Dating After Coming Out - I Tried To Be Straight Ep: 3

Nate and Susie lighten the mood this week with some of their worst early dating stories. Plus their top dating tips for anyone who is newly out.

[@RCanadian]

I got shot down by someone shortly after I came out (I came out at 40) that I was interested in, but we became friends instead. I am friends with people I have dated. You are not alone with being Christian-gay.

[@veggiet2009]

Similar story here, I'm 38 and I've had an on and off again romance and friendship with a guy. It helps that we're both figuring out what we want so we have that in common

[@kennethbailey9853]

Still trying at age 65 !😢😮

[@darrylsanders6056]

Boomer here , I guess… anyway, I really enjoy these discussions. My background has been full time licensed, ordained Baptist minister which led to a Master of Divinity Degree which at this point all feels like a blur.. Thanks for this !❤

[@denniso.shepherd6699]

I try to stress that my Faith is very important to me. It is my experience and relationship with God. It is not a trust in doctrine or denominations. I also say, I’m too Gay for the Church and too Churchy for the Gay community.

[@acereporter266]

If you guys lived in my state I would fix him up with my bestie, also named Nathan.

[@kennethbailey9853]

I came from the era of shock treatments and programs where counselors wanted my young virgin self to confess to the evils they imagined for me. Young men in church were warned to stay away from me. And some did not believe it because I was "so masculine"!So many Painful Experiences and not even guilty of any sexual experience. 😢😮

[@remingtonrathjen]

I’m so sorry Praying for your soul healing 🕊️🫂🙏🏻❤️❤️‍🩹

[@ricardoromero3018]

I kid you not, both of you are very cute and very attractive. Be confident, you are brave and amazing people. Just discovered the podcast and am going through it, and it’s very healing, and validating, and just connecting overall. Thank you both, best of wishes.

[@jwb52z9]

For anyone thinking of dating or being in a serious relationship with a fervently devout gay person new to being out and not yet completely comfortable with everything needs to remember to be careful. You can scare the living daylights out of someone if you're not. I wish there were a group responsible for instructing non-religious LGBTQIA+ people, but not like therapists. I know it's not completely uniform in every case, but it's worth knowing to consider how you go about it. I'd list some examples, but I know enough from my own upbringing that this would be unseemly for a channel like this.

[@airavatara]

One of my friends tries to get me to be mean to them and I just can't do it, being mean makes me feel so icky. I could never be mean to Nate either 😂. Love the baby gay Christian dating advice, it's encouraging to know that I'm not the only one who feels like a teenager in their late 20's. It almost feels more exciting now because I have a better grasp of what emotions are, like who knew the idea of dating could be so exciting and beautiful

[@mollynicole4614]

I can relate to what you said about the teenage phase of dating. Because I had no experience dating as a teenager, and then when I was 27 I went on a couple dates and suddenly I'm in an adult world where other adults have experience. And one of the women I met up with ended up wanting to move fast which isn't really my style. I'm like pansexual except not attracted to men. The kisses just didn't feel right and I think it's because she was just being lustful and not sincere, and she wanted sex too but I wasn't ready and I just wasn't feeling into her, so I declined. I hardly knew her at all. I felt bad. I'm 40 and haven't been on a date since then because no one will go on a date with me. Dating apps/sites don't work.

[@pinkster5n]

The Creation of Adam is the fresco by Michelangelo in the vault of the Sistine Chapel that represents God and Adam with their fingers touching each other. Does the image of Adam have a navel?

[@nlavigne92292]

Haha I was the same I did not care how I looked when I was pretending. Now that im out I definitely try to look better, and weirdly enough, I actually kinda enjoy it.

[@kennethbailey9853]

Yes if You ever get that season You are fortunate. Still waiting !😢😂😮😊

[@L00kninjas]

Haha, so many of us babies to dating queer when so many of our peers are married and with kids on the way in the Christian community.

[@JamesKnight-uh7cc]

I just started watching your podcast and I love it and I'm a gay Christian truck driver and I came out back in the 90s sometime I would love to tell my story but until then I'll just listen to your podcast I really enjoy it keep them coming

[@FirestarOfficialTV]

This would be a great interview

[@lionesswithin1]

If I was 30 years younger I would ask Susie out... lol

[@darrylsanders6056]

If I were 30 years younger, I would ask Nathan out.. lol❤