On the Job with Joe and Rocket

[@stephaniewilson222]

I enjoy hearing you talk about Joe because after all these years of watching you , and all the stuff you went through with your mom it is wonderful to see you so happy. You deserve this new good life that you have with Joe and Rocket !

[@Whole180withAliyah]

Stephie! I had no idea we're both long-time Darlene viewers. Girl, I've got to get caught up with you. Hope you're well & wish you a lovely weekend!

[@mcrow9599]

This was such a delightful car vlog. You look so happy with that twinkle in your eyes. And now we find out Rocket has a couple of furry friends too. Awesome!

[@joanneszala6277]

He helps you sort fabric and you hold his ladder, I Love it! So much of what you are talking about is my story. I have been where you are at right now and I just want to tell you it will get better. You realizing what your doing is a giant step in the right direction. I wish I had had the opportunity to share the way you do on your vlogs, instead I struggled and was miserable because I had no one to talk to. It's so easy to get caught up in "stinkin thinkin". Hope you have an amazing Sunday and looking forward to your next video.

[@patriciaratchford2826]

I love that you include Rocket in your videos! I love that dog!❤❤❤

[@donnajoseph2004]

Hi Darlene....Just getting to know you and I am so impressed with the fact that you have been sober for so long....especially in view of what I have learned about your childhood. I also see such great growth in a person who understands the part they play themselves in their own issues. You are not 'so f-cked up' as you think. Your self awareness is real personal progress. I think you are far more 'well' then you think. Wishing you the best in your life-long journey.

[@DebraPratt-ct8mg]

You seem so happy when Joe is around. I am sure that most of the people who watch you just want you to be happy as long as you are happy I am.happy for you I know this is long sorry for that just wanted.to tell that I am glad to see you smile.

[@susanpicchioni2757]

Darlene, I am so happy that I found your channel! I love the chats and I’m amazed when you talk about your childhood, Joe, etc., it is like I’m listening to myself! Please don’t stop the chats. I always get something from every chat. It’s like Darlene knows because she had a similar experience! I look forward to your next chat.🥰

[@SewManyThings]

Thank you so much for sharing all of this! I enjoy hearing about people and their lives and why they do what they do. It’s all very interesting to me. And of course Rocket was adorable as usual!

[@Lucy-l3d3c]

I’ve been watching your videos way before your mom, and I’m very happy that you found Joe, and I love when you talk about Joe!❣️

[@SueHeil-nq8vm]

I am so happy you are allowing people to comment. Proud of everything you are doing and sharing. Hugs

[@LindaFranckowiak]

Thank you for sharing your feelings. It helps me understand myself. It is like a mini Al-Anon meeting for anyone. Keep sharing. Lin

[@staciebarndweller774]

I'm so happy you have a best friend. I found mine over forty years ago. Hugs from Michigan.

[@lindadavis2754]

I think it may be helpful for you to play back this video. It's amazing how much we all can grow and learn from each other. I see bits of myself in you. Great video Darlene!

[@campinglady81]

It’s so awesome that you are self-reflective; there are so many ppl that would never understand doing that & how helpful it is 💙

[@stephaniepapaleo9001]

Glad you’re out & about with Joe. It helps me when you talked about you had a hard time saying no/your plans for your day-explaining about “people pleasing”, I make my things escalate and get out of my own way, too!! I feel like I have to be in control as well. Rocket is so cute having fun 🐶 adventures. ❤

[@KW3908]

No it does not sound ridiculous.. Those of us wh have been in those rooms understand. Keep on going. You are finding yourself and growing 💗

[@debramcfarland9975]

Such an adorable photo of you & Rocket. What a wonderful surprise it would make for Joe for his wallet. I think he would really love it. Also, it takes time, especially for one who is so organized and used to making all your own decisions on your own timeline, to be flexible and spontaneous. As you say, you are always busy, so you will always look busy to him. You don't want him to ever stop asking you to do things with him. Practice saying, no I can't today honey, but maybe tomorrow. Then, be happily together whenever you can. You've got this.💕

[@STITCHES300]

Darlene, you are one beautiful soul. You are honest with yourself. Most women lie to themselves and live unwell. You are definitely on a road to clarity. I love you as a sister.. keep striving for positive change in your life.❤❤❤

[@mantistoboggan2676]

I get set off on really small stuff like that. I think this all makes a lot of sense and you have excellent self awareness.

[@audreynims4940]

I totally know your distress! I find when I learn these things about myself, I know too much to be comfortable with old habits, but it's fucking hard to feel right about getting out of my head and make different choices! Oldest of five kids in a dysfunctional family, caretaker, caregiver, people-pleaser, overachiever, responsible for the sun rising, and finally learning to take responsibility for getting out of my self-made misery. Good talk! Thanks!

[@lisalambing6104]

We always say to each other, " You're not the boss of me.." and with love, that usually resets our thought process. ❤ just can't say enough, how happy that YOU are happy!

[@marciakannus1414]

Your little chat really touched my heart today and I saw a lot of what I used to be in you. I have now been by myself for the past 15 years and have learned that if I go with the flow, believing that God has a new plan for me to follow, it generally works out to be that way. So when things happen that my plans change I now believe that it all has been worked out in a better way for me and I can actually give myself permission to alter my own plans. It makes for a happier me. Best wishes on your future, take a deep breath, and enjoy your special times.

[@melvahaley7096]

I sure know . I have had to be an adult at 11 years old. My mother left me by trying to starve herself to death. Awful awful day coming home from school to see people taking her away. One year later she never recovered. It was me and her till she passed. I am 64 today. Loved this talk. ❤ I will keep you posted on finding that good man. Omg yes i have vertigo and your eyes play a big part in it. Have more more fun.

[@ChristineCaramihalis]

💜I just love your vulnerability, your emotional intellect and honesty!!!

[@karenavey2183]

So much learning! Effing awesome!

[@TheH20please]

Hi, sweet pup Rocket. It's 1:50 AM and I woke up to the most wonderful sound .... intense rain pounding on the metal roof of my tiny house. Darlene, thank you for sharing your thoughts about your not being able to say no. It took me decades to realize that I was allowed to say no. Being raised by a strict, demanding, 'don't you dare embarrass me', career military father turned me into an anxious people pleaser. That and the horrific Catholic guilt ruined the first half of my life so very much. As an old lady I have learned to treat myself like I would treat a child in pain.

[@alleyse1]

The things you talk to us about life may sound weird to yourself but much of what you speak about can be an eye opener to recognize things in ourselves.

[@margotnorris5563]

Thank you for sharing Darlene! I can so relate to what you’re saying about just wanting to make people happy. For me, it has backfired big time at least 6 times in my life…ending with the friend getting mad at me and that was the end of that friendship. But I’ve learned from those and try to set boundaries and be real. I grew up kinda the same as you. We’re all so complex? Thanks for sharing!

[@janecheesehead3178]

"clinging for dear life one rung up" would make a good song/book/video title. ha

[@-Lily7415]

I enjoy your talking videos I’m not crafty 😂 Growing up crazy is when I subscribed because I grew up crazy too. I think you have many people like myself that love to hear about your everyday life . That lady who commented you would lose subscribers is wrong . She can tune in to just crafts & I will tune in to Darlene talks videos Something for everyone 💚

[@karenwazny7994]

I grew up crazy but didn’t even know I did until two years ago when my sister died. Crazy family secrets!!! Not dealing with with it well either!!

[@michellephillips2813]

I say let Rocket decide whether to go or not. ;) I remember rides with my Grandfather and Father. You can learn new things! I cherish those memories. I bet Joe likes you to share and learn his things like you share yours with him. Good to have separate things also but the main thing is make sure Rocket gets his time also. He has got to keep up with his lady friends. Thank you for the smiles. ❤

[@joburkham8890]

Rocket is a doll ! I have a Mini Pin someone abandoned. Aww a lady friend ! 💞💞

[@lisalambing6104]

Oh geez, girl! These are fun times of being in a relationship!😂 And truly, men only "hear" maybe half of what we say! 😅 Good for you, Darlene! I'm enjoying watching you even more!❤❤❤

[@princesspro21]

I love seeing you so happy 😊

[@jordllong]

I love your car vlogs! I am currently sat watching you from my tv, with my cat sat at the side of me, watching Rocket!🤭

[@dianawardrip5171]

How cute, Rocket, Chloe and Penny, adorable!!!!❤❤❤

[@DianeHartwick-vk8mw]

Keep doing what you are doing your on track.Your real.😊

[@JanetLHasselblad]

I think you are kind of great. Thanks for being yourself.

[@saleenahaffenden8292]

As an Aussie,, i just adore Joe's Southern accent :)

[@patricianewman5233]

22 years with a drunk, 7 years single, met a man from hills of arkansas and lost him 4 years ago. 32 good years of fum. Them Arkansas guys are special.😊

[@Lynn88.]

Lots of time I will bring my crocheting with me in the car when I am with my husband. That way I can be out and about with him and still do my work.❤

[@joanatchley8979]

Try giving yourself permission to be spontaneous with Joe. I was married for 45 years to my best friend. He passed away 5 years ago. I often dropped everything to go do stuff with him. We had fun. I am blessed with those memories. In the long run, everything I dropped to be with him got done anyway. I learned to give myself permission for things when I was frustrated with a boss. She happened to give me a book to read about how to improve your life. What I got out of the book was that if your life isn't everything you want it to be, give yourself permission to make the changes you need to improve things. Even though I had a kid in college and one in high school, I gave myself permission to quit that job! Wasn't long after that, I got another job that had more room for growth and much better benefits, including a pension. Give yourself permission to go with Joe and have fun. You deserve it.

[@jenniferriddle3795]

Great video ❤❤❤

[@marilyndoherty7868]

❤you have come a long way

[@jenniferriddle3795]

Listening to you talk makes me laugh. I think yours and my brain work alot alike! At least I'm in good company!!!!🎉🎉🎉 My thoughts just go around and around! Lol 😀

[@arlenefilesfuller7259]

Oh boy I get it, I truly do. It's not ridiculous. I think I might try AA, I might find out more about myself too. Hang in there, do what u do.....hugs

[@kathleenstuartart]

relatable...I'm fucked up in my head like that too...people pleasing...

[@Whole180withAliyah]

2:40 Hello, sweet Rocket! 🐶🥰

[@darlene.michaud]

I was so surprised when I edited to see him pop up like that!

[@Whole180withAliyah]

@@darlene.michaud lol, Rocket's wants in on the action & he's gotta be right where his Mama is.

[@marythetford4764]

Enjoyed your video today. Rocket is adorable.

[@sandynuber1509]

I love, in the thumbnail of this video, Rocket is sticking his tongue out. He could have his own emoji. Lol

[@dianawardrip5171]

Hi precious Rocket!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@patriciagraves752]

I pussyfooted all my childhood and early adulthood years because of a hardcore drunk father. Once I married and left home I told him off and still he tried to control me. My only relief came when he passed away. I became a controller in my new family and it has taken years and years to stop. I pray for patience all the time and at 85 I think I have mastered it.

[@lauribarr1186]

Hahaha. Of course we all have caulking guns in our trunk. Joe is a hoot

[@donnarichey144]

I had worked with my husband on roofs years ago, We used a hammer and nails. Not a nail gun. We had someone work on our home here and used a nail gun and missed so many shingles and when we had wind and storms so many came off. Glad you are having fun. Remind him to ask you if you had plans for that day? Would that help any? That is hard for you living by yourself for so long not easy.

[@DeborahBurton.]

So Penny is a cougar!!! Lol. Rocket love.❤

[@carolecaudill4962]

Rocket is a player !!!😂

[@ndlz1]

If you’re with someone, sharing precious time together is better than any plan of doing it alone. We may not have tomorrow to do things together.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@queenmarynovelwriter5397]

I'm sitting here nodding: I hear every word you're saying.

[@elena3831]

Now you can have a caulking gun in each vehicle😂

[@annalangham3950]

Oh Darlene you and I are very similar my husband and I are on the same fence ,and I am you.... It draining on me sometime too

[@Lisa-ly5gk]

I am the same way we need to be OK with ownership of our own time and needs. As my friend says we are grown ass women and that is why.... I am still on January's block so girl go out go with Joe it will help my guilt for being so behind lol😅

[@cynthiapeel1675]

At least your seeing it. A lot of people never do.

[@lauribarr1186]

Omigosh!!! I'm the same way.

[@queenmarynovelwriter5397]

💚💚Rocket is a "Player" Ha ha ha!

[@Renee1318]

Lol😊

[@bettystudzinski7200]

Life is short, eat the cake and take care of a good relationship. I’m with you totally. An afterthought, why didn’t you bring your crochet block with you and do it while you’re waiting in the car?

[@darlene.michaud]

I didn't want to crochet. I wanted to record and chat with all of you.

[@tamora.monique]

Rocket wanted to be in the camera so bad lol😂

[@karenavey2183]

Hi, lovely Darlene!

[@fisherlady408]

On my third marriage and we're going on 20 years. I have the same thing, I can't say no when hubby wants to go somewhere. I don't get angry, but frustrated because then MY plans get put off. It's okay, believe me ,I get it! You'll get used to it eventually...maybe.... after 30 years lololololol ❤❤❤❤❤❤😂

[@darlene.michaud]

But my thing is that I have to make time for Joe and his stuff. He does all the stuff I want to do like go out with me to the clubs and waits while I spend most of my time working. I need to let go of my plans sometimes. It's only fair to do what he loves too. That's how I'm trying to look at it.

[@fisherlady408]

@darlene.michaud I love that you help each other. That's really what love is about......give and take. Just like my hubby does things for me! Love ya Darlene 😘

[@lee9604]

Well if it's any comfort, I do THE SAME THING! lol It's unbelievable, but as you were telling us I thought, shit I do the same thing with my husband. Even after so many years together, I feel such guilt if I say no. I have improved, but I will torture him about it, lol. I sometimes think there's got to be something wrong with me, why do I torture him and myself...let it go, Lisa and be happy! It probably all stems from insecurity, what a damn shame.

[@lenalyles2712]

Wish we could get the rain you're getting. We got enough early this morning to wet the bottom of the rain gage.

[@mantistoboggan2676]

Rocket is so cute!

[@teresabaumbach7883]

love that little doggie close up

[@tamora.monique]

It doesn't sound ridiculous. I have the exact same rituals 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@DebR57]

Darlene you are so cute... love to hear you talk. Tell Joe I said hi and give Rocket a hug and kiss for me!

[@larnold7614]

With practice you will get better at saying no when you want to say no.

[@kathleenkroha2063]

Could you have brought your crochet block?

[@darlene.michaud]

Yes, but I wanted to record. It was a sneaky way of me still being able to work, lol.

[@caroltanori2442]

Joe Joe and Joe

[@darlene.michaud]

Yes, yes and YES!

[@tamora.monique]

I need to go to one of those meetings but my addiction is food 🤷🏽‍♀️. How do you find meetings for food addiction?❤

[@darlene.michaud]

You can see if there is an Overeaters Anonymous near you here: oa.org/ I tried them maybe when I was like 20 and I hated it. But I also hated AA too. I would give them a try but I no longer have a food addiction now that I'm carnivore. And I bet they would poo poo the way I eat.

[@tamora.monique]

@@darlene.michaud actually I've been doing a lot better and losing weight too. I'm sure they wouldn't approve of my diet either 🤷🏽‍♀️ I'm hiding it from my dietitian. I'm gonna have to tell her soon cause I ain't changing! Thanks for the resource ☺️

[@melodyengland4439]

I've been listening to all of your videos & I'm curious are you a Virgo, meaning were you born in Late August or Sept? My father was born in Sept the 9th & he was a lot like you, he was very meticulous or let's just say that he expected things to be in order. I didn't really like it at the time, but I learned a lot from him, I was the only sibling out of 3 sisters & 3 brothers, that helped my parents. I never really felt that either one of them ever really appreciated anything that I did for them, but I will say that I did learn quite a bit, infact once I was out on my own, I got jobs easily, because I had paid attention to detail with my dad about what he taught me, he taught me about electronics, about taking TV'S apart, ones that didn't work or even radios & stereos. I got jobs, at a time when hardly anyone actually had experience with Printed Circuit Boards, I had to assemble them, I learned a lot about electric components, that had to be soldered onto those boards. My dad also taught me to be quality minded, he was very particular & wanted things put in the place, it wasn't fun at all, but I learned a lot from him, not so much from my mother as she wouldn't even let any of us 4 girls in the kitchen, but somehow I became a great cook, I enjoy cooking, my mother was hard to please & to get along with, what's so odd is I am the only one that looked like her, with hazel eyes & the darker brown hair, all 3 of my sisters had lighter brown hair & blue eyes, like my dad. Well anyhow I just was wondering if you are a Virgo sign, it seems like you are, let me know, ok? Hey guess what, my dad used to take me with him to the dump as well, he told me to rummage around for good things, he could sell in their 2nd hand store, I enjoyed it, I found tons of awesome stuff & would get paid for it, by my dad giving me books I love to read, a smartie too, when I was in 1st grade I was sent into 4th grade reading class. Anyhow it would surely be great if you'd reply to this message, but I kinda doubt that you will & that's a darn shame, but it was enjoyable seeing Rocket again, well take care, bye for now.

[@kathleenkroha2063]

I dated my husband for twenty years after being divorce for ten + some years my first marriage lasted five yrs.

[@cherylwampole4172]

Hi Rocket he is so cute 😍 💕

[@vickirobles3406]

Where are you living now? We live, right now, in southern Illinois!!

[@tamora.monique]

Omg keep talking about whatever is on your mind. You are so helpful to other women like me. Other tubers aren't as truthful about themselves as you. People that don't want to hear should just fast ⏩ or leave.

[@cherylann8292]

Think with your heart, leave your head in the trunk. What you would usually do, do the opossite or keep doin the same ole and getting the same results. Do different to get different. Unless and until

[@geraldineclark4897]

Don’t use bad language

[@darlene.michaud]

Why the fuck not?

[@Corinne-e1c]

lol!!

[@Corinne-e1c]

Hi sweet Rocket 💙🐶

[@Corinne-e1c]

Very happy for You & Joe, Rocket.🐶💙💙💗

[@harbirdboo8819]

Are you new here 😂