Daughter REFUSES To Talk To Us After Her Sister Totalled Her Car r/Relationships

[@ghoullovinbutch]

"Their car" Yeah the wife just went mask off. Screw both of the parents. They suck.

[@richardlee653]

When my older siblings bought things using their own earnings, those things were considered theirs' (as, of course, they were).

[@GiordanDiodato]

technically you can't own a car until you're 18

[@momo382844]

Kinda feel bad for Alana. With these two boneheads, she doesn’t have a chance in Hades living in the real world.

[@toothless3835]

@@GiordanDiodato No. You can own a car so long as you can pay for it. You can be on the title at 16, so long as you're the one who gives the money to the dealership.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@HighFlySoyGuy]

Mom divorced the dad as a cop out. She didn’t really learn anything, she just realized the ship was sinking and hopped off to preserve the relationship and not have to pay any consequences.

[@gigga143]

yup she wanted to put all the blame on the husband but i have a feeling just from her post vs his though they were both awful she was worse.

[@pamelajohnson6425]

Yep, both parents are garbage. Mom is spineless and selfish, trying so hard to put it all on the Dad and play victim, "he pressured me a lot too". But she'd already revealed who she really is in her earlier post and comments. She left the Dad and started sucking up to Casey to get out of being sued or held accountable for anything. I really hope Casey sees through her BS, and the grandparents help her stand firm in holding both of these trash people accountable for their actions and a lifetime of mistreatment

[@nathanosaka3977]

Literally very convenient

[@UnwiseOwl1453]

Dad: "i need to look out for all my kids, not just one" **Proceeds to look after just one** 🤦

[@dimsufferer9951]

I’d argue he’s not looking after either, because he’s not doing Alana any favors by coddling her

[@carpediem6431]

Yes, my guess is that ‘severe ADHD child’ has most likely affected the family dynamic for years.

[@onepieceisking5493]

For real, people like him wonder why they get such backlash from redditors and don't realize how hypocritical they are.

[@mareelovely]

1 Star Nursing Home for these parents.

[@calico_queen8976]

​@@dimsufferer9951I mean, she did get into an accident because he was pressuring her.

[@hothotheat3000]

Ten years from now: “My daughter is getting married and I’m not invited. Why?”

[@TheLizardlord23]

The wife pinning the blame mostly on the husband was disgusting. They are both to blame. It was clear in her first post how she felt they are both the assholes.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@momo382844]

She’s so full of it! Even in the second update, it’s still me, me, me! I hope Casey doesn’t fall for this bs and continues the lawsuit. Both parents are equally responsible for this mess.

[@memeking7273]

It's honestly sad that the parents have their head so into each other's asses that they can't stop and think "am I the bad guy?" Without throwing someone under the bus.

[@datmanydocris]

​@@momo382844 Yep, the second update was clearly a bunch of lies to try and desperately avoid accountability and that was made pretty obvious by the fact that the first thing she said in the update being a lie. She said the husband made his post before hers and she was aware of it and his use of the girls' real names is what made her choose to use their real names as well. Yet one of her comments responding in her original post made it clearly apparent that she had no idea the husband made a post: "Some of you are even saying my husband made a post, but if they ruled NTA then he wasn't telling the full story" Doesn't sound like the response of someone who was aware of the husband's post prior to that if you ask me.

[@gabrielle4152]

No, it's Casey's fault! She shoukd have just put her sister on her insurance and paid for it in addition to her own and her gas and her sister's gas. /s what horrible people

[@Its_like_the_T-Rex]

It says A LOT that the grandparents are going to be the ones suing. They've seen years of abuse and cannot stand on the sideline anymore. Suing their daughter to protect their grandchild.

[@ollieaur]

"... allowing her sister to drive _their_ car ..." Talk about a Freudian slip...

[@musicfan8688]

Glad i'm not the only one who caught that.

[@nataliereeves3594]

@ollieaur The parents are of the mindset of that what's the sisters are, only the sisters, but what's cases are also the sisters.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

I caught quite a few of those. It also went from dad saying Casey let her sister drive the car as if she consented to Casey allowed if after much persuasion

[@lazarusrex9545]

Beat me to it

[@SailorMya]

I was just coming down here to comment this! LOL In her infinite rant she slipped up calling it what we ALL know she is actually thinking that this was THEIR car and her about rant how it was "too much" for a first car for "them"? Them who? Casey? Because she should be able to buy what she wants with her money no THAT comment was how it was too pricy for Allana's first car because that is how she sees it...

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

How convenient to go to therapy and realise everything is _someone else's fault!_

[@mikehilbert9349]

That is therapy, a session where you blame the victim

[@j_g9109]

@@mikehilbert9349How is the dad the victim lol.

[@dougmartin2007]

So much of what the parents said came across as, "If you would stop standing up for yourself, it would be easier to abuse you."

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@Ullabulladulla]

Yes even after the update the mom is still blaming everyone else. She still has no love for casey 😅

[@dcollins4679]

Yeah. Stop ducking, dodging and diving. It makes it hard for me to hit you.

[@deijix]

FOR REAL you put it into words perfectly

[@ScooterBond1970]

LIE FLATTER DOORMAT

[@amyyaku5022]

Casey is standing on business and I'm all here for it. This was likely a LONG TIME COMING. The father had the nerve to act like Alana getting a job was "ruining her future" but apparently ruining Casey's car that she'd drive for years isn't ruining her future. Ultimately he's a complete ahole, but the mom is even worse, acting like she did nothing wrong and kept blaming Casey. Then she tries to do a 180 to weasel her way out of the situation claiming she "loved her daughter" while openly talking shit about her on a public platform. At least the worst thing the father said about Casey was accusing her of emotional blackmail. "Throwing her hands up like a child" "the car she bought was too nice" "Casey is undatable" none of these sound like a parent who loves her child. Hopefully Casey realizes this and cuts them both out after winning her court case.

[@NovaGirl8]

"The real world will set her straight"? Wanna bet? Because I am pretty sure the judge will side with Casey in this one.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

Four firms have told her that Casey would win if this goes to court. _That's_ the real world view on the situation.

[@memeking7273]

​@@slytherinlibrarian3501Parents just think this is lawyers trying to get money from them

[@scout_princess]

Yep Need an update on the story

[@wildridegaming]

Hearing only 1 side of this case, Casey's lawyer can just rest, sounds like the easiest lawsuit in history.

[@therealmaizing5328]

@@wildridegaming Yup. Even judging from the biased POV of the parents, it's obvious that Casey's the one in the right here.

[@cherryrosy]

I have adhd & autism, and so does my sister. In fact, my sister has driven my car on multiple occasions when hers was having trouble. And my car is still perfectly fine. Adhd is NOT an excuse for totaling a car!! If its so unmanaged she needs help and possibly medication.

[@RoseKoneko]

Holy shit the audacity of these parents. So she paid for her own car, she didn’t want her car to be shared with a sibling who couldn’t take responsibility if there’s a wreck, had to pay for her sister’s gas… Yet SHE’S entitled? I’m glad she has family who’ll back her up.

[@lauradetwiler335]

I have ADHD. Never in a million years would I drive anybody else's car, unless it was a matter of life and death. I have my license, and have for many years but do 1000 times better in a car with a manual transmission. Is Alana being treated for her ADHD with medication? If not, she should NEVER have been allowed to drive it. Severe ADHD is not a hall pass to escape responsibility.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@davidburton3447]

Yeah I couldn't BELIEVE how delusional the parents were. My grandmother bought my 1st car as a graduation present (nothing too fancy. Just a nice used car) and my mother wanted her name on the title. (she has control issues) I shut that down immediately. I pointed out that there's no advantage for that as I'd be the primary driver so insurance would be the same. In my head I knew she just wanted to be able to control me with the car. As it was she didn't want me to drive it to college and instead take the bus. smh. It took a lot of fighting to get her to back the hell off. That was over 30 years ago. We're low contact to this day.

[@lynnw7155]

Wow; Alana can barely manage school but they let her drive??? She's a danger to herself and everyone on the road. You know Casey will be out of there as soon as she hits 18. Update: OMG what horrible people those parents are. Even the mother who wants to do the right thing for all the wrong reasons. None of this was Casey's fault. Casey is better away from those monsters.

[@memeking7273]

If that's entitled then the sister must be their master bc HOLY SHIT they sound like slaves

[@OneUponADime]

Dude, the only reason the mom magically took Caseys side was to get off the lawsuit and leave the dad dangling. F-ing pathetic, and I feel bad for Casey to fall for it

[@mikehilbert9349]

I don't know who is driving the bus, but mommy is throwing everyone under it

[@1Katakana]

"She got her licence around the time she bought the car, so the question about who should drive it came" Why would it come up when she isn't the owner/buyer of the car? "After a bit of persuation, she agreed". So they pushed her to give up her car to someone with severe ADHD, who can't work because homework alone is stressing them out, but she's! in the wrong for wanting justice for having to deal with the consequences of her sister's actions?!

[@YellaBellaReno]

And not just pressure Casey into letting her sister drive her car, that SHE bought with her own money, but also insisting she pay for her and her sister’s gas AND insurance? These parents are living in their own world, and are mad their daughter wants to live in the real one.

[@memeking7273]

​@@YellaBellaRenoparents are gonna get the shock of their life when they realize the Real world doesn't work how they think it does

[@ikilledaprostitute]

For real!!!! Why tf would you even bring up younger daughter driving the car when she had no part in paying for it or even for GAS once she started driving her sisters car

[@1Katakana]

@@YellaBellaReno Oh yeah, absolutely. They want the youngest to be able to act like she owns it, without actually having to do! anything that's required to keep a car up and running. Either she acts like a co-owner, pays back half of what it cost and contributes! to the different bills, or she treats that car like she treats their parents' car and interacts with it as a passenger only!

[@1Katakana]

@@memeking7273 🙌

[@jamisonosborne]

Daddy dearest thinking this is only a $15k lawsuit is adorable. By the sounds of it, the dad engaged in willfully reckless behavior, using his "authority" as a "parent" to incite an illegal act. Dude is about to find out what treble damages are. This isn't a $15k lawsuit, it's a $45k lawsuit, plus legal fees. He'll be lucky if he walks away only owing $50,000.

[@wolve2k]

he might have to pay both lawyers and the court... 60K? 70K? his such a brick.

[@CarinaCoffee]

Story 1 update: when you think the parents can't be bigger idiots and then mum comes in being just as delulu as dad...

[@immapotato1]

and she outs the favoritism immedietly revealing she made her eldest pay for the gas used to destroy her car

[@snakecake-mw7vw]

@@immapotato1 and he ended throwing the husband under the bus. God, i hope the mother ends barely having contact with Casey

[@carlrood4457]

​@@immapotato1That was some bizarre logic regarding the gas. It's common courtesy for a car borrower or even a frequent passenger to chip in for gas.

[@ZombieCrazyLegs]

@@carlrood4457 But ADHD!

[@loganjoh1]

the fact she heavily implied that they pressured Casey into letting Alana drive the car that Casey saved up to buy and make her be the only one contributing to gas and the insurance they aren't just clowns they are the entire circus

[@animatorstanley]

Damn, do the parents even like Casey? I hava ADHD, can work, pay for my own gas and stuff, and ask my siblings for permission to use any of their belongings without having our parents force them. Poor girl needs to leave and never look back.

[@TLJ88]

I agree with you about the Casey part. But I can’t stand when people with ADHD use their mental disorder as a gaging example of other peoples ADHD. Anyone with or have a child with ADHD knows there are different levels of this disorder. Some are mild others are severe. Please stop discrediting others!!

[@EvilAzn3000]

Wow...the mother's side of the story made the situation sound significantly worse. 100% AH on the parents. The crap she lists on what they do for Casey is literally the basic minimum of parents. They literally forced Casey to allow her sister to drive the car

[@Songbirdstress]

My jaw is sore from the number of times it fell on the floor. Casey needs out asap.

[@CatgirltheCrazy]

Even worse: they made _Casey_ pay for the gas Alana used

[@dimsufferer9951]

@@Songbirdstressand now she’ll have a harder time because she doesn’t have a car, because they used her insurance money on their golden baby

[@ComaLies225]

I couldn’t roll my eyes any harder when mom mentioned dad fixing a part on Casey’s car to show how much they do for her. Gee lady, doing the basic for your children isn’t meant to be celebrated. Thats what you’re supposed to do without needing a pat on the back

[@jaopeke]

Not only that but she refuses to take accountability for her actions

[@autumnjey4683]

OP's comment at 19:19 tells me everything i need to know about her. she has taken no accountability, and she is as much a terrible human being as her husband is. i hope Casey never speaks to her again and i hope she spends her whole life wondering why.

[@Eirilyn]

Kacey didn't put Alanna on her insurance because she didn't want Alanna to drive her car regularly. I think it is funny the mom keeps saying "their " car even though Kasey is the one who saved up and bought it. Showing they expected her to share the car indefinitely

[@sarahloveless1726]

Also the fact her mother shamed her for something that any sane parent would be proud of. Madness

[@gailradcliffe5533]

If Casey had put her sister on the policy, who would have paid the premiums? Casey?

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

​@@gailradcliffe5533That is what they said, yes.

[@sarahloveless1726]

@gailradcliffe5533 most likely

[@Yume10605]

​@@gailradcliffe5533yup cause in the mother's own words. It's her responsibility to keep the car on the road.

[@Yhlqmdlg29]

It went from "a broken leg and a broken arm" in Dad's story to "a broken wrist and a concussion" in Mom's story...

[@MsSamiam2]

Did the mother really and truly from the pits of her soulless heart, put out a Reddit post about Casey not being marriage material? Really? If so, I don’t think any amount of brunches, lunches, or wine tastings could heal this situation before the mom works on herself.

[@kayzee_bee]

wanna bet that casey is actually really pretty or dateable and the mom is just projecting because casey either looks nothing like her or isn’t what the mom considers to be traditionally beautiful? bc i do lol that woman was vindictive af in her first post so i do not put it past her to use that kind of language to her daughters irl, what a trash self victimizing asshole

[@joshuaadkins9820]

I genuinely hope Casey's and avid redditor and comes across moms post and goes Full NC and also goes completely scorched earth in the courts.

[@jakeand9020]

I cannot fathom how she could type that out, proof read it and say to herself "yeah, I should definitely post this" and that beyond thinking it in the first place. Mom's in for a wakeup call when Case gets married and has kids she only learns the names of from other family members while Alana becomes a single mom and dumps her kid on Mom to raise "because she has ADHD and can't possibly be expected to raise her own child."

[@Torichan888]

@@jakeand9020 Being provided with a steady stream of victims is one of the reasons people raise their children like Alana. Hell, a history of such severe ADHD, especially as told by someone in bad faith, could be used to TAKE the children from her daughter. One slip up, some time in court and now granny has some shiny new victims to abuse. Hell, Alana's tragedy could be that she grows up too damaged to see the wrongness of it all and does hand the children over, no court case needed.

[@cynthiaturcotte9280]

Wait - I just realized...Casey's parents had to *convince* her to let her sister - an UNINSURED driver - drive her car.

[@justine8387]

AND making Casey pay for her sisters petrol!!! Like insane.

[@wolve2k]

convince = pressure

[@RoseKoneko]

I don’t care if I had a daughter who looked like a toe with eyes, I’d never say tell anyone that I found her undateable.

[@xxAimeeRoxzxx]

That comment from the mother was so horrid to hear! That poor girl. I can only imagine what else they have said about her. Glad she has other family on her side

[@RoseKoneko]

@ Exactly. I get saying things in anger that you regret later, but the fact THAT was her go to says a lot. Her own family berating her also suggests that they know how she is and what she says about her own kid.

[@Sherwoody]

@@xxAimeeRoxzxx I wish Casey would read this and know how mom really feels. A comment about being undateable is pretty derogatory about her own daughter.

[@Mrs.RenosRenovations]

@@Sherwoody Don't wish that on the girl. She knows how her mother really feels from her actions, she never needs to hear these words. When I was 14 I came home from school with my report card of all A's and one B+ - my mother berated me until I was in tears over that B+ - then my younger sister got home with all C's my mother told her she was so proud of her she was going to take her out for ice cream. When I asked my mother essentially wtf, she rolled her eyes and said, "Your grades are more important than hers. Your sister is gonna have a man to take care of her, you're going to need to take care of yourself." I'm 44 now and married and had a normal dating life since the age of 17 but I still feel like I don't deserve any man's time because of my mother always calling me 'undatable' like like disgusting OP in this story. Casey deserves so much better.

[@terramarini6880]

Not only that, if it was actually true, it's all the more reason to leave her, her things and her savings alone so she can face the world with the tools and weapons she needs. The pretty one will have cars provided by a husband using moms logic and therefore should just use the parents car while the sighted toe gets her poop in a group for her lonely life, Mom is the worst clown in all this.

[@jnreason1]

When the parents forced the car to be shared with Alana, they should have made sure Alana was covered to drive it.

[@Philsh12]

Story 1 update really painted a better picture. It went from ‘Casey allowed her’ to ‘Casey was told to suck it up, let her drive the car and cover any additional expenses’.

[@yollieist]

Exactly! I had a feeling the dad wasn't being honest about that part. Makes perfect sense why she's so adamant about them replacing the car considering they forced her to let the sister drive it.

[@chaudx]

"You are going to let her use, pay for it and you are gonna enjoy!" And although the husband is an AH, he's this much of an AH because his wife lack of backbone let's him be that much of an AH. They clearly deserve each other Dude wants to pressure everyone and be an AH and wife will gladly let him be one as much as he wants as long as she doesn't have to say anything and most importantly dont have to take ANY accountability.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

So many things wrong here. Alana should only have been driving the parents' car (and she should've been under that coverage). Being young and with ADHD, she shouldn't have been driving by herself for a while until she could truly prove she could handle it. No discussion on the nature of the accident-- did she run a red light, was she screwing with the radio or not paying attention, did she crash into something. She ended up breaking an arm and leg, this was serious. If the car was registered to Casey only, then there is no "sharing" with her screw up sister. The fact that the rest of the family doesn't see it her way speaks volumes. OP saying she was diagnosed with OCD-- not sure what that had to do with anything. Not handling the issue without bringing lawyers into it says they're both prideful idiots.

[@lifewithlee6298]

I’m glad the grandma on the daughters side

[@frostmourne1986]

Who needs the government to fuck you over when you have parents like these.

[@nareegreel]

Both Op are gross. They blamed Casey, then the mom switched side and blamed the dad. Nothing is her fault, she I'd worse than the dad.

[@babybookworm003]

Story 1 tell me Alanna is the golden child without telling me Alanna is the golden child

[@immapotato1]

bro mum pretending to be good guy in the update but her narcicism seeping out was vomit inducing. 100 bucks on the younger sister being even worse

[@ScorpiusZA.]

The moment ADHD was included - that is exactly where this was going. Overcompensating by capitulating

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Well, Alana is the pretty one! Of course she’s the favorite. (Sarcasm) After all, she will be the one to make them grandparents first. With that comment, they act like Casey is a troll living under the bridge and will never get a guy to date her, let alone marry her. That poor girl needs to cut ties with that family!

[@babybookworm003]

@@immapotato1 what got me was moms justification for calling Casey entitled. I honestly hope Casey stays living with her grandparents honestly if your family still deems you the ahole after hearing both sides then that’s a good indication you’re the ahole

[@LeisureLizard]

I had no idea ADHD was a get out of responsibility and work card. I wish someone would have told me so I wouldn’t have had to adult my whole damn life! Oh wait, my parents didn’t raise me thinking I’m an extra special princess or incompetently fragile. I did what everyone else does, figured it the fk out. There’s treatments, therapy, and coaching for a reason.

[@thecrowuknow]

I'm glad the commenters didn't let the mom weasel away and play the victim after she showed her ass in her first post. I can relate so much to Casey in this story and whenever my parents pushed too far and my mom thought I was going to go no contact, she'd spin it like it was all my dad's fault to get me on her side. Then she'd say she'd talk to my dad and work things out. I'd just go along with it because it felt like someone was finally listening and on my side but I always knew that she was just as bad as him or even worse. I'm glad the extended family has Casey's back and I hope she gets therapy to help her sort through the effects this type of upbringing has undoubtedly had on her.

[@hannahferris2331]

The mother isn't taking any responsibility and it is infuriating

[@thehangingtree7395]

“I went to therapy and got diagnosed with OCD; therefore, I did not do anything wrong, it was just my mental illness that caused the favoritism and not my actions.” As someone with OCD, this actually burned my ass when hearing the mother’s post. SHE LITERALLY THREW her husband under the bus just to avoid a 15k payment they both caused. Jesus.

[@RadioactivePotato92]

It’s like she ran with the Reddit comment that said she was a passenger to magically absolve her of the blame

[@hannahferris2331]

@ She also referred to Casey’s car as “their car” meaning she saw it as Alana’s and Casey’s even though she refused to let Alana pay a penny toward expenses. If I was Casey, I would have kept the mom on that lawsuit and laughed in her face

[@cami1700]

I'm so glad Casey decided to pack and live with the grandparents and has largely this side of the family on her side, because both her parents are awful people. The mother is a particular piece of work for trying to shift blame on the father to try and save face, but we know that things only got up to that point where their daughter decided to leave because mother was no friggin passenger in this story.

[@GiordanDiodato]

she is...

[@lionfish2201]

Holy hell. They wouldn’t even pay for Alana’s gas when she was driving? Wow, poor Casey, she has clearly always been the spare child in favor to Alana. And then they keep calling Casey entitled and enabled? This poor kid.

[@Metonymy1979]

So they can afford to pay for it. Know that the daughter paid for it. They forced her to let her sister drive it. Won't make the daughter work to pay them off and they could pay the daughter. My God, these parents are bad. Very very bad

[@nicolelawrence7722]

The fact that they had the money the entire time is infuriating. Also if Casey was under the parents' insurance, Alana would've automatically been added to all the cars. It sounds like they made Casey get her own separate insurance, which would've been twice as expensive. And then took the insurance money to pay themselves back for Alana's medical bills.

[@BenKonosky]

​@@nicolelawrence7722 Casey had her own policy. That's why the parents wanted Casey to put her sister on her policy, that way they didn't have to pay for Alana's insurance.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@johnbradbury8610]

​@@BenKonoskyshe used that as an excuse even saying Casey should put gas in the car.

[@sfsin3380]

@@BenKonosky If Op was honest about Alanna's competency it possible that she actually uninsurable on Casey's policy. She's already be starting on shacky ground as a young new driver but a insurer could have out right refused to add a second even younger new driver who also has a disability I doubt either of these parents who have listened to Casey if she'd tried to explain that.

[@greendiamondglow]

So.... mom's just not taking accountability for ANYTHING? Ok, so her husband was a bully. She doesn't sound much better. Real convenient she has a fresh new diagnosis to excuse herself now

[@md79melissa]

u can't b sorry for doing something bad without accepting responsibility she's just making a bunch of bullshit excuses for how none of it is her fault

[@potatoempress5731]

UUUUUUUUUggghhhh and Casey is STILL the classiest out of all of this. Alana's gonna be an entitled monster. The way the wife talks about Casey being not marriage material........... like you don't need ENEMIES with PARENTS like that. I'm so disgusted!

[@13thMaiden]

She might become entitled, but she definitely will be a Peter Pan, it looks like the parents have/are coddling her too much. They don't know the damage they're really doing to her, she needs to get a job now because this is the only time in her life that the adults in a job will be lenient to her as she muddles around and the best time she can pick up an entry level job easier (she has school friends that can act as connections). Even if it's just a summer job! Atleast a summer job gives her time to learn without homework on her mind. I honestly wonder if they have her on any medication, therapy, or disability or are just bubblewrapping her and hope she somehow magically will become an adult on instinct. Casey on the other hand they basically screwed up their relationship with her, I'm just glad she has support on her side. Poor kid has had alot of bullshit thrown her way.

[@nousernamesarevalid]

Casey bought the car, had to share HER car, has to pay for her sister’s gas to use HER car then has her car destroyed and taken from her by her sister’s negligence. These parents aren’t worthy of the name! Edit: Adding a 16 year old who has never had a car before would cost a fortune! The parents are at fault for allowing the younger uninsured driver to drive her sister’s car.

[@tobiasschumacher8602]

Wow, the mother's post made me even angrier than the father's... 😠

[@AliceHobbes]

She blames Casey and blames her husband. It is her fault as much as the husband.

[@nataliereeves3594]

Why does the mother think she will win in court when it clearly will loose.

[@joshmcatee689]

She is avoiding accountability at all costs. Disgraceful

[@amanur1518]

I didn't know which was worse. On the one hand he purposely left out that they coerced Casey into sharing the car against her will - which means he knew it was wrong; on the other hand she's so delusional it straight up doesn't seem like she believes she's capable of being wrong.

[@loganjoh1]

the comments she was making about Casey boiled my blood I hope someone can get those posts to her so she can see how her sperm and egg donor bashed her

[@mbstephens8034]

OMG! That first family honestly thought they were right??!! Unbelievable.

[@michealwatts7469]

“I told her not to get an expensive car as her first, she never listens “ not even relevant. Suck it up, pay the money. Alana can get a job and pay you. YTA Also the “its my husbands fault” Lady we know its his fault but your LACK of doing anything is on you. Stop pointing fingers.

[@PatriciaHawke-u7j]

When I heard that comment, I thought that it might be appropriate IF Alanna bought the car and wrecked it. But Casey didn't wreck it.

[@bhart3321]

Oh she played a much bigger role then just going along with the husband. She admits to forcing Casey to share the car SHE SAVED & PAID FOR HERSELF. These numbskulls are nothing short of true narcs. Mother is worse just by the cracks at Casey's looks & suitability for marriage. From any reasonable human perspective Casey is far more "marriage material" than her mother or the golden princess Alana.

[@michealwatts7469]

@@bhart3321 I find it funny shes divorcing him but honestly they deserve each other. Seriously they are both terrible parents.

[@PatriciaHawke-u7j]

@@michealwatts7469 So very true.

[@Templar451]

Dad's an asshole but mom is a complete asshole.

[@jarman365]

The mom doesn't want to get sued 😂 she was fully behind the problem until she got sued!

[@calidriver14]

"Allowing her sister to also drive their car..." WHOS CAR????? 12:25

[@kayscorpio8-9]

Cause I had that same question.

[@jonathanbrown7250]

Comments are had an excellent point. This has been a neighbor, friend or even complete strangers car, they have paid up quickly.

[@AndyyWithAY]

There's zero way they can win the court case. Enabling Casey? EVERYONE is against you. YOU enable Alana. If 15,000 is so much for a car, there's no way in hell you should have ever let a new driver with "severe ADHD" drive it, especially alone. Unsurprising the stupid dad pushed for that. Casey gave up nights and weekends she can buy ax expensive a car as she can afford

[@Weststribe]

Don't forget that the 16-YO with "severe ADHD" was also uninsured.

[@Sherwoody]

Mom says, _”Casey will come around when she realizes how the world works.”_ Casey knows how the world works and knows that mom and dad don’t.

[@brianaschmidt910]

The only valid comment is the 16 yo driver was uninsured. I have adhd and Alana just suffers from focusing, and emotional disregulation (which she could learn to mitigate on her own) The issue is the parental neglect and abuse of Alana and Casey.

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@brianaschmidt910 who are you to decide what the only valid comment is? Alana was in no state to drive. I ALSO have ADHD and have been driving longer than these girls have been alive. No way am I hopping in someone's brand new car

[@bhart3321]

Based as always girl.

[@kizzykat9120]

from the mom - "so there was a little issue between who was going to drive the car." WTF Casey bought the car with her own money. It was so wrong that the parent "persuaded" her to let Alanna drive it.

[@ThePlayer4our]

"She got the car right when Alana passed her driving test, so there was some argument about who would be driving." Right there. Pinpointed EXACTLY where you can prove who the golden child is. Alana shouldnt be anywhere near that car and the parents truly shouldnt have control over who drives it anyway. And then tonalso make her foot the bill for Alanas gas? Jesus Christ, no contact is too good for these parents

[@Sherwoody]

@@ThePlayer4our why wasn’t Alana driving dad’s car if he was so concerned.

[@shadowkissed2370]

The mom also said "their car." It was never their car.

[@shadout]

At the very least the.parents should have made sure the other sister will be covered as a driver by the insurance and cover any extra cost Pressuring your child into a financial risk beyond their control without making sure that they're covered for that risk means this isn't just favouritism, but grossly irresponsible parenting.

[@user-blob]

Exactly.

[@sfsin3380]

@@shadout I suspect that Alanna might be classed as uninsurable. It's really had/expensive to get insurance as a teen as is add in what both parents claim is a sever disability and while they may have still given her a quote it's was probably atomically high which is basically a no with saying actually no. Casey seems responsible so I'd image she would have put Alanna on the list just to be safe otherwise. It's also probably why the parents where pressuring Casey so hard they didn't want to pay the cost of insuring Alanna themselves.

[@raniasaad4210]

As someone with ADHD, 1st story triggered me so much as I'm also very possessive over my stuff so 'no' is definitely no and with the damage, pay that crap off

[@polydactylblackcat2218]

Why is mommy dearest pulling a suprised pikachu face over their lesser child leaving????? Casey paid for that car herself and actually important child crashed it. It's important child's responsibility to pay back what she destroyed. And if important child can work through her ADHD to get a drivers license, she can absolutely work thru her ADHD to pay back Casey. Parents are also backwards for making Casey pay for the gas no matter what. You use up the gas, YOU fill up what you used!!!! I hope Casey finds herself better guarians than these two "parents".

[@chantalalexander]

Mom's massive turn around was to get her name dropped from the lawsuit. She's basically buttering up to who she referred to as her "entitled" (🙄) daughter to avoid legal consequences. Notice how she somehow managed to make this only her husband's fault despite spewing some of the same hateful rhetoric about Casey. Pay attention to how she's going to counselling and is meeting up for breakfast dates to work on the relationship with Casey, while managing to managing to convince her to drop mommy's name from the lawsuit and blame it all on daddy. Honestly she and her husband deserve each other, I can't decide which is more diabolical; him for "sticking to his guns" or her for getting her name removed and completely throwing him under the bus for something she wholeheartedly agreed and championed for.

[@meagancall5005]

"this is the result of Casey's decision, hence, I agreed with my husband that it's fully her responsibility." That's weird, since after talking to three lawyers, it's been made clear to you that if this hits a court of law, they're going to see the responsibility for this much MUCH differently. So much to be frustrated about here. 1) "After a little persuasion" This is enough right here that mom and dad are the responsible parties. It's Casey's car, paid for with her own money, and they overruled her. 2) "she got this car right as Alana passed her own driver's test-" Brand new driver. Shouldn't be driving without supervisions in property YOU can't afford to replace, even without factoring in her "severe" ADHD. I have ADHD. It absolutely impacts your driving ability. You should have been way more cautious about YOUR CHILD driving alone as a new driver for her own safety, regardless of the financial implications of her wrecking someone else's car. 3) "-so there was a little issue over who was going to be driving." No. There should not have been any issue about "who was going to be driving." This is not YOUR car to decide who drives it, and your other daughter isn't entitled to access to it just because she's now legally old enough to drive. And what is even the twisted rational of Casey paying for Alana's gas? "It's your car, it's your responsibility to keep gas in it." Evidently it's only her car when it's convenient for you for it to be her car. Apparently you expected her to pay for Alana's insurance too. This was very very simple to not turn into a problem - Casey's car. Casey decides who gets to use it. Casey is responsible for the consequences of her choices - and you went way out of your way to turn it into a problem - Casey's car. We get to decide who uses it. Casey is responsible for the consequences of OUR choices. Who thinks this is how parenting works? WTF. Oh, mom tried to talk Casey out of getting a "nice" car as her first? That might have been a relevant lesson if Casey's choices Edited to add: OH and OP (both) is even more of an AH, because it's so easy to overlook how much they're being an AH to Alana as well. Yeah, obviously you're setting her up for failure by trying to make sure she gets the best of everything and never has to deal with consequences, but ALSO you are the ones that put her into a dangerous situation by insisting she drive independently when it's obvious she was not ready or capable of driving independently. You're mad because Casey is only worried about the car when her sister was injured... guess what, you should be a lot more worried about Alana's injuries that your poor decisions enabled. Edit 2: "-we *were* going to send her to college." Oh, screw both of these OPs. They're the worst if this is real.

[@Draggonny]

I got so confused with the 180 between "4 lawyers have told us we're going to lose and well spend twice as much fighting it in court" and "Casey is being completely unreasonable and is asking for too much".

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

You just know that if Casey had to keep gas in her car, Alana would just drive it all out and bring it back empty! That would pass me off too if it was my car. Gas is expensive, especially if you fill it up completely. There was a story in the past where a teen bought a car and the parents made them share but every time they wanted to go somewhere, the other sibling would be driving it. It was like it belonged to the sibling versus the one who bought it because it was never available. And it was always brought back empty! Parents need to do better with their children.

[@MarkStockman-b4j]

How much of a narcissist do you have to be when multiple attorneys, your therapist, and your entire family on both sides tell you you're 180 degrees from being right- and you dismiss it out of hand? Whiskey, Tango, Foxtrot?

[@vamp567]

This is probably the worn down, bitter person I am but so don’t believe the Mother’s update for a second. She’s divorcing so she isn’t sued out her ass. Why else would he beg to not be included after?

[@muhname6052]

Jesus the lack of accountability. I hope Casey sues and wins.

[@memeking7273]

I really hope she takes BOTH of them to the cleaners

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

Story 1: I can't get over the fact that Casey's parents and/or Alana were not willing to pay for gas when Alana was using the car, instead telling CASEY that she needed to keep her car running and on the road. That boggles my mind

[@waitwhat1029]

I really like how the husband tried to get extra sympathy by claiming it was a broken arm AND a broken leg in the beginning but that got dropped... Both parents are doorknobs.

[@immapotato1]

that was mom. husband was the first post

[@waitwhat1029]

@immapotato1 ...it was in the first post. Second post doesn't mention the leg at all.

[@jenniferfoote5442]

I was wondering if anyone else noticed! His post says the accident was 6 months ago and she broke her arm and leg but her post says it was just over a month ago and she broke her wrist and had a concussion..they're both severe assholes no matter what though

[@crichtonbruce4329]

The parents are not doorknobs because doorknobs are useful. The parents are worse than useless.

[@Riomy13]

If the grandparents, the uncles, aunts, in-laws and most of the commenters are all saying you're wrong on what you're doing...this might be the clue to take a step back and truly think whether or not you want to continue down that path.

[@WolfyFancyLads]

"I don't hate my daughter" Love, look at your first post. All those things you said; basically saying it's a hissy fit, that she's a spoiled brat, that she's pathetic for doing what she did. That's not preference, that sounds like _resent._

[@Norinia]

She actually implied her black sheep daughter was an Incel for wanting to sue them for the car. That’s sickening and such a disgusting way to talking about *your own damn daughter.*

[@LadyBern]

"I now realize my husband pressured her to let Alana drive." Someone forgot the "there was a question of who would be driving when she got the car." Meaning more than likely Casey said loud and clear that she didn't want Alana to be driving and when pushed said that they would have to pay for the extra on insurance and gas. They said no to the gas and put all of the responsibility on Casey. If this is real I hope there's an update where Casey goes NC to very LC with both. Mom pretends to change but she did and said what she said, therapy doesn't instantly fix that.

[@Norinia]

@@LadyBern Like the comment section said; “Mom is a sociopath”.

[@justinebidulopoutchini9774]

I have ADHD, I crashed twice in 5 years (no injuries, just the car damaged) and I paid each god damn time cause I might have been distracted, it still is my responsibility. I didnt ask for help to replace my car. Alana has to work her dept off

[@carlrood4457]

Things that stood out. 1. They don't seem to understand it's common courtesy to pay for gas when borrowing someone's car. Sure, maybe not for one 5 minute trip, but even a regular passenger should chip in for gas. 2. Do they know how much extra it costs to add a new teen driver to an insurance plan? If they and Alana weren't paying for gas, they're not paying for the insurance. 3. The idea that intentions somehow negates responsibility. It does not matter if it was unintentional. It's still Alana's fault.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 1: "We feed her, we clothe her", always love when parents try throwing out that they provide the bare legal minimum of parenting like they're doing something amazing for their kids, no, doing that just means the police/CPS aren't on your ass. Also amused by the mom saying "she had a place to PARK that car because of us", how generous of the mom to...let her daughter use the driveway, or even better, park on the curb in front of the house.

[@ironmaiden3812]

Story 1: why let her drive the car if she has medical problems

[@Sherwoody]

The fact that Casey didn’t put Alana on the insurance tells me that she didn’t give her permission, mom and dad did.

[@barbthegreat586]

Because the parents put tremendous pressure on her, all the while expecting her to cover all her and her sister:s gas cost, any repairs, caused by her sister and she herself should also pay to insure her sister.

[@BruinPhD2009]

On today's episode of "How Not to Parent..."

[@ComaLies225]

@@ironmaiden3812 yea if she has severe ADHD to the point she struggles with schooling and working, then how is it a okay to put her behind a wheel of a car? Make it make sense. I get the impression that while Alana had ADHD, the parents may have greatly exaggerated it. Plus, why isn’t Alana given any resources to manage it?!?!?!?!

[@clownrat5759]

Hi. I have severe adhd. I can drive just perfectly fine. I was able to drive just fine when I started. They’re just enablers 👍

[@paulqueripel3493]

Dad, Alana had a broken leg and arm. Mum, Alana had a broken wrist and concussion (not a broken leg).

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1 final update: OP 2’s lack of accountability is making me not believe her change she said horrible things about Casey that if she heard would make her go no contact, pushing all of the blame onto the soon to be ex

[@Twist-The-Friendly-Hunter]

So what I'm getting from this story is the following. - Casey was the other kid, not tye golden girl but the one who just existed. - Elanas ADHD is a excuse for everything. - The grandparents could see what happened and supported their granddaughter who was jn the right. - Elana is evidently the entitled child. - The mother and father don't think they did anything wrong ( they absolutely did ) - poor elana is shaking at the thought of going to court... when she wrecked the car. - If elana actually loved her sister she would have helped pay even if she had to work. - they don't understand actions have consequences. Yeah. Casey I hope you moved out properly and live with your grandparents because they clearly love you equally and can see how badly the parents have parented.

[@GameMasterToolbox]

The wife trying to absolve herself with the OCD diagnosis.

[@sarahloveless1726]

That had me rolling my eyes along with 'people with ADHD can't work'

[@Draggonny]

Obsessive compulsive dickery? 😆 Yeah, I have OCD and I can't figure any way that it would make you treat one of your kids like crap.

[@holographicwing]

She saw how well it's worked for Alana

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

More like narcissistic!

[@ScooterBond1970]

I couldn't and can't figure out WHAT that could possibly have to do with any of this. I agree she's just grasping for excuses.

[@michellekeith5602]

In the car story of saying "THEIR" CAR told me absolutely everything I needed to know. It wasn't THEIR car it was a worked hard and saved up to buy car of CASEYS. OP needs to take responsibility for her lack of action and failed parenting. I am so over the whole one sibling suffers because another has some type of issues that is only an issue when there is an issue.

[@poohbear4515]

S1: I’ll take “Alana’s their Obvious Favorite Child” for $100?

[@CouncilEstateRach]

Lol

[@Feynix4]

Heck, I’ll take it for $100,000

[@IKKclauKR]

"when she realizes how the world works" Lady...you're the one who doesn't know how the world works

[@symbioticpirate]

This first story made me so incredibly angry... First on the elder daughter's behalf. She worked hard to buy her own car from her own money and the parents made her share not even paying the gas... What the mom listed as what she owes them for is literally the bare minimum a parent should do? Does she want a participation trophy for feeding her child? And if I hear "she suffers from severe ADHD" one more time like it's cancer. Please??? Give your daughter the medication and behaviour therapy she needs and stop pampering her because that's exactly the worst thing you can do...

[@andresibarra3473]

Thank you for mentioning the part were she said what they did for her daugther ,the level of entitlement to say" we do the bare minimum to not get in trouble with the law and some on the side to not look bad"and still act like this whole thing is about teaching Casey a lesson in responsability or something, how dare she respect herself and not let that sh*t fly huh?, The whole post of the mom felt like she was sayin " i was not expecting her to figth back let alone win",especially whe they were threatened with a lawsuit she herself said they lost when threatened her husband with divorce that semented the fact that this wasn't about parenting to them it was about the husband pride about wining the argument and then she is blaiming Casey "she did not make alana a driver in the insurance so its her fault"WHAT? They force to let Alana drive and at the end the answers in the comments " when she losses the case she going to throw another tantrum "wich solidified her decision to not pay 15,000 , lady your family tell you you're going to lose , the lawyers tell you you are going to lose, you yourself said it was over we lost, where did the sudden confidence came from Update: it does not made me feel better, too much deflection and trying to be one of the dad victims and she stil was trying to weasel out if consequences" im going to pay please but im having financial trouble so please drop me of the suit "after casey calls her crying and wants to meet ,thank god Casey held her ground and told her that she could not save her dad for mom to have a chance at forgiveness

[@calliewalsh7058]

I work in the insurance industry and one frustration I have is that with cars you are not actually "made whole" after a total loss. You get paid the value of the car but that doesn't get you into a car that is at the same stage of being paid off as you were before the accident. That being said, the parents are high on the AH scale, golden child much?

[@persgodiva]

Honestly that update from the mom is hard to believe. Just a few weeks and she's suddenly a new person? Yeah right.

[@GiordanDiodato]

some people can change. now shut up

[@lianunya2975]

@@GiordanDiodatoIt takes more than a few weeks to change almost two decades, at minimum, of behavior. Cope

[@nwilady1867]

She didn't like being called the ah.

[@medusawitchful]

@@GiordanDiodatoshut up you are naive ass. She just don’t want to pay

[@datmanydocris]

Not to mention she started off the update with a clear lie by saying she was aware that he husband posted before she made her first post because a response that she made in the first post made it abundantly clear she had no idea her husband posted.

[@rons.6429]

I like how they tried to still push the blame onto the Daughter who owned the car. She saved up, bought her own car and got insurance for herself. And it is her fault for not including her ADHD sister on the insurance. As if she too should pay extra for her sister to use her car whenever she wanted.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

The insurance for Casey (car owner) would have been sky high because she was only 17 and they think she also pay to add her 16 yr old sister!?! Most parents will cover insurance on their children until they are in their 20’s because of the high cost to drivers under 25. But these parents want their 17 yr old to cover herself and her sister.

[@kathyhallock2528]

Both of these parents are clueless. How much extra was it going to cost to add the sister to her insurance bill? Were the parents going to pay it? Why is all the financial responsibility on just the one? We know who the golden child is! Parents do better or you will lose one daughter forever!

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Oh, I think they lost Casey already. She's living at the grandmother's, they have to sue to get them to pay up, no accountability. Yeah, "it's dead, Jim".

[@melosidhe779]

When I first got my license almost 20 years ago it was $1000 a year to add me to my parents plan (which was less than $500 a year for BOTH of them) so pretty expensive. But I paid for my own insurance (even though I also have ADHD). Now I did wreck a car coming home from work one Friday night, but I can confidently say that that was because I was an irresponsible teenager, not because of my ADHD. My arrogant young self just assumed when a light went from red to green the left turn arrow always turned on with it. I didn't even bother taking a proper look

[@lindajarvis9965]

It costs A LOT to insure young drivers. Why should her sister pay for it?

[@daisyp1670]

I have ADHD. I drive a car. I put the gas in it. I keep it maintained. And I have never wrecked it. NEVER. Wrecked it. This is not an excuse for irresponsible driving.

[@whims6278]

"We feed her and clothe her" yeah you mean the bare minimum or parenting?

[@karntherandom1125]

I was about to say the same thing. That’s parental obligation/responsibility, not something to hang above the child’s head to manipulate them that they should be grateful.

[@datmanydocris]

Story 1: How many times do I have to say this, _being neurodivergent is not a carte blanche excuse for acting like an AH._ Alana having ADHD does not mean she is magically free of the responsibility of totaling someone else's car, especially when by the father's own admission she is so badly ADHD that she can't even work a job, which means she _definitely_ shouldn't be driving. I have ADHD and if I crashed someone else's car while using it, I would 100% take responsibility fort that and pay for the replacement. Wife's perspective: Oh, so the father was lying when he said Casey "allowed" Alana to use her car, sounds more like Casey was voluntold that Alana would be using her car and would be forced to pay for the gas that Alana used on top of that. Tell me Alana is the golden child without telling me she is. And as for the mother saying it was something that "wasn't my fault", it inarguably is her fault. The car never would have needed to be replaced if Alana was never driving the car which would have never happened if the mother and father hadn't _forced_ Casey to allow Alana to drive it. When something only happened because of a decision that you made, it is inarguably your fault. Also, the mother saying that she didn't think they did anything "that bad" while simultaneously saying they'd almost certainly lose in court are contradictory statements. You're not almost certain to lose in court unless what you did absolutely is "that bad." Not to mention the mother than flipping the script when people started rightfully calling her out for being horrible to Casey by going from "we'll almost certainly lose in court" to "when Casey loses in court she'll pitch a fit." These parents are genuinely awful and absolutely the AHs. Update 1: Okay, just in the first couple lines of the update, the mother loses all credibility because it clearly shows she is lying. She said she knew about the husband's post before making hers and that's why she decided to use real names in her post, yet in her post she was commenting on people saying the husband made a post by saying that she was unaware of that and if people voted him NTA, he wasn't telling the full story. So in her original post she claims she didn't know about the husband's post but in the update she claims she did? Just based on that I question everything the mother said in the update as it just reads as her _desperately_ trying to save face and make herself seem like a victim in this situation. I don't buy it.

[@dorylavetta423]

Can I ask why the parents forced their eldest daughter to allow her younger sister to drive in a car the youngest was not insured to drive? And then, to not be responsible when she wrecks it, after forcing its use, is unfair. What was she supposed to do, just eat the loss? Buy another car and be forced to let her sister crash that car without consequences, too? I don't get those parents at all.

[@Draggonny]

To be fair, the accident brought its own consequences but that still doesn't help Casey to get another car.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Because Alana would be screaming for a car of her own and they didn’t want to fork out their precious money to buy one. They should have told her if she wanted a car of her own, she needed to work and save like Casey did! I can hear it now, “But that’s not fair!”. Now, because of their favoritism, they have to part with their precious money to replace Casey’s car. Maybe they should have bought Alana a $5k car to begin with. Would have saved them $10k! Or a better solution is they let Alana drive one of their cars…like most parents have to do.

[@BriannaWeldon]

Who leaves insurance decisions for a 16 y/o new driver? She had no way of predicting the future unless they implored her to add her sister and she declined.

[@Ash-kp8rt]

As a person with ADHD this is incredibly insulting. Having ADHD doesn't give you a pass to not be accountable for your actions. How is this girl going to be an actual functioning adult? These idiot parents are doing her no favors.

[@latoyathomas6544]

I'm the oldest of 4 children and I ALWAYS L.O.A.T.H.E.D. this about parents - you don't get a Gold Medal for doing the absolute bare minimum as parents! You are legally obligated to feed, house, clothe, & provide for the children YOU CHOSE TO HAVE! And it's always worse when they follow up the BS with, "You should be GRATEFUL...!" Children don't ask to be born! Especially into families as crappy as this one! I remember when I was about 15, 16 and asked my mom if I could go somewhere with my best friend who had a car/license. Being the oldest ALWAYS sucks wide, anyway. She said I could go...if I took my 12yo sister with me. When we were younger, I couldn't stand my sister. I'll never forget how pissed my mom got, when I refused. "I can't believe, you'd rather stay home, than take your sister with you!" Well, believe it. I can read & escape into a book where I'm not obligated to do a damned thing with YOUR daughter! Especially when SHE'S making YOU pull out your hair! Don't have children IF you're going to fob off the responsibility for parenting them, onto someone else. I didn't choose to have her. She's not mine. And my two youngest sibs were a A PILL! I'm 46yo today and I STILL don't have children. You can be as flabbergasted as you like...I'm NOT signing up for extra time with someone I couldn't stand & YOU COULDN'T CONTROL.

[@juliearmfield2634]

The mother tried to make her case but didn't make it any better. She could not take accountability for anything everything was everyone else's fault but hers. I feel so bad for that girl

[@bhart3321]

Yup & that final update was BS. She's doing the same thing for herself that that she does for Alana, letting herself off the hook cuz "My MeNtAl iLlNeSs" she's still not taking full responsibility for her choices & pushing it all on the man. That's BS.

[@juliearmfield2634]

@bhart3321 both those parents are pathetic

[@bhart3321]

@@juliearmfield2634 Absolutely agree 💯

[@ebbss4]

I’m confused as to why the wife she thinks she’s getting off scotch free when it comes to the lawsuit. She’s still gonna have to answer to that in the divorce.

[@mriddley]

7:05 it wasnt productive because the therapist didnt immediately agree with you you forced your daughter to therapy because you wanted a 3rd party to help gang up on her with you

[@Nikkimommyof4]

I’m a parent to four children and even I fail to see how these two morons don’t understand that no matter how they spin it they are still in the wrong. Their daughter worked her ass off and saved to buy her own car. That makes it HER CAR. She doesn’t owe it to her sister or her parents to allow anyone else to use it if she chooses not to. That part blew my mind when I heard the mother say that. I mean WTH? Make that make sense? They are so blind to the fact that they favor their other child it’s beyond crazy. I just can’t even form words I’m so disgusted.

[@DavidJordanjr-vz7um]

So Casey is pressured into letting sister drive, sister totals car and parents think Casey is at fault and needs to pay for the car since she didn't insure her sister? Why should she have to pay the extra money to insure her sister on her policy? Parents are failures. I wish she would have told Mom to pound sand when she asked to be removed off the lawsuit.

[@Draggonny]

How does car insurance work in the US? I live in the UK and if a driver isn't named on the insurance for the vehicle they're driving they will get a fine and points on their licence for driving uninsured and the person whose vehicle they borrowed would also get a fine for letting them drive without insurance. We either have to add every driver on the policy or pay for an extra expensive "any driver aged over x" type policy which are hard to find, especially for young drivers.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

@@DraggonnyWorks pretty much the same but not sure if the owner gets fined. I really don’t let others drive my car except my partner. But I can imagine how expensive insurance would be for Casey herself, being under the age of 25. Adding another under age driver to her policy would have made it where she wouldn’t be able to pay for any insurance on her own. The parents should have added her to their policy and then their insurance should have paid for her accident. Mine covers me if I had an accident in someone else’s vehicle.

[@Draggonny]

@stirrednotshaken4823 Ours used to have Driving Other Cars cover as standard but it was only for the main driver and only for over 25s. They've started taking that away too now. It was 3rd party only as well so wouldn't have covered Casey's car in that situation.

[@jakeand9020]

​@@DraggonnyThat's really tricky to answer as how insurance works in the US depends on many factors, primarily what state you live in, depending on that there are many other factors that may or may not matter, including, but not limited to: what state the accident was in, what company you use for insurance and what policy you choose. Age, sex, tax filing status, even occupation and/or whether you or the driver are students can also make a difference.

[@C_majuscula]

My sister also has severe ADHD. She is one of those people that you don't think actually exists - she will "space out" every few minutes without medication, which she refuses to take. She gets lost, a lot, even just walking through a large department store. Unfortunately, after she moved from NY to UT, she was able to get her license. It has been an unmitigated disaster since. She has caused several accidents in UT and CA, multiple with financial judgments against her. How CA still allows her to have a license is beyond me. All this to say, Alana SHOULD NOT BE DRIVING.

[@Russman67]

Story 1: Both parents are failing their daughters. Casey by letting Alanah skate on her responsibilities all the way to totaling a 15k car. And Alanah by shrugging and saying "Well it's her ADHD so..." The fact that every other family member is standing in and backing Casey tells me a lot. Dad is going under the bus but damn, they are a mess.

[@lucianatykhelle6405]

I guess they were going to pressure the oldest to take care of the youngest asap.

[@JBTFan124]

Oh no, her grades might slip. Well she should have thought of that before she totaled her sister's car. She messed up her sister's car, time to fix it.

[@hvymax]

Hopefully Casey stays with the Grandparents and gets on with her life!!!

[@Catilena1890]

Mom must be a Gold Olympian Shot-putter. The strength in which she hurled her husband under the bus is something of beauty.

[@dizzysdoings]

These parents sound worse and worse the more they talk. They didn't pay for the car, refused to put gas in it and probably refused to help pay for the insurance.

[@jomc6734]

I think the amount of information that the father left out of his post is really unbelievable. The mother was far more forthcoming and shows how awful the parents are. 1. Why was there any issue with who would be driving Casey's car? She owned it, and it should be her decision. 2. I think it's likely the 'little persuasion' means that Casey was told she has to let her sister drive the car that she bought. 3. JFC, Alana didn't need to even put gas in the car. If Alana was driving, she needs to put gas in the car. It's unbelievable that Casey had to pay for her sister's gas. 4. Casey saved $15K - that kid is an amazing saver. 5. And it gets worse. Apparently, it's all Casey's fault because she didn't put her sister on the insurance as an approved driver. Was Casey supposed to cover the additional insurance costs for doing so. I bet she was. If the parents wouldn't cover Alana's gas, they wouldn't cover that it. It is Casey's car. My God, the mother referred to the car that Casey paid for as 'their' car. It wasn't their car - it was Casey's car. Then, my God, the comment the mother made about Casey not being marriage material. Casey needs to stay far away from her.

[@dandotvid]

"Casey *bought her car that she saved for* just as Alana got her license, so there was a little issue between who was going to be driving it" There is absolutely *ZERO* issue who would be driving Casey's car that she *paid for.* My bet is the "issue" was because you were trying to force Casey to let Alana drive it. Alana had no right to the car whatsoever. Oh wow the parents are the hugest assholes here! So not only did they force Casey to let Alana use the car, but Casey still had to pay for the gas? AND Alana wasn't on as an approved driver? No way would I let someone drive my car when they aren't on the insurance. Parents should have paid for the gas if Alana couldn't and should have paid the difference for Alana to be on as an approved driver *IF* Casey agreed to let her use the car. And that "if" isn't after being forced or manipulated into acceptance. "But this is the result of Casey's decision" Oh just F off! And they seem to have all the money in the world for therapy and savings and now divorce, but just can't seem to get the money to their daughter for her car.

[@davidceres4516]

The mom literally mentions that they could just pay it but the husband was being an ass

[@latoyathomas6544]

When I read the part about, "We've been to 4 different firms..." I highly doubt that 4 different lawyers took the Parents on Pro Bono. So they had all the money in the world to fight taking responsibility, but not to fix the car that THEIR golden child wrecked...who shouldn't have been driving it in the first place! Geez, I loathe "parents" like these!😡

[@lanadelrad6147]

Funny how it’s Casey’s car when it comes to maintaining and keeping gas in the car, but “their” car any other time

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

I have ADHD. Not an excuse. My ADHD is bad. I’ve found ways. (Obviously I’m going on medication soon to help). I literally wouldn’t use this as an excuse. I’m saving to get driving lessons that actually work for me (With my ADHD, I know I need more time before I actually get a license). So, YTA.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

Why is Alana behind the wheel if it’s that bad? I know I’m going to wait before going behind the wheel. Also, the way the parents spoke about their one daughter was disgusting. Like, she’s unloveable and overreacting. It’s…. Horrific. I hope that Casey is okay.

[@brianaschmidt910]

Adhd doesn't make it impossible to drive, just a bit harder. Also, something tells me they didn't get insulin for the diabetes if you take my meaning. (They didn't bother getting their daughter the assistance/medical interference she needs)

[@wolfwise1135]

I’m going to recommend that you get a car with blindside warnings, drift warnings, breaking warnings. I have adhd and since getting a car with all these features I feel safer from myself. I’ve never wrecked or gotten a crash but as someone with adhd I’m so afraid that I’ll get distracted or impulsive and causing an accident.

[@wolfwise1135]

@@brianaschmidt910Even if they did get her medicated they are keeping her responsible for her mistakes. She’s not learning good behavior, that can screw up even a neurotypical teenager.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

@@wolfwise1135 Thank you for this recommendations. Yeah, they’re my same fears about driving. I don’t ever want to hurt someone. I’m hoping medication might make things easier too. Also, I agree with the second comment. Alana still needs to be held responsible for her actions. Using certain things as an excuse won’t fly. The parents can’t use the same excuse if she got into an accident that hurt someone badly. She also, shouldn’t have been driving the car if her name is not on the insurance.

[@christineheminger7762]

I notice that there was no mention of who was at fault in the accident; that makes me think Alana did something a good driver wouldn’t and caused the accident. 5:48

[@rahadianramadhan5554]

JFC the parents here are the major AHs like how dense could they be??? They seem to use Alana's ADHD as a crutch and it reeks of favoritism. I hope Casey wins and gets her compensation and go NC with them.

[@marleymorningstar3671]

It's weird how the parents have varying details on a few things and then the mom just throws dad under the bus. Things are not adding up....

[@icoz7]

"The issue is that Alana has severe ADHD-" Theeeeeeeere it is. They're probably going to look back when she's still entirely dependent on them after 25 years of gentle parenting and still won't see what went wrong.

[@ShariVoffs]

This is not gentle parenting, this is spineless parenting.

[@brianaschmidt910]

That's not gentle parenting, that's called fashioning a Golden child. Gentle parenting is NOT screaming or hitting your child, talking to them about things. It's not about not punishing them, it's about not abusing them as you teach them how to behave as a functioning member of society. If one of those two things aren't there, then it isn't gentle parenting I also have adhd. It does not prevent you from being a good person or even independent. You just need to be parented right the first time. Alana having adhd is not the issue here, her not being parented right is the issue

[@AuroraPaintBrush4444]

Not "gentle parenting" that's classic spoiled brat, Golden Child, the "baby". How much you want to bet, the "Car girl" was not planned. Or the "ADHD daughter" was planned.

[@geminiadastra8662]

Its not gentle parenting, it's permissive parenting. There's a difference. Gentle parenting is a bit of a misnomer, it's just treating your kids like humans who are learning how to be humans and not doing cold abuse. "Gentle parenting" still involves punishment, rules, and boundaries, but typically values communicating with children so they understand what the issue was. Alana is being coddled by her parents at the expense of Casey, which is another sign that they're not parenting properly

[@Draggonny]

I've got a distant relative who lives in his deceased parent's house which was put in a trust so it would be impossible for him to lose it. This is because even as a grown working adult, old enough to have been a grandfather, he couldn't manage his finances independently. Guy was tied to his mother's apron strings until the day she died of old age. Meanwhile his sister got nothing because "he needed it more". Her reward for being a competent adult. Here's hoping this family heed the wake-up call.

[@KarmikCykle]

"The real world will set her straight" In the real word you pay for wrecking someone else's car. Hell, in the real world you at least pay for gas if you borrow someone's car.

[@dawnjohnstonbaugh8231]

These parents are awful. Forcing their daughter to let her sister use her car and pay for her gas, then not facing up to the consequences after the wreck. And the way they tslk about her is terrible. Run asap girl and don't look back.

[@michamocha]

The way that everyone was against them and they doubled down is insane lmao. The mom was trying so hard to paint herself as 'not as bad' when she's just like her husband. She just couldn't handle the consequences.