Dating Stories from Japan - A Lesson on Women

[@CoalGeorge]

This is why I follow this man. He’s just as real as it gets. It’s all about priorities. Find what drives you, stand by your morals, and have the spine to say no and stand up for whats right. You’ll end up better than you were before and people will treat you as such.

[@john-mi1ud]

amen brotha...

[@joshuatealeaves]

supa dupa facts

[@konstantinossohos2349]

I agree I honestly needed this a lot

[@adrianc-h1]

fr this dude is freaking awesome

[@Rainer125]

This guy is a Chad that gets women without moving a finger it doesn’t matter what he does if a 5/10 average guy does the same the women will hate him anyway. Looks = personality. If women are automatically into you literally can’t f up if you aren’t a Chad nothing you do works.

[@AdanSensei]

Ah, learning to speak womenese on top of Japanese is the real life super power 🔥

[@Rainer125]

Being a Chad is a super power. Chads could bang 50 different women a day even with women that don’t speak the same language.

[@sk8_bort]

Yeah. He was speaking extremely advanced womenese IN Japanese. Freaking galaxy brain.

[@sirmrs6952]

The girls that’ll play games and waste your time are the ones who say they like guys that act like they’re too good for them… Like the woman his story is about lol basically was just a one night stand that annoyed him. That’ll change when it comes to girls with a good head on their shoulders. They won’t want a guy that thinks it’s okay to act like he’s too good for them. Be humble, set boundaries, and look out for yourself and the people around you. You’ll go alot further in general.

[@sews1523]

Word. Find a mature lady with self-respect

[@slatlock4942]

Yea tbh I want some good head on some shoulders

[@cc-running]

After going through some shit like this, I feel such a strong relatable frustration through this video 😭😭

[@yungjamez312]

Pulling my hair out

[@Muzly]

"Dig some guts out" 😂😂😂😂 Awesome phraseology.

[@ripwig6682]

Spot on. Yeah. I'm just like you. It's a bad start when they wine over nothing. Imagine how many guy's marry those types of girls and what that does for society

[@avionix1995]

Moral of the story: Have respect for yourself. If someone disrespects you, don't bend over backwards for them just because you find them attractive. At the end of the day, your date is a person like you so don't put them on a pedestal and instead treat them like an equal. Know when to stand up for yourself in situations like when a girl starts making comments about your actions or character which aren't true because that shows that you have a backbone and respect for yourself. Peace out ✌️

[@ghostprotocol5708]

I've seen in other videos about japan a similar thing, when a girl actually likes you she acts childish and as if she doesn't want you. But basically "No" means "yes" that is a scary game to play 😂

[@Cardboardcar918]

Me 2 movement in Japan would be wild

[@beburs]

@@Cardboardcar918to be fair the women there don’t seem to want it because they couldn’t play these acts with men anymore lol

[@Navarronegative]

They love the chase

[@sleepydog08]

​@@Cardboardcar918there already is one bc creepy guys molesting women is an epidemic in japan lol... thats why they have female only trains

[@ddrcrono]

She was probably also upset that you kissed her and then just continued on with karaoke casually - I think that would feel kind of cold to a Japanese person, especially since they don't kiss on the first date as often to begin with. That said she also independent of that sounded really annoying and controlling.

[@TcGroenestege]

Exactly, she probably liked him initially but then probably wasn't used to him kissing her so soon (as its not a common occurance/culture difference). She got upset and then that created an argument, perhaps she didn't explain her frustration well, causing him to leave. When he told her she would leave she likely got more frustrated because that wasn't her intention > "Wait wait.." Atleast thats how I perceived it.

[@simonepamio8109]

Regardless of the fact I’m living in Japan too and I can somewhat relate, you just earned a subscriber by just how real and wise your talk was. Good luck with everything

[@HKstroller]

I swear some of these girls over here are absolutely out of their minds. Everything this man described is real.

[@cosborne06]

“Matte! Maaaaatttteeeee’” 😂

[@lakecityransom]

lol man is alpha widowing on 1st date.

[@ps3nickolia12]

😂😂😂 these Japanese women are literally anime characters wtf

[@ashishbarthwal6961]

@@ps3nickolia12 Now we know where all them tropes come from lol

[@Zedzilliot]

She's actually australian and is saying "Mate"

[@cosborne06]

@@ps3nickolia12 lmao for real!

[@TsugoiiDesune22]

She probably was torn because she doesn't want you to leave and never see her again. Kissing has a deep connection. People in the hook-up culture will avoid kissing for that reason alone. It's deeper and can be more emotionally effective than just sex alone. I think she really just didn't want to get led on. It may have happened to her many times. Kissing someone willy nilly without wanting a deeper connection I'd imagine is frowned upon in Japan. Just my take. Otherwise, nice story. I wish Id study japanese further, so I can move there some day :c

[@lilrosebush]

Agreed, this and my religion is why I avoid hooking up. Sex isn’t intimacy, it’s the total antithesis of it tbh….

[@redx12ae33]

kissing is deeper than s*x? holy hell, holy, holy helllllll

[@anthonyxavier6300]

Story like yours and from my experience, I'm glad that I'm single. I'm done with the drama. The sex is not worth it.

[@anthonyxavier6300]

@@WithoutException I got my right hand that takes care of me.

[@vjp2866]

@@anthonyxavier6300 yoo, no man .....its not worth it, it brings more darkness. Find Jesus ! he is the answer for your void in your heart.

[@brakmaster]

@@anthonyxavier6300 Why what happened to your left hand?

[@anthonyxavier6300]

@@brakmaster Backup just in case.

[@Sweatsofficiallytheworst]

​@@anthonyxavier6300Tbh, this is how I'm feeling rn. Had a chick I went to middle school (I liked her back then) hit me up in my DMs and tried to flirt with me and all types of ish. So I wanted to do some research and went to her FB and found out she was married. Bro, I was like "This is crazy" and after 8 intentionally made my replies dry AF so she can get the hint to leave me alone. It's crazy out here.

[@michaelm9621]

The knowledge you have about women at your age. Pure gold

[@ameoba10]

Been watching a few of your vids, and really appreciate your authentic stories and sharing of your experiences. At almost 40, feeling so inspired and also realising I rarely had healthy masculine influences in my life before. Big respect. Inspired to take more responsibility for my life and respect myself actually

[@jakealkemn4753]

This is my 2nd vid watching this guy and it's funny and learning experience. Thumbs up and subscribed!

[@skeetpete6116]

Your story is consistent with my experience and my friends. When someone tells me what my advice is for dating a japanese girl, I have one word: Run.

[@kingmaafa120]

Nowadays for sure FACTS

[@Rainer125]

Japanese women are wonderful girlfriends this dude is just a Chad that bangs 75 women a year and doesn’t even want a gf lol.

[@maegalroammis6020]

because they're all like that.

[@WithoutException]

Your impression of her getting mad made me laugh because my girl does the exact same thing lololol, all pouty and all

[@WithoutException]

That being said, if a girl is turned on by playing mind games with you, it’s giving 🚩. Gonna be lots of push and pull and manipulation

[@FlemishW]

you lucky son of a gun imagine getting the resting bitch face instead (my ex)

[@YeahNom]

I think the issue from her perspective is she wanted to smash, but obviously she can't directly express that as a Japanese girl + when you stopped kissing her and went back to singing, that felt like rejection to her, she didn't expect you to stop, hence the extreme reaction Still, lotta red flags from her emotional response, defo a bit crazy

[@BenjaminGrec]

This is the ultimate foreigner experience

[@Rainer125]

This is the ultimate Chad experience who has thousands of women throwing themselves at him without putting in any effort. Living like this must be an amazing experience.

[@JeffarryLounder]

@@Rainer125 I disagree. He possesses a lot of good social traits. He isn't pulling just by being attractive. I could never imagine myself going on all these dates and doing karaoke lol.

[@Rainer125]

@@JeffarryLounder its just about looks

[@ryan6111]

​@@JeffarryLounder Doing all that is easy asf in Asia if you're a half decent looking white man

[@user-783hhss7w2oifhe]

@@JeffarryLounder He's a white dude in Japan. Obviously it's easy

[@juliejablonowski2151]

the REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY here is wild

[@szymonster7610]

She was annoyed you didnt continue the kiss and the physical and went back to singing instead. Like fucking and then turning on the playstation 😂 although hard to tell without seeing what it was like. props on sticking to your guns

[@kumarchandru9889]

damn i didn't expect to actually watch the whole 20 min, my dude knows how to tell a story

[@LoafingMushroom]

Anime has ruined a whole generation of women 😂😂😂

[@aaronguardado3736]

😂😂

[@beburs]

Nah I think this is just how young jap women act, I am not into it specifically honestly but it is very cute you can’t deny they are great actors

[@kennethmyrez]

mind elaborating

[@LoafingMushroom]

@@kennethmyrez yes.

[@johnnyquiddd7281]

​@@kennethmyrez I guess he's saying that shojo manga/ anime altered/ influenced an entire generation of women's views on how relationships work. Y'know... The usual - unrealistic expectations from the men they want to date irl. Just watch some scenes from a shojo anime and observe the dynamic between the female characters and the male characters and you'll get it eventually, there's a certain pattern you will notice. And now picture this - lots of generations of women in Japan grew up watching that stuff and thinking "ohh so that's how a real relationship should be like" or "when I grow up I want to have a bf who acts like X character from Y anime" I hope this answers your question ✌️🫡

[@Theo.M1989]

you a wise young man dude. i was once into Japan and quite arrogantly I thought that I would narcissistically demonstrate my alpha vibes and get ladies. all just self delusions and fantasies. I stopped fetishizing Japan and possible might never travel over there. bottom line, you handled this instance perfectly man. show some pity/compassion for this poor soul which has been brought up in a pool of constant stress and cultural norms and justify her obnoxious and rude attitude towards you. they are afraid of westerners but they would love to know that they dated one. they simply have so tight and strict approaches towards romantic dates they simply cannot tell right from wrong, normal from abnormal. your normal method of just trying to kiss her was just abnormal to her. show understanding, show compassion let go. or just move to Latin America...

[@pixelpuppy]

your advice at the end is on point, but man you're culturally blind here. This girl definitely saw you as a potential long term, so the kiss REALLY messed her up and confused her because that's not how normal dating culture in Japan works. It's very structured. If you want long term, you gotta play long game for at least a month of this stuff before kissing. You explaining North American dating culture to her doesn't mean a thing, because what she feels is what she feels. Her not wanting you to leave her is definitely a woman thing if they're into you. Glad you ended up going to a bar after but there was no shot at escalating if she wants long term. She's probably still into you. If you want long game, she'll be there for it.

[@GreenTeaViewer]

agree with this. This guy has a lot to learn and to be honest is arrogant and narcissistic. It's not that Japanese girls are not up for something casual, many are, but if she's into you and is looking for long term, then a certain type of behavior will kick in.

[@maximilianko]

Bro is a victim for the Japanese gaslighting lol, been in Japan for 3 months , banged 24 girls in the first night (most of them were looking for something serious ) so cut the BS and be smarter than this

[@GabrielFerCav]

Dude, just found your channel by chance, love the storytelling and insights.

[@acforsale5802]

5:30 i am not a great singer but I did in multiple bands… Bro is humble 🐝

[@justaloner9033]

The way you imitate her 😂😂😂😂

[@thepapakeeganshow6440]

“Anyways I start singing twist by korn” had me dying as a massive korn fan especially your korn scatman voice 😂😂

[@ImOnGearSoWhat]

This is the authentic experience in Japan videos I want, not that influencer selective street talking BS.

[@AndrewHenry-r7o]

The silly part about this as unexpected as it might seem is that the while reason she started behaving like that is fhat she probably wanted you to keep kissing and probdbly.having that lead to a hookup or more right then and there, or have that lead to you inviting her back to your place, or her inviting you back to her place etc. Basically she wanted the sexual / intimate escalation to contiue right there. As touchy of a subject as that is some girls like that depending on how much they like a guy and how she feels in the moment. You didnt do anything wrong by pulling away to continue singing in the playful fun manner you did. She just didnt know how to take that and assumed it was a pull away game, when you were simpky just enjoying the date and trying not to come off as too pushy. But she wanted that pushiness. Not your fault at all but its rough because developing the discernment to know when a girl wants you to take it further or not in escalation can be a landmine feild to figure and learn how to make good reads, especially with her throwing nixed signals after just because she was mad. I also have had times with specifically asian women where they would get mad if you didnt push for more or consisitently escalate to sex asap after soem type of intimacy has started, and ive also had a fwb that came over to hookup, but we talked first and she thought i was being too much by having my arm around her shoulder to comfort herwhile she was venting, and told me i came off as only wanting her for sex for that even though didnt make any moves and just wanted to comfort her as she vented. Like 5 years later she told me she wish she hadnt done that and she was just emotional while young and that she actually needed that physical intimacy amap from me and wish she hadnt pushed me off back then, which lead to us no longer talking for a while. But anyways its just hard to learn how to read and the conflicting words about what the girl wants doesent help. Theres scenarios that dont work out over stuff like that too lol. What your saying is correct, hold frame, know when to walk away and or say no if its games even an inch past what you are going to want to deal with, or anywhere past what you know you should ve dealing with, and always try to make the best reads and decisions you can, and if it doesent work you have great reference experiences to refer to from then on to just have way more success and have better reads almost on an intuitive level as time goes on!

[@lilyghassemzadeh]

You did all the right things. Such girls have unmet needs that even themselves don't know how could be met.

[@kalogio]

This story came at perfect time, thanks man :)

[@MasterNinja786]

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL the japanese impersonations were funny ..... Bro i swear i didn't see your last vids on my feed.. I guess i gotta binge again

[@johndang8971]

Had a similar experience in Vietnam. I guess asian women in general play weird games like that, especially the kissing on the first date

[@AG-sb7pu]

Lmao 😂 the matte part was hilarious

[@prdalien0]

Don't listen to what they say, do watch what they do. Simple as.

[@justkev234]

Aah Japanese women not much different than my hispanic women lmaoo who would’ve thought

[@rolfanderson3925]

Ditto for yt women 😂😂😂

[@hokkaidosnow6643]

Never going to forget the one I was dating that told me i should have mentioned mt eating disorder early on. Same woman after sleeping together in a hotel, decided to tell me she got divorced 2 months ago. 🤡

[@Lifeisgoodxxx-jx8pm]

Hahaha hilarious... So would you get Japanese wife later?

[@rolfanderson3925]

Bruh this guy is my favorite KZbinr rn

[@FachriFaqot]

i really laugh when you practice the japanese words emotionally.. 🤣🤣🤣

[@dallashill23]

My girl was the exact opposite of this, dats why I married her 😂😊

[@井吹ときと]

Im a foreigner living in Japan now. Honestly in the beginning I was not into Japanese women. I was actually trying to hook up with western girls who like Asian boys (Im brown asian). My logic was that maybe those western girls who come to Japan will like Asian boys more. Long story short, now I'm married to a Japanese girl. That sudden emotional outburst from a Japanese woman you mentioned, I experienced it first hand. Nice video m8, Im hooked to your videos now. My job is 100% remote and I am binging on your video while im working.

[@emmanuela.1184]

Nice, what do you do?

[@井吹ときと]

@@emmanuela.1184 coding and being miserable at the same time

[@tenacious_takakumi2680]

Well did you hook up with a Japanese then? Or did you meet her originally not with dating in mind

[@井吹ときと]

@@tenacious_takakumi2680 I met her with no dating in mind....I mean, she is cute for east asian woman.

[@Suedeash]

@@井吹ときと lol I considered going this route but I can't justify it, grats for having a cushy WFH gig in Japan, for me it'd be the long way around to work there

[@distinctloafer]

Old news, but all that talk about being alpha and having morals and principle, not breaking under shit test just to out yourself as a dude that sleeps around casually, no different to a 304 mate.

[@RobertDniroLHC]

That girl was right 😂…but she knew what she was getting into. She just had that moment of guild and frustration about hook ups…then acted like that only to regret it later bc she’s so into foreigners could not help herself 😂

[@distinctloafer]

@@RobertDniroLHC Exactly, she's a slut too. Birds of a feather flock together, the video should titled: Lesson on Women for Man, from a Fuckboy that also pretends to be a good man part time.

[@kaen4299]

The alpha talk is always cringe but you can have one night stands and still have morals and principles, what are you yapping about? What's immoral about two adults having consensual intimacy over a short period of time outside of a relationship? What's wrong is if you play around without genuinely expressing your expectations.

[@SouthernScaffolder88]

@@kaen4299 look up microchimerism.

[@PARZ90s]

@@kaen4299 He's soy. If you're a man and you can sleep around, do it. Women are doing it, why cant men? Not only that but its also harder for men to do it so if he has the opportunity to do it he 100% should.

[@br1an_235]

You’re spitting too much real facts man. Keep it up

[@verone272]

I think she really liked you but I feel that she reacted in a way that japanese guys would have liked and you didn’t react like a japanese guy and it caught her off guard! If you see a pattern in every date with japanese girls you might want to really communicate at first that it doesn’t work for you that you are a westerner and you need honesty in a relationship and if she is going to say things like dame you will take it seriously or stuff like that! The mentality is so different in japan it’s crazy! Do japanese guys dislike when girls say things like I liked it, I want more or just respond positively after making moves on them? Do they like to play non-consensual games or something? 😂

[@chasejoseph]

Tbh with all my time spent living in Asia it always come to this point where you realize you never truly will become accepted and you start thinking long term like who’s really looking after you there or has your best interest in mind - can you build something sustainable as far as an actual career and have a family like yeah man I don’t know it’s possible it’s just much harder. I’m back in the states right now and there’s a lot of opportunities here yeah it’s a crazy place but at least I’m near my aunt and my cousins. I do miss dating in Bangkok and meeting a lot of girls but it comes to a point where you’re like what am I really doing? Glad I did it young instead of wondering my whole life though.

[@auge8450]

From a westerners perspective and hearing some of your stories, I really wonder what makes some japanese girls act so goddamn bipolar. Let us know if you cracked the code. Also 7:19 cracked me the fuck up. Love your videos, keep em coming🤙

[@yungjamez312]

Haha yeah it’s a whole communication style thing. It’s tough for westerners to understand. That’s why it’s really funny to me when guys talk about getting Japanese wives or gfs. It’s kinda naive

[@R-sn1ty]

​@@yungjamez312is it a true a large % of japanese wives stop all sex after children?

[@seanberens5522]

good on you for holding your frame, you did really well handling that situation.

[@XxMrTwisterx]

Dude that's so interesting, you're literally a 1to1 copy of a friend I had during my time in korea. Had the funniest (woman) stories, the 'I dont give a fuck' attitude, nonchalant to the max, but ultimatively always lingered long enough around women he knew were dtf.

[@appliedauthenticity]

Thank GOD you’re setting the example for other brothers out there James. Good job.

[@Alex_atSEA]

Your impression of her has my dying

[@Smoji069]

This is basically the same everywhere though. Women’s expectations are often ludicrous and they will play games all day long while preaching the opposite.

[@ZenkiCoyote]

Amen brother. I’m here in Tokyo until next week.

[@adibyaserahmed9684]

Bro, you're a great story teller

[@fitbowl]

This dude is a hidden gem

[@odinseye-y8k]

Ty for your wisdom, watched the entire video.

[@prescottosegie]

Keep up the good content James good story dawg 😎

[@fedegroxo]

Awesome video man, and nice storytelling

[@mahdul8or]

I had a similar situation with an Asian woman in the US … but after the date I was headed home and she kept texting me and fighting with her own brain about whether she wants to come over and spend the night with me. I only let her change her mind twice and then I just wound up leaving her on read and went to sleep. We never spoke again after that. Because for me , going through all these games just to sleep with her wasn’t worth it for me. I would’ve just prolonged her annoying me afterwards with that type of indecisive bratty behavior. The problem is most men will stick around and play the game just to get sex. It’s really not worth your time or energy.

[@tgriffith1350]

Guys in their teens/20's: "This guy is a playa!" Guys in their mid 20's: "This guy has no clue!" At least he's got the "I'm above it all, check me out" laugh. That was crucial in the early 20's to rake the girls. The whole "dig the guts out" trope was too inexperienced, and "struggling in the dirt" in presentation.

[@mattpatterson9128]

As an Man in his 50's, and has never taken crap from women in his life, I am Proud to see that this young Dude is not a Simp. This has restored some hope for Gen Z in my mind. Too many wimps around.

[@caolanhogeweide6555]

Lets go home = Lets go to your place!

[@SanguineUltima]

He's a chad- no "lesson" he's "learned" from women is going to be of any use to me, because no matter what I do or where I go they're not even going to see me as a human being.

[@jordangarrett-ns2cw]

He's full of himself.

[@slatlock4942]

Lil bro incel

[@BuffaloBlack]

Your Japanese is flawless man

[@skaldofepics9380]

I do not do shit tests at all! If a girl pulled that shit with me, I would no longer give her the time of day. It’s so immature and such a turn off as a grown ass man.

[@ps3nickolia12]

these videos are fucking gold 😂😂

[@sirrobinofloxley7156]

Doth the lady... is part of the phrase she's expressing here

[@Ryudavis16]

I understand from another video that karaokes have become popular as a place to do intimate things. Maybe that's why the girl was already predisposed to just having sex which caused a conflict because she liked you at the time beyond that. In the end western and eastern culture is quite different.

[@danielbako2788]

Most of the people here dont understand japanese. I'm not blaming them, but it's a fact.

[@thadtuiol1717]

Haha, almost the exact same evening happened to me my first month in the Pan, way back in 1997. It's good to know that despite the passing of the years, nay decades even, the behavior of the J-girls repeats. I suspect they've been pulling this schtick for a couple of millennia at least.

[@hopelessviolin4690]

It’s an ancient spell, but quite unbreakable.

[@Cunningstunts23]

You got played. That’s ok, pick ya head up son. You’ll get there

[@Lukas-qp6gv]

Which area/train station is that behind you, is it in Shibuya? Looks a bit more quiet there.

[@ONEOKROCKlive]

Pretty sure it's Nakano. The building behind him at 19:05, on the left, is the Nakano Sunplaza.

[@noah-zo7nx]

Lol you had me dying this whole time

[@Vuden13]

This dude real asf 😂

[@shylectre]

8:43 The girl's response to this cracked me up lmaoo

[@crunchtimebernard]

You sound like you've read the book the rational male

[@yungjamez312]

A man of culture

[@estancianews7837]

In moments like that, you sing "You've lost that loving feeling"

[@dannylo5875]

Girl is just like that for attention 😂 she was messing with you. Probably drunk too. And she realized her way of being is that. Ruined the mood for you. But also its a good call to leave a curt individual. To leave.

[@mohammedaj08]

bro your japanese impersonations are hilarious and spot on , they try playing hard to get but it doesnt work on non japanese men because we just see that behaviour as childish and pathetic.

[@mrlace4776]

for real mate that childish shit is annoying af. i get turned off almost immediately

[@kmusic5944]

this is universal...seriously..the more you care ..the less they do..its fuking insane..concenbrate on yourself...things will align

[@grentreem3096]

I LIKED the video. At first, I was kinda iffy, but the later parts convinced me.

[@tommynobaka]

his in character voices are funny as hell

[@sk8_bort]

I wish it was this simple, though. Cause there's also this other variety of women who say they're into "men with initiative", by which they basically mean you have to carry the whole thing and give them constant attention. Saying no and showing that you don't need them because you have your own life and don't want to waste time means instant game over with one of these gals. Then, of course, there's the other end, the ones he's talking about in this video. These girls are more attracted to you when you start walking away. So yeah, it feels like you always end up playing the perfect strategy for the wrong game.

[@leandrofernandes7673]

love you bro

[@APEGantz]

I'm following.

[@arivhct]

ngl male dating experience seems to require tremendous effort lol

[@Twitching0991]

I'm just here for the japanese girl impressions. 🤣😂

[@tatsumasa6332]

Sounds like you stepped on the landmine(地雷). That's whay we say it in the situation like that.

[@changooman]

They were testing your boundaries

[@seancamacho4273]

Great vid bro, story was funny af.

[@JeffarryLounder]

I watch these not out of wanting to date Jаpаnese women, but being genuinely curious. I've gotta say I'm 10x more confused about how they behave than regular women lmao.

[@pythor2117]

Keep up the vid grind bro. Hell yeah

[@stevef7798]

You escaped man. She sounded nuts. Consider yourself lucky that you saw that side of her early!

[@СтаниславКурапов]

I don't think she was testing you, she was just crazy. Actually, it's better not to listen to what girls say, but to watch their actions.

[@mochhhi]

when he said i strated singing twist by korn i knew he is the goat

[@Blueybeak]

she was right about you being someone who sleeps around lmao

[@kurokamei]

Dude you are hilarious. Reminds me of Bill Burr story time