DATING ADVICE: Is she interested or just being nice? (Coffee Meets Bagel Edition)

DATING ADVICE: Is she interested or just being nice? (Coffee Meets Bagel Edition)
She seems interested, but how do you know for sure? Miss Singlefied dissects some common scenarios. For more about reading her body language, check out: singlefied.word...
In partnership with Coffee Meets Bagel, Miss Singlefied is doling out some of her best dating advice to all of you! The most commonly asked question is how to tell if she's being nice because she likes you or if she's just a nice person. Unfortunately, a lot of guys mistaken nice-ness for a green light. However, that's not always the case. When a girl is nice to her crush vs when she's nice to her friends is quite different (and quite complicated). In this video, you'll learn some of those subtle differences. However, listen carefully because some of these "signs" are so subtle, you'd have to be quite observant to pick it up. And before you start the video, just know that if you like a girl, there really is no stopping you from pursuing her. If you're looking for a green light from her, she may not always show it to you. Hey, sometimes girls don't know if they like you or not until you ask them out! So, the ball is in YOUR court. Take control of the situation and spend less time trying to figure out her mind. P.S. you're not a mind reader. Thanks.
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[@CaliSwagAustin]

Act like a friend (boring questions, no flirting or touching) get friendzoned. Act like her lover (ask interesting questions, smile, laugh, flirt, touch, joke) and you will make it clear that you aren't interested in being friends. Guys friendzone themselves by acting like a friend not a sexual lover

[@DATEABLE]

CaliSwagAustin Well maybe not as far as a "sexual lover" but you're right, if you want to be more than friends, you should treat her as more than friends. Flirting is always helpful.

[@CaliSwagAustin]

MissSinglefied Well of course I'm right :) sexual lover implies that at the basic level, you want to have sex with a specific lady. I don't care what a man's religious beliefs or moral codes are, at some level, he wants to sleep with the person (which is not to say that he doesn't care about her emotional well-being). And becoming a sexual possibility is just a stepping stone towards that underlying goal, which is sexual lover. Aka boyfriend or husband, however your morals lie

[@zacflix9510]

+MissSinglefied Your grammar sucks. The comma should go after the r in lover and before the quotation. The i should be capitalized in if ,because it should be a new sentence. However interacting with your viewers is a redeeming quality.

[@e6ensperception]

+Zac Flix this is the internet. not English class

[@ldsentertainment3130]

+Zac Flix And you wonder why you're single and on a channel for dating advice.

[@CaptainFSU]

I honestly don't get how you can't understand how your own feelings towards someone...at least for me it goes like this 1. Attraction 2. Interested in same things 3. Enjoy each others company. If you meet the 3 criteria then I'm interested in you. Not hard.

[@DATEABLE]

Coire Jones Yes, feelings can be easy to decipher. But how to move forward is hard to comprehend sometimes. For example - timing could be a big issue. Some people are just getting out of a relationship, or not at a place to have a solid relationship. So it's very easy to have mutual "like," but it's not always so easy to move forward.

[@zacflix9510]

+MissSinglefied Women are easy to read. It's all psychological.

[@grandoldsoul4691]

i think it's all in how they say something. the emotion behind the action

[@LegendaryWoke]

I like this, keep up the good work Miss Singlefied!

[@doniciowever5411]

Clear enough. Moving on.

[@hurricanejoe1971]

Every female coach says if a girl mentions other guys to you she's not interested. But it's been my experience that every and I mean every girl I've ever been involved with has mentioned other male interests before we got involved. I always took it as she's telling me what to do or not to do by relating her other relationships. What am I missing? Am I just fortunate or what?

[@thor2070]

I understand the friend-zone bit. The rest of this is confusion. I did have a circumstance in 2012 with a girl, who liked to touchy-feely me, and talk with me, but she would not date me. However--she trashed the relationship between my female friend, and her boyfriend. This same man was also the "ex", of the woman, I tried to get with. That same woman wants him back, but my female friend's boyfriend kept denying that he had more than a friendship with the woman I sought to date. Then he became the "ex" afterwards.

[@DATEABLE]

thor2070+9 sounds like she is a drama magnet. I would say you dodged the bullet on that one.

[@nomibeamon1590]

I not only can't read women I have aspergers so I am still working on reading social cues lol

[@BBZoneasembotop10]

ok

[@mr.coffee8019]

The problem with women is that they often flirt too much without realizing it and were never interested in having a relationship with you. Been through it a few times and called them out on it and most of them openly admitted they were wrong and just didn't know they were flirting but thought they were "just being nice".

[@zacflix9510]

Thank you.

[@zacflix9510]

Thank you.

[@tech0enthusiast]

Haha that comment on Wisconsin made me fall out of my chair. I am a guy from Wisconsin...

[@chuy24kb]

FML!!!! She's not interested :-( lol

[@DATEABLE]

ElGuapoChuy But someone will be!

[@zacflix9510]

You're taking dating advice from some hot chick on KZbin? Watch multiple channels and find similarities.

[@MrRba122]

There was this girl in my internship place where she would bring me food until i told her i had a gf. Was she interested even though she has a bf? why would she get me food? free food?

[@AllisonMagicElite]

if you've ever been with more than 1 woman or girl you should know all this already

[@quilequila]

Ha! I love this, so true... so true :)

[@wyethcaden1699]

Just curious... WHY WILL ANYONE WANT TO BE "SINGLEFIED'.. Nono.. aint gonna let that happen to me...

[@DATEABLE]

Wyeth Caden Let's get you COUPLEFIED then

[@zacflix9510]

+MissSinglefied Yeah what the heck? Isn't being "Singlefied" another way of saying "not dating?"

[@JamandTheHolograms]

You look very pretty in this video.

[@zacflix9510]

So you give us a lot "advice," and then tell us there's no way to know for sure. Should I listen to the other stuff you said? Or not? What if all this is an evil plan to ruin the lives of men ,because some guy dumped you?

[@krystalchoo4917]

She's not lying😂😂😂

[@chasethompson2559]

So should I ask if she likes me or ask her out? B/c I know if I ask if she likes me she'll say no but is there a sighing in how she says it? Plz reply!

[@chasethompson2559]

Sign

[@DATEABLE]

Chase Thompson If you like someone, you should ask them out instead of waiting for "signs."

[@zacflix9510]

+MissSinglefied I just created an algorithm to tell if a girl likes me. It worked. No video. Math. Science. Knowledge.

[@firstatheist]

1) Yeah but the bringing up other guys can also by a probing mechanism.

[@DATEABLE]

firstatheist yes, only for very insecure girls who are seeking attention and validation.

[@zacflix9510]

Women are the most complicated thing in the world. Just go with my rule number 4 ,and always trust your gut.

[@XY-dc4yp]

yes means yes, no means no, maybe means no, no answer means no.

[@hokagehasan]

Please give me some advice, I asked a girl out for lunch but she said that she recently broke up with her boyfriend and is currently grieving, does this mean she is not interested or do I still have a chance? Please HELP!!!!! :)

[@junebug0070]

Anything that is not a yes, is a no.

[@DATEABLE]

hokagehasan Timing can be a big issue for many and it sounds like she was going through a tough breakup. Watch my "not now, maybe later" video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/j369fWmeeN2jpdU

[@Nimzowitz]

Yue the best

[@LanceJosephChannel]

Wow Why don't you have heaps of subscribers ? 😱 your a big help thank you so much 😊😁

[@larrywilson9392]

I just did. A younger former colleague stopped to talk. She smiled, leaned forward, and stared piercingly in my eyes for several seconds. She mentioned supporting her family with her new job. She had a partner, when we worked together. What does the stare mean? On meeting her the next day, she repeated it. What does she mean? Is she interested?

[@esara6]

there is one girl I know, and she gets physical with other guy\s but when it come\s to me, she doe\s not see me that way, that's how I know she is not interested, but only tolerate.

[@esara6]

dumb sex!? interesting :3

[@zacflix9510]

Why the / before the s'?

[@thepro101]

FRIENDZONE DA DA DA!

[@StefanHaasje]

Why girls are always playing games and hard to get on datingsites ? All my dates where doing if they are be nice but none of them liked it becouse they gave no response back anymore...

[@DATEABLE]

Stefan Haas It's because online dating as made us less accountable for our actions. So some people feel that they can get away with disrespectful behavior. If you find someone doing this to you again, you should call them out! Those people need to know that they're being disrespectful.

[@StefanHaasje]

Hi Yue, may I say to you your a buitifull woman? How do you know those things you tell on youtube, twitter, etc? I hope I can learn from it somewhere...

[@DATEABLE]

Thank you! All of my advice comes from my research and observations since opening my dating coach business in 2007. You can read more at Singlefied.com.

[@kokujin]

why not have dignity? you guys are not complicated. you think you're complicated. because you lack dignity and integrity over your emotions. it's no secret you step over the guy who gives you everything, and salivate over a guy YOU KNOW just wants to bone and has many options. romantism is sad news.

[@DATEABLE]

bobby smith that is true for immature people. And that is exactly how you can tell when someone has matured in their emotions and behaviors.

[@zacflix9510]

We never said we were complicated. Plus ,not all of us are man sluts.

[@mirsatlol]

stop these vids pleeeeaase

[@chuy24kb]

FML!!!! She's not interested :-( lol