How To Handle Negative Feedback From Your Manager or Colleagues

How to Handle Negative Feedback From Your Manager or Colleagues at Work. Negative feedback from your boss, have you ever received negative feedback from your manager? Negative feedback or criticism from your colleagues or your boss can be quite challenging to handle. Learning to handle it is a must for your professional and personal development, especially when it's constructive, like in your performance review and evaluation. Research shows that people who are better at handling negative feedback are more successful than those who can’t handle it. Everyone will eventually be given negative feedback in some form or another. Regardless of the nature of the feedback, the way you receive it will make a huge difference. These are my 5 tips to make sure you react to criticism in a professional way:
1. Don’t Get Defensive. During a feedback conversation you might be feeling defensive, which is normal but don’t show it. This will come across immature and unprofessional. It is in your best interest to control it as much as you can.Try to suspend judgment for the moment. Learning how your boss / superior views you is an opportunity for a career growth.
2. Get more information to make things clear. It can come as a surprise to learn that people don’t see us the way we see ourselves. Avoid the temptation to talk to your boss immediately after receiving the negative feedback. Once you’ve had the opportunity to clear your head, think about the main points your boss mentioned. Do they make sense? Maybe you should go back and revisit this unexpected feedback with your boss?
3. Don’t Dwell on Negative Feedback. If it points to flaw which makes you self-conscious, you are probably going to feel bad about it and that’s completely normal. Allow yourself some time to work through these feelings and let them go. Remember that you are not your job! And your professional performance doesn’t change your value as a human being. Don’t get engaged in self-destructive thoughts
4. Show initiative and come up with an improvement plan. The best thing you can do to move forward is to come up with a plan on how to fix the problem. Take initiative and show you care about improving. Schedule a follow-up meeting to address the plan and to analyze how you has your progress been so far. Treat negative feedback as an opportunity to bond with your manager. A positive feedback might wait for you in your next performance review.
5. Learn from the feedback. Ask yourself: What have I learned about myself? What can I do differently from now on? The learning process can be about the feedback, about how you dealt with the feedback or both. Every negative feedback which has been constructive made me learn something new. It would be so much worse if your boss noticed you were doing bad work and wouldn’t say a word. If you are successful in accepting the feedback and recognizing what it’s worth, you will be much more productive in life.
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[@myemmotion]

What has been your experience in dealing with negative feedback? What did you think of the video?

[@albertom7679]

I receive it constantly lol

[@myemmotion]

@@albertom7679 Haha, that's being honest for you!

[@sofiay5470]

What if the negative impact was given by purpose from the manager to make you feel bad?

[@myemmotion]

@@sofiay5470 Then it's extremely important is that you show no feelings or emotions to them. Keep it professional, even if they might not be. The feedback and interactions should be factual, based on clear facts and not on feelings. If your boss is being passive-aggressive then this person is toxic and you need to get out of there as soon as you can!

[@wheneveryoudogoodyoureceiv6819]

@@sofiay5470 thats what I have received from my supervisor. Latest feedback, told me my colleagues complained i always late during shift changes. Then I have asked all my colleagues in team and said, he is lair because no one complained to him.

[@mariahg4561]

I understand that negative feedback is necessary for employees to grow & learn. Seems like some days the supervisor is only pointing out negative feedback while overlooking the positive. No balance.

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@myemmotion]

I completely agree with you. Which is why these tips are given for employees with a healthy working relationships with their managers. I made a few videos on how to handle toxic management and the approach is really different when your boss constantly micromanages and belittles.

[@soundsspace3739]

This part and it can really make someone. Feel mentally drained

[@teegee228]

Really helpful...especially the line about "your performance has nothing to do with your value as a human being."

[@myemmotion]

Thank you so much for the feedback! I am really glad you noticed that phrase, sometimes we get dragged down by negative feedback at work and we completely forget that it doesn't change who we are as a human being.

[@teegee228]

@@myemmotion doesn't feel good at all!

[@myemmotion]

@@teegee228 Take the part of the feedback which you choose to work on and leave the rest. You'll do great, I am sure!

[@forza223bowe5]

I don’t mind constructive criticism, and would rather know I am doing something wrong. However, if it’s all negative and putting you down I don’t like that and makes you feel worthless

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@matthewsmith2787]

Negative feedback is good, but it can drain you if it’s constantly happening

[@myemmotion]

Of course! Constant negative feedback should ring the alarm, because things are clearly not working out well. Occasional negative constructive feedback helps us grow!

[@Hossam_1993]

I received enough criticism until finally I decided to quit my job, I did not quit yet, but I am planning to soon but I am scouting for new better jobs first. The only advantage of excessive criticisms is that it makes you review and reevaluate your whole job as a concept, not your performance but your job itself can contain a lot of flaws but you did not notice them because you were too comfortable to see them. Life is hard and tricky.

[@myemmotion]

You are absolutely right. If you decided to leave, this isn't due to a flaw related to your performance, it is due to your job being a place you don't belong to. The sooner you realize it, the better.

[@myemmotion]

In this video I was referring to dealing with feedback which is constructive. The feedback which isn't constructive, and which is given you by someone who clearly doesn't want it to be helpful, should be taken completely differently. Is your boss that is giving you hard times?

[@Hossam_1993]

EMMOTION by Marat My Boss is supportive but I am working with five consultants in a clinic and they are not happy about my performance and some of them want to transfer me to another section. I am scouting for ways to escape my job to another, do you agree?

[@myemmotion]

@@Hossam_1993 Having a boss who is supportive is actually a huge plus at any role. How long have you been working there for? Are you happy with the job itself? Do you think these consultants are right about your performance? If you feel that they are right and that you might need to work harder in certain areas or to learn something new, etc.; then escaping to another job is not a solution. Some colleagues can be negative to newbies at work due to many reasons, these issues are usually temporary and tend to fade away. If the job itself is not making you happy then that is another story!

[@Hossam_1993]

EMMOTION by Marat These consultants are kinda right since I am easily distracted, but some of the flaws they pointed at were overrated. Like when they said those staff who arrived after me are far better than me without comparison!! I could not correlate it with reality since two of them were learning from me. The fact that they are taking bad impression is a red flag to me since impressions are hard to change. In addition, in my job I dont feel like a decision maker, instead a decision follower. I only follow orders and policies of the superiors which means there is no creativity in what I do. I want a job that gives me meaningful presence, I feel like a slave. By the way do you do Skype session? I am interested in talking to you.

[@UnknownFilipino]

I've been working for 14 years and I have received my first negative yearly performance feedback. Hence why I landed here. Will follow these tips, thank you.

[@communicationstation2687]

Needed this today, thank you!

[@albertpd4994]

I like turning negative feedback to positive part

[@myemmotion]

Thanks a lot! I am glad to hear that!

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@lucyslivingroom5087]

Straight to the point and so useful thank you for this content Marat

[@myemmotion]

You are very welcome!

[@amysimmons805]

You are so good at explaining and pointing out what we should do THANK YOU

[@myemmotion]

Thank you very much. I am glad you found it useful :)

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@apun_korg]

Thanks! Very well explained Today i needed this.

[@MamaLily2022]

Nice Tips, thanks for sharing

[@nitinpatil7682]

Nicely explained, really helpful to change mindset after receiving negative feedback. Thank you so much.

[@myemmotion]

Thanks a lot for stopping by and for your kind feedback! Hope the negative feedback turns into a positive one very soon!

[@mhpakroes]

Very helpful, thanks!

[@xhaiimidoranda1202]

This is what I needed right now.. 😔 Thank you..

[@daviddeparis3852]

this is excellent and very useful for feedback handling

[@myemmotion]

Thanks a lot!

[@forza223bowe5]

What really unsettles people in the workplace is restructuring. I had an enhanced role, which meant I did extra duty’s and tasks. Now, I am old this doesn’t apply anymore, I feel quite upset and hurt. Just shows, experience doesn’t mean much

[@myemmotion]

I am really sorry you are going through that. It's something that we don't usually notice until it is directly related to us. The majority of companies do their best to make employees drive the company through the tough times, but it is never the other way around. Once the restructuring takes place, the employees who overworked and who gave so much to the company can be easily let go. Which is why it's important to keep our own priorities in mind. Do you feel your job is in danger?

[@forza223bowe5]

EMMOTION by Marat There hasn’t been any talk of redundancy, but it’s a bit worrying to say the least

[@myemmotion]

I hope it’s just a moment of tension and it doesn’t go any further!

[@forza223bowe5]

EMMOTION by Marat Worst thing is there is going to be a lot of changes coming

[@myemmotion]

You'll get through all of them, you'll see!!!

[@forza223bowe5]

Quite often bosses and management is to blame, if workers are getting bad feedback, maybe they have lost motivation ?

[@myemmotion]

This video should relate to a place with a healthy working environment, where the management wants you to grow together with the company. Which is why it is really important to handle negative feedback and turn it into something benefitial.

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@michael567jober]

that's exactly what I'm going through. my first couple months I was a star worker and went above and beyond. I was very open about promotion and I did all I could to try and get there then they bs and lie to me giving me the run around and now I slow down so I constantly catch heat but idc cause as soon as something else comes along, I'm gone with the wind. sometimes working hard does nothing but get you taken advantage of

[@elevenscorpio]

@@michael567jober I agree!!!

[@michael567jober]

@@elevenscorpio luckily i got out and landed an office job in a warehouse. long hours but it pays my bills. it been almost 2 years now and i got 2 raises since i started. due to inflation i’m gonna ask for more when my next anniversary comes up

[@ashikideas9733]

Thanks for this

[@myemmotion]

You are welcome!

[@emmsummer7811]

Glad to see u again & with another useful video

[@myemmotion]

Thanks so much, Emm. Always glad to read you.

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@MarcosRodriguez-es4gz]

I like this tie also your video is very clear and easy to understand, good job

[@myemmotion]

Thanks a lot my friend. Have a great day!

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@dude4173]

Thanks. This helps.

[@myemmotion]

You are very welcome! Good luck!

[@k54122]

What happens if your supervisor is playing games with you on a daily basis? Root cause... he feels that his job security is being threatened by your prescence. Making you go around in loops in the workplace and then judging you for time management when you have actually delivered inspite of the extra work.

[@dorishegenberg8914]

I ignore negative Feedback ,i give all My best of Job ,and Nice to See you ❤

[@myemmotion]

Thank you very much, Doris! I am also happy to see you :) Negative feedback from a manager is quite impossible to ignore though. Have a great day my dear friend! :)

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@shylu_18]

its awesome vdo ! gave a great relief

[@positivethinking4464]

I can't be objective about feedback from my boss because he is such a bad manager

[@myemmotion]

That's a different story then!

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@nancysmyth9686]

Mine is a bully and a terrible manager. No one can please him.

[@workoutathomeideas2873]

Thanks for the video

[@myemmotion]

You bet!

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@danielng3364]

I like the tips, but it would be better if you give example of conversation between the boss and subortinate.

[@kawita071]

Thank you it gives me positive thoughtss

[@myemmotion]

I am really glad to hear that. Hope your work environment keeps getting better. Thank you for stopping by and for your feedback!

[@IiOnna222]

Good stuff!

[@myemmotion]

Thanks lot for the feedback!

[@albertom7679]

excellent advice

[@myemmotion]

Thank you!

[@Answ3r27]

I do not fully understand what to do with the emotions that trigger after the negative rude tone feedback case. Do I really need to say "thank you" through clenched teeth and lie to myself and to the interlocutor?

[@myemmotion]

As long as you receive feedback which is constructive, say "thank you" and apply whatever the feedback is to your day to day. Showing that you don't like the tone or getting defensive will always go against you, believe me. If your manager is a complicated person to deal with, then you need an exit strategy, because no matter what you will do, they will always be giving you an emotionally draining feedback.

[@yyjj6627]

I give my 100% to my job, in stead I get negative feedback again and again😢

[@albertom7679]

good video thanks Marat

[@myemmotion]

You are very welcome!

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@apolorka1]

Great video. My manager sent a message with being disappointed with our team results while i was on sick leave for one month. How should I react? Thank you so much

[@hanoush1482]

Nice video 👍👍

[@myemmotion]

Thank you very much my friend!!!

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@benjahearty9259]

Wow glad I found this video, many powerful nuggets noted!

[@blindsurgeonc]

much love EMMOTION by Marat

[@shreekrishnagurung734]

What if manager is supporting the person who has given false negative feedback? How to deal with those false negative feedback? And if we become defensive, it will seems like we're making big issues. How to deal in such situation?

[@smithatony21]

Had the same. Its hard to deal with. But I asked the collegue to clarify more. Why u feels so, but also to check if we have to take another careful aproach with them in future.

[@KamBamfromdiscord]

I am trying my hardest with #3

[@RahulKumar-ef9wb]

Hi, My last employer has given negative feedback to my current employer in background verification and my company asked to fill separation form, without serving any notice period. What can I do in this case!!? Kindly suggest

[@Robpguitar21]

So this was nothing official by any means, but a group of friends and I made our own company of sorts where we were leaders in the organization, and I noticed I followed every piece of advice given, but still didn't get respect from them. It seemed like once they got some form of power over everyone else, they started turning into the bad bosses we tried to get away from, and put all blame on a few people, including me. This a common thing?

[@myemmotion]

It's quite curious you are mentioning this. Somehow a lot of people fall into this "corporate trap" once they get an access to power. They start getting less empathic and some become completely indifferent towards "hurting" the rest to achieve their own goals. Have you ever noticed their similar behaviour prior to this experience?

[@Robpguitar21]

@@myemmotion In small burst, yes, but when it came to one or two individuals that would cause issues, they would never budge on fixing an issue/possible solutions. Doesn't matter much at this point, but I guess I'm just looking for clarity on how to go about these situations.

[@myemmotion]

@@Robpguitar21 If you've seen such toxic traits before, now it's become a lot more visible due to circumstances. I hope you manage to work it out, unless you see it clearly that their attitude wouldn't change. In such case, it's better have as little contact with them as possible. Even if it means for you to leave this company built with your contribution.

[@forza223bowe5]

Sometimes I take a water of a ducks back approach to negative feedback.

[@abdulgafoorag7261]

Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3vbYmitmp6ngMU

[@codlover1508]

So, I have done pretty much every step you mentioned in your video, but seems like it isn’t enough. I am getting frustrated. I am a sever and I know it’s different then other jobs giving you feedback, but at the end of the day it’s feedback. 🥴

[@myemmotion]

I am sorry to hear that. What kind of feedback have you received from your manager? Do you have other team members that feel the same way? Maybe it's your boss who is the difficult one?

[@codlover1508]

@@myemmotion everyone says that I’m doing a great job except the GM. Every week we get the ratings and every week I get horrible reviews. I observed coworkers with the highest scores and see if I can learn something, but no. I do the exactly same thing and honestly didn’t know what else to do. I have worked with the GM, but seems like when we work the same schedule almost everything goes wrong for me. I do everything it’s expected of me. I’m the first one to come in for my shift and the last one to go. Always have a very positive attitude, but nothing seems to work. During training they focus on sanitation and safety which obviously it’s great to learn all that to have a safe work environment for staff and guests, but there’s a whole a lot that you don’t go completely thorough or at all. When the GM is there and I ask a question when I’m not sure how to proceed the reply I get is “Didn’t you go through training?”. And just go and fix it and really don’t explain how I can do it, just gets it done. It was very frustrating. 😐

[@myemmotion]

@@codlover1508 I can definitely relate to that. Some people are just impossible to please. Maybe you could try the opposite strategy, stop making a big effort of getting his approval. Do your job the best you can and switch off work when you are done. And let's see if that turns things around. If that isn't working either, at least you've tried it all before considering an exit strategy.

[@codlover1508]

@@myemmotion aww thank you so much, but at this point there’s nothing I could’ve done. Since we get rated every week, I can’t changed what the customers reviews just ended up switching positions. So I’m going to try that. I applied for other positions with other companies and seems promising. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. Up side of this and out of my frustration, I’m glad I got on KZbin and found your video. You’re awesome. 🤗

[@myemmotion]

@@codlover1508 You are very welcome! You are doing the right thing. Settling for something which isn't motivating for you on a long term is definitely not a good idea. So fingers crossed, hope a nice new challenge is on the way towards you! Best of luck and keep me updated :)

[@harisharavattge4921]

1. Don’t be defensive

[@jwwarrington1]

What if the feedback is on your communication style. For my entire life, I’m too verbose too much information. Trouble focusing the conversation. I’m aware of the issue and try to correct it, but nothing works. 😮🎉

[@Mark-vs9rk]

Panda Express is the worst

[@agulto125]

Easier said than done

[@lilpopism]

Negative feedback when constructive helps people grow. If it’s negative just to be negative and attack then it’s not feedback it’s workplace harassment and bullying

[@ilq00477able]

Great video