be helping our neighbors out with retrieving their horses. 😆

[@lynnbetts4332]

@@parallelpinkparakeet I am retired, so I'm at home most of the time. I looked up and saw my neighbor's cows in his yard. No front gate. So, grabbed a bucket, drove the Kubota over and acted like I was going to feed them. They followed me into the arena, where I threw the bucket out (friendly, but HUGE Brahman bull) and circled round to close the gate.

[@emirandme]

So basically….country folk aren’t friendly or welcoming. This ain’t a movie y’all! You’re on your own!

[@ecocentrichomestead6783]

Being self sufficient takes time. The newbie usually will need help until s/he figures out the procedures required to be self sufficient. We can have snowstorms here that takes a week before the road is cleared! Everybody keeps, at least, a month supply of food.

[@Lili-xq9sn]

Good to know. Thanks!

[@robins5880]

And, when you add animals, make sure to consider where you put them. for example don’t put your pigs right on the property line uphill from your neighbor’s pond that drains into everyone’s wells downstream or you will meet the county health inspector and have to move said pigs. Also, yes keep your dogs fenced in so they don’t disturb anyone hunting on neighboring land 😡

[@marysidle5132]

What a good video. ALWAYS be responsible for yourself, and ready to help too!!!

[@robindrago6824]

I have never commented on your page before. I enjoy it very much. This current episode was so good I had to let you know. I have moved around a lot through the years and these tips are critical to a smooth landing. Thank you for being bold enough to share them.

[@donaldwalker5579]

I'm in the process of buying a home in the country for exactly those reasons. I hate the fact that in the city, you have to deal with all the drama but rarely have the benefits of a sense of community to offset having so many interactions.

[@LB-dy1fe]

The unwritten rules we take for granted. You guys are great. Thanks for the reminder.

[@JK-jf7xq]

My daughter and I sometimes talk about taking some homemade food to a new neighbor, but we also think about how many different diets and restrictions people have regarding food so instead we make jokes about finding the perfect food that meets all standards. Lettuce? ☺️

[@kinthecountry4301]

I have a lot of food sensitivities and people have brought us cookies we can't eat. I say thank you and am totally touched by their hospitality. But you don't have to bring them anything to be welcoming. Just go and say hi and get to know them a little.

[@TheEmbrio]

I’d say potted flowers, or divisions of some of your perrenials, a regional recipe (the recipe not the food) or an offer to show around the town, a creek, a scenic lesser known spot, whatever feels like your own hobbies / interests.

[@patricianelson7911]

I totally agree with what you say! Be responsible for your own family and count it a blessing when you get help from your neighbors in hard times.

[@fullofgracehomestead]

A good way to get to know people and be neighborly is the local farmers market. When they see you fit in, they know a face with a name and more comfortable of who you are. Bad apples ruin the whole bunch. That is why they are reserved about new comers.

[@joannecarroll5504]

That's not being neighbourly, it's just shopping. We can be reserved & courteous to neighbours at the same time. It's called being neighbourly for a reason, there's a little 2000yo book that mentions neighbours & how you're supposed to treat them. It's like a 'how-to list for the unfriendliest town in the world. Non-First-Nation-Americans can be more territorial than some dogs, & yet don't see the irony of it.

[@fullofgracehomestead]

@@joannecarroll5504 You meet community coming together. For now is shopping at some point it will be trading. At least that’s what my grandmother called it. We cannot all do everything, it takes a tribe.

[@fullofgracehomestead]

@@joannecarroll5504 have you ever kept apples in storage? The bad apple cain was banished from among adam and eve was he not? His was among them but not of them.

[@jenniferrastley7337]

Property lines! Don't go on someone else's property without permission,.

[@salemthorup9536]

We're planning to do a few things before we even move onto our country property: 1. Make sure the perimeter fencing is SOLID! 2. Have our water system totally set up--- this will be a complete water collection, storage and filtration system that should be able to supply and sustain us and our animals. 3. Have our energy needs covered for at least a year. 4. We'll definitely have a decent food storage supply when we move in cause we always keep a supply. That includes things like toilet paper, personal hygiene, etc. We're also learning how to take care of crisis situations like severe weather, natural disasters, and medical emergencies.

[@weeklyfascination]

Great video. Many of the points you make are great for just about anywhere. Give more than you take, keep your fence(s) maintained, and personal responsibility.

[@LadysFarm]

I moved in the country area. And immediately got along with my neighbors. I had a bbq had a chicken processing day. Gave chickens to my community and church. We are very welcomed and everyone knows us know. ❤

[@kristycook6041]

Patuti kissin' is right up there with brown nosin', brow beatin', and bird doggin'. Some folk got higher standards. Just sayin'.

[@LadysFarm]

@Margot Cavanaugh 🥰

[@diannamc367]

@@LadysFarm I have watched enough of your videos to know how much effort you put into your property and new life right from the beginning. You have done a great job!

[@johnparkhurst825]

HSF you tackled a tough but much needed topic., TY.

[@tracimartin3253]

This was one of the most practical videos for knowing rules for life - not just country life. Thank you!

[@candacebradley7335]

Such great advice! Advice for everyone living anywhere especially nowadays. Thank you!

[@shonnbell7887]

Thank you for the tips, all common sense stuff, just didn’t care for the “keep your mouth shut”comment. We learn from each other. A Better way of saying it is be reserved on what you say until you learn more about your surroundings. Being rude to people is never a good way of dealing with each other, especially when you’re building good neighbors. We bought property in Naples and are moving from the city, we’re not coming to change the politics but to assimilate into it. We’ve been already told our dream is his nightmare… without even speaking much at all!!! Welcome to the neighborhood I guess!!

[@shonnbell7887]

After reading my comment, it sounded harder than it was meant to be. Kindness is a two way street and we are moving from the city to get away from it and more into our own self reliance… we don’t expect anything from others…we will continue our way with our family motto be loving and kind to others… blessings

[@Annazelfvoorzienendleven]

Thank you for this video, it's such a beautiful place your homestead is, my husband and I have moved a lot and I recognize several tips you tell about being new to a place.

[@trelainamobley6254]

That was a great video Carolyn! Great advice!

[@balenciasgarden6068]

The more I learn about homesteading the less I believe I am going to be able to handle it. 1) The hard labor: I am 73 and I grew up in the suburbs of Orange County, CA. All my jobs since 1975 have been sedentary. If I had started this idea 30 years ago I may have been able to do this and if I were married 2) This two sided country rules of living is not cool. I would be a neighbor. I do not ask people for things and I do not like people asking me. I will help when I have the means to help and I do not expect anything back. I do not believe in me owning anyone favors nor does anyone owe me favors. We share and give without any expectations when we can. I do not make any promises that I am not sure I can keep, I only say I will try. I commit to nothing unless I know I can do it. I do not do it just to be nice. I used to do that and failed many times as life would intrude. 3) I agree about fences. 4) I have always taken my own responsibility. My own family did not help when I was a single mom of 4. 5) I am definitely not a nosy poke. I am an open book if someone wants to get to know me and I try to show them the same kind of interest. I am basically a homebody. I am still going to do all that I can to be self-sufficient (I am already self-reliant) as I possibly can. Thank you for all your information. I appreciate it.

[@jimmyhand1259]

Good comment!

[@AB-ol5uz]

you could still move out to a more rural town/home with garden and fencing already in place and have access to bartering, etc. without the physical toll of maintaining a larger property with numerous outbuildings, etc.

[@balenciasgarden6068]

@@AB-ol5uz I have looked into that too but the prices and the interest rates are just way too high right now. I keep hoping though. Thanks. :)

[@latauarobison6521]

I grew up in country so these rules make perfect sense. I’ve lived in the city and people don’t respect each other or others property. I live on outskirts of town. I love my home but wish I lived further into the country. Love to have more space between neighbor and more of my own property.

[@ChristinaMoore79]

Getting up a fence for my dogs to keep them safe and for my piece of mind is definitely my #1 priority once I get my place.

[@samefa]

Such good advice. We have had so many people move out here to our dirt road. One thing that really bugs me is the dogs. People are walking their dogs on the road without leashes or I see dogs running around on the road. It's very concerning.

[@jimmyhand1259]

I was the Newbie, 8 years now. We kept our dog on my property she died last year from old age and my neighbors let their dog run all over my property and crap all over it including in my flower, gardens on my walkways, driveway anywhere on my property they feel like taking a dump they literally walk them down our road without a leash and let them come on my property to do their business while they have their own property. I am now alone, help wasn't in time. I'm disabled but self sufficient and try to never ask anyone except family for help.

[@billherrick3569]

Be kind, be helpful, but don't be the newbie know it all, eyes and ears open and mouth shut is great advice.

[@vermonter8696]

Good points all around, thank you for making this video. I've got a tiny homestead going and the plan is to sell sometime soon and move further out where I can get more land, hopefully with established fruit trees with the intention of planting more fruit and nut trees plus grapes and berry bushes. Sadly I don't quite fit into a rural community being single, childless due to genetic concerns and largely preferring my own company but I'm friendly and always available to help so that goes a ways.

[@JustCallMeInsane]

If/when I'm able to move out to a more country area, I am whole heartedly going to keep my mouth shut and ears open. It makes no sense to go somewhere to 'change' it. That defeats the purpose of moving there to begin with. I will certainly be at my community's disposal though - if you need me I will do my best to help!

[@morjulies]

I loved the walk around this time of year!!!! There are so many inspiring things happening at your place!!!

[@oldchickenlady]

Wonderful video!! I hope lots of people see it and heed your advice. Thank you for posting this.

[@rebeccahherdener2068]

This just seems like basic common sense... I personally PREFER being a lender,not a borrower. I HATE having to be a borrower,and use it ONLY as a LAST resort. I love the community I live in rn, because they were there when we needed them most...I've never had that before. So now we are doing all we can to pay them back by showing our appreciation.. like letting them use our dryer, cooking some meals for them, buying the pregnant lady next door some treats(she's been craving cinnamon streusel bunt cakes. Lol), etc. We will be moving soon due to the apartment complex we live in getting demolished and rebuilt, so we may lose our good neighbors soon, and have to totally restart from scratch...which really sucks, but I also hope the future will be just as bright as it is now... Maybe even brighter.💕

[@PatsyMellen]

People who move to the country and think they need to get a dog and several cats then let them roam. Feral cats are really a problem in our area.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Ur cats should go home not to the neighbors to be fed, they’re not feral Feral cats ARE a big sad problem, the suffering is immense

[@christinawhite8785]

Great advice…thank you for posting this. I consider myself to be a “city-billy”. And have had to learn for many years. Just started canning & growing herbs this past summer. Loving life “y’all”!

[@Kat-ip5ex]

Yikes! Live the idea of having land and a farm but sounds like neighbors are judgmental and two faced! Don’t ask for anything but be sure to have enough to give away?!?! I just hate that sentiment. I live in the suburbs and neighbors wouldn’t judge or talk behind your back if you borrow a cup of sugar. We are friendly and helpful and we meant it!

[@rosepistilli223]

You could interpret it that way- and maybe she could have said it differently, but I think what she's getting at is that people who move to the country often want to be left alone. No one moves to the country for the great social life and activities. Yeah it's wrong to be judgemental, but it's ok to want to be left alone and not be social.

[@fotochikyo]

it's obvious you don't live in the country

[@judyluchies2492]

Thank you 😇🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 we are farmers I feel out of place in town 🤣I’ve been canning like crazy, and prepping I’ve up dated my herbal meds, and first aid supplies thank you love your videos, we just got a new country neighbor they moved from Washington in the city, to Michigan in the country,just the nicest people, kind of wary of us , they aren’t used to neighbors being friendly . 🤣😇🙏🏻♥️

[@ellenchappell1574]

Such good, good advice. People have very romantic, not realistic ideas of country life. Country life is hard work. Respect your neighbors who know the land. I have a neighbor who is very generous with vegetables I can’t grow, so I give him home made bread and other things that he does not make. Be thankful, so very thankful when others share.

[@davethekiwibloke]

I'm country born and raised and have lived in a number of different rural communities over the years. All of the information here is spot on and should be part of the 'newbie' kit for anyone entering a rural area. I live by all of these points and have felt the frustration on several occasions where 'townies' roll in and display their arrogance. They never last very long.

[@teedub1990]

As a city dweller that has experienced the reverse - country people moving to the city - I can sympathize with your frustration, thinly veiled judgement and unwelcome to those that don't assimilate to where they are now. I especially agree with your last point of keeping your mouth shut for at least a year. Though I was surprised by your comments on neighbors. Here, we just won't offer to help if we aren't prepared to or capable of helping but we are generally friendly with each other and more often than not, are enthusiastic about helping others. Well off or poor neighborhoods, it's the same in my experience. This seems to be the country version of "bless your heart" where "if you ever need help" means something different than offering help. It was all good information to have in any case. Cultural differences, even within the same country, are quite interesting. If I ever find myself in the country, I'll know what and what not to expect.

[@stevescuba1978]

I am well familiar with "bless your heart" not being a kind phrase, would you mind elaborating on the "if you ever need help" comment? I offer that genuinely often. I would hate to think that I've been inadvertently rude using a phrase in a way that isn't common to my new hood.

[@teedub1990]

@@stevescuba1978 It's the same with me. I actually called my mother, who was originally from Michigan but moved to California 50 years ago to ask if "if you need help" means something different to her. Nope, she said that in the small town she grew up in, it means they are genuine in their offer of help, not that they will be watching and judging and to not actually expect help. It's the same where I currently live, offers of help mean offers of help. Like I said, I was surprised at this country rule. I'm curious as to if I misinterpreted this rule.

[@kareneweiner3712]

Don’t forget your church!🙏🤗

[@Cowtownmama1951]

Excellent wisdom....and common sense to impart.....Being in the older group of folks....I find it pitiful that these sort of 'rules' have to be talked about or taught......BUT....that's the kind of world we are living in now......:)

[@girltechsteader]

Love your neighbor as yourself.

[@reest8278]

Second thoughts about moving to the country now, rules make sense but seems unfriendly like you won't be accepted into the community unless you do everything their way

[@johnparkhurst825]

It's about fitting in. It takes humbleness.

[@stevescuba1978]

Not necessarily "do everything their way", but rather, "don't come in changing everything or expecting your weird outsider behavior to be accepted". People in the country don't play nice, from my experience. You either fit in (reasonably) or you won't. It is not up to the locals to change to accept you, it is up to you (a person, not just you) to move to a place you find acceptable and assimilate.

[@whiteymccracker8003]

As someone who grew up in the country, moved to a city, then finally made it back to the country, I find this to be the most condescending video I’ve ever seen. You have missed the entire point of why people choose to move out of the city to begin with.

[@agrarianarc]

Agreed. I was really surprised with the tone of this video.

[@wyldmountainrose840]

I couldn't agree more, now if we could just get these rules as part of closing in a rural area.. . . . . .

[@peachykeen7634]

Maybe in lieu of an HOA agreement 🤣

[@cherylcook1942]

@@peachykeen7634 it sounds like an HOA agreement.

[@barbarayorkwoodside3716]

Great information and reminders! Thanks ❤

[@eileenredfern8364]

Great advice! This should be practiced in and out of the country living.

[@hollindorf1007]

Have you ever touched on trash? That's something I've always wondered about! Do you drive it to the dump? Burn pile? I'm a big fan of yours, and value your channel greatly! Thank you 😊

[@lynnbetts4332]

Learn what is available in the area. I'm not pying $60/month for once a week garbage pick up. Our county has dumpsters at the district county barns, open a couple of days a week. For house garbage, not big trash. $1/bag. It's just me, so I make the trip twice a month. Unless in drought with burn bans, we burn a lot of the trash. Have local people that will come pick up and take off metal stuff to the recycler. Landfill is about an hour away.

[@cherylcook1942]

Depends on the area.

[@scrapykat3028]

Excellent advice especially if they ask where are you from and you say California or New York!

[@cherylcook1942]

I could write a book about how wrong and ignorant that statement is. But would you be able to read it?

[@scrapykat3028]

@@cherylcook1942 just to be sure you understand… your comment was just as snarky as the comments Californians and those from NY get. Please write your book, but I don’t intend to buy it, read it, or give it any attention. Oh… and for the record, I’m born and raised Californian who hates the corruption happening here. Those areas outside of a big city, for your education, is very red!

[@hannahthehomesteader]

Yes to all of these...for the most part. The dog thing really bothers me. I'm a newcomer but there is a family who was already here who lets their dog run wild. She eats my cow feed, terrorizes my cats, and I'm just really scared she'll get into my chicken coop. They don't do a thing about it. And they let their kids ride dirt bikes all over other people's properties. That's also not cool. But why should the newcomer (in any neighborhood) be the one expected to bring goodies to the neighbors? I'm not saying the old neighbors have to either- it's reasonable that they wouldn't- but if you've just moved in, you don't have time. I moved onto acreage 5 months ago and am still not settled in enough to make 12 dozen cookies and then find a free Saturday to distribute them. And why is your neighbor not your friend? People borrow things here and are friendly and it's never seemed to be laced with annoyance. I think in the country you look out for each other because it's key to your own survival. The friendliness is almost required haha.

[@ashleylovepace1941]

amen sister. the newcomer bringing gifts to neighbors is just wacky. That rule was wrong.

[@agrarianarc]

Agreed. When we moved to our property all the neighbors came to us and some brought goodies. That’s more appropriate

[@nickieburgess6223]

I love this so much 😂😂😂 amen! and congrats on rocking the bump!!! 😁

[@sykotikmommy]

A lot of this is what we were planning, once we go off-grid within the next year or two. So much great information from you, all the time. Thank you so much. 💓

[@fmh357]

Good advice. I grew up in the country, worked in the city, lived in largish towns, smaller towns, etc. prefer the country but I'm not a hermit. It's hard for city folks but when you move to the country assimilate and don't try to change everything. Too many people leave their cesspit cities but want to bring their crap with them. This is irritating to no end and being the ultimate bad neighbor who others wish you'd just go back home.

[@hooray27]

“I hate prejudice, discrimination, and snobbishness of any kind - it always reflects on the person judging and not the person being judged. Everyone should be treated equally.” -Gordon Brown

[@benmoffitt7524]

This is GREAT practical advice. Thanks!

[@magpie1492]

Oh my goodness this resonates. I live in the UK but in a tiny rural, farming village (900 residents), no shops, no paths etc, just tiny lanes. We are warned by our local council every winter to not rely on their help should things get bad and the Parish Council ( Village Council) draws up a list of those with chainsaws, those with 4x4, farmers with equipment to use etc, useful people. It has had to be called on when trees have come down or our locally stream turned into a flood, and yes, we have village flood wardens. We are getting an influx of town people, on the whole they are great, we try not to interfere but are open and friendly. Yes, we are watching them 😅. You will be visited by the default longterm residents if you allow your hedges to creep into the tiny lanes, you will be spoken to if you think an all night party is a good idea and if we find our animals worried by your dogs be prepared for trouble. On the other hand I had a medical emergency that left me totally reliant for emergency care from my neighbours after it took 6 hours for the ambulance to arrive. My goodness I was grateful for every single person that arrived, new and old!

[@deecooper1567]

Oh my, you are absolutely right. I was raised in the country, moved to town as a teen, now at 74 I’m semi back in the country. Be there for one another but none of this coming over constantly. We folk have things to do 😂😂. 👵🏻👩‍🌾❣️

[@IamKyuTee]

Every parent needs to teach their child these rules no matter where they live. 1. There are times even in a city with terrible traffic jams an ambulance, fire department or police will not be able to get to you or your family for an hour. Yes, I have seen that happen a lot in big cities in the USA with serious traffic issues in the summer!!! 2. Borrowing from neighbors does not go well in the city it us best to live below the median and become self-reliant no matter where you live. 3. Keeping your animals on your own property is important no matter where you lIve in the USA. IN SOME COUNTRIES IF YOUR ANIMAL DOES NOT STAY ON YOUR PROPERTY THE OWNER OF THE PROPERTY YOUR ANIMAL GOES TO BECOMES THEIR PROPERTY TO DO WITH AS THEY WISH. IN SOME STATES IF YOUR DOG GOES ONTO A NEIGHBORS PROPERTY AND KILLS THEIR PET OR LIVESTOCK THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO KILL YOU ANIMAL. THERE ARE MORE STATES IF YOUR ANIMAL ATTACKS A HUMAN WHILE NOT ON YOUR PROPERTY THEY HAVE A RIGHT TO KILL IT. WANT TO KEEP YOU PETS BEST KEEP THEM WELL CONTAINED. City or country your animals are your responsibility. Use that responsibility or you may get a call to pick up your dead killing animal.