Dating Over 50: 10 Things Men Unknowingly Do that Women Find Irresistibly Attractive!

[@marciakeichel3990]

I am 80 and my man friend is 77. On our first Date he stared into my eyes, listened to me speak, took me by the hand and kissed me often in a park we had gone to. We are now an item and in happiness heaven. Generous, caring and loving man in all ways. Life does not end at 80. Keep searching and you, too, can find a good man.

[@2ndActTV]

I just LOVE that!!! Thanks for watching and sharing your inspiring life!

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

You are an inspiration! That's what I am talking about. It's NEVER too late. Congrats!

[@jazstar4622]

I love that passion exists forever 💓 it keeps me alive Every thing else fades Yr living proof of this and thanks so much for sharing And may love always be with you ❤️

[@karengriffin9642]

Recently, on a date (I am 70, he is 71) when he opened my car door for me to get out, he also reached his hand down and very gently gave me a hand out. I absolutely melted, because it made my normal awkward exit (due to age) quite graceful! SO incredibly thoughtful!!!

[@Wildevis]

How they treat others, especially those who may be less fortunate than them for some or other reason, is a big yes for me, just shows me they look beyond themselves. I love it when a man stares at me affectionatily/lovingly, I feel seen and appreciated ,especially that stare accross a room. Once you are at the touching stage, I love the gentle hand behind my back, makes me feel very protected. I would say most of them I agree with. Tipping miserly immediately switches me off. Once I actually offered to pay the tip as I was so embaressed, he allowed me to and did not even get the hint, well, never saw him again. In general, when just the 2 of you are out on a date, don't go to a place you know you will have divided interest like a sports bar, unless, as you said, you both know what game is on and both want to see it and enjoy and discuss together

[@2ndActTV]

Yes, agree with all! Funny I often did the same with “tipping” - and then never saw the guy again! 😊

[@DougHardy541]

The best first date ever … inside a sports bra 2:15! If both Silke and Joni agree with these ten points, then they are a must do gentlemen.

[@2ndActTV]

Can't say enough about "sports bras" 🤣 ... You always crack me up Doug! Good to hear from you!

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

I love reading the comments. Especially when they make me spit my coffee out. Love the sense of humor and the support. Thanks for watching!

[@Snappypantsdance]

A first date inside a sports bra- great Freudian slip😁!

[@saraiannaccone1790]

Thank you. Yes yes yes 😊. I enjoy listening to your talks.

[@2ndActTV]

Thank you Sara! Good to see you!🤗

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

So happy you're here!

[@saraiannaccone1790]

@franklange957 thank you. I’m from Long Island, NY

[@LC-pk4zz]

Paying the bill on a first date is also very attractive!!! (even if we offer) chivalry still counts in the early days! However, women should always reciprocate in some way, in the early stages of dating (and I'm not talking about 'putting out') and text or call the next dat to thank their date. 🥰

[@2ndActTV]

Absolutely! Maybe it's our generation, but unless I invited the guy for a specific reason, I would always want the man to pay the dinner bill. It puts him in charge!! And I ALWAYS find other ways, including financial, to reciprocate. (And I'm not talking about "putting out either" ... (well, at least not always) 🤣 For me, this is the dance we play with male/female energy that is so important in a lasting and happy relationship! Thanks for your comment!

[@tomjeffersonwasright2288]

It is really sexy when a woman plunks down her cash...and still thanks me for taking her out.

[@joerockhead7246]

Thanks, Silke, & Joni. I enjoyed this episode.

[@2ndActTV]

Thanks Joe!

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Thanks for letting us know, Joe!

[@om617yota8]

Anyone else in a happily committed long term relationship, and listen to Silke for ways to keep pleasing your partner? I can't be the only one?

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

I LOVE THIS!

[@adrianabrown1011]

Are you a woman or a man? Guessing you're a man, coming to the rare place for tips on how to please a woman! The whole outside world is full of tips on how to please a man! I listen just for tips that apply whether in a relationship or not. And for the light fun conversation.

[@2ndActTV]

I hope you're not the only one! LOL Thanks for the nice comment!

[@izakvandermerwe346]

In our company in Cape Town, we have a rule: That if you have two bathrooms in your house, you tip 20% Or if you have two garages, 20% Often they have to share it with everyone, also in the kitchen.

[@2ndActTV]

That’s interesting, I’ve never heard that before! 🤔 Thanks for sharing

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

I've never heard that before. That's awesome.

[@patriciap870]

Great basic comments in my group age trying to start over! Need all the good tips and guys …please listen to this ladies 😂

[@robertvarner9519]

At my age, just being alive may make me irresistibly attractive to women. (Many of my friends I grew up with are dead...funny....their widows are still alive) As for dating? I no longer have the desire to be with a woman (or anyone else) for companionship. I tried when I was younger to team up with a gal but there were no takers. That's life.

[@catalhuyuk7]

Until we’re dead we’re still game imho. I just beat cancer so feel like I have a second lease to life.

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

That's a great opening line. Made me smile! Silke and I totally support relationships, being single, or hanging with groups. There is no right way to do life except to "do you" which you are. Thanks so much for sharing!

[@robertvarner9519]

@@catalhuyuk7 Yes, I also "beat" cancer back in 1999. Caught it early just by chance. Good luck to you. 👍👍

[@catalhuyuk7]

@@robertvarner9519 Thanks. In the spirit of love it’s Never Too Late. Good luck to you as well.

[@adrianabrown1011]

Thank you Silke and Joni, always a treat and sensible advice! One thing I would add: kindness to animals is very attractive. Also kindness and generosity toward other humans less fortunate than him - so hot! 🤩😂

[@2ndActTV]

Hi Adriana, and yes, I totally agree! Kindness towards others less fortunate (including animals) is soooo hot!! 😉

[@DD-ic1bd]

Excellent segment ladies!!❤ Definitely give her full attention!!.. and not just for the first date!!, lol.. went out with a guy, was great the first date, second date he was facing tv with important basketball game on, i felt the distraction.. third date went bowling and he was wayyy to serious, lol... i didnt feel a connection and ended it.. he liked me a lot but i saw his personality fast, if this is the beginnings how will it be after awhile together?? Thanks again!❤❤

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

It's really about finding your "match". Could be the guy is perfect for the next gal he dates, just not your match. Thanks for watching and commenting.

[@DD-ic1bd]

@@jonicaldwelllerner3147 absolutely.. compatibility for each person is different!

[@2ndActTV]

Hi DD, good for both of you that you recognized this was not a match quickly! You're right, if this is the beginning, it only intensifies from here! 😉

[@jekalambert9412]

I know this was extreme, but I grew up in a home where my father put the TV on the table during meals so he wouldn't miss any part of a sport event. Everyone was forbidden to speak because HE was watching sports. Transgressions by me as an only child were met with physical abuse. I simply will not date any guy who is into sports, or who even watches TV for that matter. I tried. I married someone who constantly watched televised sports and I found myself having PTSD responses to the sound of the crowds, not to mention all the stress producing commercials that featured guns, threats of violence, terror, screaming, dramatic car chases, car crashes, explosions, etc...I don't think we as individuals living in a culture can have any sanity if this is accepted as "normal".

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

First of all, thank you for your vulnerable and important comment. And I am sorry that you experienced that as a child. It's so good that you know yourself and that you are making choices that support your well being.

[@catalhuyuk7]

I empathize with you. My father watched all the sports and it was a nightmare. I especially disliked football, I’m being gracious here- but it turns out my granddaughter’s bf plays for the CFL and my grandson’s goal is to play for the NFL. Why football for crying out loud? It’s interesting what opportunities life will bring to help us deal with past trauma. I watch the highlights and that’s good enough, plus I watched Ted Lasso all 3 seasons about 5X, which helped tremendously. Good luck to you.♥️🇨🇦🏈⚽️⛸️🥅🏒

[@stephenkilpatrick807]

Thanks!

[@dwayneheeter]

Thank you!

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Our pleasure. As you can tell! Hahah.

[@dwayneheeter]

@@jonicaldwelllerner3147 do you have content? A program?

[@2ndActTV]

@@dwayneheeter Dwayne, you should schedule a call with Joni!! It's complimentary and you have everything to gain!!

[@dwayneheeter]

​@@2ndActTVhow do I go about this?

[@dwayneheeter]

@@2ndActTV i found Joni. I sent her a message. thank you both 🙂

[@ladonnawilson2145]

Kiss on the forehead is wonderful

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Right?

[@kostasplaneart]

YOU ARE GREAT WOMEN FROM THE PAST GREAT YEARS...cos today is just a world full of crap!!!! I am doing all of these kind real man gestures...but also thank you Joni for the great advises!!! I wish young generations to live the way flirting was at the past with no cell phones and no apps and socila media that most of the time give trouble than solutions!!! Another great video i wish more people to join your nice channel Silke...i come from Greece but i wish i was close there to meet you in person!!! It will be my privileage!!!!

[@2ndActTV]

We so appreciate your wonderful feedback and engagement! Thank you!!

[@kostasplaneart]

@@2ndActTV it is my pleasure!!!!

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Hello to you and Greece! An amazing, passionate and beautiful country. And I admire anyone who speaks more than one language fluently. We appreciate you!

[@kostasplaneart]

@@jonicaldwelllerner3147 thank you!!!.. Joni...i also admire persons like you that help people to be able to connect with each other by giving so much good advice and encouragement!!! I enjoy listening you in these great videos by Silke!!! Have a nice day

[@kimmcnichols9650]

I agree about the nose … first thing I thought was do not kiss my nose 😂

[@2ndActTV]

I know!! 🤣

[@hump1953]

I asked a woman to text me when she got home after a date… I drove 20 miles to the bar/restaurant.. her home was just around the corner from the bar and was walkable…

[@allicat140]

I agree with your final comments about touching, but saying someone’s name…please don’t overdo it. If someone mentions my name in every sentence, I feel like it’s overdone and loses its cachet.

[@2ndActTV]

I agree, don’t say the name too much, then it loses value and it’s obvious you are doing it for affect! 🙂

[@lionheart830]

And don't use my name with a "but..." before it!

[@2ndActTV]

@@lionheart830 that’s Funny! Joni and I just recorded a video yesterday that mentioned the “but” no no …. 😂

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

That's an amazing point. Once again, I wish I had added that. Too much is too much!

[@adrianabrown1011]

Maybe too much is not good as you say. As a woman in a relationship with a guy who says my name a few times a year it's hard for me to relate to the "too much" situation...

[@retalove3974]

I love most of these. I do not like a man putting his hand on my back if he tries to guide me. And I agree with not liking to be kissed on my nose.

[@RedRoyce]

Darn I just ordered 10 air horns! LOL Most of these I do or done if it seem right. Some are just being a good man. We had a bad storm go through and the girl I was dating for a few weeks lived on the other side of the town. I couldn't get her on the phone so I went over to check on her and her girls. She was shocked I would do that and you could see it in her eyes she loved it. I didn't do it for points but I got them. HA! Good show girls

[@janespitfire9884]

Enjoy her videos and her laugh. She has good advice!! Ahh what about a man who can start a fire in the hearth and with his woman? That is a space in unions too right?

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

I think I understand what you are saying. Any man that can start a fire in a hearth and in her heart is a keeper!

[@mypov4343]

If you're not doing these things already well then you just might not be that into her! I would add eye contact. If you have great eye contact that is awesome! And if you don't and she looks away after a bit of eye contact that's a red flag! Either she has issues or She's Not That Into You

[@ssiegreen5292]

Good one!

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Great point. We should do a segment on He/She's Not That Into You!

[@2ndActTV]

Agree! Lets see about that!

[@mypov4343]

@@2ndActTV little eye contact, short text messages, no touching, and no follow-through. Damn that's enough to turn anybody off LOL

[@mcdonaldsmanager]

I'm 59 and attracted to women in their 30's but don't have any luck so I'm going to try early 40's to see if my luck changes.

[@ssiegreen5292]

I'm with Joni about the baby thing - this has got to be a young woman's thing - hormones + reproductive glands in overproduction, looking for a suitable mate to create a family with. With age comes wisdom - and the knowledge that not every man who looks at babies, children and youngsters with adorable eyes and a gentle touch - has good intentions. In our age group I'd like to see more overall kindness towards others - whether handicapped or challenged or whatever the PC term is nowadays, to the downtrodden/down on their luck homeless or poor, towards the elderly that can use a bit extra help, time and patience. And of course towards animals. I'm a sucker for a man who will treat furkids - whether they have fur, feathers, scales or too many legs - with kindness [I do pass on spider lovers though - unless they live in a terrarium and stay in there all the time - I will kindly pass and leave him for someone else to appreciate!].

[@2ndActTV]

Yes, kindness means so much! And I’m also big on fur kids! Funny what you say about spiders, I find it so amusing when a big tough guy (or gal) is creeped out by this “little thing” that can generally be crushed with one finger. 😀 I’m one of those that captures a spider in a plastic cup and throws it outside, and I feel bad when I vacuum up a spider. Guess that’s me and Buddha 😂

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@2ndActTV You are a better woman than I am!!! I was more thinking about the tarantulas or big wolf spiders, LOL. The little ones no longer bother me [I live in GA + after 30 years of living here - insect life has to be pretty spectacular to bother me, LOL]. We've pretty much come to a mutual "live and let live" scenario - other when they show up in my BR late at night!

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Haha. I hear you on the spiders, though I will take them out the door in my hands rather than kill them. I think it's also a good sign if they want to be a good grandparent. Attentive. But you are spot on, "overall kindness" wins the day!

[@richardhintonracing]

Walking her on the side away from the road originated from the days before roads were sealed and it was to keep her away from being splashed with muddy water when a wheeled vehicle ran through a puddle of water on the carriageway.

[@josephkrizauskas1052]

If during dinner she gets a food/drink drip on her top/dress, should I tell her or offer to clean it with a napkin or something?

[@truthboomertruthbomber5125]

As a taller man the chaste kiss is likely to be to the top of the head 😇

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Pretty funny!

[@2ndActTV]

Perfect! 🤗😉

[@raymondsmith2154]

A forehead kiss means I care about you.

[@2ndActTV]

That's nice!! I think so too!

[@andrewbird57]

I enjoy football and am an LA Chargers fan. But it would never occur to me have a first meet at a sports bar. A first meet should be someplace quiet, like a coffee shop, where you sit across from each other face to face. I've also had good first dates at wineries where it was quiet and we could sit and talk. When I was young I earned my living from tips (bartending) so I always tip well. But many times your date doesn't see how much you tip. But I always, always treat staff well. I'm always polite and never take an attitude that they are somehow beneath me. I have a hard time showing my goofy side on a first date. It takes me a few meets to let that side show. I always let a woman show me she is interested in physical touch before I touch her. Usually she lets me know with a hug when we are parting. After the first meet, I don't know if asking for a text to me know they are OK is appropriate. I believe that would come off as over-bearing after just one meet.

[@2ndActTV]

You raise some good points Andrew! It’s interesting what you said about the date often not seeing the tip. Having also worked as a waitress for many years in high school and college, I’m very sensitive to “how people tip”, and I tended to peek 🫣 at the bill to see the tip! It was very telling, and there were actually a couple times I went to the waitress privately and gave her an additional tip. 😊 The guy didn’t know it, but my overall controlling behavior when first dating again, ran off a few guys 😅!

[@ssiegreen5292]

Andrew - I think it's perfectly fine to ask for a confirmation that they got home ok. I think it's appropriate if the evening went well and you want to meet again. I - as a woman - would have no problem myself asking for that confirmation from my date, if he did most of the driving and has driven in from out of town and has an hour return trip or close to it to get back home. Here were I live in a rural area - evening driving usually makes for close encounters with antlered species - and I've had my share of close calls myself.

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Very thoughtful. Just trust yourself on all of it. You're crushing it.

[@andrewbird57]

Today's topic reminded me of this scene from the movie Groundhog Day. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nGq4dpqcnLmVlZI&ab_channel=muhhest

[@justintindall9515]

You women are nuts! In a nice way...agree with everything you say. For me it all comes naturally...but then I had a Dad that grew roses and tulips for Mom.

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

First of all, thank you for the compliment. hahaha. "Nuts in a nice way..." I'll take it! Second of all, I love your dad already. That's amazing.

[@2ndActTV]

I'll take "nuts in a nice way" as well .... 🤣... or goofy in a good way! Thanks for watching Justin!

[@veronicaleon8075]

lol.. not the nozzle 😂

[@katiethiele6805]

When they open your car door for you.

[@azmike3572]

Oh--gently caressing HER thumb. I was caressing mine. No wonder there was no reaction. 🙂

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Yes, HER thumb. But good on ya for practicing!

[@azmike3572]

@@jonicaldwelllerner3147 (But of course I wasn't serious.)

[@Pault3788]

I would have done some of these if I would've dated,I think a lot of men would

[@2ndActTV]

You still can Drew!!

[@Pault3788]

@@2ndActTV I don't have anything to offer is what the woman I've asked out tell me🤷

[@woodliceworm4565]

I guess you have to date to try things out or be told clearly about unintentional actions, as this only applies to the Chad-like men who may be part of the few that Robert alluded to?- I have read that on a date the woman should talk 4 times more than the man. - In my few dates, it's more like 14x more, soon AI will replace me as a listening post - for the better. Still, you can't get it all right all the time so you can only do your best, be civil, kind and with manners mostly. When you get ghosted just go with the flow, and discuss the frustrations and vengeance on humanity at the men's meeting in the Dr Evil base later. If a man can't change a nappy single-handedly, sort out the nappy, wash up and then feed the baby with the other hand while sorting out the vacuum with their foot.- then he's no real man. babies = stress and work if you see one run for your life. Joni - the purpose of walking on the street side is to prevent the horse and cart from throwing up muck onto her long dress nowadays it has become protecting women from being shoved into traffic but it is a throwback, it's like men can be both potentially ghosted and flattened much worse than just horse poo, all on a date - Dating is more problematic for men these days.

[@catalhuyuk7]

I had a bit of a chuckle at some of your comments- so true though. As far as the man walking on the outside of the sidewalk it was also because in Europe, especially England people would throw their trash, etc, out the window. The saying, “They’re so poor they don’t have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of,” comes to mind.🌧️😜

[@2ndActTV]

You're too funny Woody! Thanks for the laugh, over "deep thoughts"

[@squaretriangle9208]

The always naming you in conversation is in fact very offputting because you always feel the learned method here And the kiss on the forehead seems very parental

[@2ndActTV]

Yeah, I see your point ... naming just a few times - not always - is the key here! Otherwise, like you said, it feels too "learned"!!

[@NoName-zb1gm]

Kiss on the forehead depends on the person. I see videos on KZbin where men in their 20's and 30's are kissing their girl's forehead.

[@RS-xo7rd]

Very interesting and amusing. I'd like more on touching. I personally resist any touching with women, but as I've aged, I've found I often want to just put my arm on a woman's waist completely non-sexually as a kind of reassurance come protection. I resist doing it, though.. I've also started to want to call women 'darling', too, so going soft in the head? I've also been the recipient of much arm touching from women during conversation, having sometimes only just met them at, say, a large Meet Up function. I always assume there is no sexual interest involved, but what say you to all this?

[@lionheart830]

Not the nose!

[@2ndActTV]

Yeah, that just feels weird! 😂

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

No nose. 😁😆🤣

[@richb1784]

No to the nose. Good to know.

[@2ndActTV]

😂 Thanks for watching!

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

Could be there's a beauty out there that would like it? Just our experience. :D

[@eddy2561]

Irresistible to the ladies? The guy pulls up in a new $275,000 Porsche Caymen GT4 RS for the first date....I think Silke drives one 😳

[@jonicaldwelllerner3147]

HA!!!! Hi Eddy. Can't hug a car. Not impressed by a hunk of metal or a bank account, but yes, Silke would look good in any car!

[@eddy2561]

@@jonicaldwelllerner3147 And so would you Joni....

[@2ndActTV]

Hi Eddy, I've actually mentioned this before when someone said, "all you need is a Porsche" or something like that ... I personally am NOT impressed by that! To me - a man - especially in our age group - who would spend that kind of money on a "look at me" car just screams insecurity... no thank you! Now a nice "sensible Mercedes" ... that can be attractive and elegant! I'm hurt that you have me all wrong, Eddy! 😂

[@eddy2561]

@@2ndActTV How about a motorcycle Silke? 🛴

[@woodliceworm4565]

@@2ndActTV Well a car may not impress and be necessary for attraction, but when it has that four-eye spider look from the front, sort of battle-like paintwork and reminds you of the Thunder Dome it can and has scared a few away.

[@douglasbrinkman5937]

Have money….

[@woodliceworm4565]

We don't have tipping we have min Govt mandated wage rates.

[@2ndActTV]

It's definitely different in different parts of the world ... I think American culture has the biggest tippers :-) ... not sure why that is ...

[@jane63]

MEN! Be sure your hands are clean and in good condition before you start holding hands and rubbing thumbs or whatever!

[@mtdebh20]

I love a hand in the small of my back.

[@2ndActTV]

I do too! Thanks for watching!