Narcissistic Personality Disorder Explained

[@DarrenFMagee]

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[@darlenerego4891]

Thank you so very much! You describe a narc far better than I could and I have lived with one since 1955. I wasn't aware of him being a narc until a little over a year ago. I had thought he was similar to his Dad, never thinking it was narcisium I was seeing. One day I became aware!! I'm glad I did.

[@inbillsmind3048]

Hi I really like this video, thanks Would you maybe do a video on trapped emotions , and the movement of theses emotions, as you will see in your work . The fear people experience before Thay make the step to help themselves or except help . The importance of facing your fears , One more How the unwillingness to face your fears can mean we can pass on different tipes of dysfunctional behaviour that limit our life in some way , Cheers , bill

[@JoshuaLoveofficial]

The narcissist I’m in regular contact with tries to put me under the spell that I, myself, am self serving, no matter how much work I do. When I clean the kitchen, for example, it just gets done rain or shine. When this person does it, it quite often a victimization, “I’m the ONLY ONE that puts cups in here… closes the blinds, wipes the toilet etc”. They rarely do housework and when they do it’s almost as if they want a medal for it. It’s very difficult to manage. They request more and more from you and whatever you offer becomes the baseline expectation. You may cook them 20 meals and they’ll cook one for themselves and leave you scraps and claim they cook for you “all the time”. Anytime I bring it up, it’s often projected that I am delusional and just make things up. It’s exhausting.

[@Tripleb6036]

Thanks for this video. I’ve been married for 5 years and have really been put through the ringer with my wife’s behaviour. I have a 6 year old daughter who basically has no relationship with her mother. I recognise a lot of these behaviours although some don’t seem to apply due to cultural differences. The thing that always amazes me is the ability to lie and change the reality of past behaviour/actions even in the face of evidence to the contrary. I literally cannot tell when she is lying even if I know for a fact that she is. Drug abuse, scamming money , explosive and overly dramatic behaviour and incredibly self entitled. The worst part is the complete lack of bonding she shows with our daughter. She left my daughter and I for 1.5 years because the uk didn’t suit her. The issue I have is that after 7 years together I sometimes question whether I’ve just been jaded by all this and as she says, only see the worst in her. I’m a fairly strong character and I am aware of some of the manipulation tactics used but even so, I still question myself and whether I would be doing what’s best for my daughter by kicking her mum out.

[@RubensSSouza]

01:38 Grandiose or Overt 01:54 Covert or Vulnerable 02:17 1 Grandiosity. Exaggerated sense of self-importance. 02:44 2 Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love 03:22 3 Belief that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions 04:03 4 Requires excessive admiration 05:27 5 Has a sense of entitlement 06:15 6 Is interpersonally exploitative - takes advantage of others 07:06 7 Lacks empathy (unwilling to identify with needs of other people) 08:05 8 Envies others or believes others are envious of him or he 09:24 9 Shows arrogant, haughty behaviours and attitudes 11:29 Can a person with NPD be helped?

[@veronica3591]

Spot on with my ex, he have all of the nine criteria

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

No cure sorry 🙏🏽🙌

[@r.vladl.8558]

It is so sad, I did not know that this disorder is so pervasive and unfortunately destructive for the person who has it. Thank you for the useful video!

[@rosalynmoyle3766]

It is, also extremely destructive for the person on the receiving end of the abuse. At worst, the victim is reduced to self harm.

[@colleenstephenson5715]

30 years of my life, the best years off my life, I now understand, I gave to the dark triad. 12 of those years, in deep mourning for my only sibling younger brother, fighting and drinking everyday kind of kept my own demons at bay. Now that I'm eventually out of the grave, me eye's are clear like water, thank you Dr. I am following your lectures diligently practicing and trying to pass on the knowledge you are giving me. Have a wonderful day.

[@ChristiaanHartNibbrig]

The segments on narcissism were all superb. I learned from the series that a close family member, someone I've known all my life, is a classic 'covert' narcissist. This person checks six of the nine criteria. I was always mystified why this person always treated me so badly. I am not any longer. That person was and is a narcissist. It was a relief to hear an explanation for this decades long behavior. Thank you, Dr. Magee, and Bravo.

[@optimumoptimum5091]

Thanks for the valuable information and keep up the good work.

[@drfoye219]

Very well explained and some good relatable examples thank you

[@janjeny]

Thank you so much Darren. You said it all. This description fits perfectly to the narc in my life. It seems to me so unimportant to hear his own exalting himself, but he lives with that. God bless you. That explanation of yours helps me how to avoid his tactics in devaluing others

[@spawnjg]

Your videos have helped so much. Thank you.

[@Leafygreen123]

Whenever I hear the term “Cluster B”, my mind always hears it as “Clusterf*&$” instead. 🙄

[@drlarrymitchell]

In my experience, it's like picking up a stray dog on the highway because you're a good person, and then you get a few miles down the road and you notice that the dog's eating all your groceries and shitting all over the floor, and when you try to correct the dog, it develops a shitty attitude because it says you don't appreciate what a good job it's doing driving the car.

[@myjourneytotruth]

Or it turns out to be a wolf in dogs clothing 🤔

[@saltifish]

Yes, you're always making the wrong assumptions with npd people.. you won't ever be right.

[@Jamiejamjar]

Thank you for your informative videos. I am a new subscriber. I like to know more about the term 'performative empathy'. I know someone who is always seemingly lovely - but who is not quite the person people think they are and this has always confused me.

[@izolde59]

I had a narcissistic father. His weapon was verbal abuse. My brother is also a narcissist. His weapon is to ignore me and ridicules me in front of others and my child. Last but not forgotten is my younger sister. She too has inherited this disorder. I need this info. Thank you. The reason I'm writing this is because I need help. I have a therapist. It's not helping.

[@carolovesteven]

Jesus.

[@myjourneytotruth]

It's very hard to realize the truth about ones family. Gave full control of my life to my parents & they took advantage of me & taught my siblings to do the same & today claim is I've caused all the qaos from day one. I wonder which place & time was day one 🤔 Being selfless, caring, loving & trusting to some means helpless, weak, lost, unable, stupid, fearful or just plain crazy...a free for all. I wish I'd known all this years 😞

[@carolovesteven]

Same here. It’s not an easy swallow. Not only is it in your romantic and interpersonal dynamics-it’s in your family of origin too.

[@myjourneytotruth]

@carolovesteven Also other relations we can deal with eventually because we have family to help us cope and get through it but when they are the problem, it just leaves us stranded and alone 🪨 😔 🪨

[@kevindoom]

I feel a great sense of emptiness but ive never been malicious but i often wonder if i am a type of narciscist i percieve my sense of self via acomplishments or lack thereof i think deeply about the people around me. i disconnect from engaging with life a lot. i often try to help others when i see them in need but also try not to wait for any praise. i feel uncomfortable being praised but i ilke when someone says a simple thanks

[@AnonYmous-cf2ci]

This is good content. Thank you for it.

[@debbieg1406]

Thank you Dr Darren for your informative, well explained videos. They are helping me greatly. I think my husband of 23 yrs and sadly 21 yr old son tick all 9 criteria! I actually feel relieved now that I understand why I have felt so depressed & confused for so long and suffering from this horrible trauma bond. I’ve passed my limit of being their target for Narcissistic abuse now. Marriage counselling has failed of course, looking to break free.

[@Craigdna]

Thank you as all your videos are excellent and in depth, unlike any others. It is difficult to find details about the structure of narcissism and its many tentacles as many people that are putting forth videos on it, are ones that have experienced it and they can be very emotional, although, rightly so. I find it perplexing that there is this pattern of the brain getting stuck. A Narcissist is stuck on themselves, a histrionic is stuck on attention seeking, a paranoid delusional person is often stuck on fear. In addition to this, the spectrum disorders can have this happening as well in over focused ADHD a person becomes stuck, in autism/aspergers syndrome, one is getting stuck on repeatedly stacking blocks and the like, as a child, and in OCD a person becomes stuck on a variety of different things. We know that in the brain, that region where people get stuck is the Cingulate system, and shouldn't that mean that we take the approach of ensuring the integrity of the health of that region of the brain. I understand there is conditioning, and that is a huge factor. But, what if the cingulate system is susceptible to getting stuck, and whatever is prominent in someone's life from their family/friends/workplace plays a role in what they become stuck on. For example, the influence of television/hollywood on a person with histrionic personality disorder and attention seeking. Because certainly our spheres of repeated influence from these sources play a profound role.

[@fidelmashelton9491]

Very well explained. Thank you so much..

[@kitsmith693]

The problem is that are mundane, ordinary looking, average on the surface. Narcissism is not obvious. You can’t see any of these grandiose traits at first, they seem ‘nice’ & a little sad if anything. you feel sorry for them being so bland, beige, and ratter boring It’s shocking to uncover the secret traits with such an ordinary looking individual.

[@myjourneytotruth]

When it comes to family it's obvious it's easy to spot, if you aren't blinded by love for them that is.

[@mitchjohnson4714]

I love your videos. You are probably my favorite explainer of these things. Thanks so much. I have a question. My mother in law is a covert narcissist (as diagnosed by me). My wife is not a narcissist, but I do think that she often demonstrates the traits of her mother. It is challenging for me to deal with all this behavior, but I try to be patient. So here's my question. How many of these traits are simply behavior she picked up from her narcissistic mother (or sociopathic father), and how many are traits that are born of such pathologies within her? While I'm sure you cannot know for certain in her case, I would appreciate any insight you may have into the degree to which narcissistic traits tend to get picked up by children raised by narcissists.

[@robroberson9650]

I think this video is amazing

[@lindaclark568]

I believe I have a narsasistic disorder ,my father and mother were. I'm scared. They are dead now,my sister's are younger, and both have addiction problems. They drive me crazy and can't help them. lve been in counciling,but not now , lost it., because of covid.

[@ginaiosef]

Thank you!

[@themysticalexperiencer8141]

I believe NPD is not actually a personality "disorder," but a SPIRIT. The things the covert religious Narcissist (who is no longer in my life) said to me (the name calling and false accusations), were nothing short of demonic.

[@jeanettecook1088]

If you think this, please define the word "spirit". I don't understand what you mean.

[@theresagosling1530]

definitly a strong demonic component to narciccism. a spirit of Domination, Intimidation, Manipulation.

[@jeanettecook1088]

@@theresagosling1530 Please define "demon". Never met one.

[@colleenstephenson5715]

I am commenting publicly as Colleen Stephenson. I always tell the truth, it's just so much easier for me that way.

[@peterharris6604]

Thanks

[@cyndymoore147]

Would you please discuss borderline personality disorder

[@DarrenFMagee]

I have a playlist on borderline personality already if you find that helpful?

[@cyndymoore147]

@@DarrenFMagee I just watched that video and it’s very helpful. Thank you!

[@cyndymoore147]

My son has this disorder and pretty much only interacts with me and a couple friend (he’s in his 30’s). It’s difficult for me when he has almost instantaneous mood swings as we talk/text and uses disrespectful and abusive language. Listening to your video helped me understand a bit more.

[@Mnalotus-pk1pc]

I took a test and so did my spouse his final number was 17 and mine was 6. Is 17 a pretty good amount of narcissism?

[@dianahogg6164]

I'm free now three years I have a massive job now to try to pick up my adult children. Daddy is good. I say nothing no contact. We are now just able to cope. It has been racked up this week, father/ husband never said an honest Sorry ever. This week youngest daughter told me father said to her ". I was a horrible Father". Oh please he has updated his game. He must be bored sitting alone, trying to manipulate children who are loving but innocuously caring. and does his every need shopping etc. Cruel we are trying to relax and get on with our lives. He's upped his game after 3 years of peace and stability. How much damage can he inflict I can't say a word against father. I know I have had my integrity and simple human mother trashed.

[@carolmaplesden916]

what kind of personality disorder would one have to have to be one of those women who puts up with these narc psychopath that wants to talk on the internet it seems you'd have to have such low self esteem idk but something not right

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

🙏🏽🙌🙏🏽🙌🙏🏽🙌🙏🏽🙌💯

[@bahsaddigu9726]

😂❤😢

[@colmanlong1032]

Weaklings,everyone should be allowed deal with them once and for all.