DATING OVER 30 | Dating Advice + Top Dating Mistakes | How to be Confident & Successful

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

Click "like" if you are dating differently now. →Today’s video is all about my 30 ways to date successfully over 30. These were personal, but I have seen many of these same things work with others. These have also helped me with my self care and growth journey. Thumbs up and subscribe please! TURN ON NOTIFICATIONS so you know when I upload 😘

[@aquariusashley94]

Hi, How old are you? I would guess early 40's?

[@deliteful1991]

I thought dating older would be better but most of these men come with emotional distress and not financially stable. They don’t have cars,renting rooms, have roommates, credit scores in the toilet, fake entrepreneurs,baby momma drama,& etc….it’s too much. I’m more attentive and pay attention to red flags quicker. Say less and listen more.

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

Hello! Yes!

[@tnzem2917]

Yessss my red flag antenna is always on the high. Its tough out there.

[@asiajohnson6191]

Yes this is what I was just trying say to her I wasn't trying be negative.

[@ceemac304]

smile. talk less. answer what asked. let the man talk. know how to vet men.

[@rogers5622]

Nope ..older doesn't mean more Mature.

[@elanbentley]

This was right on time for me! I’m 38 and out here struggling.

[@naomicampana]

Same. Rooting for you

[@tnzem2917]

Girl Im 38 too and scared that at this rate Imma turn 48 still coming across the bad apples.

[@elanbentley]

@@tnzem2917 that’s my fear. I want to get married but it’s looking bleak😔

[@proyouservicesltd3652]

Don't waste time in getting pregnant female fertility reduces dramatically after 35 years. At this point prioritise babies over marriage or even relationship or you may lose your chance of having your own children.

[@asiajohnson6191]

@@proyouservicesltd3652 bye devil

[@SultryLoveChild]

About to enter my 30’s in a few months and I think I will be single soon. Need to hear this

[@iloveplatano]

Just got onto the video and not sure if it will be mentioned but I'm an introvert yet I meet alot of people through dancing. I dance salsa, bachata, merengue, and cumbia. I had to take salsa classes because that it the most difficult Latin dance but the others I learned in my culture/Latin night/Latin clubs. You can find instructors and classes (like zumba) on Facebook. You can even go to neighboring cities and attend salsa/bachata festivals and congresses. It's really a great way to meet people, stress relief, language exchange, stay in shape, and work on your femininity. I started taking dancing more seriously at 23, I'm 28 now.

[@teris.3770]

Amazing content Dr Nina. One thing that I've learned in therapy is that I need to hold myself accountable for being a codependent. Codependents attract narcissists. When you know yourself, you can protect yourself. You can do better. My vibrations are on another level lately, helping me separate myself from what is not for me. Congrats on your engagement 🥰

[@Kokoshannel666]

I'm 33 and I'm over it...

[@trafficcontrol2420]

Over...it.

[@homiesuncensored]

36:54 those were some straight up bars right there, Doc. I'm 21 and I watched the whole 44min of this video. Thank you for your wisdom! I sincerely look up to you.

[@middlesys9180]

30:09 had the same experience with older men and kept running into maturity issues. Decided to give younger guys a try and was pleasantly surprised.

[@natasham7421]

i'm 35 & I needed this. I love this!

[@Signedthesavvyexpat]

Girl dating over 30 is the complete DEVIL!!! I just stopped dating because of all the horrible experiences. I moved abroad about 3 week ago, but I haven't started anything since i'm so focused on my career. I know I manifested my career but for some reason I haven't been able to focus enough on a partner to manifest a desired relationship were we are both aligned. I completely agree with your video, it honestly takes maturity to look within and to really think about what you truly want in a person and also what you can offer the type of person you want. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@LosDosFancyPants]

This made me feel so much better. I’m 27 but I went on a string of bad dates recently and I decided I was going to give up on dating. Even though I’m not over 30 this advice is still relevant.

[@theteresa2776]

You are speaking to my life! I’ve noticed red flags from people, but ignored the most simple signs. It’s always better to hear it from a positive and honest person. Thank you sis 🙏🏽🤗

[@lillychang4788]

I love that you’re saying everything I already know and believe and it just makes me feel so good to know that I’m not “high maintenance” that I hear from some of my friends

[@kayanderson3025]

I enjoyed listening to all of your advice. I am past 30 and everything you talked about is so true. You took me back to the different phases of dating and relationships in my life but sometimes you need that refresher which I got with the video. Thank you for that.

[@allenajos]

@ 24:31 you hit the nail on the head and I learned the hard way. He said all the right things, but actions didn't match. While it did hurt to let go, but I thank God that I saw this sooner than later. Thank God for unanswered prayers. The little annoying things now are magnified 10 times in marriage.

[@africanempress7174]

I love this video. I also agree with taking my time . I know this doesn’t sit well with a lot of people but I’ve learned not to announce a relationship too soon. I don’t announce things until I know it’s serious. This has allowed me to focus on the relationship and develop MY opinion of someone

[@nikkisouthernbelle8820]

I had a whole relationship and only 4 people knew and then I broke up with the narcissistic man

[@bigmommie120]

Yes! I haven’t been in the dating world for years or practically at all…….. so this will all be new to me once I get going.

[@latashahumphrey2641]

I got a smidgen of hope still lingering for love in my 40s. I have faith what is for me God will send to me but until then let me be a great me to me.

[@Jessica-td2pj]

Dang. I’m 29 and taking notes. Cause I’m losing hope already lord Jesus.

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

I’m about to turn 29 in a few weeks and I feel the same way

[@DrineThePoet]

I'm 38 and just now dating again ugh

[@TreasureChest0806]

Dating horrors - the guy I went to the movies with that was eating his popcorn so feverishly & talking to me with popcorn falling back out his mouth into the tub of popcorn, I learned on that first date that he was in between jobs over 40. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@shedaone9620]

😂🤣😂🤣 this comment‼️

[@trafficcontrol2420]

That popcorn was his dinner.

[@TreasureChest0806]

Probably 🤣

[@tnzem2917]

@@trafficcontrol2420 I just died😂😂😂

[@abaxter0326]

😂😂😂😂

[@Louisiana2Texas]

This was much needed for me to watch.... Congrats again on your engagement!

[@Princessfrmalmighty]

Thanks I'm almost 32 come November and I'm not worried

[@juniorchavesopicassodeyahu988]

You look gorgeous as ever

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

Thanks so much I appreciate you!

[@tamikoblake8531]

Sis 🙌🏾🙌🏾 OMG Your spitting gems. Feel alot better about a decision I made just today lol

[@naturalious3195]

I’m not even in my 30s and this was very nice to hear. I appreciate you for putting me on!

[@authenticallyindigo]

I loved this video, because I am 30 and I feel like I'm over dating at this point. I really felt what you said when you said you can find not so good people at church because I have been there. Thanks for dropping all of those gems.

[@annettebyrd8259]

You are a wise woman!!! I love your channel and advice. I'm in my 50's I've been married before and ladies she is right put yourself first!!! Focus on you, nobody will love and or respect you if you're not doing that. Take care of your mental and physical health, be SELECTIVE have CLEAR BOUNDARIES and don't let anyone cross them. Fall in love with you and everything else will fall into place. Nina you are the type of person I'd love to hang out with I can see us doing spa days and 5 star Michelin chef restaurants🙂🙂 ladies is ok to be bougie!!!

[@engellazulu4335]

I just gotten this video on time as I am working on myself so I can be a better partner to my future husband. I've been through a lot and made a lot of mistakes and was always pointing fingers and omitting my part on it. Thank you for covering everything ❤ 🙏

[@katrinaassoumou6400]

You give great advice for all females. The old and the young. But we have to listen more. Keep up the great work. Amen

[@ericapatrice1]

This was a SERMON! Because so far dating in my 30s has been ‘Ghetto’. This video has reminded me that I need clarity on what I want & dont want & not to settle (in the negative sense) because of timeline/desperation. Thanks Nina!

[@MsCharizma00]

23:11 looking for signs that are not there! Sheesh I needed that terribly!!!!! I always watch, rarely comment but God bless you for this and all you do to uplift us all!

[@womenwhodate7643]

"A lot of times in this world, a lot of us feel the need to push this relationship, relationship, relationship - get married - get a baby" Yes, when you hear these things from friends and family, you start to think that is the right way yourself. There shouldn't be a template in life, just do what makes you happy! Great content, love it!

[@GreenMM_11]

Loud and CLEAR I heard and I KNOW "at church. at church. at church"

[@Pandas0918]

This video was AWESOME, Doc! I'm not thirty yet --but close to it, LOL. Your points were confirmation that I needed based on a person I was interested in as more than just a friend. Ladies, take heed to what she is saying! Getting to know who and WHOSE you are FIRST will save you heartache. You'll create boundaries, standards and have a better understanding of that "gut instinct" she's talking about! Doc's last poignant point of getting rid of your "timeline" is a necessary MUST. Let go and let God!

[@mayasheartdesiire]

I just turned 32 and the dating world is just ……..cringe 🤦🏽‍♀️💀

[@Miamia69292]

Lmaoo I’m not even 30 I’m a whole teen 😭😭but it’s always good to preparer right I freakin love ur vids!

[@electricbeing993]

It's cool that teens can come online and find healthy mentors these days. I didnt think my mother was a good guide and she didnt teach me alot of things I should know as a woman and neither did my dad. It wasn't until I was a grown woman in my 20s that I was able to look more online for women to help me grow. Very grateful for KZbin. In my.30s now and I'm a whole different woman now tha ks to women like Nina. Good for you for being wise beyond ya yrs sis. 👌🏾

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

Thanks so much beautiful!

[@tonyaleander4497]

Omg same heehee better to know early before ur confused😂

[@deliteful1991]

@@electricbeing993 same.

[@deliteful1991]

That’s fantastic, Dr.Nina is a wonderful mentor.

[@SonAng113]

Thanks Dr. Nina!! Great!! Great advice and tips!! Wish I had some of your advice 30 years ago, would have saved me a whole lot of heartache. I am re-entering the dating pool and dating again after my divorce a year ago. It is so scary and extremely intimidating getting back out there after being in a relationship for almost 25 years and married for 17 of those years to the same person. I am definitely doing things so differently this time. What I can say for certain is, that I know who I am now. I know what I deserve and what I am not going to negotiate or compromise on. I can say that with maturity in age and life experiences, comes wisdom. I also agree with many of the things you stated, for example, "don't lose yourself in a relationship," & "financial stability is one of my top non negotiables period." You just have to stand firm on what you want and what you are not willing to accept.

[@moniquepope5925]

I just wanted to tell you that I have been following your journey since you weight loss I also am a COGIC girl from NYC. You (Dr.Nina) are truly a blessing to me and im sure alot of women who also have similar journeys. Thank you for the refreshing advice💕🦋💯

[@TruthThatSetsFreeMinistries]

She's a sinner! The cogic is blind and no longer can see! Cussing is sin! Education is not used by God, fornication is sin! Lying us sin! Wearing the attire of whores is sin! Shacking is sin! This girls BAD FRUIT (HER OWN ACTIONS AND WORDS SIN) expose her! The Bible (Jesus ) says, know each tree by the fruit they bare. Good trees CAN'T produce bad fruit and bad trees CAN'T produce good fruit. Good trees ONLY produce good fruit and bad trees ONLY produce bad fruit. As a tree is identified by their its fruit a person can be identified by their actions (and words). Out of the heart the mouth speaks. Stop showing this girl favoritism and partiality which is not Gods love but disobedience and sin! Lastly, she serves MONEY not the Lord and you cant do both! Money is her lil g god. Thats who she's describing every time she mentions g-o-d not the One True Living God who hates sin!

[@erinsymone1645]

A sermon, a testimony! Thank you.

[@myal7532]

whew, I just turned 30. let me grab my notebook! thank you for sharing your insights

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

I’m about to turn 29 and lordddd

[@thegogetterbymaletjemamath3166]

I'm in my mid twenties and I'm telling you this is so helpful. You're the big sister I've never had. Thank you 😊

[@t-town9790]

Bingo! It's the clarity here for me! Great Work Dr. Nina!

[@krys.hughes]

I loved watching this video! It felt like me and my girls sitting around chatting and I LOL when you said bougie! I get called bougie all the time about the rhings I want un my life, but it was it is and I always obtain them 🙏🏽

[@TreasureChest0806]

Do you feel that people idolize others relationships when we only see the happy side that is presented to us?

[@mrs.israel7197]

Things are never what they appear to be. Couples fights and argues and when and public, they act sweet and loving and sometimes can’t stand each other.

[@Blys6]

I just Thurber 38 a couple weeks ago and I’ve been in 8yr relationships and now I’m back in the dating seen and I don’t like it at all. People are so weird and now this ghosting this is in. Thanks for the Jewels you have dropped I will keep it all in mind.

[@BlessedtoSOAR]

Your videos are always on time. Love you much!

[@kendracash9231]

Dr. Nina!!!! Come with it👏🏽

[@abzz718]

❤️❤️❤️this so many Gems. Take your time.. taking your time is the key to it all. Getting to know yourself and what you really want for you. Recently I realized I want a friend before I want a partner, getting to know them as a friend will be key in who choose to date next!!

[@bigmommie120]

I await to check out Cerebral and share with my daughters

[@kdove144]

I love your content so much. I feel like your the put-together aunty that doesn't exist in my family lol

[@stuartwhite8939]

Always hitting it out of the ballpark!

[@VenusNovember]

So true of letting go of the past. So glad I know how to move on quick 💨

[@StecyBenz]

My lifestyle really can’t change. That’s a deal breaker. I can’t cuz I work so hard . I’ll be 30 next week

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

I’m turning 29 soon and I’m just like dang when is my person coming ….

[@beautifuldreamer8803]

I appreciate these types of videos. ;-)

[@Rocioslane]

You hit it right on the head for me, thank you!

[@Lyricgrayce]

LOVE your videos

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

Thank you!

[@Scalh143]

Thank you for this video!! I thoroughly enjoyed it and agree to all you have said! It is very important to understand ourselves and others in the day to day and “dating arena”. Blessings to you 🙏🏼💕❤️

[@Brandilivinlife]

I'm 30 and it's hard y'all ,😭😭

[@auroragold799]

It’s hard for me to date because a lot of men don’t wanna take me out on a date… I would say they don’t wanna take woman out on dates now but I can only speak for me but it’s like dang I’m nice Why nobody wanna take me out why do they only want to “chill”

[@chisemachikumbi38]

Make it a requirement and don't settle for less... Eventually the right one will... If you want a date but always settle for Netflix and chill then that's what you'll always get... Don't be afraid to let them walk away

[@asiajohnson6191]

Don't settle they just want to get in your pants so you dodging major bullets it's ok nothing wrong with you

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

Same

[@missmargmillionaire6421]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 I've been dealing with this as well. I've decided to stop entertaining it to free up space. One dude took me out once and we chilled a couple time too. I told him I'm no longer chilling but if he wanna plan somein I'm down....he was like that's cool but next time we go out u gotta pay for yourself cuz I'm tired of paying for people. I was like well I'm tired of chilled wit ppl in they mama basement. ...he was was like yeah I'm done paying for everybody....only bums think like that........I was like ey do you.......he was like damn with a sad face....it made me realize.....yo I'm wasting energy on this?? Ew. Free that energy up

[@auroragold799]

@@missmargmillionaire6421 yup I totally agree with you it’s time to stop wasting my time

[@sachiekind]

You always deliver. 👏🏾Thank you Jesus🙏🏾

[@sonyaagibson]

This video is heaven sent 👍. I just came from a bad date. This helps me out alot. Thanks Nina Harvey 😍

[@nikkirobinson01]

My girl is engaged??🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💕

[@PhyllisMoore7]

Congratulations 🎉🎊

[@tyonnawaddy2478]

Thank you for this video!!! 💕💕💕

[@ashleynicole2980]

She hit all the points in this video!!!!

[@bigmommie120]

I was listening intently. For real. I need too. For me, it’s difficult for me to share about my past and why I got divorced.

[@tiffanytrueblood-redtailso5137]

This video came right on time for me. Thank you 🙏🏾💜

[@faith6575]

Am I here 1st? For a change? Eeeek!!!😂😂 **Ok maybe not lol. I wish I had this advice when I was younger. I'm glad these girls are getting it now. ❤️

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

Yes maam! Thanks for being here!

[@MsMEAGAIN1]

I’ve felt like something is wrong with me because I’m 33 and I haven’t ever been in a relationship 😳😩😳. 😅

[@afrobutterfly]

Me either sis, same age, too

[@modernviewer]

I’m 23...experiencing the same.

[@thelmathomas8414]

@@modernviewer You 23 you should be chasing your dreams not worrying about being in a relationship. Chase your purpose, tap into your feminity and when your not even expecting it he will come

[@jeni659]

There is nothing wrong with you my first "real relationship" wasn't until I was 31. I met a lady who was never in a relationship until she met her husband at 39 I think they been married around 15 years now.

[@annescales3612]

Awesome Teaching Well said Thank You 💘

[@keshaskitchen2250]

This was really good advice. Thank you

[@TeeAhhhna]

Yes I need this 😻👏🏾

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

I am glad it helps!

[@honeybee1795]

Sadly I’m 20 and have never been asked out before. I’ll be single for life lol. But this is a great video and congratulations

[@TreasureChest0806]

Be careful about what you speak for yourself!

[@honeybee1795]

@@TreasureChest0806 I'm trying not to. it's a working progress. it's hard for me to not compare myself to each others.

[@TreasureChest0806]

Comparison is the thief of joy! You are a whole unique, beautiful, talented person regardless of a relationship. Write down your good qualities/accomplishments & speak consoling to yourself like you would a close friend. Get in the mirror - “talking to myself in the mirror like - Sis you my boo!” ❤️

[@honeybee1795]

@@TreasureChest0806 aww that sounds like a great idea! Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it

[@joannefaith1243]

Young lady you are still young, give it time, I am 37 years old and NEVER had a boyfriend, when you get to my age, then it’s a worry lol

[@sabidhiblaawe8363]

I love youuuuu!!!

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

Love ya back!

[@abagailhall9653]

At 26, dating has been very ghetto Dr. Nina. 0/10. Would not recommend. I’m trying to change my mindset though. Thank you so much for this video!

[@tahbeeaah]

I wish I had this video 20 yrs ago

[@SC-yc5bf]

Love this content, thank you!!

[@niki1736]

Awesome Dr Nina!!! 🧡💛💥

[@bcamp917]

I’ll be 30 soon and I’m worried about having to start dating men with kids.

[@joeroot9142]

Don’t do it. Even if those parents who say “ well you ain’t getting younger and be open.” No, you don’t have kids, he shouldn’t have kids

[@cdivinetwinmom]

Preach! Jesus thank you!

[@lifewithjullie21]

I learnt a lot from you , you always deliver🤔

[@susiq1121]

New friend in my head! Subbed

[@simplynicole2290]

Thank you for this Video

[@lillychang4788]

Write a book! Or give some book recommendations!

[@melanie9063]

One of my TOP red flags is if you ask a man how his Mom is doing and he always says something negative about her or calls her out of her name, RUN!!! He will SURELY disrespect you!!! This same man often refers to nearly every woman negatively, he uses the word ‘Bitch’ several times a day in reference to almost any and every woman, friends, relatives and strangers …. He really doesn’t like women at all, whether he has admitted or even recognized this or not, not meaning he’s gay, but he has seriously animosity towards the entire gender, for reasons that may be deep seeded or on the surface….. This man could prove to be both emotionally and physically a danger and a definite disruption in a woman’s life. It’s the makings of the worst and most toxic relationship she may ever encounter…..This man will not change without professional help and consistent therapy hours and if a woman doesn’t end this type of relationship upon discovery of these issues, she too will find herself in need of a mental health professional Again Ladies, RUN, don’t walk!!!

[@Alimaway]

I been in situationships and not relationships. I been on dates but nothing official. Alot of time wasted on talking to the same ones on and off for years and nothing moving forward. Communication is a thing so many lack. If they can be honest with that they want would save everyone time and energy.

[@rerelevelingup2364]

36 and dating has been trash 😭😭😭 Im going to give up tho

[@dawniedee1071]

Dr Nina a whole good fine mess if there is such a thing❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

I receive that in JESUS name! Thanks sis!

[@myishalyles2010]

Love your videos

[@soyochataartscene4500]

I don’t understand how there are 16 people that didnt like this video

[@kimikosumi7900]

I'm 33 and haven't been in a "relationship" since I was 21. I did do him wrong but I know now that it was because I had social anxiety back then. Also, He wanted to do everything for me but I wouldn't let him like going out to eat etc. so I pushed him away. Also, I cheated on him with my neighbor because of looks and I believe that's why I have been getting played ever since. All the men I meet want to do is have sex. I've been taken advantage of by every man I've tried to date ever since and I'm lucky I don't have a disease. But, I finally put my foot down at 29 and just went celibate and I have decided to remain single for the rest of my life unless someone really good comes along💜

[@kimikosumi7900]

I'm trying to cleanse my negative karma through my Buddhist practice. I'm too old to be having booty calls. And, really at any age, that is totally unexceptionable💜

[@kimikosumi7900]

*Unacceptable💜

[@white645]

😬 YIKES!

[@DannieLj14]

The "At church" 😂😂 listen

[@stymemcquarn893]

You hit the nail on tha head about that danger danger.. 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@preciouslifeoffical]

I need this 31 and its hard out here.

[@nikkisouthernbelle8820]

I definitely agree with all of it. My last relationship definitely made me up my game of setting boundaries and not even entertaining certain things. My question is, how would you go about letting a gentleman know you are interested? I'm sooo over the taboo-ism of not approaching men. I'm not doing the chase, I'm just letting him know there is a common interest. Any suggestions?

[@sharonalbert8278]

Off topic BUT I love your hair what type of braids are those and what kind of hair or type do I need to purchase 😍😊

[@jorieboateng7895]

I'm lovin' your videos

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Lol....Soror out here pimping in Kindergarten!!!! Have an amazing year Dr. Nina....Ladies keep your eyes and mind open, always trust yourself . Do not be fooled by Pookie and Ray-Ray,.

[@naturalbeyouty]

LOL, I love the kindergarten story!