Dating Advice: You Won't Hear From Anyone Else!

[@serenaspina4299]

Im not Jewish but this advice would have saved me 40 years of heartbreak and bad decisions. Wonderful video. ❤

[@JN-gk3ly]

I would love to hear your story, I’ve been hurt before and it took me long to heal. What happened ?

[@davidtesler1198]

Finally some religious man I can listen to without getting stressed.

[@SandraSoll]

I wished all of us had some of these teachings. Most that aren’t Jews don’t have these foundations unfortunately we don’t have examples or the principles that would guide us.. I appreciate these KZbin messages thank you 🙏🏾

[@gailhawkins2210]

Amen to that! If I had only known 55 years ago, I would have sought a Jewish man for a spouse!

[@unlokia]

Even goyim such as me can understand the deep and profound logic and wisdom of Jewish relationship advice such as this. Truly sound and solid words. G-D bless you ❤

[@sylverista3505]

One of the most wise people are Rabbies ❤❤❤❤

[@danitajminer3279]

I'm living proof this man's words are true. Wish I understood this 37 years ago. . . And then you are trapped in a toxic family with a child , for life, it doesn't matter if you're divorced.

[@sylverista3505]

Go and work independence = freedom 🎉

[@sarahmwasyoge1830]

Ok 11

[@timilehinmorighanfen4370]

A very nice session with the man. I learned a lot here. Most of his points cut across all countries but not all.

[@GoingGreenMom]

You somehow just explained my aversion to dating in 7.5 minutes and I'm not even Jewish.

[@sylverista3505]

Hahaha same here I don’t date and have no need to date 😂 Strange as it can be I’m happy being single but naturaly we are all in search of other half. I gave it up to GOD, if it’s meant it will came to pass if not it won’t 😀

[@Steff579]

Yep me too i don't date

[@elduderino1635]

Yeah, you only fuck around with guys you pick up, eh?

[@minamartina254]

I absolutely hate dating apps😅

[@infoManiac-rf5db]

105:45 Not the same situation but similiar, a boyfriend once asked "Which celebrity or movie star would you like to be with if you had the chance?" My answer was " No, sorry but i don't play that game." He looked surprised. He continued with "C'mon what do you mean, its no big deal, who, who is it?" I said "Nope, this serves no good purpose, why would i want this conversation?" He responded with "So you can tell me, and I'll tell you mine, that way you'll know why I want to watch certain movies." I told him, "Cute, nice try." See, he was trying to trap me into telling me something to spark jealously through fantasy land of movie watching. A very lazy way of attempting to cause jealousy without actually doing anything or knowing anyone. All weird bizzare questions that serve zero purpose other than possible hard feelings are meant to be a trap.

[@melasmontanayogahomestead7818]

Good awareness! And thanks for sharing.

[@ikponmwosaosaghae1861]

This is an act of temptation.

[@doriscasto5336]

Nurturing is a labor of love...it is giving, it is light of heart and it feeds the child and the nurturer.

[@liviaevangelista1561]

“I will give you thanks, for you answered me; you have become my salvation. The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone; the Lord has done this, and it is marvelous in our eyes.” Psalm 118:22-23

[@OscarPalet]

Wow 😲 it's amazing teaching.It's great treasure to anyone who accept it and to live according to it.

[@MichaelPeternakedde]

My God Rabbi...these are the customs we have before getting married! The more I learn the more something deep inside clicks.

[@gailhawkins2210]

Rabbi, I just love listening to your talks and get so much value from them. I just want to thank you for teaching a gentiles to what we should be expecting from husbands, and how we should be acting as wives. God's laws apply to people of all faiths. I think some of your talks should be mandatory study before anyone starts dating! There would be a lot more successful and happy marriages. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I'm a 67-year-old widow who was married three times. So I don't believe I'll be getting married again. But if I had only known what you were teaching, it would have saved so much heartache for so many people. God bless you!

[@graceelsen]

Ive never met anyone in my life who believed the same thing about dating as me! haha this is amazing!!!!

[@AP-th8ry]

Thank you, Rabbi. This is more or less about how I met my husband. I was invited to his home for the first date. When I saw his father, his hospitality and friendliness...and their relation...i was absolutely taken by it and knew straight away this man was going to be my husband. He isn't Jewish though and I am Jewish but, unfortunately, only by my genetic inheritance (my heritage was kept in secret due to the Holocaust. I live in Poland).

[@WasimShaddoud]

Am now addicted to these lectures 😊

[@estherinyang4779]

So much wisdom! Thank you!

[@jcqwater8713]

i like how dating with someone in between preserves the dignity of the person, it's such a healthy and lovely way to not put down the person, it feels like an art that was lost

[@Okeezy-v7g]

You mean courtship

[@LivingHabs]

I’m glad I found your channel today. Praise God

[@Olga_rk]

I've been really enjoying your lectures, they are so healing. This is what timeless wisdom sounds and feels like no matter your background. As someone wrote in the comments below, we're really missing some of these important teachings today. My nervous system just had a big exhale 😌 thank you!

[@aldoernesto4938]

This man is so wise.

[@nicoladownes9907]

I found he relationship advice really useful. I was not so comfortable with the suggestion of child marriage 15-16 year olds. I'm a social worker and have noticed in my past work that younger mothers tend to have more energy and enthusiasm, I worry that young girls could be taken advantage of. Thank you Rabbi for the advice around the importance of our own relationships with our own parents and how they need to be resolved and settled before successful marriages can happen.

[@GalesPress]

Rabbi, much respect. So many of us wish they had heard this talk years or a couple decades before. So maybe late for this life time. For those who got this talk earlier or who are at an early enough life stage, beautiful. ❤ 🙏

[@joviamonica368]

The best marriage is knowing who you are exactly and then reflect by seeking the exact you then you have peace 4ever

[@daleblack3229]

Wow I wish I'd heard this before. you just described the history of a failed marriage

[@stein-fredricsvendsen8530]

Stay a way from Dating apps and people who dont respect God

[@InnaVitamina777]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom,Rabbi. I watch so many of your videos and I am very appreciative of your wisdom. It is very insightful when you said "ask him about his father".. .I wish I was raised with Judaism in my home. My family is secular Ashkenazi and I am feeling that G*d wants me to change the way I live and bring up my son on these beliefs you teach. I wish you good health and prosperity.

[@josephzhang1946]

Thank you Rabbi for sharing your wisdom!

[@fosres]

I appreciate this speech. Thanks for sharing!

[@berrios27lorenso]

Getting married late is like starting a painting in a coloring book you have to stay within the lines!

[@janatnalwoga]

It's good to know Thanks for taking care of us rabbi

[@unme4yeshua]

Your wisdom is absolutely amazing to me rabbi...i wish i knew how to chat with you online...i gotta look iinto it more because i saw something pop up saying i could chat with you but i was too interested in your talk to miss anything you were saying. I hope i can figure it out. I need your advice and help...ive been very suicidal today and just started to watch you again alot more than before and you are helping my confusion with relationships alot. Im always looking for advice on relationships and what i can do to understand a mans think and make sense of it all...thank you for giving me hope today ive been feeling really lost in my life and understanding life right now. I never understood my parents behavior and this is making sense why I went through what i went through growing up and gives me a sort of peace of mind. Thanks again. I pray God blesses you wisdom.....God bless you.

[@kevinelehman6501]

Oh Lord thank you for this amazing man🙏🏾

[@rebeccacastillo4789]

Thank you Rabbi Friedman ❤

[@berrios27lorenso]

I can admire your indecisiveness

[@lizlovsdagmara5525]

Kids in Russia at 1:33:11 hit a nerve with me. My maternal grandparents lived in Russia during World War I, during the Revolution and Russian civil war. My great grandfather on my father's side was a Russian Orthodox priest. My parents and grandparents lived under Joseph Stalin. I think today's generation in the US have lived with so much freedom that they are forever children. Most of them are clueless about Russia. Some of them want to get rid of the 1st Ammendment which protects freedom of religion and speech. Now that is horrifying. 1:33:12

[@TorontoKaraokeClub]

I love your perspective on life. Always!

[@jbuntine1255]

Yes, myself and my X husband had family issues . He left his country to get away from them. His Dad was very strict .l can see clearly now. Great insightful talk.

[@MayasDream]

Wonderful teaching. Thank you!

[@julietoneill1268]

God bless you, sir Rabbi 💯🙌🙏👏

[@Nat-xu9kj]

So many eye openers and the Video just got started..

[@gabriellebargas8632]

Very good advices, thank you

[@vanguard4065]

rabbi spittin that real talk

[@irmas-music]

Use all your intelligence to know another and how they relate with you. Do your best to see your own weaknesses and good luck :)

[@cathrinrobitaille7719]

Thank you Rabbi

[@margotmargot4426]

being confortable when with others is mostly depending on how much a person is secure with herself/himself.. someone ok with himself/herself will be confortable with almost anyone, so it's difficult to understand based on this criteria..

[@angeliclight-h8h]

Dear Rabbi i am 65 i always wanted to get married no luck so now if i can find a partner it will be nice someone to share a meal go out with laugh watch a movie to me its better than being completly alone i feel very alone hope to meet a man that wants to live life because life is short .

[@dianajohn2904]

Hope you find a great guy

[@daleblack3229]

Do you have a teaching from the male side on the lines of this subject

[@beydanxujale4105]

Dating is unreligious and that is why it always fails when you are ready just choose what you think appropirate .but what is most important is for sucessful marriage you must practice religion as a tool for your daily life after you marry

[@johanabermeo2854]

Religion is the problem in the first place

[@Nessa317]

Wow! Thank you ❤

[@helloiamthechosenone]

At 27 I have recognised my aversion to dating. I have always thought of long term and it has scared people away

[@thatgirlfran23]

Godsend. Words of wisdom. Thank you ❤

[@EvelyneHarisp-qx4ux]

I don't understand why the word "dating" is expressed so negatively... Dating is just a word for physically meeting a new person. And that is a process into knowing and feeling some essential criteria about a potential lifetime partner.

[@russ254]

maybe dating is used wrongly as entertainment, and a cheap substitute for marriage

[@ellasoes8325]

What about people who end up single? And since the 1980s, so many of us do or really struggle NOT to be. Does it mean God never meant them to marry? That there was no one to "reunite" with for them? Really want to know.

[@frostqueen4904]

Wow !! 😍 Great advice

[@DulcePaolaFernándezBarragá-r8p]

IM NOT JEWISH, BUT I DO HAVE A LOVEING AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE RELETIONSHIP WITH GOD, AND GOD IS CONFIRMING, ALOT OF WHAT I DESIRE, AND MY WORDS WHERE SPOKEN LAST YEAR! AMEN, THANK GOD FOR OPENING UP MY EYES AND 🙏 🙌 💕 ♥️ 👍 TAKEING ALL THE CONFUSIÓN OUT MY MIND! 🙏 💕 🙌 💖 I LOVE THESE RABI!!

[@reneewhittinghill3440]

I appreciated your explanation of nuture an hour in. Everyone wants to be welcomed with joy 😊

[@estheraguilar7209]

What about when you have been divorced, how does this apply to getting married again?

[@margaretmojica8190]

Dating is how you get to know different people and what kinds of things you find objectionable in a possible mate and what kinds of things you like. I went on one date with one guy, to a bar, and in 4 hours he had 7 drinks. I did not date him again. Went on two dates with a guy who graduated university two years before and found out he had not opened a book to learn anything new in two years. Went on one lunch date with a guy who believed a man should not have to open a car door for a lady. Dropped him. What body shape are you attracted to? What kind of brains are you attracted to? What are their values compared to your values? Do they show kindness?

[@OscarPalet]

When I hear this teaching of rabbi... dating is not approved for many reasons.

[@JannatHerzallah]

It just makes you insanely picky and selfish. It seems

[@suziebee4240]

​@JannatHerzallah its okay to be picky. Youre picking your ONE. You only have to pick one. Your other half. Its very relative to you. Its not saying those men were worthless or bad. Just not for you.

[@JannatHerzallah]

@@suziebee4240 too much is too much nobody is perfect I have my own opinion. Most people are too picky with superficial things instead of character and conduct

[@helloiamthechosenone]

I appreciate this.

[@stanleykowrach1957]

Great video.

[@burcu4711]

Thank you rabbi 🙏

[@igorshifchik7350]

Спасибо Вам Дорогой Рэбе!!

[@jblvandegiessen3605]

Rabbi I respect your visions. I am a women age 73. I hope to date a lovely man to have a wonderfull time together for the time being...♥️

[@mathiaswise5860]

You surely will

[@klopcodez]

How is it going

[@rosskasakoff3331]

Probably already passed away dreaming

[@garyfrancis6193]

I turn 73 next week. Never married. I gave up that dream decades ago.

[@klopcodez]

@@garyfrancis6193 I understood this in my 20s now I know there is no such thing as soul mates or love all that is bs and farytales the one doesn’t exist it’s a matter of “who”…life happens without knowing so meeting a person one thinks is the one and the divorce rates are like 70% of all marriages have ended it’s all fary tales once more…they can go meet someone else and call them soul mate even after one dies the other spouse will find another

[@berrios27lorenso]

The longer you wait to get married the closer you'll be to having Rabi Friedman here for 8 hours

[@elizabethlibner]

Profound...unfortunately not known/understood in the secular world..

[@kenyonbissett3512]

I agree with so much of what the Rabbi is saying. My only dispute is a girl of 15 having a baby. Any age below 20 are required to to take a lot of calcium. Why? Their bodies are still growing until about 19 and a child before that take from the mothers bones not her calcium. A mother younger than age is a higher risk pregnancy and have more complications than a 20 year old. So marry at 19 and have a child at 20 and 9 months. A man reaches maturity closer to age 30 and is better equipped to protect and take on the physical burdens of life. His temper should be more even. A man’s brain does not reach full growth until age 24-26, allowing for better decision making after maturity. So a woman marrying at 20 and a man after 24-26 makes better sense. Are some more mature earlier, yes. But why not take the best ages to be long lived and mature. The age age of death was also 47-50 a the turn of the century and earlier for many reasons.

[@AnnetteHollander]

Amazing Guidance.

[@Lifeofpeaceaboundly]

The Bible teaches us once you are married trials and tribulations comes. We just shouldn’t be sexual active because of the control issues. Most people just want sexual activity and not in it for love.

[@johanabermeo2854]

In order to understand the bible , you need to understand the Torah....

[@johanabermeo2854]

Love , is not a good reason to get married .... please pay attention to the teaching... is deeper than what today's world so called "love " is more like lust

[@Lifeofpeaceaboundly]

Johana Bermeo Amen in order to understand God everyone needs His Holy Spirit. He leads to all truth. Amen brother

[@klopcodez]

Love is already dead because of money

[@valariesusan52]

Oh my heart I feel your pain.Feel ours.

[@valariesusan52]

We are made for love.Nothing else.

[@danitajminer3279]

How a man treats his mother, sister, is how he will treat you. How he treats you is how he treats his daughter.

[@design_jini]

There are men who treat their Mother's horribly yet love/are loyal to their wife and vice versa. There are also men who treat 1woman horribly and then take a Uturn and treat another very well usually because of money or convenience.

[@lazry3208]

Not really. I treat people based on their character and behaviour

[@justanothergoy5900]

who hurt you?

[@petervreeland1843]

Todar greetings from Salomon from Amsterdam

[@SandraSoll]

I ❤that you don’t do that call someone from another room I keep telling my daughter she doesn’t understand

[@lizgichora6472]

Thank you.

[@charleslitherbury8600]

Marriage is great, getting divorced is extremely messy. Unfortunately, it has become a business matter that requires a contract or premarital agreement. That starts taking a little wind out of your love storys sail right away for some folks. Good! That is a sure sign of what they wanted, you or the money. Good Luck! God Bless!

[@FrenchTwist]

Sixty, single and happy after abusive husbands... Am I ok being happy and single?

[@ramonjrnolasco3162]

It’s Ok , to have another, than not having at all

[@lucasgust7720]

You are OK, if you marry another man he would very probably be an abusive husband too.

[@klopcodez]

Husband”ssssss????

[@ellasoes8325]

Howcome you pick so badly repeatedly?

[@Malouco]

I listen to all the wiseguys

[@margotmargot4426]

the real problem with men is their relationship with their mothers.. so many look like they are already married to their mothers ..

[@Foxie770]

Many secular Jewish men are, unfortunately. And the ones that aren’t, hate their mother and have a toxic relationship with her. Therefore, it makes it difficult either way. Hard to find a man with a healthy relationship and attachment to his mother ready to move onto starting a life with his wife.

[@arcelesp7878]

How about if you dont get along, marriage is better if is based on friend ship, jsnt it?

[@hardeepkaur2753]

Don't think for others wide wisdom souls congratulations from Kenya

[@ProCredits-s8b]

where the heck were you 20 years ago!!!

[@CameliaTex]

Never liked dating, thanks!

[@markmark123412341]

I KNOW!!! Let’s hang out and not date Celsa lol jk

[@ellasoes8325]

No doubt all this trouble is there today and I myself have felt it. But, is teenage marriage something to be nostalgic about? Almost all my grandparents were married as teenagers and I know one of my grandmothers hated it and never got over it and let us know how miserable she was on the issue. Her negative attitude was a legacy she gave to at least 2 generations to endure. Funny, I used to see her in best light but I don't think that highly of her anymore.

[@berrios27lorenso]

I'm insecure of my intellectual capacity and my body. I look up to my father .

[@humptydumpty8894]

superb

[@berrios27lorenso]

Me and my father would talk geopolitics to the point of him asking why are you so interested!

[@danitajminer3279]

16:01 - 16:22. WOW!

[@cindyhalpern3187]

But I married quickly at 19 and it was very bad. He was Jewish, I am Jewish. He beat me, I got away when I was pregnant. I didn't get to know him well enough! I married husband number 2 after dating longer and it was better. He was a good father to my daughter. My Great- Grandmother married a stranger. She left her family in Galicia to marry in Bukovina. My Great- Grandfather was Hasidic from Sadogora. Much unhappiness and tragedy followed . Sorry, but this advice is wrong. You need to know the person first!!!!!!

[@DontAssume123]

❤

[@Ssookawai]

Exactly, his advice is "good" if the setting is "the same by default". Unfortunately, it's not the case.

[@mission_new-earth]

I think he’s saying get to know them like a business relationship versus whimsical dating with romance and sex. A marriage is meant to be practical. It’s the perspective that’s important. When you feel comfortable being you in his or her presence that’s a good sign.

[@abasovalfred6266]

you can't know a person. all these divorces all arround, 95% of them took enough to know each other, but.....

[@Foxie770]

That’s why having a community of support and a trusted advisor, asking the right questions and evaluating behavior with the help of more experienced adults (parents, rabbi/rebbetzin, teacher, etc).

[@MosheCohen-q5m]

Rabbi what is this year 2023? You mentioned two years ago was the year of togetherness.

[@helloiamthechosenone]

Too many people who come from broken families

[@jabrielwhite17]

Do you suggest these same rules for Noahides? If we want successful marriage too.

[@lossforwords888]

Aaaand not having this advice is why I’m getting divorced 😢

[@clairegourdain7666]

The noise background and also noise close to the microphone is such a distraction.😢

[@DontAssume123]

So what happens if you marry a bad person

[@lazry3208]

Well, you have to fix your mistake?

[@larissafainberg2552]

I need to figure out why I keep falling for people who have parent wounds

[@HustleHabit]

Have you cured your own?

[@brauliomacias6960]

Rabi this is great wisdom but obviously suitable for jews. Unfortunately, a Shadchan is not always available for all cultures. Perhaps, my local parish is the best option....

[@hinabebold]

💛 amazing

[@chrysoulano-name4033]

RABBI WHAT IF THE MOTHER AND FATHER ARE DEAD??? Is it okay to marry

[@vellameneky]

yup

[@lisasafran8538]

I never understood the concept of dating several people at the same time. I never found my other half, I’m now 66, the guy I married was horrible and dishonest mentally abusive and selfish. I want zero relationship with him. He played nice in the beginning, then slowly changed and became more and more abusive over the years. Well mine was only nice in the beginning. We wanted to get married and it was nice in the beginning. In the end he didn’t have affection for me.