Death of my Mum. Coping by decluttering, Minimalist Routines, daily Self-care

[@DianeinDenmark]

Explaining my absence from KZbin: death of my Mum and dealing with her loss. Plus what will be happening in the months ahead and what you can expect from me (video from me next Monday). Hugs going out to you if you are also dealing with the loss of a loved one, or just need a hug today! 🙏🏼😊💗

[@paulahansen3772]

Diane, you are in my prayers, that the Lord will comfort, guide and help you. My husband and I have lost all four of our parents, so I can imagine the challenges both now and ahead. ❤

[@beverlymartin1414]

Dear Diane so very sorry with your news. So glad to see you this AM. I am wtiting to you on you entry, For some reason KZbin will not allow me to write a comment on your channel. Long term sub. ❤❤❤Much love to you.

[@MarB-l9k]

I am soooo sorry for your loss Diane… Sending lots of love, strength and support to you and your family during this difficult time… 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏

[@DianeinDenmark]

@@beverlymartin1414 Thanks, Beverly!

[@annmcdowall2050]

Oh Diane, I'm so sorry that you've lost your mum. I feel bad for you and your family. Sending love and hugs for you at this difficult time. Take care. xx ❤

[@Kmw316]

The loss of a mom is hard regardless of age. Prayers for comfort and peace.

[@Loup73778]

Dear Diane, that was a tough video for you. My heart goes out to you. You have my deepest sympathy and warmest love. Thank you taking time to give out to others while you are grieving the loss of your lovely mum. You are such a beautiful soul. Xx

[@angeloverturff7323]

Good morning, Diane. I am sorry for the loss of your mom. My daughter died April 22 from injuries sustained in a car accident. She was 38 and the mom to 4. She is my second child. My routines that learned from FlyLady kept me from spiraling into depression. I didn't have to think, I was just on auto pilot. A lot of people think it's silly to have routines but when the storms in life come, they are like a life preserver. I am praying for peace and comfort for you and your family! Have a lovely day! ~Angel

[@DianeinDenmark]

Many thanks, Angel - sending hugs right back to you.

[@bethanystarks9783]

So sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers. ❤

[@margaretsofocleous1999]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you have been through. I lost my darling husband last year we would have been married 50 years last December. I was heartbroken as a hospital accidental overdose of morphine which was admistered 3 times was the cause of death. To suddenly lose your dear daughter in an accident must be devastating. God bless you ❤

[@MrsBullfinch]

So sorry to read of your loss. Said a prayer for you that God will give you all the strength to get through each day. I can't even imagine what you are going through.

[@MakeupCleaningAndCats]

Sending you and your family strength and hugs 💕

[@michellefleury5994]

I am a hospice nurse. When I hear stories like yours it makes my heart fill with love. I am so glad you got to experience the dying process with her. May she forever be your guardian angel.

[@cst5819]

I think most of the regular viewers realized you were going through tough times with mom. So sorry - I lost my mom, one of my best friends, last year at 96. You should take as much time off as you need to grieve. 🙏

[@joannenardi4234]

While I don’t know you personally, please know that you and your mum were in my thoughts. Your mum looked like a lovely soul! May she rest in peace.

[@hollyweaver7292]

We all love you so much Diane, and want to hug you and we’ll miss your sweet mum!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Thanks, Holly! 😊

[@teresaearl5688]

So sorry to hear this sad news, hugs for you and your family.❤

[@diw6603]

So sorry to hear of your mum passing at lease you were their together with your brother big hugs take care

[@randomstuffwithvicky]

Very sorry about your mum. Sending big hugs.

[@gingerwalker8407]

I took your hospice journey twice. My mom was 40 when I was born and 89 when she passed. Two years later I journeyed with my 84 year old mother-in-law. I would do both a million times over. What you learn during these times is priceless. About yourself, relatives, and your adored ones. I'm so sorry for your loss. We are now sorrowful orphans. May all of you find peace!

[@MichelleJones-p4e]

My condolences on your loss. I too, lost my father first. Upon Mom’s passing, the first two thoughts I had were: 1) she has her mind back (she had suffered from dementia / Alzheimer’s for quite awhile), and 2) she’s with Dad again. I found this to be very comforting. Bless you as you move forward. ❤️🌹

[@Karen.ON.Canada]

It's hard losing our parents and you have my sympathy, Diane. Your mother was fortunate to have such a caring daughter and son. Take care.

[@stephaniepreston8352]

"Rah, Rah, Rah" to a life well-lived and your capacity to cherish your mum to the very end. She leaves a wonderful and inspiring daughter for all of us to enjoy and learn from - my sincere condolences for your loss.

[@lmo4879]

What a lovely comment ❤

[@MargaretMoran-z5y]

Diane, you were missed. Your mom seemed like such a lovely soul. Her spark shines on through you!

[@Spokenfan]

You’re such a sweetheart ❤️. Nothing can replace your Mum only the wonderful happy memories you’ve shared. My Ma passed away when i was 25 from Cancer, it’s over 40 years ago but i still think of her daily & i know one day we will be together in a much better place. You are loved. ❤️🙏✝️🇺🇸

[@redhead13]

I am sorry for your loss of your mum. You are so tender and thoughtful of your community, but take whatever time you need to grieve and find comfort and we will all be fine

[@debbieturley8673]

Dear Diane, I am so sorry you lost your precious Mum. I am a caregiver to my 93 year old mother with mild dementia. So hard letting go of our sweet mothers, either when they pass away or as they are fading. Love and prayers❤️🙏❤️

[@patdennis2586]

How lucky we were to have you share your Mum with all of us for so many years! I’ll bet she was always tickled to know she would be featured in your KZbin channel and loved hearing the comments we made. I, for one, will miss hearing about your visits with her.

[@Nancy-md7qr]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Diane. It's so hard to lose your mother. We have missed you!

[@amylucier]

My heart goes to you and your family! You mom lives in your heart! We are here to support you! Sending love

[@UpstateGrammy]

Those days you spent with your mom were your final gift to her. Wishing you peace...🦋🦋🦋

[@sarahredman4870]

So so sorry, Diane. Glad you could be present with her. Thank you for sharing with us. She lives on in the beautiful gift that you are to others. ❤

[@GSDsforever]

Diane, I've noticed your absence and having been praying for your mom and your whole family. I'm so sorry for your loss. We all love you.

[@mandyadams918]

Oh Diane. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. We are all here for you. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[@mariaf.2915]

Diane, So sorry to hear about the death of your beloved Mum. May God comfort you. 💜🙏My beloved Mom passed away almost 21 years ago (will be in September). Something that stuck with me was the Priest at her funeral said "You can continue to keep her memory alive or let it die with her today." Since then I have tried to do that, even down to the little things such as making recipes she made, holiday traditions, planting flowers she liked, listening to music she liked, telling stories about her to the grandkids she never was able to meet etc. She will now live on forever in our hearts. ❤ Also please allow yourself to grieve. It is all part of the healing process. xox

[@megandavis3815]

So sorry for your loss .my mother passed away October 2023. She gave us the greatest gift of decluttering her home , gave items to relatives that wanted the item and selling her home of 29 years! I helped her on her decluttering journey thanks to all the video of KZbinrs I have been watching!! Thoroughly enjoy your videos.

[@lindagovender4546]

May the Lord give you and your family strength during this painful time.

[@rhodyrun9662]

❤ One of the hardest life transitions, because there had never been no Mum...until there isn't. 💔❤️‍🩹May your heart be filled with precious memories as you walk through the grief.

[@KarolNeedham]

Hi Diane, I’m so sorry about the loss of your dear Mum. As hard as it was to see you tell us about her last days, it was a wake up call for me. I’m 77 and Hubby is 83. Because we feel young and are in good health, you made me realize that declutterring isn’t an option any more, it’s a necessity. Thank you for sharing such a sad personal story. Heartfelt love to you and your family and may your Mum rest in peace. ❤

[@kj7653]

I agree. It will mean so much to your family. Some of the emotions will be hard to go through, but ultimately it will bring peace to you.

[@youtimeful]

Oh Diane, I am sorry to hear the news. Today is mymother’s birthday and she passed away 8 years ago. It is a gut punch to lose your mother not matter how “ok” we are with it. Your mother would be so proud that you have impacted so many of us in such a positive way. You helped me get my life in order and make my house so much cleaner with so little stress. Can’t thank you enough! So looking forward to all your insights from this experience. Thank yo for all your sharing and vulnerability. ❤

[@mammaemamme]

Dear Diana, I have been knowing you since your first video through which I acknowledged of fly lady system and I remember your mom in her better days. I'm so sorry for your loss. When your mom pass away a part of you goes with her. A big hug from Italy.

[@weirysmissus]

Thank you for your honesty, Diane. 🎉🎉🎉 Much love to you and yours.

[@karimulderink-di2od]

Diane, I’m so sorry about the loss of your mom. Asking the Lord to give you peace and comfort. 💗 You have been missed from this space in your absence. So grateful you are back and willing to share the wisdom and insight you’ve gained through your mom’s death. Thank you. God bless you.

[@bethreisman8869]

Ohhh Dear Diane, I wish I could give you a long warm hug. Losing a mother leaves such a hole in your life. I lost mine at 15yo. Now at 74yo I still tear up thinking of her. Precious memories. ❤

[@deidrenichols8019]

I'm very, very sorry for your loss, Diane. I lost my Momma way too early to cancer in 2014. She was my best friend, and I sense you & your mum were like that, too. I still get weepy at remembering her, but always think: how blessed is it, that I had a Momma who was worth crying for.❤ Not everyone is so blessed, but we were.

[@qtluvBilly3]

Grief is the hardest. Praying for you. ❤

[@jomcd2073]

Sorry for your loss Diane, Losing your Mum is hard at any age.💓

[@beverlyzulauf8940]

My heart goes out to you & your brother. I lost my 88 yr old mom from Parkinson’s on April 24❣️

[@yvonnestreeter2820]

I was with my Dad, my mother, and my husband's mother when they passed at the ages of 85, 90, and 93, respectively, and it was such a blessed time. I had always been afraid of death, but I was so comforted to be there, though I still miss them, as you will your parents. God bless you and the work you do for us. You've certainly made a difference in my life.

[@tracywaring3769]

@@yvonnestreeter2820 I lost my Dad when I was 14 and my mum when I was 28 , never got the chance to say goodbye 💕

[@yvonnestreeter2820]

@tracywaring3769 oh, I am so sorry. You were much too young to lose parents. I hope you've come to a sense of peace after all.

[@tracywaring3769]

@@yvonnestreeter2820 Thankyou god bless xx

[@kristallindgren2458]

My condolences on the death of your Mum. My thoughts are with you.

[@ashleyhind4925]

What a blessing to you and your mom that you were able to be by her side. Sending love and support your way ❤

[@debbiejones1466]

What an honor to be present at the passing of a loved one. Blessings to you and your family.

[@maryannpapandrea3086]

My 96 year old aunt passed in July. I was responsible for her. I was thinking about you and praying for you. Not an easy process. Glad you are back. So sorry for your loss.

[@buck5864]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. What a gift that you could spent her last days with her.

[@angelatrueman9881]

Just made me cry for you, parents passing is so hard there is no way to prepare for the loss. But the one thing that caught my attention is self care,which my friend reminded me I've not been doing,due to lots of family health problems.Edinburgh health care sounds fantastic to what is available in across uk, so sweetheart you & your family were blessed to have her there at home.Big hug

[@joanneentwistle7653]

I am so sorry about your mum. I miss my mother too, it's been 12 years now. My heart goes out to you right now. The important thing is to take care of your health right now, you have a loyal fan base, we can wait until you're ready!

[@allisonbrown5585]

Oh Diane my deepest sympathy to you and your family. It is heartbreaking but also a privilege to care for a loved one - precious time. I lost my mam 5 years ago and my sister (at 59) to cancer in June this year. Thank you for not shying away from this. Take care of yourself xx

[@kristincertain5676]

Diane, That was a tough video for you to make. I cried with you. I hope that you will soon find peace and that the happy and comforting memories of times with your Mum will lighten your heavy heart. Peace to you. Kristin

[@helmifreeh1592]

Oh, my dear Diane 😢 thank you for sharing about your precious time with your Mum ❤ I'm sending hugs and love 🤗🥰 Be sure to take some extra self-care time!

[@emilybird7753]

I've missed your videos so much that I've broken down to watch old videos. I was so excited to see a new video. I am so sorry for your loss. I was tearing up multiple times throughout. I hope you know that around the world thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

[@CrazyCatMom2023]

Diane I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mom ❤ I lost my Mom 5 years ago this October, her cancer had returned and she deteriorated rapidly. My Dad passed 12 days before my Mom died, unexpectedly from pneumonia. You helped me so much those first few years afterwards and still even now. You helped get me back on my feet on days when I thought it wasnt possible. One day at a time, and when that seems too much, one breath at a time. You and your family are in my prayers, Love you ❤❤❤

[@carterb43]

This video breaks my heart. I lost my mom two years ago and I miss her so much. Sending you lots of love. Take your time. We’re all here and we can wait. ❤

[@jeantarwater2606]

Missed you! So sorry to hear about your mom. Take care of yourself. Always love your content.

[@LaLaCindy226]

We have missed you so much. So sorry for your loss. I had just lost my mom when I found your very first videos all those years ago when you were a fly lady mentor. You helped me so much and I don’t think I have ever cleaned under my kitchen sick so many times just to keep my mind busy. I hope we can all be here for you the way you were here for me. I am so glad you are back and looking so forward to decluttering with you. Hugs to you and your family. ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉. The loss of parents so so difficult 😥

[@cynthiaolson959]

Diane I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear mum. May she rest in peace.

[@jeanogston2147]

You have done so well to be with your Mum and care for her as you did. She must have been very peaceful to have you around. Many thanks for your sincere and touching video. Love and blessings.

[@melannpurl]

Diane I am so sorry for the loss of your mum. Sending love to you 💜

[@allieshaw2531]

Hi Diane. So sorry for your loss and thank you for your raw video. I am a Professional Organizer and my Mom was my first client, encouraging me to get my business going when she was dying from cancer back in 2007. Self care is super important, you're right. I did regular massages and walks in the forest, time by myself to regroup. We were able to work through her possessions as she got weaker and weaker and it gave me a new perspective on how we value our things. Take good care and may your Mom rest in peace. I look forward to watching your downsizing journey.

[@Turtleneck07]

You've been in my thoughts. Those of us who have lost our mothers understand how hard it is. Continue to take care of yourself. Glad to see you again!

[@maribethwhiting7114]

Diane, I am so so sorry! I just lost my parents not too long ago. My mom had dementia also and that's so hard to go through. My prayers are with you and your family. ❤

[@practicalspirit90]

So sorry to hear this sad news, Diane. I lost my mother this year as well. It is so tough. I love that you celebrated your mum's love for life with a dinner at one of her favorite restaurants. A sweet way to remember her. Hugs.

[@angiecritcher9739]

I and my siblings were with my mother her last days in her body this spring. Thanks, Diane for sharing. Hospice is great at helping us to take the fear and mystery and distance out of the process.

[@christinanoel765]

You’re a wonderful daughter. I’m very sorry for the loss on your mom.

[@bonnieinthespirit6373]

I’m so sorry for your loss of your mom!! She was a lovely person!!! She will be missed❤❤❤❤❤!!

[@katjaoosterbos6088]

Dear Diane, My condolences on the loss of your mother. I was with my father and held his hand when he passed away. As sad as it was, I also thought it was very beautiful and special. A big hug! Lots of love ❤️❤️❤️

[@sharonbest4983]

Dear Diane, I am so so sorry to hear about your Mum's passing. Based on your photos of her she seem to be filled with joy and fun to be with! Remember self-care is also being with yourself and allowing for the deep cry. Over and over. Grief is the receipt after loving someone so deeply. In those deep moments if you allow it, you'll realize they're still here with you and the love is just greater. My heart goes out to you, it's not easy at all. My prayers to you and your family.

[@normahenley5834]

I'm so very sorry about the loss of your sweet Mum! Please take care of yourself and know that your followers are here for you. Take all the time you need, dear Diane. Sending hugs, hygge, light, and love.

[@connierhoden5685]

You have my sympathy on the loss of your mom.😢 It’s so hard to lose our close family members.❤

[@taraparson]

I am so sorry for your loss, Diane. Praying for comfort for you. ❤

[@elissaewing3363]

Oh, Diane, I am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing with us and please take all the time you need. I’ll be holding you and your family in the light. Please feel free to be spontaneous and film as you go. I’d love to see as long videos of decluttering as you please to share. I find it helpful to body double along, so the longer the better. You are such a bright light and we appreciate your sharing with us. Wishing you comfort, peace, and support in this difficult time.

[@elainecrise1999]

So sorry for the loss of your Mom. No matter how old we are it is always hard when our Mom passes away. Keep all the precious memories of her in your heart, and she will always be with you.

[@elizabethbenson1557]

Diane, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Mum. This community has grown to know your Mum through you and I thank you for that. Just like you, she was a bright light and I always enjoyed the content that included her. I am sending you my love and since I can't give you an actual hug, I will hold you closely in my prayers. 💜

[@DianeinDenmark]

Thank you, Liz!

[@kelmar36]

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I'm so glad that you got to be there with your mom.

[@janeb3024]

You owe none of us any explanation. You owe yourself kindness. ❤

[@barbarashort9304]

Dear Diane, I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. My brothers and I took care of our Mom with the help of hospice care, so I understand what you have been through. You, your family, and especially your dear Mother, are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love from the USA.❤

[@pamelafoster]

Thank you for your generosity in creating a space for me to share in your grief journey. Love,hugs and sympathy from Canada ❤

[@jenniferroy6288]

I’m so sorry. Thank you for being here with us, as we will be here for you.

[@clairegore8059]

So sorry, lovely Diane, have been thinking of you so often, we knew where you were at and what you were about in Auld Reekie and sending you LOADS of love and heartfelt wishes xxxxx

[@karenpatton8850]

Diane, I’m so sorry for your loss. May all your decluttering for your move go smoothly.🤗🙏🏻

[@iamlu18]

Diane, I'm so very sorry about the loss of your Mum. Thank you for trusting us with something so close to your heart. We are here to support you in any way that you and your family need. Thoughts and prayers and virtual hugs...

[@eileencarroll6418]

I am so sorry for your pain and loss. I see how it affects you. 💜💜💜💜💜💜 My sister became very ill right after Christmas and she passed in February. I was totally unprepared for the process of decline, especially cognitive decline. And I was not prepared for the physical, mental and emotional stress of the formal wake and funeral process; and I was not prepared to allow myself to experience the deep depression from loss and how the structure of the whole family is shifting due to the loss of my sister as the matriarchal head of the family. I feel cast adrift. I appreciate that there is so much more involved than just decluttering stuff. You mentioned a few areas in your video and I am glad to hear you will address some in future videos. Please take your time and only dive into difficult areas when you are fully ready. I will be ready to listen whenever you are ready to share. We have plenty of time. No pressure. The time will be right when the time is right and not before. Glad to hear that your self care habits are kicking in to keep you going. Go you. Also glad to hear you had a nice time in South Korea. Your ability to go with the flow of your flight delay reminded me how equipped you are to deal with all sorts of unexpected bumps in the road. And the loss of your Mum is a big bump in the road. Your ability to adjust and move forward is impressive. I feel like I have not coped as well here even though it is what it is and no one is judging me. I also feel ready to get back on track with routines and systems. I feel like I am slowly climbing out of a deep, dark hole. I feel more intense "I don't want to" days now than any other time in my life. I am very interested in your coping methods. I also hope that you gain comfort and peace in your mourning and recovery process. Sending you virtual hugs... 💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@jackiebowen6239]

You are so loved, Diane. My hope is that you feel this and it comforts. My heart is full thinking of you. Thank you for taking time to include us at this time in your life. 💙

[@Mayfrancisxavier]

Oh, I love that photo of your mum at the end. Makes me miss my mum who I haven’t lived near since late 90s. 😢😢

[@AnnaRaselius]

Thank you for this video. I understand things are tough and I am sorry about the loss of your mum. I do appreciate and look forward to what we will see later from you. I have cleared out my parents home and then more recently my mom's apartment when she could no longer live on her own anymore. It gives you a new perspective on things.❤

[@GreyeyedBeauty]

Dearest Diane, my heart is with you❤❤❤. You are so brave sharing those intimate feelings and events with us. I really appreciate that. Have been thinking and praying for you all this time. So happy you're back!

[@inspiredbynatureinspiredby5586]

Sending my condolences. I lost my dad in July 2020 and my companion of twelve years in February 2023. There are no words honestly. I will say allow the grieving process to unfold naturally❤

[@DianeinDenmark]

Thank you, that is great advice! 🙏🏼😊

[@karencompton5926]

Dear, Dear Diane, I don't know what to say. Your precious Mum, I'm so, so sorry. Thank you for sharing your news, it was a difficult video to make, but you know we all appreciate your chats. You're always there for us, and I hope you feel that now that you need us, we are here for you too. Blessings of peace and strength as you get back into your stride. Lots of love xx

[@Beth1300]

I just lost my mum at 69. I never expected to be without both my parents before I turned 45.

[@kristinabooker1021]

I am sitting here in the family home, with my Dad who is not expected to see September. So this video was so special. We are all here and want him to have love, and peace for his last days. But we don't want him to lose "Dad" not the physical essence of him. So, I would love your next video.

[@rebeccam1027]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your lovely mom. She was a delight. It’s so nice that she was lovingly cared for. And yes. That self care while grieving is so important. Take good care.

[@tuttsclumpcottage7911]

Sincere heartfelt condolences to you and your family on the loss of your precious Mum. ❤

[@kdee4611]

So sorry for your loss Diane. I shall always remember your Mum with a lovely smile on her face 💜

[@SarahHarris-z1g]

Much love Diane❤ losing a parent it’s so difficult I’m thinking of you and your family❤

[@katiebellejohnson2688]

Thank you for sharing your mother with us in your videos. She was truly a delight! ❤ She continues to shine through you. Sending hugs. 😘

[@Luckygirl280]

Diane- sending so much love and comfort from the middle of the United States. This was such a heartfelt, loving video and I wanted to put my arms around you and give you a hug. What a brave video to share so close to a tough time. You are loved! Thanks for sharing pictures of your mom and taking time to let us be there with you. A million hugs and blessings coming at you! 💖

[@pattik8335]

Dear Diane, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Mum. I hope you see winks from her that bring both a tear and a smile. You've been missed and I look forward to your upcoming videos. ❤

[@susanhines-brigger8241]

I'm so sorry, Diane. Losing a parent is so tough. Just like you always tell us, make sure to be gentle with yourself. Sending big hugs your way.

[@stephanieinglett8569]

I have been wondering what happened to you. 😊 I never think to look at anybody's community tabs. I am so sorry about your mother. I am 72 and my mother died in 1995 and I miss her every day. I talke to her just in case she can hear me. And no I'm not crazy. I have missed you.

[@Christine-y1u]

Diane - I just came in to say that Icreally love you. Been following you for 5 years. You help me through the 3 years I helped my mum until she died. You helped me so very much. Take care Gabrielle from Hamburg

[@e.dillon2611]

A great big hug, Diane. So glad you got to spend those last precious days with your Mum❤❤❤❤

[@marymohr9918]

I am so sorry, Diane, for your immense loss. I’m glad you were able to be there for her at the end. Sending you many prayers for peace and comfort.

[@ms.kristin6909]

Prayers for you, sweet Diane, that God will comfort and strengthen you as you remember and honor your Mom & Dad. Your Mama was so blessed to have you and your brother. I know she will be watching you and so very proud. 💕

[@margaretfletcher648]

I know how you feel. My dad passed away last year. Six years ago, when he had a stroke and could go home, we had to clean out his home. We did some renovations to sell the home. It was one of the most difficult times in my life. I certainly have a different perspective on decluttering my own home.

[@paulhetherington-s7c]

God Bless you Diane. So sorry for your loss.