Have Young Japanese Given Up on Dating? | Street Interview

[@ImNotMito]

Young people in general are giving up on dating not just Japan

[@BrokenSoulConfession]

Not just young people. Even those older who have burnt out by dating seem to no longer think about it.

[@mateus7206]

All countries you need get a loan to buy a hourse and pay the bank for 30 years. You barely can buy a house, how will the people start a family? have kids?

[@Trendsetter-zv1xe]

@@BrokenSoulConfessionyup in my mid 40’s and can’t be bothered by it.

[@thewall248]

True

[@PascalVillageLeader]

​@@janesmy6267yeah that's one reason, but the major problem is that a lot of people don't have enough motivation to build a relationship in the first place, normally they have other priorities

[@ceeIoc]

Dating apps and technology have destroyed the fabric of human connection. We’ve become dopamine addicts where even relationships are easily disposable in search of something more rewarding and stimulating. We’ve become accustomed to the conveniences of technology while it provides an easy escape from actually putting in the work.

[@OmniCheeksss]

Not dating apps, just social media.

[@solvingpolitics3172]

That is well said. I also bet it is easy for people to get lost in the fantasy of having a “virtual harem.” They can just engage with the opposite sx online and don’t have to risk anything.

[@Eighteen19]

Parenting has destroyed everything not social media

[@jamiesalmonsculpture8599]

​@Eighteen19 what a nonsensical remark

[@YorickReturns]

An app doesn't make anyone do anything.

[@bustercannon6088]

People blame dating apps alone but it’s social media in general. The power to learn about people around the world lies in your fingertips and so the romanticism behind getting to know people has faltered. For example: You hear more of “It’s gonna be like that so why bother” more than “why don’t I try and find out”

[@rsuriyop]

Bingo. I've been saying internet/social media has been the main culprit for killing society for the longest time now. We can just go back to pre-1993 before there was internet and see for ourselves how much better things were (including birthrate).

[@РрШшки]

​@@rsuriyop Интернет сделал жизнь лучше. Интернет сделал многие процессы быстрее. Проблема в том, как люди используют этот инструмент

[@jaughnekow]

it has built a lack of trust among us.

[@BrokenSoulConfession]

I agree.

[@mikeysmoooth5322]

Yeah, it started demonizing both parties. Both men and women. Especially with the whole TikTok gender wars. People are just assuming and labeling and putting people in the same box of people that had some kind of past traumatic experience with a past ex partner. Everyone wants to assume and compare. Putting everybody in the same box and think everyone has some kind of malicious ulterior motive. No one wants to learn or ask. For example someone comparing their past ex partner to their new partner. And with the info on social people are only going to assume even further. I do believe getting information is important, but too much that can jade our minds from basic human interactions… that’s bad.

[@safaa9654]

We really have all the same problems, no matter where you are. Dating has become really difficult, people are scared of commitment and dating apps + social media make people think they have endless options. It's a mess :(

[@YorickReturns]

I'm a man, and I can easily find plenty of women interested in commitment. I'm the one who's not interested.

[@nr1NPC]

Guy roasted his female "friend" right up in her face at 01:12

[@Walking-MY-Path]

@@nr1NPCLol

[@shirolee]

So true.

[@ohbiteme]

So truee

[@01nm]

I've been on dating apps in Japan for 9 months and from all the relationship stories I've heard, and the people I've dated. A SHOCKING amount of people want a bf/gf but then don't really want to talk to them or make effort to see them. One friend is happy he's LDR with his gf because he has a good excuse to not see her. They're all too 'mendokusai' to try make any kind of relationship work (the ones I've met anyway).

[@amanchoosesaslaveobeys6510]

What's LDR And Mendosoki mean English isn't my 1st language And trying to look up proving difficult as I'm getting a bunch of different answers

[@leisiyox]

​@@amanchoosesaslaveobeys6510 mendokusai is 'bothersome'

[@asc64642]

​@@amanchoosesaslaveobeys6510LDR = Long Distance Relationship Mendokusai you use it when something is too much of a bother, or when someone is a pain in the ass

[@Marlirawx]

​@amanchoosesaslaveobeys6510 LDR is long distance relationship

[@timhulsizer]

@@amanchoosesaslaveobeys6510 LDR is a "Long Distance Relationship". Mendokusai is Japanese and it means too much of a hassle / not worth the trouble and effort, etc.

[@ratdoto2148]

People are way too focused on finding someone they will never have any conflict with, this is extremely unrealistic and borderline impossible. The 'right person' is a glorified nonexistent entity. All you really need are compatible life goals, support from each other, probably some physical attraction, and if you want kids you need to agree on how to raise them. I think that last point is the hardest, and it doesn't even apply to a lot of people. This mentality of 'shopping around for the right person' needs to stop. So many people end or don't start relationships they would have been perfectly happy in, because they fear missing out on their perfect soulmate which doesn't even exist. Not to mention, you will change and your partner will change. The person you thought was perfect could end up being a nightmare, and the person you rejected could end up being a perfect match. Life is not ideal, people are not ideal. Learn to be happy with what's in front of you, or learn to make something better of it.

[@justinasvd]

I was tempted to write something like this but I was afraid of coming off preachy. I absolutely concur that the myth of a 'soulmate' must die. We don't meet soulmates. We meet compatible enough people, and what happens after that is just work. Work on a relationship, work on marriage, work on sexual life so that it does not become routine. Soulmates come out of this hard (not entirely unpleasant) work, they don't just fall from the sky.

[@PieceMeals]

Not everyone sees it like that. Usually it's just the right person for them at that stage of their lives. A lot of people can't be bothered now because there is more to do in life than date esp for younger people like those in the video. A lot of people just think if it happens, it happens esp guys. It's very unlikely that a relationship that is settling will last. Dating an opposite, someone without shared goals and values rarely works out. Most lasting couples share interests, traits and goals. We also have to be attracted to those we date. Thinking attraction or love will grow also doesn't work. I don't think people are searching for perfect or an ideal now. I think people aren't really looking and relationships, marriages and childbirth are happening later or not at all in the case of Japan. As someone above said, the human ability to connect with others on more than a surface level is being lost.

[@ratdoto2148]

@@PieceMeals I don't think you even read what I wrote.

[@monicastamant]

This is facts. I realized that my husband actually does a lot of things that I used to think were ‘dealbreakers’ (really silly things now 😅) and if I had let those things stop me from dating him, I would never have gotten to know him fully. I’m flawed - so is he - everyone is! But we can work on ourselves, help each other, forgive ourselves, go to therapy, and ignore things that don’t matter much 😂 but so many people before they even get into a relationship want to create all these lists of things they don’t like and no person on earth is perfect. Life is long - they’re really going to let something that’s mendokusai / bothersome right now lead to no meaningful relationships??

[@ratdoto2148]

@@monicastamant Agreeing to disagree is a skill most people don't posses, but it's absolutely essential in marriage. I'm glad you stuck with each other and I hope you do live a long life together.

[@romedreba1587]

Crazy to think that the downfall of modern society will be rooted in our own inventions. Social media and online dating were meant to connect people, but it ultimatively drove them apart. Fairly poetic at the end of the day, isn't it?

[@Goku467-w3i]

Relationship was already down way before dating apps stop with the excuses 😂

[@darinherrick9224]

That’s not the downfall of society. It’s hedonism. This has already been proven by the fall of the Roman Empire and by experiments with rats. When there’s too many individuals and no challenge to survive everyone becomes hedonistic and gives up on life. Everyone loses interest in socializing sex and marriage and children and just become drug addicts. It has NOTHING to do with tech. Tech has created some communication difficulties but that’s nothing to someone truly motivated. I’ve been married 13 years.

[@darinherrick9224]

@@nym4991this. If people were determined to be married AT ANY COST and have children everyone would be married and have children. People have a lot of excuses that have nothing to do with reality. They say its a terrible world (demonstratably false). They say they can’t provide for a child (also demonstratably false). In reality everyone is LAZY and would rather doom scroll than have a child, care for a mate, or even have a romance. Think about that. People would rather be miserable and alone than out in the effort to try to have meaning in their life. However the romantic depression trap has been around forever. The film “Marty” won an Oscar for addressing this issue back in the day. Interestingly when the film was made the romantic power dynamic was flipped (men had the power of relationships) and make protagonist is STILL suffering because his eyes are closed, he’s got learned helplessness, and his “standards” are too high. Great quote from Family Matters: “If you’re always looking for Miss America the whole parade is going to pass you by”.

[@Rick-k1r]

​@@nym4991Overpopulation is not true at all. Since 1970s countries started seeing a decline in population. There are more people dying in alot of countries than people giving birth more than ever. Food production has gone up despite the claim of overpopulation, resources that people think are depleting is increasing and many more. Overpopulation is not causing people to not date. I would say that values have changed and culture is shifting. People are working hard at jobs and not getting paid enough. Stress and many other facts that align to this. The more developed countries are seeing a decline while third world countries birth rate is high.

[@franki1990]

That's just a cope. This social "issue" is far more complex than the technosphere makes you believe

[@bekas79]

"I guess I just can't be bothered, and I can't find someone better than my ex." 😭😭😭😭 right in the feels

[@valeriaramirez4962]

😭😭😭 literally

[@lvforever4469]

00:14 somehow I found his statement funny.

[@Jomster777]

“I was in a relationship at 1 year old but it fell out. So now I’ve been single for 16 years”

[@ikkrijgnoggeldvanje]

He is such a cutie

[@Stormborn_717]

“I was born single” 😂😂

[@leyn07]

I like the mindset of the man in cap with sunglasses.

[@Ivone58]

Same

[@user-11Il10I1]

he has a practical mindset

[@neetuh4850]

Isn't that the normal mindset?

[@Ivone58]

@@neetuh4850 they meant he sounded more mature than the other people

[@AlejandroPikoulasPlata]

Me too.

[@bethanya99]

This makes me wonder if Japan's work culture plays a large role in contributing to lower birth rates. Not enough personal time.

[@testtestsson4927]

Probably

[@noripee8278]

Many many people from overseas say so but I don’t think so. In 80s and 90s, Japanese people worked much harder but most young Japanese people had partner and marry by 35. Same goes to birthrate.

[@rsuriyop]

Historically, birthrates have been directly tied to countries' economic status. When their economies have gone up, birthrates have also gone up; when they were going down, birthrates have also declined. And how do you think Japan in particular is doing so far economically? Not so well. So...

[@blablup1214]

@@noripee8278 Social pressure is gone. In the 80s and 90s your company would try help you find someone

[@ARKSAAXX-ys9gz]

@@noripee8278 Yeah, gender roles were strong in the Showa era, for better or worse. Men worked to support their families, women raised children. Of course, it was difficult to survive as a single person, so everyone got married. And in the Showa era, family, friends, and coworkers all supported marriage and arranged marriages were common. However, in today's Japan, these customs are almost disappearing, and there is no pressure to get married. Sort of like the birth rate and the weakening of relationships is the price they pay for their freedom. So, to be honest, no matter how much Japan improves the working environment or enhances welfare, once they are free and their values have changed, there will be no significant improvement. In fact, the birth rate in Scandinavia continues to decline.

[@jamosss]

The guys being interviewed were locked in😂😂😂

[@yuciehayashi266]

You mean because of the interviewer?

[@jamosss]

@yuciehayashi266 cuz of the topic

[@imad644]

@@yuciehayashi266locked in means to focus on work

[@isaiah3872]

1:10 He must've really liked his ex

[@OvenBakedCookie]

And saying that right next to his newly made single friend? 😂😂

[@Mavkor]

@@OvenBakedCookie bro's never had a friend of the opposite sex that was single 😂

[@Himerosteam]

dont worry he'll find one within a week

[@danfg7215]

I have the same problem, broke up with an ex, and couldn't find myself excited about meeting other people who didn't live up to what I found in her. It's nothing particularly amazing or unique, I just got maybe too emotionally attached and suddenly realized I couldn't easily find it elsewhere in other women.

[@ChelseaChfy-ex1po]

He looks like he strings people along

[@OHOHOHCOME]

11:48 they were so cute saying the same things at the exact same time

[@PhamHanrin]

Me too. I'm scared of obligation😢

[@0_Danilo]

11:50 great sugoi delivery 😂

[@akirebara]

its happening all around the world, it seems. me in my late 30s, most of my friends in my city (one of the top 5 big cities in the US) are not dating. we go dancing together, we go workout together, we go to dinners together. we have a community. we do not miss the awfulness of dating. we are busy with our careers and our hangouts with each other. we sew, we make pottery, we crochet, we paint, we draw, we dance, we hike.

[@BHNative]

Don't you miss having sex? Or do you all do that and you just left it out of your comment? hahah

[@ChelseaChfy-ex1po]

It’s not all around the world it’s specifically some western countries and their vassals.

[@tickboy4229]

​@@ChelseaChfy-ex1pooh yes, their vassals. Completely agree 😊

[@ionaskualexander1255]

you don't perform your natural obligations? doesn't that make u gae?

[@GachaClawCentral]

All of my friends in Eastern US in their 30s are 90% married, or have kids. The ones that are not married are dating. Busy with careers what an excuse, we work from 8:30-5pm or 9-5pm. We have weekends, PTO and holidays. Even the busiest person like doctor, lawyers, and accountant still have time to date, get married and have kids.

[@IInZanee]

Life's too busy to find someone nowadays

[@Northstarboysvsp]

Fr

[@Tiosh]

Whatever helps you sleep at night, bub

[@hayabusa1329]

Always has been

[@GinJ1337]

People worked even more hours back in the day and still dated

[@Mohammad-bb1sw]

Japan copied Bangladesh flag 🇧🇩

[@rumi8307]

0:34 I feel you bro... I feel you

[@katynewt]

I think this low birthrate is both a natural consequence of modernity and the shock needed for society to get its act together.

[@Irewolf376]

It’s generational trauma as well that has been passed down from our parents etc. It’s not possible for everyone to break the circle of abuse - in any form - they have experienced, might still be experiencing and find someone who they feel safe, can trust etc…

[@user-11Il10I1]

0:26 This guy speaks for me. He's literally me.

[@Kim.lana_00]

Same 😢

[@nont18411]

Based. Redpilled.

[@meisrerboot]

Literally me except 24 years old

[@TsuChan_]

i know him, he is me.

[@ADM.II.]

Same!

[@vinewood8295]

The guy & girl with nose rings are smash buddies & in time they'll realize they shoulda been dating eachother the whole time...

[@user-11Il10I1]

"smash buddies" 😭😭😭

[@foxcrossingfarm2151]

I don't think they are but she 100% thinks they should be!

[@donotSTrAYfromyourdesTINY]

@@foxcrossingfarm2151yea why do I feel like she’s just waiting 😭

[@DaOverman00]

​@@donotSTrAYfromyourdesTINYBecause that's all women seem to do? Wait for a man to do everything 😂 Society depends on men doing everything

[@msbebelle07]

Girls make the first move to show men you’re interested (because they have no clue) but let him make the second move, if he is interested he will…that’s what I did with my man, 32 years ago, still together, 2 kids 😂…my tip, I made spaghetti sauce and offer him a part so he can taste for later back at his place…guess he liked it, 😂 but he understood that I must be caring about him if I did that, and because he liked me to but didn’t know how to approach not knowing if I was even interested in him, risk of failure, shyness…my gesture encouraged him to ask me out, the rest is history 💕…but If the man you approach is not responding it’s ok, it’s just a friendly gesture.

[@heenoiq]

This really is the female way, isn't it... Hopefully next time I'll see the signs more clearly.

[@Dpyut225]

Its great you have the courage, Girls in asian countries mostly arent encouraged or introduced to make a move. They are more attracted to guys who make the move (and is serious about his intentions)

[@msbebelle07]

@ i understand it’s different in other cultures,….it’s sad that shy men can’t count on some women to show interest…but maybe women give signs more subtile in Asia, hope it will improve. 🙂

[@BobSaysWhat22]

I am Japanese living abroad and for some reasons, I always find it easier to find a girl or girl friend in Japan than western country I have been living for decades. I also find dating game in Western countries and Japan are bit different. In Japan when a girl is interested in you, they don’t really shy away and express interest in you quite straight forward but in West, guys have to grind more.

[@neetuh4850]

Yeah. We want to make sure of the intentions too. Too many western men are idiots, so then it becomes a strange game for us women who are seriously looking for a life partner. Men need to be more straightforward.

[@Collector_Phil]

That’s cuz your Japanese bruv

[@PurpleDoritos666]

@@neetuh4850 Men are straightforward lmao 😂

[@shawnstark7622]

Well, I think it's because western women, for the most part, like to be pursued/chased. Where in other Countries they don't feel the need to play such silly games and just be honest.

[@ihatehumans487]

​@@shawnstark7622Speak for yourself, I'm not like this

[@therealteal620]

1:04 girl is like "bruh I'm right here"

[@D4RK_THUG]

☠☠☠

[@bibar7]

She’s so pretty too

[@ryomai8063]

Painful to watch lol

[@Mohammad-bb1sw]

Japan copied Bangladesh flag 🇧🇩

[@jkksmuse]

No she didn't say that. That's your imagination. You people think if two members of the opposite sex are in each other's vicinity they must be attracted to each other.

[@isaac3den]

What’s the point when everyone thinks they can do better. I know people who are married and been cheated on. It just seems impossible to find loyalty and commitment and it’s hard to trust people nowadays.

[@silveriver9]

The problem is more serious in S.Korea.

[@Bo-lu4po]

How is so?

[@Rick-k1r]

​@@Bo-lu4poThe birthrate in south korea is the lowest in the world.

[@factshistory3193]

@@Bo-lu4po4B movement

[@Dpyut225]

Went to korea 2019 ~ 2024 , still plenty couples holding hands, hugging in the streets especially (gangnam, hongdae)

[@Saraxcxcxcxxcx]

That's not even a 'problem' to begin with

[@balrajsingh776]

“They go into it expecting failure” (5:00) damn, that dude nailed it.

[@NihilismEnjoyer98]

Happy to see men focusing on themselves rather than being desperate about it (as society conditions men to be)

[@extremepsyche3135]

They are all so young so they should be focused on school instead.

[@Aisenheim]

Unrealistic expectations set by social media.

[@Onthe9thlife3730]

Spending tax money on an app is definitely a band-aid at best and a complete waste of resources that'll cause more dissatisfaction and individual hurt at worst. It's definitely giving the "doing anything but what actually needs to be done because of personal loss of privilege" feel.

[@RenopunkJo]

3:27 the guy specifically says there are a lot of men 「男性」 who are interested in just casual dating.

[@Goku467-w3i]

I agree marriage and relationship are big headache you dont have to worry about arguments infidelity always showing attention ect.

[@lucadesanctis563]

Men have to earn that, women don't

[@Aalu-sm2rz]

​@@lucadesanctis563who says women don't need to earn what kinda nonsense shet is this

[@lucadesanctis563]

@@Aalu-sm2rz because the fattest woman has more pull on the dating market than the average man. Question: who's more difficult to seduce (therefore has to put more effort), men or women?

[@YorickReturns]

I think the biggest development in America anyway has been the realization by many men, "I'm just not that interested in having kids. And if I'm not that interested, I shouldn't do that, and if I shouldn't do that, what's the point in having relationships and dating in the first place?"

[@LollipopLop]

That’s basically what most of the world thinks

[@Mohammad-bb1sw]

Japan copied Bangladesh flag 🇧🇩

[@baph0met]

I know plenty of men and women who want kids, the issue I see is that the smarter you are the less willing are you to raise your kids poorly. "I will not have kids until I can financially afford my own house, car, and spend my time with them at home" . I think this mindset makes a lot of sense, rather than having kids in a broken poor family, everyone wants to wait until they have everything to give to the kid. Whether that time ever comes is another whole issue.

[@vali69]

​@@Mohammad-bb1swbruh if you were from a country with a flag made of 3 colors you would probably go insane

[@campos3452]

lol that one dude said he hasn’t found anyone better then his ex, when the girl that likes him is right next to him. 😑 😂

[@DaOverman00]

So he should lie because she likes him? Imagine if the roles were reversed, she would have no problem talking about how great her ex is while he has a crush on her.

[@mihi359]

The 17 year old was breaking my heart 😢…he will find a great girl any day now

[@noripee8278]

Is it very unusual that 17 y.o. has never dated❓

[@Light-oo3vu]

Nope. No reason to date a that age whatsoever. In the west it’s common, but in places with an ounce of common sense don’t do that

[@smileydog5941]

Me at 27....

[@baph0met]

​@@noripee8278No. Not nowadays at least.

[@Dpyut225]

​@@Light-oo3vufacts

[@esthermitchell9558]

The guy with the nose ring and striped shirt looks like a model.

[@ShimmerBodyCream]

The cute little friend group in the background in the very beginning of the video is so adorable

[@marialanagoldsworthy8670]

Let’s be real. No one puts forth the effort and when they do the other person steps on it. I literally have been with this same person for ten years. Married, and caught her cheating on me with a homeless person in a tent. The sheer … awe that I felt. Just … I was in awe. I want to date again I really do but I feel like no one takes the time or catches my eye anymore. I’m 33 by the way, so it’s not like I’m some 21 year old who’s given up too soon or past my prime. I’m moving to Japan hopefully in two years and being in the lgbt community doesn’t help there either. I mean I guess it’s better than South Korea right…? But in all honesty it’s everyone right now that isn’t tied down with a marriage and baby. My best friend will regularly call me crying about how she might not want this life with her fiance after fighting. It’s just so difficult especially with past trauma.

[@Bunny11344]

Wait you caught your spouse sleeping with a homeless person?!

[@marialanagoldsworthy8670]

@@Bunny11344 yeah lmao long story bro. She got out of jail and had nowhere to go when she usually rented rooms in the hood and stuff so I got her a fuckin room and was like waitaminute… why whenever I pop up you’re not there? Plus one time I dropped her off a dude came and met her and she had him carry her stuff and I peeped he drank her coffee without asking and that’s just not something anyone just… does. She doesn’t even talk to anyone like that. Well later I heard she was “at the tent with b*** (guys name)” and I was like at the what now?! Apparently everyone out in the hood and tent village (tent city is another area) called the tent her and his tent. So I popped up on her and when she came out she wouldn’t let me see inside. This was like 8am btw. So I asked if she’s f*** b**** and she said it was none of my f*** business and seeing as how she was my spouse of 10 years she clearly was showing out for the dude making it seem like I was some obsessed nobody who came to ask questions. So I punched her. And then I punched her again and told her to stay homeless like she belongs. My bad I guess but come on… don’t bite the hand that’s fed you for a decade.

[@marialanagoldsworthy8670]

@@Bunny11344 hey I guess the story wasn’t that long lol

[@marialanagoldsworthy8670]

@@Bunny11344 oh ya this was after she couldn’t stay with me because I stopped trusting her. I worked hard for the things I have and she was locked away for car theft and she’s stolen my debit info and stuff before. She begged me to take her back and this honestly is the lowest I’ve seen her. She can have that life.

[@zaikoiwex]

I having 6 days working now. I don't think that I have time to meet up with someone unless going to an event.

[@lizetteavila4415]

Trueee

[@nikolapantelic641]

Time and energy to put up with all of the bs..

[@ashishbarthwal6961]

How to be successful in getting dates: Just be hot and/or wealthy... not that complicated

[@Dpyut225]

That works but You missed the interpersonal qualities too. Being hot / rich but dull wont get us anywhere Unless we try to settle for pragmatic relationship

[@Engin62]

13:51 beautifully said!

[@nayadrama4167]

The girl 2:17 with blue/white shirt and short hair says everything : What the end goal for love == being in a relationship that makes you happier than when you are single :) So true ! Basic but essential ! Everyone is talking about being lonely when single, but maybe it's because of their youth, they don't realize you can be lonely AF even in a relationship. The failure of romantic relationships all over the world is not due to just one problem, it is multi-factorial, which is why it is difficult to change/resolve.

[@elianafreeman9891]

That's completely wrong. Once the honeymoon is over, all the giddy feeling will fade and you'll just go back to normal feeling. You shouldn't married because you think it'll make you happy or because you think it will fix something broken in you. You date to have a life partner and common goals

[@nayadrama4167]

@@elianafreeman9891 Your beliefs, not mine ;) But it's ok, everyone has his/her own truth !

[@Kim.lana_00]

0:25 that guy is me..literally 😅

[@araararaara9256]

It's not just in Japan, it is happening everywhere. Both younger and older generations no longer prioritize it, viewing it as too much effort, expense, and risk with little reward. Indeed, it's quite bothersome...mendokusai. There's a noticeable decline in human virtues, such as honesty and loyalty, leading to increased selfishness among family and society at large. People marry, have children, grow disinterested, they change, get bored of each other, enter into other relationships, and face the fallout of divorce, legal battles, and child support issues. It seems the primary focus of humanity centers around fleeting pleasures like sex, alcohol, and drugs- temporary happiness. This is so boring, a waste of time, and disgusting. . We don't need this trouble ... Just get a dog or a cat.

[@yuchangmu]

Quick explanation: humans are disappointing

[@solvingpolitics3172]

Always thought that geographic complications must make things more difficult in Japan. 60% of the U.S. population but smaller than the state of California. It must make it so hard for young couples to have their own homes and privacy. I would love people to comment on this from all over Asia? What is their situation in their country?

[@kendoman3150]

What a stupid, simplistic comment. Stay in your lane and mind your own business.

[@koogeejee]

Wow... this was depressing. People need to get off these cursed apps. Stop looking to constantly trade-in human beings for a better deal. Build something with a person. It takes time.

[@Goku467-w3i]

Its called hypergamy G and it wont go away by deleting dating apps its not the men who are swiping on women fast the poor guys can't even get matches some dudes delete them because it ruins their confidence 😂.

[@DaOverman00]

​@@Goku467-w3iOnly one gender practices hypergamy, if we both did, we would be extinct. Women are hypergamous, which means they are always looking for a mate who is superior to them, obviously we know men in general are superior, especially physically, but with social media and dating apps it gets taken to more of an extreme.

[@Magerquark]

Japanese people are always so nice and respectful always great to see these interviews

[@Da_Spiritualist]

But inside they are full of bs.

[@aok9969]

Too much pressure, simple as that. You wouldn’t team with a competitor, but you want to appear like a relatively good option. Striking a balance between those two things is very difficult, unless you’re very young, in which case nobody expects much from you. Maybe you can find someone better, or maybe dating is not for you. Too much of a hassle. And the thing is, wouldn’t you want a partner you can be comfortable with? Compare that to the absolute horror of dating apps and you have the answer. The whole thing is best left alone until somehow the tides might settle, if that ever happens.

[@vanessawolff4062]

4:28 she explained it so well ❤

[@social.media.command]

Thank you for your report.

[@silbus8670]

You coming in dating: "sry, height 6,0ft+, face of Sean O'pry" Also you: welp, that's not that bad to be a single 😊

[@lalakuma9]

8:24 Nah bro this doesn't work anymore. Honestly the only guys who still do this tend to be only the most obnoxious ones.

[@Dpyut225]

Yupp i had a funny experience where this dude , who keep on approaching girls one by one and getting rejected all the time, while we were walking together 😂

[@Narja23]

1:08 i feel so sorry for the girl next to him, looks like she might have been friendzoned in front of the camera 😅

[@sirmazarin]

Did you notice that he is alone on the thumbnail? Maybe she stormed away after the interview 😔 poor girl looked so sad the whole time!

[@FrickinCCDeVileV]

​@@sirmazarinlmao😅

[@personne7542]

His sister?

[@donotSTrAYfromyourdesTINY]

@@personne7542I’m pretty sure she’s Caucasian…

[@Zik129-d4z]

This used to be older gen 40s n above... The tide has changed

[@DaughterOfNamjin]

I live in Japan and almost everyone is coupled around me. It’s rare to see someone not having a partner here lol what are you talking about?

[@JoeLinYNWA]

the girl with the black frame glasses is so cute

[@natt6426]

Okay but 6:13 is kind of cute. And he plays piano!

[@anamorphicalan]

Great video. China is similar but more demanding regarding culture

[@cottoncandydaydream]

Well I learned because of the one child policy the ratio for men to women is very inbalanced. So even parents are getting involved in finding a suitable spouse for their son (well I guess daughters too). From what I have seen, the dating culture there seems brutal.

[@nothingmatters413]

The standards are so high to the point only fictional characters seem qualified enough.

[@adamcolclasure4892]

I think the bigger issue is most people not wanting commitment. I can't speak for straight people, who have vastly more places and opportunities to find people. For people like me is way more difficult to find people and have to deal with way more social issues then they ever will. Going out places is expensive though saves money by not going out.

[@hris164]

All I'm hearing is 'i haven't found the right person', which is great as a mindset, but how do you expect to find someone if you don't date. 😂😂 Take that from me, I'm 26 and i don't date. It's not because i don't want to, it's because of ptsd, but i do fully realise that you need to give someone a chance by going out with them to find out if you can be in a relationship with them or not. That 'i will know when i see them' doesn't really work nowadays, when people don't know how to make basic connections between each other without social media. All i see in most of them is this inability to build a meaningful relationship. Saying 'i chose to be single' is a coping mechanism, it makes you feel in control. I hope they all end up with someone who loves them truly.

[@of4289]

I have a negative mentality just like yours. That is why I go to therapy. You can try too

[@hris164]

@@of4289 ...do you know what reading comprehension is? Try it. If you think what i wrote was negative, you are really lacking communication skills. I said that they should try to date, if they want to find the 'right one' for them. That's it. 😂😂 What exactly did you not understand about it? Also, this Hollywood bull that they keep selling you that you'll have only one true love and all is further damaging your relationships. It needs effort, understanding and compromises. That is what this generation don't want to give sadly, very clear by your own comment too.

[@hris164]

@@User-7847 'american concept'?? Wow. That cannot be further than the truth. Dating means spending time together, doing whatever, getting to know the person. What do you mean you don't date 😂😂 you hanging out can be considered dating, you can say that you are going on a date with a friend to eat, and it's going to completely normal thing to say. Now what you choose to do during your dating is your own personal choice. I don't know why you mentioned America at all btw. I'm from a Slavic-European country, and let me tell you, they all date if they want to. One is just having fun tho, and one is dating for a relationship. I think you are confusing both of those things.

[@hris164]

@@User-7847 😂😂😂 no no i can't. Really. That's hilarious. The concept of dating is international, worldwide. And mind it, i don't mean just America, because America isn't the whole world. You must be joking. People aren't so different, we do think alike. To believe this bull that a specific types of human interactions are created only in one place is ridiculous. There are whole cultures based on the bride and the groom having to spend a certain time together before marriage, it's called getting to know the person - dating/courting. You can't be that naive, seriously. Jesus Christ.

[@shawnstark7622]

@@User-7847 I'm going to have to agree with on on this particular aspect and I'm American. I call it "courting" and maybe it's because of the generation I'm from. To me "dating" refers to an act that leads nowhere, it's just a continuous process from one person to the next. While courting is a serious investment in getting to know the person you plan to marry.

[@GameFuMaster]

I like how the guys give a 10, while the girls are like 6-7

[@koniolg]

11:48 love how synchronized trey are lol

[@AsianElijahWood]

If people are educated but financially unstable, they will never have kids. This is the problem. People work too hard and get nothing out of it because of wealth inequality and then the overlords wonder why people aren't having any kids. If you want to still make people have kids without changing this wealth inequality, you need to keep them uneducated and poor instead of educated and poor.

[@Collector_Phil]

What a load of poppycock

[@Lau-d9q]

​​​@@Collector_Philshitalking won't change the fact that the country with highest birth rate is Niger, not Norway

[@XNOGaming_One]

1:07 The girl next to him was almost disappointed. I guess she kinda fancied him a bit, and he didn't notice at all.

[@profchaos7289]

I'm a SEA 30yo man and never in relationship and i'm ok with it, just give me internet and computer i can live like that forever until i die

[@yoshiko-qj4re]

私は性被害に遭ったと言っていいので、 あんまりもう恋愛はしばらくしたくないです これは自分を守る術です

[@pit3822]

でもさ、少なくとももう一度試してみたらどう？完全に諦めるのは無意味だし、ただ辛くなるだけだよ。忘れるんじゃなくて、前に進む必要があるんだよ、他のいろんなことと同じようにさ。

[@ihatehumans487]

​@@pit3822Oh boy, if you only know

[@by-vs5dm]

名前と日本語の不自然さから日本人のフリした荒らしっぽくない？

[@yoshiko-qj4re]

@@pit3822 まだ早いです　あのね、急ぎすぎ。返事いりません

[@yoshiko-qj4re]

@@by-vs5dm 　わかんない！！

[@yaya5tim]

Nowadays guys feel more pressure to approach girls first because rejection rate is too high, and girls still think guys should make the first move, but most of time they will probably turn the guy down, and that's what guys arw afraid of. That's how dating and relationship happen less and less, 80% of females all go for the top 20% guys, the 80% of the guys just won't make the first move, knowing they'll get rejected. If relationship did happen, then there's money and time these kinds of resources need to be put into the relationship to make it work, if you break up, all these investments of time and money and energy are just gone, nowadays living by oneself is not easy, everything is costing a lot of money, you do not want your investment to go waste, so it does make sense that everyone just not dating and rather focusing on themselves.

[@ma__7290]

Many girls are quite forward, actually.

[@amaze3788]

​@@ma__7290nope no girls are not forward if u are a average guy😂.

[@shokotanaka7662]

Not only in Japan.

[@zi784]

Being in a relationship is risky in Asian countries where you're brought up with responsibility. Desire is dirty unless it's communal.

[@ahonnaga8854]

1:04 that's totally me. His reason abt his ex even his expressions I don't smile much either although I know smiling enhances ur beauty. N I also say that infront of girls frns.

[@Scaran1982]

Be confident and be yourself.

[@hira791]

In modern society, Its now just too much effort maintaining relationships compared to the others things people can do to pass the time. We no longer live in small communities with simple work where people basically had nothing else to do with their lives besides get married and raise a family. Now people have other things to with their lives that are less demanding, less stressful and require less effort than marriage. finding love and family is still fantasized about but is no longer an absolute priority or must. Plus work is too demanding and time consuming and the everything required for relationships and having a stable family is too expensive. The world wide economy is at its worst. Modern life does not support the idea of dedicating yourself to another person. We have too many distractions and fun things to invest in. Like good food, travelling, outdoor and indoor activities, learning, etc and not enough time, energy or money for love and family as well. So we pick the less effort and less stressful option of enjoying life alone.

[@Wiwcharizard]

0:35 Its not just you buddy, im in the same boat, as are thousands of regular folk like us around the world.

[@Ang7.8]

That’s GOOD … a government dating database with background checks and certified dating coaches ❤ It helps to prevent dating scams

[@dayla8634]

Japan has given up.

[@Collector_Phil]

Hell yeah that’s facts- I’ve been here 16 years and have already seen such a dramatic decline it’s unreal…I’m so lucky I found myself a great women here, good luck to newcomers

[@D4RK_THUG]

The world has given up.

[@Lau-d9q]

​@@D4RK_THUGnot the Africans and Muslims

[@LollipopLop]

Not only Japan bro Most of us in the world too I like being single

[@hellopumpkin86]

Korea can’t be too far behind, given their lowering birth rate.

[@roido6614]

All my girlfriends have left, because I Fart everywhere. Why deny my right to Fart? It releases me!

[@indra_vrtrahan]

The more we are able to predict how it will end up, the less we all wish to walk a road. That is a very common mindset for anyone born after 1996. Why WOULD you bother? think about it.

[@RayvenRadellaJackson]

I feel like everyone in my generation doesn't want marriage and kids anymore. I feel so out of place. I hope i find a husband one day.

[@basetsanamasilo9541]

There's no such thing as better, there's only different. People are different than better.

[@Mob.Character]

at least the girls said 7, boys are like straight up 10.

[@Keito__37]

Im a girl and hell i'd rate it even 50 out of 10 not 10 o.f 10

[@elmalanmalan2175]

I think all of them are expressing their opinion but at the same time talking about themselves.

[@Floridantea]

No need for dating. We have apps to chat swap pics and more …

[@mau345]

This is around the world. You cant stop the decline given you also want to promote woman empowerment, sex ed and family planning among your populace- but for it to sustain, it has to be a collective effort to invest in parent and child welfare. Giving money is not enough, the social stigma should be adjusted such as not shaming a woman of working, or a man doing housework and child rearing, to let men feel empowered and not feel guilty or prosecuted at work if you choose family, and of course, to make housing cheaper lol

[@TumblingCat]

I think the idea of people dating more or having sex more translating into more babies being born is incorrect, People can date a lot and even have sex a lot but if they don't have to take that next step in family building, nothing is going to change. I think the Government of Japan should focus more on helping people who would want to get married instead of people who want to date. They should be making a Marriage Seeking App instead. A lot of people are probably tired of trying to find their person and maybe arranged marriages might be the way to go about it. The Government could probably also focus more on helping new parents find better accommodation at affordable prices to suit their new family needs, helping with child healthcare costs, day care costs and maybe even schooling costs given how expensive everything across the world.

[@el-karasu6070]

That's probably the worst idea I've ever heard in my life. It's recipe for unhappy marriages and higher divorce rates.

[@EclipseTruestay]

日本の皆さん、愛や人間関係を諦めないでください。私は皆さんのことが大好きです。🥺👉👈

[@nekoxjae]

unrelated but is crooked teeth still trendy or considerd beauty in japan coz I have one and contemplating getting braces. i noticed most of the interviewed people still have them

[@Envwhyy]

Get braces it helps

[@Frogmama-zi1li]

It costs about a million yen to get your teeth fixed. That’s the problem.

[@beautifulstranger101]

That guy in the thumbnail looks like Sunggyu from Infinite

[@ssdjnt]

wait you're right lol

[@Valentinachannn2]

Off topic 1:05 people are so cute and handsome.. they made me shocked :3 ! They’re so cute but also what they’re saying is true.

[@silveriver9]

The girl in thick frames is cute.

[@donotSTrAYfromyourdesTINY]

There’s two

[@novavimj5148]

imo, if finding a partner adding a chance to increase any troubles in my life, I rather stay single

[@Dogsrcute823]

Too afraid to try

[@gabelgy8361]

Shut up it’s more like their careers is more important than meaningless relationships when there’s no such thing as love. Careers is much more important than anything and it’s not worth losing it

[@Dogsrcute823]

@@gabelgy8361 nope. They are too afraid to try. Its official.

[@Dogsrcute823]

@@gabelgy8361 incel definition.

[@tantryhelius7908]

0:29 same bro I'm just a girl ,but it's not sad anymore 😊

[@forgettentimechannel2731]

Because nowadays its very hard to live, thats why

[@adamc.7795]

Sounds like both sexes are going to need to approach each other and become brave for this all to work out haha. Because from what it sounds like, men aren't approaching.

[@ssirin]

But why are there frequent depictions of the high school girls confessing/handing love letters to their crushes in manga? Or is it only acceptable for the girls to make a first move if they are in high school?

[@loonesworld]

Most things they said are based on the values Social Media taught us. many young people want others just for - body, money, fame.. all those superficial things. Its so sad that people dont want to invest their time into a relationship or something while at the same time they sit and stare at Tiktok Clips for 4Hours straight. This is happening worldwide. And its a problem..

[@mujexzilla]

The paradox that outlines dating apps even a goverment made dating app, is the so called "paradox of choice" which mostly affects women. Since the men to women ratio on average on dating apps is anywhere between 2-1 to 9-1(depending on the country), the women are just overwhelmed with choice and end up not being able to make a choice. Truly we humans are our own worst enemies, social media and dating apps were THE single biggest contributor to the decline in young people dating and even birth rates.