CHIT CHAT GRWM | THE TRUTH ABOUT OUTGROWING FRIENDS

[@i8anapplemac]

Dreams so big you get uncomfortable around small minded people

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Isla I'm gonna use that, thank youuuuu 👌🏾👌🏾

[@Aiko-ym5rp]

I really needed to hear this. I am in my second year of college and I find myself conforming to the laziness of others i.e not going library and wasting my free blocks. I really need to stop this BS and get my head down. I really dont want to slack off and I want to be somewhere large in my life. I need to stop the poverty cycle going on in my family and the only way to do that is to study and get these grades. I constantly find myself gossiping and talking BS, I engage in stupidity on a daily basis and I KNOW that I am engaging in stupidity but I shrug it off... THANK YOU Courtney!!! I will continue my journey to success and stop engaging in stupidity. Continue with your amazing content.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

ola I'm glad this video gave you a push to want to change that x

[@naomissempa]

That point at 3:45 is so true. People always want me to believe I'm stupid so when I work and get A*s they suddenly want my help. I have dreams to study at cambridge, I'm working hard every night so I can get A/A*s in my subjects, I'm always listening in lessons, I ask teachers questions but people really want to put me down sometimes. I really have no time for haters. When I'm at a good uni they can really be left behind because they spent their time joking around in lesson and they try and call me 'snake'😑

[@CourtneyDaniella]

TELL THEM!! You do you boo; but always remember to love just from a distance! They will learn but it might be too late x

[@naomissempa]

Courtney Daniella I have cut off people who also put people down for their aspirations. So what if someone wants to do an apprenticeship? So what if someone isn't as academically smart as you? It is hard cutting off people but I would rather have no friends that be surrounded by ignorant people

[@PraiseAra]

Naomi Ssempa you are anything but a snake. You know how to prioritise and I don't know you personally but I'm proud of you. Your determination, motivation and ambition is so admirable 💕

[@toyota1097]

Naomi Ssempa I can relate to this. Keep doing you and don't listen to the haters💗

[@LastnamesCupid]

Naomi Ssempa that's aweome and you will get there

[@IK4162_]

I like that she's not preaching unrealistically she says it how it is and she gives relevant details honestly your way of speech and your ability to communicate with others is terrifyingly good

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Zara ❤️ thank you so much x

[@tenecianamusabi-kwagala656]

You do not even knowwwwwwwwwwwwwww how much this inspired me to go for my ambitions of being an orthopedic surgeon. Many a time my 'friends' have told me that the grades will not come through or they will refuse me because I am not a typical candidate and I used to believe them and literally dumbed myself down just to feel like they would accept me. Now I will strive for the stars and beyond because like you said nobody has got you like God has got you. Thank you so much x

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Tenecia Namusabi-Kwagala nobody's got you like how God's got you!! And yes girl go ahead and chase that and become an orthopaedic surgeon! One of the best in fact ❤️✨

[@blippity.]

you've really settled my spirit on some of the friendships I've lost, it's been difficult lately losing and letting so of some of my friends.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Morayo aww I'm glad it blessed u X

[@lt4758]

Wallah she is my favourite youtuber ❤😂❤

[@heyitsla_raib3837]

Lana Poderosa wallah

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Lana Poderosa 😂 thank you ❤️

[@bethanyleigh9691]

This video literally made me cry because it's such a wake up call

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Betty Leigh awww thank you x

[@MoChunks]

So real! Honestly, I've stopped seeking approval from people. All I need to do is follow God and he will guide me, he will encourage me, he will enable me to grow. Doesn't mean I wont love people, I'll never stop loving people but I wont be expecting much from them because frankly as human beings we are limited by this thing called flesh. Jealousy, insecurities, hate will always show up. Just have to keep it moving and keep one's eye on the bigger goal !

[@CourtneyDaniella]

MoChunks Show hit the nail Mo! Humans are limited, blind leading the blind!

[@JanielleWright]

AMEN! AMEN! AMEN! PREACH! Had to edit this to say I would love for us to collab! if your into that lol your such a wonderful soul

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Janielle Wright AHHHHHH JANIELLE 😭😭 I love you so much girl! You and Novah ❤️ yes girl let's make this happen x

[@shaimam7843]

I looovvveeee these chit chat GRMWs!! She's so real and honest and it gives me liiifffeeee ❤❤❤

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Shaima M thank you boo cakes 😘

[@MsSweetbaby20]

the fact that the video hasn't started yet and when you said "if the shoe fits then it fits" i started laughing you have killed me loool

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Meg Ayebah-Coffie LOOOL sometimes disclaimers ukno

[@GratsiX]

One day I will be this wise pls. Really enjoyed this video boo 👌🏾 x

[@bethanyleigh9691]

This was something I really needed to hear as I've recently drifted apart from so Many friends but I'm better off without them . Thankyou for making me feel okay about the situation ❤😊❤

[@abidabegum8069]

you motivate the fuck out of me

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Abida Begum haha thanks ❤️

[@jordanmeko]

I never knew other people felt the same way about outgrowing friends. A flower truly can't bloom in the dark. The "You're Moving Mad", "Snake" thing is so true. I really needed to hear this. You're such an inspiration x

[@cherryandy3279]

Wow, I've watched so many of your videos, but this one is just too mushh 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾so encouraging x

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Cherry Andy yaay!! Thanks man, I really wasn't going to post it but God had his plans!

[@xoxoVnGxoxo]

Too much wisdom. I have a feeling you'll be ordained to be a pastor someday and preach to people

[@IK4162_]

xoxoVnGxoxo LEGIT SO TRUE OMG

[@CourtneyDaniella]

xoxoVnGxoxo wow thank you ❤️❤️

[@DarlingDemitta]

So much wisdom🙌🏾❤

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Darling Demitta ❤️❤️

[@chloewitele9158]

This is SO real, outgrowing and growing myself,at first I was so confused but now I understand! More focused on me now☺️ loved this video!

[@fitfinefifty5061]

Hello Granddaughter I am a new subbie! Indeed GOD has given you WISDOM! Walk in it, completely and whole heartedly. JESUS is LORD! Stay Blessed.💋💜

[@Tami98]

I literally have had many 'friends' laugh at me and indirectly tell me that i'm not good enough to go to where I want to go. It seriously broke me at the time, but now I'm rising above it and working to get to where I want to be. :)

[@morganony1967]

God really knew I’d need this 4 years later because this is what I am going through right now. Just graduated from the university & wheww the struggle is real. Your wisdom and words in this video are truly a blessing.. thank you for sharing sis!!🥺✨

[@heyitsla_raib3837]

the fact that you included giving up clubbing means so much!

[@siobhanoneill8906]

THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH !!! I have pretty big dreams, academic wise for my future, but I am dyslexic so people are always putting me down, telling not to get my hopes up, that I won't be able to do it.But I really want to achieve this dream of mine very much, I do have to work twice as hard as the other students in the class , just to even scrape half of their grades , but I had motivation from the start and never gave in and now I am one of the top in my class.So if I can do it , the rest of you can , don't give up on your dreams YOU CAN DO IT!! :)

[@riyahgrace2949]

Siobhan O'Neill well done! I'm dyslexic too, so I know the struggle. But I graduated uni by God's grace so all really is possible. Well done again & keep up the hard work x

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Siobhan O'Neill woooow!!! Yessss!!!👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾 well done and thank you for being so driven x

[@SewphiliaStudio]

you got 1.2k in 1hr. wow. God bless my hustle too oh. lol.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Pelumz Vlogs amen!! It's only God x

[@georgiac20]

16:30 Prreeeeaachhhhh! Said this to my friend yesterday x loved the video ♥

[@tinaanindo10]

Everything about this video just makes sense😩💕

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Tina Anindo ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@reneewills]

I just want to let you know how much I loooove your videos! Keep it up girl you don't see how much these kind of videos help young people like myself. God bless yourself and your future plans. Your truly a motivation to me.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Renee Francis amen!! Thank you xx.

[@sevynmohunt76]

And it's not just your friends...family, too!

[@sersastark]

Amen to that

[@NaraV]

You're beautiful inside and out

[@Nadzz6919]

You're so inspirational

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Nadia May aww thank you x

[@morningglory.213]

Idk y I’m so afraid of saying things like “universe got my back and magic will happen and I believe in it” in front of others, not that I don’t believe cuz HELL YEA! I DO!! but I’m so afraid they will judge me as they just laugh at anyone who says stuff like that and mock them by saying “oh so u hav become a guru lol” They think I have “unrealistic dreams” and I just idk how to cut them off 🥺😞

[@wtfisthisshizz]

You are literally God sent, I honestly love you Courts ❤️

[@WowDaniX]

No will tell you that after 40 you’ll wake up and dislike ALL of your friends. I just cut them off or stop showing up for them. I love being by myself. It’s all about self love. Quality is rare.

[@daniellekyei8818]

loved this! first time watching you, and your wisdom and mindset is amazing. God bless you, and continue the great videos!

[@christianmonique1146]

I can relate to this so much. I’m a sophomore in college and in 2019, i can honestly say i have learned so much about friendships. Im learning what i need in a friend and not just sticking to what im used to while being comfortable. i have falling out with few and gotten back coolwith one. on friends, im getting very protective of myself and my mind of just who i let in bc i dont always want to hear certain things anymore or the local gossip or always always always going out to the club. 😭 its very uncomfortable from time to time but i learning to love myself and be comfortable with myself. 2020 has me with a very different outlook on my social circle and i honestly dont know what will happen with that but its all for the better.

[@ollymk_]

It is so important for people to realise what is within their reach, and to provide themselves with the means to obtain whatever they aim to achieve. Cutting people off, providing yourself with the time and space to grow and build is oftentimes necessary. At the very least, you need to manage people and time more efficiently. Sadly, you have to be selfish sometimes. That is the truth. Great video, great mindset, wish you the best in life.

[@BeautifulBrilliantly]

I resonated with this video so much that it was scary. Wow.

[@EseKanayo]

This video applied so well to my current situation, I know it's not a coincidence you uploaded this now. Thanks courtney, very helpful x

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Ese Kanayo it's all God g ❤️

[@kittyfittsy]

People making the environment conducive to your growth and where you’re going is such a great standard to keep in mind. Just wow.

[@Londiebeantown]

I believe you are annointed. Thank God for your obedience and your life. This video hit me hard!!

[@NissyTee]

Every single day spitting the real real TRUTH! You are so blessed girl & the fleek is too much, give us a chance please chaaai 😭❤️❤️✨

[@jamilacx]

Nissy Tee was I

[@gracegonzalez9856]

I play your vids while cleaning my house, cause you’re low-key my new motivational speaker 😂

[@Elluna00]

I can not tell you how much joy and happyness you bring to my day! Thank you SO much for saying these words, it helps me so much in my current struggled! I LOVE YOU! Pleas do not stop making theese vidioes

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Ella Flaata you are more than welcome!! Thank you for supporting! ❤️

[@bukkyjimoh3436]

Real talkk Courtney!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾 Love it ❤️❤️❤️

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Bukky Jimoh ❤️

[@ladolcevita2991]

I needed this! And hearing the obvious that God has our back regardless of the reaction or opinion of others which happens to be prevalent at that moment in time needs to be ejected at once! It’s ok to moved forward alone or with out others approval. It’s empowering to be strong and to step out of your comfort zone to seek like minded people. Thank God for strength...🖤

[@katelyngraham4260]

Side note your eyebrows are smashing 🤗

[@CourtneyDaniella]

K a t x l y n 🌞🌞🌞 thank you!

[@DevelopingMuslimah]

5 sec in, and I've already liked and subscribed 💞💞💞💞

[@Lucylu723]

I am only 3 minutes and 52 seconds into this video and I am just relating to you so much that it scares me. Thanks for posting this, I really needed to hear it 😊

[@PraiseAra]

So many key points made in this video!! Who we associate with is so vital especially at points of transition and growth

[@eziprose]

Notification gang! You're serving looks too!! Happy to see a second upload this week x

[@CourtneyDaniella]

EziProse yaaaas girl!! ❤️

[@alexerxo]

the timing of this video in my life is crazy. thank you so much.

[@cookingupwithm]

Amen! Its true i wish i was this bold at your age. God bless you!

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Mel Box thank you ❤️

[@sandrakumi6733]

I really enjoyed this keep it up boo.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Sandra Kumi thank you, I sure will x

[@kaelabrown8533]

Girl you went in on this video. I was dead ass crying before I watched this video about this same subject, and you just uplifted me to the fullest ❤️

[@Dailydoseofkay]

Thank you sooooooo much for uploading this video! I am only 15yrs old and this video is so accurate to certain things that's been going on in my life. i haven't been making the best decisions and i do believe it's because of the people i've been surrounding myself with and i ironically came across this video and it really made sense to me. i honestly believe that god sent me to this video for clarification and understanding and i now know what changes need to be made. I just really thank you for sharing your wise words and i hope god continues to bless up❤️!

[@Everlycece]

hmmm!i can so relate with this message.Thanks Courtney.

[@demi_thelocgoddess]

Wow I needed this. At this very moment. It breaks my heart but I feel like I HAVE TO leave my bestfriend to fulfill my needs. She just DOESN'T want to grow. She's a beautiful person with a heart of gold and she was there for me when I had nothing or no one. It's just that its been almost 3 years and we're still in the same (if not, WORSE) predicament than we started. It's like, i'm the only one who's been planning, working goals, and wanting to leave this place. She "says" she wants the same thing but her actions doesnt line up AT ALL! It's like she's okay with working a 9 to 5 and coming home and repeating the cycle. I want WAY more! Starting with my own business because I hate working for way less than it takes to live AND I want to leave something behind for my future children. The thing is: I want to leave her soooo bad but I dont want to feel like I'm betraying her since she WAS there for me. she's REALLY my bestfriend so I think I'll constantly feel like i owe her for being there for me.

[@sersastark]

TooBlessed ToBeStressed you have to realize that doing for yourself should never be a betrayal and if she reacts that way, and you have to tell her, then you have your answer on how she really feels.

[@natashaagyare4251]

Preach on! Loving the frequent CHIT CHATs lately! You go girl

[@sunshinegirlart866]

You are so wise, I love your videos and you give me so much hope and motivation, thank you so much, I love you. ❤💖🌼

[@CrystalJanelleTV]

Great message....but all that THICK makeup 🙃🙃 Whyyy?????? It’s not needed!!

[@WhatMummyLoves]

Valid points. It’s fine to outgrow friends

[@kylacooper5359]

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❣ GOING THROUGH THIS NOW. I REALLY NEEDED THIS. I JUST MOVED ABOUT 10-12 HOURS AWAY FROM HOME.

[@trishellchase4920]

awww u are so true!!Thank you so much.

[@blackham7]

I agree the only way to get a better life is trying harder in education. This video understood me so much, Im tired of living in the town that I live in and my only way out is the education system. Even if I can get 1A* at GCSE Ill be happy.

[@dornekaward8065]

blackham7 you can do it.

[@AcquennettaFinesse]

GIRL ! you be preaching for real, and i love it cause i really do forget the things you mentioned. Remembering that its ok to outgrow friends and hell sometimes family

[@ellamcewan9455]

I really needed to hear this. Cheers girl xo

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Ella McEwan ❤️

[@shelleylavallee]

I think my head was bobbing up& down the Entire Video!!:):).... I have been feeling this for soooo long.. but just did not voice it out of myself. It was like confirmation for me from God. Amen& thanks so much for this Very Important Msg for me to move- ahead.

[@afroretro_Selina]

I had a friend of 15 years and I felt like she was holding me back from having relationships. When I dated a guy it Seemed like she would be possessive of me it was crazy. And then I met my soul mate and had a baby I had to cut her out my life. I felt like she would ruin my new life. It was that bad. She would stalk me on whatsapp, miss call me 10 times a day, she would call my sisters to find out my new home adress. I had to change my number, I happened to move out of the city we both grew up in so I know I will never see her again. But I do dread bumping into her when I vist family and friends in the city I used to live. Your right! The people who you known for years just got to you first!

[@michaella-evelyn]

"YOU are a product to your enviroment" rahhhhh play den!!! xx we all need to remember that God has it under control and don't need to be anxious about it, He is planning and making ways!! xx new sub cos Courtney just says it all flat out. LOVE for you to check ut my channel girl, much love xx

[@deshaloveable]

You spoke nothing but the truth 👏🏾... what brand foundation are you using? It's flawless

[@theessenceofbeauty1g]

God, I love your channel so much! You're such an inspiration!

[@lesleykangausaru1218]

Love rewatching this! Deffo fave video

[@Queenie1547]

Amen, amen, amen! Something else I also had to realize as I was yelling out "Yaaaaaas": Am I also supporting other people that have goals, too? Am I scoffing at their goals because they aren't "realistic", but I can prance around and hustle for my goals? I make it more of an effort in recent years to always uplift others that are legitimate with their goals. The road to success is a two way street: having good people around you and you also being good to others. Never only one. I'm adding this video to my favorites. ❤️❤️

[@losrob27]

Oh yea, you are a woman who GETS IT!! It looks like you are growing in leaps and bounds, and I'm so glad you decided to share this wisdom with the world, because this can change lives for the better.

[@naomi3398]

Just what I've been thinking this past year. Some people really are just there for time. Thank you for this vid your such an inspiration ! God bless x

[@mntk]

THANK YOU SO MUCH! This's exactly what I need to hear.

[@mrmanq9517]

Such an intellegent woman and beautiful... If you would just loose weight and hit the gym, you would be such a GEM!

[@muna6008]

I have this very problem. I’ve got this plan for my self and through my hard work things are falling in place. But as this is happening my friends are talking to me less and less. At the beginning of the year I was talking to them 5 hours a day on the phone constantly but these days I haven’t spoken to them in a full week. I’m meeting deadlines I’m double checking work before handing it in and maybe I can’t come to motives but because they don’t understand this is my future they won’t understand ever. I have to make new friends and it’s difficult because they’ve been my friends for over a decade now. They are all my memories. But now I don’t see them in my future. I’m rambling but yeah I’m struggling.

[@TheChinadoll010]

Going through this as we speak. Very encouraging!

[@selinah3044]

The way I was saying "Yes" "Uh huh" "Sis!" the whole way through😂😂 the confirmation I needed, some people have got to go! Great video xxx

[@siobhanoneill8906]

thanks guys , it really means a lot to me. Daniella your videos are amazing , please never stop them!!! (spell check is my friend right now, LOL!! ;) ) Daniella you are the true meaning of "wise head on young shoulders".!!! xx

[@nishalashay4402]

Kids get jealous when other kids go somewhere they wanted to go but couldnt. The kids that could go; still go. Why do we as adults let the kids inside of other adults who are jealous that they cant go; let you stop going. As a whole Adult? This is so crazy when you truly break it down. People are responsible for their own kids; inside and out. 💜

[@eileenlang4220]

This is common sense but I guess a lot of people in life haven't reached this point in their life to understand this. Some "people" just need to get cut off at a certain time in life. Everyone was born alone. This does show clarity and an in depth explanation about life and life's issues. It feels good when people move on and do good in life. Defy the odds and continue to reach your goals. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@fdoctor79]

I know I'm late but this message is right on time! Drop that knowledge, my sister! God speed and continued success with all of your endeavors!

[@sandracrump]

Hair is laid!! And you spoke the truth! My dreams and growing and I don’t talk to anyone literally anyone at all! I want to be around successful young ladies who are doing something positive and speaking positive

[@sheisstrongpodcast]

sometimes you have to have confidence with being alone, i had reached the point where i did everything alone, the friends i have weren't interested in the things i was into and i was changing, i started putting up healthy boundaries, i wasn't learning anything from them, i was just their therapist friend, they were literally eating off my brain away, i legit got sick cos of them, i decided to say bye bye but they refused to understand it was so hard they even went around saying things, people can be weird and selfish just to keep people near them that's so unhealthy,,,, but God will always bless us with the right environments

[@TeeyanaAromi]

Really loved this 💖 timely 👌🏾

[@Faith-sr8zw]

My single-parent family have make jokes about how i always go on about getting a nice large house by my mid 20s. I love them with everything i have but i pity how they don't believe that it's possible

[@tmt3253]

sound like not living kinda co dependency...god should be who you are co dependent with.....

[@abcdefg2575]

This is a bit hard but also true. I lost my dad last year and tons of hardships were set before me. I grew and changed over time and I'm not who I used to be. My friends still live in the same old mentality to the point that I don't even wanna spark a conversation now. It's just not the same anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@o_o3142]

But what do you do if they put you down and make others put you down too. I don't know what I want to do with my life but I know that I want to get better grades that I want to live up to my family but I don't know how and everything I've been trying hasn't been working. I don't have a specific group of friends, I'm close with a lot of people but not enough to go out. I want to have a group of friends that I can go over to. Please help. ☁🎈☁

[@Trap.RnB27]

I totally understand not just in terms of study but gossiping and calling people ugly which my 'friends' still do and when I advise them to stop they say it's a joke and laugh. But I know how it feels to be called ugly and sometimes it hurts more than if a knife accidentally cut me but sometimes it doesn't bother me at all. That's why I can't wait to go to a new college so it can give me a fresh start

[@yemyeslondon9874]

wow! Stumbled across this video and i really do not think it was by accident...wow! This was a blessing x

[@RaymuusicluverDL]

I've been binge - watching your videos 💕💕💕💕 Loveee your positive glow...Queen 👑👊💕💕

[@ekraku141]

that disclaimer in the beginning haha! I swear if that isn't a Londoner talking then your video camera was powered by your imagination lol. Great video again

[@glencoco2499]

5 years after this video was released it ended up on my recommended page and i rly needed to hear this!! lately i have lost a lot of friends because we are on different paths and i didn't agree with some of their actions (drug use, etc) and it hurt, but this video helped me remember that i have to lose some things if they are holding me back. thank u so much!!

[@jasminluna7900]

This is how I have been feeling lately, people around me no longer understand my goals and the peace I am searching for. It often makes me feel like maybe I am taking things too seriously or maybe i am closed off like they say.

[@bens9851]

Really needed to hear this 🙏🏾❤️