Dad is Unconvinced Despite my Best Lawyering.

Dad just doesn’t want to believe I’m his kid. But it was still a good day for his energy and engagement.

[@lindathompson9334]

I got a kick out of Ed saying 'I must have enjoyed it" fathering 6 kids.

[@kellylove5517]

That one was great too ..and that little smirk he gave ..gotta love him ..😂😂😂❤❤❤❤

[@jackiegeib8344]

God bless you and your father

[@KristinBerdis]

“What the hell do I do?” He’s so cute.

[@tinaserrano2012]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@shwetadeshpande8374]

"The only way I would be unhappy if I lose any of the kids, one way or the other" 92, struggling with dementia and physical decline, still thinks only about others before himself, what an absolute rare precious gem of a man! ❤

[@pixipatricia4304]

Yep! Ed for President!😊

[@mariedames3240]

Pop is smarter than the disease. Dan you are doing an amazing job with pop. ❤

[@lillipad3503]

Indeed he is.

[@Chambocaz]

Truly amazing,❤

[@dawnhansen5770]

Yes he is

[@sheryldelind2628]

“I don’t see myself crying…” 😆🤣 Y’all are so fortunate he has a great attitude and good humor. Always enjoy the engagement between you guys. ☺️

[@kellylove5517]

That comment got me too😂😂😂😂

[@kayalex83]

😂😂

[@janet-leecomeau8035]

He cracks me up. I’M 92? ..when he questions anything….the tone of voice as if he is going to start an argument……BUT NEVER DOES…….he never does……he’s so tender and always backs down…..love it.

[@nabeelawan9428]

Thats what makes Grandpaa a sweetie, his grandchildren are all over the world

[@sheehy933]

My 85 year old mother with dementia lives with me and my wife who are both retired. It is as rewarding as it is demanding. You and your family do a wonderful job of integrating your pop into everything you do.

[@CrystalSaysSo]

This one has me giggling. He wasn’t ALL that convinced that you were his! That little smirk gave it away! Seems he never forgets you Momma’s name. He’s such a sweetie. Love you all! ❤

[@helenvarner5787]

He never forgets Danelle either😂

[@CrystalSaysSo]

@@helenvarner5787 That’s right!

[@Jillloveszumba]

Giggled the whole time Dan trying to lawyer him😂 they're both so fortunate to have each other each other❤

[@CrystalSaysSo]

@@Jillloveszumba Wasn’t that the best?! They certainly are both very blessed. 🩷

[@Jillloveszumba]

@@CrystalSaysSo they are! I don't think my kids would have that much patience at all LOL

[@Camwatch916]

I met Dan the other day he came into my job very nice in person . Send love and prayers to the family!!

[@BeagleLady]

So cute that Ed thinks that Dan’s birth certificate could be wrong. I love Dan’s reaction to that! Keep smiling Dan! You make ME smile.

[@colleenbrady9675]

LOL

[@daisyfunkea4291]

Me too 😂

[@D.W.G.]

Dan- "i was a star" Ed- "what happened"🤣🤣

[@normajean2855]

🤣😂

[@podcastfan2544]

Everything that really matters & truly good is what followed

[@floridagirl6686]

"It's possible" "maybe" "I don't see myself crying" "I enjoyed it, apparently" I love Ed!

[@Paul.in.Ireland]

" i was the star'... "What happened "? 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣. ... Dr Ed is a legend!! 😂🤣😂🤣

[@roisinconnor4814]

I love that you remind him of where he is and all is okay. Reassuring he will be with family forever is so wonderful.

[@nazahusic3353]

😂😂😂

[@mrsfarrer]

Hi Dan. I just started watching your videos. My husband has dementia and I’m coming to terms with watching him slowly fade away. We’ve lived a long life together and it’s been so very hard for me to accept this. You & your father are helping me more than you know. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Susan❤

[@4randosutube]

I think Ed’s skeptical attitude is not only endearing but hopefully beneficial. He realizes his memory is compromised but he’s not sure why. That lack of clarity requires that he put up a defense. He takes every claim/fact presented with some skepticism. It’s a smart self protection posture that helps him avoid being taken advantage of. There’s no leading Ed down the primrose path.

[@diannebagley465]

😂do I have any $$ lol

[@claudiascott6484]

​@@diannebagley465😅😅😅

[@nurseae4586]

Well said!

[@FRAME5RS]

As a nurse, I am convinced that people with dementia decline at breakneck speed in nursing homes because there's nobody there who has time to keep them rooted in reality. Best to work towards that end, as you are doing, rather than indulging him in his confusion.

[@sistasunshine1697]

Yes! I agree 100%. People still have feelings.....no matter what.❤

[@NurseMeg]

I’m a nurse in Ottawa, Canada 🇨🇦 and work in Long Term Care with Dementia residents. I do agree with what you said about nursing homes. I’m lucky to work in a fabulous home with amazing staff!! Not all homes are great like mine though. Some are horrible. My home has a waiting list of 7 years to get in. It’s an old building but maintained very well. It is on the water with beautiful grounds. I have been there for 23 years!

[@user-tz3jl3il4o]

Y no sólo los abuelos que sufren esta enfermedad. Todo abuelo o abuela, se deterioran muy rápido, como no los cuidan bien y sus familiares no los visitan con frecuencia, se afectan mucho y fallecen en corto tiempo.

[@jcool4358]

I laughed outloud when you spent all that time trying to convince him and it says"maybe". Bless his heart.

[@bettyboop4263]

I think it's hard for Ed to believe he is old enough to be Dans father. The years go by so fast😢

[@MNWILD43]

All I know is that you take care of your pops. I believe pops has several more years left the way you support him and take care of him. I totally believe that this kind of love and care for pops slows down the disease.

[@roxannemoreno2012]

He had me cracking up 🤣🤣He said birth certificates can be wrong 😂😂

[@colleenbrady9675]

Ikr ?

[@dilciaalvarezcrespo]

I loved when Papa said” Pardon me”!

[@dsalnorcal1434]

He still does. 😀

[@sassygrannyplusakastephani4779]

Y’all had me laughing out loud! 🤣 😂 I don’t always comment, but I needed this today. My dad is 98 and very caring like your dad. My dad also lives with my husband and I. He has some short term memory, but not as severe as Dr. Ed! When he can’t remember things I just remind him that his brain is 98, and he can’t fit much more in there! But, he can remember stories from serving in WWII. And, I can usually finish them because I’ve heard them so many times. I’ll miss hearing them over and over one day! Keep up the great work Dan and Danielle!! ❤

[@graceblackmore1256]

I’m so tickled at how he hangs in there with the converse. Yes he does have his moments. Bless you both.

[@nancyeidt6423]

I have ceased to be my mom’s daughter, she thinks I’m her sister and I don’t argue it frustrates mom if I do. I just talk with her and enjoy what time I have left with her. She can get really testy but I realize that’s just the disease.

[@DavidLS1]

I agree with you. It's not like Ed or your mother are going to remember the next day anyway.

[@kellylove5517]

Dan...this one had me busting up 😂😂 Bone up on your "Lawyering Skills" ..Dad was having none of your arguments today...And he killed me with "I want to buy some property. He doesn't know what kind because he hasn't seen it yet."😂😂😂😂😂 And his face scowl in the beginning..oh you have made my day with this one ❤❤

[@jenrachel9423]

The patience it must take to explain these personal life events over and over again. Something I can’t imagine happening in any nursing home. You are keeping Dr Salinger as sharp as he can be, he must have been a great father to raise kids to take on care in such a thoughtful,compassionate and selfless manner. What an amazing example of family.

[@guillenrva]

You're doing great Dan, you're making him feel that it's all ok and normal as much as you can 😢❤ God bless you and your wife

[@markluna5454]

I love these morning coffee chats. They make my day. Thank you so much for posting these chats, I also drink coffee right along with the both of you ☕

[@margaretchesney2566]

Doing a great job with your Dad, Dan! He questions fathering you daily and still asks everyday where his money is! I love it! He still has gentlemanly manners too!! What a sweetheart he is!

[@thetrippingtrippa]

He lights my heart whe he says he is lucky to be around family, that's his safety, his feeling of happy. May he always enjoy it...

[@shwetadeshpande8374]

"You are Dr Salinger" "Well that sounds nice" Every doctor loves being referred as one ❤

[@MrsPumpkinCat]

OMGosh! I literally LOL’d when he said the birth certificate could be wrong. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Mimi-ry4dt]

Haha- Ed's answer: "To provide yourself with a positive outcome." - (implying Dan made up story that Ed is his Dad). Oh my, so funny ... & sweet. Thanks!

[@LinneaSanchez]

“Those certificates could be wrroonng” 😂🤣

[@kellylove5517]

😂😂😂😂 Have to give Dad credit for knowing 💩 happens

[@LinneaSanchez]

@@kellylove5517 grampa was quick on his toes with that comeback lol

[@davidsandall]

Being in California he definitely knows about people having fake papers.

[@wanjirunganga-gichuhi876]

​@@kellylove5517 I tell you.

[@aebglenda27]

😂😂😂

[@ivyjefferson4659]

Dad was not giving in. 😂😂Too funny. “I don’t see myself crying.” 😂😂😂

[@Kenjiro5775]

His smile says it all. You are engaging deeply with your dad, which is maximizing his cognition. This is therapy, as good, or better than anything else we have, medically. 👍😁

[@gringoenespanol]

He seems happiest when you reassure him you're taking care of him and he'll be fine, and that he's not a burden. He also likes when you answer his questions and serve as a good external hard drive. Now get Dr. Salinger some lunch.

[@rosajohnson5212]

Ed is the sweetest. He's just so caring about his family.❤

[@AbrahamsAnt]

I LOVE the way you interact with your Dad. He is such a beautiful human being and I’m falling more and more in love with grandpa… and you are clearly his offspring ❤

[@meallday4798]

One of my absolute favorite videos of grandpa! When he said he enjoyed being busy, I hollered! 😅 I just can't get enough of this guy, love him!

[@motherhenn8850]

You dad can sure deliver zingers despite his memory issues. Thanks for sharing. This made me laugh.

[@petebutler5139]

“I’m 92?” My favorite Dr. Salinger response. Love you guys!! ❤

[@debscat7155]

My dad would talk to us if we talked to him. He always knew me. Then when he hit about 95 he would just sleep in his chair. He would eat but slept during the day, which had me up. I didn't sleep for about 2 years. Then The VFW Hospital had an opening in the nursing home section, which is very hard to get in with a waiting list. But we happened to take him there to the Emergency room for, we thought Covid, and I asked the Dr. if he could check and see if there were any openings. I use a walker and have had 6 back surgeries in my life, so it's been hard on me to take care of him. So they did have one opening. And he just stayed in Emergency then moved him over. When I came home I cried to my husband that I put dad in a home. He said Debbie, you took care of him for 10 years. So he lived till he was 97 and they all loved him there.

[@lindalong8237]

God bless you Deb for helping your father! ❤

[@debscat7155]

@lindalong8237 He was such a good dad, he so quiet. He would argue with me. He didn't mean to. He wanted to be up in the middle of the night. It was just the sickness and I am an only child. So I know I had to take care of them.We all loved him very much.

[@bt.c.1829]

They BEST yet! You two were like Abbott & Costello! I closed my eyes,I listened and 😂😂😂😂You guys are a fantastic duo! 💪💞teaching as you go a long this journey!🤝💞🤝💞

[@jasonshepherdso1601]

We love his “I’m 92 “ reactions

[@linajams]

Yes we do 😆😆

[@kellylove5517]

😂😂😂 yes we do...❤❤❤

[@AdamJ09303]

He's really gone downhill. Nobody can argue that fact. You can see it in his eyes.

[@debc7341]

That’s the way it works 😢 Dan is doing his best to keep Ed happy in the current state he’s in, whatever that is. God is blessing this family.

[@laurilenhardt2188]

“I don’t see myself crying”, that’s hilarious!

[@alikruger6030]

😅

[@manjuufoodcreations369]

I think Grandpa is enjoying grilling Dan😂😂He is testing Dan's argument skills and checking if Dan really works as an Lawyer 😂😂😂

[@BeardsBladesandHair]

I don’t know why I love these videos but I think it’s your determination and steady hand. It’s impressive to watch!

[@carolynboothby]

You’re absolutely right! Well said

[@almorris0424]

My favorite line "well, I don't see myself crying" 😂😂

[@NeneLy-q9r]

Ed, you are such a sweet, genuine and loving man. Awesome job Dan, keep it up!.

[@yardieprincess]

This was beautiful to see Grandpa thinking through stuff, sharing his doubts vehemently amid Dan trying to convince him. "Don't you think the certificate could be wrong?" had me cracking up. His love for his family is so pure. Gotta love Grandpa ❤ Continued blessings to his caregivers - the entire family

[@CynthiaParris-n7j]

I love grandpa. He is such a sweet dear soul.❤

[@vickiburchett9874]

Keep going, Dan and Pop! Great Job❤❤

[@Jackie-plus]

I am happy as long as I didn't lose any of my kids He so loves his kids - it's so beautiful to see and hear. And he's still looking after his sister, wondering if she's married to a nice guy. A wonderful family man ❤

[@karenroberts6599]

It's great that you talk to your Dad to help keep his mind active. My mother-in-law law would love to play cards so when she got Dementia we would put cards on the table and she would insist she couldn't play but by the time we played the first hand she would join in . Prompting helps and talking to them about family really helps.

[@tinaintexas]

I love your dad. I’ve always wished to have one. I mean I had one he just wasn’t in my life like this. True man right here!

[@aaronmcalpine1606]

Grandpa ain’t gettin hemmed up with any child support issues. He don’t care what that birth cert says!

[@bt.c.1829]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@goldsilver270]

😂😂😂😂❤🎉

[@nurseae4586]

Hahaha!!! 😂

[@Kim-pj9us]

😂😂😂

[@pixipatricia4304]

Not "just Dan" it takes love and patience to include Ed in everything the family does....that makes you a star for keeps.

[@sarahj.5970]

You both are lightyears above this disease...lots of love and lots of spice of life...thank you as always...

[@finfan1009]

He knows who his people are when you remind him. He just can't remember them. Keep at it, Dan. It's certainly helping him live longer,I think.

[@songsinschool]

Dan - I was the star. Dad - What happened? 😂 Answer should have been, Dan - I became a lawyer, a husband, a father, and loving caretaker to my dear father.

[@kristabelle43]

I don’t see myself crying was my favorite line today😆 he’s just so precious!!

[@claudeneramsay4950]

He cracks me up" where's my money at"love Ed

[@Kim-pj9us]

😂😂😂

[@Ranbowriter]

Labor Day weekend with Ed, Dan, dogs, cats, and a pig. Life is Good

[@sassygrannyplusakastephani4779]

😂 love it!

[@janetrobichaud4176]

Dan you do wonderful with your Dad Like many things there is no manual to get us through the disease. Your Dad is thriving thanks to you and your family. Living with you has given him quality of life for 92. ❤

[@tammycarney]

This was the best. God bless this sweet man, and his wonderful son.

[@marygoodsell3602]

Dan, no criticism here, I wish all care providers were like you! My approach with my husband was much like yours and we were very successful and happy. My husband passed last year and I miss him every day. I treated him like a valued human being, like you treat your dad. Not bossy and patronizing. ❤❤❤

[@LivLovePray-f5o]

Close to the end of my mom's life, she said things to me that tried to separate us. It was a true challenge. My beautiful mother accused me of things I never did to her, it was so difficult. I had her in seven different senior places before she passed. There were times I would go and see her, then when I would leave, I'd get in my car and just cry my eyes out. Dementia/ Alzheimer's is true hell on earth....aka the "slow death." That time in my life truly made me much stronger, but just wow. Her birthday was August 30 and I am so grateful to have had an incredible mother such as her. She loved, protected and nurtured me so very much. I don't know what I did to deserve such an incredible mother as her. Love you forever Phoebe.

[@Charlene-vu2fd]

“Where’s my money at? “ So cute

[@ael6707]

I think Ed is the cutest older gentleman I've ever seen. He's so sweet, so smart that he has dementia but can reason the truth.

[@carolynboothby]

That was the best coffee chat ! So funny pop is so sharp witted 😂 your daily questions are SUCH a brilliant idea, they work so well on Ed and they make him feel safe and loved I am sure xx

[@jacquelineadams3770]

I love these videos. Your conversations with your dad are so funny and endearing. His personality is wonderful.😊

[@jamesnaish9742]

I enjoy your videos so much. I have been taking care of my mom for approximately 12 years with dementia. These videos really touch my heart. Thank you for sharing .

[@jbetz6938]

I took care of my MIL and my grandmother through dementia. You are doing a great job, Dan. It's not easy, but you are really putting in the effort and it shows. I really appreciate your videos. I would love to see you hug your dad and tell your dad you love him. That's what I want to do! 🥰😉 Holding you and your family close. You're an inspiration to many, I'm sure!

[@ruthacheampong1577]

This man is a pure soul ❤ And I love him!🥰🙏🏾

[@lauran6953]

Your dad is a delight. You're such a loving son.

[@lisallamas4834]

Pop can be😅 such a character. Sending hugs for Pop!!

[@mikejordan9220]

I can tell your dad is a very smart man. He is fun to watch.

[@ahabahqara3077]

Yes I like that. Stoke his memories. I agree with you. I love your relationship with him. I can tell he is a great day and very close to his family.

[@mamajotobin]

Those men sure have big hearts ♥️♥️

[@mv1991]

"You were the star? What happened?" Someone got roasted 😂

[@karlahelton655]

My new favorite. Best line was when you said you were a football star, and he replied, “What happened?!”😂

[@user-wz7pl8cm9i]

Dan and Daniel, you two are so amazing with your dad father, in-law. Life is a sympathy. Retired Dr Salinger Ed is a legend ❤. I know this can be so tough on all of the family. Keep going, stay strong.

[@odes5814]

Lmao!! "You were the star, what happened?"

[@carolmelancon3743]

I love watching pop.. he has Dementia , but you can tell he was smart.. it’s nice they have him home. ..

[@annebailey4599]

After watching for such a long time, I believe Ed is still with us because of these talks! My grandma had eight kids , they all had homes of their own., but they threw her in a nursing home at the beginning of her Alzheimer’s. She didn’t live very long. They do not get this personal talking about family. Her family only three of them visited her on Sundays sometimes. Thank you Dan for all you guys do to keeping Gramps thinking!

[@mymotherwasright3079]

Your Dad knows he is blessed to have such a loving family.

[@darlapremeaux7006]

Hey Ed and Dan hope yall have a great labor day weekend love ❤️ yall

[@bluevanity2154]

He is still very sharp, he is putting up a fight with this disease, I enjoyed the conversation

[@connieo3618]

Why does he think everyone is lying to him? People are so sweet to him, no one would jerk him around like that!❤

[@dsalnorcal1434]

It’s the disease

[@lindaallen8800]

You are very lucky. My mother’s paranoia got extremely bad and we could not keep her at home because she would hide sharp knives and she was very strong.

[@bevee3711]

“What if the birth certificate was wrong”….I can’t stop laughing. I just love you guys!

[@anablepsis]

Dan you’re doing a great job!!! Grandpa is the BEST!!!

[@CarolynnMc01]

I'll never stop saying it, Dan.... you do such a great job with your Dad. It has to be frustrating for you at times. And also for Ed. What a devistating disease, Even so, your Dad seems to have a lot of love in his heart and he's such a gentle human being. Love to you both from San Rafael. Blessings sent.

[@KristinaNedeljkovic-cn5lb]

Divno je kako brinete o svom ocu. Gospodin Ed je jedan kulturan plemenit i brizan covek i tako je vas vaspitao. Svako dobro retki su ljudi koji ovako brinu o svojim starim roditeljima! Olll the best

[@tracywilliams61]

absolutely love your chats. You can see the love for your dad in your eyes!

[@dsalnorcal1434]

💜❤️

[@kimstewart35]

You handle this so well Dan. My dad just came back to my home today after a 2 month stay in assisted living while I recovered from hip surgery. His confusion has increased and he now gets verbally angry and hurtful more easily. We had a very rough first evening. My health is still not the best so not sure I will be able to Keep this up if he doesn’t settle down.

[@dsalnorcal1434]

My heart goes out to you. All you can do is the best you can- while you can. 💜❤️

[@coffeefriends5985]

He's such a Pip 😂🤣😂🤣 You & Danielle are doing a Great Job!

[@KenIvywood]

He is a funny guy I just love him! He is messing with you and I love it! Good job Ed.❤