dealing with social anxiety (& learning to love myself)

[@_l_i_n__]

nina truly is that one friend everyone needs.

[@jonskjersven]

Yesssss!!

[@its_taz6717]

I wish I could meet her and tell her how truly inspirational she is and how we all have her back and then give a big hug 😁😘😥

[@alonadanielabalucio7815]

i wish i meet a friend someone like nina uwu... i'm wheezing! I badly need one :((Welp!

[@avishekdiyali]

Nathaniel drew is also another friend everyone needs.

[@kevpear]

𝚈𝚊𝚜

[@giorgiajollybee8999]

it's crazy how many missed opportunities fly away because of social anxiety (and depression in my case). "you're just lazy and quiet and shy". not at all fam im just anxious af

[@florencemarie2879]

I have to agree. My parents do be telling me "join this" "join that". "Enter this contest" "Don't be lazy" "What are there to be shy and scared of?" And each time idk how to respond and keep telling them i did not want to join .But also regretting the decision I made later on. 😔

[@van28batista]

I agree with you, I already missed many opportunities due to low self-esteem and anxiety. And when I think about the future, I end up having anxiety! I am still comparing myself with other people, with thoughts "omg look she knows how to speak several languages", "wow she is so good in sports", "because she is so beautiful". And it disturbs me so much, because of these thoughts I end up missing opportunities to learn new things and discover new talents😓😢

[@stardust2826]

Totally related... the worst thing is how they think that YOU don't want friends, but they don't understand that you actually tried EVERYTHING to have them and yet, it didn't work

[@paige172]

:')

[@stroberiena]

Agree 🥲🥲

[@ysabelay]

only just started watching BUT I’M JUST GONNA GIVE NINA AND EVERYONE A VIRTUAL HUG 🥺

[@cherryblossom4918]

ʕ/　·ᴥ·ʔ/

[@mersaydescorder6080]

(/ `♡')/

[@0Jess_Jess0]

thanks bb

[@Kayyyyyy.5]

ysabelay thank you ! ✨

[@imlimen]

Sending virtual hugs to everyone! 💖💖💖

[@moonycries8472]

the worst thing when talking in class is when you feel your heart beating so fast, that it hurts.

[@ange7679]

Yes 😔 and breathing becomes the hardest thing

[@melonpunch1]

moony cries ikrrr

[@linoisbetterthanyou]

I put my hand up in class to speak and my heartbeat goes BAM Its not fun😖

[@BlackRavenD]

Yeah, and sometimes I can feel my body move because my heart is beating so fast and strong that it shakes me

[@Sidhowyoudo]

Yeah, my chest feels so heavy i can't breath properly.

[@alexaclark2608]

Is it just me, or do you ever feel like hanging out with people when you are alone. But when you are with people, you just want to be alone.

[@evelynlabson4257]

if it helps, my therapist has told me when you have thoughts like being lonely but not wanting to be around people, it is ok to have thoughts that are seemingly very different. You can accept both of those thoughts and allow yourself to feel however you feel. your feelings are valid. you are valid.

[@artemis6005]

I feel the same🤧

[@pieceaisa5046]

same

[@eyidayoakanbi8892]

THIS.

[@walaakholif810]

oh god this is most thing i ever wanted someone to talk to but at the same time i dont want to!

[@emilyjn6147]

I had a roommate in college who had social anxiety, she ended up having a deep depression and took her own life. It is heartbreaking when someone has so much potential and unique-ness inside of them yet they’ve been made to feel misunderstood, weird, and incompetent. I wish I was more aware of social anxiety- I had no idea the tremendous burden it created for her. I wish we could all have more compassion and patience for one another. We lose too many people to depression, anxiety, and other illnesses and disorders, when we could all do our part to make someone feel worthy, understood, and special. ❤️

[@Lea-hl8md]

Emily White I’m so sorry that you feel that way. It can be hard to understand something if you may not experience it or know about it. Honestly I feel the same about friends I’ve had who had depression and a singer I deeply loved who also took his life because of depression. So don’t feel guilty.

[@kevpear]

🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@amandarachlee]

pls i just wanna give u a big hug rn 🥺 (and also fight whoever gave u a hard time) 😡

[@s0539a]

amanda, ilysm!.. uwu

[@kevpear]

𝚄𝚠𝚞

[@What-rr3zg]

Hey

[@EmilyTrinhHo]

amandaaaaaa. and yes i do too🥺💜

[@avalouise5223]

@@miraloshinisivaneswaran2905 omg its just a saying please why is everyone so sensitive it is perfectly normal for a friend want to try and protect there friend if anyone hurts them

[@alexlopez2867]

My social anxiety makes making and maintaining friends so difficult. Most people don’t understand that not seeing them everyday or not talking for hours does not mean I don’t want to be friends; it just means it takes so much for me to do something that is so easy for everyone else.

[@nurfarah7145]

It is sooooo true 🥺

[@angelface333]

i can ONLY maintain friendships if we talk most days. otherwise i’ll become scared to talk to them lol

[@nurfarah7145]

@@angelface333 yup it become awkward to chat as usual 🥺 then we hv to start all over again by finding some courage.

[@shangelic4153]

thank you. it's so tiring I can't take it.

[@Jkksksksowk]

Yes i lost a friend because she told me that i was just trying to ignore her because I never wanted to hang out. She never understood that it wasn’t her it was me. She didn’t get that i was scared to be around or talk to (not necessarily her) anyone.

[@alysiaa.]

nina: and if you don’t feel like someone is on your side.. me: no don’t do it nina: i am on your side me, bursting into tears: omg

[@justnabi3514]

alysiaa well hope you don't cry but also I'm here on your side as well, precious stranger ♡ so never let yourself believe you are all alone

[@dheandra6073]

Im on your side🖤

[@lusehui]

I cried too! *virtual hugs w/ some tears*

[@izaakhan63]

Me too

[@tess9863]

nina: *speaking* me: *shaking my head in agreement with teary eyes*

[@Hakoona]

Meee😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭

[@heyitselyy]

What a coincidence, I was just crying about my depression and anxiety and this popped up

[@hibabenhlal7604]

Stay strong honey I hope u r Okey

[@onlynevermind1238]

I hope you feel better soon

[@mariareginaragasso1129]

hope you are feeling better :(( don't forget you are loved and you matter! 💗

[@sienaduncan9458]

hey big mood but there's lots of people like you and we're all in this together man-- I really hope you're feeling a little better by the time I write this comment and know that there's def at least one person (even if I live across the world from you) who's thinking of you

[@ugh5281]

same.. its getting worse due to the current situation but hopefully we’ll get better✊🏼

[@indecisiverain]

“You don’t have to be anyone for anyone” thank you for that

[@dessy_3]

8:00 i can relate SO HARD to feeling like people don't think you have anything interesting to say or you don't have anything to offer when it's just the simple fact that expressing yourself and showing who you are is so hard when for most people it's second nature, sometimes i wanna just say to people "no no i swear i'm not boring, i have a personality! i just can't show you" the worst part about social anxiety for me is feeling like people don't see an accurate version of you and not being able to do anything about it

[@shehzil5559]

EXACTLY its such a heavy burden to feel like i have the responsibility to be interesting and fun and talkative towards others or theyll think im boring or quiet, it makes me feel so inferior and like a lesser version of myself when i feel that im unable to entertain others

[@perla_101]

I feel like I’m the only one whos scared of answering the phone and is scared to order in McDonald’s or something

[@222fairydust]

same, i'm 18 and i can't buy something, i always send my mom because i paralized and i can't literally get inside the store, i just run away, and if i get inside it's very difficult to talk and wait with everyone watching

[@222fairydust]

purple you, army 💜 you're strong

[@perla_101]

serendipity likewise💜

[@perla_101]

Alma Perez-Gonzalez finally🤧

[@ange7679]

Same, I do it but I start stuttering a lot and talking to teachers and other students is even harder

[@TrangThu-hb9iy]

*"It made me start to believe that I was just my insecurities and that's all I could be"* that was spot on.

[@kaile7265]

when i met you at kcon, i was so so happy to meet you and you were so warm, loving, and kind to me, and i would've never thought you had social anxiety because you seemed so extroverted. im so proud of you for how far you've come. i'm so proud of you for learning to love yourself and taking things day by day. you've made me So happy, and your existence is such a gift. i love and believe in you always angel

[@cloudnyc]

I really struggle with social anxiety and depression, I tried to get professional help but it just gets worse. Music has really helped to calm me down

[@tomaszmajor6898]

oH mAn hOly sHit hey, try again please! Sometimes you must look so many times for good doctor but You will find him!

[@dorkylust]

s ame !!

[@sofiarm4588]

oH mAn hOly sHit it is great that you found something that calms you down and helps you when you are not feeling at your best, but I really recommend that you do not lose hope on looking for professional help! The combination of both of them will help you so much. I am saying this from experience. It really helped me and I hope it helps you!!

[@bobthebuilderday6leader]

I agree with @Tomasz Major, finding a therapist or a doctor that really makes you feel comfortable is so important. Don't stop trying!

[@ranverie3473]

I got worst too but he's literally the only therapist in my country...

[@marissa2075]

To those who struggle with Social Anxiety: The most important thing to remember is that Social Anxiety is a mind game. Even if you feel worthless and negative about yourself you have to remember that that it is not true. Even if people try to make you feel bad that has nothing on you and say more about them as a person. Remember you are worthy and no one can take that away from you, it might take some time but you can heal from this ❤️

[@nooneobviously2543]

It's a mind game - why did I imagined poker players when one of them am I and the other ones is social anxiety in a wide variety of forms 😂😂. But thanx for your kind words 💛💛💛

[@Lexlex11848]

Thank you ❤️❤️

[@briochekoo]

When she was describing her social anxiety during 3:40 I was imagining Little Nina suffering and i almost cried cuz i really wanted to go hug her and calm her down

[@Nini-md5gb]

Same🥺

[@mlg3323]

"You live with yourself the longest" *Nina, 2020*

[@marydarko3380]

i don't think or know i have social anxiety but being called boring, shy in such an insulting way or quiet in secondary school was hurtful, it made me feel very insecure. I'm still working on it and learning to love myself :)

[@ange7679]

Glad your growing ✊🏾❤️

[@abigailren7]

Oh my gosh same. I have been so insecure about my shyness and introversion to the point I don't want to be around other people because I just don't want to hear them telling me I am too quiet or shy. But I am working on loving myself more as well. I really don't have to change myself to fit into society's standards

[@bunny-bs7xi]

Yes it really does hurt, one of my “friends” told me that when they first saw me, they thought that I would “shoot up” the whole school because I was...quiet. It made me cry and hurt me very much, and it was such as stupid thing to think about me..

[@AndreaDiaz-rc3iy]

Yeii, glad you are growing

[@TheTwilightluver1999]

I'm 21 and I've lived with social anxiety since I was maybe 8? In high school, I would hide in an empty classroom and read because I was terrified of just being around people. It didn't change when I went to university. I felt and to an extent, still feel defected and alone. I'm in my third year and still terrified of introducing myself to my professors (I haven't said hi to a single one before) or the person who sits next to me (for the first time I managed to make two lecture "friends" this semester!), but I did sign up for a one-time counseling session and when the counselor asked me how I managed to handle everything on my own for so long, I only managed to say BTS before breaking down crying. Having social anxiety is brutal. I hate it so much. I've put in a lot of work to improve, but there's always more to be done. Thank you for this video, it really helps to know people have the same feelings and thoughts toward themselves as I've dealt with. I hope things get better for you

[@jade-rj3ge]

I truely wish you the best 💜

[@jjwls_]

i literally cried the whole video because i've been dealing with this for 12 years and it gets so hard sometimes...

[@descastro5467]

I’ve struggled with social anxiety since elementary school (I’m 20 now) and it’s honestly been one of the most dreadful things to deal with. It’s prevented me from making friends especially now that I am in college. In cases when I’m having a conversation with a new person I begin to overthink and feel as if they’re getting bored of me or just think I’m weird. It gets exhausting when a part of me wants a group of friends but it’s almost impossible to make friends with my social anxiety

[@AV-ss1jw]

You are not alone friend, I am 21 and I’m exactly this way... currently in a strenuous program and am really struggling

[@khadijarh7742]

During my 20 years of existence, the people who underestimate and mock me the most are my closest people, my family and my relatives . The thing that made me lose my confidence completely. I wish I could trust myself and people again. It's hard but it's worth the try. I felt every word you said. I just want you to know that they are a lot of people who appreciate you💜

[@komomaybe]

you are so strong, keep going! it is always worth a try. ❤

[@megwilliams2519]

I really struggle with social anxiety and depression but I physically and mentally cannot make myself go and get help and I really wish I could. But I also find BTS while struggling with this and they have truly helped me so much through the hardest times and I’m so grateful for them. I hope everyone gets to live happily and truly love themselves :)

[@brishawn996]

Nina just opened a chapter of her book that is written relatable to something almost each of us has felt and dealt with thank you for opening up and assure us we aren’t alone in this. 💜

[@ellavateyoursocials]

Me: an introvert who has a fear of standing/speaking in front of a crowd Also me: a teacher

[@Morgsn34532]

Lol

[@boostedboosted3088]

I could never

[@sierramcwenie6700]

Can I ask how you cope/deal with that? I'm about to start my student teaching and I'm super nervous about how I'm gonna be able to do that

[@نور-ث5و4ه]

youre doing good, I’m proud of you

[@ryuuuyyy]

here im scared of teachers and my classmates 👩🏻‍🦯

[@asdfjkl718]

The honesty is so palpable here! And the fact that you're so articulate shows that we all - as a society - need to proactively pay more attention to people who might not be as vocal or talkative as others. It really touched me when you started talking about how there were people who said things to you knowing you couldn't stand up for yourself (choking back tears now)... I hope you realize that you're speaking volumes by sharing your story and through all your videos. You're touching people by the 100s, 1000s, 100,000s, and your voice is RESONANT, STRONG AND INFLUENTIAL!

[@dorkylust]

i didn't even know what i was going through was social anxiety in middle school... i would always be so so energetic around people i love but when faced with any big social situation i would do the same stuff as u! i always overthink EVERYTHING and i relate to almost everything u mentioned in this video and i'm still dealing w it but i'm getting sm better because of my friends and ppl like u!

[@sevval7404]

'i was just so exhausted from trying to find a place to belong.' this is my whole life..you're so precious🥺

[@ammamm6763]

I have really severe social anxiety too, to the point that I can't even go out to the supermarket or for a walk around my neighbourhood without feeling uncomfortable. My heart goes out to anyone else struggling, as I understand how much it can impact your every day life. Working on trying to manage it though! Good luck to everyone else who is struggling

[@joonieluvr7315]

As someone who also dealt with social anxiety, I’m so excited to watch this. It’s just so interesting to hear how other people cope with it

[@AV-ss1jw]

How do you personally cope with it?

[@michellekwan3837]

thank you so much, nina. i've gone to therapy before but i don't think i'd ever felt as seen/understood as i did with this video. i really needed to hear some of the things you said and i'll do my best to store them in my heart and not to forget.

[@sksn8200]

this video helped me so much. i always ask myself, why am i like this, why cant i just socialise like a normal person. i'd put the entire blame on myself. but now that i think about it, i was always been told negative things about myself by my closest friends when i was a kid, and was treated badly. maybe that's where my insecurities come from. i hope i can heal now that i've realised this. thank you so much

[@hibah890]

“they deserve to love themself simply because they exist” I loved that a lot 🥺

[@abrilricci8891]

if somebody ever hurts Nina again, believe me when I say that you are goona be over by so many people like me that loves and appreciate Nina with all of our heart. Neen you are bautiful and strong! a lot of people loves you and really care about you and do not ever forget that okay? take care

[@jenniekim-5155]

me: ugh im so bored and i really want to watch something more emotional nina:

[@Michelle-nl5xl]

Love your profile pic ♥

[@littlesana9075]

Here are some tips to calm down your anxiety thoughts 1. Listening to music 2. Distract yourself with whatever you like/helps you feel better for example, I like to draw and that calms down my anxiety. 3. Do some outside activity ( I know how hard it can get seriously but you are the only one that can help yourself trust me) These are by far the most effective for me (Except for the activity one because I'm NOT about to get coronavirus right now, no ma'm.

[@amjamj0613]

neen i think i can speak for all of us when i say that we’re so unbelievably proud of you. we’ll be by your side for a long time

[@strawberriiemilk]

i was diagnosed with severe and social anxiety. this video made me feel a lot better, i always forget i'm not the only one dealing with anxiety. thank you so much for talking about it!

[@lisawei9870]

I can't believe how much I related to what you went through Nina. When I was in middle school I felt so alone and to avoid socialization I would just stick my head in a book. Now looking back, I can see how these ways of thinking would just hold me back more.

[@helenrightherexx]

I’ll come back whenever I need someone to tell me I’m worthy. Whenever I’m in some sort of existential crisis. Thanks so much Nina!

[@celestecherryblossom3602]

It’s okay, we all go through different things, and we can all try hard to get through them.

[@JocieBASMR]

Thank you for sharing this ♡ I hear a lot of my own story in yours. Much love to you, stay safe & rest up if you can ☺

[@kaelin7090]

this is so incredibly late hehe but hi jocie! your channel is such a positive place to be and has helped me a lot, hope you’re having a lovely day/night :)

[@mashpsd]

nina is the best friend we all want 🥺🥺

[@flwrypoh]

presentations and going out of your room is the hardest thing for me, i swear even going to school is such a mentally exhausting thing and i still can’t look at people eyes while talking.

[@AY-gg4ef]

I can relate so much. You know the feeling when you lean back in a chair and almost fall. I used to feel like that any time someone would say my name. Thank you I feel less alone in this.

[@cynthiapelozo]

Nunca mejor dicho! I dont know how you say that expresion in english, but thats the best example that i've ver heard. Thats exactly how i feel, its so frustating 😞

[@robynloveschocolate]

Me too! Or when I’m at work and the phone would start to ring, I would literally almost black out for a second cause it terrified me so much, even though I know it’s just another human on the other side, and that I actually know how to do my job so I shouldn’t worry.... I’ve been like this since high school like 8 years ago, but it’s just so hard to change that mindset. I’m really trying to work on it though. I hope we can all get through this 💕

[@kirawrxD]

you perfectly verbalized everything i feel and have experienced...the thing is, over the past 8 years, my social anxiety has steadily been getting worse and worse... reflecting back, things definitely started when i was about 4 years old. loud happy carefree child. now im 21 and im the quietest person ive ever been and it frustrates a lot of my family members especially. the thing is, when youre told to shut up so many times and youve been put down so many times for speaking your mind, you learn the habit of just not expressing yourself anymore for fear of disapproval and backlash...

[@hanibeeez]

I hope everyone is doing well or trying to stay calm in this chaotic time. We will go through this together ❤️

[@plf374]

"eats up a lot of your life" I feel that through my fragile soul :'(

[@rkive5685]

I also have social anxiety and I have learned this now. Actually, I thought I was getting rid of this situation but I had a lot of difficulty this year. This year my level of stress and anxiety also increased.

[@Chloe-by3cc]

rm good luck! We believe in u!!

[@rkive5685]

@@Chloe-by3cc thank you 😢💙💙💙

[@Aeliixt]

I feel you so much. Sometimes I think it’s gone or almost gone, but then it comes out of nowhere stronger than ever But it always calms down a little after some time. Time and being patient with yourself is your best friend !

[@Lea-hl8md]

Damn I’m sorry, hopefully it will get better again. I hope you have all of the resources you need to improve your anxiety and decrease it.

[@rkive5685]

@@Aeliixt oh thank you for your beautiful heart.

[@annabahnasi3680]

I started crying sooo bad at the middle of the video, you just said everything that I'm feeling, and hear that from my favorite KZbinr just made me realize that I'm not alone. Your words described what's in my mind and heart in such a specific way, i don't know what to say, I'm so grateful that I'm still fighting my social phobia and didn't just give up like i thought i would hundreds of times before. I really love you so much Nina, and i wish i can hug you and hug everyone in need as much as i need it right now.

[@shellssoul]

wow even just watching a couple seconds takes me back to when id have to force myself to sleep to stop overthinking lol. To those struggling still yall got this. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) or changing ones thoughts to positive thinking has helped me heal my mind. instead of saying “Omgosh they PROBABLY think im stupid im so stupid for saying that would they think of me that way? ugh idk idk idk idk” you use affirmations like “you know what? i did my best today. and i think that is something to be appreciated. it’ll take some time but i am making progress. and its totally okay because i tried my best and i can always talk to them later again. i will be okay.” there is some weird negative thinking when we do negative think. as in like... its almost like its not you saying it?? its like a dang diggity demon trying to make u negative think. because i wouldnt be thinking of stuff like that about myself in the first place if i was in my normal state. anxiety is weird bruh. almost all my anxiety has gone away now luckily. took a while and theres still times that i break down because of triggers from the past. but if u persevere to look at the positive, the negative will almost be gone.... yall got this okay!! focus on the positive. it may seem like positivity doesnt exist when ur in your own head that is negative but if u choose to focus to see the light, u will find it. (also idk if any of u guys here are religious but going back to my faith in God helPED SO MUCH. was the biggest part that helped me in the end. there were so many times i shouted at Him... i would be crying during a panic attack and asking Why this has happened to me.. but He has allowed pain to happen in order for healing and other things to be shown to me. without all this i wouldnt have found drawing and painting and so many other things about the world. through social anxiety u learn more about the people around you and how despite how negativity fosters in this world, u can be the light that helps those who are still struggling in the dark. the world doesnt tend to help us who are left out. u guys got this. Jeremiah 29:13 “You will Find me and seek me when you search for me with all your heart.” And out of all the people who choose to see us and judge us based on our appearance, he looks at our heart “ 1 Samuel 16:7 New International Version (NIV) 7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” God Bless & Shalom

[@trixiasharmaine]

thank you for this, nina. you're helping a lot of us who have social anxiety. you're a brave one to share this with us. much love 💖

[@purplehearts4273]

'I feel like I dont belong anywhere' :')))) still dealing with this, stay strong nina lets overcome this together.

[@victoriatoner5082]

Same !

[@chameleon1902]

Me being introvert I know extroverts often(not all) think that we are quiet and dont really have anything to say. But really us introverts have really loud heads.

[@veanne]

YES

[@salbonico3571]

also just wanted to say that being introvert doesnt mean you have social anxiety

[@chameleon1902]

@@salbonico3571 Yeah I know I'm just saying that normally extroverts think that we are not really talkative when really we have lots to talk about.

[@salbonico3571]

@@chameleon1902 yup totally agree with you, just wanted to add something ^^

[@chameleon1902]

@@salbonico3571 👍I totally agree with you as well😊

[@ds-to5ui]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I found this video again after watching it for the first time a year ago - and it still is so powerful and resonant. When you said that it's not something to be embarrassed about (around 29:00), a light bulb just went off. And I know that feeling so well of feeling like you're being surrounded by 'walls' and feeling like you're not able to get out. You articulate these things so poignantly. I suddenly feel like truly, there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. That realization in itself is so freeing. Excited to be on this slow but steady and sure journey of healing and growth. Thank you so much for this video.

[@vviazee]

we have gone through some similar situations, i used to think that i could never get over my social anxiety but recently i have been working on it alot, watching this video gave me more hope and more positivity within myself, i’m also glad i can relate to someone in a way and not feel alone🥺 thank you so much for making this video Nina & i love you! 💜

[@fxc2860]

excuse me for this long message. I just wanted to thank you Nina for sharing this with us, I related to so many things you said but I'm not here to talk only about myself. Honestly, you deserve so much love and appreciation, you're precious:))) I'm a Chinese adoptee living in Iceland and my self-esteem was pushed down around the age of 7+ because of my appearance, bullying etc. so seeing how you're overcoming your insecurities and fears really gives me hope of being able to change as well and love myself. You really are an amazing person (even if I don't know you in real life) I can just say by the contents of your videos and on social media and your perseverance through hard times. Thank you again and I purple you💜

[@edanurdoger]

i realized that when i started to fond of kpop, i also started to love myself and be more happy (a note: i luv u so much nina)

[@alove_likethis]

nina: WHY AM I CRYING SO MUCH IN THIS VIDEO? me: *crying with her* haha i don't know you tell me

[@ArtistChimera]

I know how you feel. It seems like no one understands how bad social anxiety can be. It becomes so bad where it's hard for me to order my food and people laugh at me for it. I have many insecurities and when people focused on those it hurt and I felt extremely lonely. Nina, you have been a huge help in my life weather is making me smile or making me feel productive. You've made me a better person without me even knowing it. Thank you Nina, I love you, I truly do.

[@veanne]

me too!! and when i order food i always stutter or order it too fast in a way where i just tell my friends what i want and they’ll say it for me. i’ve gotten to the point where as long as my friend(s) say my order, i’ll pay for them too. but then they always end up making fun of me!! idk if i have social anxiety :( i know i’m an introvert, and i’m shy, and i would always avoid any social contact. but the more i watch these videos, i’m scared to face the fact that i do have it...

[@sarahschilling_]

I can relate to this so much. I’ve had social anxiety since I was young, and I feel the same way as you do in social situations: shaking hands, red face, shaky voice, especially when speaking around those who aren’t my friends. BTS also helped comfort me, and made me feel heard. Thank you for making this video Nina I loved it 🥺💜💜💜

[@lunaaabug]

in the words of bts, "you've shown me i have reasons i should love myself " you really are so so amazing nina, and words can't describe how proud i am~ thank you so much for helping me and thousands of others

[@alysiaa.]

sending a virtual hug to you nina 💕 i’m a very nervous/anxious person. when i’m in public, i always think whatever i’m doing is gonna fail and everyone around me (complete strangers) will laugh. and it sucks bc i start getting really hot and begin physically expressing my nervous energy ://

[@ohthatsliv]

honestly having social anxiety sucks so much.. i used to be so social and never caring about what other people thought but then all of a sudden all of this stuff happened and i just changed... now i go through the same things when my face turns red and i can’t breath... my self esteem is so low and i’m trying to get it back up and to where i like myself. it’s hard to have friends and it’s hard to do things that a lot of other people easily do... i feel like i missed out on a lot because of social anxiety. i’ve got help and now i’m getting better... thank you nina for this video, it honestly made me feel a lot better 💕

[@jih4n8]

I have nothing to say... Nina is just a queen PERIODT!!

[@Syddd_j]

Not me crying at work watching this. *takes deep breath* wow. I just got into watching your videos and realized how similar we are. In some way I see a lot of me in you and for you to literally share a story like this really resonates with me. I’m also 24 (going on 25) and have been dealing with undiagnosed social anxiety. At first I didn’t notice it because i didn’t know really what it was or that it was a legit thing until recently actually. I was bullied up until HS and that really depleted my self esteem/self worth. I have also been introverted (INFJ life) and had trouble finding myself and friends that I could trust. To this day I find myself overextending myself to ppl that don’t deserve it and it hurts because it’s a cycle I struggle with. I’m growing everyday and finding ways to truly love who I am and am grateful for amazing friends that pour into me. Thank you for sharing your journey. As someone that struggles with being vulnerable, it’s refreshing to see transparency in something that can be taboo in alot of communities. You’re amazing 💜

[@jeanne-margot2797]

"I have the power of Tata" the loving yourself power is with you Nina :) Thank you for sharing how you feel

[@justathought8551]

I've always had the idea that people with social anxiety are very sincere with the people around them because they hardly trust others, but when they do, they are incredibly genuine in their behavior.

[@vanilla7507]

thank you for this Nina.. i feel like you explained and put into words exactly how i feel.. it brought me to tears. i always felt weak bc I’m that way but i now can see how that can change if i just try

[@DrQuizzler]

Wow!! You went DEEP for this one!! I could hear bits of my childhood in yours, basically being surrounded by people who didn't "get" you, while you were still just growing and learning who you were. The hurtful stuff sounded familiar, the pressure to BE a certain way reminded me of stuff, and through all of it, your voice sounds like one of great compassion, and here I thought you were just this chill mellow gal. Congrats on all the lessons you've learned, and you continue to pass on, from those difficult early years.

[@karlacoralic2696]

omg those are the exact things I’ve been struggling with skfndk I needed this nina knows me better than I do❤️❤️

[@ann-fu6lp]

This video made me talk with my friend about that metaphor “u can lead a horse to water but u can’t make it drink” and it ended up becoming a super deep novel about life and how you think

[@jcqlngrw]

I love she talks like we’re genuinely her friends, love u 💕

[@NastyaUs]

I had social anxiety since childhood. And what made it worse was people around telling me that I was too shy and I need to fix it, like go to a psychologist. When my parents were attending school meetings they were recommended different tips on how I can fix it, they were given phone numbers of psychologists that could cure me. They would discuss me publicly like I was a problematic student, although I had very good grades and was studying all the time. And each time after such meetings we had an unpleasant talk with my parents. I felt like I wasn’t normal when people around were constantly telling me that i needed to change. They would give me those pity looks and tell me “how will you be supposed to live life if you’re like this”. And when I wasn’t criticized all the time I just started to forget about my problem and would act more normally. Then my teachers would tell my parents that I’m improving, so I was reminded again that I wasn’t normal and I would shut myself again. Don’t ever tell quiet people that they are too quiet and that they need to fix it. It will make things worse. Please be careful with your words. What helped me with my anxiety was mostly the absence of criticism, it happened gradually when I started living on my own. And also it gets better as you age and get new experience, you will just get used to things that are scary for you doing them regularly.

[@ayiyo960]

HEY YOU!!! everything's going to be ok ♡ just continue to believe

[@nada-bz1pg]

omg nina I really cried a lot and once you started to cry i couldnt finish the video literally I stopped , because i never watched someone talking about their anxiety and especially that that person is you , I consider you my friend tbh , like just feeling like someone lived the same strugles that im still living with until now and also the reason why you started having anxiety are the same as mine and just remembering it made me terrified , i love you so much nina 💓

[@yoongenie_6181]

tbh I really needed this rn my anxiety levels are higher than rm's IQ bro

[@yaelsafiya]

"it's okay to want growth and it's okay to want change but it's not okay to beat yourself up in the process and to not enjoy or love the person that you are" that was an eye opener. I've struggled with what I believe to be social anxiety (if not that then just extremely low self esteem and confidence) since middle school and my goal has always been to change myself. be more outgoing, be more talkative, be more interesting. obviously, my goals to reinvent myself over the years have never worked in the long run, and I feel like now I've reached a low with my social anxiety/self esteem. everyday I spend hours thinking and overthinking the smallest things, and it's exhausting. but realizing that I don't need to reinvent myself, or be more than I am is so huge for me. I'm going to work on loving myself, and I know it's going to be hard, but I feel like if I don't do this now, I never will. thank you Nina

[@samanthaxie3553]

I agree, filming on a camera for me is like being able to express myself. I have OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder, but Im not neat and my room looks like a mess. Im a introvert, I only have 1 or 2 friends and when we have to do a group project, I ALWAYS stick w my friends. I almost never talk in class, like during a lesson with the teacher, because I'm afraid to be judged or I might be offending someone. I might social anxiety disorder (SAD) but sometimes when I'm in a small group of people, I talk just like anyone would and I feel like I'm hiding myself.

[@Nebraskaforevr15]

hi there! I was re-watching Nina's video and saw your comment and just wanted to share that you're not alone. I also have OCD, but not in the ways that people usually stereotype it like being super neat (as you mentioned). I'm incredibly introverted and likely have undiagnosed social anxiety disorder, so I completely understand what you are struggling with. People don't share about the struggles of OCD enough, so I always find it comforting when I stumble across someone else who can relate. Sending a virtual hug your way!

[@meowezr]

i salute nina for building up her courage to touch on a heavy topic like this. i love you, you don’t need validation from others, you know yourself better than others.

[@saimahramen]

When Nina starts crying, I START CRYING. 🥺

[@charlizelavastida8315]

hearing your story about people saying negative things about you right in front of you and going to the library as a way to cope and escape social situations really made me cry because i was in a similar situation too. throughout elementary, kids always picked on me because i was so quiet and i hardly had any friends. the sad thing is every year, i would always be expecting someone new to bully me and i thought the cycle will just never stop. just like you, i started to read books and, in a way, i used it as a coping mechanism for myself. the first novels i read were thea stilton and i completely fell in love. up until now, i still enjoy reading books. even when the bullying stopped, books will always have a place in my heart. thank you for sharing your story, nina. ❤️

[@shrutiprasad3262]

So relatable when you mentioned about bts and how their songs helped you to love yourself! I'm also someone who has social anxiety and always so thankful that I found you, you inspire me to be who I am and most importantly to love myself. Lots of love and power to you:,) ❤

[@chevyha]

thank you nina. this was a really encouraging video

[@aaethereal]

i teared up watching this because it reminded me of all the hard times i went through with my social anxiety. but im a much stronger person today and ive come to realize that i am not alone and i am me and i love myself for who i am today and who i will be tomorrow. thank you nina for making me feel so much better about myself through the past years. i love you nina

[@ccloudiee]

guess who just had a mental break down and cried for mins and really needed this

[@chicysai]

Literally same

[@stardust2826]

Can I feel more related? All these years going through the same shit, thinking that it was just me. Everybody else seemed to know what to do and say and I just didn't understand how they did it... but watching this feels like a hug really. I think I finally got a friend :)

[@natalia-qp7rr]

i've honestly never related to a video more... social anxiety's tough. its something thats hard to deal with in life. its hard to accept the fact that you can't fit in with other because youre different, its hard to open up when you want to change for others, but you cant. it takes time to accept the fact that youre not like others, but you have to work with what you have in life. see the bright side of things, and know that everything will be ok. you'll be okay, thank you nina, its really brave of you to talk about this to everyone. and thanks for being a friend that i can relate to and know that it'll be ok. im so grateful that your there for others and i appreciate that.

[@girlnextdoor8109]

just realized i've also had social anxiety :( to anyone also dealing with it we're going through it together *virtual hug*

[@lys6813]

nina, thank you so so much for this video. knowing that you were able to overcome something that seemed to control your life for a long time is really inspiring for someone who is going through similar things right now. I didn’t really know other people also felt this way while having anxiety / social anxiety. it makes me sad, but at the same time it’s a relief knowing I don’t have to go on this journey alone. and I hope other people can find comfort in that, to help them keep going on this journey to love themselves. lately I’ve been having a really hard time finding me, accepting that I have anxiety and it’s okay that I do. hating myself became a daily routine in my life, and it still is, but finding stories of other people who’ve found ways to grow as a person in these situations gives me hope. and though I know I can’t instantly become better, reminding myself that it’ll take time and that it’s okay to not be okay has really helped me to keep going in this journey of my life. because it’s only temporary. and because I still believe maybe one day I can be someone myself, not someone else, but I can be proud of. once again, thank you nina for being yourself and making other people’s days. you really deserve all the happiness. and thank you for shining awareness to this and helping so many people. it really means a lot, and I hope you can see that what you do is incredible and inspiring. has this gotten too cheesy? haha sorry, but anyways I hope whoever has read all the way to here has a lovely day. sorry that you had to see me ramble, but if you’re going through anxiety / depression / something that has been affecting you, I want to remind you that you’re a lovely person and I’m rooting for you. I believe in you and together I know we can get through these hardships. and if you are happy in life, then I’m happy for you and I want you to continue being happy. because you deserve it, believe meee 💞. anyway, this has gotten too long. I love you, and please stay healthy especially during this time where all these things are happening in the world. and as always, you nice keep going ✨

[@marafahrni1565]

i acctually just needed something like this ngl :,)

[@zahramusa2570]

As someone who has social anxiety, I really appreciate this video.

[@raniaa9160]

I have social anxiety and I can't go out alone or go shopping and when I finish school I go straight home even if I wanted to buy something on my way I can't buy because I feel weak when I talk with people I can't express myself I don't find the words to say but I noticed when I'm around my friends it's not that bad ....I can't even find someone to talk and who understands me .

[@chicysai]

exactly same here :((

[@gahorydrammeh]

Same here😔

[@victoriatoner5082]

Awrr girl Yee I understand your feelings totally. I'm 27 now I still working on anxiety I still get pretty anxouis doing uni was big step.

[@ACunhamflb]

Girl, you are amazing and I couldn't understand you more. Love yourself and believe that you are an amazing person. we are all important and we have value to people that actually loves and cares for us, and even if there are people that don't like the way we are, we should keep loving ourselves and the ones that love us because that's all that matters. You are a wonderful human being and you deserve the best. Don't ever doubt that.

[@paddyodoor3090]

This girl I kind of like in my class lightly complemented me and I legit panicked and have been avoiding her cuz my heart starts beating fast when I see her cuz I keep overthinking

[@TheVideoNooDOLLeS]

Paddy O'Door i do that too :( someone complimented me once and i thought there was no way they could genuinely mean that so my SA made me think they were doing it to mess with me

[@paddyodoor3090]

@@chickenwing5519 nah it was obvious i panicked so its like awkward, i had a panic attack on a school trip once so like she knows i panicked

[@joosaj3513]

ugh i really needed this. i keep trying to convince myself that i don't have social anxiety even though i constantly present all the symptoms, it's like a battle with myself reinforced by my culture and social sphere kinda telling me to suck it up but it's been so so hard for me, especially to go through middle school and high school with it. this really helped nina. we really just need to be kind to and love ourselves, and let ourselves seek the help and support we need. you're so amazing for speaking about it, i know how hard it can be!

[@iqlasno6692]

this video was so genuine and i could feel it even through the screen. i’m also dealing with the same things and i could relate a lot, and i think of all the times we’re i could’ve stood up for myself, spoke up, answered that question, etc and get so sad & mad. there’s no reason i should be feeling like this at all. thank you for this video nina