DADDY ISSUES! || How Your Father Can Affect Your Femininity || Fiercely Feminine

[@MorningsWithMaria]

You don’t realize until you are older sometimes, I’m 28 now and I see the little things my dad does for me and his wife (parents divorced) he wants us to have as little struggle as possible. Looking back I see why it didn’t work out with my mom, my mom didn’t let him be in his masculine energy.

[@Simply.Shonta]

You’re so blessed 🥲 ❤

[@chas353]

At the end of the day a REAL man is gonna be a man. You cannot blame your mother for his decision not to step up and be a man.

[@LiaBunny93]

I feel like my Father wishes I was a Boy. He speaks to me like I am a boy. And wants me to go for masculine job positions. But I have to constantly remind him that I am a soft dainty woman!

[@drmichelledaf]

This is not unusual but it's great that you stand firm in who you are. Thank you for watching love!

[@kimberlydonaldson4904]

Hello Sister! Please do the series on how God affects our femininity.❤

[@drmichelledaf]

Hi love it would just be one video but sure I can do it. Thank you for watching 🤍✨

[@danilaroche1156]

Well the word says a gentle spirit is precious to the Lord. Pray that God gives you that. It probably won't happen overnight but it will happen. I know for me speaking softly and slower helps. I'm a New Yorker and we're not known for our gentle demeanor. Yikes!

[@valk97]

In my case I had a present masculine father but also a present over masculine mother. My mom was so masculine that she immaculated my father who even took her the house of her ex to break up with him when he was pursuing her. 😂 So my father was a problem solver for me but it was difficult to deal with bc he was just permanently angry and my mother made a terrible husband of him, this gave me the perception that only fathers do good things for us, not husbands.

[@ThatMysticBrunette]

I apologise in advance for oversharing . My father spoiled me in every way except one: his love. For every mistake he made, forgiveness was simply bought from me. And everytime I needed his love in the true sense. He has just walked away. Leaving me in tears. Growing up.. I had seen him being abusive to my mother in every way. And she appointed me as her therapist. For the entirety of my childhood. Until I moved away for college. That's another story. But no matter what he did, I could never hate him.. and that was worse. Not being able to hate him. In fact, I could spend the entire day contemplating all of the horrible things I could say to him. But as soon as I was across from him, I'd be all giddy and desperate for his approval. Ick. The older I became, the more I was drawn to guys like him. I assumed it was all made up! You know, fictional. I attracted guys who love bombed me. Took care of me. Took all my decisions for me. Those that were older to me. Those that pointed out my flaws so I could rectify them. It was exhausting. It was comforting in a way.. but I always felt like I was not in control of my life. When I went to therapy and learned about my deep-seated family issues, I resolved to forgive my father and move on. I believed I was over it, over my complexes. But your video made me reconsider. And I'm reminded that working on yourself is a continuous and non-linear process, not a goal. And that I have a lot more to learn. Thank you.

[@drmichelledaf]

You are so poetic. Thank you for sharing. This is a complicated situation and you are behaving in the most normal way imaginable given such a past. I pray for your healing. It is through lots of education on these matters, time and prayer that you can over come. Definitely not linear. But what counts is that you recognize the patterns, signs and mistakes and do all you can not to repeat them. God bless you babe. The best is yet to come 💕

[@ThatMysticBrunette]

@@drmichelledaf Thank you very much for your kind reply, Dr. Michelle. 😊 Writing is a hobby.. so I truly appreciate your remark. Indeed, you are correct. There is incredible power in prayer.. and affirming. Even after a brief phase in which I identified as an atheist, I have always resorted to God and prayer. It's just something you sense deep inside. I appreciate you creating these videos..and, more importantly, assisting women in healing femininity from the inside.. not teaching it like it is a mask that you can simply put on.. Continue your fantastic work..♥️👍🏼

[@drmichelledaf]

@@ThatMysticBrunette thank you beautiful 💕

[@ayushmitachakraborty3414]

I cried throughout the video. Something really triggered me.. but thank you Dr. Daf for everything you do for us unconditionally. I love you ❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

I love you too. You are so welcome

[@selinqa1]

I don’t what it is but this series is so profound.. I cried and felt uplifted again and again. Dr Michelle you are a gift to women 💖. God bless you 🙏🏻.

[@drmichelledaf]

I am so thankful to hear that honey. God is soooo good!!! God bless you too!

[@Mvpsavannah]

I loved your video on mothers and I reallllly need this advice as well. I’ve always wanted to be a girly girl growing up but my father raised me. I did karate as a kid with my siblings and then thought it was a great idea to join the military under my father’s influence when I didn’t go to college after high school. It’s really ruined my relationship with him cause I feel like that’s not who I was supposed to be in life but here I am now 27 looking for my feminine life I always wanted.

[@drmichelledaf]

That's wonderful that you are unlearning and cultivating your femininity. God bless you sweetheart 🤍✨

[@alexandrafaithhopelove]

Yeah. My father always tries to get me to act like a boy and yells at me and manifests now that i am actively practicing femininity. Now that i know my authority in Christ i bind them spirits up in the name of Jesus. Hallelujah. God is repairing our relationship. Hallelujah. In the name of Jesus i will walk in my God given femininity all of my days because God is my true Father. Hallelujah.

[@drmichelledaf]

So beautifully put!!! Amen 🤍✨🤍

[@jan854]

My dad treated me like a princess but I wanted to be a boy! I also had 3 brothers growing up so I always wanted to do anything they did. My dad always taught me to be independent and to never rely on a man for anything, but when he passed when I was 11 I never had the chance to really have him around when I was growing into my feminine. I think I needed him most in my teenage years to guide me about the dynamics of men and how to be a lady. I then grew up saying "I don't need a man" but finally woke at 30 like I acutally do want and need a man and there is nothing wrong with that!

[@drmichelledaf]

It's tough when you have brothers because you want to be like them. I am sorry for your loss but the memory of what he wanted for you will always be in your heart and will help you on your journey. God bless you!

[@asunset8545]

When you mentioned feeling nervous or uncomfortable around guys even if I'm not even attracted to them that hit home for me ..,this was a great video ❤ thank you .

[@janetsnakehole3734]

I'm nonreligious and don't really aspire to femininity. And yet I found this video genuinely comforting and helpful. Thanks ❤

[@HerFeminineAroma]

My parents weren’t married when my siblings were born. My mother recently turned 60, and my father is 67. My mom has actually told my older sister that she doesn’t regret having us, but she regret that she chose him to be our father. My dad was absent but not in a way most people would assume. Because my parents were never married to each other, I would often visit my dad when I was younger as a kid whenever my mom knew he would give us money or just to spend time with us. (We also did this with our grandmother whom I wished I spent more time with. My dad would give us money as child support, and we’d continue living our lives as normal.) I am now 21 years old, still living with my mother. My dad now lives with us too. (He’s been here since I was a high school sophomore.) It’s been hard gaining some type of relationship with him due to him seeming to not want to better himself. It’s as if he’s okay freeloading off my mom, and it’s sad to see since my mom has recently said she can’t stand the sight of him. I guess I say all of this as a way to vent. I’ve been told I should have a relationship with my dad since he’s in my life now even though he wasn’t as present when I was younger. (Not to mention, when I graduated from elementary, middle school, and high school, he was never there. Still living with us, but never showed any type of support. I wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t show up for my wedding if I have one.) It’s easier said than done to have a relationship with my dad, but I wouldn’t know how to as I feel like I’ve tried, but his ways feel more and more like confirmation that I should just stick to not having that bond with him. 😔

[@SunflowerGodess0420]

I grew up with my father in the house and he literally ignored me everyday.. Unless it was to be abusive in some way. We have no kind of bond or relationship now. I wouldnt even go to his funeral.

[@drmichelledaf]

I am so sorry honey. Praying for your healing 🤍✨✨

[@danilaroche1156]

I had issues being feminine for decades because of childhood sexual abuse from dad. I had a great deal of rage. It's just these past 2 years I've healed. My ex left because of it. Ive changed but he refuses to talk to me. It's painful.

[@abil3696]

Hii love, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Must have been so painful and heartbreaking as it came from someone who should have loved and protected you. So glad that you're healing and doing better now. That's truly amazing. Also, I'm sorry about your ex. It can be very difficult when someone you care about refuses to talk to you. But please don't pain yourself for someone who doesn't see your inherent worth. Survivors of abuse usually struggle with complex feelings and low self esteem (as in my case), but please remember that even on your worst days, you're still a better person than your abuser. You were dealing with years of trauma and deep emotional wounds and you needed time and space for healing. You deserve an understanding life partner, someone who will readily want to be with you without you even asking. The right person will love you and always stay by your side even in the most difficult situations. I hope you find all the love, healing, happiness, and a person who is truly right for you! You are very precious and valuable! ❤

[@savon5499]

I have learned so much from you, like from a big sister! It makes me become the great big sister i want to be for my little sister! We dont have the same father, but both of our fathers didnt do their jobs, so me and my siblings and mother do our best to heal from that. So this helpes me to help them - and maybe the hole society, because i see that most people struggle with their familys which causes a lot of problems. With gods help we will reach our goal! ❤

[@TravondaBrowning]

I’m an only child and my dad treated me like a princess for a lot of my life; but as I got older we disagreed and still do to this day about a lot of things. He would always put me down by saying I didn’t know anything because I was young or because he just knew more than me. I tried to express my emotions when I would feel something that really hurt me but he would put it off as though he never said anything. He would always repeat himself like him saying whatever it was would make me believe he was right. Even though my mom is a very outspoken person, she never really said too much when he and I would have screaming matches. I find that I have a hard time communicating my feelings with my boyfriend and they often come out in an aggressive manner.

[@MsRebekahofYHWH]

Wow, this has blessed me so so much. How does one reach out to you for mentorship? I thank God for your content, cause its truly healing me in this season of my life.😢

[@janellejones7894]

Hi, you didn’t put “Fiercely Feminine” in your caption. I almost over looked this video because I was looking for the next episode with that wording. I’m glad I caught it because I absolutely love this current series! Please, do more series that affect our femininity. 😊

[@drmichelledaf]

You're right! Thank you. So glad you caught it 💋

[@janellejones7894]

No problem! 🤗

[@winnieboateng5334]

Ameeen 🔥🔥🔥🙏 🙏 Thank you so much Sis❤❤ What a deep and powerful message you have given to us. May God richly bless you. I really needed this.

[@drmichelledaf]

Soooo thankful it touched you. God bless you too honey 🩷

[@winnieboateng5334]

@@drmichelledaf Amen❤️🙏

[@stephaniemariecoaching1]

I am trying to find this link...one of your videos you talked about a series of books that one can purchase on various topics..."Money" etc...now I am not able to find the link to these books. Hopefully someone on this feed can point me in the right direction. I wish I could remember which video it was. Thank you for your help in advance!

[@lenaolichwer8534]

I have a disability. It creates a lot of closeness between me and my father. There sometimes is frustration and regret in our relationship, but we do love each other and have common subjects to talk about. My father provided for me and my mom, showered us with love, gave us stability and adventure at the same time. I do believe my relationship with my father encouraged me to be relaxed around men, to talk to them, crack jokes and just treat them like any other human being who can have valuable insights. He always encourages he to be self sufficient and get out of my comfort zone, hell, even to have the right sleep schedule and drink water. I know sometimes I may disappoint, but in the end we've always been a team and I hope to make him proud in the end. I'm gonna go give him a big hug now.

[@drmichelledaf]

How beautiful! You are blessed 🩷 Thank you for sharing 🙌🏾🙃✨

[@DK-eu2op]

Thank you so much, for this video!!!😢❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@drmichelledaf]

You are most welcome darling

[@bettyanderson5292]

Thank you dr. Daf! Such a peaceful and insightful video!💕🥰

[@drmichelledaf]

You're so welcome sweetie. Thank you for watching 🩷

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

I was born out of wedlock. My father was a weak, insecure, narcissistic, selfish man. I feel like he didn't want a child at all. He was not there. He had a wife who had 4 kids by different men, and did for them, but orphaned me. I was in foster care system. He did nothing to protect me or defend me or care for me. I cant trust men and think men only want me for my body and looks. It is impacting my marriage. I dont like authority at all. I dont like being told what to do. My father would lie and tell make promises to me and never came through. Like why say it if you have no intention of doing it? I dont trust people when they say I will help you or if my husband says he is going to do something for me. When I was in my 20s, I always wanted to date older men, and i had boyfriends who were the same age or 2 years older than me and I couldnt respect them.

[@ChillingTales12]

Honestly i dont have a super great relationship with my dad but its not horrible. We are kind of distant but thats because hes out of the house at work so hes not super present and tbh he just has certain character flaws and a bit toxic but i dont think he has too much of an impact on me. Im not very femnine im kind of a tomboy and a lesbain not sure if thats considered having daddy issues. Both of my parents do wish i was more conventional but i actually like how i am. Maybe im not ylur target audience but i just wanted to add my perspective

[@Amy-uu]

That was a really inspiring video 😊 I'd love to see a video on how God effects our femininity 💕☀️

[@drmichelledaf]

Coming soon! Thank you for watching love!

[@DesislavaIvanova]

Hi,I'm 35 and nowadays I'm more attracted to younger men...I just feel like older men don't care for their looks and hygiene, plus I struggle with feminity. What kind of issues is that?😢

[@fransheskanazario6077]

I wondered if you had any resources for masculine healing videos?

[@thobekamantshongo4458]

Thank you for this video,God bless you.

[@drmichelledaf]

You are so welcome! God bless you too babe!

[@chidinwabueze]

Thank you so much for this series 💞God bless you

[@drmichelledaf]

You are so welcome! Thank you for watching honey. God bless you too!

[@shareenmonga]

Beautiful video Dr. Daf!!

[@DesislavaIvanova]

Cried as well... bless you 🙏 ♥️

[@Anaa.717]

كلماتك دافئه جدا اشعر بالدفء عند مشاهدة فيديوهاتك 🩷🩷💝

[@daydreamingivi]

Thank you. ❤

[@drmichelledaf]

You're welcome beautiful 🤍

[@fifi5535]

Thank you.

[@drmichelledaf]

You are so welcome love

[@keraraX]

I couldn’t help but notice you said you are not a medical professional. I thought you were a doctor?

[@drmichelledaf]

I am not a medical doctor I am a psychologist.

[@carriesmith4613]

Thank you so much for making this video!! I learned so much about why I have daddy issues and I repented to the lord for letting that affect me for 42 years of my life.

[@drmichelledaf]

@@carriesmith4613 that is so wonderful! Glory to God!!!🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍☀️☀️