How to Make Her Want You Without Trying Hard (Works Instantly!)

[@randomnameindeed]

I love it when Dan pretends to be that neutral or insecure guy, it's hilarious! 😂 Another great video, Dan, thank you!

[@DanBacon_]

😄 👍

[@DavidG2P]

I agree, it's totally hilarious. The eyes, and that serious, fearful face!

[@grewinski]

As Always....Top Quality Content Bro. Oddly enough I found This channel after already figuring this stuff out, but its nice to listen and recap.

[@dendanskehelt4296]

Curious, how did you find out? Did you just go out and hit up women? I have a buddy, who seriously need to do that.

[@DemonDavisK]

Been watching Dan Bacon since 2019 and I can confirm, this work lmao.

[@DanBacon_]

👍

[@User-fo8yx]

Awesome Im just a new timer. Dan stands out in the manosphere crowd. It certainly helps the interactions.

[@Sh0ckmaster]

Since getting my head around the idea of PCH (Playfully Challenging Humour) I've noticed I seem to do a lot better with women. Wish I'd known this 10 years ago, but thank you Dan for inspiring me.

[@yvesgysel9834]

I just stumbled on your channel, and this is 💯 % true. Teasing even disagreeing. This shows masculinity and confidence, so she can be in her feminity. She will test this.

[@merlini6213]

after watching your videos for a while, I really really found and remembered the natural part of me related to this stuff. I've always been a natural, but after some stuff, it was turned off. now it's turned on more than ever before. thank you dan. you're a genius

[@onurdegirmencitv]

Dan Bacon is the GOAT. How can we become a master at this like him?

[@Crickedits5]

Hey Dan 👋 Just want to tell you that your videos changed my life...❤ Thanks 🙏 Can you please make a video on what to say when meeting first time?

[@merlini6213]

dan, you're a great expert on this stuff. you always make it look easy the way it really is

[@justjames1111]

Excellent advice as usual. Thanks Dan.

[@xmarksthespot4021]

Pushing her buttons is definitely what inexperienced guys should do. It's how I got my first proper girlfriend.

[@thehowtostudios1980]

i love pushing buttons, and they love it. always slightly arrogant and it makes me laugh.

[@DanBacon_]

For sure. When a guy just adds a bit of that in here and there, women are so appreciative of it because it makes them feel girly in response. It creates an exciting dynamic where she can sense that he's not looking up to her, or fearing her. Instead, he has the confidence and awareness (that she likes it) to occasionally play with her/mess with her.

[@Kruger-dd6hz]

Ok, thanks, great advice. Wow, I think I'll go and have a beer now. Thanks again!

[@RohitKapoor-k4x]

Hi Dan. There was an ongoing joke between me and my friend. She was laughing and all that. I continued the joke with her and involved one another very good mutual female friend in it as she knows both of us well. One day, the first seemed upset. I had crossed her limits and sincerely apologized for that. She said now the misunderstanding is clear. I gave the situation a 7 days space and started conversation again. She replied but took a long time to reply to my messages. I thought no problem and after some time initiated again but she was still distant and even ignored what I was asking. If I asked two things in conversation, she replied to one and ignored another. I handled the situation with utmost sincerity, maturity and understanding. I even used playfully challenging humour and all that and she gave laughing emoji for those things, still she is like that. Why ?

[@DanBacon_]

Sounds like a classic case of you taking what women say and do too seriously. Yes, respect a woman and treat her well, but don't turn into a scared little rabbit when she seems upset by a joke. If a person can't take a joke that's their problem. A joke is a joke and as a result, if a woman gets upset by it, you can laugh at her in a loving way for being a dork who can't handle a joke, or someone who needs to stop taking everything people say so seriously. If she sees that you become afraid at the slightest bit of 'upset' from her, she's not going to respect you. Women instinctively know that their emotions change like the weather. She can be happy about something one minute and then nervous, anxious or upset about it the next. If you can't get her to see the humor in ever-changing emotional state about something and then laugh at herself, or at least lighten up, then you will get dragged into her drama and she won't respect you. Cheers, Dan

[@lint8391]

Great advice from Dan. To which I'd add, don't overdo jokes when they're at the expense of the other person. Because an overdone joke in this context is bullying. Making a joke twice is fine. But when you go on and on about the same joke at her expense like a stuck record, that's acting like a socially uncalibrated jerk. If you make the same joke 4 times in one evening you might get away with it if you say something nice straight away after pushing the joke for a 4th time. But your empathy should automatically be pushing you to drop the joke and make some other joke or to have an interesting conversation without the humour for a few minutes.

[@jonathan6480]

Hey Dan, you said in a recent video that one of your students started dating his yoga instructor. How did he go about that in class, etc? I'm interested in mine lol.

[@nachourrutia]

BEST DATING COACH BY FAR !!

[@harryfanning5566]

Dan is Tha MAN 👍👍... Thank You Sir

[@Skibidi4234]

I texted my ex saying happy birthday and i said "ull be an adult soon start acting like it" and she responded "uve been an adult for 2 yrs and ur still not acting like it and i said "82% of those 2 yrs i have acted like an adult" Did i do good?

[@domidivo]

I'm in my early forties and I've noticed that women that I'm attracted to in their mid twenties look at me as if I'm some old creep even though women my age that I'm completely not interested in openly tell me what they want me. Did anyone else have that experience?

[@castontbeston]

Excellent work ,Dan😎

[@DanBacon_]

Appreciate it! 😎

[@dylanharrison3750]

what up dan, watching Alpha Male Power at the moment, main thing ive been pondering is how to stay calm around a pretty woman, and how be attractive in conversation without having apposing body language or tonality, also not being too overly tryhard to attract, any tips

[@dylanharrison3750]

guess you answered the question lol another thing ive wondered is what would be a good response if a girl rejects a kiss from you

[@DanBacon_]

It really depends what she said or did to reject it (i.e. did she playfully reject it, was she trying to seem innocent and make you like her more, was she trying to make you wait to make you like her more, was she turned off by you, was she testing your confidence) and what your approach with initiating the kiss was. With a question like that, I need a lot more detail to give an accurate answer, otherwise the response is useless. Cheers, Dan

[@dylanharrison3750]

@@DanBacon_ well it is a hypothetical, we were hanging with friends and flirting all night,touching, sexual inneundos, long eye contact,asking if her hair looked good blah blah vibe etc, mutual attraction for sure, we dropped our friends off and it was just me and her in the car, i didnt go for the kiss, I usually do have the balls to do so with other women but this is a long time friend so kinda wimped out, next time i will make a move but i just have been thinking to myself what the f would i say if by chance i was rejected? not stressing just wanna know what the expert has to say

[@DanBacon_]

​@@dylanharrison3750 It doesn't sound like she would reject you, but if she did, just laugh and say, "Okay, no kiss for you then" and make sure you say it with a smile and in a playful, easygoing way. Yet, if it's a one in a million case where she rejects you and says, "Sorry, I don't see you in that way" just laugh and say, "Okay, let's just be friends then" with a smile that shows that you know she feels attracted to you and is just being weird about it. However, it doesn't sound like she would be weird about it (i.e. she was touching you, long eye contact, flirting, dropping sexual innuendos). I mean, how much more obvious do you want her to make it? 😄 Cheers, Dan

[@mubashirafridi8085]

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[@briancanbefound]

Brilliant Dan

[@jj6392]

Hey dan, im 31. Didnt really have a great 20s with women, being overweight. Ive changed thay now, in great shape but i fear its too late for me to have that abundance with women in their 20s. I just really want that abundance lifestyle for a while before settling. Is it too late for me?

[@DanBacon_]

It’s never too late to learn the skill of attracting women. As you have now realized, getting in shape doesn't make women run to you and ask you out. You have to interact with her and make her feel attracted as you talk to her. That's what really counts. Guys who are skinny, fat, in shape or have a dad bod can and do that all over the world. You will have seen it yourself. It's about how the guy makes her feel as he talks to her. Once you know a few different ways to make a woman feel attracted to you as you talk to her, you're good - you're set for life. As for your age, 31 is an amazing age for a man. Unlike women, who tend to lose attractiveness as they age, men increase in attractiveness if they become more confident, emotionally masculine, emotionally intelligent, etc. You can learn what you're missing here: www.masterattraction.com/lessons

[@reallifecampaignmode]

31 youre good that’s the pretty much age of most world champ fighters and movie stars in their prime

[@jj6392]

@reallifecampaignmode true. I hear a fair bit about guys in Their mid to late 30s pulling girls in their 20s regularly. Just have this mental block that I need to get over.

[@MrmorpheuZ]

I was in a relationship for 19 years. I'm now 41 and putting Dan's tactics to work. Last squeeze was 23 and smoking hot. Have a date tonight and I have a 26 yo in my dms... never too late mate 😉

[@russ9921]

@@MrmorpheuZ60’s here and you’d be amazed how it can continue beyond your age too.

[@RyanJones-m1s]

Do you do live zooms to role play? Could charge a membership. You’re welcome

[@RyanJones-m1s]

I just want 10% for the suggestion 😂

[@DanBacon_]

I don't do that, but I do offer phone coaching: www.masterattraction.com/phone-coaching A phone coaching client recently approached women while on a call with me (his phone was in his top pocket). Despite the woman being friendly, he made some mistakes with the first approach and he didn't get a number. So, I gave him some pointers. He then approached again and he got a phone number when talking to a pretty woman in a fruit and veg store. Easy as pie. Cheers, Dan 👍

[@Ajstyles-e5p]

Dan whenever I like a girl and whenever I'm in the same social situation with her, I think I put a lot of pressure on myself that now my body language should be confident, my voice should be confident, I have to seem mature, understanding and intelligent. As I put effort, sure to some level I improve the way I'm performing in work and activities in a place and she will notice I'm doing good but I end up behaving in the ways that do not represent my true self and anyone can easily tell that I'm trying too hard and trying to impress. Also, I feel and behave as though I am under constant watch of her and she is judging me as a person. I feel if I don't care about it all, my true personality is a lot better and in that state, I can naturally come across as confident. How to tackle this thinking ?

[@DanBacon_]

Honestly, the confidence mindset in the first lesson at Master Attraction is the cure for that: www.masterattraction.com/lessons Members have been going from zero confidence, or over-thinking to feeling and truly being confident after watching that lesson. You'll see loads of success stories in the community about that and members usually share what they've said and done when picking up women while using that exclusive mindset. It fixes all of the confidence issues guys have. Cheers, Dan

[@BronBreakker-w7g]

Dan there was a girl who was showing me a lot of signs of attraction. The day I asked for her number, I was a little nervous and she was not showing the usual signs of attraction. She gave me her number when I asked for it. Later, she didn't reply to messages and one call. As you adviced in one of your blogs, I also sent her a photo of me attending a common event in university. I said sorry for once reaching out to her late and tried to add humour once too. I noticed she had blocked me on social media after giving number. She finally replied when I asked for clarity and she said she doesn't like sharing her number and told me on that day too but she didn't say that on that day. She was lying and blocked me after my respectful and understanding reply to her message. What do you make of the situation ?

[@DanBacon_]

Sounds like she didn't feel attracted to you and just gave you her number to be nice, or to end the interaction. You need to get better at attracting women in person. You should also understand that when texting a woman, the main thing you need to do is attract her. So, no need for the apologies and very 'respectful' texts. Just attract her, so she feels a spark with you and becomes interested. Examples of how to do that here: Sounds like she didn't feel attracted to you and just gave you her number to be nice, or to end the interaction. : kzbin.info/www/bejne/qaGmlat8rdp5f8k

[@mister-zen8491]

You acted like a puppy, always needing validation. Don't do that.

[@Pratham_Kapoor]

Dan although your channel and everything is focused on dating and all but what do you think about making some videos or programs on some other areas of life where men feel problems ? Like in one of your previous ask dan videos you mentioned a person who was bullied and highlighted bullying. I have observed when I work and put effort in some other areas of life, I am able to use that vibe and confidence to feel good around girls. Other areas may include - How to handle people who are jealous, the ones who try to put you down, how to stand up for yourself, failures, hardships, others problems in career, family, finance and all.

[@DanBacon_]

Maybe in future, but not now. It's already a full time job to make videos on this topic 😅 It also takes me 2 months of full time work to make a year worth of lessons for Master Attraction: www.masterattraction.com/lessons I have created the first year of lessons and I will be creating the remaining 4 years of lessons as I go along, while also posting to KZbin, which is a full time job as mentioned. Cheers, Dan 👍

[@Pratham_Kapoor]

@DanBacon_ All the best and thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us.

[@wendellkirton3694]

Thank you for reminding teacher Dan

[@DanBacon_]

Cheers Wendell 👍

[@GlennJacobs123]

Hello Dan. I got blocked by a girl whom I really liked. She was first attracted to me but then I think I behaved in some ways I shouldn't have. I pushed her way and got blocked. Now I am guilty of behaving in those ways and feeling I lost her respect. I am thinking whenever I will come in front of her or in the same social situation with her, I won't be able to show my face. What face I will show her after behaving as a person I am actually not ? I am seeing myself through her eyes and giving her thinking and perceptions a lot of weightage.

[@DanBacon_]

I would need to know what those 'ways' that you behaved were, in order to give you an accurate reply. What happened exactly? Were you rude to her? Did you over-react and start name-calling or getting angry or something? What happened?

[@GlennJacobs123]

@@DanBacon_ I became hesitant or nervous in one conversation asking for her phone number and didn't come across as my authentic self. Repeatedly texted although putting good gaps even when I got no reply and rather than stopping and understanding her disinterest, I even then called her and tried to get some sort of clarity from her which you mentioned in one of your blog is not the right thing to do and only pushes her. I tried to be respectful and said I didn't mean to make her uncomfortable and all but ended up blocked.

[@tyronewilliams1972]

Im so glad ive watched this video bc i was going about things all the wrong way for a lot of years now. Im definitely gonna do these tactics hes explaining in this video. For years i was trying to be nice and connect by being on my best behavior and it hasn't gotten me good results and they always left me. Im just gonna start being a dick Lol haha 😂 Jk

[@Adays700]

I’m in a relationship, but I find it hard as time has gone on to be as flirty and fun as we know everything about each other and I’ve told a lot of the same jokes. I actually always found banter with women I don’t know easier since it’s a blank slate in terms of what to talk about and we don’t know anything about each other. How in a long term relationship can I make conversations continue to feel new and exciting to her so it leads to more sex?

[@DanBacon_]

There's always something new to say, or a new thing to flirt about, or laugh about together. I've been with the same woman now for more than 12 years and because I know how to do it (it becomes a natural reflex for you when you know how to do it and get used to it), I'm always able to add in something. A little laugh, a smile, a flirtatious moment is worth more than 10 hours of neutral conversation with a woman. Creating sexual tension and attraction is so much easier and more efficient when you take a chance to not just be neutral around a woman at times. The spark is always ready to be created. You've just got to be willing to do it and know how to do it and you're set for life. BTW: Whenever I provide examples of what to say in a Master Attraction lesson, I always include examples for single men and men in relationships with women. The lessons that will be most beneficial to you in terms of what to say, will be Humor, Flirting, Witty Banter, Sexual Confidence, Sexual Vibe, Loving Dominance. Check them out here: www.masterattraction.com/lessons Cheers, Dan

[@lint8391]

When was the last time you went away for a week-end to a hotel with a swimming pool with her? How often do you go on dates with her? When was the last time you did something sexually with her that you haven't done before or haven't done for over a year? When was the last time you cooked something healthy and delicious that you've not cooked before? Are there times when she's able to see you working on something you're passionate about? EG you main way of earning a living, or changing the oil on your car, painting your window frames, doing gardening? How competent are you at making love? Giving her orgasms? Strong orgasms? Multiple orgasms?

[@also9825]

I'm wondering how this stuff works with more religious women?

[@DanBacon_]

1) Religious women are human too. They don't stop being human as a result of believing in a religion. 2) Religious women usually encounter guys who assume they are different (i.e. she wouldn't want to be playfully teased or flirted with), so the guy just talks to her in a nice way, which isn't what creates attraction. 3) Playful teasing doesn't go against any religion. It's done from a place of love, not hate. Women know that and guys who understand it know it too. Cheers, Dan 👍

[@sunilpotter7415]

After so long..

[@AutisticPhilogynist]

First again! 🎉

[@DanBacon_]

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[@kv7967]

Dan, I was wondering. As a 42yo man, how do your various videos/tips apply in terms of one's confidence when you are basically interested only in younger women in their 20s, say 23-27? I mean, I have always been confident, and had many women from my teens to my early 30s, but after 10 years of marriage divorce and kids, I am not sure what my SMV really looks like when it comes to younger women. I see women in their 30/40 full on interested but I am not. Thoughts?

[@DanBacon_]

1) I highly recommend you stop watching videos about SMV, or by people who use that term. Thinking in that way makes you feel insecure and doubt yourself around women you find attractive. You start thinking of reasons why you don't have SMV in their eyes, which will kill your confidence. Guys who are naturally good with women don't think about SMV; they just attract the woman and shoot their shot. 2) About women who are 30/40 showing interest, but not younger women. I'm 47 now and younger women are not interested in me appearance wise, but as soon as they notice my confidence from afar (e.g. when I'm in a restaurant, shop, etc), they begin to feel attracted. If I then happen to interact with them, they feel attracted to me in so many other ways (e.g. due to what I call Untamed Energy, or Masculine Charm, or Emotional Independence, or Emotional Masculinity, etc). I literally have women 20-25 get giddy, blush and show interest (i.e. subtly flirt with me) in front of my wife whenever we are out shopping (e.g. interacting with girls in retail stores), or most times when we are at a restaurant (depending on if the waitress is busy, single, etc). My wife has commented on it on a number of occasions and knows that young women find me attractive. She knows I'm not trying to replace her, so she isn't worried, but she knows that I could easily get young women if I wanted to. When I'm interacting with women, I never, ever think about my SMV or age because I just KNOW that I turn women on based on the traits that I am displaying. So, with younger women, stop thinking about your SMV and start focusing on turning them on with the subtle traits you are displaying. It works man. You've just go to do it. Members of my community range from about 20 to 72 (two guys in their 70s last time I checked) and there are a number of of guys in their 40s and 50 who are already getting results with younger women. Cheers, Dan

[@kv7967]

@DanBacon_ thanks so much for the time and effort to put all this down in words. I just want to avoid coming off as a creep, pushing myself on these young things. Also thr rust from 10 years of not dating/openly flirting is playing a role here, I am certain. I will aim to apply some of your techniques subtly and see if that gets results. I do get giddiness from younger ones but they speak to me with some respect and I am not shooting my shot because maybe they just feel at ease to smile or even talk to me, without it meaning they see me sexually as well.

[@DanBacon_]

If you assume that every young woman is just being nice, then you won't be able to shoot your shot. Women in their 20s are attracted to men in their 40s. Not all will go through with it, but a big percentage will. I have friends who haven't settled down and they're in their 40s and always sleeping with, or in 1-2 year relationships with women in their 20s. It's normal, but not something that many people feel comfortable talking about because older and unattractive women like to give men in their 30s and 40s (the kind of men they want) a hard time about it, so those men feel obligated to accept an older, or unattractive woman. Cheers, Dan

[@kv7967]

@@DanBacon_ amazing. I do like your content. And I used SMV as a term that we both understand and can relate to in terms of it being a reality, regardless of great confidence based approaches. Your responses were long and detailed and I really enjoyed the interaction. Will be paying attention to your vids 🦾

[@DavidG2P]

Drück ihre Knöpfe!

[@VladislavBabbitt]

Playful teasing and bullying are 2 different things.

[@DanBacon_]

Exactly. Well put 👍

[@cuppachief]

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[@friendlyspark9706]

Please do clean shaving dont hide your jaw.

[@DanBacon_]

😂

[@friendlyspark9706]

@ mate, clean shave you will like it and you can still grow it back. Cheers

[@friendlyspark9706]

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[@leosolis5846]

Why is everything about dominance. You have to dominate onversations, dominate eye contact, dominate other people. But dominance is basically just getting your way , aka ego, selfishness. Why can't you just be a person smh

[@DanBacon_]

1) You don't have to dominate everything. I didn't say that and I don't know who told you that you need to dominate everything. 2) It's either going to be you or the woman who is the more dominant one. If it's the woman, she won't respect you or feel attracted to you. If it's you, she will. If you can't handle being emotionally stronger than a woman, then you're looking for a mother figure. Women will never respect a man who needs a mother figure. A woman may put up with it for a while, but that is a recipe for being cheated on. 3) Dominance is not selfishness. Too completely different things. You are over-reacting and exaggerating, which is a feminine trait. Cheers, Dan