Daughters’s Best Friend’s Dad is a Sex Offender

Daughters’s Best Friend’s Dad is a Sex Offender
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[@GIChiyo]

She is a social worker and she clearly doesn't want to report him AS A MANDATED REPORTER That is insanity

[@zaibshahzad5047]

he had already been reported, she found an old report of him, and then by now on that same roster he was in "good standing" - they should probably check for of he did his time and his counselling and has he reformed or not at the very least tho

[@JCurry1123]

@@zaibshahzad5047If he's still on the list he's probably not allowed to be around kids, that's what there is to report. I was confused a bit at first reading the comment till I started typing my own comment out and it started to make more sense

[@grey6703]

it sounds like she used to be a social worker, so she isn’t a mandated reporter anymore

[@machellep1]

@@grey6703 every one who finds this information has a responsibility to inform those involved. You shouldn’t have to be mandated to be a decent human being.

[@lulumoon6942]

T H I S

[@fg6418]

An ex social worker having not already called in and reported him being in that group is a prime example of why kids keep being abused. Thank god she’s not in that field anymore. His wife may be an enabler or one of those women that finds the children for him.

[@deppresedonion6320]

Thats a great point the fact she had to ring the show for advice is crazy . Also not once did they bring up the offenders daughters safety no knows what she is going through in that house .

[@112887db]

If this woman doesnt call, she should be reported. There is no way she should be a social worker if she lets this go.

[@victoriasograteful3405]

Exactly!

[@carlossantos252525]

Agree

[@bobberry1463]

If completely different when it personally

[@ForkMcGee]

@@bobberry1463 ?????????????????????????????????????????

[@tessaburnett5084]

She might not even be a social worker. Having a “social work background” doesn’t mean she is an actual social worker. Unfortunately, a lot of non-social workers claim to be.

[@user-lu3hs1lh1s]

How can anyone trust this woman to keep strangers children safe when she behaves this way.

[@buttaflyy59]

Exactly what I was thinking !!!! She’s a real airhead.

[@1232lyft]

You can’t she’s a POs she’s everything wrong with this world

[@saucyrossy3698]

yeah....so do we still have to pretend that women (in general....no one gets points for saying 'nOt AlL wOmeN!) aren't basically children who throw morality and responsibility out the door just to be 'nice'.

[@mcrchickenluvr]

@@saucyrossy3698as a woman and a mandatory per my job, I’d be the one to make sure how shitty this guy really is. The fact that so many women would just sit there with their thumbs up their butt with this stuff is disgusting. Being that at least at the time she was a social worker and she has this attitude is scary.

[@PaperParade]

⁠@@saucyrossy3698Yeah, no, we’re not going to do that. Both sexes do this and don’t do this. It’s a character issue, not a battle of the sexes for whoever is superior morally.

[@MattheMatthew]

This woman isn’t going to say anything. She’s not the confrontational type. She’s going to be utterly passive-aggressive. She is a social worker, but she is also a hypocrite.

[@createone100]

‘Passive-aggressive’???

[@nancypicchi9224]

Sad this MOM is a harbor for EVIL!!!

[@sunsetbabydoll1435]

@@createone100not confronting the issue head on by reporting, alerting other parents, calling up his probation officer for interacting with kids, etc. Sounds more like she’ll push off the mom here and there and not send her daughter off to their house directly, but maybe to group events where that girl and her parents may attend or allow her daughter to hang out with the girl without the dad being around/with other kids being present etc. Not to make any assumptions but it sounded more like she cared what the other mom friend would think and less about her daughter’s friend being hurt by the situation. Crazy that a former social worker doesn’t realize the gravity of how dangerous it is to normalize relations with that family as a whole sadly, allowing her daughter around theirs even though she is innocent in this tells other parents that the offender’s family is no one to be alarmed by. Lunacy.

[@karenelise2008]

The way she keeps laughing, and talking about her background, I think she thinks she’s too smart for this guy to get to her child. Laughing about how she gave a forensic interview so she knows her daughters not been hurt. The laugh on this lady makes me crazy.

[@betsywoolbright8059]

@@sunsetbabydoll1435 where did it say he has a PO? And most RSOs aren't prohibited from being around kids.

[@c_mac8633]

She's not going to call. She's scared to lose a friend.

[@patymartin8568]

How can i get my hand to this woman's...?

[@lizaw.7313]

She feels bad for her daughter, she is processing it.

[@pennyfreeman8413]

Sounds like she is afraid to make her daughter mad.

[@dewilew2137]

@@pennyfreeman8413 mad? Why would you say “mad”? Why not “devastated”? Losing a best friend, and then not even being able to understand or process why she can’t see her friend anymore, is going to be devastating. It would be for any child.

[@joane.3533]

She said she isn't close to the woman. But I get it, I may be older than she is, but I was raised to not make waves; to not cause trouble or get involved and not to be concerned or bothered by something.

[@yvonnemclaughlin4324]

Her call was on how to protect her daughter. Her moral obligation is to to protect ALL children and teens. As a Social Worker she is a mandated reporter to inquire and report this man is around children. I pray she follows through with Dr. John’s advice.

[@sueblack5794]

She says she has a background in SS, sounds like the past, so hopefully she is no longer working in that field.

[@patymartin8568]

She's not trying to protect her daughter, she is more afraid of losing friendship with this man's wife. She wants to be liked by her community. She doesn't want to stir the waters

[@candyluna2929]

I think she will. She sounds determined

[@ceelothatmane9421]

Welcome to life

[@nancypicchi9224]

All of us are held accountable if we do nothing. Especially with the the cowardly belief of “Oh, wait, I will only allow play dates at my house”…………… In the end how many other victims could there be?@@sueblack5794

[@trexxy9628]

I feel for the predator’s kid . Seriously, not only are they at risk from him but the isolation created by the situation is also damaging. They are being punished for his sins

[@katethegreat4918]

I was thinking the same thing. I don’t understand how anyone could marry someone like him.

[@colmwhateveryoulike3240]

@@katethegreat4918 Mind boggling. Unless she's young and naive.

[@aoropeza85]

for life, imagine her about to get married and having to disclose to her future husband that their kids' grandpa is a sex offender

[@joane.3533]

Do you think the guys wife even knows about this?

[@princesskileyrae]

That really is sad & you're right. 😢

[@Fancyprawn]

I really hate people pleasers. They will inevitably throw the people they love under the bus and endanger them to please the wrong person.

[@myriamdiallo4434]

💯 As a recovering people pleaser, I *hate* it when people use that label to gain sympathy points like "Oh poor me, I care more about other people than I care about myself." Like, no, you don't. You care more about people *liking* you (which is itself a selfish goal) than you care about your own integrity or the people who genuinely love you.

[@ErinWilke]

This is definitely one of the top most infuriating calls I've heard on John's show

[@testaccount01336]

Infuriating? I am so effing pissed off at her. She is not protecting her child!!!

[@ErinWilke]

​@@testaccount01336exactly, protect your damn kids!

[@sponggiexoxo]

I feel the same. I am so pissed off at her. Are you kidding me? You're literally questioning what you should do with a registered sex offender?

[@willieverusethis]

@@sponggiexoxo Who would you call? The police already know. He's registered. What would you say to the police if you did call?

[@philwill0123]

Yep, but if he's involving himself in community groups, that won't be known to police

[@AngelaNortonTyler]

WHY is she calling, exactly? This is ridiculous. She needs someone to tell her to protect her kid? Do her job? Sheesh.

[@Tisha750]

She is a coward and I don’t know where the husband is hiding because I am sure he would not be just sitting on the information.

[@MortalFrenemies]

This is why people get away with this people like her make light of the situation because they think it won't happen to them and they sweep it under the rug

[@kathysyswerda1875]

😅​@@Tisha750

[@philwill0123]

You can bet her kid has no friends except the daughter of this sex offender. Or she's best friends with the wife. Sounds like she's more afraid of damaging the social circle by reporting rather than protecting her kid

[@daishamariee]

She called to figure out how play dates are going to be organized. While Delony said she needs to contact the police. Other children than her own could be in danger.

[@firefly850]

This woman is a social worker?! Seriously?? This man has direct access to children. Take some action woman what is wrong with you???!! Why are you laughing? I have never heard anything less funny in my life. This is serious as a heart attack.

[@sobeliever1638]

Can they never have access to kids ?Ever regardless of the offense?

[@boxelder9147]

@@sobeliever1638 I guess not. I'm still a bit confused. Sounds like his daughter lives with him and his wife. And he is involved with group programs where he has access to kids. Hes on the register so apparently there was no background check. I forget how the caller found out. I'll rewatch

[@perc3136]

@@sobeliever1638I think it depends

[@siarranacoste1654]

Lmao she’s not laughing because she’s finds this situation funny she’s laughing because she’s very nervous in this very serious situation and laughing is a way to help cope with stress or when you’re feeling uncomfortable please don’t be close minded and remember not everyone reacts the same way to things as you

[@adrianratlief1312]

​@sobeliever1638 they shouldn't. Is this a real question?

[@larissaalcorn3406]

This is the exact reason why the Sex Offender registry exists. Never assume you know the person you're leaving your child with.

[@paulan7218]

that right there is the reason why my daughter has only stayed with her two grandfathers and her one grandmother. Between my husband, and I, we both know that those three people are safe for her to be with.

[@Blessedfamilymama]

She was not getting it. How is this so hard for her to understand? She's way more concerned with her 7 year olds feelings than protecting her and other children from a sex offender. It's wild! Call and report him. Full stop. Cut ties and make new friends. Yes it sucks for everyone involved... But so does sexual abuse, that would be way worse than making new friends.

[@FloydofOz]

Parents like the caller are exactly why the child abuse cycle will never end.

[@lizaw.7313]

That's harsh...

[@candyluna2929]

Umm noo. She is on her feet about it.

[@veracityhunter7777]

Exactly.

[@veracityhunter7777]

@@lizaw.7313 THE TRUTH OFTEN IS. This is the problem, y'all are showing your feelings and worried about emotions, that you're not really wailing and ready to admit harsh truths because of somebody's feelings. Toughen up, buttercup.

[@veracityhunter7777]

@@candyluna2929 no she's not, this wouldn't even be a call for me. They would just not be friends anymore and he would get reported. End of story, the fact that you guys even have to call in about something like this is very telling.

[@nicolcacola]

"It's been a long time"...yeah since he's been CAUGHT! This woman, man. She's one of those social workers that allows abusive families to keep their kids then something happens to the kid and everyone goes, "Why didn't social services do something?!".

[@firefly9838]

You have to be objective with people you don’t know. I’m sorry you just have to.

[@brad885]

I think age (and mental maturity) have a lot to do with his willingness or risk to reoffend. Not that I'm giving this guy a pass-it should be disclosed, but still.

[@larissaalcorn3406]

@@brad885 A normal 22 year old man doesn't seek out 14 year old girls. This isn't about "maturity."

[@DeclinedMercy]

@@brad885 he is not allowed to be around children, if he is violating that rule then he is at the highest risk of reoffending.

[@saucyrossy3698]

yeah heres an open secret: social workers are kind of a scummy group of people that wrap themselves in the flag of 'compassion' while constantly making the world worse because they cant stand to be 'mean' or for political, ideological reasons (were not going to pretend that 90% of them aren't raging liberals, are we?).

[@CJ2023Incognito]

The fact that this lady can’t figure out what to do is pretty frightening. Especially when John lays it out completely.

[@SS-lg7hq]

And she is a social worker!

[@nicolewhite3276]

Literally.

[@doctorposting]

her question was on if she should isolate her daughter or not, which is fair

[@vaska1999]

​@@SS-lg7hq No, she isn't.

[@jennifert2953]

What happens to the wife is not her problem. The daughter’s feelings are unfortunate, but not her problem. If the father hurts someone and they knew about him and did nothing, that is now their problem. This caller actually made me mad. As a teacher and a mother I am so angry. This caller is a social worker. Get a spine. Do the right thing.

[@victoriasograteful3405]

Amen! I’m so glad you said it because I’m just as angry. This woman needs to get a clue.

[@jennifert2953]

@@victoriasograteful3405 I also wondered if maybe she is the type of person that laughs when she’s nervous.???….. I just can’t believe she is as clueless as she come across.

[@jbr2991]

I’m a retired teacher and I completely agree with you. I don’t believe she’s really a social worker. If she is, she should choose a different career.

[@veracityhunter7777]

YES👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼THANK YOU 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@BernoullisBiggestFan]

“I would never forgive myself” was a window statement into the whole situation. She was more worried about how she would feel then her daughter if something ever happened. She doesn’t want to lose a friend and possibly make her daughter mad. Enabler at its finest

[@thembisaodendaal]

It's so sad that there are adults out there who would do anything for the perception of being nice...to what extent?this phenomenon makes me sick because these people are the pits,they just have no backbone

[@AlexiusS]

my heart dropped when she said that they were involved with a group centered around children.....of all the things in the world to join. Why would a sex offender want to be that involved.

[@michelemelucci4667]

Exactly

[@vaska1999]

And why would the man's wife let him be involved in such a group, since she presumably knows he's a registered sex offender?

[@elizabetha8565]

Me wondering how so many kids are victims of paedophilia. KZbin: here is your answer.

[@TEM14411]

Yup. People who deny their own trauma/have subconscious blockages, are not effective at addressing trauma in front of them. This should not be such a struggle for this woman. It isn't about judgement. It is about discernment and truths.

[@testaccount01336]

YES, YES AND YES!!!

[@COINsimp2024]

It creeps me out that she even had to call for this advice. The answer is simple. She's a social worker? That's pathetic. This is exactly how kids wind up abused, weak parents.

[@dewilew2137]

Weak parents? 🙄

[@COINsimp2024]

@@dewilew2137 Weak men create hard times.

[@veracityhunter7777]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@veracityhunter7777]

@@dewilew2137 Yes, that is what happened to me. My mother was too busy trying to maintain an image, so she was too weak to protect me. In some situations, the parents are at fault for not doing enough, or subjecting themselves to the abuser like in my case. Obviously, the abuser is the one who bears most of the responsibility and fault but parents not doing what's right adds to it..

[@nikkita1688]

​@dewilew2137 yes. Lots of parents knew my mom was being beaten and did nothing.

[@here2laff397]

She’s literally making EVERY excuse in the book…..disgusting ! “I’m an advocate at heart”…obviously not !

[@amyeli33]

And she keeps laughing in this video.

[@puddins2349]

Predators always try to find close proximity to children, they are generally coaches counselors people in trust. This woman is an example of why these things continue.

[@TEM14411]

Absolutely the truth that so many want to ignore and deny.

[@pinkfairydust83]

This had me raging! As a child counsellor I cannot believe this woman! A social worker....wow! Unbelievable. I'm not sure why she kept giggling because this whole conversation was sickening and incredibly serious. Children are potentially at risk as she speaks to John, her child may have been harmed. I'm furious!

[@sueblack5794]

Don't think she is a current social worker as she said she HAD a background in it but never said she was actually a current social worker.

[@firefly9838]

Furious from stories on the internet. That’s healthy.

[@damioncurrier290]

YES!! Why is she laughing at everything!?

[@RealGalaxyGamers]

@@canecorsomom2023 Melissa, Saint Joe, Missouri. Literally says it on the show. 😂

[@RealGalaxyGamers]

You don’t know her situation. No judgment toward something YOU don’t personally know about.

[@lovely4833]

Daughter of this mom is at risk even if the other girl is coming over. I would cut all ties, report to group and call local authorities to report the Dad being part of activities with children. Shouldn’t be a question. Protect your kids!

[@fallenxstari]

💯 percent

[@oneofthoseguys2019]

Single mothers are trash

[@Redraven2967]

@@oneofthoseguys2019 just a wee bit judgmental there? In what way are all single mothers trash? Some are single because their husband left them, some because the husband abused them. A friend of mine was killed in Afghanistan while serving with the Army, he left a wife and three kids, is that widowed single mother trash? You really need to check your statements and standards then deeply examine yourself before calling someone else trash.

[@tashsme]

@@Redraven2967 Right. Besides that, how is this opinion even relevant to the conversation since neither mother in the scenario is even single? Just looking to get a rise out of people, no doubt.

[@Redraven2967]

@@tashsme the relevance is only in relation to the post it refers to, not to that of Allison sanders. I agree with her statement completely. The person that posted the statement I responded to dis get a rise out of me.

[@midlifeandnailingit6342]

I had a similar situation. I broke off all friendships involved. Zero F’s given. I was friends with mom for years… DONE! Did I mourn? Yes! But my daughter stayed safe.

[@mattskag2]

She was rationalizing this away so she doesn't have to parent her daughter. She is putting the community at risk because she doesn't want her daughter to be mad at her.

[@paulaoppedisano6460]

I am the child of a sex offender who preyed on my teenage friends. One of my friends was staying with us bc both of her parents were neglectful ( go figure) my mother had schizophrenia. My friends mom came to pick her up and my friend begged her to help me. Her mother said, it’s not worth it. As an adult I realized I was on my own to deal with it. I have no respect for both my father or my friends mother.

[@lindap.p.1337]

Oh, so so sorry. Love to you from Virginia.

[@ItsMrstoyouboo]

She is a social worker but don't wanna report him. She's the problem here.

[@chrissys5785]

This lady is in denial. Totally out to lunch to the seriousness of the situation. Dr. John is right. She is going to have to deal with it head on.

[@miketheyunggod2534]

I always deal with it "head" on sweetie.

[@kishajones841]

She sounds extremely dense for a Social Worker. I seriously question her ability to parent and do her job! The fact that he’s now apart of a youth group sends up huge red flags!

[@princesskileyrae]

Have you actually met any social workers? They're overworked, underpaid, & many give zero f***s about helping people. It's the sad reality that most social workers just don't care. I have one right now who thinks I'm more "abled" than I am because I can drive sometimes. I've asked her to help me apply for resources & she responded by telling me "it sounds like you know what you need to do." It's like, yes, & I'm autistic & brain damaged, therefore I need help. It's often "little" things like filling out paperwork that are extremely hard & neurotypical people almost never understand that.

[@DeRocco21]

you proved the OP's point@@princesskileyrae

[@testaccount01336]

@@princesskileyrae Even about their own child.

[@princesskileyrae]

@@DeRocco21 yes, that was the point. I was agreeing. The field in general does not attract the best & brightest. But also - women abusers & women who hide abuse are way more common than most people think. When my uncle's best friend was outed as my childhood pedophile, my dad wasn't informed because quote, "Your dad will kill (Jeremy Hosford) & end up in prison & then you'll have to grow up without a dad." The pedo was "excommunicated" from my family, who was his family at that time. I didn't understand anything. I missed him - I was 13 when he got the (non-literal) boot so I'd grown up attached to him like an extra uncle my whole life. But my mother never reported him to the police. She never took me to therapy (because then it would be on a record). My mother was a medical professional who chose to protect a pedophile & even later in life justified her behavior. "People just didn't know what to do about that stuff back then. What more was I supposed to do? You never saw him again, did you?!" After that, his same girlfriend married him, they had a daughter, & she "divorced him when she found CP." She already knew he was a real life pedo to me, but it took internet p0rn to convince her he is what he is? I was let down by more women than men in that situation & women perpetuated the cycle of abuse & allowed it to continue.

[@princesskileyrae]

@@testaccount01336 agreed

[@kaylacombs6254]

This lady is way too chill. I'd be screaming at them, posting flyers, letting probation officers know. Basically ratting him on the whole neighborhood. What is her deal?

[@shaynaglick9325]

How is this woman a social worker?

[@britneyog9537]

This is why our system is broken. This woman should be stripped of her job title. She can't even protect her own child!

[@BBB-qc4wf]

You'd be surprised at the amount of foolishness that goes on in that field.

[@israelarellano8335]

Social worker majors have low IQs.

[@theguy9067]

Social work is a low IQ field

[@jojo2007ish]

​@@BBB-qc4wf Yup, they let people stay longer than they should due to staffing.

[@hammy6275]

I was literally yelling at the TV watching this. What is wrong with this lady! AND she is a social worker!?! That man is dangerous. The fact that he is putting himself in a community group knowing exactly what he has done in his past as well as know the hard facts that he is no longer allowed to be around children is beyond disturbing, it is alarming!!!! This mother is more concerned about losing a friend! John, thank you for calling her out and flat out asking her what is she going to do. If the caller reads these comments...it is your responsibility to report and protect your daughter as well as all of the innocent children that you know are within reach of this child abuser. You know better, DO better!!!!

[@23awatkins]

Same! This woman just doesn’t get it :/ like where is her mama bear instincts?!

[@griceltorres7701]

How can a parent state they are not close to someone or consider someone a friend, BUT allows their child to be at their house? How!?

[@willieverusethis]

Gee, that's how I grew up. We would be gone all day at the homes of kids our parents didn't know. And the crime rate is much lower now than it was then.

[@pinkfeet518]

my mom wasn’t super close to my friends parents when i was younger. i’d still go over their houses because the friends i did have back then i knew for yearrrss. everyone in elementary school knew each other, kids and parents

[@BeaBelfastVideos]

Going by the way she's talking (full of doubt, non assertive etc) she must be an incompetent social worker.

[@abark]

They all are.

[@reinamacaren-a4132]

Naw she can't believe it's in her community is all. This is what happens to the less fortunate ❓🤔

[@ineedhoez]

Paahahaha

[@testaccount01336]

She is an incompetent mother.

[@matkiley17]

It's not real so don't feel bad. It's fake scenarios for the social/therapy grift

[@lizaw.7313]

Social workers can be so wishy washy. Explain to your daughter now! She needs to know that even other people's parents can be unsafe people. You should equip your children, always

[@meganbaril7847]

Why was this mom laughing so much? I assume nerves but it definitely did not fit the seriousness of this situation.

[@sueblack5794]

it seemed a self righteous as she was laughing at John when brought up she had responsibility to tell others about him and confront them.

[@IAmChadBroseph]

It was creepy honestly

[@LSSYLondon]

I remember I laughed when I found out that my religious teacher had been arrested for trying to have sex with a 15 year old boy because it was so absurd. It enraged me so much I couldn't do anything other than cackle. It's amazing what stress will do to the body.

[@Jane_1994]

Dr. John: "You're not going to say anything, are you" Her: *laughs* Are you kidding me? You have a responsibility as a community member. Do the uncomfortable thing. "I'm a pacifist" or "It's awkward" is absolutely unacceptable. How can she laugh about this at all?

[@tashsme]

I could be wrong, but I heard this a little differently. He asked, "You're not going to say anything, are you?" Then she laughed and answered, "No! (pause) You don't know me, but I'm an advocate at heart." I don't think she was answering his question so much as denying his assumption or countering his challenge. I hope.

[@jennifert2953]

I get what you are saying. She might be a nervous laugher. It’s a thing. I’ve seen it.

[@AulaniMaria]

You Fool! She's on live radio with a huge problem- laughter is a very common reaction to nervousness!

[@jocypare6019]

@@jennifert2953 i am a nervios laugh. When my kid was choking I would just get to laugh so hard. As I was removing what ever it was he had in his baby mouth.

[@joane.3533]

If she is a social worker then she is a mandated reporter and required to report this; Dr John is also required to report this...I am amazed he didn't tell her that he was going to. What do you think?

[@stephaniemusic5085]

She has a moral and ethical obligation to make sure every parent in proximity to this guy has full knowledge of what he is so that they can protect their children. He was only caught once, guarantee it wasn’t the only incident past and present

[@Jane_1994]

Yeah, it's deeply selfish to do nothing and keep herself comfortable.

[@ChitchatwithApril]

On point! Exactly!

[@dewilew2137]

You have no basis to have any “guarantees” regarding this situation. This is what I hate about this subject. People who really don’t know what they’re talking about feel the need to posture for other people to see how outraged they are about child abuse. It’s all so disingenuous and gross. In real life, most people do not even care about stuff like this, but for some reason, on the internet, everyone wants to pretend to be outraged because that’s what you’re “supposed to do”. 90% of y’all genuinely don’t give a sh*t about other people’s kids. Men are usually the worst ones when it comes to this, but women definitely do it as well. It’s all so damn fake.

[@lindap.p.1337]

People these days do not get involved.

[@patymartin8568]

I can't believe this woman is a social worker and is wondering what she should do!! She's more concerned about her SOCIAL community? Wow woman, hang up the phone and report him being around children! 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡 Better explain to your daughter why you did it than to be sorry YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING for YOUR daughter and for his daughter's friends

[@Crutonlover]

I never would have thought to search for the ones closest to my family as a way to protect them, something to think about.

[@sumerrsmith1774]

The facts are that stranger danger is so rare, it’s almost not a real threat. Almost everyone abused/molested is abused by family and trusted friends. The people in your circle have the power to do harm.

[@lizaw.7313]

Please do! Those are the ones who are usually dangerous.

[@stephanieb5103]

Yep found someone in my family that way🙃

[@Lovelyminidonuts]

Most kids sexually abused are abused by family members actually. All of mine were family or close to the family to be considered family.

[@nycrawgirl]

It’s always the ones closest to your family-uncles, brothers, close friends, etc.

[@CarrascoWangler]

The downside of asking them directly is that it always a “misunderstanding,” and if you’re not strong enough, you allow them to gaslight you.

[@Matt-cr4vv]

I respect Dr John a lot. He has a really strong mix of being empathetic to peoples difficulties on very tough topics but consistently holds them accountable and gives them real talk. The way he is consistently firm but fair is uncanny.

[@MatthewsSloan]

Ladies, ladies, ladies, ladies. We have to stop this. As a parent. Your number one goal should be, to keep your child from being molested. Help us.

[@willieverusethis]

Really? That's the number one goal of a parent?

[@AnnaNicoleVinopal]

This is the kind of person who allows abuse in church and community centers go unnoticed.

[@ashleymalone1537]

the fact that she is questioning what the next steps should be and she is a social worker is mind blowing to me. I guess it is different when its close to home...🥴

[@jbr2991]

I’m a retired teacher and I have a difficult time believing she’s really a social worker. Perhaps I’m wrong, but the law is extremely clear on this: you call the police, you call DHS. Something is off on this call, he cannot be around children. So how is this a real situation??? How in the world can she choose strangers over her child’s safety? Good grief! She feels sorry for his daughter; I feel sorry for this lady’s daughter. There are a billion red flags going off in my head. 🚩

[@victoriavidal3126]

Why did she even bother calling? You act immediately for something like this. Her child and other children are in danger but she’s worried about her daughter losing a friend? Insane.

[@britneyog9537]

THIS is why our system aka this woman Are failing thousands of children! My gosh. I'll say no more. She KNOWS better. This is her JOB. Imagine how she handles cases if she is hesitant with her OWN CHILD. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@Btone1018]

I think it’s a bit presumptuous of you to assume how she performs at her job. She clearly stated she works with people on making a plan and knows the statistics. It’s different when it’s your own child. She made the call. She’s trying. This is a heavy situation that affects so many. Give her some freaking credit. She’s not failing anyone.

[@reinamacaren-a4132]

I think she's hardcore with the less fortunate but her peers are a different story. She doesn't want to be a social worker 24/7🥴

[@britneyog9537]

@@Btone1018 I can tell you as a mother, I wouldn't have to make this call. And, I don't even know the statistics. Glad she is at least asking for guidance, but it doesn't sound like she is convinced. Even John is speechless. I will not retract my statement. She should know, better than John, on how to handle this.

[@britneyog9537]

@@reinamacaren-a4132 yep you got that right. Be a mom! Don't think twice about putting your child (and others) in known danger. But, sounds like she knows more than most and still can't follow through. 👌🏻

[@britneyog9537]

@E me too! ❤️😔

[@abbytomkiewicz2232]

Omg this woman is terrifying to listen to! She has no ability to keep her child safe

[@michaellemmen]

That's a sweeping generalization

[@jennyb1650]

I need an update! What did she do? What happened? I’m worried. She sounded soooo hesitant and unwilling to commit. 😔 What if the other mom didn’t know?? Her child is also at risk. Many predators abuse family members

[@anastasiatheo001]

I isn't believable the other mom didn't know. Of course she did/does, making her as unsafe as he is for girls to be around.

[@skd7028]

“It’s so important for me to be nice I am willing to put my own child at risk for a kiddy friendship.” This woman is idiotic.Does she not understand what sexual abuse is?

[@bevbayb3029]

I can't help but wonder if the wife is aware of what her husband has done.

[@miketheyunggod2534]

Hillary knew. She didn't care.

[@breeeque]

i mean its very possible she doesnt know

[@candiceceesay5905]

She really may not know. I would talk to the spouse first and let her know you have 2 take action.

[@babbahassa]

I love when John said “You aren’t going to do anything, are you?” and her immediate response is nervous laughter. He saw right through her at that moment and exposed the truth. This lady only called to gossip about it and not take any action. If that was my kid i’m calling the wife immediately and exposing that information and demanding an explanation. Just because you’re a social worker doesn’t mean you have the guts to do something like that

[@thembisaodendaal]

You are 100% she was gossiping.its disgusting and annoying the way she was carrying on and Dr John should have asserted himself.This is not a Jerry Springer show, this is real life and children's lives are in danger

[@joane.3533]

So someone here mentioned that if the woman is a social worker, she is a mandated reporter and required to report this...well Dr John is also required to report this...I am amazed he didn't tell her that he was going to. What do you think?

[@michaellemmen]

Do you know her personally? Did she not expose this? I have no idea because I do not know her. Do you know her?

[@KR-fj2mm]

This caller made me so angry 😡 she should not be a social worker if she needs to phone in and ask a question like this! Unbelievable

[@actuallyterry]

It sounds like it would be pretty easy to cut these people out her life. Her daughter is 7 she'll have new friends next year.

[@astoldbynadia6310]

I would privately contact the police. Then have my kid find a new friend. These people hid his past from you and then invited your kid into their house. Hopefully her child has not already been victimized.

[@jacqueline8566]

So this woman doesn’t see that GOD literally dropped this in her lap so that she can be used to expose this situation of this man still being around children (her’s and the community group)? And has she dug deep to determine whether this man has trespassed against her child? So many questions here. She is laughing. People love drama instead of solving the issue at hand.

[@jfloresdrums]

God? So Google is god?

[@maryjojouwstra3860]

I thought the same thing,,, she’s laughing????

[@vaska1999]

​@@jfloresdrums She was led by God to look at the list of registered sex offenders, where she recognized this man. But I suspect you understood that from get go.

[@alihall676]

As a social worker, she’s a mandated reporter. She has an obligation to report this.

[@ake1996]

Just an fyi. She is not a social worker. She said she has a social worker background which means she may just have a degree in social work, not that she’s licensed. The two are different

[@catwalkernyc]

Go away

[@bigchungus2462]

Gotta get Dads Against Predators on this one.

[@MooMoo69556]

Do it and stop talking

[@Vassle]

and this woman is a social worker... let that sink in

[@ChitchatwithApril]

A lot of injured little boys and girls that grow up and decide to be social workers or psychotherapists have developed poor boundaries. My heart goes out to the children. In my opinion, some of the best therapists are people who have been injured, but do their work as they grow and mature in the business. Hurt people can hurt people and healed people can heal people. If you want stats, recognize that first you have to have people who are willing to self report. You may need to do your own research. But if you’re in this business, like I have been for as long as I have been, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

[@ineedhoez]

Amen. Something like 90% of therapists are codependents.

[@dewilew2137]

@@ineedhoez can I get a link to the stats on that?

[@dewilew2137]

“A lot”? Can you post a citation for that allegation?

[@ChitchatwithApril]

@@dewilew2137. Please see my edited comment.

[@2Ryled]

So no one gives a crap if he might be abusing his own child??...

[@RS-ip8gw]

Thank you Dr John. Working in ped Psych ward, most of the sex offenders are friends and family. I overheard my coworkers that they will never allow sleepovers for their kids lol. Protect your kids and other kids. He made that choice, your daughter will find another friend

[@laurelbettinger899]

My dad is a sex offender and I always had friends ghosting me, or families that we were no longer allowed to hang out with (parents always blamed it on the other family!). I have struggles with abandonment fears because of it. When we discovered who my dad was 3 years ago, we removed my daughters and his teen daughters from the situation. He has the balls to consider it the fault of myself and my husband that he has no access to his granddaughters. Ick. 🤯🙅🏼‍♀️

[@lindap.p.1337]

Good for you. Protect your kids. I know you are in a terrible situation and I am so sorry.

[@gailfox6791]

The fact that this mother, social worker had to wonder what she should do...it worries me.

[@patriciareed559]

We found out that my sister's friend's dad had be accused of being a sex offender. We told her that her friend could come her but she was never to go there or even get in their car. It cased a riff between them but lo and behold...a few years later he got in trouble with a highschool again...his daughter and my sister went to highschool with her... so yeah zero regrets being up front with my sister and her friend.

[@BeaBelfastVideos]

I wonder if she really found this guy's face by chance on the offenders registry or she already had suspicions/heard rumours and looked his name up.

[@MonaMona-cn5zw]

I’m flabbergasted by this woman! My goodness. She’s only concerned about her daughter but is not thinking of anybody else to save face? Gosh!

[@thejakelegion]

Worst social worker ever.

[@meganelizabethmoon]

The fact that this mother is more concerned about this kid's feelings over the safety of her child and other children is just absolutely baffling. It shouldn't even be a question, you immediately blow the whistle.

[@MicaelaRiffs]

I had an uncle my mom didn't trust (for various different reasons) and she would not let any of us kids in a room alone with him with the door shut.... my mom was not a very protective mom, she grew up abused with her own tramas after that but she still had enough smarts to not let us around creepy as dudes when we were young

[@AdrianaWhitney]

I’m not even a social worker, I work with disabled children and I have to sign an ANE with an obligation to report this and she is SO clueless it’s scary!

[@Roosterboi21]

Halfway through the call after everything she still asks “So where do we let the kids play then.”

[@zaynsprmcy6421]

Father God please protect his child 🙏🏾

[@Ilovedachshunddogs]

How does a sex offender have custody of his child

[@Cashhhhew]

Because the mother is still in the home :/ it’s sick but if there is another guardian then he’s allowed to live under the same roof. But I’d bet anything they disregard the rules and he probably drives her alone to school etc. which is not allowed.

[@rebeccabamford5505]

This woman has a screw loose. You don’t have to be a social worker to know what the right thing to do is.

[@jaysmith6013]

I agree with everyone else here the caller needs to end this relationship and notify the community group asap. With that said, where does the background checking and googling start and stop these days? It’s a known fact that abusers are usually people closest to you within your own family. How can you truly protect your child these days from the world? I have a young daughter and there are lots of children in my extended family, i’m sad to say I’ve thought that I should not leave my child unattended with some of her own male cousins or aunts or uncles. Can I really google everyone she comes in contact with?

[@kristic4472]

only the ones who have been reported, caught, tried and sentenced are on the registrar list. There are thousands who aren't listed. Also not listed if they move out of state or country, since "it didn't happen there."

[@Thatperson2-u7u]

You can google a list for your town, where most people she interacts with probably live. And then specific names for any extra people you often see such as a relative from a away etc.

[@thembisaodendaal]

No you cant google everyone but you should educate your child about sex offenders they dont usually force themselves rather they groom these children so children must have boundaries with their bodies

[@BrandiO-ys4it]

She pissin him and me off. And to let it be known she a social worker...this should be grounds for firing she not even worried bout the kids. He was holding back so much rage with this lady.

[@TheShortykorte]

She's a social worker AND she's known this family for 3 years. How is she just now figuring out who this dad is??? As parents and community members, we have an obligation to know who the registered sex offenders are in our area. Ignorance is not an excuse for not knowing public information.

[@willieverusethis]

If that is the case, then all of the parents in the neighborhood are guilty. She is the only one who looked.

[@austincurtis3452]

Plot twist; she called in because the man she found out about was her husband. That’s why she’s struggling so hard to out this person to the community.

[@thembisaodendaal]

That's a thought because I could not understand what is the dilema

[@sharp52092]

Would he even be allowed to be around his own daughter?

[@cloudedcolour5329]

if it had been a situation of a 17 yr old girl/19 yr old guy thats one thing, but this is a HUGE red flag

[@26Bluegb]

Can we talk about how apologetic her language is from the start? "He was 22, he thought is was a 14 yo","It was a cop", "He was busted"- really sounded like "It's not like he attacked a 5 yo and he was framed." She is like the Chemical Dependency Counselor that gives a client money for "stuff". If she is a social worker she should be fired.

[@JohnThomas-lk8sz]

The fact this woman is a social worker is terrifying.

[@om617yota8]

Well done, Dr. D. You held your cool and guided her much better than I could have. My response would have been so much closer to WHY THE FORNICATE HAVE THE COPS NOT BEEN CALLED YET?

[@jessicajonsson4012]

OMG! I can not understand why she even called in! This is crystal clear!! Sound the alarm ASAP!

[@aliciadawn8026]

My grandmother worked for cps and called me not long after I moved out of my mom and stepfather’s house. She said “we all thought Bob was molesting you girls”. Bob is my stepfather. My aunt is nurse and is also a state mandator. So they had the ability to help us and didn’t.

[@vaska1999]

OMG! 😱

[@Kdeed100]

I am so sorry. That is painful.

[@marianemashkalo4182]

Sounds like she's a people pleaser to the point she feels uncomfortable cutting ties with that family, because it's not nice....

[@anaa03899]

Are you serious ???? This is why the system is so bad people are afraid to do the right thing 😳😳😳😳

[@jamesstewart8376]

My neighbor 5 blocks away is a sex offender, we’re moving.

[@lesaha4181]

Her laughing through this whole thing gives me chills. Can’t imagine how she as a social worker reacts to any challenging topics. Laughing it off is extremely unprofessional and - again- harrowing.

[@decembersgal]

I'm appalled on all levels. I had my boss who is a forensic voice analyzer listen and he said all factors point that she will not immediately resolve this problem and he determined that through her hesitancy and balking when beginning sentences, and avoidance techniques she used in her voice language. After listening to my boss, I too heard all the silent lies she told. Then we both thought, what about the family itself??? The mother should have thought twice before going back with her child with him or even having a child with him. It will not be long before the predator's child is at an age more desirous to him and then the real issues will begin. Caller should break ties immediately and report to authorities about him being involved in community groups with children. AMEN!!

[@dewilew2137]

“Forensic voice analyzer”. 🙄

[@MsMak03]

Bruh?? Because what the hell kinda profession is that

[@teenindustry]

I would allow the kid to play at mine without dad having access to my kid. She did nothing and needs a friend

[@willieverusethis]

Not only that, she needs a trusted adult in her life. People who would cut this child off just because of her father are cruel and heartless.

[@vaska1999]

I agree.

[@JoelWende]

She needed to call the probation office and the police immediately. It’s that simple.

[@Emy53]

This not just about her daughter...what about all the other children?

[@codis5722]

She could lose her job by not reporting this.