How To Stop Being Socially Awkward (5 Behaviors That Make You Look Weird)

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[@willverschneider1102]

I can offer a possible explanation for some socially awkward behavior. A person with social anxiety feels like the other person is evaluating them, so every social interaction feels like a live public performance that we didn't prepare for. We do better in text or writing because we give ourselves time to proofread before the final "product" is released. And we do well with animals because they don't have the social complexity of humans.

[@jacksonarcher5881]

I relate to this so much. There's a girl who works at the gym I go to and I cannot get myself to just ask her out or ask for her #. I have spoken to her a couple times commenting on things the workers decorate and have flashed a smile here and there, but I can't bring myself to just once and for all ask her out and see what happens. I sit in bed at night before going to sleep thinking of what I would say to get her attention and then pop the question, and I feel like yes this is going to be when I do it. Then the next day comes and I either just say something simple in passing or she's working and I don't say anything. I do feel like I'm performing and you don't know how the other person will react to what you say in real life as opposed to thinking it through in your head. In my head I can say something, stop, analyze, and go back if I felt like what I thought of saying was weird. In real life it's that one shot. I guess it just boils down to me needing to get over the possibility/fear of rejection and not be in my head so much when the time comes. I want to make 2023 a year to begin putting myself in uncomfortable situations to learn to talk to girls better and not be so worried. It's just so hard to actually do it.

[@captainbeastazoid7084]

Very well said!

[@megalodon1726]

@@jacksonarcher5881 look for somebody else. She's not going to date somebody who is a member of the same gym she works for, unless you're a GigaChad. And if you were a GigaChad you'd already have another woman or women.

[@chop4288]

Bingo! This is facts brother💯

[@vilmarhgrarhk494]

I might be a weird one but it's the opposite for me. I easily write too much, too less or lose filter while texting while i'm really confortable while talking directly. Honestly i think the fact that i don't see the person is difficult cause i can't read her facial expressions, body language and myself i can't use them to express what i feel. It already ruined multiple potential dates, got likes easily but can't keep people around long enough to encounter them. I'll learn but that so hard through texting and sadly when i got out i don't have time to find someone.

[@Airkillmaster13]

As someone who got yelled at and looked down a lot as a kid, that definitely made me socially akward. Thank you for this

[@deannamarie3746]

Yeah, i dealt with that too, never knew when to speak up or just say nothing, seems like i got yelled at when i spoke up about something bothering me or when i tried to explain myself

[@Kingharrison02]

glad you found out what caused it and i’m sorry you went through that! just keep working little by little to get where you want to be socially. we are all in the same boat😭

[@lordblazer]

@@Kingharrison02 screw you

[@delilahispeachyfresh2835]

@@deannamarie3746 right!!

[@agent475816]

I honestly feel like that's the root cause. It's nurture vs nature.

[@chris-cx9fq]

The 5 Weird Behaviors 1. Self disclosure (Lack/Excess - Emotional Vomit) 0:54 2. Eye contact ( Too much or too little) 2:42 3. Inability to read social cues (Not reading the room) 3:48 4. Proximity (Invading personal Space) 5:50 5. No filter (Making a remark at a bad time or speaking in a way that makes people feel uncomfortable) 6:54

[@kjack157]

I got no filter but girls love it, obviously I filter myself when I absolutely have to though

[@xorast-_-t6997]

I would never get rid of the no filter thing that's a huge part about my being

[@christopherrobin7776]

Normies break all these on a continual basis now. That's why most people aren't worth it.

[@RGE_Music]

How can I help a friend work on number 5. I'm literally struggling as a roommate with him

[@hpsign8506]

@beaver dentures just close enough to smell their ass sweat 😊

[@King9tails]

From personal experience, I used to be socially awkward due to stutter and other insecurities. The key is going to parties, events, and hangouts. Don’t worry about people judging you or embarrassment because it’s going to happen. The more social experience, you will become less awkward and gain social/self-awareness. A good tip for beginner, is let the other person talk more than you do and being genuine about it. Also, being a good person with good morals help to.

[@larsf.4756]

Agreed, I used to have a stutter until my mid-20s. It's all about the courage and getting out there. It simply takes practice, and then some more practice. I further agree that the other person may talk more, people love attention, and are quite happy to talk about themselves. It didn't take me that long until I started to enjoy these interactions.

[@JohnM...]

I see you’re a Jordan Peterson fan. This is his exact advice on how to not be socially anxious: torture yourself with situations that MAKE YOU socially anxious.

[@minabotieso6944]

You can always find something but the lonely friendless people with social anxiety don’t have access to that much parties and hangouts

[@King9tails]

@@larsf.4756 definitely a book called “how to make friends and influence people” is an excellent book that all socially awkward people should read

[@King9tails]

@@minabotieso6944 the best way I found are bars that have djs. Or an area that is packed with people. And just go to vibe and wing it basically. The more they go, the more likely they will gain confidence. If they don’t have access to that local events or getting a job that forced them to be social would help too

[@kenrickbautista6141]

As someone who's been socially awkward for 26 years that I have been on this earth, I truly believe this video is accurate, necessary and needed. Thanks for that Courtney.

[@CourtneyRyan]

It’s my pleasure ❤️

[@Jae_Garcia]

@@CourtneyRyan oh my God Courtney my love , you got me !!! I’m guilty. I admit this is a good video because the part where you started talking about being a great storyteller it’s about time you make a video about when the girl is finally near us or when us men are trying to make a move What do we do ???? and I admit I’m a great storyteller, but sometimes I do feel like I talk too much and when you said that in the video, you explain me perfectly and my problem 😮I feel like I am a great storyteller, but sometimes I don’t know my audience or when too much is too long and unnecessary…I’ll make them laugh yes but then I won’t have a beneficial candidate for a date because I probably made them see me as a funny friend instead of someone who will take me serious on a date

[@initiatorhater0688]

so i assume you haven't had much of a dating life i'm guessing

[@kenrickbautista6141]

@@initiatorhater0688 unfortunately, I don't. You have no idea what it's like being rejected by every girl you have full interest in everywhere you go.

[@initiatorhater0688]

@@kenrickbautista6141 ya, the sad brutal truth is that social awkwardness can easily be a death sentence to remain forever alone, forever celibate as a guy, human male, unless he pays for sex but that option is not for everyone

[@davidabarak]

As I got older my social confidence got better. But what really boosted it was when I began volunteering as a docent (tour guide) for a popular museum. I _had_ to be engaging, entertaining and sometimes funny. If you've got social anxiety, try volunteering in a role that has you interact with strangers and it'll do wonders.

[@Dj_CaTz1]

Yeh until I stutter every line and trip lol

[@Xilenah]

for me, Ive struggled with shyness ages 10 to 21, im Turing 22 this year. I've had jobs that help with this but eventually I leave my job to focus on school and it comes back. It gets worse and im sick of it.

[@humble378]

​@@XilenahJesus loves you and can help you bc he helped me😊

[@JohnM...]

I'm afraid that when it comes to 'getting to know people ' or 'opening up' (🤢🤮) I personally don't feel like I can TRUST OTHERS with my true self, in case my feelings (and self esteem) get crapped all over. Usually, after I've known people for a long time, I've asked them what they first thought of me when they first saw/met me. Most of them said they were terrified of me. I tend to, Unconsciously, have a 'f*** off' face. It's not who I really am, but an ingrained automatic response to YEARS of being ostracized (especially by girls/women) from school onwards.

[@marclefleur6158]

I know that. I also had that look when I first came to a new town and a new school. I killed everyone with my eyes. It's hard to be sunny when you've been through something bad. The important thing is to work on yourself. Trust yourself. What I have for a change is that when someone says something I don't like, I smile. Most people think I'm laughing at them. They don't know how to take it. Also a defensive reaction. So good luck to the people who are worth it. :)

[@MikeyP109]

Being an introvert isn't something that needs to be fixed. That said, if someone is shy or has low self esteem dating can be a nightmare. Keep in mind though that these are symptoms. Remember to consider why you're this way and getting it under control. If you see yourself as awkward, most likely you'll assume your date sees you that way as well. I would take Courtney's tips to the dating table after your issues are resolved.

[@mellow_salix]

I’m very socially awkward so I’m glad for this video. I overthink my every move, everything I say, and how I look. That’s just due to me being insecure, but I also have a stutter and slur my words so I stay silent or say fewer words. I have really bad anxiety so usually when I talk to someone I’m not used to, I get really flustered which makes my stutter worse and sometimes my face starts burning or I’ll fiddle with something. I can read the room tho so thankfully, if someone is uncomfortable I’ll see it and will stop what’s making them uncomfortable. Because of my overthinking, I pay attention to small gestures and their facial expressions, even if it’s barely visible. I’ve seen interactions between other people and I saw that one of them was uncomfortable or wasn’t interested, but the other person didn’t notice. I felt extreme second-hand embarrassment

[@Jarekthegamingdragon.]

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[@stonecold7113]

I love Courtney’s videos. Rather than tell men to “be nice” “be sensitive” “be vulnerable” she gives direct, blunt, honest, and real advice. It’s refreshing to hear advice like this out of a woman’s mouth. Happy holidays Courtney!

[@andersnielsen6044]

The 3 things you have " around is actually what she has been saying all the way thru' every single video she has ever uploaded. I think you should learn to "read the room".

[@eddiew2325]

​@@andersnielsen6044 hi anders will u marry me

[@ixstorm5951]

Not the measuring tape

[@Moshm4n]

I think a lot of social awkwardness can be averted by figuring out how to remove yourself from a transactional frame of mind within interpersonal interactions, and it's not always obvious if you're in one. If you feel nervous, shy, walls up; or the opposite: oversharing, peacocking, strangely self-deprecating, and overall overly forward-they are indicators you're trying to get something out of that person. Sometimes therapy is a necessary step to explore any complexes that are preventing a normative frame of mind from relating to others. Sometimes there are mental health issues, sometimes it's just lacking a healthy frame of reference that wasn't modeled by friends, peers, and family growing up and you need to learn some people skills. I think this is the problem with telling some people to "just be confident, bro". There are two types of confidence: (1); the confidence relating to a particular skill, like flying an airplane. If I've never flown a plane before, just being confident won't be a stand-in for proper knowledge and experience. I have to be unconfident before I can be confident. As I become more "competent", I will become "confident" in that order specifically, (2); overall "confidence". Confidence in confidence itself. The confidence in navigating the unknown. Your confidence "in the learning" of unlearned skills, like flying an airplane. And even more specifically, the confidence in soft skills that underlie everything we do that enables one to navigate unknown territory. It's hard to quantify, hence my varying descriptions here. Socializing is a soft skill. It cannot be reduced to "just do X" as it's largely unquantifiable and not formulaic. Social skills require one to navigate terrain that is eminently analog and always changing. Any "rules" offered in socializing are really just guides and "rules of thumb. Because everyone is different. This is why we speak of others in vagaries-"vibing" with others is one such example. What creates deficits in these skills sometimes is a matter of mental health, and sometimes is a matter of lacking a healthy frame of reference. And thus, solving one's deficit in these skills that underlie everything we do must be individuated in the solution to the particulars of the individual. If they have attachment issues, that must be dealt with. If they're on the spectrum, that requires an entirely different approach. In any case, direct outside intervention is required in addressing deep deficits, individual to the person, in these soft skills. "Just be confident" cannot be the advice here. Confidence will emerge automatically as the person heals, gains skills, and routinizes them in automaticity.

[@garettbond6182]

Dude you just cracked the code for me, thanks. I lack the confidence so when I try, I crash and burn because I’m not competent in uncomfortable social environments

[@gabrielrcortina]

12:35 Thanks for the recognition of the autistic guys out there. Last week I got diagnosed with high functioning, but I only went because my social interactions continued to fail. Unlike many others who would doubt I have any condition, you still acknowledge people like me and I am very thankful to have a person like you on KZbin. You've always been considerate of many facts and that's why I'll always continue to watch your content.

[@nobodysperfect06]

Sadly I'm going to assume that you've never had a girlfriend before because it's common for autistic men to be that way

[@gabrielrcortina]

@@nobodysperfect06 Eh close enough bro. I've had 3 before, but they were short lived. For the longest time I thought I ended the relationships for good reasons, but once I kept thinking about it, I'm the one that really screwed it up.

[@nobodysperfect06]

@@gabrielrcortina how long was your longest relationship

[@gabrielrcortina]

@@nobodysperfect06 About a month

[@nobodysperfect06]

@@gabrielrcortina sadly it's not unusual for lots of autistic men to be 30 year old virgins or older

[@cypherpunk7675]

I stopped being socially awkward when I stopped caring what people thought of me. Then I realized it's other people who are socially awkward. Why do people feel the need to blather on about fucking nothing just to fill a silence?

[@lx4302]

probably because there's nothing inside their thoughts. they can't self reflect, can't think deep, afraid the other person is thinking something else they can't relate to, the words just come out of their mouth. in some cultures, silence is much more respected than loud talking.

[@ranc1977]

I love that you are aware of flip sides. Usually a lot of people are only aware of one angle, egocentric. What I am allergic to is "Stop" videos. Deficiency Motivation is never working. All this social awkwardness stems from abuse. Being exposed to narcissistic abuse and untreated mentally ill people over long period of time. This means, we were conditioned to be socially anxious, where anxiety is reaction to toxic people who trigger us, flashbacks of the original abuse. "Stop" techniques (how to stop, step by step) are not working due to Ebbinghaus Forgetting Curve - we will simply forget all tips and tricks and default back to original trauma which is not healed. What we need is to heal the trauma which is causing all the problems, not our symptoms which we observe and easily detect. Confidence is paradox - if we nitpick and try to be confident - we'll turn up insecure and with over-compensations. Alas if we don't try to be confident - paradoxically we will become confident, since we won't care what other people criticize. We will be confident when we are okay with our mistakes and blunders. In social situations mistakes and blunders go hand in hand. And what's more - perfect people are dull and nobody likes them. Those who are obnoxious, who fart, burp, talk nonsense, loud and obnoxious, those who gossip and do all the social faux pas - are accepted and loved. If we try to be perfect and without mistakes we end up being stuck up and fake - and people notice that we have some kind of hidden agenda which they will interpret as evil and manipulative and controlling. Socially anxious people have only with emotional vomit - to reveal either too much or nothing at all. Socially anxious people do not have issues with other issues explained in the video: eye contact, read social cues, proximity, no filter. Only Autistic, Borderliners and narcs have those issues. It is great to know that we do not reveal to much, but as I said Ebbinghaus will make us forget this and we will default back to our learned programming and conditioning. Black swan event, drama, hysteria, lack of resources - and we will default back to our primal learned instincts. That is why instead of "stop" motivation techniques I would encourage Humanistic therapies approach - validation, self worth and acceptance. That is only thing that works with complex human mind and whatever environment we're at.

[@jacksparrowguy]

The hardest thing to deal with is being awkward around someone you have a crush on, and then coming to the realization that we're two completely different personalities. It's really difficult to handle and makes me feel like crap. But it's another learning experience and a chance to improve

[@daveblackman816]

Confidence is key. Strong eye contact and body posture matters. And your vocal tone matters too. You can make people believe whatever you’re saying, even if it isn’t accurate. Goes far in the job world. Merry Christmas to you Courtney!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Merry Christmas! ❤️

[@minabotieso6944]

Stfu dude everyone knows confidence is key. Telling a unconfident person to just be confident is the dumbest thing that you could ever say in this dating advice sphere. It’s like telling an addicted person to just not be addicted or a hungry person to just not be hungry. Being unconfident isn’t something that defines their life that they can’t change but they know they should just be confident and gaining confidence is harder than just doing it

[@MikeyP109]

While this may be true, folks with low self esteem can't just turn that on. And, I'm not sure why you'd want your date to believe something yhat isn't true.

[@kanajingly8957]

confidence? More like who the hell cares about social awkwardness anyway to begin with 😂

[@slapshotjack9806]

@@MikeyP109it’s worked for me, I’ve gotten out there and made some good friends and I’m a totally different person than I was 3 years ago

[@howtfdoihave115subs7]

I am socially awkward even with my friends. Yes. I only have like 2 people I can call friends and when we three are together, they both leave me out because they both are good at talking to each other and having fun , And when I am with one of them alone, It gets so awkward, Like literally, I just sit there having weird eye contacts, looking around the room, Fumbling hands trying to search for a topic , i am literally so awkward

[@spontaneousbootay]

Write down your goals and be righteous in your actions

[@lively2242]

I AM IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION!!LITERALLY THE SAME THING...3 FRIENDS,LEAVING ME OUT!!EVERYTHING😭I legit had to check the username to make sure it wasn't one of my comments from last Yr or sth😭😭 I don't think u understand how relieved ur comment makes me feel.I used to think I was the only person in the world with this problem.Its really good to know that u r out there❤😭I mean i also feel really bad for u but at least I'm not alone...lolz.I go to a boarding school so when I come back in a month or so I can't wait to hear if ur condition has gotten better since u commented 3 months ago....ahhhhh I'm so happy I saw this comment😭

[@inconnu4961]

Are you funny? can you be funny? can you tell jokes? this is a potential first step in overcoming this. EVERYONE loves humor & to laugh ESPECIALLY during awkward moments. Learn to add a humor break into awkward situations. Good luck!

[@StarGir1_]

I always look awkward in class in front of teachers and because of stress i always make a mistake and i hate that😭

[@LashoKinova]

Thanks Courtney, I always love your advise for introverts. Focusing on the person I'm speaking with, rather than planning my escape, sounds like a winner. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

[@andremarco2413]

As someone who has had crippling social anxiety, it's awesome to see u addressing this

[@nathancopper1472]

I think confidents is key. I was terrible with this in highschool, but now at 24 I've built up a lifestyle that I love, I have a good job and care a little less about what people think of me. As a completely different person with a lot more confidents with where I am in life and me as a person, as well as a very solid group of friends, social situations are much easier for me.

[@howardg2435]

Thanks to these videos, and other forms of life coaching, I really am seeing the difference in my social life. People notice me, and love it. One tip on breathe. if you can't brush your teeth, carry a box of breathe mints. Altoids are great. I will say that one of my biggest challenges socially was lack of stability from frequently moving, like fourteen times, across northern Minnesota. Then being abused on top of it. I am 51, so I grew up in the seventies and eighties. Frequent moving was a thing with the baby boomer generation. Not always business moves, but many time, just because they wanted to go where the grass was greener. It was very hard on my stability growing up. If I questioned a move, or said no, I got a beating for it. i just gave into resignation, because my parents, particularly my father, would do it without talking about it first anyway. Not to complain about my personal problems, because I have since confronted, and learned to address those. I just want to share an important factor leading to social awkwardness, and anxiety, which is a serious problem. Minnesota is a beautiful state, by the way. Having family is a serious responsibility, and sometimes your children do come first. If you are not prepared for having kids, then please, do not have them. The negativity from social anxiety/awkwardness really does impact other people negatively, so it becomes other peoples' business. Thanks again for your wonderful help Courtney, and Merry Christmas everyone!!

[@ryanpierce5460]

I'm spoken for and not dating. I've been a truck driver for over 12 years and while at work I spent hours alone. Just a couple months ago I moved to a new state and have a job where I interact more with people on a daily basis. I found myself being socially akward because I got so used to be alone for so many hours a day. I found this a video a good refresher on how to interact in general. I lost what I seldom used but slowly getting used to being around people again. I'm rusty at it but coming to speed. I found myself guilty of some of what u mentioned but am gradually making improvements. So interacting tips is good even if ur not dating.

[@siullkallig9757]

I'm a high functioning guy who has Asperger's and is also an ambivert, I can say with 100% certainty that like any skill, if you don't use it you lose it. Every time I've had issues socializing has been because I became isolated, whether because I chose it or circumstances, it didn't matter, the result was the same. Growing up I was a chubby nerd who no one liked. Then I moved, started getting out and exposing myself to uncomfortable situations. I did great in the latter end of my junior year, over the summer, and throughout my senior year of High School and had pretty good success with the ladies. I was good looking, I was in great shape, and I could get away with the shy awkwardness because I was confident in the areas that mattered. I knew what I wanted back then. Nowadays it's a different story. But I'm working on getting back on track. Courtney, your vids are great. Keep the content coming!

[@chadd3299]

Interesting on the first one about over sharing. I always thought it was a way I could weed out people who weren’t comfortable with some things about me. However, I can see how people knowing my entire life story within 1-2 dates would be a little overwhelming. I have a masters degree, a good job, am relatively fit as I do jiu jitsu 3-4 times a week and lift 2 times a week, and have some decent qualities. But my dad was extremely abusive to my mother and me. I was homeless when I was younger and had to be adopted. I have a little brother who was taken away by CPS 15 years ago and I haven’t seen him since and don’t know where he is. My mom has been sober 7 years now, but she’s been to rehab 17 times and we’ve had a very rocky relationship. Haven’t seen my father in 12 years and last time I saw him I put him in the hospital. I struggled with substance abuse issues for years and overdosed twice (been off hard drugs for 4 years and completely sober for 2). And you can imagine all the drama, infidelity, violence, and everything else in between that accompanied my past. So while now I am proud of who I am and how far I’ve come, I’ve always made it a point for people to know where I come from. But perhaps I’m a little too up front and honest too soon 😂

[@trueblueclue]

I definitely struggle with under sharing. I just don't know how or when or what to do. Over time I learned to just focus on the other person but I never volunteer info if they don't ask. I've attracted narcissists in the past because of it.

[@andrewmartineau5445]

I appreciate your insights on this issue. I was completely clueless about what do about social awkwardness before I watched this video. I now have a better idea on what I need to do improve myself socially. Thank you Courtney!

[@lorenebonsu146]

As a chronically socially awkward girl who exhibits most of these behaviors minus the space and no filter I really appreciate your advice (even tho ik its geared towards men.) Can you make more dating videos for women Courtney😃. Thank you so much

[@Swearengen1980]

Kinda the wrong channel, no? Even socially awkward women can get laid. The guys she's targeting can't lol.

[@lorenebonsu146]

@@Swearengen1980 I agree that thats true, but I'm not wanting to get laid lol. I want a relationship and I always have a hard time interacting with men (on my end.) I think both men and women should be looking away from hookup culture and towards building actual connection.

[@nobodysperfect06]

If a guy exhibits these behaviors then he is labeled creepy but if a woman does this she won't be labeled creepy, that's the luxury you have as a woman, it's impossible for a woman to be labeled creepy

[@lorenebonsu146]

@@nobodysperfect06That is true, guys typically label me as funny (because i'm so awkward lol) ,awkward, nice, or timid.

[@nobodysperfect06]

@@lorenebonsu146 and I assume you still have had no difficulty getting a boyfriend in your life

[@nickp3949]

The eye contact thing I’m still working on. I’ve gotten really good at maintaining it, and sometimes it can be a huge attraction booster. But I’ve also done too much eye contact, which can weird her out. I never know the right amount. I feel like if I break eye contact first, then I lose and it shows I’m submissive. But women usually take a LOMG time to break eye contact, to the point where neither one of us are looking away for like 7 seconds, and I can’ tell she’s weirded out. So I’m left with two options. Either break eye contact first and seem weak and submissive, or wait for her to break first which can take a while and makes the whole thing awkward. It feels like the only way I win is when she breaks it within a few seconds, showing her submissiveness.

[@nickp3949]

^Low key the closest I will ever get to Courtney asking me to contact her privately lmao Hey Courtney, can you do something about these bots? Much appreciated.

[@soniamo4139]

You make it sound like a contest. Just do it naturally and don't think about it so much.

[@SnekkySnake]

Never knowing how much is too much is what I live in every damn day😑

[@samuraiefi]

Hey Courtney...I've been watching your channel for a while and it's amazing how all these traits of a man have to be retaught again. It's not like every guy deep down knows these things but manifesting and expressing this inner man to the outside world is getting harder. Men these days are attacked spiritually more than ever. The easy access to pleasure is a complete death sentence to the male gender. Only about 4 Videos in of carefully taking note of your points, I realized I checked every box anyway. So I just have to train to be myself and that means you are saying "just be yourself" which is a great point.

[@raymondlin8728]

I'm socially awkward , so I always stayed with work that didn't have to deal with people. That made me feel safe and calm. But that's not the real world as i grew older. So I forced myself into occupations, activities, social situations, that force me to deal with people of all ages, race, etc, like in food services, healthcare, customer service, etc. It helped. Much less nervous around people , don't take things personally, what they think about me, people are being themselves, nice or nasty, I should be myself too, no matter what other people think.

[@Jarekthegamingdragon.]

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[@dreographic4163]

Ever since Covid, I feel I've isolated myself and recently I've been trying to put myself out more and it has been more difficult than i remember,, this is my second video ive seen from this channel and i didnt know i needed it so much. thank you

[@mikepolzin4289]

I have a disability and feel socially awkward in many situations. Let alone dating or approaching girls. And being a fellow introvert doesn’t help at all either. Using and practicing your advice should be a helpful tool! Thanks!

[@Trajectoree]

Excellent video & discussion! I personally used to be purely introverted. I watched a lot of videos like this and decided to teach myself to become more extroverted by placing myself in certain situations that would force me to come out of my shell more and improve my confidence. For example if I was invited to parties I would purposely make it a goal to introduce myself to 5 new people and get to know at least 3 things about each. I'm now considered an ambivert but I lean more towards extroversion. You can all improve if you want to! It's a long process but worth it if that's what you want :)

[@nv738]

You are still an introvert, too ;). U just learned some stuff how to get along with people.

[@IVvOOvVI]

I’m an ambivert, and leaning towards introversion.

[@leeklass3907]

Good video , I'm begining to enjoy being a story teller this is the style my employer uses for their interivews at all levels. Since I've started practicing with my mentor I've been offered a promotion at work and will start the new job early next month. Thanks for you advice you've helped a lot this year Courtney.

[@peaceseeker7441]

Thank you Courtney for the advice, I really like the tip you gave about just being present in the conversation you are having! It seems like if we can get that down then mostly everything else will fall into place!

[@jordanoboza150]

Courtney Ryan coming through for her guys before the Holidays. Another great informative video from the tips to the introduction. Thanks for posting this!

[@robertholtz769]

I can testify with a recent example of how impactful listening and being too focused on yourself in a conversation is. I go to a partner dancing social every week. I have been training for my first dance competition coming up New Year's Eve weekend. This past week, I went to this social dance hyper focused on having good technique. However, normally I like to talk to people during the event. I noticed that I wasn't talking to people and when they would try to talk to me, I couldn't remember much of what they said a moment later. Becoming self conscious of that impacted my enjoyment and likely other people's enjoyment with me that night. This is a fairly specific example, but it does illustrate how being focused on yourself too much is self-destructive. We live and learn though. Also side note, caffeine or other substances that strengthens your focus can impact this. I had twice the caffeine as I normally do that day and I am certain it contributed.

[@simonyu8838]

I'll chime in and say that regulars at a dance understand some people go into comp prep mode at times. It does get easier over time though

[@LazyComrade768]

Thank you as someone who is Asperger's this has really helped.

[@GregXHunterz]

00:57 - another point I want to add into your first one and one that could help find that balance between none and excess. Keep your communication simple. I went through this scenario and my awkward trait was emotional vomit. I thought I had to say things that are impressive to people that would make them engage with me. But if I have to do that, then they wouldn't be interested in the real me, or the me that would communicate in my own normal way which is not much, but enough to keep a conversation going. Keeping the communication simple not only helps you find that middle line, you purposefully take that nervous weight off of you and just engage in the conversation. It also acts as a filter of who wants to talk to you and who doesn't which will show in their responses to you when you do speak in a normal way. You're at your best self when you and the other person are mutually invested in the interaction. This could also apply to your storytelling point as well. 03:50 - This was my biggest struggle. And you can't expect people to be direct with you which causes confusion (or maybe expecting directness in every scenario could be a sign you may have aspergers or autism tho) but I value direct honestly. I never liked reading people's emotions. I'm at a place where I can read social cues, but I personally draw a line where if I have to read your expressions at a certain point where I feel you shouldn't have to do that, I personally wouldn't keep people like that in real life. If you're meeting a stranger for the first time? It's perfectly normal to read social cues cuz the recipient wants to be safe. But if they expect you to read signals as they're talking to you, at that point I feel you should get honest communication and not be expected to read signs. 11:13 - 100%. First impressions are everything. There are people who are willing to look past first impressions (at least from 1 second - a few minutes) to get to know more about you, yet even in this scenario, you can still fuck it up. That's why practicing first impressions is absolutely helpful. People need a window to the best parts of your personality, working on setting first impressions is the way to do that.

[@toenytv7946]

Thanks great additional points.

[@tko_5]

I'm a really outgoing person. This video really helps to remind me of some things I need to work on. Sometimes I don't read social cues because I'm an outgoing person and I just keep rambling on. So that's something I'm working in 2023 on. And I'm also working on not saying anything or mighty my own business. I don't always have to get involved at work when a co-worker mouthing off. Those are some of the things I'm working on. Hopefully that encourages someone

[@Sidewalkman1]

I used to struggle with eye contact. I was in a conversation with a lady. And i noticed that she kept stepping to the right to talk to me. It wasn't until afterwards, i realized she did that because i wouldn't directly look at her. Glad you brought that up too. For many years i had self esteem issues. Amd that was a big one for me to work on.

[@Dj_CaTz1]

Now I feel like I stare too much lol or I don’t stare enough

[@devilsadvocacy]

It is a lot harder for those of us who are neurodivergent, as our natural tendencies are to do all the things you mentioned. It is especially difficult for those who are farther along on the spectrum. Regardless, I appreciate the effort you put into this and other videos. Finally, someone who gets it!

[@Ffsghj-rt4wr]

My psychiatrist thinks i have autism slightly but ive always been normal until i hit age 12 and i started getting really awkward and aware and at age 14 it completely went away and i made friends with like 50 people at school and then last year i started becoming really aware again so i had 2 close friends that whole year and was quiet in all my classes. Now im about to be 16 and idk why it keeps fluctuating

[@Ffsghj-rt4wr]

Also i will admit when i was 14 i tried shrooms and it had a wierd effect where it got me out of my shell like an afterglow or something so that couldve been it but i also feel that doing drugs like that cant be a healthy cycle so i stopped

[@NYKensington]

Thanks, Courtney. Every little bit helps. Merry Christmas!

[@GymmyJosh]

A great deal of this pertains to those of us who are on the autism spectrum. Many people might not know this. I didn’t until I was 37. Not being able to “read the room” is indicative of this. We tend to have trouble with things like understanding nonverbal cues or violating personal space. I still don’t get this. We’re supposed to get to know people and be vulnerable but a lot of these methods are grey areas and difficult for us. I imagine you get this Courtney but some of us don’t. Understanding this is a big step towards mitigating the difficulties it presents.

[@nakii7624]

Hey courtney I would just like to thank you for this video, it really did hit close to home, I will reflect on myself and do as you say- to accept that im just human

[@danielrsson2171]

2:20 - 2:36 Wow this is definitely me! Thank You Courtney for addressing this, this might be the reason why so many people are not sharing stories etc with me, because I am not always very good at doing it myself! Wow, I've been kicking myself over this! Thank You Courtney!

[@cooljosi]

its so hard to make eye contact but at least I'll try

[@Andre_Ons_Marshall]

At 53 I don't understand why I have to follow all these rules. If people don't like my weirdness or awkwardness then too bad. Yes, I have no friends and have trouble with eye contact, and loud noises and have no real idea of how to socialise. But I have learnt to mask for employment and it is tiring but it's got me through. Just be you, don’t change for anyone or what society thinks is normal.

[@Introvertedalpha]

There's a lot of great advice and things to be aware of in this video. Thanks, Courtney!

[@jsalga]

I've found out something about myself I'm not socially awkward just an introvert, thanks for my diagnosis...

[@MikeyP109]

Thanks for making the distinction.

[@jeskoumm]

This one speaks volumes much closer to home....On the house next door lives a group of seemingly single career womem....They're part of a blue collar construction company of large operation and unsurprisingly maintain zero sense of audio sensibility where with deafness comes the magnetic quality of noise common to any construction zone....From my side of the residential fence, the worst occurrence is when I'm enjoying Starbucks coffee, typically while reading, and suddenly a sweaty shift kicks-in where an industrial sized cement truck goes into high gear and finds trouble filling in by bricks a hole dug up by even less skilled workers....The company driven by the womem is called Dhumphie-Barclarki & Associates and I would not recommend them for any blue print, service, or for a socially awkward coffee drink for that matter.

[@timavers]

Thanks for the post-pandemic personal space reset! Hope you’re having a great holiday season.

[@davidaguayo9571]

As someone whom suffers a pretty significant hearing loss and wear hearing aids I may come across as socially awkward in groups but it’s more so that I am trying to understand the conversations of the people among the group. Something that one of my mentors told me is to put it out there by sharing I have a hearing loss and it may make people feel at ease or be more aware. This is something I’m working on. Typically I do better one-on-one interaction but I’m definitely making an effort to break the social awkwardness in group settings.

[@marclefleur6158]

Recently I saw on my TV show all the time where they were dating people who are having a hard time finding a partner because they have a handicap. There was a young, very likeable African man who lived in the UK. He also had hearing aids and was ashamed of them. Nothing to be ashamed of. He was incredibly nice and funny. In fact, he seemed to have no problem. He was great. I personally don't like to look people in the eye. I'm working on it too, it's difficult. I can't tell when it's too much and when it's not enough. Then I don't look at all :) Either way, I wish you feel better in whatever conversation you have.

[@elijahperry3454]

Reading the room takes time but you can learn it. The other day I was shopping and met a cool girl working in the store. Was gonna ask her out but wanted to see if she was just being work nice or actually interested. Mind you, my approach was definitely a bit awkward (went back like 3 times lol so I probably missed my moment oh well) but when I went up to pay she was kinda pushing me along so I realized this wasn’t my moment

[@MissD-xk1xb]

I loved the points about story telling, and how to stay on track. Great video!💕

[@initiatorhater0688]

yup, if a guy is socially awkward like this, he is labeled weird or creepy, but if a woman is socially awkward like this, nobody will care, makes me mad and pisses me off that reality has to be that way, reason why, is because women don't have to go on a painful journey of getting this handled, but men do and that means making a lot of dumb social mistakes that will result in getting weird or negative reactions from others

[@MikeyP109]

Being socially awkward affects your life outside of dating. Figure out what made you that way and take the steps to fix it. Since you're mad and passed off, therapy might be a good idea.

[@initiatorhater0688]

@@MikeyP109 ya but if a guy takes steps to fix it, he will get rude and negative, awkward reactions from others, accidentally bother and offend people while attempting to be social with them, be labeled creepy, women will never experience that

[@initiatorhater0688]

@@MikeyP109 ya it looks like men are the only gender that need to or have to become a better person in order to have a dating life, not women

[@viragmasekar3360]

I feel that the points you have brought up do relate to me. Thank you for making this video. Love you. Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas.

[@CourtneyRyan]

It’s my pleasure. Happy holidays to you as well! ❤️

[@viragmasekar3360]

@@CourtneyRyan Thank you.

[@ethanmiller5487]

I've had a few woman start a conversation with me (they had to go out of their way to do so) and as soon as I ask them simple questions about themselves, they instantly have almost nothing to say. Example, I ask what do you do for fun (easily answered early question that naturally leads into things they like which are great topics to talk more about) and I get these one word answers about complex topics that lead no where. Im asking them to talk about themselves, and they let the conversation die and I feel like they are creepy or simple or just messing with me, idk what to think. Why would they be going out of their way to start a conversation and then let it die so quickly?

[@LiberdadeFrontal]

Another fantastic video, as Courtney get us used to! I am already married with a 5 year child and this is useful to get some clues for my life!

[@markgordon6753]

Courtney just catalyzed a freakin' maternal feeling for me. Holy crap. Genius. Stop!

[@aliuddin3432]

Thank youuu Courtney. Have good festive break!

[@coquette_princess]

You are so angelic and sweet and your voice is so beautiful and so are you! Thank you for this, I am pretty introverted and awkward and this helped ALOT! I love your videos alot 💗💗💗💗

[@TheREALHugo4]

For me being socially awkward sometimes especially when it comes to girls, i can't really thank you enough for this video.

[@CourtneyRyan]

It’s totally normal to feel that way! Hope this helps ❤️

[@keithkramer1157]

12:36 as someone who is autistic, I’m so glad you made this video. You were very much on point and clear in what you said. I’m going to take this suggestions and continue to work on myself. Thanks Courtney!

[@CourtneyRyan]

It’s my pleasure and I’m so glad you’re here! 🥰

[@gioelerossini9469]

I love weird people, please be weird and don't think is weird! Be yourself and feel comfortable with it! People that follow rules are boring and have a layer of fakeness that disconnect them not only from others but also from themselves...be weird! And don't care! Stop think and go with the flow! And if someone doesn't like you it's fine, you don't want 100% people like you for who you are not...what you want is the 1% that will love you for who you really are!

[@marclefleur6158]

Where can I sign this? :)

[@manuelybarra7970]

You got me at following rules is for boring people. Come on! Lets go break some laws and have a war with the feds!

[@marclefleur6158]

@@manuelybarra7970 I don't know if going to war with the feds is the best way to show you're different. Wouldn't changing your hair color or going to a clothing store be enough to start? :)

[@manuelybarra7970]

@@marclefleur6158 we'll just start by distributing Columbian sugar then.

[@marclefleur6158]

@@manuelybarra7970 :D :D You mean sugar or sugar sugar? :D Good luck out there :)

[@PizzaBurnsRed627]

Glad you mentioned not hyperfixating on what you’re going to say next. Was at a show recently and in between bands’ sets had a girl who I saw from across the room several times approach me and clearly show signs of interest but the hyperfixating kicked in hard and couldn’t find a way to get a conversation started at all and afterwards realized I could’ve literally said anything and it would’ve been better than nothing.

[@cpclowner6919]

This is great advice for someone with a lone wolf personality. I speak from experience number 5 I was very guilty of this. My best advice is if you don’t like your audience it’s best to sit back Merry Christmas everyone

[@mfanning186]

Always seem to learn something from these videos, so thank you.

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

I would like to add, the right people will still appreciate the visible effort you're putting in even if you're totally bungling this. Don't put pressure on yourself to do this perfectly because those who matter won't mind.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Absolutely!

[@newson7248]

Story telling is a good thing. When i started doing community radio, presenters had to come up with their won content. I started making a list of 'unsual' things i might see or do and i'd then talk about them on my show. That's then lead me to starting a podcast and also doing a few comedy gigs!

[@KevvoLightswift]

I appreciate all you do with your videos, Courtney. And your willingness to help men out. I did have a couple questions I haven't seen anyone else directly address: 1. I'm 33, and started losing my hair when I turned 30. I've been struggling in vain to keep my hair, doing all sorts of hair treatments, but to no avail. This saddens me, as I always found my hair to be my best physical quality. But my lack of confidence shows through when I interact with women because of it. What if I'm partly being judged because of that? 2. To what extent do physical disabilities play a role in repelling women? I have a physical disability that affects the way I walk (not as bad as others with it, but still noticeable), and I wonder how many women are repelled by that. Can your tips help people who aren't physically perfect be attractive to other women as well, or do they mostly apply to "normal" people? I reveal this information and ask these questions not for sympathy, but because I'm genuinely curious. Thanks again for all your hard work!

[@brocklanders3616]

Courtney won't answer this, because the brutal truth is punishing to hear. Yes, women will unconsciously see you as weak because of your walk/how you carry yourself. My suggestion, dedicate yourself to the weight room and look into steroids or at the very least. Find a doctor who will supply you TRT. Shave your head bro, and become hypermasculine. You need to take on a new identity. Without hair, it's nearly impossible to be a pretty boy and or handsome guy. Surprisingly, a decent amount of women will choose the hyper masculine "The Rock" over "Zac Efron".

[@marclefleur6158]

You have nothing to be ashamed of. I know a few guys who don't have much or any hair and they're totally fine with it. They're not Nazis or skinheads, by the way :) Most of them, they deal with it simply: They play with their beards. And in general, they take care of themselves and their physical and mental hygiene. Yes, they have their doubts, but let's be honest with ourselves. Three things are most important with men: How they have it all sorted out in their heads, how they have it in their hearts, and how they are financially (whether they can manage, how they look to the future, how they invest in themselves and their various projects/family/assets). Hair is honestly, if they take good care of themselves, the last thing women care about, even more so if you're the right guy. Sure, there are women who just want to whip a guy's hair, but most are content with muscle. And most guys have bigger ones than women :) You don't have to become a walking testosterone as your colleague advises. Just be a good guy. As for your walk, I don't know how you have it, but I believe that when it comes to true love, it moves mountains. Good luck and good health to you in the new year.

[@PRdude]

I wish more people would understand that they don't have to share every mundane thought in their mind. Happy Holidays by the way.

[@robertbrandywine]

It's really hard when you have great difficulty reading people. It's why I've never asked a girl out; I can't tell if they are interested in me.

[@Moodyprincess__]

Thank you for this. I really wonder if I’ll ever grow out of this. It feels really lonely with these weak points.

[@Honeywheremysupersuit]

Merry Christmas Courtney. Thanks for being the best sister ever

[@CourtneyRyan]

❤️❤️

[@Ashkarelessar]

You are one of the most genuine people I have seen on KZbin. You’re a rare gem .

[@kunumercy1798]

Do you also have less confidence

[@fuzzmosisr8601]

Hey Courtney, I really appreciate your wisdom! I hope ya had a good Christmas! God bless.

[@nickbrown9664]

DISCLAIMER: pretty sure this will be classed as oversharing but it's in the comments of a KZbin video so who cares right? I'm in the middle of being diagnosed with either high functioning autism or an undisclosed personality disorder (haven't been for the assessments yet lols) and my social skills and self confidence fluctuate massively every few weeks/months. Around the summer everything was improving massively and I could talk to people happily and enthusiastically about anything, even girls which for some reason I find Intimidating now (Ikr go me). Now that it's winter it's all plummeted and I've been experiencing much higher levels of distress and panic which causes both mental and physical pain. I'd like to get back to where my confidence was at a few months ago and actually start talking to girls again especially. I experienced a traumatic period of life when I was 10 for around 8 years, I'm 21 now and have worked on absolutely everything from back then for the last 2 years with a professional and I feel great about it. Unfortunately the damage had already been done and I need to go further with it as explained above. I am grateful that people on this platform have the care to share their own previous struggles in life, surprisingly it makes you feel a bit better. I'm not expecting any advice on this 1000 word essay here but if anyone has any kind of suggestion to try help my situation in the wait before I have a definitive diagnoses, that would be much appreciated :)

[@Brian6587]

I have Asperger’s my friend so I understand what you’re going through. I made a comment about this on here but don’t worry about trying to be perfect. We are truly unique when it comes to who God made us to be. Keep trying to improve but don’t worry about trying to be perfect with these things.

[@scott1294]

Thank You for helping bring behavioral and appearance awareness so as many of us can become better individuals which in turn makes for a more fulfilling and happier life.

[@andrewstadnick4863]

I have no idea if I’m socially awkward or just super introverted. I’m definitely introverted, but every conversation except for certain people I’m always in my head and just uncomfortable and wanting to get out of the conversation. Anybody relate?

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[@kylajohnson8864]

Yep!! 🙋🏽‍♀️

[@captaindan3129]

Definitely me!!

[@agent475816]

After watching a lot of these videos, I realize you will never learn by watching them. You gotta put yourself out of your comfort zone and interact and go to social settings to learn.

[@captainbeastazoid7084]

You're doing a wonderful job, Courtney. Just discovered your channel. Yes, beautiful and intelligent. But, above all, caring and sensitive. Just alot of decency undergirding your approach that is a very welcome contrast to alot of the shallow and heartless content that's out there with regards to these kinds of discussion. Really helpful stuff. I feel like I found this at just the right time.

[@adrianazollo2688]

Feminine energy coaches are scam artists preying on desperados

[@davidgriffin1967]

Thank you Courtney for being a caring ally to men who are trying to be better men I work with women who help me the way you do. Many of my close friends are introverted women I have ASD and have struggled with all the behaviors you describe I tell anyone on the front end I have ASD and I’m trying to be appropriate That goes a long way with most people

[@derrickmccann8254]

Thank you Courtney Ryan For Posting this video about Stop being Social

[@CourtneyRyan]

❤️

[@Swearengen1980]

A couple caveats: Don't filter yourself to the point of changing you who are. If you're filtering your sarcasm or what some people would consider inappropriate humor, you're just giving them the wrong impression of your personality. I prefer to weed out people who are overly sensitive and my bluntness, moreso at my age than the 20s kids, is seen as a good thing by the women I date. The other is about divulging information; there are exceptions. An example is, when I was single and if I met her online, I said prior to meeting point blank that I'm a sober alcoholic. There's no point in hiding it because most women won't to meet for drinks (it's rare to find a woman in her late 30s/early 40s who doesn't list wine, tequila, or whiskey as a hobby and necessity to unwind every night). And the reality is, those who are accepting of such a history will accept it regardless if they find out up front or at the date and vice versa. It has served me very well by being very upfront about that. Now if you have an STD or can't wait to be pegged, then yeah you want to draw her in for a while before revealing that information 😂 . Point is, as usual, there are always exceptions to her lists. Life isn't black and white.

[@SharonBoo0305]

Not everyone has to accept your humor tho. Sarcasm is usually hostility masked as humor anyway, and the lowest form of wit. It's not as clever, unique or innovative as a lot sarcastic people think it is. Sarcasm (i.e. subtle jabs and putdowns) are best left for people you're very familiar with, not women you're just getting to know.

[@brocklanders3616]

I'm with you on this one. Young men these days play it too safe, and will take no risk for fear of offending the chick. I rather roll the dice, and be controversial. Will you turn off some Women? Definitely. Though, those women probably wouldn't of been a good fit for me anyway. The only way to stand out in a brutal dating market, is to be different. Being unfiltered, will make you standout among other men.

[@MikeyP109]

If you happen to find someone equally as sarcastic, good luck, you're gonna need it.

[@Swearengen1980]

@@brocklanders3616 Bingo. If you offend them, you're just weeding them out faster. I'm very transparent and blunt in my dating profile and it served me well. Some women hate it, but some love it and find it refreshing that I'm completely honest and not trying to impress them with half truths or deception. I am who I am, accept it or not, I don't give a damn. As a result, I attract the type of women who have similar values as I do: Traditional values where a man is a real man, who's going to plan the date, not ask them where they want to go. The man who will make the first move, be a protector, etc.

[@Swearengen1980]

@@SharonBoo0305 No, not everyone has to accept your humor. That's the point. If they don't accept your humor, why do you want to be with them? I'm sure as shit not going to change who I am to pander to someone who wouldn't like the real me. It's intentionally deceiving someone. You're also simply wrong. Sarcasm doesn't have to be demeaning or negative, but can be very playful and teasing if you know how to apply it. It's only as mean or playful as the person speaking it. If you want to say you're an overly sensitive who needs their feelings coddled, just say it.

[@niltonussete8407]

Hi, Courtney. I'm from Mozambique, a small country in Africa. I've been watching your videos for a while now, and it helped me a lot. English is not my first language, but I can understand you perfectly well. The only problem that I've, is that I don't have someone to talk with, so, I starting to lose my speaking skills. Anyway, a great video.

[@CourtneyRyan]

So neat! Thank you for sharing this with me! ❤️ it’s definitely much easier to learn when you have someone to talk to and practice

[@niltonussete8407]

@@CourtneyRyan Yeah. I'll keep practicing. Thank you for your support.

[@colinforsyth7828]

Thank you miss Ryan, I have to say that you are very confident and present your channel very well, you really do give great very useful advice and it is much appreciated. I am extremely shy and very socially awkward. But your content has been a godsend, thank you so much. The best, Colin from South Africa. ☺😎❤👍

[@coolbreeze5683]

The story telling part is excellent advice. Think of interesting things you've observed or have done. There's a story in everyday things. Also be open to questions during your stories. Don't see it as a burden. It shows people are interested in what you're saying.

[@hugohope6567]

My problem is to feel so much anxiety when I’m having a conversation with someone. I don’t know what to say and it ends up looking like I’m having an interview. And I do over share sometimes lol as I don’t want to make them feel like I don’t have what to say 😅 I’m really struggling

[@kylecollins3755]

Appreciate the advice as always. Gonna take a lot for this awkwardness to disappear.

[@leonlulz]

I used to have the misconception that my eye contact in any form and amount would be somehow invasive or violating the personal space of others. No doubt it was connected to low self-esteem. Since I practiced this pattern a lot, it became a bad habit and nowadays I have to put in some conscious effort to even maintain proper eye contact. Sometimes that takes away my focus on the conversation itself which is in turn annoying.

[@joshforde698]

I'm definitely on the socially awkward side, struggle to self-disclose for self-esteem reasons. Had a meeting with a new friend recently where she asked me "do you like spending time with others", this wasn't a comment that I was being rude to her, just a comment on the introverted vibe I give off.

[@newgvan555]

Great tips! Trying to use all since I just learned I have adhd healing my ptsd?😱🙈🙏

[@ivysummer9938]

I became socially awkward due to bullying in elementary school, then being placed in homeschooling with 2 working parents and siblings a lot younger as well as being raised to be perfect for almost all my education and that had a horrible effect on my interactions with my peers making me seem fake to myself whenever I spoke to someone and then regretting it right after as if I failed a performance

[@MuscleBandit]

Thanks Courtney, Merry Christmas :)

[@martylengersdorf5044]

I just had a voice call she suggested I do. She asked me questions like how many times have you been married? What went wrong? A question is this acceptable? I said ahhh what! I've moved on . Then she asked me if my wife hamstrung me and are things paid off...I had problems then but I don't have those problems now..we went silent after that...what should I say? Gladly she said no and she wished me well . Thank you very much for that

[@bronsonbamnallen1633]

this was very helpful Courtney, thank you

[@jay-t1030]

Great video like always Courtney, you have no idea how much your content helps me on my journey to become at better man.

[@toenytv7946]

Very sensitively done. Great messages come from good people. Thank you and merry Christmas.