Dealing With Loneliness | Eckhart Tolle

In this video, Eckhart answers a question about relationship and loneliness, and how presence and consciousness can help you to transcend who you are on the level of form.
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[@Angrymobs62]

When I feel lonely, I just think of how excruciating it is to be partnered with the wrong person and I keep on truckin!!!!

[@nicole8576]

Lol! Yes...sometimes the loneliness causes us to make poor choices.

[@alcyone3156]

🤣

[@livinmabestlife]

Sooo truee

[@littlewillowlinda]

Ok this was really helpful 😂 thank you for the advice

[@jus_SJ]

so good.

[@catcrazy8]

I knew my marriage was over when I realized I was at my most lonely when I was in the same room as my husband.

[@UniversalCrystals]

The awakening journey gets lonely for sure, but when you are on your own you begin to make your own decisions. 💫 Here for anyone out there who is experiencing this loneliness 🔮

[@veraintuizione6497]

Anyway we are never alone...NEVER. We are one with CONSCIOUSNESS...🙏

[@daphventurer7475]

I am experiencing that loneliness. :(

[@mrsramsden]

@@veraintuizione6497 that's easy for you to say.

[@veraintuizione6497]

@@mrsramsden WHY? I am a human being as you and we all are....

[@veraintuizione6497]

@@daphventurer7475 We ALL are experiencing it....Just try to change your point of view about it. I always try to do it...

[@NemeanLion-]

I personally believe being alone is a good barometer to test where we are. Most people try to encourage you to do things and stay busy, but all it’s really doing is covering up the problem.

[@vuks-fj7fl]

Thats true but u cant be stagnant either..

[@liv8827]

@@louisedaniels6900 yes...where are you coming from?

[@vuks-fj7fl]

@江俠 i meant about the encouraging thing. You have to find a way to encourage yourself if there are no people to encourage you.

[@banderas2000]

@@vuks-fj7fl what is your definition of stagnant?

[@livinmabestlife]

Ooo sooo true

[@vershonc]

I would rather be lonely than surround myself with people that do not accept me for who I am. Accept yourself and you will magnitize the right things into your life. Peace 🙏🏽

[@daphventurer7475]

Me too. This is my struggle. I really want to interact with people as an extrovert (enfj) but again I really don't enjoy interacting with people who don't have some basic inner peace and presence. And yet people with inner peace are so rare. So I end up alone.

[@vershonc]

Daphventurer Daph same. I know the feeling. Keep being you and the right things will come 👍

[@chenszeyan6679]

y5and @@daphventurer7475

[@RevAimeePhD]

@@daphventurer7475 ENFP I spend my day trying to visualize a partner with me but most rimes I feel I will be judged and restricted by being with another

[@zubaydaharoun]

Hit on the nail 👌

[@ReynaSingh]

We are never truly alone; this comes with the realization of the presence within us. Stay blessed everyone!

[@Synchronicity-op6cd]

Thank you so much for saying this..

[@lisap3344]

That is true but that doesn’t mean you don’t have a sense of loneliness. I believe my soul longs for home, my real home not Of this earth 🌍

[@michellemurphy7137]

LisaP My soul has always longed for home too (I’m 56 now) but have come to relive that we must be here for a reason, maybe to add more love to this world 🌈🌸🙏🌼💕

[@lisap3344]

@@michellemurphy7137 yes and I live Dolores Cannon and Eckhart Tolle and a few others who have helped my soul understand the real purpose ♥️

[@rahulanandsingh3233]

Lovely 🥰🥰🙏🙏

[@irisbjones]

51 and alone. I barely ever speak with anyone including my family who are all close to each other but always 'forget' me. Yet most people if they meet me would never know because of form. I seem highly competent and independent because I have always been on my own. For decades I was fine being alone because as everyone says, when you least expect it, it will come. I worked for a long time on being present and improving myself. I kept myself highly involved in life. But it never came. My opportunity for children of my own never came. And now after all of these years - I just can't stop this terrible feeling of loneliness brought on by covid and this crippling loneliness of so many people around me but none who want me. All those years are catching up with me. I have taken action so many times - nothing. I had peace with being alone for a long time - but after over 30 years, it is all just crashing down. PLEASE don't say to people like me, "when you least expect it, it will happen." It's just not true for everyone and it's so hurtful to someone like me who just keeps getting looked over in life. Love to all.

[@bunnie12345]

Same

[@jamesunsworth6865]

I agree, with most of the comments. We are living in a society that is obsessed by material things, that give you transitory pleasure,at most.Then it’s on to the “ gadget “ and so on .

[@wandarask8444]

Hello your comment was interesting ! Love from Australia

[@GiovanniDeMaioLangella]

I understand what you are feeling, it is the same for me.

[@hamilton9651]

Trust me Laurie, there are many more older singles (never married) than meets the eye! I blame American culture mostly but the churches play a role in this too. If a single person expresses their frustration about wanting a spouse they are told they are making marriage an idol, and they should be content with God alone! Totally dismissed!

[@DougMacary]

My wife passed away 2 months ago and tomorrow is our 30th year anniversary. I feel so sad, alone and lost. I hope I can become present through this. Thanks

[@louiseb845]

Dear Douglas, presence seldom comes by advices. Presence is a certain level of being that can be practiced with Zen, Contemplation or Vipassana for example. Best wishes for you ❤️

[@kroneexe]

I'm sorry to hear that, brother. I hope you find peace.

[@sonyavincent7450]

Hi Douglas. I understand completely. I too am grieving my husband. He died 2018, yesterday would have been our 27th wedding anniversary. I went out for dinner by myself last night in his memory. I had pizza from the first restaurant we ever went to as a couple, just the day after we met. I sincerely hope your pain eases and you find peace. I'm trying to as well.

[@MsTwiththeTea1980]

Praying for you 🫶🏽

[@tanyabay6918]

It appears your comment is a couple years old. However, I hope today you are feeling better and doing well. I'm sorry about the loss of your wife.

[@daphventurer7475]

I need friends who are also on this journey of becoming more present. The deeper I go into this, the less people I can genuinely interact with because they don't understand it.

[@Seegalgalguntijak]

You won't think of them as friends, more like fellow souls who share a part of their way with you. Forever connected, even if apart, but never clinging to each other, because that isn't needed any more. I had people like this, and I could still contact them, but I don't - and I don't even know why. It's just not important right now, for me.

[@daphventurer7475]

@@Seegalgalguntijak Wow you must be on a real full awareness level.

[@Seegalgalguntijak]

@@daphventurer7475 Not really, no.

[@karinnie66]

I really can relate to this! I feel the same way. I have one friend who understands, but literally everybody else is clueless.

[@hpephpeps6465]

If you « need » then you are trapped in the ego If you go deeper and observe this feeling of ´need’ then you will never feel that you are misunderstood. Love and blessings

[@humancumalienhumancumalien3947]

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. "Rumi"

[@lydiaroth766]

Beautiful. Thank you.

[@humancumalienhumancumalien3947]

@@lydiaroth766 thank you 💐

[@abbz753]

I think what Rumi calls “Love” is what eckhart calls “being”… what do you think?

[@mars1783]

Yep, Yep... "love is what we're born with, fear is what we learn....." I think that's Marianne Williamson

[@moulee7448]

Yes😪

[@ArianaReflects]

❤️take care❤️

[@guiguiator]

❤️

[@RS-os8od]

Same to u .. n all the best for your life n wish u success ... saw ur new channel .impressed. n subscribed offcourse..best wishes from india

[@ArianaReflects]

🦋❤️

[@alignwithsource]

Thank you 😭💗

[@ayseomer722]

Asé 🌻

[@TruthTalk1221]

“Until one learns to lose oneself he cannot find himself.”

[@bloomp7999]

one should listen to Eminem

[@Utoriani]

@@bloomp7999 that’s deep

[@MikeJackson690]

I'm struggling with loneliness. I thought this winter would be hard but it's worse than I thought. Typing this with a heavy heart 😔

[@louiseb845]

Dear General Waste, if you are interested in a spiritual way of dealing with loneliness, ask yourself who is lonely. Actually, to be lonely is just a thought. For more instructions check out "integral meditation". Best wishes ❤️

[@teresamarieinbarrera6267]

I've often expressed myself the same way. The words we use like "struggle" add even greater intensity to the feeling. Makes it sound like "loneliness" is a physical entity you're doing combat with. Trying to be more objective and factual may help. You're experiencing a feeling common to almost every other person on the planet, so in that sense, you're not alone! The feeling of loneliness probably arose following some random thought of something from the past, some rejection, some outside criticism, some cultural custom that says it's bad to be alone. Or perhaps your mind is leaping into the future, and imagining that you'll always feel this way. Not true, everything is in a constant state of flux. So you have a choice of how you'll think about this loneliness. You can embellish and dramatize it, which if you verbalize it may gain you some pity or maybe some scorn. Or you could just accept it and ride it out, just like a wave which rises but then inevitably falls. Or you could take action. You could distract yourself with something pleasant of your choice: food, reading, tv, walking, crossword puzzle, etc. Or, you could take some positive action (which would also distract from the ruminating on loneliness) and actually interact somehow with another person. I commend you for watching E.T.'s video, for making a comment here, which then l connected with. So now l'm feeling less lonely than before. So if there is a "struggle", l think it's with the thoughts we have about being alone, whether we reframe it as loneliness or as open space and time of creative solitude which we can fill with pleasurable and/or useful activities, beneficial to ourselves or others.

[@marknicholson4523]

Me to keep you happy Love nature walk swim yoga eat well and keep busy

[@hamilton9651]

@@marknicholson4523 only works for awhile. Then the loneliness and emptiness come through!

[@felicitygrace5113]

I hear you. Sending virtual hugs.

[@muttakinc2281]

Before I clicked on this app I was literally about to type how to deal with loneliness and this fell into eyes reach. Thank you Universe.

[@heatherremlin8607]

One mind 💜

[@Synchronicity-op6cd]

Same

[@coolaunt516]

I think a lot of people are having a problem with loneliness right now due to the covid isolation.

[@maryjaneanderson6849]

The universe is amazng.I live alone I do get lonely sometimes but usually I dont feel alone because were all connected.

[@onreact]

Which "app", KZbin?

[@TheDhammaHub]

When you meditate enough and take joy in it, loneliness can become solitude and quite a pleasant thing!

[@pantsenfuego9986]

You’re in the often in comment sections, commenting in terms of what others should be doing... but why? Who are you?

[@TheDhammaHub]

@@pantsenfuego9986 It is good for creators to comment on videos, as the KZbin algorithms suggests videos by viewer participation. I also like to point out things that I feel are relevant to a topic at hand =) And to be perfectly honest, commenting on other bigger KZbinrs videos is one of the few forms of advertising that is accepted on KZbin

[@pantsenfuego9986]

@@TheDhammaHub Difficult to tell if you comment in the interest of improvement or promotion.. The language you use comes off as incredibly preachy, just like most other dime/dozen content. Popular speakers like Eckhart Tolle, Jordan Peterson etc. are appealing because they offer something much different than the norm. Something to think about..

[@TheDhammaHub]

@@pantsenfuego9986 I can only tell you that it is not my intention to sound preachy, especially not if it was in the interest of self-promotion ;D (but I have not much control over how others interpret what I write)

[@sunnysal3889]

@@TheDhammaHub I did not find your comment preachy at all. (Just adding to the algorithm. 😬)

[@ginawhittaker2585]

I’ve been lonely for years now. I keep myself busy and enjoy doing things with my kids and I have hobbies but having a partner or friends who you can really talk to and have fun with just makes it better. But I find as I get older it’s so hard to make friends.

[@howardrundle4862]

I turn 59 this month & totally agree with what you say, It should be easy finding a partner/friends as you get older but it is the opposite it seems. Oh well such is life

[@cathychase663]

it is and I don't get it

[@thatamychic3517]

Exactly how I feel 😢

[@jimijamesatlantian4423]

Gina whitiker I I'm 46 n totally understand u ❤️

[@fo3828]

I am lonely and think that the reason why I don’t have friends is bc for the last 2 decades I focused mainly in raising my kids and work full time, so now that hey are older I find that lots of people are in a different frequency and not interested in what I would like as a person or group of persons that enjoy having a coffe, walking, going to an spectacle etc. If it doesn’t happen is bc is not meant to be probably

[@daphnecabradilla49]

I love being alone. Away from stress. I am able to know myself more. I feel happy when i am alone. But sometimes i feel i need love but on second thought i need to love myself..

[@svsrp0712]

Real

[@mickydee1289]

I have an anxiety disorder and can hardly bear the fear and pain that arises when being alone. But I do now face myself daily with being alone and get moire and more used to it. I just let the anxiety flow through with presence and without resistance. Very little steps i make but it is getting better and better...Some days i already enjoy being alone without fear

[@Azargled]

"Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality" - Anthony De Mello

[@harmoniabalanza]

he was a great Jesuit, brilliant.

[@oceansoul3694]

He's right. I spent a great amount of time dealing with the reality of my farm, lovign my animals and especially cleaning up after them is very much the reality of life! Soooo funny!

[@lindakoch9524]

Oh …that “helps” a lot 😒

[@lynda9241]

U must not be alone...

[@earlgrey2130]

What if your reality is an unbearable nightmare..

[@ecotarot]

When you are content to spend time with yourself, the longing for someone else fades and you are present, enjoying your own company and not needing anyone else. Sure it’s nice to have someone else around, but they are not NEEDED. Once you don’t need anyone else to make you happy, you allow your heart to open up to someone else without expectation. And it is glorious.

[@Seegalgalguntijak]

It's funny, because I experience this in waves. Sometimes, I'm totally content being with myself, and at other times, I'm deeply longing, having to call myself back into the present moment, still feeling this deep emotion of lack, but also the spaciousness around it, as Eckhart says. I think I will only find a like-minded partner once I've transcended all the pain that comes with the experience of lack, insufficiency and neediness. I'm on my way there.

[@chrisgregg5920]

Thank you I needed this today

[@mars1783]

So true, to all 3 comments

[@dreamthedream8929]

This is not true, Jordan Peterson, the school of life and many others provide different and important insights and views on this issue. Its not true that we don't need others in our lives and its not true that the longing fades, it only fades in the sense that it is being suppressed. Many people have painfully realised this after trying to practice alone time for a long time, it all comes out eventually and there is no denying that. We have an intrinsic urge to connect with others and it might be referred to as the urge to merge, its a very primal and basic thing, one of the basic needs it is

[@banderas2000]

The neediness is something I been working on. I been single for a while. But at times I do feel the longing. I know that when you are content and NOT looking for the treasure it shows up. Always. it's when you aren't actively seeking , the thing whatever it is shows up.

[@user-oe1rt5fp4l]

I want a relationship but decided to be interested in each person God puts in front of me. I feel better and more eager about life. As far as happiness, I simply choose happiness everyday.

[@andreamayne3509]

I love this comment..you have chosen acceptance of what is....I am slowly learning..it has taken a very very long time and even then, every so often I fall back and get frustrated.

[@elaineluthy7378]

i love your advice

[@livinmabestlife]

Yass

[@ecoline453]

I never had the urge to find love or have childeren, people called me so many things because of this,especially in my teens they found it difficult to understand, yet I will be happy either with or without a partner. If it happens it happens and if not thats oke to.

[@carlmalone9694]

Hi I am Anant)

[@livinmabestlife]

Amennn

[@dinaelmasry5534]

You re lucky , finding inner peace when you re alone is a blessing

[@jamescadzow9545]

One must have an Amazing relationship with Self, in order to expand & blossom exponentially. 1. Learn how to be your best friend alone vs your own worst enemy in the mind 2. Morning Meditation daily 3. Spend time in Nature and appreciate all of the surroundings 4. Drink pristine filtered water daily 5. Learn how to master your 3rd eye 6. Spend time with animals, especially a dog since they are the most empathic 7. Spend time in the Sun 8. Exercise daily to clear the mind 9. Transition to a High vibration diet of fresh fruits and vegetables 10. Expand on your create abilities and do things that you love to do..

[@loosegoose2466]

Thank you. A good list.

[@rawadsheikh476]

Thank you bless you 😊⭐⭐⭐

[@ryanogowan]

Loneliness is based on two things: attachment and desire. I feel like if we shed the ego and its attachments, we can be fully present in the moment. There are many people who are constantly surrounded by others who are really quite lonely and others who are solitary who are not lonely at all. The keys to remain present are to have gratitude for the moment and for what it teaches us.

[@hollyshaw1984]

I agree. Biologically we are programmed to seek relationships. We then use these relationships to provide us with things we wrongly believe we cannot be for ourselves. I’ve often felt unfulfilled in relationships because I cannot get the deeper attachment level to be reciprocated from the other person. I’ve since learned that I don’t need other people to make me feel complete. I have started to look at my behaviours from an outside perspective and realise that these wants and desires don’t actually provide what I need. All we need is to be at peace with ourselves.

[@christaschunemann5206]

@@hollyshaw1984 very good!🙏🙏

[@lovorka3321]

Thank you for this.

[@moulee7448]

AGREED! When I think about myself or seek some form of pleasure I start feeling seperate which leads to loneliness.But when I am just in the moment,it feels peaceful..

[@andrewhead2182]

How do you shed your ego? You make it sound so easy it not that simple

[@phoenixlight1111]

I’ve taken in a lot of Eckhart wisdom over the years, he has been a significant piece of my own healing journey since ‘The Power of Now’, and especially the last 7 yrs. I deeply value his insight, and it has helped me through some very, very, very dark nights of the Soul. I was in therapy for mental illness challenges, and Eckhart was my Spiritual guidance as I was going through my own Awakening. It has been a profound experience. My therapy was based in awareness and mindfulness practice, and it just coincided and connected everything so beautifully. Healing for me has been extremely hard work, and seemingly never ending, and it takes a lot of my attention and conscious effort. I’ve come so far from where I’ve been, and I’m grateful beyond measure, because I was miserable then. I’m not miserable like that anymore....I know better now. And, all that said, I’m here today, it’s been 7 years in conscious learning and growing....and I am very lonely. I’m feeling so many different things about it, as it’s also been a real life moment if experiencing an existential crisis, and purpose, and actual ‘value’, and having everything just swirling in my awareness about it all. I’m lonely, but not because I can’t be with mySelf. I’m content to be alone, and even prefer it a lot of the time. I don’t enjoy crowds or even groups, I like my hobbies, I Love my cats, I’m personable and friendly when I’m around people, but I just don’t feel the NEED to have someone around to fulfill me in any way. And I’m still lonely. I am having strange death fears, and fear of dying and not having lived, and wanting a companion and partner to do life with, (I’ve never had a long term relationship and have been single 85% of the time, I’m 53), to physically be with, to touch and hug, hold hands, to ride a roller coaster with, laugh with, talk all night and fall asleep with, and so on. I’m not even sure I want to go looking for it, and it’s such a process to filter through so many different energies out there to find some suitable match....it’s not what I want to do. I’m conflicted about these feelings, not sure how to classify them or where they belong. I don’t have family, my life has been a journey through toxic dynamics and so I’ve never had deep roots anywhere. I’m lonely, and hope to bridge the space between not ‘needing’ someone and wanting someone, and making Peace with being there. 🕉

[@stevenjames14]

Best of luck, I understand where you are coming from.

[@FunkleGaff]

Single most meaningful, relatable and touching reply I have ever.. EVER.. Read on KZbin. Had to pause old Eckles and read it twice. Tear in my eye, because it could of been written by me. Thankyou.

[@jewel2022now]

Blessing , I quess you can do imagination work to plan out what this person would be, feel, look like etc.... and gove thanks and gratitude daily for them. Smile, love and imagine.

[@neoanderson4840]

To you & to funkygaff love n regards am sure you find that love and companionship...

[@lucid118]

I never achieved the sense of inner spaciousness and I did meet my true love and spent 36 joyful years with him. Now that he died though I find that I do have to practice that with the rest of the world.

[@TerriblePerfection]

My husband and I are expats in Germany without any friends other than each other. He's quite lonely here but I feel content and connected to everything and everyone when I spend time in nature; and without a mask we can breathe deeply the fresh air, filling our lungs and just being. Somehow it's enough. Talking is overrated anyway, blah blah blah. 🥰

[@roxana6354]

Exactly like me and my husband but in Turkey

[@onreact]

I also live in Germany. We can create an Eckhart Tolle club.

[@chris4536]

Peace, love and beautiful nature connections to you both, together 😊

[@TerriblePerfection]

@@chris4536 Thank you! Same! 🥰

[@TerriblePerfection]

@@onreact Not much of a joiner, but you probably guessed that. 😂

[@nattycampos]

It made me feel so much better to find this space of non-neediness, of space inside me to let the longing just dilute into presence in Life. Thnak you so much. Sometimes we get caught up in just 1 thing, meanwhile Life is so full of things happening in the Now for us to enjoy.

[@katydid594]

I live with a parent who has always ignored me (among other things). I feel lost, alone and terribly depressed around them. I feel better with my own company.

[@Evolveyouawakened]

If you found love from your deeper I you will change your view...you will not need anything from them... because you have it you will not even be aware if they are ignoring you..it wount matter..thank God they ignore you so you can go deeper. And if you go deeper you can't be bitter because you experience fullnes

[@deborahdanielson8901]

Oh my! Collective conditioning! So true for me and my generation, both male and female. “You are only as valuable as you are sexy, pretty, financially well off, useful”. Powerful messaging; now to let that go. YIKES!

[@caseyfalconer7347]

When you realise that’s what so many people want it may put you off of seeking a other half as much, once you realise the shallowness of it in the first place.

[@robbiepeterh]

“You might not meet the most conscious people in bars” 😂 English dry humour as he lived here for years.

[@johnathanholman3600]

😂😂😂

[@elinannestad5320]

but why not? I bet he has not tried. I like dancing to live bands and so go out most weeks to a pub, for me it is like being a drop in the sea, being with people without talking, not being boxed in by parameters of status but just flowing, good will and smiling faces, all grooving to songs which have meanings related to our underlying human condition, anthems. I don't talk much there but I have had very good small meetings.

[@Pthalobluezz]

I wish i had found you earlier than i did because i went through the pain of feeling totally alone and disconnected for many years i was trapped in sadness

[@m2pozad]

Very grateful. I never get lonely, and I never get bored. They might be related. How? Rich inner life.

[@zb7409]

I was once the same but a crippling depression destroyed this. I want to get back to your state of mind. I miss being alone and happy. Now I am lonesome. I wish so much for you that you always stay this way, it is a blessing. This is the way people should feel, I remember that I could not understand people being so lonely. Now I am. (Has nothing to do with wanting to get a significant other, I just want to be happy with myself)

[@msallies]

We are never alone. Our spiritual family is always with us to guide us and protect us during our time on Earth.

[@redbeard2]

You might want to consider speaking for yourself. Then again, I suppose you might not.

[@msallies]

@@redbeard2 The problem with the world is your statement. Denying God is denying oneself.

[@christinabroadhead3810]

I love how he laughs at his own jokes, very cool. I can shed so much stress and also physical pain, as I watch and listen to E.T. To quote a friend of mine, upon hearing another spiritual teacher, equally healing, "It's a chiropractic adjustment of the soul" I for one need, yes need this more than ever, as our collective makes so many adjustments. May you have a beautiful day

[@mars1783]

That's beautiful!!! Haha I'd add.... chiropractor of the MIND haha.... That's the area of needed adjustment for my crazy episodes

[@timtrocke]

I have never been this lonely in my whole life, it’s become unbearable 😭

[@izvkhill864]

I can be your friend, consider me

[@lucila1934]

💛

[@elinannestad5320]

Hello Tim. Hello and a touch of the heart from me, Elizabeth, here in New Zealand. Warm wishes are blowing your way. Can you feel them? They are coming.

[@berginifrancis2199]

hi tim

[@sonyavincent7450]

How are you doing now, Tim?

[@elettranestola1583]

from emptiness to spaciousness... this has been life changer. thanks eckhart 🥰

[@felipedankertsoto3675]

Not a coincidence he has 1.11 M subscribers ✨💜 love for everyone who reads this

[@Julia-qp1hb]

I love this talk and all the comments here. Having been in 2 challenging relationships, being single and "alone" feels so liberating. Once in a while I catch my ego longing for partnership right now. But I keep reminding myself that I need to work things out inside and love myself unconditionally.. If a wonderful relationship manifests in my life sometime, then that will be icing on the cake. Much Love to all. 💗

[@chubbatheBOSS]

I love this. I too have been in challenging relationships that made me wish I could be alone. Now single and at peace. Learning to enjoy my own company. When I’m around people, I enjoy that too. Life’s good this way. I welcome any manifestations that reflect a more loving and peaceful state of mind. I rarely look at couples and wish I was them. The thing the ego doesn’t tell us is “the other side is not happy either..” it always plays grass is greener on the other side. I see married people who are utterly miserable beyond belief like they’re in jail. I’m so grateful and happy to be alone. I don’t have any friends either but then again I realize that the spiritual path is about loving and connecting to one’s true self without the need for anything in this world. So solitude is the biggest blessing. Instead of complaining, I realize it has a valuable purpose which I must make use of. I am perfectly fine to be alone for the rest of my life.

[@harshvardhan3668]

The world of form is so polar. Grass is always greener on the other side. Mind always has to want something to maintain its existence. If you are simply content, mind has no use. That state is deemed undesirable by human form.

[@cme1447]

Of course.. it makes sense. If we are all content humans wouldn’t evolve like we are now here in the present It’s bless and curse

[@bunnie12345]

I love E.T. I want to address all the people that say love yourself over n over. In that case i do know if you really know how lonely some people can feel . i have lived most of my life living alone in a big city , working all day and night. had friends etc but never met anyone. people used to say love yourself and i used to laugh and say i do , and i did , i was out and about i did weddings n parties n family stuff with no plus one except a friend here and there . Then going to weddings started to not be such fun going by myself , not having someone to say anything to ? you can luv yourself and go to rome and enjoy and luv the coliseum but it would be nice to once, once, be able to have a person . Dont tell me tours ect , because i do that but the loneliness not to have a special person to have inside jokes , laughs , a connection . When you are alone there is no one to talk to whenever you do anything . you are alone . lol . and i try and i keep going and i am moving and just bought a car. i am changing everything and im trying not to self sabotage. The broker has been non existent n rude and i had to keep telling myself, he doesnt have to be nice to you and you luv this house …stay the course. anywho, sorry for tmi but the struggle is real and im trying and i hope you are too .

[@janlappalainen]

Maybe the loneliness expressed by the questioner is something deeper than just a longing for the traditional bonds of marriage, and isn't necessarily due to a lack of transcendence or presence. Very few human beings are content with complete solitude and isolation ( which can happen even if you socialize with others because there is a lack of a meaningful connection ) and we need companionship and intimacy with another.

[@YogaWithSalad]

Part of my path that led me to suffering and ultimately finding Eckhart's teaching was extreme childhood neglect and being left alone. I carried that identity of "aloneness" into adulthood. I was attached to that identity. Now I am noticing it with presence. Being alone a lot leads to neediness or extreme independence. Opposites but both need to be transcended.

[@shaileshvaghela7625]

If you are still you'll see that every single words comes out of his mouth means something bigger than you think.... Deeper than the Ocean

[@heatherremlin8607]

I am always connected to source - never am I lonely 💜 🙏

[@mrsramsden]

Lucky you

[@margaretvey8330]

Heather Remlin I get that, but for me it not about finding a partner but loosing a life time partner and also many close friends and having no family nearby. It is about feeeling lonely and being alone and getting old by myself😢

[@anickablais2526]

True loneliness which brings the greatest suffering of all is when there is no one ever there for you. You go through your life alone and always alone, no one to talk, no one to ever share your joy or sorrow, to play, to walk, etc...no real friends .... and no one will ever notice if you've disappear only maybe weeks or months later. Else than your family far away wondering how come you haven't connected with them in the last month or so.... so then yes, let's talk about loneliness.

[@aaaStar300]

Your comment resonates with the youtube channel Warriors Amongst Men. Check out his latest youtube videos, one of them about why do light workers experience such darkness 🙏💚👁️🌠💯

[@anickablais2526]

@@aaaStar300 Thank you..listening to it now.

[@aaaStar300]

@@anickablais2526 alright 🙌

[@diggleda2952]

The context of the video hardly matters. The presence Eckhart let’s flow is more than enough

[@daphventurer7475]

Right ? I also feel his presence and inner peace. For a large part of the video, I was just tapping into that.

[@gracesanity6314]

To be human is to be lonely

[@mars1783]

Really great question.... I've dealt with the various phases of loneliness: at first, the social comparison thing of hurting cuz I was "supposed" to be with someone made me pretty depressed for years(along with my mental health issues). Since then I've searched within to become the type of love I was seeking, finding happiness in lil moments. Did this by playing lots of "you can do it"-style meditations, reinvigorating my love of music n learning spiritual lessons daily helped to boost the 'ol mojo. So now I am having Fun being single n tweaking my growth experience. Suffered a lot throughout this process, but I've also had a lot of FUN learning how to appreciate my quirky, highly emotional nerdy ways.... trick is to "not be attached to a particular outcome"- Carolyn Myss. Still not fully happy with myself, but that's BORING!? Haha Thanks for listening to the "Fix FrancescA" show n yell!!!! 🐛😎🐛🙄🐛....

[@patriciastewart2537]

Dissatisfied " for Another Reason"... So illuminating😁

[@carolcollins3108]

The Essence of who we are,.. The Presence of Inner Stillness , so while we experience a sense of lack , there is a spaciousness around that lack... Here is peace and love. In accepting how we are in this present moment. The joy is felt here and now. Thinking of what could be or what has been , only brings more pain. Here is love right now. So let us just love .... Sending love and light to all here.

[@enLight78]

I cannot help myself to rub my hands together as a reaction to this amused sensation I get inside when Eckhart follows a thought which leads to a consideration that touches 'the absurd' and the way he points at the sillyness without pointing at it. The expression in his face, that gives a away a great sense of humor, a humor that needs to be handled with care out of respect for the heaviness that one may have attached to the subject of the question that is being thought over. This in order not to ridicule that person with how absurd our ideas may become. It's a tender mocking to shake up and make aware, carried by the use of humor which is allowed for despite the delicate subject.

[@kirolarenga]

My loneliness is killing me, i must confess i still believe(still believe)

[@theanonymoushelpline7248]

😂😂

[@chubbatheBOSS]

😂😂😂😂

[@harshapanchal1108]

I’m searching for partner since long embracing my solitude now.I feel that space ..inner space now. Thanks ET for helping ppl & making them aware globally.😍

[@cw-wj1vs]

A girl I used to date (ish) used to say “Married and bored, single and lonely…. ain’t no happiness nowhere” If I was a betting man I’d bet she has reached spiritual enlightenment by now ❤

[@mustardcolonel3224]

I Grew up alone cause my parents were working 24/7. Until sometime ago I was completely okay with being alone at home. About a month now I get panic attacks when I stay alone which is almost every day. My friends left me and I’m completely alone. I cry myself to sleep and my anxiety is on max level every single day. I ask my parents if they can watch a series with me or something but after work they sleep. Can’t do anything.

[@rawlstonm97]

Try to meditate when you are alone, I find it brings me a peace that panic cannot override as easily, also accept the panic and the feelings you are having. Fighting or fearing them will only amplify their power. When you feel panic attacks coming along, label them as panic and it seems to cut the power of them in half. Works for me at least. Listen to the silence, accept it and know that the universe is with you. Going outside and feeling the air is another great way to come into the present moment. I hope any or all of this helps, I had an onset of severe panic attacks recently that I never have had before and it had put me into a spiral of emotions, making me think something was wrong with me. It is okay, you will be okay friend. RM

[@Joshuarcade]

Sending a virtual hug 🫂

[@Gigi19563]

Sending you love❤

[@SOULDocumentary]

Keep believing that something that feels more harmonious may be coming when least expected. Sounds like a fortune cookie. Maybe I should write those... ❤️

[@varshamuzik2149]

Whoever is reading this may all your dreams come true 🤗

[@melaniestarkey7868]

You should start that Eckhart, the Conscious Dating line our chances of finding one that is conscious would have a greater chance of happening. A good chance of joining like minds; which I believe the heart would really Want.

[@agnesklos74]

This spiritual master is a lovely human being with lovely amounts of humor. I am glad that I can hear your advices. Thank you.

[@biancaborges7727]

I have been following the teachings of Eckhart Tolle since 2013 after going through a shocking and painful divorce at 27 years-old, which shook "my world" and reality as I knew it. All of a sudden, I was alone in the US, without family and friends - I had very little emotional support and had to learn how to rebuild "my life" on my own. The loneliness and disorientation I felt were intense, Eckhart Tolle's teachings was all I had, so I leaned into it heavily, listening to it every day in my solitude and finding comfort in his voice and in the truth I sensed in his teachings. 9 years later, after a difficult journey of uncovering a lot of unconsciousness (the divorce was just the beginning) my life has transformed - I remarried a wonderful man who is kind, loving, patient and we practice spirituality and work on our unconsciousness together, I have started my dream and vision of becoming a spiritual wellbeing coach with a focus on Eckhart's teachings, and my dream of moving to Portugal is finally coming true. I don't want to focus on the "outer layer" only and don't want to give the impression that life is now perfect, we all know this is not the nature of reality. There is still unconsciousness, but more often than not I am aware of it shortly after, so I'm able to let go and not create suffering. I continue to practice presence since I know anything I experience in the world of form is temporary and will eventually dissolve - I want to be cautious not to develop strong attachments to the world of form after manifesting the life that I always wanted. I felt the truth in my bones in everything that Eckhart teaches, but to have put it to the test (how he says it himself), and to now experience and see the truth for myself has been transformational - it has deepened my presence and trust in it, and it is incredibly liberating to feel connected to source throughout normal daily life. Thank you, Eckhart.. I am infinitely and forever grateful for your teachings

[@lindakoch9524]

While I appreciate Eckhart’s sense of humor, all this laughing and joking doesn’t help when someone is upset.

[@carpenterfamily6198]

5:56 Transcend who you are on the level of form. 12:36 find that place where the ‘ I am ness ‘ is deeper than the form.

[@epoint605]

May God bless you for all the times you have helped humanity Eckhart 🙏

[@willowinanna8177]

Full belly laugh complete with teary eyes! 😄 I ventured into the Spiritual Singles dating site and actually spent the summer communicating with what turned out to be a 'deluded' and negative being. I was delightfully surprised at myself for remaining in stillness when the other one had fits of anger. Yay me! May as well toot your own horn!

[@joanne8486]

I had a similar experience via texting with an old acquaintance from 40+ years ago. Once I was able to perceive his MO I ended it and was SO GRATEFUL that we never even met face to face and that we lived many miles apart. He wasn't angry though, just sad; and I pray for him. Whew!

[@loislee2895]

And what if you have no friends, no significant other/partner, and no family, during a pandemic where it's illegal to meet others? What on earth does one do then? I'm trying to learn to live a hermit life! This is unnatural.

[@chubbatheBOSS]

Then connect deeply within yourself. There is a spiritual reason for it, the most natural thing, and if you miss it, you will be devastated.

[@kristhomas4041]

I’ve noticed that every time he pauses when he’s talking, he takes a deep breath before speaking again.

[@nataschagenevasen46]

Me 2, I think also to collect his thoughts before speaking. It’s proven that the greatest speakers leave intervals of silence in their talks/ speeches 😊 very captivating

[@negarnasr233]

He is shinning light

[@susieseward8451]

Inner peace to all

[@Jean_loop]

So much knowledge in the comments, I wish I could have a coffee with you all, am I longing too much?

[@TheBlackSheepDiaries]

Stop by and visit friend, the comments section at my place here is for connecting with others like us. May find some things to enjoy hopefully. Take care.

[@danchisholm1]

hah... ive probably seen 200+ videos of eckhart over the years. this is the 1st time i can recall one where he seemed to sincerely be in a bit of a silly/fun mood. i think so highly of him - nice to see him being a bit carefree.

[@zubaydaharoun]

This is more than perfect. It really solved a hard riddle inside me, a continuous repeated questions why, when and how can I be complete. Thanks sir, for everything

[@THX5000]

Even Eckhart Tolle knows that online dating is a cesspool.

[@joanne8486]

I don't think I'd ever use it, but sometimes people do find good partners that way. My brother did. They were together over eight years and then got married last summer.

[@andreamayne3509]

So true, the grass is always greener on the other side...those on the outside want in, those on the inside want out! 😂😂

[@daphnecabradilla49]

Thank you Eckhart Tolle for this awakening. I always or everyday i listen to your teachings. I learned alot. And still always listening.

[@tourette7]

Thankyou. I’ve been through this and now I’m complete by my self

[@keziahdaniel3740]

Master Eckhart's sense of humour is not the least of his enlightened and enlightening qualities. Love this talk. Thanks so much always.

[@something2105]

Your smile is so contagious it makes my day! 😄 Amazing video by the way (as always)

[@melbadee8301]

Thank you, ET for tackling deeply your topic. I felt you knew what's going inside of me. The feeling of loneliness is universal hence one with everybody else... the difference I feel is the level of consciousness one has.... Hence I discovered the need to always practice Presence daily... very helpful.... Right, since I'm married now.... I still long for the freedom of my being single before... Well I am happy with my married life because of the awakening it gives me.... My presence practice is facilitated! A multitude of gratitude to Eckhart Tolle!

[@rosecanjura9799]

I cannot stop watching Your presentations, You make so much sense. I am very much obliged to You for Your guiding teachings. Greetings from Toronto, stay safe.

[@moragmcgill]

the SPACE around the longing ..thanks for this reminder

[@bebaaskaful]

My humble opinion is that this man set on Tibet or somewhere else meditating for several lifes before this one. And everyone of us trying to go there where is him now is maybe not possible threw this life only. We are like newborns to this process. And I think that each one of us is unconscious, but we realy think from our ego state that we are spiritual and awekend. Noone comes to be awekened instant like he was one night. So practice, and I mean several life practice takes us to that place where he already is. He will not incarnate to next life, he finished his task. The place from wich he speaks is Gods consciousness, and who can say that they are already there, no metter on hours spended in scilence and meditation. Everyone of is trying. And it is a good place to start🙏

[@pineapplejuice3599]

The ones that have been attached to his teaching are not by accident. The real newborns don’t even pay attention to these things at all. Don’t underestimate yourself and others. Just try at best to keep in present, don’t think about how long it will take to become free.

[@peterpearse6913]

Thank you Eckhart Tolle for all that you share. I love your wisdom.

[@elahehyousefi9431]

Please Pray for me! Thank You❤

[@anthoula]

Conscious dating website 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 a new business idea 💡💡💡 the difficulty is if you see yourself as conscious or you're conscious about it 😉

[@joanne8486]

hahaha! true!

[@moulee7448]

🤣

[@TheMarkanthony5]

What a truly beautiful wise man, a god send to people and an angel

[@zen-ventures7235]

Thanks you! Saving to watch later! I love your videos Eckhart Tolle!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@sarahwalton2297]

To whoever is reading this, you are never alone, we are all connected in unconditional love, always. 🤗💖

[@reneemorrison832]

Yep transcend it. Here and now

[@farcoll5448]

Thank you Master, much Love. Blessings

[@dianaboughner7977]

💖Thank you Eckhart. The video guidances you share in which your wonderful sense of humour is present are my very favorites 😁💞

[@galgor]

This is exactly what I needed to see.

[@victorialopez9291]

Thank you eckhart . Wise as always

[@highvibeintelligence]

Polarities are everywhre; you need food to survive. Air to breathe. So to become ONE within and as the whole Yin and Yang is everybodys work

[@carpenterfamily6198]

8:57 Who you are is not the longing. Who you are is the stillness around it.

[@cruella8501]

I am quite content in my own space. But that doesn't make me antisocial

[@desp8790]

I agree with you. I enjoy my moments of socializing, but my quiet alone time is just as important.

[@evygil]

What a Great Teacher

[@andrewheath5948]

I don’t think this is a joking matter. UK. Even has a minister for loneliness. Many married people are very lonely.. no deep connection. Agree spiritual dimension needed.

[@writerforlifeify]

Lots of peeps marry for silly, ego-based reasons, seeking buffers against loneliness & such. The loneliness one may find within a marriage must be ineffably painful, even bewildering for those who cannot conceive of an alternative in a culture that fetishizes, even practically mandates, coupledom. They say ONE is a lonely number. But we, collectively, comprise ONE cell ostensibly divided into (as of Oct/2020) 7.8 billion bodies on this earth. As Tolle says, when you no longer identify with Form & thus consciously align with the Awareness/Presence (of which form is but an ephemeral expression), then you naturally transcend loneliness. My outer environment merely reflects my interior landscape; everything is ME. I personally feel lonely ONLY in the company of (unconscious) others because for as long as I can remember, my closest relationship has been to my inner Self. I just instinctively know I am already whole. So I experience my solitude/aloneness as a pure oasis of peace & contentment, & I safeguard it from intrusions as much as possible.

[@cameronmiller6240]

It can be hard to see but if you can manage to see the humour in suffering it tends to diminish greatly.

[@andrewheath5948]

@@cameronmiller6240 . Welcome to suffering , and laugh?

[@cameronmiller6240]

@@andrewheath5948 it’s not suffering if you can learn to laugh....all the best Andrew.

[@writerforlifeify]

@@cameronmiller6240 A tragedy is a comedy turned inside out.

[@AlrizSusulan]

its really hard to be alone, specially when you came out from a relationship that you think to be a lifetime, loneliness is the first thing you would encounter, its not like a wound that you can just buy some medicine to heal it totally. there are times that you feel lost, like a boat without a sail floating in an open ocean of waves with no direction where to go. you are surrounded by people but it seems you dont feel them, but instead you feel the loneliness in ur self. but even all this loneliness im going through, i thank the opportunity and situation to reflect on the things that lead me here, at least ive done my best even it was not good enough, no regrets and just forgiveness and love at the end of it. sending love and comfort to all the people experiencing such loneliness where ever you are.❤❤

[@judyzugal3452]

I no longer seek love. I am love.

[@kellyruby8662]

All PLEASURE n PAIN,, r just CREATION IN d MIND When we r lack of abundance, we will have constant need of tis n that. Redefine loneliness , not just constrained to male n female Allow n give attention to friends n others. N connect myself more deeply w inner, which is always there w me.