Dads Set The Standard

On my dads birthday, I’m reflecting on my appreciation for the example my dad set. I didn’t realize until almost 30 that he subconsciously set the standard for how I expect men to treat me because I haven’t known any different. Girl dads rock 👍🏻
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[@gbas76]

Good daughter. We dont ask for appreciation, but it feels like heaven to hear it.

[@jonathangauthier3549]

❤🎉 This was beautiful to hear. Yes, your dad set the bar extremely high, but that's a good thing. Knowing that it will be hard for any man your age to match that level of performance is also extremely commendable. My question is whether you can be accepting that all people have flaws, and that you're probably not going to marry a younger version of your father? Will you constantly emasculate your husband or boyfriend for not living up to the high standard princess tier your dad raised you as, or will you love your man for his own traits?

[@distinguishedgentleman9993]

Wonderful! I'm a Dad and this melted my heart.

[@Tengu0341]

I’m a an old Marine. I used to ask myself why I did I get to come and some of my buddies didn’t… then God gave me a daughter and then a son. I have never had to ask that question ever again. Being a Dad is the most wonderful thing in the world. My kids are grown now and I am so proud of the woman and man they grew up to be. But I would still give everything I have, including my life, to ensure they were ok. That doesn’t make me special … that’s just what real Dads do

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@Tengu0341 this made me tear up a little 👍🏻😩 as much as this seems basic to you, not everyone has this fatherhood experience. Blessed are your kiddos for having someone like you in their corner as a dad. Thank you for restoring my faith in humanity today, I love seeing dads honoring the position they took as fathers and doing their best.

[@Tengu0341]

@@CarpeThatDemon thank you… I’m glad I was able to be a blessing to you today

[@davidj.leavitt7176]

@Tengu0341…..Yup! Siempre Fi. I’m with you. As a fellow Marine Viet Combat Vet, (67 - 75), I know the ghosts that chase us. The unconditional love for our children is the best thing there is. It calms the anger, guilt, loss, and all of the emotions we’ve tried to keep locked away.

[@Tengu0341]

@@davidj.leavitt7176 Semper Fi brother

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@davidj.leavitt7176 amen to this 🙏🏻 unconditional love for our children is a healing force and an energy that calms even the worst of our demons.

[@wendywertz8828]

My son is exactly like your dad ! My son Kyle is 32 and on his shit everyday ! Any woman would be blessed to have him ! My husband if 35 years has been the perfect example to both our boys their freaking amazing ! Proud boy mom here !

[@robertbailey1600]

I salute your Father. This is how I raised my Daughter.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@robertbailey1600 props to you papa! Love this 🙏🏻

[@curtismabbitt6963]

Love this! Your dad has shown you true love and consideration and the many ways us dad's honor our daughters. This video made my day. Thank you.😊

[@SonnyPaints]

That's amazing, your dad sounds like a great guy and you were raised right. So proud of you and your whole family. ❤

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@SonnyPaints thank you! Big love !!

[@SonnyPaints]

@@CarpeThatDemon Thank you! And same to you and yours, I wish you the best of everything!

[@joseluiscervantesmartinez8989]

Bless you!!!

[@bryant475]

Having a good father in the home is key for both boys and girls! Boys have a role model to look up to, and girls learn what to look for in a husband! God bless 🙏

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@bryant475 amen to that!!

[@Russell..ShredNeckGuitarTech]

That’s a good man and a good father. And yes, I do agree he was setting the standard. And the way you speak about him alone speaks for him as well.

[@patrickfarrell4751]

You got a Gen X Dad and he raised a great daughter!

[@joshuamaier3482]

God bless you, sweetheart. My wife was just telling me my daughters think the same. Nice to hear it from you girls

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@joshuamaier3482 it’s beautiful when children feel safe to express this 🩵 props to you papa, you’re doing great 👍🏻

[@vincehatina6987]

Beautiful! For real brought some tears watching that. Thank you

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@vincehatina6987 of course friend ✨ much love

[@MrBigBawls407]

Thanks for sharing this. There's not a better feeling than having your little angel admiring the hard work you put in for them. Everything he does, he does it for you.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@MrBigBawls407 big love 🩵🙏🏻 shout out to dads for their immense sacrifice

[@bufflibrarian]

You’re lovely💚

[@victorbrioso2877]

Thanks from a father of 4 daughters. Happy birthday to your dad.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@victorbrioso2877 big love!! Girl dads rock! 💪🏻 thanks for all you do for your kiddos

[@theforgottenone5172]

Happy Birthday to your Dad 💯👊🏽🦅

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@theforgottenone5172 thank you!!! 🙏🏻

[@BrassStorm]

Hooah....Here's to good fathers everywhere!

[@lynnjr457]

The three things I pushed my two daughters to learn were: 1. Their self worth (and I don't mean the overinflated self worth so many people think of themselves these days) 2. Situational awareness (actually see what is around you for what it is) 3. Own up to your mistakes (self explanatory) I am blessed that they have both married good husbands and fathers. I couldn't be prouder. Sounds like your Father did his job, it's nice to hear you recognizing him for who he has likely worked very hard to become. Congrats to your Dad.

[@kennethsherwood4617]

Ladies this is exactly true about us good men. All we do is love and ive been searchin for my good women like this for 40yrs. But i still do all this for the ones i love. God bless this man for raising such a good daughter to put this on the internet.

[@lmartinezlmartinez976]

You are lucky to have a dad like that. Cherish him and hope you chose wisely when your time comes....

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@lmartinezlmartinez976 I am so very grateful for him 🩵 I think his example is a contributing factor to why I ended up with someone so kind and good to me 🩵 wouldn’t settle for anything less

[@lmartinezlmartinez976]

@@CarpeThatDemon yes. And you are one of the few that actually do understand how the world is. Stay the course. Be happy and God bless you everyday.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@lmartinezlmartinez976 blessings right back my friend (:

[@TeslaRules1856]

That is an amazing thing to have as a dad. The flip side question is - are the mothers of the men you date also amazing role models ? Will they think that you have to be an exceptional woman - a real ride or die female who can bring alot to date their sons?

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@TeslaRules1856 this is something I look for as well! I love that you brought this up because this has been a very prevalent topic for me. I dated a man once who resented his mother and after that I realized I needed to also look for a man who has a healthy relationship with his mother and parents who modeled healthy, long term commitment. So lucky to have found this. My in laws are wonderful people 🙏🏻

[@riversavage5608]

Male here. My dad died in 2017. He was 10x the man I will ever be. He was like your dad. He worked hard all the time and could fix anything. Always doing something for someone. He was a police officer, welder, mechanic, taught women’s firearms safety courses, etc. He was awesome. Being a parent looked like a lot of work to me and I decided not to have kids. I could never be like he was. I am glad the girl in the video had a great role model in her dad. I did too. Hang onto to him while you still can. One day they will be gone.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@riversavage5608 I’m so sorry for your loss my friend. I’m glad you hold tightly to the wonderful memories you have 🩵 he sounds like a great man

[@riversavage5608]

@@CarpeThatDemon - Thanks! He was. I am glad you have a dad like that. I was a high school teacher before I retired and I saw first hand what happened to the girls who didn’t have a dad. Boys too.

[@maximumeffort4902]

New dad here! I'm happy to hear a dad setting the standard and I will aim to do the same.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@maximumeffort4902 hey, congrats and i wish you luck in on your journey! You got this!

[@EricThompson-bq2tv]

Good you appreciate what he has done and still does for you. That is how all dads are supposed to be take care of, teach, and protect your family at all cost.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@EricThompson-bq2tv tis true, this is how all dads SHOULD be and I’ve seen so many that aren’t this way and I can’t comprehend it.

[@sarahdoanpeace3623]

That is Awesome

[@Mattnoble80]

You were raised right, we do that because we love you and want you to continue with your children

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@Mattnoble80 wholesome 🩵 love this. As generational curses trickle down, so does generational love.

[@rogerscott9332]

Outstanding!

[@guadsquad7775]

To your point I think men kind of fall into that roll the older we get. Im 30 and the other day I took time off for my daughters birthday from work. I couldn't relax because I still had things I needed to do at my job but, as I was looking at my kid I realize that I have a duty to her and its no long about what I want my life but whats important in her's. I appreciate your perspective. Thanks for making this.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@guadsquad7775 the moment this realization hits is when your purpose shifts and you are becoming the parent you need to be. Love to hear this. You got this & ur doing great

[@keernhaslem1845]

100% we create an unobtainable standard on purpose

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@keernhaslem1845 finally someone said it 😂🙏🏻 I had a feeling

[@FortuneBound]

I hope to have this relationship one day if i have kids

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@FortuneBound All you can do is wake up every day choosing to try your best! I wish you luck if you ever do!

[@yourimitro438]

Preach! 👏👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@emptycanvas79]

You are not my child, but thank you. I needed some love today:)

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@emptycanvas79 much love friend 🙏🏻 hope you have a good day

[@flyingwombatazazz6736]

Yet she has blue hair and neck tattoos. Something is not adding up

[@Injunjoe-be1du]

When my daughter's engagement fell apart, she had to move back home with her two kids. After listening to her vent about her ex she looked at me and said, "Why can't I find a man like you?" That was probably the nicest thing she ever said to me.

[@greasybumpkin1661]

I will say RE growing into it, this was true for me. Looking back, I did have it in me the whole time but I A. Didn't believe in myself even when I thought I did and B. I was lacking purpose and belonging. There's no way my older self can compare to me after becoming a father.

[@patohara175]

Solid video. As a girl dad, I pray my daughter feels the same way

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@patohara175 all you can do is your best and be there for her always 🩵 she’ll appreciate you in time as she gets older

[@bradhiser9230]

Lots of men are that way. Thank you for noticing and appreciating your father.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@bradhiser9230 I’m noticing it seems to be his age group that this behavior is most prevalent. But now that I know to look for this behavior in men, I deeply appreciate it when I do see it :)

[@mattanderson9375]

She wins the internet!

[@kilo.nine.7773]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@blankreg420]

Here's hoping your mom and dad are still together. My wife and I met in '79 and have been together since. I'm sure my daughter feels the same way and yes, no man is good enough for her either.

[@robertturner2516]

Naturally, if your dad is a good man, there are going to be other good men out there also!

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@robertturner2516 this is true!!

[@Devilsadvocate2]

Why is it that our daughters appreciate us but our wives don't? Why is it that our daughters can see all that we do and struggle with and our wives don't?

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@Devilsadvocate2 different inherent expectations maybe? Your wife chose to be with you. Daughters didn’t choose, you’ll always be their dad. So I think that dynamic can (potentially) make it easier to resent someone that you chose, if over time, they let you down or continue let you down. With daughters, our dads are always our first hero. You have more complex matters to tend to in a marriage than with your kiddo. That being said, I think that as long as 2 married people still love each other, with counseling and therapy, this dynamic is sooo repairable. Humans have a funny way of taking people for granted after they’ve spent so many years around each other. I think we’ve all been guilty of it at one point. I wish you the best and healing. If there’s a strong desire to repair and make it work, y’all will pull thru, I know it. I believe in ya

[@DavidSantiago-z6h]

Lucky boyfriend or husband ❤❤❤

[@kentjr.1178]

Shout out dad!

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@kentjr.1178 heck yeah!!!👍🏻

[@steavfcongdon]

The good dads raise good daughters. The GREAT dads set the standard that all men should try to reach.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@steavfcongdon amen to that 🙏🏻

[@c.c.hiliner1065]

Young Lady: Listen to this: Cherish every day you have him...❤

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@c.c.hiliner1065 I do 🩵 life is short and precious

[@JamesJoseph-bg9yy]

This is exactly how I am with my daughter. She’s 8 idk what IMa do when she starts dating my standards for her are super high and unfortunately in today’s generation I only see lazy dudes full of excuses.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@JamesJoseph-bg9yy i unfortunately understand about this generations men. It’s so stressful. But I’m sure it will all work out in the end for your little one! Mines 8 too and I’m totally not ready for the dating years 😂👍🏻

[@harveybrown2382]

Sounds like she can’t find a man worthy of her because she knows what she deserves by the example of her own father of how a honorable man should act. I hope she finds someone that meets her standards.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

it took loads of therapy and me recognizing the example my dad set for me to not settle to realize I need to find someone that meets my standards. I can gladly say I have found that person and I'm happily, healthily taken. :)

[@sakrulz]

If your dad's birthday is July 17th, we share a birthday. But, that's not the only thing we share because I guarantee that your dad is just as proud of you as I am of my kids!

[@jpro1969]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Aimsport-video]

Better than a pair of socks or a tie, for sure.

[@adamreynolds1851]

This is awesome, the best thing he did was raise a greatfull woman

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@adamreynolds1851 the little things in life aren’t so little 🙏🏻🩵👍🏻

[@Fulblade]

Way to dad!

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@Fulblade heck yeah! 💪🏻

[@LibertyDino]

It took him to figure all of that out and he probably didn't always be like that. But if you bring the right guy he might take him under his wing Most dad's do not grow into anything like this. Most people emotionally do not become actual adults. Good mentorship is a rare and valuable good in this world

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@LibertyDino this is so true. My dad told me when talking about young men that he was “brain dead until he was 30”. It’s actually wild to see how many people regardless of gender do not emotionally become adults. I cherish the good mentorship I can find when it’s there 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@internetcancer1672]

I think you’re missing something critical though... Your father is doing dad things for you BECAUSE he’s your papa... Do you want to be a mother to a man that you are romantic with!? So: 1. What are you doing to be deserving of a man like your father? 2. What is your character to be attractive to a man like your father? 3. what do you do to be a a wife or GF who is as excellent as your father is to the person you choose to love? 4. Are you looking for a man or a caregiver and how much care and attentiveness to things do you offer? TL;DR: who and WHAT are you to be deserving?

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@internetcancer1672 I made the mistake of wasting many years on a man I ended up mothering. This was such a long drawn out hard lesson. It’s not that I’m missing these critical things, I just didn’t include them in the video. I know it’s a situation with heaps of variables. All these are very good, thought provoking questions. I love that you put them all in list format because this is how my brain has worked the best bringing these issues to my self growth journey and therapy the last decade. I’m not saying I’m a perfect partner, but I do know that I am an ever evolving investment and project I’ll always be working on. Since seeing the quality of character my dad brings to the table in his daily life, it’s been a major driver for me to realize I should be working on myself and growing if I want a healthy, balanced relationship. I also had very low self esteem for the longest time.. so until I worked on and challenged myself to become someone with character that I’m proud of, I didn’t feel right bringing someone else into the equation. It was not until I could answer all of these questions you listed confidently that I felt comfortable committing to a person. It only felt fair. How can I expect a partner to grow into a person i respect heaps if I have not gone in the trenches of self improvement and done the same? I could do a whole other video on this topic cause there’s so much to talk about. Im very self sustaining, happy alone and don’t ask a lot. I don’t want a partner parenting me, because im so self sustaining and trust my own self to get thru life successfully, but I do seek fairness. If I’m bringing a hell of a lot of empathy, growth and attentiveness to a relationship, I only would like to be loved how I love.

[@stanlyqbrick1621]

Good for you but more importantly, what standard did your mother set for you as a woman to attract and keep a man (Being wanted for sex is not attracting a man)?

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@stanlyqbrick1621 this is a very interesting topic I’d love to dive into in another video! Cause that’s definitely the 2nd piece to the puzzle ! Both standards have such an impact and are just as important 🙏🏻

[@stanlyqbrick1621]

@@CarpeThatDemon yes, you talked about the appeal of a traditional male. This is your lizard brain talking and 100 years of feminism cannot override that. Understanding obviously that this will also apply to men as well. Once women can realize this then the appropriate steps can be taken for many. But the conditioning can leave many struggling to comprehend let alone take the required steps.

[@stanlyqbrick1621]

@@CarpeThatDemon yes, 100 years of feminism cannot dissolve our lizard brains needs from the opposite sex that has developed over tens of thousands of years. Often Referred to as traditional.

[@yellowblanka6058]

Not sure why I was recommended this video, but I think many of us WISH we could be that guy, but I'm just a mere mortal. You don't have to be perfect to be a man, you just have to treat people with respect, honor your commitments, and love and protect the people in your life. I think the problem is decent guys being considerate to partners who take them for granted/don't appreciate it - a little bit of acknowledgement, affection and love once in a while goes a long way, "hey, I notice all these things you do for me, I don't take you for granted" etc.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@yellowblanka6058 a mere mortal 😩🙏🏻 bless ur heart. I agree with this 100%. Too many good people get taken for granted. The practice of noticing the little ways people show love & expressing that gratitude is so necessary

[@yellowblanka6058]

@@CarpeThatDemon True that - every human being wants to be validated, at least once in a while, to know that they matter, they have some significance. Unfortunately, a lot of people end up seeking validation from the worst kind of people/that thirst for acknowledgement/validation inverts into attention seeking behavior because they never got the love/validation they really needed. I don't have kids yet, but I can't imagine it's fun raising daughters in 2024 with the social media obsession, cyber-bullying, creepy dudes etc. - I would be an anxious wreck if I had a daughter right now.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@yellowblanka6058 this is so true. Too many unhealed people loving half heartedly as long as it benefits their unhealed wounds that need tended to. Self awareness and relational awareness goes a long way. Honestly yeah, having a daughter in this day and age is so stressful 😩👍🏻 I’m doing my best

[@matthewhelsley2840]

Dads get trashed so much all the time in this culture. Even on Father's Day people can't let people show appreciation for their Fathers -- they'll sh*t on dads even harder that day instead of just being quiet for that day and letting others enjoy it. Mothers' Day is the second most widely celebrated holiday after Christmas. Fathers' Day is nearly the 20th. Can you even name 20 holidays you genuinely look forward to every year? That shows how men, more than women, get taken for granted -- even when they're a great father they're expected to quietly endure being *shxt* upon on a day that's *ostensibly* for celebrating them (which also often coincides with school graduation days -- in contrast Mothers' Day doesn't get double-booked).

[@davidanderson7460]

He didn't convince his daughter that getting tats all over her was a bad idea

[@donniebarajas8564]

It's a good thing to not have daddy issues.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@donniebarajas8564 I’m not trying to paint it like I haven’t had daddy issues in the past. My father and I both had a redemption arc thanks to therapy. It wasn’t always healthy, but what matters is the way we repaired individually and together

[@donniebarajas8564]

@@CarpeThatDemon it's good to have that in your life. Lotsa folks search to fill that void. It's great that you were able to work that out with your pops, instead of filling that void with senseless things.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@donniebarajas8564 you can only take so many years of senseless things before the work that has to be done is still there. And you still have to face those demons. I been a mess and decided I was tired of stewing in my brokenness. Grateful I’m not afraid of hard work. Anything is possible

[@donniebarajas8564]

@@CarpeThatDemon don't know you personally, but I am proud of you for doing the work.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@donniebarajas8564 thank you friend, your kind words are appreciated ✨

[@Dawnarow]

Insane how people dont see how this caused an issues with her thats come to expect more than most if not all men could provide if she's not doing much of anything. No offense but she doesnt seem like she worked hard on anything that's valuable to men... and possibly gave it away. Sorry for everyone that misconstrue my msg but glad for the few that did. Take care regardless of your understanding of these variables..

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@Dawnarow I’ve worked hard for everything I have, I’ve spent nearly a decade of my time in therapy and working on myself. I bring alot to the table, so I expect that in return. Having these standards and wanting a fair, healthy partnership has worked in my favor since I’m indeed in a happy, healthy and committed relationship. I’m fortunate to have people in my life that see me for more than skin deep judgements. They see my resilience, my nurturing nature, my critical thinking skills, my curiosity and hunger for constant growth. If you think that how I look is an immediate assumption of the amount of work I’ve been through in the last decade to become a quality person who sits confidently at any table.. I really don’t even know where to start with that level of close minded nature

[@rickroller420]

But those neck tattoos say she doesn’t go for guys like her dad

[@sakrulz]

Tell me you don't know her dad without telling me that you don't know her dad. Tattoos are an expression of individualism, and dads want their kids to feel strong enough to where their children do NOT feel that they need someone else's approval to validate their own decisions.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@sakrulz precisely 😇💪🏻

[@yellowblanka6058]

@@sakrulz Considering how tattoos/tattoo parlors have gotten more popular, especially among the college aged, I'm not really sure it's as much of an expression of individualism anymore. Remember when every other d-bag had the "tribal" tattoo on their arm(s)? Personally tattoos in general don't phase me, but being honest, if I see somebody with neck tattoos/a lot of facial tattoos it takes me aback, at least for a moment, I suppose that's the primitive, judgemental "fear/fight" part of my brain. But, I've known a few people that had tattoos that were great people and plenty of "clean cut" people without any that were sociopaths, so you can't judge a book by its cover ultimately. We like to think you can just look at somebody and instantly know what they're about/their inner thoughts, but the idea is patently ludicrous.

[@sakrulz]

​@@yellowblanka6058It depends on the tattoo and the personal reason(s) for the tattoo. Yes, some of them are simply a fad, but others, like the semicolon tattoos, IGY6 tattoos, and heartbeat tattoos, are becoming more popular but not a fashion fad. Saying that YOU don't, for any particular reason, like the placement of a tattoo (using your examples), does not mean that that person's personal preferences are of any less value than yours; different strokes for different folks. You are allowed to have your own opinion(s), but you are not allowed to tell others what they can or can't do, as long as they're not hurting someone else. Their personal preference has just as much validity as yours.

[@yellowblanka6058]

@@sakrulz To be fair, where in my post was I "telling others what they can or can't do"? I was just giving my personal opinion on certain tattoos - anybody who knows me knows that I am probably the most "live and let live" guy on earth, I believe everybody should be able to live their lives as they see fit as long as they're not hurting anybody else. Also, you'll notice I said that this would just be my first, gut reaction, while ultimately conceding that the initial gut reaction is really not rational and you can't judge a book by its cover.

[@jfotts]

I can’t help but wonder what her dad thinks about the neck and face tattoos.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@jfotts he’s pretty indifferent. He doesn’t personally want tattoos on himself, but he knows I’ve been artsy and expressive since i was a kid and has always encouraged me to just be myself :) regardless of the noise around me

[@jfotts]

@@CarpeThatDemon I was just curious. As a dad of two and one of those two being a 20 month old little girl. Trying to make sure the right moves for the next 20 years so she is raised right is a scary and daunting prospect. Good video.

[@eF_cz]

I'm not sure if this is completely right. Considering you're almost 30. I doubt that there was any recorded historical period when great women have been in such demand. Wish you all the best and in a relatively short time 👍.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@eF_cz everyone’s perspective, reality and experience varies greatly. Often, topics I speak on are contextual and subjective coming from the lens of my personal reality and a religious based upbringing. I invite other perspectives, they are good to hear and i love discussing the nuances of debatable topics with people. Thank you for the well wishes friend 🙏🏻

[@Dreining]

I bet he's a big fan of the face tattoos

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@Dreining he cares as much about them as he does me wearing makeup. He’s always given me safe to safely express and be myself. Ive been a lil artsy, expressive bean since i was small and he always wanted me to be 100% me. Now that I fully own and love who i am, he always tells me how proud he is of me. I take up space and am secure in myself. Like he always taught me to be.

[@lockonstratos7787]

I dont know if i trust what she says, im seeing 2 r3d flags out the rip. Colored hair and tattoos

[@ronin2963]

You are not good enough for my son

[@CarpeThatDemon]

well I’d sure hope you’re not looking for random married women on the internet for your son 👀

[@airforceretired5094]

I guess I'll never get used to girls with tattoos, especially a neck tattoo. Looks so tacky. Always makes me think they were passed around by a Biker Gang

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@airforceretired5094 with all due respect sir, I grew up in the sticks competitively riding horseback & cutting cattle. Yeehaw 🤠 👍🏻

[@airforceretired5094]

@CarpeThatDemon Thats Great. Tattoos on a female still looks tacky. Just my opinion

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@airforceretired5094 well it’s a good thing I got them for me then :)

[@airforceretired5094]

@@CarpeThatDemon OK, Enjoy

[@lrdisco2005]

And your mother left him, didn't she.

[@samiam247]

Never seen you before. what's a carpe demon?

[@kadekyle5763]

Seize the Demon

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@samiam247 you know the phrase Carpe Diem? Sieze the day? It’s a play on words for funsies. Carpe Demon, sieze the demon 😂👍🏻

[@samiam247]

@@CarpeThatDemon Oh cool, so you're smart. maybe I'll stick around if you want, but I'm a biker, and I'm crazy.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@samiam247 I’m dating a biker I understand how it is!! :) not here to judge just to be myself and encourage that authenticity in others. All I want is people to have a safe space to be themselves

[@samiam247]

@@CarpeThatDemon Seems to me you're a wise and tenacious old soul, and you'll win!

[@Joseph-gm3qm]

Your dad sounds like a good man and a good example, but I wouldn't want to date you. A woman who's that tatted up is unappealing to me. I'm friends with women who are tatted up like that, but we're not attracted to each other in that way.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

different strokes for different folks! I respect everyone's right to a different opinion. I'm certainly not everyone's cup of tea. Good thing I'm off the market and don't have this to worry about!

[@Joseph-gm3qm]

@@CarpeThatDemon I respect that 👍.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@Joseph-gm3qm much love my friend and many well wishes! 🙏🏻

[@Joseph-gm3qm]

@@CarpeThatDemon Same to you 👍

[@jerryanderson5198]

Then why do you have so many tattoos

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@jerryanderson5198 i am an artist. I’ve been expressive and creative my whole life and my dad always nurtured that. He taught me to be secure enough to be exactly myself 🩵💪🏻 nothing less.

[@livewire4519]

Nice to see a youngster these days acknowledge that. Another reason girl dad's are like that is because the dads remember what they were thinking about when they were teenagers and into theor 20s so they know what boys have on their minds and don't want their daughters being used and hurt.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@livewire4519 oof that’s a good point I never thought about it like that

[@livewire4519]

@CarpeThatDemon Yea. Plus, with a little boy, you only have to watch one little boy. With a little girl, you have to watch ALL the little boys that come around. Men remember what they were thinking and/or doing when they were that age. Just nice to see a young lady, especially this day and age, acknowledging the standards their dad set and how hard he works/worked to provide and all things he did/does to make sure everything is working and going smooth.

[@Gigatechi7]

Gorgeous woman

[@eze2190]

Wish you the best finding a husband. Being covered in tattoos isn’t A red flag it’s a parade of red flags.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@eze2190 I’m already happily wifed up, thank you :) 🙏🏻 some men aren’t bothered by such silly things as tattoos

[@waylongr]

Can i get your dads number?

[@jaredhumphrey9147]

He didn’t tell you to not get neck tattoos.

[@CarpeThatDemon]

@@jaredhumphrey9147 he told me to be myself. and to take up space. Regardless of the chatter. So now that I’m a self sustaining adult, I’m not bothered by people that only think skin deep