Culture Shock [The 4 Stages of Adaptation]

[@wasanthamorawaka1602]

I think the video is 100% correct. I was living in five countries 3 in the West and two in the East. Am old now and still living abroad occasionally. I saw some foreigners who leave their countries of origin to live in a foreign country go back because they could not integrated into the new culture for many reasons. Some were not accepted to the societies based on racism, different mode of work ethics or descrimination.Most people adapt because some have no other choice rather than going away from their native countries. I took everything easy, worked hard as I can, did not let emotions cover the realities. Living in a foreign country is not easy and if you are a tourist then you see a completely different picture than when you start living in a foreign country . Thanks for the excellent video.

[@sprouts]

Keep going, keep learning 💪 ;)

[@sittingstill3578]

Have you visited other countries with people who haven’t lived abroad? They only seem interested in the tourist sites and souvenirs. It’s very disappointing. When I go to a place, I just want to see how normal people live and go to typical places. I’m not interested in tours or constantly being shut out normal foods. I went on a trip with folks from a country I was working in and never once ate any local food. It was so sad and depressing. They literally ordered food from restaurants of their own culture for every meal.

[@sem8389]

So with traveling you basically are always in the honey moon phase

[@87solarsky]

That really depends on how differentiated your perception of the place you're traveling is. And once you're dealing with locals and get an idea of what everyday life is like there, any "notions" you're entertaining might soon be corrected...

[@sterlingarcher1962]

For the most part, yes. Though there are certainly other factors like @87solarsky pointed out. I've been to sixty something countries and I've had a variety of experiences in this regard. Depending on your expectations for living, what may or may not bother you and whatnot, some places you're just never going to adjust to. Example; I left the US a number of years ago for good and after being in Colombia for a couple of years I've been here in the Philippines since 2019 and I hate it. I think the people are awful, the culture is sickening and I'm tired of every person I speak to trying to scam me because I'm foreign. On the other hand, my Swiss friend who moved here from living in Egypt for 8 years thinks it's quite nice here and the people don't bother him. So is it that he's more adaptable or more laid back or is it that Egypt is 100 times worse than here (and it is)? My suggestion is to purchase less crap, you don't need a new phone or whatever. Go travel and find out what the world looks like. You'll find a lot of lies you've been told and you'll see many ways of life, plants and animals, meet wildly fantastic people and get to know yourself even better. Stay away from tourist spots, use local transportation and talk to locals. ENJOY!

[@sprouts]

Excellent point. The baseline matters !

[@mikethespike7579]

I fully agree. I've travelled far and wide in the world in my day, Never stayed longer than a few weeks, just long enough to enjoy the culture without getting frustrated.

[@rphb5870]

yea that is the whole point of being a tourist. For me, one of the funniest things in the "Tucker goes to Moscow" videos was how amazed he was over seeing shopping cards that he had to deposit money into. Because seriously how can he not have known that.

[@drrtfm]

I think that concept likely applies to many other things, such as starting a new job or even just moving to a different phase in our life (e.g., going to college).

[@rphb5870]

85% of people should not go to college as they are not smart enough for it and there aren't sufficient jobs afterwards. the result are that they educate themselves to unemployment and cripple themselves with an inescapable lifelong debt

[@georockstar09]

lived in Romania for 12 years. My brother and I adapted easily, my parents, not. They kept complaining that nobody visited them, until I spelled it out that YOU were supposed to go OUT into town every evening or so and meet up with friends who also went there. They never did, they were always alone and frustrated - meanwhile I was meeting up with friends telling me they missed my parents!

[@Electrostatic_Fusion]

Where are you from? Can you speak romanian? If so, how'd you learn?

[@georockstar09]

@@Electrostatic_Fusion I'm an American who grew up there. Yeah, I can speak it.

[@Electrostatic_Fusion]

@@georockstar09 that's so cool! I can speak English, French and Norwegian (I'm learning)

[@vanillagorilla8696]

I'm in the US and I'm poor...had no idea I was actually Romanian.

[@georockstar09]

@@vanillagorilla8696 not sure what you mean... romanians do pretty well for themselves.

[@AFlemPen]

Its important to talk about reverse culture shock like in the video because its causes new problems that a person would never expect

[@AFlemPen]

Heck this could be applied to start a new job or a similar situation

[@edwardradwanski197]

I agree that reverse culture can be the bigger problem. When I went to live in Africa for two years, I expected things to be different, but when I returned home I found my perceptions and values had changed, and I had trouble adjusting. It took awhile for me to realize I wasn't the same person and that I needed to adjust to the culture of home.

[@jonimenges3896]

After living in Poland and writing my thesis in Auschwitz returning to a sweet student life in a southern German student city actually send me into depression. It was not Auschwitz but the reality back home and the beautiful life that I couldn't adapt back to. Happened to a close friend as well who worked as a lawyer for refugees in Greece.

[@danilo4631]

siamo più fragili di quel che si direbbe

[@cupidok2768]

Please let me live in Paris. And then reverse culture shock

[@bboyneon92]

I can tell this also applies to a city which is rapidly changing(or what we call developing). It's crazy having to undergo all this in a place you call home.

[@Kkubey]

If you move or travel, you can always go back home. But if it's your home changing, there is no place to recharge at.

[@warsawpacked418]

Can confirm. I didn't move to a foreign country, but a foreign country moved to me.

[@karenrodgers56]

This is such an important topic. I spent a year in Mexico in the 1980s (before the internet of course) and felt I had travelled to the other side of the moon or into another space/ time dimension..For two months I had a deep sense of unreality. If i had realised how hard it was going to be I would probably not have had the courage to go. However, I am so glad I did. The trip was utterly life changing in a good way. It gave me the vocabulary and confidence to articulate a whole range of aspirations I would otherwise have been incapable of even framing. I woud not have lased the year without my wonderful hosts Nena and Dante or without my friend Conchita and her wonderful family. When I came back to the Uk I had a kind of reverse culture shock which was not nearly as challenging as the first one and which has never quite gone away. I now see how isolated Southern British people tend to be and how much happier we would all be if we lived espisodic rather than clock time, finishing conversation rather than dashing off and if we prioritised friends and family over material wealth. warmest regards, Karen (in Celaya, Guanajuato 1986-1987)

[@sprouts]

Wow!

[@wittykittywoes]

wow!! thank you for sharing :)

[@homer2281]

also depends on wether u have financial problems or u cant get a comfortable place or job

[@sprouts]

True

[@selen457]

Just changing your city in your own country for university education may also have the same effect :D

[@espinoname2988]

I lived in the uk for 4 years, i went with super high expectations, but my honeymoon was crushed within the first semester of university. I never got out of my frustration phase until I left. I never made any British friends, despite being surrounded by them in my university lectures. Then i I moved to Switzerland, much more unsure if it was a good idea after suffering so much in the UK. I loved it with a passion for a year and a half and didn't ever really experience a huge culture shock. Within a few months I was dating a lovely Swiss guy which is still my partner, and I also made several Swiss friends. My English was perfect before i moved to the UK, and my German was okay, but not nearly as good as my English, and it still isn't. I did have a period where I got frustrated, but in particular at my university and how it runs and not so much at the country. Of course there are things in Switzerland that mildly annoy me or I wish were more like in my native Spain, but I am now more attune with many Swiss behaviours than Spanish ones. I get extremely frustrated when I go to Spain and see everything half broken and dirty, people making public spaces dirty with purpose and all the shouting and noise everywhere. I am also more flexible with time that the typical Swiss, but it is extremely annoying to me when someone comes like 30 mins late or you ask them specifically to please be on time because of a specific reason and they don't manage and mess uo the whole plan. In particular in more formal situations like doctor appointments or work meetings, that someone is late boils my blood. I'm very happy in Switzerland after 3 years living here, so I think how you adapt also depends on your expectations and how suitable the receiving country is for your personality and culture and also how lucky you are. Perhaps also where in your life you are, since it's not the same to move from a happy situation into a bad one than from a bad one into the unknown, which will probably be better. And it's also not the same to adapt to a new country for the first time than the second time, since somd stuff you already learned, I was also 18 in my first move out and 22 in the second, so I suppose a bit more age and maturity also helps.

[@gamingforfun8662]

Switzerland being more beautiful, clean and egalitarian than the uk probably helped along with being close with the locals

[@espinoname2988]

I did always feel like a foreigner in the UK despite speaking perfect English. I think the British didn't do it with purpose but they made me feel always as the outsider. Swiss are very different in that aspect, I never felt left out or discriminated, and people often help me with my German or even switch to English if they realise I struggle, whilst British sometimes laughed at me when I couldn't understand some slang terms. The weather and the beauty of the country also helps massively, that's true. Being Spanish, from the Mediterranean coast, it was very hard for me to handle the lack of light in the north of England. In Switzerland this is much better except in the winter months: spring, autumn and summer are lovely here, I even prefer it to Spain, where it's too hot for my taste. And I appreciate some rainy days to help keep the air clean and my garden fresh. 😊

[@carolesmall-diop2333]

I think maturity does make a difference. And multiple changes. I spent an exchange year in university in France, when I was 18-19, and it was the first time I had lived away from my parents. It was very exciting in some ways -- the independence, the freedom. But I was in a small, Catholic university, the French students all knew each other and were unfriendly, so I only made friends with other foreign students, immigrant residents and other people who were basically marginalized by local society. I was disappointed and frustrated, especially as a Canadian with a majority of French blood. I was also mocked for not knowing some slang and for my Canadian accent, which they didn't even recognize. People often thought I was Portuguese. Which I thought was cool, except I could tell that in the 1980, being Portuguese was not considered cool in provincial France. I had a similar experience when I moved to a distant region of Canada for my masters degree. But I stayed longer and integrated better, although I also found the local people quite insular. I did have a relationship with a lovely local man though, nearly married him and have good memories of him and his family. But I ended up marrying someone from West Africa and moving here. The culture shock was difficult. It was much easier within my husband's family and circle of friends. And due to colonisation, some aspects of the culture of his circle and the material ways his country works (like in banks, the post office and so on) are similar to France. But the culture shock was massive, of course. It took me about two years to become operational in the language (partly because my husband and his family speak French all the time, and it is also the language of work and school, but not the language the majority speaks at home) and I can't quite pinpoint when I adapted, but, yes, thirty years later I have adapted and feel reverse culture shock to some extent when I return to Canada. It's all right on holidays, but when we did a two-year stint with our children twenty years ago, it was a bit difficult and my eldest absolutely hated it, although the little one loved it. He lives there now!

[@hersirirminsul]

After growing up in urban London, I lived 8 years in Norway, in the country side, and adapted almost from day 1. The reason for this was very simple. I was determined to fit in and make it my new permanent home. About 6 months in I had a couple of weeks where my brain was switching gear from, think-in-English-translate-to-Norwegian-then-speak-Norwegian / listen-to-Norwegian-translate-to-English-thoughts, to, think-and-listen-in-Norwegian, where I could hardly communicate at all! I went back to London for a break and apart from the mental re-boot it gave me, hated it and couldn't wait to get back. My conclusion - will-power and optimism has a lot to do with how 'your experience may differ'.

[@angeronal]

These different stages can cycle over and over again. I've lived in three different countries aside from my native country, and I have 14 years in Mexico. I still find some vacillation. You're never done learning.

[@1JackTorS]

Right now, the French natives are experiencing severe culture shock without ever having to leave their own country. It's a perpetual stage 2.

[@malegria9641]

😐 mec the immigrants are better than the older French people

[@MONARCH_FLIES]

This is so true!! I’m American peruvian but I’ve lived in the states for most of my life. It took me around 2 years after I moved to Peru to feel fully comfortable. I miss the states sometimes, but when I go back and visit I end up missing Peru! Now I have two homes and I am happy :)

[@sprouts]

What a beautiful thing you said! Two homes:)

[@Zenas521]

Thirty years ago, I was forced to move to the eastern side of the state. I was 17, almost 18, and sense I was a miner, had to go because mom got a job. I graduated high school with strangers. I never really fit in. I am still out here because I can't afford to move back home. I live like an exile, both from home and the local community. I don't have any opportunities for good paying jobs. I can't pursue hobby interests. I try to make the best of it, but I am kept out. Sense I don't have any friends to visit, I just sit in my apartment feeling my life fading away.

[@elsie4802]

I think you should focus on trying to change your situation, no matter how small a change.

[@chibha96]

I find culture shock can be reduced by having a realistic picture rather than a rosy picture. To have a realistic picture one must learn the language & culture as a right of passage which can be effective rather than relying on natives for assistance.

[@OmarJames]

This is a great video. Myself and another student from my town went on an exchange year to Japan in the early 2000s. I made it out of stage 2 and had a great year, he didn't and came home early. It's a shame because I made some lifelong friends I consider family and I go back often while he has never set foot in Japan again. Gotta be prepared for the rough times

[@MultiTipsie]

Hi there, I am from The Netherlands and have been on tours with the army (2 x 6 months) to Bosnia and had a girlfriend in Slovenia for a while where I stayed a few months and then she with me. I enjoyed the differences (as far you can call it "enjoyment" in a warzone! I had regular interactions with the local population and the stay on the camp was also not bad. Either the adaptation went very fast or It never left the first stadium. Second, I have moved and lived in different regions in The Netherlands a couple of times too. And maybe counter-intuitive, the changes in between the regions in The Netherlands (very small country and the regions are not far apart) needed way more adaptation then the foreign countries! Maybe it is the expectations (I am almost certain says my gut feeling), but the emotional processes were more severe moving within the country then being abroad! I haven't given it too much thought up until now. I am going to ruminate over it the next couple of weeks probably. An interesting subject. I also went on holidays to very much the most of Europe, but I didn't notice any real change. Never really had to adapt, except for learning the language for a bit. I did (and still do) always go there in sub-touristic areas or at least in a touristic area, but then where the locals go and reside! That way, it is a completely different experience then being lived by the touristic industry and actually haven't have a true abroad experience at all IMHO.

[@SatchPatch25]

I'm a Floridan born and raised Puerto Rican and moved to Puerto Rico 3 months before Hurricane Maria. I think in my particular case I was forced into adaptation before frustration set in. I'm not saying there weren't times where I felt hopeless because there definitely were but I couldn't let it get to me. We had to survive and follow daily routines in order to do so. We had no electricity for 5-6 months. I had my 2 year old daughter and 9 year old sister I had to care for and moving back was not an option. After we got our electricity and a few months passed is when I think frustration set in for me. Now that things were supposed to be "normal" I expected everything to go a certain way and it didn't. It led to a lot of depression. Especially with everything that we had already went through. I got through it though and I'm still here!

[@TheGrinningViking]

Paris does always smell of pee. You'd think they would put enough cash into such a concentrated tourist location to take care of that (Either with the humane option involving housing/jobs or the other one where you round up the homeless and bus them far away every night. Either way all pubs need to have a public bathroom.) But as in many cases they take the stupid option where everything smells of piss forever.

[@laurentrobitaille2204]

This is true for many tourist hotspots, New York being another prime example.

[@MCArt25]

It's almost as if being visited by millions of people who stay a few weeks and then leave could be an actual problem to public sanitation.

[@aryank3014]

Had a similar experience in Russia which was explained in the video. But not all of the people surrounding me felt similarly during stage 2 and 3.

[@CleoPhoenixRT]

I moved from Birmingham, Alabama, a massive city with a large black population to Rural Alaska (for my husband) and wondered if there was a name to describe how i felt. I noticed when I'm out in the forests alone, I felt in my element, but when I'm around other people I feel...almost angry. Out of place. Anxious. Head on a swivel. I went through 3 counselors because they couldn't pinpoint the issue but this is it! I can form a plan now, thank you.

[@davidletasi3322]

I lived in Japan for two years. Enjoyed every day I was there. The people were friendly, the sights and towns were amazing. I had my own house I rented, and neighbors were interesting and diverse. One stage for me, I just had a fantastic experience. However, I did have a network of American friends as a support group there, so that does make a difference.

[@RobertPrzytula]

This actually applies to so much! People starting a bussines being optimistic, then learning the intricacies of that type of bussines and then leave to start another one. Or people jumping from job to job or people jumping from relationship to relationship. It’s all the same pattern, reliving the highs. Chasing highs over and over again. That’s one of the major reasons people can’t stick with things lol

[@mahxylim7983]

Basically the plot of InsideOut, Riley's parent didn't notice her culture shock

[@myinquisitiveself]

I moved to Scotland in 2019, and I have just entered Stage 2: Frustration five years later. They rain didn't bother me, some days it was cozy to snuggle up with a book and a cuppa... I come from a culture that's more reserved, we are not as chatty and laid back as the Scottish, so I struggle to integrate and make friends or form relationships, especially after a recent incident where I had to move to another town. I'm trying to find ways to stay authentic but also fit into the local culture. At the end of the day, I do feel like a guest and ought not to expect people to conform to my way of living.

[@elsie4802]

oof this is interesting for me as someone who’s thinking of moving to scotland. i come from a nordic country, also quite reserved so i’m a bit worried how the integration part would go..

[@myinquisitiveself]

@@elsie4802 How is it going, 5 months later? 😊

[@elsie4802]

@@myinquisitiveself haha i’m working on it!! i am thinking about starting studies there in august next year, so that would be really exciting if it works out. how are you doing? have you settled in into the new town?

[@myinquisitiveself]

@@elsie4802 Sounds like you're up for a new, promising chapter in your life with the studies and traveling ☺I wish you find something that aligns with your goals and values! And yes, I feel more settled now, thank you for asking. Nothing has profoundly changed on the outside, just how I view things. I guess this reflects what Marcus Aurelius tried to convey when he said, 'Our life is what our thoughts make it.' 🌠

[@joy_air]

I feel that we need to talk more about forced transition. Many people know about "honeymoon", some know about Paris syndrome. But almost NON know about forced transition, how unpleasant it is, what struggle person encounter, even if the country has good laws and bureaucratic infrastructure for newcomers. I can’t even describe what people face in countries where there is no such infrastructure. It's borderline existing as a second-rate person.

[@MCArt25]

Upon learning English language and about American culture I actually experienced a long distance version of culture shock, where previously I was deeply fascinated and in love with American culture I've now become disgusted with it and come to the opinion that I'd never want to live there.

[@samwise-my4gq]

The point is not to have unreasonable expectations.

[@sprouts]

Yup

[@donj2222]

I lived and worked in Sweden for a year 82-83, I loved it the entire time.

[@priyaranganayaki6788]

This is 100% true. It took 4 years for me to adjust & adapt to the new place (people, habits, language etc) after marriage, from city to town. No stage 1, it was direct to stage 2. Later 3&4.

[@BecomingEve]

Yes I experienced the forced transition as a teenager and still hate it here

[@HerbertLandei]

I think the model needs a phase 0 - preparation: Having a good idea about what to expect may tone down the honeymoon euphoria a bit, but helps greatly to get through the frustration. Every bit of knowledge can help you when you can't think clearly because everything seems awful.

[@PirateOfTheNorth]

It took me 15 years to fully adjust after my parents moved the family to a different country. I spent years in stage 2.

[@efstathiaioannidou5205]

Thank you for the comment. I'm still to level 2, struggling for the third after 5 years 😅😅

[@sprouts]

I can very much relate. I had a similar experience a few years back. But the moment that I decided to leave again I could let go of my expectations, and I started stage 3. After this I didn’t bring such high expectations with me again to any new place. It made everything way easier.

[@pavendax]

2 month in russia for study. im allright with all the differences, its just im really frustated with the langugae. Even I can speak 3 languages, that doesnt make me a better learning when learning a new language because I never learn a new language before, I grow up with them thats how I got it.

[@ladymecha8718]

A Canadian here, and living in USA for 18 months was a culture shock experience. The honeymoons was, oh Americans are so similar to Canadians. Then was frustration on how things were different, like no vinegar for fries. Acceptance was enjoying the choices of barbecue and hot sauces for fries. Adaption was marrying an American. 😂

[@sprouts]

😁

[@elliotvasstrandhoddge9423]

i moved from one side of my contry to the other. experienced massive culture shock. then i moved back home after 3 years. and experianced just as storng a culture shock when i came back to my old ways

[@loirenhuh]

When I arrived from Turkey (which is muslim majority country) I quitted eating a pork

[@geckoo9190]

I don't know, I was one year and half in Canada and the honey moon phase lasted that long, even when I didn't speak English when I arrived, I guess the culture was not that different, I am very adaptable, also it is safer than here in Mexico, so I could go outside and take public transportation without any risk.

[@bottlerockets94]

This is accurate. I've spent a lot of time in the military and am currently serving in the Peace Corps and have seen each stage.

[@andreiamuhitu159]

It's been 10 years. I'm still frustrated

[@emjizone]

4:19 That's precisely why most ERASMUS exchange programs in Europe are 9 months long: the length is *designed to maximise trauma and frustration.* 🙄 As soon as students adjust and start to feel at home, they must come back and feel at home nowhere, neither there or in their country of origin.

[@sofiassunlight]

Honeymoon 4 months, frustration 4 years..my American life finally came to the point of comfort 3 years ago.

[@hectorho955]

Well for me it's not exactly how it worked out. I studied in Canada alone as a teenager for four years (I'm Asian btw), and I can't really recall being through the first two stages while going nor coming back home, and I can't even speak proper English when I first arrive. Now looking back, I could be unconsciously dealing with many things much more serious than cultural shock (and to conclude that part, it takes me decades to start realizing and progressing, if there's anyway I could describe how they differ from one another). So I guess not only I was very lucky to went by this path I took, there could be many other factors that are more important than the human mind than a cultural shock in some more extreme cases.

[@DerDoMeN]

I've never in my life felt that I belong somewhere... Am a hodgepodge of local, remote and my own culture to begin with. So I never viewed places from the lens of me belonging/adapting/appreciating other people but from the lens of how much people intrude into my private world (the more they intrude the more I'll hate them). In the end the way I view things is summed up by: X is a beautiful place with only one disadvantage - it's full of xes...

[@hermask815]

Aren’t the phases longer? Some can persist for years.

[@lejamesbron5880]

I observe this with interracial/intercultural dating as well. The honeymoon bliss phase is a thing since expectations are very low so standards are low as well.

[@AT-nn9dd]

Ya... I went to frustration and adaptation and still there 2 years in

[@sprouts]

Where?

[@micheleweiss5563]

Sometimes there are factors that are disagreeable and have nothing to do with cultural norms, but bad behavior. A factor among many tourists is “virtue signaling” their tolerance, instead of criticizing anything. With those who are well seasoned, these don’t pass the smell test (pun intended). Labelling something awful as “cultural”can be viewed as patronizing. In absolving those few elements, nasty, bad habits are tolerated for “cultural” reasons, and never challenged; just pushed aside as not worthy of anyone’s effort for improvement. Explaining problems away as cultural is easy and commitment-free. I do get it for sure, but see it for what it is.

[@MCArt25]

which habits we characterize as "nasty bad habits" is still defined by cultural norms, like how Americans always seem to talk twice as loudly as everybody else but never realize it, and then berate others for not being as enlightened as the country that still struggles with concepts like public infrastructure, social security or affordable public healthcare.

[@sittingstill3578]

I have lived abroad in many different countries and never experienced culture shock. My siblings have and it’s even been to the point where it was painful for them but not me. Not sure why I am like this. None of my siblings have lived abroad as adults which is odd. My parents did experience culture shock in the first country we lived in but substantially less in each subsequent one and all together spent about 40 years abroad before returning for retirement. In my times returning to my home country I haven’t experienced reverse culture shock either.

[@AI-hx3fx]

I lived on the mainland U.S. and Japan, each for quite some time cumulatively, and coming home was always an exercise in adjustment. Each was familiar to a degree, but returning to even speaking the way we do felt utterly bizarre. Fresh from Japan, I still had to remind myself I need not bow (although it's no bad thing here), while coming from America it felt odd to cope with a warm place all over again. Naturally, the food was again different and I missed what was relatively cheap and convenient back then, since steaks of that size or onigiri can be pricey versus street food.

[@TheAllSeeingEye2468]

America is in a culture shock. With the alphabet people and we are in the anger stage

[@tarneemfares137]

An insightful video. Thank you

[@colinsanders3667]

I went to stay in France not really wanting to. 8.5 years later , now divorced, I could not leave quickly enough !!!! So glad and happy to be out of that culture and those arrogant entitled french !! If any reading this is thinking of moving there , DON'T !!!!

[@bibiboub6763]

😄I'm French ... I understand you ! Some people are very proud ( in France ) but there are very nice people too. Never give up 🙃

[@MateoM.CATACORA]

As a 20 year-old studying in France with the intention of becoming French myself, I understand your point, but the French are very... particular, special. They do their own thing, and the language isn't the most expressive in its vocabulary. But I'll admit : culture shock hits hard, even if I've lived here for a year.

[@AllanHinde-mb2pr]

Moving abroad soon so this came at a great time

[@laurenc7410]

Same

[@AllanHinde-mb2pr]

@@laurenc7410 good luck with your move

[@kairinase]

Go to Malaysia... seriously you would experience more culture, and less shock. The locals are good mannered and albeit having poor amenities in some areas, you'll adapt easily and make new friends. Some foreign workers even preferred to stay and not leave! They are the people who would likely to shock you!

[@lazyscorpion3889]

This was my 10 years in Asia. I almost went to a mental facility😅 never again. I reached the 4th stage in Korea but I must say I was suicidal and depressed. I couldn't wait to see another peaceful culture. My adaptation in middle east never occured and in Korea it came after 5years. Honeymoon was a good 1year 😊

[@pumpkingamebox]

I think I’ve experienced remote culture shock with Japan. Anime fan as the honeymoon period, the frustration when I took Japanese culture classes and started learning about everything that is wrong with their society. Baby, they’re in just as much shit as we are, except theirs is wasabi/durian flavored. And that was my conclusion 7 years ago! Now, I don’t want to even think about it. The falling yen particularly causing the entire stock market to crash. Sheesh. But after taking some Japanese classes and visiting Japan for a couple of weeks. I’m weighing which problems I’d rather have; my countries, or Japans (plus those caused by immigration of course.)

[@PraveenKumar-kj8rq]

0:44 That's Hindu temple in 3rd pic That's awesome ♥

[@maavet2351]

going to paris in 2014, I'm not surprised

[@yt-sh]

timeline so 2 months of honeymoon + 4 months of adjustment = 6 months happy and 6 months of frustration then finally adaptation(post adjustment) after 1 year

[@roguegryphonica3147]

Honeymoon... 1-4 weeks, Adjustment 1-2 months, Cultural integration 2-5 months... If you stay for 3 months expect reverse culture shock at some level.

[@maxifyone5309]

"paris syndrome" Ofcourse its France

[@runw1ththehunted]

😂

[@Ultras_450]

Diavolo, you are out of loop

[@EvelynKirkaldyArt_BearSmart]

It's taken me wayyyy longer than a year. The honeymoon experience was iffy. Tried to find things I liked and found some. Went thru a period of mental distress and then serious illness. I may just now be adjusting after 5 years, but still looking for a way to leave..

[@UlugNaar]

I'm at steps 2, 3 and 4 now after 10 years in the Netherlands. I hate this place. Especially the people.

[@pratyushshaw2819]

India is so diverse that whenever I moved from one state to another I experienced a culture shock

[@tats8666]

In NZ we have a lot of immigrants which I think is a good thing, sort of being one myself given that I was born overseas, although my father is originally from NZ. What I tend to notice is that sometimes people form their own communities with other expats of similar backgrounds and never really adjust of fit into the society of the place they have moved to, which I can't judge as it's the individuals personal choice. However, I do see some frustration and resentment from others who believe that they have adjusted or are the so called "people from here" and to some extent I can see why, but you can't expect people to change if they don't want. I have also met people who did not choose to immigrate such as spouses who would rather have stayed where they came from or those who came as children who never really adjusted, but when they go back to visit their place of origin it feels foreign (no place stays the same) so they spiral into a state of depression without a sense of belonging and that is also sad.

[@sprouts]

True! Thank you for sharing your observations.

[@priscilamartinezavila194]

This explains what happened to me when I entered a relationship to conservative man.. I became too overwhelmed … I wish I had seen this sooner

[@LG-pu3wk]

I'm super obsessed with Sprouts video explainers! Can anyone please share what tool they're using? I just love these cartoons so much T.T

[@Wraith540]

When I saw the thumbnail I actually though this would be a video about someone moving to Vancouver, Canada.

[@sprouts]

:)

[@ViolenVaymire]

I still have a vivid memory of being dropped off at my first daycare.. was 3 at the time, Through a fit! Banged on the class as I saw my mom Drive away, I thought she was permanently abandoning me.. It was extremely traumatic. I never did make any friends, connect with any of my teachers, and hated the rest of my days there. Anecdote: Ever since that day I swear it created in me a permeant distain for being anywere but with my mother. I Took no interest in friends for the majority of my life, HATED school, and had many behavioral problems(Not related to my mother being a bad mom, She wasn't)

[@sprouts]

So graphic 😮 Thanks for sharing this

[@mrsnelliebee]

One cultural shock that many will experience if they come live in Bulgaria is that when kids start nursery/kindergarten parents are not expected to attend the adaptation, in fact we are prohibited to enter into the nursery/kindergarten at all…

[@gabrielfantin2397]

Oh hey! Under a minute! Better to leave a comment here!

[@oupwo7468]

About France : It has been degrading for the past 40 to 50 years and never stopped going down to the point the country is becoming a shithole due to high socialism and corruption.

[@einienj3281]

Unrealistic expectations are the individuals own fault.

[@runw1ththehunted]

Tru

[@einienj3281]

@@runw1ththehunted Sure, You could blame marketing too, but there's a lot of information available out there. Talk to locals before packing up your life. If you think you are going to visit/move to a story book magical utopia where your poop doesn't stink...then the word "naive" doesn't describe you well enough.

[@runw1ththehunted]

@@einienj3281 preach

[@einienj3281]

@@runw1ththehunted 😄🤘🏻 Me: I want to live on the moon, bc it's made out of cheese! Friend: No it's not, don't be silly. I travel to the moon anyway, with my cheese grater. Me on the moon; 😐🥺😭

[@justaguy3518]

they're also a result of propaganda

[@shannonnewman3091]

My Life in Japan was like that . Big fun !

[@DRSam405]

Many times, it's the same in marriage; that's where the concept of the first year of marriage comes from.

[@cattietorres8182]

I've been here in the Philippines for about a year already and I feel I can't adjust, the problem is that with my partner we have financial problems. I want to bring her to my country, but I don't have the money yet. So how to deal with the cultural shock in this case, if I can't go anywher now.

[@KL-zg7lu]

A gaslight video in and of itself. Stage 5: fuck this shit and leave.

[@COM70]

You should qualify that this is mostly applicable to neuro typical people

[@azzurracupini6441]

Yeah maybe for neurodivergent people there are another kind of situations and problems to deal with!

[@garyfrancis6193]

That explains the last 34 yesrs of my life and not in English either or even use the Roman alphabet. What I dee is people are all the same and talk about the same things in different languages. Once you learn their language you realize that.

[@demoncloud6147]

The background music tells the tale of a country 😅 The orange yellow country

[@Eledore]

Note that some personalities experience it as 2 1 3 4.

[@cancatcannothaz]

orange and india has lot more deeper meaning than you unknowingly depicted here lol good video as always 🫶🏿

[@sprouts]

Oh!

[@himanshusingh801]

Bro used india to teach us..okay

[@midloran]

What's so bad about that?

[@glukdunduk]

@@midloran the author always can use his brilliant country as an example how it’s culture an frustrate and move people to depression

[@jjewell2076]

My biggest culture shock experience was when I went to Pakistan to meet my now wife.

[@Keith-tz2jy]

Don't travel alone.

[@Pocketfarmer1]

Wait, there is a syndrome based on 20 travelers to Paris out of the millions of tourists that go every year. Gotta call bs.

[@Ooja1980]

Do you think all cultures are in some way equal? Do you think if you approach any culture with a similar mentality & openness you will reach a stage of adaptation eventually? & if so, do you think such adaptation is good? If I move into a community that treats certain groups of people as inferiors, is adjusting here even moral? If the culture you work among is all in favor of some totalitarian form of government & scuffs at human rights for everybody, do you think you would recognize yourself after you reach adaptation to that? Or are you shallow enough to theorize about cultures as if they're just different interpretations of cuisines & arts without fundamental value distinctions? Some cultures are actually superior, & you have to recognize that, & if you don't believe your own culture to be superior, be sure that the actual Nazies & jihadis do think they are! Hollow cultural voids in your mind will not open you up to others, to the contrary, you will have a stain from surrounding colors & remain colorless & self loathing.

[@bAa-xj3ut]

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@kotzpenner]

The real truth of the video is just that Paris sucks

[@Renois_aigris]

Y a pas un raclos qui peux me faire un résumé

[@MontChevalier]

So friggin dumb. Sometimes there is no adjustment. It's best to leave.

[@CA_STUDENT_NITIN]

India'sstory of foreigner Like if india 🎉🎉

[@alizahidsarfraz3207]

Make more videos please

[@SteinGauslaaStrindhaug]

Doesn't really work that way when you're autistic... every country's culture is annoying including your own, and you never have a rosy red feeling about any culture or feel comfortable anywhere. Though being in a foreign culture (or hanging around people from a different culture) has the advantage of seeming slightly more "normal" because your quirks is assumed to be because of your cultural background or language difficulties.

[@doggoandyeet1608]

you need to vibrate higher...

[@HakendaNatan]

good

[@fadlilahnoviarahmah7791]

❤

[@dulio12385]

Funny they use India as an example; Never mind the culture shock, the olfactory and digestive shock alone will send you running for the airport... or more likely the toilet.