Dealing with Criticism

[@User-zzyyxxvv]

I wish I learned this when I was young. I still have a hard time with criticism: especially if it’s harsh and rude. I take it personal. Thanks for this video. I’ll try the no complaining for one day.

[@wisdom-for-life]

Same! Wish I learned this stuff when i was wayyy younger. Thanks for your words Craig.

[@forein.k6391]

I pray and hope everyone commenting can over come this and push for their goals, I don’t care for likes just wanna spread positivity

[@letthesunshine8170]

No matter what you do, people will criticise, so do what makes you happy. 🌸🙇‍♀️

[@thilagavathim9300]

I am very sensitive. Thank you for this video. I know it will take a great deal of strength and time to over come it...I'll try my best though.😍Thank you!!!

[@user-nl9ds7cm4b]

same here i have hard time taking criticism and when someone criticise me i loose confidence and take it seriously but im sure someday we will overcome it 💯✌

[@thilagavathim9300]

@@user-nl9ds7cm4b we shall🤗

[@user-nl9ds7cm4b]

@@thilagavathim9300 yeahh 👌

[@catluver1947]

you got this bud i believe in uuuu

[@krisreaddesc366]

Is it bad for me to have bad thoughts and get scared and lose motivation when someone gives harsh criticism?

[@notofficialdani8250]

Yesterday, some idiot tried to criticise me. I tried my best and this guy just wouldn't stop complaining. I then just ignored him completely. Thank you for the video as well! It really, really helped me out. Ignoring is also an option, which helped me a lot but I didn't do it properly.

[@cheatbluevii9123]

Yep. Even if ignoring is optional when dealing with critique, would you listem?

[@notofficialdani8250]

@@cheatbluevii9123 Depends. There are good & bad critiques. E.g. If my teacher would criticise me about everything, I know, that he would try and help me. Bad ones like getting online bullied or etc., I just don't take it personally at all.

[@cheatbluevii9123]

@@notofficialdani8250 Man, just take it the bad criticism, say "ok" or laugh at it and move on. You don't have to waste your time with online bullies.

[@notofficialdani8250]

@@cheatbluevii9123 Might give it a try in the future. Thanks.

[@ZamaDraws]

Same, someone insulted one of my animations, I blocked, reported, and removed their comments. I didn’t get what they meant in their comment, so they called me a prick. It wasn’t even constructive.

[@Arya-su3jv]

When a co worker said something negative and critical to me which was a personal attack and unhelpful criticism, I responded with "Oh it's nice to see you too J....." and walked away. She was at a loss for further words .

[@wisdom-for-life]

Haha. Get them with kindness. I like it

[@cheatbluevii9123]

Take the criticism and move on and/or improve on it.

[@humanearthling4661]

You cited one of my favorite quotes! Aristotle's "There is only one way to avoid criticism - do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing." it's so true! This video you created is great and very timely .

[@prophanic]

As someone who wants to make content this is something I struggle with a lot. It can be hard to hear or read rude comments and remarks discrediting stuff you actually put effort into, but the idea of separating actual feedback with negative words meant to hurt is helpful but easier said than done. I hope I can grow mentally to be able to take words like that and not let them bother me personally.

[@wisdom-for-life]

You can do it man! The comments … you just learn that some people are crazy. Lol and you ignore it.

[@RinnieButterfly]

Sir, you wanna know something interesting? I am someone with low self-esteem who never feels worthy with myself. I also wanted to be a content creator like you. But my shortcomings often get the better of me. Yet, you know what i do? When i spend myself watching youtube from one channel to another, new youtuber always pops up from algorithm. And because i like watching variety of genres, everytime i met beginner youtuber with low view count, i leave a comment, saying; 'Thank you for the hardwork! I really appreciate and enjoy your video! I hope your channel will grow with time and that you won't be discouraged by destructive criticism 🙌' Ironic isn't it? I want to be like you guys but never had the courage to even try 😂😂 Still, because i know what it feels like to have someone put you down for every little you do, i feel the need to say something. Because if i don't, i will feel the channels slowly dying because of rude comments and verbal bullying 😂 Sometimes when i go to beginners channel, 70% are rude comment. When no one else bother to give positive talk, i decided to be one. Cause ik, you are all TRYING YOUR BEST TO IMPROVE. May your channel thrive further in the future. Sincerely, rin 😂😂

[@NFS_Gamer]

Tons of people nowadays don't have the slightest clue of what criticism is, let alone practice it. It's one of the reasons why this world remains problematic.

[@fantasy6245]

I realize that I really do not complain much out loud if not at all. It is mostly those around me like family, and I am the one who just listens. I do complain to myself because I know the truth is that what I think really only matters to me. If someone is criticizing without being constructive, as hard as this is, I believe I should have that same mindset, that it does not matter, they are complaining more than assisting.

[@tangchankien7134]

Yesterday, i tried to dabate with other writers about my idea. Of course i prepared to handle criticisms but everyone was just being a d*ck. I tried to make them explain why was my idea so bad and their responses were all making fun of me, then i was a little aggressive by mocking their bad sense of humour. Gladly, i got myself calm and ignored them, never felt so much better.

[@shadowwsk3507]

My parent keep criticising me for not behaving the way they had expected me to be. Even though im clear of who i am, i am still always confused and forgotten who i am. I dont blame them, this is what parents do. I just wanna do things my own way.

[@SydMountaineer]

That is one of the most difficult situations, if parents have criticized a child for a long time, it causes the child to think they truly are a bad person. Parents project a lot, they project what they feel bad about themselves onto their child, and that way, they don't have to face and own their own negative actions, they blame their kids for something they've done themselves and for what they hate about themselves. It's very important for the child to know that they are not what their parents wrongly believe.

[@Adeyum64]

Same here. It's f*cking annoying and even if I solve those problems, there's always something new to complain about. They even contradict themselves every time! But then again, I am always the one at fault... always 🥴 no matter what I do, my fault

[@firuzmajid4780]

As someone who's starting to draw human anatomy, this video was really helpful.

[@wisdom-for-life]

Check out video scribe Firuz.

[@SydMountaineer]

The quotes shown in this video are excellent! And what the narrator said about how to model your response, or how you would handle criticism based on someone you admire, is EXCELLENT ADVICE! It's very tempting to respond to criticism, to explain to the person that you are not what they've assigned you to be, (especially when it's coming from someone in your family or someone you have to deal with everyday like your boss), but it does not help - at best, most people will say, "Yeah, okay, BUT you should /shouldn't do ____, you this, you, that - It does not register with them, because they are projecting, and need you to be the person they want you to be, in their own mind. That's where the quote about "none of my business" comes in helpful, both to the receiver/victim, and the blamer. It is especially hurtful when a family member treats you normally when things are going good in life, until something happens in your life, then they wrongly blame you for, like when you get sick, lose a job, etc, instead if being supportive, they blame & criticize, even though they know better, that you're not that type of person, that you've never displayed the behavior they're accusing you of. That's when it's very tough, because you don't want them to think that way about you, so you have to deal with the fact that no matter what you do or say, they will always criticize & blame. One important thing to remember, is boundaries, even when life is going well, and the blamer/criticizer has nothing bad to say about you, and is treating you normally, it's good to make boundaries during that time, too, so that they have consequences. Don't allow them to get away with saying that you're a terrible person one week, then they want to hang out with you the next - if you're such a terrible person, then why are they treating you normally, just because there is nothing current for them to criticize?

[@wisdom-for-life]

Avmedic, great advice!! Thanks for adding that piece of info, very helpful. :)

[@sarahssocialnotes575]

Really impressive specially for ppl who have to face a big group

[@juliaevans9521]

Even Jesus got criticised throughout his life .... and he was perfect !!

[@kerwinpogi092]

I've been experiencing criticism for many years, and this is an excellent idea to deal with it.

[@logicandlaughs]

Would have loved to have shared this with my students... you have a lot of helpful points and the illustrations are great. But the phrase, "just being a dick" made it unusable for school purposes. That's my constructive criticism... use professional/school appropriate language and you could end up with a ton more views from us teachers. :)

[@rebeccagallagher5959]

I second this!

[@cynthiacordon751]

Yes! Thank you for pointing that out. I would have loved to share this too with our students

[@mahendirang815]

I am really depressed by people around me criticising me . After 3 days of control my anger and I started feeling good . And your video really helped me to come out of it.

[@rblxtutorials1881]

Bruh professional language is just annoying and uses like a billion big words and very little small

[@rblxtutorials1881]

i doubt ur a teacher with that pfp

[@jessicatran9139]

I always felt on the defensive side, i tried to find meaning behind their words for they are not the kind and concise but hurtful constructive behavior policing every actions movement i can make. Some i need to cool off or after full steamed off, noticing how much i made to admit it was my fault. The thing i got to do is pinpoint the good and the bad criticisms from the complainers - observe and decide accordingly. This is the challenge in itself that keeps tripping on me, and i hate it and internalized it if it has gotten worse. Responsibility and criticisms can buds heads with one another, the challenges i faced are mainly my ego victim-mindset. I dislike how i most of the time jump to a conclusion without seeing the whole picture or stepping into their shoes/point of view, beliefs, values, backstory, and all the meantime not embraced their problems/stress/flaws as my own. It's a working process. I think the complainers are the best teachers to understanding yourself and finding out-of-the-box perspective of each criticism giver can offer. They're like a smothers and makes you don't care of situations stirred up by them, and at the same time still loves them, just because you can. Choices to improve. Now all I'd need to do is: take it into action, initiated steps, to follow thru my advice(s) and plans, that is another youtube videos I'm searching up in life lesson plan.

[@ninaschaefer9848]

I really like this video. The visual aids and quotes are fun and interesting. Thanks so much!!

[@artwork_wishes2638]

Yeah

[@MartyEliBowerMusic]

this is so helpful, I'm going to try some of the exercises starting now!

[@persephonelily8294]

I do criticize a lot and I hate it. 😭 I like this is helpful. Cute voice!

[@rblxtutorials1881]

Best way to avoid criticism is to A. ignore it B. be nothing say nothing do nothing C: put critics on blast (best option!)

[@Influence417]

Criticism ruins things for me. Like songs, movies, shows, anything.

[@wisdom-for-life]

Critics are cancer.. that's why. They add nothing of value to a creation. They only seek to tear things down because of their opinion.. Screw their opinion is my opinion.. lol

[@meow1718]

i hope this helps. im very sensitive and bottle up my emotions, i cry myself to sleep at night. im not used to criticism or anything like that in any way, if i argue with someone i start having a panic attack

[@wisdom-for-life]

I'm pretty sensitive too. I think meditation, contemplation, and learning concepts like the ones in the video help sometimes (not all the time). Explore those feelings that you're having. Contemplate why you may be having them and what is triggering them. Why does criticism affect you so much? Ask yourself that. It's a tough question to ask yourself, and tough to be honest with yourself, but keep asking - why am I feeling this way. Don't beat yourself up. Go easy on yourself. forgive yourself for having these feelings. Also explore the feelings as they arise. What exactly does a panic attack feel like to you? A tightening in the chest, a rapid heart rate, a feeling of doom, spinning, feeling overwhelmed and confused, etc. explore those and focus on the sensation that they create inside of you. Do not fight the feelings, feel them fully, and accept them. I understand that is very very hard to do especially at first, but keep trying. It's the resistance to these feelings that creates havoc on your mental state. Learning to accept these feelings (or at least reduce your resistance to them) is the first step. The resistance makes the feelings twice as bad (resistance + the actual feeling). My 2 cents. If you like where I'm going with this, please check out my Power of Now summary video. Very good stuff from Eckhart Tolle. I wish you the best of luck Meow.

[@simplygirl5448]

I hate myself sometimes i am very sensitive and easy to hurt especially if people criticize me😪

[@wisdom-for-life]

It's ok Simply Girl, everyone is hurt to a certain degree by other people's criticisms. That is completely normal. Just recognize when it happens and be patient and aware of it. See it for what it is and examine why you feel that way. When you bring your awareness to the way you are feeling, it helps to move past those feelings. Do not try to fight the feelings. Acknowledge them, and accept them. This alone brings a lot of peace. When you fight and resist your feelings, it causes more frustration and self hatred. If you have time and are interested in this line of thinking, please check out The Power of Now (by Eckhart Tolle) summary on my channel. This helped me to push through these feelings.

[@SportsFan838]

​@@wisdom-for-life I usally accept criticism pretty well from teachers. I just can't stand negative criticism and which people may judge certain actions of mine even if I'm not hurting anyone. It can be clothes,posture,personality whatever it just ticks me off everytime without fail. If you give me positive feedback like the kind of feedback teachers give you I would be willing to accept it and change it

[@lullabiesbylo]

I was introduced to your videos by the Man’s Search for Meaning analysis! Please keep making more. Love your insight and illustrations!

[@PatisaNombakuseITAuditMentor]

I love this, have a no complaining 7day! I will practice this

[@tonyopara4758]

I am struggling with taking criticism and I usually get defensive because I feel like I’m seen as dumb

[@wisdom-for-life]

Hey Tony, I feel you man! I get it. Felt that way for a long time. Instead of letting their opinions bother you so much, focus on what your values are, what your passions are and make that the bedrock you live by. If that truly becomes the foundation of who you are, the the next time someone criticizes you, it won’t have such an impact because you’re living from another place - a place where you put your values and your own opinion above the opinions of others. I have a couple free books I can e mail to you if you would like. Let me know

[@wisdom-for-life]

The books will help with the “feel like they see me as dumb” part too. You need to build up some of that self esteem brother. No shame, we all feel inadequate at times. No one knows it all. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Have compassion for yourself

[@bgsincorporated9614]

I don't care what people says about me if it's criticism.that comes to their mind on what I do or what I'm doing it has nothing to do with me still doing the things that I'm good at or what I love to do..it's just an ugly thing..being judged and critized by others pepe show how low it is to have even know what that person has been through to get there and to have been critcized is not helping..just imagine if they were in your shoes and you were 8n theirs how they'd feel it wouldn't be a good thing to come by so word of advice never judge criticize or do anything to that person to have being returned the favor tenfold..all we have to do is accept and respect everyone and also be ing positive all at the same time to make the world a better place

[@wisdom-for-life]

BOOOOM!!!! Nailed it.

[@kentheengineer592]

I Literally Can't Deal with Critism of anykind

[@williamsmith7221]

This video was incredible, great job Wisdom for Life, very helpful!

[@egg8494]

Thing is,when people find something to criticize on me,they'll just secretly complain it to others instead of directly saying it in front of me.i mean,why wouldn't they just tell me my mistakes so i know how to improve?i can handle constructive criticism if they're honest!

[@wisdom-for-life]

I don’t know why they wouldn’t just tell you. So, just Ignore em. More is said about the person criticizing vs the person being criticized. If they say it behind your back, don’t worry about it.

[@ktoppert99]

Actually harsh criticism means also doing better it doesn’t make you a failure it also helps you improve in life it makes you much more discipline like each and every day you go to work and you say I can do this

[@RNCPH-SEJI]

Thank you sir. Very helpful

[@gabriellecasenne3177]

I’ve recently started commenting under videos. I remember I’ve always been really scared to do it. Today someone called my opinion crazy and I took it too personally. I’m really grateful for this video as it explains the problem of criticism very well. So thank you a lot 😊❤️

[@lukeclark3506]

I often get cristcism from people like don’t overthink

[@jtvlogs6711]

Great insight

[@wisdom-for-life]

Thanks!

[@sriumadevisrinivasan7228]

Nice way of connecting things 👌

[@AdamSalaah]

12 ungrateful complainers disliked this video

[@ktoppert99]

Friends or family it’s good criticism it doesn’t make you a bad person it makes you more knowledgeable

[@enjoywithnature123]

Jesus loves you.. Jesus coming soon..No one can escape from jundgement day of God..No one can escape from jundgement day of God.. Jesus loves you.. Jesus loves you abundantly 💯

[@tiffanybeck3636]

Thank you for this video! It’s very informative

[@beachblu3s272]

I wrote a story and someone criticized me for writing inaccurately on what is a sensitive topic. I sincerely never meant to cause such negative feelings and the story was purely for fun just to post on archive of our own. I suppose, having watched this video, I should have researched the topic I wrote about more, but it’s too late to change the story now. However I will consider respecting the nuances of controversial issues more so that I can more accurately depict them in the future.

[@beachblu3s272]

It did however affect me in a way that I can’t stop thinking about it. I feel utterly helpless and it kind of ruined the fun of making the story. Isn’t fanfiction supposed to be exaggerated in some ways? I don’t know, it really just hurt reading such a long and harsh criticism.

[@wisdom-for-life]

Don’t worry about the critics too much. Just follow your heart as best you can. If you didn’t intend harm, then you have nothing to feel shameful or guilty about. A lot of critics place their own problems (project) on other people and their work.

[@ristyanyesf7327]

the thruth of why I don't like my sister that much is because she was unpleasant toward me, she used to cristicized me in a harsh way, she evantually left home and changed for the better but not until she get rejected by her friend in canada

[@ehidk796]

I feel like this is so helpfull in the eyes of the many situations it happens where criticism is seen or used, but the one that I saw be the most helpful in was how it should be in the animation industry, people are just complete assholes to animators and storywritters nowadays for the smallest of mistakes in their shows and I can genuinely tell it gets to the animators and it affects them and thats when I feel criticism should just pause for a sec because of the way people are taking it and using it, but you tell critics anything nowadays and they will either just ignore you or tell you you're soft and dont allow anyone an entitlement to their own opinion, which is just not true, I love constructive criticism, but just because its constructive doesnt mean people should take it as justification to proceed to yelling in people faces and calling them all kinds of things for it, just because they disagree with how some things happened in a show or movie. Idk, just my opinion you know😕 something thats just been on my mind for a while.

[@kingsleyakpeji5447]

Good stuff. By the way, did you make the art yourself? They are really cool!!!

[@wisdom-for-life]

Thanks! Haha. No I can’t draw. I use a software to do the drawings

[@freshnick6684]

This was very helpful Unfortunately, most of the people in this planet cannot take criticism in any shape or form

[@rblxtutorials1881]

I take criticism, but I won’t change from it! because i have a anti-nag shield

[@IamStarstar02]

Btw great video! More videos please!!

[@rizzasoriano7023]

Hi sir I found this very interesting and helpful. I wanna ask what if your seniors keeps endorsing you to his/her co seniors in a negative manner and feedback. I am so exhausted to be their word of their mouth. Thanks

[@shaunjimbangan1166]

This is a really helpful video that alo of people should really watch.

[@paranxietyoia587]

Thanks that's why i want to hear

[@sherececocco]

Excellent video. Very clear information. I really appreciate your energy. I have the four agreements on my wall.

[@ShaylaRolle]

This is such a good video, simple and practical

[@ChidambaramVelayudham]

Great one! You nailed it geniously!

[@blackyellow3442]

Damn. Im starting to think im not human.. trying to understand life yeez

[@jenuiyne6919]

I can be a weirdo at times and I receive harsh criticism.

[@yoyoqasba897]

I'm grateful for this video

[@user-qn2dh6ss7e]

Is the sandwich method a suitable approach for delivering constructive criticism?

[@wisdom-for-life]

I believe it is. Maybe not all will agree.

[@ramonfarr]

1:43 Thankyou so much

[@Light-cy1gp]

I've subscribed 😁🤲😁😁😁😁😁👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏thank u so much for so much wisdom !

[@wisdom-for-life]

Thanks for watching! :)

[@vuyovuyo1921]

Very powerful 👏, keep that up

[@Ms3queen]

What if it’s constructive criticism, but with rude wording? Like if you do something dumb at work, and your boss is upset, and you understand why she’s upset, but she starts laying into you with things like, “I need someone who can think!” and, “I need someone who knows what’s going on!” How do you deal with that without letting it cut you down?

[@wisdom-for-life]

Hey 4queen, I would consider constructive criticism with a rude tone to be the opposite of constructive... It is understandable for some employers/managers to get upset about performance, but it's still no excuse to disrespect or talk down to employees. They should be coming at you with an attitude of cooperation, giving support, asking how they can help you become better in your job, and so on. Their job as a leader/manager is to lift you up and help you become better and more efficient at your job. So, if they are talking to you rudely, I would ask to have a one on one discussion, maybe like a performance review. You could bring up how you would like to be addressed on performance issues in a more structured and constructive way... And if you go to a manager with this request (with a calm, respectful attitude), they will see that you care about your job and that you want to improve (a win-win).

[@Kedebons]

and our parents criticize us, for doing nothing...

[@m.k.h.2718]

Jesus was also criticized!

[@pradeepkumarm944]

If my actions are criticised, then, it is like, I am criticised because I identify myself with my actions. Is it not? Why did you say otherwise?

[@MontManii]

Ik I can’t take criticism I get offended fast and yes ima go off on you even if you are trying to help me I just don’t like it and never will

[@CianaCorto]

These are well made. How do you make your videos? It looks pretty cool. Is it some kind of program?

[@ktoppert99]

And sometimes it makes you try harder

[@gyaneshwaribharti9577]

Thank you!

[@eggxecution]

good advice

[@stephenkirby1455]

This is a 'repeatworthy' videoclip...Well Done.

[@seafoodpizza]

Really great tips, I feel I need to screenshot your pictures and create a poster to remind me!... I just didn't like the Gandhi reference though.

[@eddiebaby22]

As of this second 36 people disliked this video. All I can say is great video and screw them 👍

[@h.e.c.ugrunt2162]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but this seems to imply the old "be yourself" thing.

[@vanajaraveen224]

Great enjoyed it

[@pradeepkumarm944]

What you think of me is none of my business!! Wrong! Because what you think of me might be reflecting a truth about me or a hidden aspect about me of which I am not aware.

[@lmUndefeated]

No i'll be aggressive and violent the next second, this will get me in trouble but i can't take sh*t from anyone...

[@wisdom-for-life]

Username checks out

[@freeminecraft8534]

nice

[@WillyJunior]

Great tips, great video, didn't like the music.

[@decibalduke]

So Zedd just reacted on a track of mine on his live stream, what he said to me was constructive criticism and the ones in the chat were being dicks. Somebody in the chat said "How do even making make this kind of shit and think they made something"

[@anarghyasumanth8590]

Chinese Government: What's that?

[@MovieEnforcer]

Easy Way: Report and Block Them.

[@cheatbluevii9123]

What? Can't take criticism? Take and move on. Criticism is just criticism end of the day. You can either improve by their ideas or turn away from it. Do you.

[@jakeriviera6152]

@@cheatbluevii9123 That's what they're doing. Turning away from it by blocking them. The point is not to force anyone to take criticism, it's to tell them to not care about it and ignore it.

[@davidjackson7241]

Pretty good it helped thanks 👍

[@wisdom-for-life]

Thanks David

[@ivonne6217]

Thak you !!

[@ScaredyShromGal]

Good idea of criticism for non-KZbinrs.

[@michaelmcgee8543]

By what definition of a negative thought? Some personal complaints are legitimate cause it might be a concern of a serious life problem. So most of your stuff is based on that 70's t.m. which treats adults like babies. That is not rational.

[@terrencemilton5088]

You get criticism still dont them it's just part of life.

[@wscmnkmht2635]

If the person has a sense of boundaries and manners and is just trying to educate me I’d take it personally but if he’s just being a rude entitled dick ignore ignore ignore.

[@susanetchu5888]

Great! Helpful! But, use of "bad" words makes it not easily usable by all e.g., students in a classroom.

[@wisdom-for-life]

Yea, sorry about that. Must be all those years in the military. Lol. It’s second nature, but I’m working to improve that in future videos.

[@hyberkonawa272]

They way I see criticism these days from people are more likely with anger and always negative comments and complains about everything... like a riot or protest. For example: I like the new remake of the Matrix (which it was okay... like it still need to improve more) but people never stops making so much scadals and complains about everything they see... like if they were picky or something... which makes them look like snowflakes.

[@md.yasinkhan984]

Didn't help much tbh

[@wisdom-for-life]

Yea, it’s not for everyone. Maybe ask why the criticism bothers you? Contemplate it for some time.

[@barryb.benson7628]

Your mom