Dating in your 20s (the ghetto) - 5 RED FLAGS to look out for! | Don't waste your time...

Hi guys, thank you so much for watching. In today's video, I talk all about dating in our 20s and the red flags to look out for in the men you're dating or looking to have a relationship with. Some these red flags are obvious while some are subtle, I hope this video reminds you of your worth and for you to know you deserve nothing but the very best. Hope you enjoy!
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- Where are you ?
Lagos, Nigeria.
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I’m 23 years old, my birthday is on September 26.
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[@kamsinnamani]

Hi guys, thank you so much for watching! Hope you enjoyed this video and picked up a few things. Please feel free to drop other red flags you think we should be aware of as well😅 don’t hold back lol

[@Janederryo]

When he puts himself before you 🙃honestly you are speaking my mind. I am still at the first point. You are supposed to check up , remind me

[@Korlu]

“You teach people how to treat you”

[@bella-rue]

Absolutely! Your 20s help you to set the pace for the type of woman you want to be. Some men will try to destroy you and then play innocent. Have standards stick to them and don't ignore red flags. Your time is precious so walk away from nonsense. Love this video ❤

[@kamsinnamani]

You said it all❣️

[@RoszyPeterz]

The 20's series is actually so good.

[@kamsinnamani]

Glad to hear that🥰

[@jennaystrawberries2112]

No cap

[@Thatgirldivineee]

The dislikes are from men with these exact qualities and pick me girls. Unfortunate.

[@ChisomUtazi]

😂😂😂

[@ighoogieva]

Don’t complement me by putting other women down 📌📌📌🙌🏻🧡

[@kamsinnamani]

Yesss✨

[@munarellatv]

I totally agree with all the red flags especially when he is not offering to help it's like what's the point .what are you here for? you can't be useless sir, kindly make yourself useful or get lost😂😂

[@iamsibo4228]

😊😊😊😎😎😎

[@giftsegatlhe1934]

😂 😂 😂

[@Geal_films]

“I will not pretend to pay “ energyyyyy🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@christianahfrancis]

Tell them sis😄... My ex, at first "she's so confident" then later she's too outspoken, I left his ass and met someone better two weeks later and we're still together (more a year now) and he still respect me for being confident, he loves it

[@kamsinnamani]

Lol energyyyy! Sis after 2 weeks?!🙆🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️😂

[@christianahfrancis]

@@kamsinnamani yes oo, no time to check time

[@PhebianL]

Omg!!! Money is such a sensitive topic for me. I actually find myself paying for everything without being told. I guess I’m not trying to allow you have an opportunity to diss me with money talks. Or I’m too comfortable paying for my things.

[@lisaekemita180]

I turned 20 a few days ago Kamsi is finally talking to me 😂

[@kamsinnamani]

Welcome😂

[@yunushalimah8461]

😂

[@simiogungbemi5215]

First of all the HAIR🔥🔥🔥😍😍..this topic is needed..left a toxic relationship of three years, it was hard but I knew it was time to leave

[@kamsinnamani]

Wow love that for you🤎 someone better is coming

[@AestheticallyCookie]

The hair is laid to perfection ✨

[@kamsinnamani]

Thanks boo🥰

[@Cherryojukwu001]

“Any small things ya laughing” Oh my goodness this video oozes my present self in everything. God helped me with confidence that I say my mind and they say I come off rude or disrespectful. Bruhh, I’m teaching you how to treat me. Don’t be stupid, please. Keeping quiet pays nothing!!! Know your flipping worth oh chim😂❤️❤️ Thank you so much Kamsi, let me go right on to share the link of this video 🤗❤️

[@Amandaali]

I totally love this video, men a born chasers if he wants you he will chase you relentlessly

[@Amandaali]

Are*

[@JasmineOmisore]

Why does it look like you knew what I went through 2 months ago😭 you spoke straight facts bro 😭✅

[@kamsinnamani]

Wheww guess I was in the spirit lol sorry you went through that love x

[@TiffanyO7]

We teach people how to treat us. And I can relate to that 100%

[@tianantese6451]

Seriously the "block him" cracked me up 😂😂😂 Indeed I am the price. Thank you for sharing this

[@Quisha]

Lmao she said “pretend ... but be acting well” 😂😂😂 I’m for it !!!

[@vero9000]

I loved this video, "We teach people how to treat us." I needed this reminder. Just found your channel and love your 20s series.

[@kamsinnamani]

Aww thank youu and welcome to the fam ❣️

[@kamsinnamani]

Aww thank youu and welcome to the fam ❣️

[@JosephineAlagba]

‘Whoever imitates the date, should take the bill’ Girl, you took the words right out of my mouth’ I don’t even know why this is even a thing to argue about. For me, i think it’s insulting. Definitely a 🚩

[@PhebianL]

That’s true. We tend to take advantage of people that are laid back

[@chinenyekalu9201]

I feel like I'm one of your youngest subscribers..I'm just 18 and thanks to you I'm knowing somethings I'm meant to know before i get to my 20's.. Btw I love you Kamsi

[@kamsinnamani]

Aww you’re on the right path hun🤎🤎

[@deborahobasohan9330]

Me too I will be 19 this year by July 8

[@IhimCharis]

I'll be 19 by October 🥰

[@puritymike]

Kamis is making me fall in love with rings 😩 Being nice with this men won’t take me anywhere 😄😩 This was too good to watch..thanks for the Advice Kamis.. Needed it 🤎🤎

[@Janederryo]

Being nice doesn’t take you anywhere - kamsi 2021 😂🥺

[@tomisinojeyinka7499]

I totally enjoyed this video. I wish I saw this when I was younger I condoned bullshit. Now I don’t send any guy, no more nice girl if you misbehave or step wrong I check you. No time. Ps I’m enjoying ur chitchat videos well done girl 👍🏾

[@kamsinnamani]

It’s never too late hun, at least you learned from your mistakes...some people never do and thank youu ❣️

[@Ms.A_O]

Kam Kam, preach👏🏽! Let them try any of those rubbish near me, I will SHOCK them. It's a good thing that I have never experienced these shenanigans, but let someone try to insult me like that first... Women should understand that they are the fre*king price, Queens👑👏🏽. The audacity of some people😒

[@ChiagoziemEzeigwe]

I totally enjoyed this video.. the lateness part and split the bill part.... You said what you said! If you initiate the date then settle the bill bro! It doesn't even have anything to do with feminism.

[@nkiruprisca5023]

Wow how is it that I’m doing this already...but girl I had to go through many mumu stages And ever since I stopped looking past red flags ,the end result I get with guys totally took a spin, I started being intentional about what I want and made it clear in my mind and I started attracting more intentional people whilst chasing the rest with broom😭😂😆

[@Janederryo]

The beginning is when you have the power - kamsi spitting knowledge

[@Missimaaa]

My rule of thumb is honestly I’m not riding or dying through any mans mistakes or shortcomings because especially in my twenties, every man that is after me/with me is here because they are at least 90-99% comfortable and happy with what they see or clearly my own shortcomings are not bothersome to them. Men are very intentional and about the women they want to be with so I can’t be here collecting all these red flags to convince myself that there’s a better chance. BOY BYE

[@SimaSambo]

I liked the video when she said "you are very stupid" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 yasss siss!! Split the bill my ass

[@blossomslife6016]

The fact that you put a pic of Lori Harvey on most of your thumbnails is actually funny 😅

[@DiveDeepwithTiffah]

I agree that it’s important to tackle red flags immediately!

[@oizabeida9368]

“I am the PRIZE!* thank you for this Kamsi 😭❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ajelvis4355]

It's the 'he is not even pretending well' for me 😂😂. As in, he's not even trying!!!!. Preach sis 🥰. And honestly girl, you look amazing 😩❤️.

[@DarleneLiz]

Truth be told. What Kamsi is saying is true most especially when she spoke of being too nice

[@kamsinnamani]

Being nice doesn’t pay sis✨

[@WonderfulLalaLand]

I love this video so much ❤️, honestly I've been managing rubbish. Time to level up😩

[@HotgirlVivss]

Before now fr Kamsi I'd say I'm too much or I set so much standards but hearing most of what resonates with me from you, I feel secure. My male friend tells me I demand too much and I felt it was true but no that's a lieeeeee o!!! I love what I'm hearing.

[@kamsinnamani]

Ha glad you saw this o sis🤎

[@beautytajj]

The facial expressions tho😂😩abeg

[@Janederryo]

Oh Kamsi 😂you be acting nice gurl kikikiki 😂😂😂my chest

[@thelmaiyagba3653]

"Argue with your grandmother" 😂😂😂

[@kamsinnamani]

😂 like don’t stress me😂

[@evansdesire4031]

Like how can you ask me out on the first date and you’re telling me to split the bill like who born you?!😂😂

[@joytorty6200]

🤣🤣🤣🤣💔

[@kamsinnamani]

Madness😂

[@thehunted316]

he doesn't need to tell you to pay, you need to pay without being told. That's the right thing to do. Naija men have spoilt y`all.

[@MissTracyyy223]

@@thehunted316 look at this one abeg gettat 😂😂

[@winifredchukwuemeka1351]

I really love this series 🥺. Also, the number of “perioddtttt” I screamed during this video because you were just on point. Thank you Kamsi❤️

[@mercyezeanah7325]

Your hair and makeup is on fleek Just left a very toxic relationship. Wasn’t easy though but had to do what was best for me.

[@thepeacyunique]

I actually came back to this video to REMIND my Royal self of my worth

[@emmanuellaoffiong7751]

Block his existence! Sis👏👏👏👏

[@blessingayadi6830]

Sis! ur video jus did so much to me rn,i used to be ur kinda girl,buh people always call it pride nd all dat,nd because of dat,i changed,nd when I changed,i began hating what was becoming of me.Babe tnks for dis video,I'm back to d real me!

[@PhebianL]

Let him walk!!! Preach sis!! Can’t believe I’m so pumped in my 3rd watch 😂😂

[@isabellaeweka1871]

The last two points really hit. Every video is a gem sis😍

[@gloryceeyeditingacademy1]

Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏾 I’d like to add this, situations where it’s just you bringing up topics/gist for discussion🙁 Flee for your life sister 😌

[@ivyola8035]

Feels like I'm listening to my strict older sister lmao. Love this video 😂❤

[@yunushalimah8461]

IKR!😂

[@ChilotamOjukwu]

Hi Kamsi, I loveeee this video. A red flag I personally can’t stand is when guys aren’t spiritually aware. As a Christian, I cannot stand it 😭 Imagine being with someone who can’t pray or doesn’t understand the importance of God. Conversations around long term things would be so hard and they may not even be able to join or share their faith with you. Banky and Adesuwa’s relationship is an example of couples being spiritually aware. I just can’t settle for anything less 🤕.

[@thatghanagirlritana6070]

The don’t offers help when you need it part is very KEY 🔑 👏 Like if you can’t at least offer to help or like kamsi says “pretend but pretend well to be interested “ then what are we doing ? So I’m just gonna chill when you need me or want to see me , I’m just going to up like a robot and be with you when you want but you can’t at least be invested in what concerns me ? Na! Red flag 🚩

[@kendrajumbo]

The haiiirrrr❤️. I feel like many ladies tolerate a lot of obvious red flags that I can't even relate with. Nice video KamKam.

[@derasspace9157]

I love this girl!!👍🏽. Please do more dating videos. I literally love you and your dating advice. You’re so wise and blunt , straight to the point. Your dating advice is actually really good

[@chiikahh2740]

Hair ✅ Makeup✅ This topic✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅ And I said what I said You rock girl✌🏽 Need me some makeup lessons tho 😂

[@symplyade5035]

Need this makeup look tutorial because girllll

[@perpetualfond]

This is the most realistic advice I’ve come across. Through your words, I walked through memory lane. This would’ve really helped me when I was getting into my 20s. I love how you say that in the beginning is where you have all the power. It’s so true. You are amazing, thank you for the content you provide! 💕

[@kamsinnamani]

🥺 thank youu

[@perpetualfond]

@@kamsinnamani 💕

[@yeseniatapia5284]

The "block him." 😂 LOVE your videos!

[@kamsinnamani]

😂😂 thanks love❣️

[@olawaletomiwah697]

Honestly ehn.. I love you for this. People started calling me hard to get. I'm like "Boy...you're just not on my level!!!"

[@Stories.Acrozz.Africa]

Oginidi 🔥 The 4th point is so spot on! Edits: Kamsi it would be nice to have a playlist with the "20's Series" Title on your channel. Love the vibes that comes with it. Like it has an entire message of its own! Dope 👌🏻

[@kamsinnamani]

True babe. I’ll do that❣️

[@mercy_oderinde]

This just spoke to me, especially the whole “nice girl” thing and oversexual attitude..... you hit it right at the spot ✔️

[@Becomingsally]

The hair colour suits you perfectly.

[@KENECHIJACOB]

Cant keep my eyes off the hair!!!😍

[@kamsinnamani]

Thank youu 🙈

[@Jennidoko]

Oh my God, I LOVE YOU. I am in my mid-twenties but I've been very foolish acting the nice girl all along and it sure has not gotten me anywhere with these men sha. thanks for sharing these tips.

[@symplyade5035]

Insecure people find self confident people arrogant!! Argue with your grandmother Love you kamsi

[@preciousnze7556]

I'm feeling what you're saying but that hair damn!! too beautiful. Please where do you get your hairs from like?

[@hafsatyahaya5591]

Wow! This channel is saving my life

[@preciousnze7556]

when you said, where are you wasting spit? lmao

[@PhebianL]

Littt!! The ads were so distracting in this video lol. I legit had to watch this again (totally worth it) to get all the gist uninterrupted. Kamsi you're the absolute best with advice!!

[@namipezamwale2512]

Girl😩....well spoken

[@ruth_richard]

It was the number 5 with me, this 20 series thing is absolutely amazing kamsi. Plus for me that is the biggest red flag 🚩 go girl more of this from you. 🥰

[@priscaobiegbu6330]

Spitting facts 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯💯❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kamsinnamani]

🙈🤎🤎

[@ogooachu]

We definitely need a part 2. You're getting used to the braces

[@kamsinnamani]

Lool ouu would love to do a part 2 and yes I have 😊

[@Divine_1900]

Preach!!!.. thank you so much for this video..I really needed it now!.👌🏽.. by the way, you came wearing red hair and spitting red hot fire!😍😁

[@EllatheFlutterfairy]

Girl you hit the nail hard, thank you girl

[@kamlotzy]

You are so right 🙌🏾🙌🏾 like the bill thing Is crazy 🤮🤮

[@bisolaamuda]

SIS!!! You didn't come to play on this video

[@sarnaroy9030]

I know she said she calling out men, but damn why she call me out too 🥴🥴😂😂 don’t worry, I’m glad I watched this video, now I’m gonna go fix my shit 😂😂

[@moremiarowosegbe7665]

When u mentioned the time stuff I’m actually the one guilty of dat 😭 I take him for granted and let him wait for mins 😩

[@kamsinnamani]

Girll you need to change that

[@u__oma]

This is so accurate 💗💗 not the grandmother 🤭🤭 - love from a Nigerian KZbinr ✨

[@The.Morayo]

First,your entire look is on point💫😍 I pray the right person locate me asap.

[@kamsinnamani]

Lol amen ❣️

[@sifonudonyah5581]

I love you kamsi, I've watched plenty of your videos and I've really learnt a lot from you

[@bridgetemafidor23]

It's the hair for me! Not a fan of colored hairs but girllllllllllll, you rocked this so well!

[@PhebianL]

Omg!!! I’m like this I just know that it’s not worth it or not gon’ work. Thank you sis!! It’s definitely not pride 😂

[@agboglory8053]

The best one yet. U've spoken well Kamsi👍💕

[@blessingerinfolami9571]

Thanks for reminding me, been to nice all the time doesn't work.

[@its.Lamide]

its the straight direct insults on the guys for me....'you are very stupid" this kamsi is lowkey subtly hilarious.."nice girl, you'll be laughing ki ki, everytime ki ki...'"

[@nenyenwa23]

Girrrrlll!!!! I need your Confidence 🥰

[@lauraspoonie3557]

It's true you know. Let things be known from the get-go 🗣

[@ENIIPAUL]

You are the prize..... Act like it!!💃🏽💃🏽

[@millyonette]

I love the fact that I don’t skip Kamsi’s ads.❤️

[@lidyaabiy7931]

I just love this girl talks men👏🏽👏🏽🙌

[@emmanuellefaithzoe]

“Oh that’s mad” 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭

[@REJOICESCREEN]

You are right human being are selfish👌 All points are valid✔💯

[@violetokatubo3459]

Tnkss beautiful kamsi,I love your hair,your style more wisdom boo...I'll take all these to heart

[@tressiene]

i love your youtube channel so much, you are amazing. i admire your consistency, your drive and your aesthetics. one of my favourite youtubers on this app.

[@ChinnyIvy]

Kamsi,the first point is very valid,I hate it so much. Thank you for these tips. Much Love♥️

[@adesolaamoo]

You give me Asha Christina vibes in this video. Love etttt!