De-Clutter Your Home In 20 Minutes.

[@terrisavellefoy]

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[@brendacollier3862]

This Is so true! Especially feeling depressed and stressed when your home is cluttered and disorganized!

[@RobinSanchez]

I feel like a slob...to much clutter here, time to start clearing it. Pray for me, I'm a "put it off till tomorrow" kinda girl, I hate the thought.

[@joyce1784]

At least you are being honest! 😊 I hope it has gone well for you!

[@Gritz97]

Thanks i started to clean my closet and found $10 bucks in a pair of jeans

[@MendedAndWholeLife]

Leamon Stubbs best feeling ever!! Right!! 😍❤️❤️❤️

[@aav_n]

,,Take care of what you've got. Finish what you start. And the I'll bless you with better.,,

[@MJKloves]

Terri, in 20 minutes I cleaned my dresser mirror, dust, the cable box dvd player, swipe down part of my dresser and put away the movies thanks for the motivation!

[@jaspreetmatharu2573]

thankssssssssssd a lot as I m changing myself today onwards LOVE FROM INDIA.

[@Jboutte123]

In 20 minutes I have de-cluttered parts of my entertainment center that has been cluttered for YEARS!!! I can actually see the shelf and not just paper and dust. I never thought it would be this easy. I just set my timer for 20 minutes and got to work. It wasn't overwhelming like trying to dedicate a day to clean something and it never gets done. Thank you for sharing this great challenge. I'm going to try to keep it up for at least 7 days to start then go from there.

[@JessicaLee.3]

I had probably 10-12 baskets of clean laundry piled on my living room sofa. (My version of your moms guest bed!) I decided that's where I needed to start. I only got 2 baskets done in 20 minutes but that is 2 less than I had to do 20 minutes ago. I will continue doing this until they are all done and then start working on another cluttered area. Thanks for such an inspiring video!

[@Novalis777]

Ohhh the same here with my living room sofa :(,,, God helps !

[@shaunmcinnis1960]

This is true. I believe a untidy house is an untidy mind.

[@starrshine5976]

I call this the "20 minute clutter workout". I first watched this video about a week ago. I started the 20 minute clutter clean, starting in my bedroom. I've done it everyday, minimum 20 minutes, sometimes longer, but in the past 6 days, I can see more carpet in my room than papers, and binders, knick knacks, etc. My bedroom is coming along, and I feel better in the space. Think of it like this, 20 mins a day, after 3 days, you've done 1 hour worth of cleaning and organizing. Try the 10 minute rule, look at clock, start a task, if after 10 minutes, your still struggling, then stop, but if you find yourself, getting into the groove, then go for another 10 minutes. You'll be blown away by how much you can accomplish in 20 minutes!

[@ILOVE2FeelGOOD]

I've been so inspired by your videos. I've accomplished so much since watching them! My kitchen is sparkly clean ... sorted out the toolbox ... gave away a PC I no longer use to an unemployed girl ... I'm feeling so much vitality. I have boxed stuff up to give to charity .... the clothes I'd put aside last year to sell on Ebay .. we'll that never happened, so I've bagged those up to donate too. I have so much energy! Thank you so much, I'm so grateful for finding you and your generosity of Spirit ♡♡♡

[@nataliek3360]

This was my first video I've ever watched from your channel. I have to say God has convicted my heart about how I'm keeping my home and my car. I'd totally freak out if my boss wanted a ride across town in my car, (which is a cute red Kia Soul) on the outside, but inside is 3 trips out of state, 2 trips to a vet, 8 drive thu lunches, and the odor remains of someone trying to quit smoking. (( YUCK )) and I'm going to the 5 min car wash today on my way home!! Thank you. I don't know you, never watched any of your videos but this one, and yet, I know this is where God led me to for a reason. (And my clothes are on the guest bed too). * Just really feeling guilty and blessed at the same time right now *

[@livlane3227]

Natalie K í feel like all her videos speak to me too

[@gwenfaison8070]

I'm glad I came across your channel. I'm going to use this technique starting today!! Thanks for sharing....

[@miriampearson]

Thank you! I'd never seen a God centred de-clutter video before! It's really helped me to see peace about the fact I take care of my home because It does save time to get on with what God has in store for us!

[@kaysong4015]

Thank you for sharing the story about your mother. "Finish your laundry." I'm going to start and finish my laundry now.

[@ILOVE2FeelGOOD]

My next step is to get on my hands and knees and clean the floors. I'm also going to give my car the full treatment. I love your mother! "Finish the Laundry" ... I have so many projects I started and didn't finish. Now I'm making room for success! May you be blessed with more love and joy than you've ever experienced before! I thank you for being the face and voice for divine inspiration to flow ♡♡♡

[@Sheryl777]

I really believe this is true...and I know that if things are in order and clean that I automatically feel better...& if the space is cluttered I feel worse and more anxious.

[@DeltaDawn05]

WOW!!! How blessed am I that GOD knows exactly what I need to hear, and when I need to hear it, and HE DELIVERS!?! I was so blessed to listen to this video!! GOD spoke to me so strong in my spirit that the emotions of pure joy and relief came streaming down my face!! When ypu started talking about how you grew up with the way your mom did things, I though Man, that's me!! I know I have so much to do to get my house in order, but Praises be to GOD for helping me through it all!! I know I can do it!! (Philip 4:13) I've already started, I just gotta keep going!! It's time for a turn-around in my life!! Thank you for this video!! I REALLY needed to hear this right now!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! 😁😂

[@michellekreier3102]

I normally love your videos and all the examples you use, however I disagree with the pastor who judges his potential leaders by their home or car. Perhaps they foster animals for the local shelter and yes, maybe there is animal hair around...Perhaps his wife has a tough illness that keeps her from keeping up on the housework. Judging by sight without knowing the entire story is judging and probably NOT someone I would want to work for anyway.

[@Autumn_Forest_]

Michelle Kreier I could not agree more!!!

[@Autumn_Forest_]

But everyone has that time or two when they can't get everything done perfectly and just pray that no one knocks on the door and wants to come inside! Judging people isn't very Christian anyway.

[@michellekreier3102]

Michele W do you have dogs or a debilitating illness??

[@kimberleerivera7062]

I tend to agree with you Michelle. This is judging out of proportion, a silly way to run an organization. I know - because I used to be that way - judging a book by it's cover! I had no idea I was judging and being self- righteous! I was raised in an immaculate, well kept and organized home (thanks mom), and there were four children and a single fantastic mom that GOD chose for us!!! I had never realized just how clean my home was until I started getting old enough to go to the houses of friends. I was shocked that everybody didn't live in a clean home like mine! Then I really became self- righteous when I was to spend a night at a friends house - I thought - I will help them out...I will clean their house for them, HA! I spent my time cleaning their dishes and floors and would show/tell them ---- this is what or how you should do this or that - yikes!! I didn't have many friends, and I didn't know why!? Thankfully I married a man who was the complete opposite of me and he never told me anything, but I learned sooo much from him just by watching him and his family and how they lived. They didn't waste time being immaculate, but they also never missed a day of work, and they were never late! If the boss saw their house - they would not get the job - but that would have been a loss for that boss, because these people have integrity, are trustworthy, loyal, and they seemed to know where the important things were at all times!!!

[@kimberleerivera7062]

+Kimberlee Rivera, Sorry I forgot to use your last name - Michelle Kreier.

[@littlehummingbird1015]

very useful and inspirational! Can't wait to turn on my timer to 20 minutes and GO!!!

[@jnordman86]

+Lynn Maust good idea

[@dahlia42k12]

I love this video, I think it is so true. You inspire me!

[@caramoonlynn]

I think, we think God doesn't have time to help us with our laundry, but He does! The things that are important to us are important to the Lord. I subscribed

[@donnahogue2146]

Absolutely this is true. I am still a work in progress but am passing this truth onto my children. I was not raised with organizational skills being taught but I have learned from others how to treat my home and myself. Thank you for this encouragement!

[@trand2509]

I honestly wasn't looking for this video today but I know that I got here for a reason. Thank you for sharing this valuable lesson.

[@britnimay1]

I just subscribed! My room is so bad. I'm about to start your challenge right now. As a mom of 7 and homeschooling (my room is where we keep all the homeschool materials) stuff can get overwhelming really fast!! I'm excited and what you read was very eye opening. My husband isn't home much during the week except to eat and sleep so I would hate for a boss to come judge our home based on MY neglect. Okay well...here I go!! Thank you

[@rozjeffery1]

Great tips to get on and finish the laundry and do 20 mins. of tidying.

[@AmishWebmaster]

My mom would make us feel "wasteful" if we threw away something away, mainly because someone "might need it." I've been telling myself that I am being resourceful- not wasteful. I need to kick myself in the rear, and get in gear.

[@MendedAndWholeLife]

Politically Incorrect same here! Come from poverty mentality culture and was thought to hold on to things for fear of lack of provision ... wow! It’s a mindset! It’s liberating to live clutter free!

[@CharlotteFairchild]

I was on the phone and I threw away a pile of paper on my desk while I was on the phone.

[@1961maya]

+Charlotte Fairchild LOL I undestand!

[@CharlotteFairchild]

I was listening to "De-Clutter your home in 20 minutes." I don't like my house. I should be beautiful. It isn't.

[@FaithNassali]

I love you Terri. Your ministry has blessed me.

[@TheRickie41]

great idea. I started with one piece of furniture. Long ago. Ever since, I went through my home several times, always with the question: Did I use or need this item during the last three months? (except season depending items). It helped a lot to declutter. Even now I'm not yet done, but on my way. Christmas decoration, at this time of the year, is my new goal. Everything I don't use this season finds new, and hopefully, happy owners.

[@jessicastrong6006]

My Clean Luandry is still in the clean laundry bag. Not A good habit. Thanks for all that advice

[@marshafisch]

Terri - I am an organized women! Still, I needed to hear your words that this applies to your car also. Amen! I know from experience your words ring true. 75% of the time I can abide by them. However, I still get overwhelmed with the time shortage to "get the whole house cleaned". So I have started breaking it down and marking it on a calendar. Yes, and have entertained in the last 30 days to break it down in even smaller time frames. Then, here you show up in my life with a 20-minute time frame challenge. God is good!!!!! Thank you. What I appreciate the most is you bringing God into to picture. Yes, even in, the smallest areas of our lives. I agree with another writer... God does care about all areas of our lives. I needed this reminder today!

[@Brad_n_Leslie2007]

Hi there! Thanks for the encouragement. I just found you tonight. I had already started cleaning out our hall closet. I ran to Walmart to get totes and space bags. I've given my two youngest bathes and nursed my baby, watched Shark Tank and two of your videos. I'm encouraged to finish my project I started. I have a mind to organize, but often fail because I've not started early enough and/or haven't finished. well I'm here to tell you that is changing. my next goal is to have a yard sale and get my basement immaculate, so my husband can finish it! we have goals now we're gonna tackle them! I want more of Jesus and what he has for our family! I want to be trusted with more. Thanks again! Jesus bless you Terri.

[@katelynnlozano9658]

hello Terri. I just heard you speak this last weekend at our Amway conference SUMMIT 2016 in ILLINOIS, very inspiring. I bought your pep talk bundle. AMAZING. I am what they call a organized person in life, although, the successful mindset you have makes me more driven to get what I can done in a short time frame! Thank you so much, god bless you!

[@beauideal13]

Thank you so much. This video gave me a huge AHA moment. I never realised how not completing simple chores at home has a huge meaning on the whole. I shall strive to complete every task that I have and take care of what I have.

[@DonnaHarris3578]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I truly feel God led me to your video! I have been working on clearing clutter out of my house already,but still have a little ways to go. I am slowly improving my house house keeping. Though I am home all day now due to being on disability I feel like I don't accomplish half of what I did when I was working. It's time to get busy. I like a clean orderly home and I always feel better when it's in good shape!

[@arosencrantz18]

Hi Donna, I know what you mean, I'm permanently disabled myself. When you're working you're on a schedule so you always plan your time out but when every day is free day after day week after week is free you tend to put things off especially when you're not feeling well. By giving yourself a schedule, it really helps and you can always " take a sick day" if you need to just like you did when you were working but you need to notice how many sick days you're taking just like you did when you were working and break up your work into smaller amounts. my mother used to say that I must have done two major things in two days which is why I wound up in bed. so you have to pace yourself to whatever your needs are.

[@Fegga1955]

Donna Harris ditto.me too.........

[@zooey572]

I am going to clean my desk at work today!

[@AndSoBeneathItAll]

Still a favorite video for me Terri. I was shown several different standards of living growing up. But I never saw anyone happily embrace it. Now I love to maintain my own standard of living & will be incorporating this principle in my new business. Love you & your Family. Etta McCray

[@chanzent8]

Wow so true

[@VirginiaOkie]

Great suggestion and very interesting about boss checking out future employee.

[@ArleneAdkinsZell]

These podcasts are very helpful! I'm an organized person, but I am almost always alone, it has become cluttered because 'it doesn't matter' so I have been using your podcasts to motivate me. Feels so much better in here.

[@jaspreetmatharu2573]

Ihave 2 bathrooms n I m giving today 20 mins per bathroom double shift.I m 50years old but I can do it AMEN.........I M AN INDIAN JUST SUBBED U.

[@bright7626]

Thanks a lot.

[@lindadwumah1188]

Thanks very very much Terri for the motivation. I have chosen to start cleaning and tidying up. 20 minutes will work for me and thank you for sharing ; I'll finish the laundry and dishes when I start them.... I'm so blessed by watching your video. Thanks again and stay blessed.

[@bestyourhealthtoday355]

I been doing this and is so fun it makes me move faster. Is fun when I start my timer I start to do everything so fast it makes me so tired but I love it. Thanks for the advice

[@pollytikal9195]

Thank you Terri. For years, I''ve lived by that 20 minute pick up rule..I can't begin tell you how countless of times it has saved me face from unexpected visits from friends and strangers. Well recently, I've fallen slack in chores and self care and a friend texted she was in the neighborhood and wanted to visit. I couldn't face her so I didn't respond to her text. I am convicted by the examples you gave Terri, i.e. your mom, the leader's visits to potential employees homes, and the fact that God is a God of order and he blesses those who give careful thought to their ways (sorry, paraphrasing).

[@ifrit21st]

Thanks for this :)

[@GezenAdam]

We watch your videos every day:)

[@Holly22416]

I am a new fan and you have given me the encouragement to get organized. Can you please tell me the name of the Rich Renner book that you quoted about his making the surprise visit. I want to read it and share it with my husband. Thank you.

[@Holly22416]

Thank you so much! God Bless.

[@DanTheManIOM]

I woke up one morning, house is in TOTAL CHAOS (long story), so the voice said, stop, sit here, whatever you can reach with your arm, start in that space. Eventually, we got to my son's room, It took like a day. But later on, he said, sure dad I will hang up my hoodies upstairs. Why ? Because the house is now functional Dad.

[@bsalubrious5773]

Nice tips Terri! I'd say get a big box, write give away or sell on it and put as much stuff in the box as you can in 20 minutes. If the 20 minutes timer is still going and you're done putting stuff in the box then clean the floor in that room thoroughly until the timer goes off. I believe you need a clean floor to walk on with out tripping, carrying food around on your feet or slipping.

[@theliberatedlife6838]

Beautiful! You are soooo soft in nature and relate-able.... Bravo Video! Blessings to you!

[@cojut]

Well, I had hope to achieve a bit more in 20 minutes than i actually did. Well this is what I did. The worst place is the bedroom. As i hang clothes to dry there on bad days. So there are clothes all over. In addition we had a roof window installed some time ago and as a consequence there was dust still around. So in 20 minutes I removed a broken suitcase from the top of the wardrobe and placed it into junk corner where I will collect bigger broken things for the council to collect. I wiped down my husbands guitar cases. Changed the bottom sheet of the bed and made it. Wiped the mirror and put away some of the clothes. but to be fair the guitars never get cleaned. So better start somewhere than nowhere.

[@ShiaGirl18]

Thank you for this video! I cleaned out my office last week and I feel awesome! I always make time to clean and I absolutely enjoy it; it makes me feel lighter.

[@elastingirl]

totally agree, i have always felt that getting rid of things/finishing activities is better, does not take space in my head, exactly what you said Terri! amazing that i am not alone in what i intuitivelly felt already in teenage years God Bless

[@PrayingKingdom]

I really love how you broke this down to my undertanding. Now I understand declutter your home is a way to get you to live better and think better. I am so use to doing this now until I am jus organzie thank you Terri for sharing

[@uduakumana2829]

i love u terri God bless u

[@mitsulee7716]

You Savelle's are such a blessing to many people everywhere! You share everyday practical insight into God's Word and the very application of it with simplicity for many to receive and how to achieve. Your Ministry put's the I CAN into mouth's that normally would say I CAN'T. You're a blessing to watch, you are an encourager, a motivator, you "help" reengage, ignite dreams and visions in a person to run their race strong, with endurance, bravery, courage and having fun in the process...

[@eileenfb1948]

Brilliant! I must go and tidy up. 20 minutes is easy to do. Great video.

[@SharonJosephcontentwriter]

[@LeahBrooksJeremiahGardens]

That was so inspirational and godly! Thank you~ I subscribed :)

[@gleelea6319]

"If a cluttered desk a sign of a cluttered mind, if what, then, an empty desk a sign of?" Albert Einstein. Btw, I'll probably spend a total of five years of my life watching KZbin videos like this.

[@OralHazell]

I am getting ready to clean up now. Thank you!

[@vivekviswam6560]

Keep up your good works.. Brilliant!! I'm watching your videos regularly and have planned to add to my daily routine as self learning sessions!

[@crystalmedina1222]

Everything you said I very very true. I have always lived by these beliefs. Finally somebody truly understands me! !!!! :D

[@luckyandblessed]

What a great video! Thank you!

[@AvonwithDianaC]

wow great points thanks for sharing

[@happyperson6022]

Love the advice 💖

[@sanders2378]

I was listening to this searching for paper fasteners ... oh the irony! Thank you Terri for sharing your wisdom with us, God bless!

[@TTScraps]

I'm inspired to give this a whirl! thank you!!! :)

[@stephanieroberts2587]

9 million hours per day??? lol

[@fridachica71]

That was great. I have the same guest room problem you described your mom having. Thank you for sharing that story.

[@527spirit]

Thank you! This helped me.

[@salmachi9836]

I tried your method Terri and my living room is more clean now , I'm gonna do the challenge tomorrow also until it becomes perfectly clean 😍😍

[@downbntout]

This vid was God speaking to me through you, thank you for your service

[@mariaseecharan8748]

awesome thank you...

[@belindapeeples3140]

So so true

[@maryssa2505]

I acomplish all the clutter under the stairs. And in less tha a week is the very same clutter, why. God must be telling us something. But what.....Always useless things are left there.

[@brightpage1020]

Love the reminder to focus on the 20 minutes we do have! Thanks, Terri! I have ADHD and organization is my biggest challenge every day. With 3 kids under 5 years old my biggest fear is imparting a chaotic environment for them to learn in. No good. Focusing on even a 5 minute pickup of each room before the kids go to bed is a big help, too, and shows them that we value cleanliness and order - that it’s worth working for.!

[@dougandcandacebishop7259]

Wow, Terri! I'm so glad I came across this post. I'm a believer and really want to be a good steward of what God has blessed me with and your thoughts have challenged and motivated me to action as well as encouraged me that this is possible. Thanks so much for sharing your Mom's experience too. God bless you, and I'll be back with my "20-minute testimony" within 24 hours. - Candace B.

[@kyminity20]

very true.. love this... I learned in my parents home.. I have to always do dishes every night, other wise I get really out of order.. I have to make sure tables are cleaned off.. dusting is a BIG thing I don't care about the dining table, but I do try as hard as I can to keep things descent.. god does change lives when organized, and clean..

[@crystalmedina1222]

Everything you said I very very true. I have always lived by these beliefs. Finally somebody truly understands me! !!!! :D

[@crystalmedina1222]

Everything you said I very very true. I have always lived by these beliefs. Finally somebody truly understands me! !!!! :D

[@jimspicks5525]

I like this simple strategy to move forward on clutter.

[@Fegga1955]

tyvm...............:)

[@annemason2477]

Beautifully done.

[@catinahawkins9925]

That is so True 💫Thank you Terri 🙏

[@sailesh5796]

thank u terri

[@JessicaGuilbeau]

Terri. I can without a doubt tell you that GOD is using you in MY LIFE! I have 7 kids, 5 toddlers. My home has hindered my walk with God, my parenting, my business, my marriage. I've never been organized, I ordered your book, God is on the move and I am now under attack, please keep me in your prayers

[@archilleswilson6905]

i chanced upon something called compulsive hoarding and it turns out i suffer from some of it. I still have books on Microsoft from 2003 which i am HOPING to read SOMEDAY. really afraid to give them out let alone throw em away. they still new and like vintage. that's just books. on my laptop i have tones of youtube videos i haven't deleted cos i'm afraid i'll wake up one day find the internet gone forever. knowing i'm not alone is still no consolation. i'm going to clean up and re-arrange. then i might consider de-cluttering. 20 mins at a time. thank you so much.

[@shaktishah7947]

Well said @terrisavellefoy Thanks for making such nice and too the point videos. I really appreciate it! I pray to God for your progress.

[@JustHereToHear]

Hey Terri, just finished my first session of 20 mins(a little more than 20 actually). It involved disposing of empty tablet blister packets that were cluttering the dining table, designating the medicines that are useable to a mini shelf instead of scattered across the dining table, keeping away books that I won't be using for a few months again on the dining table, folding a set of clean clothes from my bed and keeping them in my cupboard(they were on my bed for over a week now). Throwing out old soda cans. Emptying a packet of things that were brought home from my closest friends wedding which I was avoiding dealing with to "preserve" the memory at the cost of one sofa's seating space. Tucked a hardly ever used mat away that was sitting on another single seater sofa. This feels better. I hope to report later that most of the mess is gone. It's a lot of work but with 20 mins and inspiration from you Terri, and all things being possible in Christ, may it be done. :) For the record, I live in a messy environment of my own doing, but I know where everything is. My super organized aunt actually challenged me to a "find it" challenge and I could actually say stuff like "put your hand in that pile of clothes, in that corner, you'll find it" etc. Must be an exceptional talent lol. But I still would appreciate a neat looking place. You mentioned in another video the experience of apologising whenever you invite people home. That echoed well with me.

[@malathiramesh7859]

.Cleaning is not an exclusive mother's job. When you have teenagers at home.. Every effort to keep your home clean is challenged. Very stressful.. But Yes, this video encourages me to pursue the task:)

[@JustHereToHear]

Terri, came back to tell you that I cleaned up some clutter in the hall in my house, and im slowly closing in on the rest of my place. It's been clutter free for about a month now! My cousin(just a teen) came home last week and said "wow your house is so neat"! I don't think I've ever been complimented on having a neat living space my whole life so far. God put you in my path, thank you and thank God! Love you 😙

[@77777aol]

'Cleanliness is next to godliness.' 'The devil is in the detail.' The essence of spirituality : 'Simplify, simplify, simplify !'

[@melbow1927]

I don't agree with you at all! In our careers we are extremely successful and as parents we are extremely successful raising our 3 kids that are all honor students and part time missionaries with our church. Our house, however, is in constant disarray (that means disorganized). We have friends and family gatherings often, and they don't mind our mess at all because we don't judge them and they don't judge us. We just love others!!

[@marshafisch]

My car is one area I needed to work on. Have a bad habit of puttig my trash (empty coke bottles and such) in the back floor board. After seeing your video I decided to put a small trash can in the back floor board! So now it is nice and tidey. Bag can be removed and thrown out with ease. Thank you!

[@IMChrysalis]

Terri, the title of your video interested me because of a personal experience: I deal with a lot of physical ailments that make doing anything, including housework, a real challenge. One of my doctors sent me to take classes from a place called "the Mind/Body Institute" and they taught me a technique called PACING. All the class members were told to find or purchase a timer and use it. We all were to choose an activity and set the timer for 2 minutes. When the timer went off, we were to stop and rest for twice the time, then set the timer for another 2 minutes and contine with the activity or move to something else. Then once a week we changed it up in 2 minute intervals, until we reached 10 minutes, when we stopped doubling the break times, but we continued to increase the amount of time on the timer until we hit a level that caused us issues (pain and fatigue too severe). At that point, we subtracted 2 minutes and stayed with that level. If at any time we felt like it had gotten too easy and we wanted to bump it up, we could do it in 2 minute intervals again... I had to have surgery so I needed to go back to square one for a while, but I got to 10 minutes and that's where I'm still working now. You are absolutely right! It always amazes me just how much a person can accomplish in a small amount of time!

[@crystalmedina1222]

Everything you said I very very true. I have always lived by these beliefs. Finally somebody truly understands me! !!!! :D

[@leslieannehill6880]

When I was a single mother in graduate school I often had a choice--do the dishes or read a bedtime story to my daughter. So the dishes waited until the next day sometimes. Did that make me a bad mother? After the bedtime story, I had much work to do to be ready for the next day. Sometimes the dishes had to wait while I read chapters, wrote papers, prepared course work for my students. Did those dirty dishes make me a bad student? Often we have to make choices based on our time, our energy and our circumstances and not beat ourselves up. I like things clean and orderly, but my house is not perfect and to turn the tables on this boss who is that judgemental--if you judge my work by what my house looks like when I have 5 kids and a husband, I wouldn't want to work for him!