Day 39 - Seeking closure

[@deltoid9183]

Hey Ben. I just wanted to thank you I've been going through a rough time recently but hearing about your day has actually been helping me through it, It feels like I'm sat down listening to a friend talk about their day and that's really comforting for me. Best wishes! :>

[@bennnyoung]

Hey mate, really grateful for your comment. I'm sorry to hear your going through a tough time and I'm glad I'm able to be there for you in some indirect way. Wishing you all the best, take care!

[@uomochitarra]

hi ben, your italian buddy here! quick message: 1. i’m really appreciating hearing your thoughts about what you go through, it gives many points for reflection 2. i think that closure is a very personal perspective and you don’t need the other person to achieve it ( that’s what i understood over time but never got to do it myself properly, kind of hypocritical by me, but it is hard i guess haha ) anyway, best of luck with everything 🍀

[@bennnyoung]

Ciao amico, always great to hear from you! You're right about that closure being a personal thing. It's something that I know but don't quite understand (if that makes sense). You and I will probably have to stumble around in the dark until we finally find the light. All the best to you!

[@Bensaur]

Hi, Ben! I'm glad to hear that you got to spend some time with your family. I've got a younger brother, too - I hope he doesn't end up like me, haha. Are you familiar with that Charli XCX song - "girl, so confusing"? When you said 7:25 "awkward kind of phase thing," I immediately thought of it. In the song, Charli explains her frustration with her relationship with another singer, Lorde; how she wishes to be friends, but the awkward space that she feels between them prevents her from doing so. And then Lorde responds to her in the remix with her own verse. I don't know that you'll ever get that remix verse from this girl that's on your mind. It sounds like her action of ignoring you at the door & not making eye contact is a way of communicating that she is not interested. Sorry, mate. If this is the case, then I assure you, happiness/peace will come with space and time. At 10:08 you say you want to be objective, but there are factors clouding your vision. Could those factors be... feelings and emotions? Feelings tend to be a bit of a blind-spot for lawyer-types, who prefer logic and objectivity. Not just other people's feelings, but your own feelings, too. Anyways, good luck with your competition!! You'll do great!!

[@bennnyoung]

Always a pleasure to hear from you Ben! From our interactions, if your brother ends up even the tiniest bit like you, the world will be a far more wonderful place. You're right that I likely won't get that remix. Deep down I know it and I suppose it's just frustration that this almost imperceptible thing is holding me back. That's fine, we move. As for your last point about objectivity being clouded by emotions, your answer was so simple and obvious that I couldn't help but chuckle at my blindness. In my pursuit of logic, of course emotion is the antithesis. I'm sitting here now with a grin on my face laughing at myself. As per usual, thank you Ben. Wishing you well, take care!

[@TuffTuff-y2f]

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[@TuffTuff-y2f]

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[@TuffTuff-y2f]

John 3:16 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.