“HEALTHY COMMUNICATION IS UNCOMFORTABLE” (EP. 73)

[@heyerikan]

"when you don't communicate, the devil narrates" - Jalon

[@veronicaatkins4417]

I like that statement it’s so true

[@justdevy02]

Snaps in poetry fingers

[@keishafam02]

Heavy, right?

[@heyerikan]

@@keishafam02 too good.

[@MylezNevison]

@@heyerikan Great quote but I would word it "the Ego Narrates" not "the Devil"... saying "the devil narrates" externalises and takes responsibility away from us (the one's thinking up those narratives based on OUR ego's insecurities/weakness).

[@DivineSoulAngel]

To witness these Black men have this level of conversation is sooo healing and soo nourishing to my soul. I appreciate this conversation and I´m convinced healthy relationships can and will exist among Black women and men. I envision this level of emotional & spiritual intimacy for myself and my future partner. Amen, Ase & so it is.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Love!!! 🥃🥃🥃

[@carinasmithen8177]

I agree ❤this was really lovely to listen to my black brothers 😊

[@daydreamer8007]

Yesssssssss!!!! Everything you said!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@tianna2544]

I Agree💕

[@DoItAgainA]

This podcast is so powerful because y’all are actively modeling better behaviors

[@iammarlishia5233]

Agree 💯

[@shernz6188]

💯💯💯

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@anggell34]

I'd love to actually be a part of the conversation to pick their brains

[@autumhernandez2045]

The part of knowing y’all planning for a lifetime of figuring it out and not having to know it all right then and there but bringing awareness to it. That part 👌🏽

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

It’s a marathon 🏁🏁🏁

[@Juiceman390]

I’m 24 and I’m getting married next month, I’ve never really had positive males in my life to each me how to be a healthy man for my wife but I just wanted to thank the fuck out of y’all for helping me be a better man for the woman I love

[@Nitra813]

That mind connection he spoke about is called INTIMACY ❤ I tell my husband the same thing after a deep healthy conversation. It’s very stimulating. I feel connected to him on a mind level, not just physical.

[@la3380]

I am starting a new relationship with a true man and we had a misunderstanding but were able to be vulnerable and talk and resolve things 🥲 I’m learning to listen as a women without being defensive. That comes from my parents too accusing me of being a bad child all the time but I was able to be aware of it and he was able to lead and today I feel amazing and boom this video comes out. So glad to be with a real man, I feel he is it ❤❤

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

It’s important that you know where the root of your defensiveness comes from. Give yourself some credit for that! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Jess2b_fit]

Also I hear what you’re saying as far as creating a safe space for your partner to be vulnerable. But it’s also crucial to understand that sometimes.. no matter how safe the space you create, that person has trauma from their past that physically won’t allow them to open up and that requires work far beyond your scope as a partner. Jalon has clearly come to a place in his life where he has done the work to be able to correlate his present day feelings with childhood impact. The responsibility is on the individual to heal.

[@Nnataliecastroo]

10 mins in & I have to rewatch the episode, to absorb all the information you guys put out there! The execution in this episode is unique & depth of real life scenarios. 20/10!!

[@TheAmhyacinth]

If it’s one thing Jalon gunna do is drop a Gem! When you don’t communicate, the devil narrates 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@nobe41548]

Wow... that's the EXACT THING MY WIFE TELLS ME ALL THE TIME!!! Hearing it come from somewhere else really made me realize how much truth is in it. Thank you for opening my eyes❤🙏

[@christylexo4763]

When Omar started talking about the conversation between him and his girl while they were out to dinner and she equated the conversation to sex is the level of intimacy that I desire in my relationship!!! I love this podcast and the influence that you men are putting out especially for the men out here that have difficulty being vulnerable. I think that especially men they equate feeling and vulnerability to being soft and feminine which is not the case. Great job gentlemen with this one !!

[@GonzalezAGeorge]

Cool song who is the artist and what’s it called?

[@dashseck7595]

I had a MENTAL ORGASM watching these MEN sharpen each other's swords !!! I know men TWICE their age that could NEVER engage in such conversations. Shout out to them, their parents , their women, and whomever else is responsible for this level of maturity and delicious intellect!!! I'm definitely a fan now ! Keep up the great content !!! I keep telling my friends, there are some still left LOL😂

[@jayg619]

Very similar to the book The Five Love Languages there is one called The Five Apology Languages. It’s a good read to further build that communication bond with your partner.

[@kdlewis7355]

I really appreciate the vulnerability and openness that you Kings demonstrate. A great example for other Black Males to see, keep up the good work.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

We will! 😤

[@AikiraBeats]

Learning how to apologize is one of my biggest struggles. This is a conversation that needs a part two.

[@instrinsiclove]

This conversation really makes me do some internal reflection as to how emotional availability properly displays for a woman. I definitely battle with attracting emotional available men, and I recognize that it’s based upon my internal struggles with vulnerability. I really wonder what that SHOULD look like, especially in consideration of healthy communication. Anyway, great episode Kings! Adore y’all 🥰🥃

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Great take away! 🥃🥃🥃

[@heyerikan]

You got this girlie!

[@valentinewairimu3351]

The spiritual and emotional maturity here is real. Love from GA❤

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Love to GA! 🥃🥃🥃

[@marybutidk]

I’m not a Scorpio but I’m with Jalon on getting to the bottom of things. I LOVE to ask why and ask questions to get a better understanding of my partner and other people I care about. When he broke down the clam thing!!! Man!! I was THERE WITH YOU!!! Like! Yes!! I love to communicate and j love to get deep with my person, that helps me love them better, to feed into them differently, alladat good shit. I really enjoy listening to y’all ♥️

[@AngelaElikya]

Jalon always delivers I appreciate him so much❤

[@LofiforLife]

Love this !!! I hope it is a life saver in my soon to be marriage . 😩 Pray for me y’all! I am taking notes 📝 and will apply these ASAP. Love this !!!

[@kettyirakoze4635]

Where do men like these be at??👀 coz damn y’all are just going straight to the point!!!

[@vontressacounts6153]

I LOOOVE this podcast! So good to see healthy communication modeled! Another thing to be careful of is facial expressions...that can definitely shut a person down when communicating!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

This is true! 🥃🥃🥃

[@tundeoshikoya131]

Mannnnnn. Y’all were in your bag this episode! So many gems. Heartfelt thank you for this one.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@Somuchtotalkabout]

When someone you love tells you about yourself it is the most uncomfortable feeling ever. In some ways it feels embarrassing to that person especially if you strive to be the best person you can be. But in the long run it makes you better as a person and partner.

[@KeyshasCorner]

This was an amazing conversation I never leave a comment but I had to give you your props today not to say that your other episodes aren't fire as well but this is really amazing it was very needed and I just love how you guys did and articulate the things that sometimes we don't know how to say but we know we're feeling it thank you so much and keep up the good work and you gentlemen are really helping a lot of individuals and couples that are really active and wanting to better themselves in every area of their lives.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

That is our mission! Bridging the gap between men and women through healthy conversations like this one. 🥃🥃🥃

[@tracysimon7972]

It is soo refreshing to see black men being open and vulnerable in these kinds of spaces. The walls being torn down and men are willing to have these conversations that are IMPERATIVE for relationships to thrive. You have a new subscriber

[@tierrasardine562]

The most difficult thing about communicating has to be understanding each others strengths when communicating. For example, I like most women can communicate to we blue in the face …I mean we will start spelling out words, synonyms,antonyms,etc.While I have came into contact in relationships that after “he” can’t explain any deeper it’s like …”just never mind , it’s cool” . 😂 so half of my marriage is me over communicating and him like “😳 ooo well what should I do so we not back in this space” ❤

[@ajprescod09]

Idk where I been on this podcast but I found it today & im 4 episodes in ❤ it’s so breath taking to hear young men be so open honest vulnerable about real life issues

[@Chasing_Destiny]

This is my first time watching you guys and I am blown away. This is so great, to see black men use their voice and hear you guys talk about your relationship, I will be listening to more episodes!

[@DHenny]

I’ve never seen men be so vulnerable honest and smart . That’s sad at my big age I’ve been surrounded by clowns thinking it’s normal . Maybe I should move to another state

[@kalidedan]

So so happy I found this podcast with intelligent black men . Continue making the world a better place

[@chiefafam]

Man certain people have a defense mechanism to not even want to comprehend. No matter how well you explain something…

[@CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt]

Environmental influence plays an imperative role in the disconnect of relationships... so I feel that checking in and reassuring the key elements for the foundation are very important to ensure that their is no room for misunderstanding or assumptions to manifest the destruction of communication

[@watchmelinerose]

Whew, this was a really GOOD one! I love how each of you take the time out to reflect and add your personal experiences to the topic. I also love how Omar talks about him vs. the the ego because the ego is truly what hinders us from operating out of love. The ego wants us to believe everything is an attack, but with those constant self check-ins and reflections, we get better at being in control of our reactions and allow ourselves to be more vulnerable. It's also us vs. our ego.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@reginaiyahhodge1704]

that emotional drawer analogy!!!

[@MarissaontheMAP]

Listened to this episode at the perfect time. Some things they said were literally things my therapist and I talked about TUH-DAY! lol I had a recent breakthrough when talking to a good friend and in therapy where I realized that I'm avoidant when it comes to conflict. But I'm working on it 🙌🏽 Until about a year ago I would completely avoiding conflict/tough conversations. Over this past year I would avoid things in the heat of the moment and tell myself "I just need time to get my emotions regulated and my thoughts together", and sometimes it led to complete avoidance, other times it led to initiating the hard conversation. I'm looking forward to getting better at this and handling conflict when it happens, versus the opposite. Emotional regulation is KEY! I also realized (because of a post I saw) that it's hard for me to communicate my needs/my thoughts/my emotions because of past traumas where I was gaslit, betrayed, not taken seriously, or flat out ignored. I would always turn inward and think that I was the problem, and sometimes I was, but other times it was the other person and I just couldn't see it or didn't want to place blame on them because I'm used to people not taking accountability. I was overly self-accountable 🤦🏽‍♀ lol We getting better though!! Lowkey new to this podcast but I love everything I've heard so far. Yall hear it all the time i'm sure, but this is needed! And its so refreshing to see Black men having these convos and doing the work 🫶🏽

[@kwanelechilixo]

My favourite episode hands down.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Please share! 🥃🥃🥃

[@heyerikan]

Mine toooo

[@mindfullnessmindset8746]

One of the best podcast episodes on relationships I’ve ever listened to!!!! Its so refreshing to hear that others struggle in their relationship but also that there are others who have the tools to properly navigate it in a healthy way.

[@naturallyshaq3679]

The podcast does not get enough love. Yall are so dope❤

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Keep sharing and we’ll get there! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@MylezNevison]

Lack of self awareness, maturity and the Ego's need to be right are what cause communication break downs... Some aren't self aware enough to know or understand the feelings they are experiencing so their Ego ends up taking over in a knee jerk reaction of self protection; thus the fight begins. Effective communication starts INTERNALLY within one's self; unfortunately most fail the assignment internally and that internal failure is then mirrored externally with others inbthe form of an argument... Relationships are merely mirrors of the relationship one has internally with themselves. Miscommunication is a #SYMPTOM of an internal breakdown; problem is we focus on external ego fights as opposed to the internal #ROOT issue. "Understanding others is Wisdom but understanding the self is Enlightenment." It all comes back to the self.

[@WhenSaraiSpeaksUListen]

Y’all are just SPOT on. I truly love this podcast.

[@venomx77]

I'm going through it with my lady and this video popped up. y'all are saying good stuff. I appreciate it. I feel like it gets so hard when you feel like the other needs to improve and they feel like you need to improve... But I am the man. I need to be able to take the emotional, ego, and "being wrong" hits. Show that I can take all that and listen to truly understand. And hope that she sees me being vulnerable and follows suit eventually.

[@spiritjourneys7707]

My brothas, you make me so proud to hear how specifically emotionally intelligent your conversations are. How mature and brave!! Thank you!!

[@LaKae444]

I luv that you guys provided practical and easily implementable tips. More of that please 🖤

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@Jess2b_fit]

The first test of in/compatibility will show in a couple’s communication skills (or lack of) .. it goes beyond communication - big or small. You must listen to understand, not to simply respond. Are you able to put your ego to the side and comprehend what the other person needs to convey? Good, bad or both? Communication = Comprehension + execution

[@londynjamiaa5981]

Never watched a male podcast. Y’all made me like them!! The points y’all made has me amazed

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Thank you for watching and sharing!!! 🥃🥃🥃

[@CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt]

Trust and respect 💯 for the partner is the only way to successfully ensure the relationship because without the protection of boundaries from and to your partner are responsibilities of us and the way we either make or break bonds with others

[@pskaylz]

Really enjoyed this convo! Tbh, this is the first time I have heard a male led podcast touch basis on such an essential topic and with such maturity. Definitely gives me hope as a woman to know this this caliber of guys exist in this generation. You guys are dope! Definitely about to subscribe!

[@CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt]

Inability to be receptive or change is already a losing battle

[@CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt]

I believe accountability and transparency in addition to active listening 🎧... In support of the ego has ABSOLUTELY NO PLACE IN THE CONVERSATION 🎉

[@Christimony222]

Very important episode for other Black Kings to listen to. And, even us Queens.

[@ashleecox9806]

Its inspiring to see y'all evolve in real time. I appreciate the vulnerability and accountability. Keep going! ✨

[@Jude-clips]

This was so refreshing. Great podcast. It was informative & helpful for me. Communication is definitely not easy & your tips are appreciated. Y’all seem like good men who are level headed, respectful, articulate, logical & compassionate. Glad I came across your channel. God bless!

[@musuyengbeh755]

Honestly this was insightful on many levels but for me as a parent.

[@KiaraParkr]

This was so good! So helpful. Communication is big to me and I’m always working on it but you guys made good points. Definitely had some take aways and perspective from men my age. I agree that it’s not a thing for women or men to be better communicators. Personally my childhood does effect how I communicate and receive information. Definitely subscribing

[@Svosean]

Wish I came across this episode earlier this week Jalon literally explained my entire weekend if you don't communicate narrates WOW!

[@WynesiaShaniecerylee]

As someone whose trying to work on being better at communicating this was very informative for me. I’m saving this to my archives to listen to again. @ Jalon are you a Scorpio? lol bc you sound like me I always ask questions to get deeper. Why is my favorite question. 😂

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Scorpio gang ♏️♏️♏️

[@bighomiekirby4071]

lmaoo sameeee😭😭

[@Charlenespov]

This podcast is so therapeutic for people like me who struggle with self expression. Thank you for the enlightenment!

[@MsNikki-kd6tv]

Absolutely love this level of communication and transparency. 👏🏽👏🏽

[@Nitra813]

This is what it looks like when people are in relationships and allow themselves to mature and grow in it. You learn about each other And about yourself and become better. That’s what’s supposed to happen and I love to see it.

[@Wholisticbohoo]

I literally watched this 3 times already, you guys are doing remarkable job with these important conversations🥃🥃🥃thank you!!!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@User08882]

I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this conversation. Thank you guys🙏🏽. Learning and unlearning.

[@angelhoughton777]

Looking at the comments to decide whether or not this is the podcast i am looking for at this time and its looking pretty positive so far.

[@LadyLuxstar]

Loved this Episode

[@charliahstarks1071]

This is the only podcast that I have to devote my full attention to without having it played in the background while I’m cooking, cleaning, or running errands. After going out and dealing with the world and all the pressures that come with life, it’s always refreshing to come and be a fly on the wall and intake positive content. I get it, we get it 🍷🧊

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

The positivity!!! 🥃🥃🥃

[@gbaby5o]

Loved loved LOVED this podcast. I took a lot away from this and will be applying to my personal life . Thank you guys for your transparency!

[@kaiakamau9032]

Oh my, this episode makes me look in the mirror and b better. Be better for us, me and my man. I absolutely love this topic and ur conversation. Thank you big time boys!

[@Isis-Nashe]

I love how Omar gets hype about the intro. It really is 🔥 I have this song on my Apple Music because of this podcast. I say by the end of summer Omar will have the lyrics down and be rapping it like it’s his song 😂. Oan: this episode is IT just like all the others. I feel like I’m watching my dope a** brothers at this point. Love it here and shoutout to the guys for being stand up men and constantly growing ❤

[@traciesplace]

Amaaaazing… this is the best conversation about communication and the effective way to communicate that I’ve heard. (Although, and no disrespect to you and said with much love- I’m 53 and old school, it would be great to be able to get through the conversation without cursing because that is a certain kind of communication too, I just see that today’s society has desensitized the vulgarity of it, just an ole gurl’s 2 cents but loved the message in the conversation) 🙌🏽💗

[@francisw3456]

"Action items" love this! We both need to work on this. Love these convos! Great job fellas 👑

[@nicholasmcdowell2026]

Phenomenal and Powerful conversation

[@Msbabbby]

Such a great episode, with real valid points . To summarize it all in .. vulnerability is such a big aspect of being able to communicate bc it’s coming straight from an conscious deep rooted place 🔑

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Vulnerability is key 🥃🥃🥃

[@antwoniqueknowles7899]

This was dope!!! Gratitude to you all! 🥰

[@lilitaseo625]

Love this episode! Nice to hear topics I often contemplate, but from the male perspective. Took mental note of a lot of game + will rewatch when I need reminding and strength through healthy communication.

[@johnsondurosier9963]

This podcast had nothing but gems. Thank y’all for sharing 🙏🏾

[@belledelemos9615]

Speechless so needed and the real truth…

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@Diana-cq1yp]

Wow! Powerful message.

[@destaniwashington2216]

This is gooddddddd 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@Angee82111]

Duke always gets it! 👏🏽

[@teetst9523]

Wow! This episode is very important in all aspects of relationship.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

💯💯💯

[@SaipherWells]

Jalon gone drop a word in there every time 😂

[@cicihenry2471]

this was great. alot of gems and very healthy. yess black men!

[@sheenashepherd71]

Thank you this is awesome feedback

[@patientv]

Everyone thinks they can communicate BUT speaking isnt communicating... The ability to explain your perspective AND hear & digest someone elses is difficult. Ego can take over if you arent willing to speak first... Anger can affect tone... Insecurities can creep in & prevent you from sharing yourself or cause you to accept BS. You really need to set up guidelines ahead of time, so both partners know how to communicate... AND do internal work to say, I'm willing to be the person to put ego, anger & fear aside for the sake of the both of us.... and you want a partner whose willing to do that as well

[@rodehs688]

Dawg y’all were dropping bars on this one. Thank y’all for sharing knowledge 🙏🏽

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@TDaBody]

I don’t think a particular gender is more mature than one another. I believe it’s based on the person maturity level and emotional intelligence. Some time women get overly emotional and start yelling and can’t have a simple conversation and I’ve also witnessed men be overly aggressive when a conversation is getting too heated. So it’s all based on the person emotional intelligence.

[@DHenny]

I love this podcast omg

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@vickynganga]

Y’all have been working hard on these intro lyrics ever since they ate y’all up in the comments about not knowing them 🤣🤣

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Facts 😂😂😂

[@dannijay84]

Absolutely loved this episode ❤❤

[@Claudia-yc8xk]

I absolutely loved this podcast so much, so refreshing.

[@SharmonJarmon]

love you guys podcast

[@IamNicoleJ]

This podcast was really truly enlightening and informative. Thank you for allowing us into your perspectives!

[@databace]

"who am I to be saying this." -Jalon

[@msjmid6819]

Valuable conversation

[@raquel8298]

Appreciate the sophisticated conversation 👌🏾

[@burd9028]

Thank you fellas!!! Y’all definitely dropped some gems and provided some tools so that I could improve my communication skills

[@jeremywilliams3931]

Crazy episode!!! I learned a lot about myself this episode 💯 keep em coming

[@daughteroftheking01]

🔥 got me binge watching this podcast.

[@ms.angiesworld8696]

GREAT episode 🥃 🥃🥃

[@leah3795]

So good ❤