Should We Be Friends? Why Not All Friends Are Beneficial with Dr. Dharius Daniels | Full Episode

[@lorena92966]

“Stop extending grace to those I’m trying to discipline”. Awesome.

[@Blestmama7]

Stop extending grace to those I am trying to discipline! Wow great word!🙏🏽

[@koalalou68]

Yeah, that was a worrd!

[@luzortiz1462]

"You are not giving up on them, you are giving them up to me"....Do you know how much peace that Holy Spirit inspired phrase gave me? ✅👌

[@Jesus.Coffee.Planning]

This is great revelation. We are all on assignment in different locations with different people. May we discern who is our assignment.🙏🏼✝️

[@rumaabba8875]

But he never doin something to stop africanmerican racism and systemicracist (blockade roads , supports femalebody shamed & abortion on healthcare's forms//papers)

[@airplane800]

A big mistake people make is to think that people in the church are their friends. Most just use you when they need. Pastors also do the same, they just use you when they need but very few will show up if you need. We know people from church but very, very few we can call friends. There was a story in the news where I live showing that very few Christians during the pandemic got a call from a pastor or a friend from church. A few years ago, I was very involved in a church and volunteering in many areas. I had a problem on my knee and had to wait 6 days for the surgery and then after surgery I couldn't walk for 10 more days. One day I asked my non-Christian roommate if he could buy a hamburger for me on the way back from school. He said he would but then he asked: "Where is your church when you need the most". That day I figured out I didn't have friends in church, just people I knew and had activities together. I know a guy that became a Christian and was involved for 4 years on a church. He always offered his house for meetings, etc... He was transferred overseas and came back first time after 3 years. He said that people changed completely. No one came to visit him and very few talked to him in church. He called me to ask if that was normal in church and based on my own experience, I had to admit that happens with lots of people.

[@Wildlife_SA.]

This is not true at my church. My pastors are caring and kind to the flock. And they were there for me when I really needed prayers, help and support. Thank You Lord for sincere pastors. During the pandemic we were divided into groups and added to whatsapp groups. Our pastors were on all the groups and interacted with the congregants. South Africa🙏🇿🇦

[@airplane800]

@@Wildlife_SA. I am not saying that is always like that but in the US in general (not all), churches became businesses. There are many churches that are not like that but in general churches in US worship the god of marketing and all they want is to sell you something.

[@laurend.tamayo2186]

This was the case with the pastors at the church I used to go to in Hoffman Estates, IL., Life Changers Church.

[@yarid.1120]

@@Wildlife_SA. That is so beautiful ❤️

[@lavernehobgood357]

This is so sad that this is truth with the church... then we wonder why people are falling away from "church"..not necessarily the same as falling away from God. Just tired of the falseness in religion and the reality of the drama.

[@missypooh1109]

OMG...Before Pastor Dharius said it...I was thinking the same thing...Relational Intelligence for Teens...it's something in that!

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Its an amazing idea

[@nancydubuk1768]

I’ve been friends with my friend for 20 years. During that time, she has not been one to open up about her problems or struggles. There is no transparency. But, I have been transparent with her. Asking her to pray for me and with me. Revealing my struggles and sins and receiving her help and encouragement. When I asked her ( 10 years ago) why she doesn’t have me as her accountability partner or why she doesn’t share any struggles with me, she says she doesn’t struggle much but if she does, she goes to her sister ( who lives out of state). I was hurt because I know I am her best friend and I know she has few friends. I feel like she thinks of herself as very well put together and that she sees me as a “ project”. I want are,auto ship that goes both ways. I want to help her and pray for her just like she does for me. But, we can never get to that point. Now, it’s getting g too hard for me to continue in this unbalanced friendship. It’s almost like there is pride on her part that keeps her thinking that she is the one with the answers but she doesn’t think I have anything of depth to offer her..... other than me being fun for her and giving her a purpose in,Ive which is “counseling “ me. I am Very sad and very frustrated and think like “ if I am a good loving Christian” I will pursue this friendship and not give up on it..... I am still not sure if “ elimination” is needed here....it hurts me to even contemplate it. Please pray for me. I love Jesus and my friend. I want to do the right thing.

[@diplomatdiplomat2800]

No, you don't need prayer. Instead you have to go out there and make friends. This lady doesn't see you as a friend but you seem to think that she is your best friend. You need someone that sees you as an equal instead of a project. Work on your self-esteem and self-confidence. Have a lovely day♥️

[@nancydubuk1768]

Thank you.

[@shalomandrest]

SHE IS not YOUR FRIEND. GET RID OF HER AND RECEIVE THE TRUE FRIENDS GOD IS READY TO BLESS YOU WITH

[@shalomandrest]

@@diplomatdiplomat2800 EXACTLY MY POINT!

[@nancydubuk1768]

I’m listening.... and praying . Thank you!

[@L0VEisAmixtape]

17:06 loved that comment about how when we are on assignment, we are required to be patient, listen, and not make it about us if the person doesn't receive us well or if they reject us. Love that!

[@jankaniemand7856]

Thank you so very much - I needed this today as I am also one of those that want to save the world - no matter what pain it causes me. Thank you

[@desratt1]

I ended my friendship with who I called my best friend for over 30 years because I wanted to keep believing that she would love me the same way I loved her. Instead of having a conversation about how I felt, I ghosted her phone calls. She finally texted me and I decided to go ahead and talk to her. Only to be disappointed again because she still made the conversation about her, not about the issues of our friendship. I still love her but our season is up.

[@abeekuworldchanger380]

That was similar to a 'friend' I had. It's best to love those people from a distance. Funny enough, she has a boyfriend now so praise God that he's taking up her time now😂. But jokes aside, I decide to keep the friendship on Standby and at a distance. When conversations are draining you, then it's a sign to really get in prayer and ask God for clarity , provision, guidance and wisdom.

[@lenellehill2127]

Someone just did to me this same thing, clarity is very important in a relationship. When there is no clarity, the enemy can come and go as he pleases. Clarity exposes him.

[@darleenmcbride8900]

This is so important. My friend since elementary school, over 50 years ago, just broke my heart into a million pieces. I'll beware of who I call "friend".

[@AffirmaChans]

Praying for you and your heart. God will help you pick up the pieces 🥰

[@pamelamubuta]

I love JTT, and I first saw Dr. Dharius Daniels when he gave the powerful sermon on Job at Gateway Church at the beginning of the year. I was blown away. Joni, please continue bringing us truth through JTT and Ministry Now. I love the guests, I love the topics, I love the ladies around the table, I love the mentions of Marcus. God bless and more grace to you Joni and your family. Such great revelation and insights that come forth from the Table. Shalom!

[@stepone6159]

Thank you so much for having Dharius on your program. God used him to help me understand something I was not aware of.

[@rking674]

One of my favorite guests so far.🙌🏻

[@ledonnathompson-cheek9540]

I had to recently let go of a so-called friendship of over 18+ years! It hurts, but God is faithful and I know that He will heal my heart. I'm excited about this next new season in my life! Glory to God... Thank you Lord Jesus 🙌

[@rosekimbeng9365]

We live in a broken world 🌎 full of good and bad Friends. May God help us to make good choices. Thanks for sharing God bless you all ❤️

[@abeekuworldchanger380]

Yes, and thats why the Bible is our lifeline, and messages like these are good supplementary ways to grow. You hear messages like these that change your life, and guide you. How broken and sinful our world is, but how God redeems time too.

[@eaziibreezii]

Be authentic with everyone but transparent with friends. Quit extending grace to those I'm trying to discipline. Great people are busy. Mentorship requires readiness and intentionality.

[@abeekuworldchanger380]

And time. I'm being mentored from a pastor at my church, so I take my time with him very seriously as they're busy and productive people. So good.

[@josephjude857]

I feel so blessed by watching your program Joni and I want to keep God in my daily walk for I need Him every moment of each day. May God keep blessing you and your family.

[@TRUE2AL]

So many Gems from a Biblical and Relational Aspect...I can't wait to listen to the Book.

[@faithholifield1178]

I remember God said the same thing to me concerning friends of mine!!!

[@tpfl19]

I read this book a year ago and I wish I would have read it and knew this information in high school bc it would have saved me a lot of headaches and heart aches!!!

[@michellecarr3517]

I needed this. Friendship is one of my main concerns that I take to the Lord in prayer.

[@tamikagrissom2306]

This is on point for a lot of people in my life. Thank God for this being on my list.

[@AffirmaChans]

Dr. D. Always on 📌

[@createdtoworship2552]

Exactly what I needed to hear.

[@deloisswain5160]

So poweful, you have some friends you always feel better when you talk to them , that let's me know I am safe!!

[@marshat6513]

Good to see you all. I watch everyday. Thank you for your courage!

[@lisad5540]

Love this Daystar program. So much revelation, instruction, encouragement, wisdom and on and on and on…..God bless you all! Such a blessing to so many people.

[@Beyondme7700]

I'm just now watching table talk at 2am it's about Job though so guess it's not posted yet...but I too had a job like experience. I also had watched Pastor Darius preaching after Rachel spoke about him...I then understood what I went through and why I'm still in my right mind...and here I had to edit...."I heard of you by ears but now I see you".Thanks to daystar when I was and still sometimes grieve it's this channel that I listen to fall asleep to and wake up to...for this I know that Joni and family will be ok.

[@misguidedpearls7456]

My pastor🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@ckks0nyoutube]

This was sooooo goooood, and to think I almost didn’t watch

[@lyimoej7198]

I cut off all of my poison negative friends who inspired me to the failures & shortcomings, the ones who saw no good in me & inspired me of nothing except of evil.

[@brideofchrist9577]

Bible says bad companies corrupt good characters...and Righteous chose their friends carefully.

[@allthingsnu4673]

This was a really good discussion. I have the book and it has so much wisdom in it. Thanks to Joni, Dharius and the other ladies for covering this topic. It is very needed.

[@abeekuworldchanger380]

Yes. I was even rereading the elimination chapter of the book briefly. It's so relevant to what to do with certain friendships.

[@AyikosMedley]

Incredible practical wisdom

[@claudiadiaz6713]

Great word!! Thanks

[@audreythomas6548]

Thank you!!

[@sylviaaustin2814]

I understand the assignment!!!!!!

[@TheSunshinefee]

Thank you. beautiful conversation

[@keen2953]

This was everything! Thank you so much Dr Dharius and ladies for this conversation....so much confirmation and clarity here 💯

[@donnamclendon2567]

Thank you I really needed this right on time Thank you Holy Spirit 💗

[@ese789]

Thank you Dr. Daniels and JTT for sharing this topic. 🥰👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@dejajust6286]

Relational Intelligence for Teens ✨👑

[@paulaclark7989]

What a great and so very necessary discussion. Thank you so much 🥰 love y'all at Daystar.

[@e.n.g2034]

I just clicked for Dr. Daniels

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Me too🤭🤭😁😁😁

[@vilmabock478]

🌷Thank you Jony for blessing us so much with great programs!

[@andreaclarke3560]

I so needed this..God bless you

[@carolynjohnson1279]

This helped me today

[@sophiaa594]

So many leaders expect something from the people they serve, such as friendship. It's complicated because those who are being served often blur the lines as well.

[@robertbyrd5460]

Amen I needed this 🙏🏾❤️

[@IntroducingHolliNacole]

“Stop extending grace to those who I am trying to discipline” - John Paul Jackson (RIP 🕊)

[@andreaclarke3560]

My third time listening,this is so good for me...Thank you pastor D

[@JRice-be1my]

This is such a great book!!! And very helpful . Thank you Dr. Darius Daniels 🙏🏽God bless you 😘” Relational Intelligence “ Awesome Book 👏🏽

[@abeekuworldchanger380]

Honestly thought. I need to reread it again in all honesty because it's so necessary with the season of life in currently in.

[@Sebahtubman]

This was amazing, God bless.

[@stumpscanbud2891]

Thank you. This blessed my soul.

[@cheejokonya8403]

Really good!

[@cinoto5214]

I will get his book!

[@Katmandu29]

Relational Intelligence. Great topic. 👍 💖

[@A_J___]

A close friend ended our friendship earlier this year when he realized the extent of which I was attracted to him. He is same-sex attracted as well and wrote a book about leaving the lifestyle. It's been so hard on me, but I've been learning A LOT since then, and I genuinely do hope that someday we can be friends again after I've gained some more healing so I won't think and feel in that way again for him or anyone else. I hope it's in God's plan for us to reunite, but this time actually enjoying closeness and intimacy the way God intended and NOT the inordinate affection I experienced.

[@crissy7able]

🙏

[@agnesn3209]

He walked away because he likes you and didn't wantt you hurt

[@abeekuworldchanger380]

Sorry to hear. But sometimes, letting go is healing. You'd be surprised how some people will try to come back into your life. One person I used to be friends with for 4+ years decided to remove me from her life. Earlier last year or so, she tried to add me on FB and I prayed, heard from the Lord of what to do, and denied the request. Those moments cause for evaluation in our lives too.

[@parkerchilds9688]

That was awesome thank you family!

[@donnajoyner9781]

Truth Pastor Dharius! Please read this book...it will change your life!🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@chelseascott8488]

Such a Wonderful interview. So many great reminders for me from reading that Awesome Book. The book changed my Life in Many Many Many ways. God Bless Each of you ❤️🥰🙏🏽

[@syphwarrior]

EXCELLENT!

[@lovindatJoan]

Waoooooow!!! Stop extending grace to those he is trying to discipline 😱🤯🤯🤯

[@elloradiehl]

Confirmation message

[@lindaoclinaria8134]

In myself?.wait.for God's will.Amen!

[@samuelnjenga7912]

Great conversation, ❤️👍💯

[@meredithbrown944]

Iron does sharpen iron..so people do need each other...but in what context? I enjoyed this show answering these questions

[@dashelledisna6239]

Friendship breakups suck so bad. At 27 I thought I had alll my friends. Instead,, I lost some and I dont like making new friends😩I know.community is needed, So help Me God

[@ladykathrynperry9094]

I’m middle-aged now and I have learned by my life experience that some friends I have to let go of when the assignment is finished. Also I wanna teach you something, I’m going to suggest that you may outgrow some friends, it might be mentally spiritually or physically outgrow for instance if they move away. I have not stayed friends with anyone from high school or college because we lost common ground after that particular type of experience. Now as an older woman more mature and more wise I am more selective with my inner circle.

[@redzin8818]

I think this season in your life is where G-d Intends to strengthen your relationship with Him and grow you!

[@dashelledisna6239]

@@redzin8818 and thats exaclty what has been happening. These people who i love dearly forever were here for.a season. Ive met wonderful.people this pasr year. Im grateful

[@abeekuworldchanger380]

It's hard,but necessary I'd say. I get it though because it's familiar, and feels like we are starting over, but some people's seasons are up in our lives. Whether we release people or people do the releasing, we can be assured that God is always good no matter what. You never know with life. In one case it was interesting. Someone I knew that was very toxic tried to apply for a job and my manager and I were doing the hiring. We did the interview with her and she was completely embarrassed and shocked. Kept it professional if course, but I told my manager who she was as a person and the things she's done, and to be careful, and we didn't hire her. So it's those little devious actions people do to others that can prevent them from destiny. It's as little as how someone trests you that can go against them. Jesus is Lord.

[@danettelindsay9606]

Thank You 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🙌🙌

[@danettelindsay9606]

@@stepstoknowinggod My humble reply ( I’m fine )

[@kingdomcome188]

Life advice.

[@niecysongz89]

If you don’t have a friend you can’t tell the truth with you don’t have a friend.

[@mariahpowell]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@autumnscrivens5597]

I’m wrestling w calling because I don’t want to be poor…. That’s so good

[@kathygarvey8167]

Joni have you written a book ?

[@angelslovelybraiders2366]

Please write it Dr Darius.... “relationship intelligence for teens”

[@ohsoyouknowjada5048]

My last friend group didn’t work out so well, we started a business together but I deleted all the content and started my own business… look into sometime :) #praise #happytolovegod

[@paulfitzgerald1225]

This was very good 👍🏾

[@vernautsey1327]

There is such a thing as unrealistic expectations. Just as we should not expect a husband to do/be to us what only Jesus can be; we should not expect those in the church to be this either. Remember what Jesus said the various churches in the book of revelation. Every Christian is not on the same level--we don't become Christ-like overnight. I am now walking in a place of maturity. We are to realize that the rest of the body is being worked on as we are. When you begin to allow the fruit of the Spirit to be worked out in you--you will come into much understanding and maturity

[@abeekuworldchanger380]

True and I agree, but I think that's how we can also know who to walk with. Everyone is being worked on for sure. I think too, it's also a matter that I've realized that we can love on everyone, but not everyone has to be your friend, and be okay with that. What's important is to observe and ask God to send us people who he wants us to spend time with . The church is a place we gsher, but as I've learned, I don't need to try to fit myself into friendships rather let God guide me to the right people he has for me. It makes life so much easier and saves you time.

[@dorisagbetsise565]

If you don't have a friend you can't tell the truth to you do not have a friend

[@sueupham2519]

But where is the very for that about grace?

[@sueupham2519]

Verse?

[@2bethankful48]

🙏❤️🔥🤗

[@cheowhite38]

👏🏽👏🏽🔥

[@darleenmcbride8900]

I feel like it's pure jealousy and we don't even know why.

[@kathygarvey8167]

You all are so awesome , I will be anyones friend whom need my friendship but your guess is right there are friends and just friends so to speak , my holy friends whom I can talk to anything about I feel those are my faithful friends my other friends whom do not know the lord like I feel I do and still learning , God Bless you all , Jesus is as funny Lord , I have laugh like a child with him , also met him through a mediations that turned into about a 5/6 years old skipping holding Jesus hand than met his mother Mary amazing meditation that was when I was in a chapel with other woman going through the same meditation but never asked about how there meditation went ! I was told through Jesus to use my meditation as a testimony what is your thought about this ? Thank you again for your guess and all at the table

[@VeronicaJones58]

♥️♥️♥️🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁♥️♥️♥️

[@sharonbrockell6304]

Mm

[@wardashimon-australia33]

The Gospel: Plain and Simple “But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.” - 2 Corithians 11:3 Ask someone today if they are saved and you will most likely hear responses like these: “I have accepted Jesus into my heart.” Or “I have made him Lord of my life.” “I’ve been baptized.” “I said a prayer.” Sounds all good and churchy don’t it; but it is difficult to de-termine whether or not a person actually knows the gospel that saves them. These use￾less phrases don’t describe a thing about what the gospel is and has left a devastating effect of people not knowing what it is that they are saved from nor how they are saved; which leaves a more serious effect of people ques￾tioning their salvation. Let’s not muddy the simplicity of salva￾tion that is in Christ with vague church sounding phrases that do not communicate anything. But rather present God’s word with clarity and assuredness. So here is the gospel: plain and simple. Sin was passed upon all men by one man Adam, and death is a consequence of this sin (Rom 5:12). Mankind has an eternal destiny of condemnation and wrath - Hell - because of this sin (Rom 6:23). No matter what good works one might do we are still found sinners in the sight of our Creator God. And all un￾righteousness and those who follow get in￾dignation and wrath. We cannot be found righteous for by God’s law we are found sin￾ners (Rom 3:19-20). If we have broken even one law we are found guilty. It is for this reason of not being able to create our own righteousness and being born in a sinful flesh that we need a savior (Titus 3:5). Christ is that Savior, God manifested in the flesh, sinless, died in our place on a cross 2000 years ago. Taking upon him the wrath and judgement that was intended for us sin￾ners. And it is through his bloodshed, burial, and resurrection on our behalf that we are able to have peace with God and forgiveness of our sins (1 Cor 15:1-4, Col 3:14). This good news is unto all but only those that believe in it are made righteous in Christ (Romans 3:22). It is then after we have heard this good news of Christ’s righteousness available to us freely, that we are sealed with the Holy Spirit and we are now part of Christ’s body the church (Eph 1:13) There is nothing that we need to do, no good works that are required, and no bad works that can separate us from our new po￾sition in Christ (Romans 8:35-39). Faith and belief in this information from God’s word is the gospel. The gospel is not accepting Jesus into your heart. The gospel is not making him lord of your life, it is not saying a prayer and it is not being baptized with water. So next time someone asks you if you are saved. Give them the clear assured answer Yes And let me tell you why Find more free resources at: www.graceambassadors.com