Healing The Father Wound As A Woman & Attracting Wounded Men

[@redhotyummybrownie2]

When I went through a bad breakup I began to notice my past romantic relationships had a pattern that they had daddy issues themselves and had an absent father and looking at my upbringing it made me see that this was an invincible wound that needed to heal. My father was there but wasn’t there psychologically, emotionally or spiritually and he would be verbally abusive and emotionally abusive as well and I never realized how much this affected til I reached adulthood

[@stefanosssifandos]

A lot of us experienced this but never fully realized the effects of having an emotionally absent father. 🙏🏼 Praying for your healing

[@catarinacosta3334]

It took most of my life and a lot of failed relationships to understand that this is an issue I need to deal with and the extent of it. Thank you for putting it in words so clearly and simply. I wish it felt equally as simple when the triggers arise.

[@stefanosssifandos]

Yes! A lot of people are unaware that this is what’s causing issues in their adult relationships. Sending love and blessings your way 🙏🏼

[@ameliepage1981]

10:13 So true! I went looking for love in all the wrong places. My father is there, but emotionally absent and almost always busy. And while he is there ,he can be sweet but he expect us(me and my brother) to grow fast and somehow find a way to grow up. All he do is observe. He doesn't help us to grow and we have to do it on our own.

[@laisteala]

Same experience with me

[@stefanosssifandos]

I’m sorry you had to go through that 🙏🏼 I pray you get the healing you deserve 🙏🏼

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

Yeh, the "oh, me? I just work for yr mother" type of father. Well, that's why I had. There but not there. There for my mother, not me

[@hood7empress114]

Yes I can see that I have to work with both the mother & father wounds i see it play out in my current relationships attracting wounded men over giving the need to feel loved FOR WHO I AM ❤️🕯🙏🏼🌙

[@stefanosssifandos]

Love that and proud of your for choosing the path of healing!

[@Ninishiningleaf]

Elusive is a brilliant word to describe it. Displays as a void and vague empty feeling at first and then appears in the grief during breakups as a homesick feeling but without knowing where home is.

[@stefanosssifandos]

I know how it feels 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Praying for your healing

[@truditrulove]

my greatest growth has been in allowing mycellf to be vulnerable in my twinflame relationship. thru this relationship, we mirrored each others father wounds/mother wounds (abandonment & conditional love) & i did the work to heal mine, by owning it & processing the realization of what our issue was. THANK YOU for this video.

[@stefanosssifandos]

You are welcome, and that’s a beautiful way to heal and work through the challenges you experienced!

[@truditrulove]

@@stefanosssifandos Thank you Stefanos. I wasn’t sure, but I followed my intuition, everything aligned in divine order & landed me in the most woke, loving place I never even imagined was possible. It’s the freedom I’m most GRATEFUL for & surviving the shadows that literally felt like hell. It makes sense why in earth school, why so many adults heal childhood wounds, in their adulthood, once they have the intelligence to process such painful circumstances. It wouldn’t make sense for children to be able to process such tragic & traumatic events, without the language to even understand everything they experienced. It seems like it was intentional that God/the universe designed this aspect of our evolutional timeline, in this way.

[@stefanosssifandos]

@@truditrulove It's great to hear that you followed your intuition and it led you to a positive and loving place. It's important to trust our instincts and listen to our inner voice, even if it may not make sense at the time. The process of healing childhood wounds and traumas can be a difficult and painful journey, but it's also an important part of our personal growth and evolution. As you mentioned, it may not be possible for children to fully process or understand the painful experiences they go through. However, as adults, we have the ability to reflect, process, and integrate these experiences into our lives in a way that allows us to heal and move forward. It's important to remember that healing is not a linear process and it can take time. But as we continue to work through our shadows and overcome our past traumas, we can experience a greater sense of freedom and inner peace. And in doing so, we become stronger and more resilient versions of ourselves. Keep up the good work and continue to prioritize your well-being and growth.

[@truditrulove]

@@stefanosssifandos THANKS FOR THE REMINDER!!! somehow, i forget that healing isn’t linear. i’m like chop chop all done😂😂😂

[@valentinaplesova2836]

Thank you for the explanation 🙏 My father wounds led me exactly as you mentioned to this endless search for love with all these negative filters about myself and people around and because I always got feedback from man that I am not pretty when I put on some little weight I started to starve my body, depriving it from nutrition ending up having and eating disorder, addictions, depression and anxiety, it was horrible cycle that I could not get out even with the help of psychotherapists and medication. Recently, I recieved electromagnetic stimulation to my brain and finally, I could see and understand things a bit better. It was a horrible place full of despair but I can see a hope and the light at the end of the tunnel. I never write comments but when I saw your video with such an amazing explanation, I started to cry because I finally understood what is behind my mental health struggle. 🙏 Thank you for sharing your wisdom with other souls on our journeys, I am seriously speechless. 🙏 Sending love and gratitude from Slovakia ❤

[@diosa7958]

This is deep! Currently in the vortex of this pain. Praying to heal my relationship to the masculine.🙏😌💚

[@stefanosssifandos]

With you in your healing journey. Proud of you!

[@diosa7958]

@@stefanosssifandos thank you! 💙💙💙

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

I didn't realise until too late that i had a father wound as i had a father, but he is weak, blind, passive... my narc mother's foot soldier

[@chiquitoromulo5930]

a fantastic information you present us with these tips we can make life and our personal relationships better more drastically. I love valuable item.

[@stefanosssifandos]

Thank you so much

[@IamKrystalHardwick]

Rewatching this, thanks so much Stef for making this video. It seriously lead me down a huge road that connected me to so much information and to your wife. I really appreciate you both for helping me today at the inner child workshop. Bless you two for helping heal this world 🌎

[@stefanosssifandos]

Appreciate you! I’m glad Christine and I were able to help a little 🙏🏼

[@LifeinProsperity]

Wow! Super accurate and articulate content. I'm impressed 😊

[@lilpaercyjnr17]

thank you for sharing

[@kathrynnewton8721]

Oh my, I’ve been on my own for 25+ years after a failed marriage to a very wounded man. I myself had Father wounds and have had loads of healing through Gods Fathering heart. Now at the age of 69 these wounds are being retiggered as I have friend who I’m very fond of you can’t communicate his feelings or intentions and it feels so painful. I recognise his wounds and wonder if I can do this again but feel already emotionally attached……

[@stefanosssifandos]

It sounds like you've been through a lot in your past relationship and have done a lot of work to heal from your own wounds. It's understandable that you may feel hesitant to enter into another relationship, especially if you're starting to feel emotionally attached to someone who may have communication difficulties. It's important to take things slow and not rush into anything, especially if you're feeling triggered by past wounds. It might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your friend about your feelings and concerns, and to see if they are willing to work on improving communication with you. If they are not willing or able to communicate effectively, it may be a sign that the relationship is not a good fit for you. Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to listen to your instincts. If you're not feeling comfortable or safe in a relationship, it may be better to step back and reevaluate. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship that is healthy, supportive, and fulfilling.

[@samlyndley2501]

This is most informative video I’ve watched on this subject, thank you!

[@meganmiller7180]

Thank you so much for your explanation, it has made me realise aspects in my relationship that I did not see. Thank you for sharing 🙏

[@stefanosssifandos]

You're welcome! I'm glad I could help you gain some clarity in your relationship.

[@adalbertocabrera9999]

excellent video very well explained each step worked for me thank you very much for your video, really thanks for sharing your knowledge with us it is very valuable information

[@carachristina8087]

Thank you for this. God bless you

[@ulrikaihala7710]

Thank you, this was enlightening and helpful to me.

[@shaimaali7202]

I luv the work you are doing out here

[@Bellafiredance]

Thank you so much your videos have been really helping me

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

Good talk ! 🎉

[@jamiel5210]

Amazing video, thank you!

[@keniblanco4367]

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[@CherylMuir]

Great video! 🔥

[@stelliumX5]

Very good!!

[@nmjr547]

Thank you so much for this!!! This is a very important message for both men and women!

[@stefanosssifandos]

You're welcome! I'm glad you found the message valuable. It's important for all of us, regardless of gender, to recognize the impact of societal norms and expectations on our lives and to prioritize our own well-being and self-discovery.

[@victoria-miemller1782]

thank you so much :)

[@CDeen]

Hi, this talk is appreciated but you should consider changing the title to expand accuracy and views

[@mondaemedia1310]

Thank you ❤️

[@vortexx4056]

My father was there for me all my life, until I turned 14 and things changed drastically. He was always emotionally attached to me, but in my teenage years I felt his absence deeply and I don't know how to cope with that..

[@stefanosssifandos]

I’m really sorry you had to experience that. Did you try reaching out or talking to him?

[@vortexx4056]

@@stefanosssifandos Yes, he usually understands and actually cares, but it doesn't last more than 2-3 days until he turns back to not caring very much about my emotional needs

[@stefanosssifandos]

@@vortexx4056 It's great to hear that your partner is capable of understanding and caring about your emotional needs, but it can be difficult when their behavior is inconsistent and does not last very long. Here are some tips that may help in this situation: Communicate your needs clearly: Make sure that your partner understands what you need from them emotionally, and be specific about the things that are important to you. Try to express yourself in a non-confrontational way, using "I" statements instead of "you" statements. Set boundaries: It's important to have clear boundaries around what is and isn't acceptable in your relationship. Communicate these boundaries to your partner and be firm in enforcing them. This can help to create a sense of safety and stability in your relationship. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Engage in activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, spending time in nature, or spending time with loved ones. Make sure to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, as this can help you feel more confident and grounded in your relationship. Consider couples therapy: If you feel that your partner's behavior is consistently problematic, it may be helpful to seek out couples therapy. A therapist can help you both to work through your issues and develop more effective communication and problem-solving skills. Remember, it's important to take care of yourself and your emotional needs, even if your partner is not always able to meet them. You deserve to be in a relationship that is supportive and fulfilling, and if your current relationship is not meeting those needs, it may be time to reevaluate whether it is right for you.

[@nattlo3107]

great video

[@A_T__]

This is great thank you! Wondering if theres any tips to work through these wounds if you are a single woman. Anyone have suggestione?

[@stefanosssifandos]

Absolutely, there are many ways to work through past wounds and build a healthier relationship with yourself as a single woman. Here are some tips that might be helpful: Practice self-compassion: Be gentle and kind with yourself. Acknowledge that the pain and wounds you are carrying are valid and that healing is a process that takes time and effort. Identify and challenge negative thought patterns: Pay attention to the negative thoughts you have about yourself and challenge them with positive affirmations. For example, if you find yourself thinking, "No one will ever love me," challenge that thought with, "I am deserving of love and I am working towards healing my wounds." Engage in self-care practices: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being by engaging in activities that make you feel good. This could include things like exercise, yoga, meditation, or spending time in nature. Build a supportive network: Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. This could include friends, family members, or a therapist or counselor. Explore your passions and hobbies: Spend time doing things you love and that bring you joy. This can help you build a stronger sense of self and confidence. Remember, healing is a journey and there is no timeline for when you should be "over" your wounds. Be patient and compassionate with yourself, and keep taking steps towards healing and self-improvement.

[@pamelamaxwell3071]

I am 55 years old my name is Pamela, and I did not realize how very wounded I am. I am desperate at this point. I live with a man just as you describe, avoidant. I love him very much and want to have things work. Please, advise me. I now know I am wounded. Where do I go from here?

[@onepilltwopillredpillbluepill]

Did you figure it out? ❤️

[@stefanosssifandos]

Hi Pamela, it's great that you have recognized that you are feeling wounded and are seeking advice on how to move forward in your relationship. Here are some suggestions that may be helpful: Seek therapy or counseling: Consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your wounds and understand how they may be affecting your relationship with your partner. They can also provide you with tools and techniques to improve communication and build a stronger emotional connection with your partner. Communicate openly with your partner: Talk to your partner about your feelings and concerns. Try to express yourself in a non-blaming way and be open to hearing their perspective as well. It's important to be honest and authentic in your communication, but also to be respectful and empathetic towards your partner. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Engage in activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, spending time in nature, or spending time with loved ones. Make sure to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, as this can help you feel more confident and grounded in your relationship. Educate yourself about attachment styles: Read up on attachment theory and how it can impact relationships. Understanding your own attachment style and that of your partner can help you to better understand how your past experiences may be affecting your relationship dynamics. Remember, healing and growth is a journey, and it takes time and effort. Be patient and compassionate with yourself and your partner, and keep taking steps towards building a healthier, more connected relationship.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

Heidi Priebe just put up a great video in the last 36 hours, I've only had relationships like this. Eventually I realised I was going in to a relationship nearly waiting for the relief of knowing it was over, as the insecurity of wondering if it was stable was so awful. I realised, if I prefer the certainty of "you're dumped" to a relationship, then obviously I can cope with the so called worst! It helped me relax.

[@DaughterofShakti]

I’m a female but I relate to the men more. But thank you for this wonderful video ☺️

[@stefanosssifandos]

You're welcome! It's great that you found the video helpful even though you may relate more to the male perspective. Remember that everyone is unique and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships. It's important to understand and respect your own needs and those of your partner, regardless of gender.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

That's a stage in The Heroine's Journey. Later comes reintegration of the feminine. Women are AMAZING, don't cut yrslf off. Namaste ❤

[@irmalair1]

I need to know exactly what to do. I tried and tried but nothing 😣 I have an impossibly difficult time dealing with men or believing that any man could love me or even like me, not even as a friend. All because of my father. If a guy just says hi to me regularly I automatically shut down because I'm sure 100% that the moment he gets an inch closer or the moment he gets to know 0.00001% of me he'll immediately dislike me. And even when I try thinking about the possibility of being with someone, my thought is that they'll only stay until they find someone else or they'll stay while cheating and enjoying themselves elsewhere. My relationship life is ruined.

[@piyaliroy3417]

Plz do hooponopo prayer it will help you to heal your father and your relationship

[@stefanosssifandos]

It sounds like you are experiencing a lot of pain and anxiety related to your past experiences with your father. It's understandable that these experiences have affected your ability to trust men and to believe that someone could love you or even like you. The first step in addressing this issue is to seek help from a professional therapist or counselor who can help you work through your past traumas and develop coping mechanisms for dealing with these negative thoughts and feelings. A therapist can also help you to develop more positive beliefs about yourself and your worthiness of love and connection. In addition to therapy, it may be helpful to engage in self-care practices that promote self-love and self-acceptance. This can include things like journaling, meditation, exercise, and spending time with supportive friends and family members. It's important to remember that healing is a process, and it may take time and effort to overcome these deep-seated issues. But with patience, perseverance, and support, it is possible to heal and to build healthy, fulfilling relationships in the future.

[@liberkhalipse]

Where/how could I reach out to you for personal guidance on this topic?

[@stefanosssifandos]

You may submit an application for coaching with me at stefanossifandos.com/coachwithstef/

[@Spacemantubu14]

Wow i didn't know about wounded women falling in love with the wounded men. Interesting 🤔

[@genussmensch4683]

Oh wow, the part about "that in our society we need rides of passages for men again, otherwise they will act them out unhealthily" was very insightful. I studied cultur- and socialanthropology and am now training to be a midwife (help women in there natural initiation ritus/rite de passage of birth), so i thought a lot about this subject, but now i could understand one aspect about men in our society way better. Thank you!

[@stefanosssifandos]

Thank you so much! 🙏🏼

[@Of_Earth.and_Seed]

As a trans woman this resonates.

[@stefanosssifandos]

I’m glad it did 🙏🏼

[@victoriaarcturus203]

Title of this is wrong you’re saying that it’s the The father were in for females but then the whole video you’re talking about males with the father wound

[@irmalair1]

Not true, did you even watch the whole video?

[@alexanderclennon]

Really great video!