reddit confessions are a different BREED......

[@melissa_petersss5121]

I feel personally attacked

[@theoneandonlyizzybizzy]

ABAHAH

[@debsmikle]

u wont escape me melissa

[@Gross_dreams]

@@debsmikle wth haha

[@sunsetsecurity1902]

😂😂😂😂

[@mel1128]

Me too… and I’m subscribed 😭😭

[@debsmikle]

YALL LIKE THE SKETCHES YES OR NO 🙈??

[@NaNaydo]

Yesss

[@The-Collectors-Corner]

Yea duh( btw plea like my comment 🥺👉👈

[@yahboikylo29]

Haven’t watched it but hell yea probably❤️❤️

[@NaNaydo]

I didn’t watch the video I just wanted to be first 🤪

[@pattycake_1]

Yes

[@Idolbottle]

The dad was definitely giving “best selling author” vibes. Like, “she has a PHD in my sarcasm,” like why he making the scene so descriptive like that?!

[@debsmikle]

thankyouuuu😭 and when he said "i received an eye-roll" i was like okkkk pack it up YA novelist!

[@supersucks]

He describing the scene like it was the prologue of the story. SLAYYYY

[@kimberleywilliams7802]

IKR!? like, Sir, just write a YA book already or something, I'll eat that up rn thank you.

[@lia-rh7qj]

not us simping for the dilf

[@astaristare]

Facts

[@bethanybrooks158]

The therapy one sounds like something he should be discussing with his new therapist and not Reddit. 😂

[@kachoweski]

💀

[@Ella-mb5cq]

literally tho

[@salcvries]

Fr

[@Kokose]

to be honest, people usually see therapist once a week or every few weeks and reddit is there 24/7

[@YeeHaww]

@@Kokose yea but why was he gate keeping therapy 💀

[@linkinajar8676]

Nah the fact that her bf was MORE than comfortable with letting his gf STARVE because she got robbed? At that point leave him for your safety. Run, don’t walk, run.

[@bojuu]

no, no... i dont run.

[@TheSpacePlaceYT]

@@bojuu You swim, eh?

[@ruthscudder1246]

​@@TheSpacePlaceYT we fly

[@TheotherKirby]

​@@ruthscudder1246 we teleport

[@r3nlie]

@@TheotherKirby we evaporate

[@judithowusu2389]

Imagine calling to get therapy and the person on the line is like “Im sorry, call us back when you are TRAUMATIZED enough 🥰”

[@cherrychute5182]

kinda happens like that in CAHMS with the waitlists lol

[@noname9482]

In a way, that person would be helping you get closer to getting therapy! Because I certainly would be traumatized from that.

[@nbankole2024]

"if u like, we offer up our diamond, premium and platinum trauma packages buy 1 get none free :)"

[@aggressivechair94aggressiv80]

@@nbankole2024 I'll take a platinum package please! Only $19.99 right? Do you guys take card or would I have to come into the building to give you the cash.... I don't have enough trauma points unlocked yet to reach that level, but I can always speak to your manager.

[@cassienorwood8078]

Exactly! I think EVERYONE can benefit from therapy

[@jahzieljoynes6552]

I would bet my life on the fact that after girly left the restaurant, the boyfriend played victim and turned the entire story on his back to make her seem in the wrong

[@YeeHaww]

He seem the type idk but I feel it

[@YeeHaww]

And the “friends” she had even was against her wthhh I hope she dropped them all

[@YeeHaww]

She let him borrowed money and when she didn’t have none to buy some food her boyfriend and “friends” didn’t buy her none 💀💀 and just told her to eat his leftovers what kind of animal do they think she is 😭💀

[@cae2525]

I'm surprised the friends didn't buy her anything. If my friend got robbed I'd buy him a meal.

[@nergregga]

I hope it's ex boyfriend by now.

[@milkdealmonds3282]

THE DRAWINGS?? deb's got a side hustle in artistry now 😭

[@tiannaspencer1056]

that's what im sayingggg

[@debsmikle]

you already knowwww😏

[@Idolbottle]

@@debsmikle I for real thought you got that first one off of google or something- thats really good!

[@oliviaconifer]

@@debsmikle they were literally perfect!! also your dog is precious!

[@eti6232]

@@debsmikle we NEED a hair TUTORIAL ♡

[@samikay626]

“He said he had a good childhood” so did I. Then I realized I was emotionally and mentally abused by a teacher for 5 years. my mom having meltdowns because of her depression, dad in the hospital for months, and much more! Then I went to therapy, realized that no! It wasn’t all the happy! That ass made me so mad jeez.

[@aligoeswest]

imagine a parent that would listen to your frustration, actually reflect, and even write a REDDIT post to get a better understanding of their actions !!! he's a gold tier dad

[@charlotteemily146]

So many people would kill for a dad like that ( i would too since my dad is absent in my life ), i’m around the same age as that girl and she honestly just annoyed me since she thought her dad’s opinion on the relationship didn’t matter. Girl you are 14, a CHILD, your parents have every right to monitor your relationship and if they feel like something is up they have a right to step in, that is their job.

[@humanbean4037]

Bare minimum

[@simply-__-sasha9]

@@humanbean4037 it’s not bare minimum to ask Reddit lol

[@humanbean4037]

@@simply-__-sasha9 u right

[@HyaenidaeAreRad]

@@humanbean4037 Whole lot better than some parents.

[@Alwayshere5031]

Not only does the girl who’s bf didn’t pay for her meal need to dump the bf but she also needs to dump her friends, because what friends are those who could just sit there and watch their friend pick the scrapes off of her bfs plate?!? 😀if that was my friend I would happily pay for their meal 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@onethatdoesart5650]

Fax, or at the very least split the meal in half if your hard on cash 😭 like if I care about you we're gonna be equally full or hungry 50/50 for sure

[@superg6787]

And they had the NERVE to say that she was the one being rude and in the wrong like huh???

[@Chxcobxby]

@@superg6787 Righttt

[@jigsawpiece8690]

Tbh if it was a stranger i would buy them some food literally insane i cant imagine not offering my friend a meal if they they got their purse stolen 🧍🏾‍♀️

[@Vesperad0]

In my opinion I saw the five day thing as a slight overreaction for me it would've been simple enough waiting five or more days to be paid back, and then when I heard the robbing part my feelings changed. It's not polite to get up and leave when your bf is, whether he realizes it or not, being a jerk but it's perfectly polite for him to say she could eat his scraps? Paying a meal for himself with her money?? Those friends must've been originally his friend group or something, I wouldn't know

[@Idolbottle]

Deb: we are keeping it PG in here. Also Deb: *names her fan base “debussies”*

[@debsmikle]

IMMA DEBBY BEARS NEXT TIME

[@NightOwlSG]

But I like debussies lmaoo feeling special 😭

[@Idolbottle]

@@debsmikle what if you did something with the word “inDEBted?” The definition of indebted is “owing gratitude for a service or favor” and we are all inDEBted to you because of the amazing content you have given us. We are inDEBted/inDEBt✨

[@DesolateAura]

@@Idolbottle but you don't even pronounce the b in that 😟

[@Idolbottle]

@@DesolateAura true lol. Maybe make sure to pronounce the B so its clear that its a pun xd

[@ChmuraZMontBlanc]

not the dad literally giving his daughter A PERMISSION TO DATE AT THE AGE OF 14 while also making sure that she is safe in a cool and not too invasive way and her being ungrateful 💀

[@HobieInTheBox]

You do realise you're talking about a child, right? What did you expect, a response that a wise, old 64 year old woman would respond with? Jeez Also "a" permission? It's not that weird to start dating at 14, that's often when kids start to get interested in relationships. They're going through puberty

[@ChmuraZMontBlanc]

@@HobieInTheBox my comment was influenced by how I was when I was 14, which was not that long ago. I did not have a permission to date and I would really appreciate that kind of effort from a parent, no need to "jeez" at me

[@kaityr9693]

It's such a tough situation because teenagers are dumb AND horribly mean, and that dad is doing so good making sure she's got freedom while being safe. I hope he has someone to give him a hug and encouragement. What she said hurts even if she doesn't mean it and may regret it some day.

[@yinyangbtsorblackpink6757]

@@HobieInTheBox I think a „child“ that is 14 should realize not everyone has a dad supportive like this and that he is protecting them she is just spoiled that’s it bc the dad is way too nice thats why a brat like her don’t wanna take a no as an answer

[@ereddog]

@@yinyangbtsorblackpink6757 hey bro it aint that serious 💀we dont know nothing about this girl or her dad from one little reddit post, calm tf down with the name-calling

[@moccisimo]

It's heartbreaking how many ppl asking AITA are very sweet and are used, gaslit, etc. They're usually being taken advantage of or purposefully misunderstood and when they don't want to any more they're treated like the villain smh :/

[@Judy_moody1]

Yes i remember asking that because a kid at school broke my inhaler as a "joke" in the middle of one of my asthma attacks I got angry I told a teacher and she said that I shouldn't have gotten angry I had to tell the teacher the next day cuz i had to be rushed to the hospital AND I FELT SO BAD FOR GETTING ANGRY ! BECAUSE since the kid who broke the inhaler was popular alot of the kids started telling me I was in the wrong and that I was rude and arrogant btw all I said to the kid was that he was rude a peice of crap and garbage I just passed out after that .if u want the details like why he broke my inhaler and stuff just tell u want them and I'll give them

[@Judy_moody1]

I still feel a little bad for calling him those names

[@aliciadeadlydaisy7543]

@@Judy_moody1 I totally get how you’d be angry & hurt, the kid shouldn’t have been touching your things and definitely shouldn’t have broken your inhaler that’s pretty messed up. He should’ve been reprimanded for that instead of you. But just remember in a couple years you’ll likely never have to see or deal with these people again! 😀

[@enviisyk]

either that or they seem like the worst people ever

[@Judy_moody1]

@@aliciadeadlydaisy7543 thx sadly in 2 weeks schools starting again and hes in my class 😔

[@sol_117]

I'm not a psychologist yet I'm just starting the career but the fact that person said "he makes therapy seen so casual and easy" it really hurts, like yes! Therapy SHOULD be seen as something easy and casual to do, like therapy is not something that you need some kind of requirements to get, you just need to want to get therapy and that's all, you don't need to have childhood trauma or any kind of trauma and the worst thing about it is that most people don't get therapy thanks to that harmful stereotype, because then people thinks that their mental health is not struggling or that they don't have any kind of trauma so they shouldn't get it and that's why we have so many teenagers and adults with mental health problems now. My point is that if you think that you need therapy or if you want to get therapy for whatever reason then just get it! It's your mental health and your life, don't ever let other people to tell you that you're selfish or a copycat just for wanting therapy.

[@kiivies]

you took the words right out of my mouth!

[@sonjasocks]

FR I got soo annoyed to that guy bc trauma is not a competition and he was kinda making it out to seem that way. Like “Nuh uh you have had an easy childhood so you shouldn’t have therapy”?? No, that’s not how it works. I have had/is having a normal pretty easy life and yet I still have problems with friends, school, stress, and slight burning out issues. Hardly anyone has a perfect life (if anyone does) where they wouldn’t benefit from therapy. Not to mention that the bf probably got the idea of doing therapy from the first guy and he wasn’t actually “copying” him anyways…🙄🙄 I don’t ship them lol

[@xerilaun]

Agreed

[@AneXineohp]

Exactly! Like, the fact he actually postponed his own session just for them makes me feel awkward, like maybe that's a reason he needs to get therapy because of getting walked on like that. I dunno; simply put, no one needs the saddest story of the year to get therapy (ik that sounds so judgemental, but it's truly just annoying when ppl gatekeep stuff surrounding mental health).

[@AneXineohp]

@@sonjasocks Whilst I wouldn't use the word "ship," I definitely don't think they're a good match, or at least it's kinda super toxic. Anyways, I agree 100% that the BF most definitely just mulled over therapy after OP telling him about it. Like, it's nothing short of normal, even *rational,* to think about getting therapy, especially after talking about it.

[@iferlyf8172]

The 14 year old's date refusing to even be seen by her dad makes me think he's definitely much older than her

[@donttalkaboutbruno8502]

That’s what I thought

[@monroerobbins7551]

Yeah, or he’s a criminal. Or someone the dad knows. Either one, hell naw.

[@tobiwonkanogy2975]

kids these days are hella anxious and its not out of the realm of possibility. Especially if that kid had trouble with their own parents. what's weird is the girl sticking up for someone she would barely know .i remember being young and short sighted.

[@juliannze]

And the fact the girl didn’t even ask him to show up and just cancelled it without explaining is also fishy

[@Mistxiii_]

Yeah. Immediate red flag

[@2ajix895]

Not only is the boyfriend a red flag but also the friends that wouldn’t pay for her meal or at least share theirs??? Like she even could pay them back as soon as she has her card

[@Ich-Existiere-Nicht]

It's so disgusting they wouldn't invite her, like? If like five people go eating out and want to split the bill, fine, but the idea that they'd be so obsessed over it that they couldn't invite her once? That's so selfish honestly.

[@coochieflipflops2700]

Those were probably not her friends but the boyfriends friends...birds of a feather flock together or wtv they say

[@tinanana-]

​​@@coochieflipflops2700I was just about to say this. Because no one who is not biased would side with the bf

[@AshudwayAtakDeng-lt4sn]

its their money? they get to do with it not hers

[@yes-si9xi]

​@@AshudwayAtakDeng-lt4snhe owes her; she definitely has a right to use his money

[@yeahno8707]

The fact that the last girl even told her friends and bf about being robbed, is beyond me. Drop them and get your money back at a small claims court💖

[@aichitoshiki1321]

Agree

[@kino_fuji8296]

Fr he told her to not to worry then tell her to eat off of his plate🙄

[@sparkleytxt4041]

Tbh Kinda weird how her friends didn’t offer to buy her a meal either

[@kino_fuji8296]

@@sparkleytxt4041 unless they didn’t know about it that is strange

[@YeeHaww]

@@sparkleytxt4041 yea I would never let my friends just sit there with an empty plate while me and my others friends are all enjoying meals like they all sound bad drop all of them

[@xploringplaces1100]

“your a good dad”……”and a good writer to…” had me rolling on the floor laughing 😭 NAH BUT FR HE WAS SO GOOD AT WRITING IT WAS LIKE A BOOK

[@maggiehogan009]

NAUR FRRR

[@poisonkinelle]

FRRR

[@PicklBerry]

FRR

[@mygsdaughter]

RIGHT ??? IDEK

[@akemimoon5405]

*you're

[@missgorl2897]

y’all let’s just take a moment to appreciate how she called us her *debussies* I feel so special rn 😭😭

[@dorisfloorezgorgeous]

literally 😩😩

[@theajsquad6085]

fr

[@atomic_blonde.]

Yeeessss 😫😫

[@sxftpixie]

frrr 😩

[@carloshall5544]

swaht im sayin

[@hattiefrances77]

“Is it bad that I would break up with somebody that did that to me?” OH NO NO NO NO it is *NOT* if you explained the situation of being robbed and then the man that owed you (who was also your boyfriend) really said oh well “starve then” like he owed ya and then told you no to getting food. I’m glad she left I would to

[@sugarpearl9781]

The therapy one had a happy ending! People gave him good advise and he’s now going to encourage his boyfriend to get therapy and talk to his own therapist about his fears and insecurities. I love a happy ending! 💕

[@goobersnoobert1]

Phew, that's good to know

[@clownrat5759]

Thank god! I was rooting for the BF to dump OP’s sorry ass for how they reacted. Imagine thinking someone is COPYING YOU GETTING THERAPY. how fucking self centered!!!

[@snazzical]

ayy i'm glad, and hats off to his boyfriend for being so patient LMAO it isn't as if i'd break up with my partner if they said what the MC said to me but i know that i definitely would get pissed

[@gurogoth]

Advice* actually

[@reagann2563]

@@gurogoth nobody cares that much about a typo* actually.

[@zaidamatos461]

To the last one: She not in the wrong for being upset. She was robbed which is something very scary or even traumatizing. The boyfriend was not understanding and the a-hole. She gave him money too, so the least he could do is pay for her meal OR order something for the both of them. Idk if I would breaking up with him for this but if is how he usually treats her then that will be the final straw. (Also the friends need to be dropped, how are they siding with him)

[@z0mb13.sl4y3r]

A lot of people’s friends are actually scared to tell them the truth, they just agree with everything

[@yourmotherhatesyou641]

Yes. I almost think this is a sign of what he would be like in the future too. He clearly lacks empathy, and I wouldn't let it slide.

[@Bread_bread01]

For real, and it's so weird why the friends didn't order and pay for her meal too

[@AdoreableGaming]

drop the friends AND dump the boyfriend 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️how they letting you sit there with no plate?!!Like nobody could’ve offered to at least SHARE? She just had to get her boyfriends scraps as if she’s a dog?🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@keepitmia]

i would've also broken up with him after that. how do u just let someone, your own gf, watch you enjoy ur meal after she just got ROBBED?? that's so inconsiderate and rude i-

[@skating_scooter]

You falling for the author father was the most deb thing you'll ever do 💀

[@debsmikle]

i thought i was getting better ☠☠

[@AneXineohp]

@@debsmikle It's reasonable, very reasonable.

[@skating_scooter]

@@debsmikle girl not anytime soon 💀

[@peppermintspice5873]

@@debsmikle well…it was gonna happen again at some point

[@cynwashere]

@@debsmikle naw girl you still need improvement 💀💀

[@svenskaela1234561]

I had a friend who got mad that I started therapy. We were online friends for years at this point both of us were aiming for art school and meet on one of those art forums. We would talk everyday and she would constant tell me about her problems l at the time I was a huge pushover since I was being abused at home and a way to escape the abuse was to just be quiet and do as I was told regardless of my feelings so I never told her no or anything like that. Apparently bcs I live in a country that has free health care and she didn’t (aka US of A) I wasn’t allowed to go to therapy since she can’t afford it. I think that’s when I realized how toxic she was I told her I’m going since I need to deal with the abuse I was going trough and wanted help and she threatened me with ending her life and telling me it’s my fault. She has done this many times and each time I would freak out and not know what to do since I didn’t know where she lived or how to contact anyone to help her. This time I was done I told her to go ahead and just blocked her I could care less if she is still alive or not bcs who tf does that to a friend.

[@r0ckz706]

I’m so glad you left her toxic ass omg I’m so proud of you that was Def the right move, I HATE HAAATEE it when people guilt trip people with suicide it’s such a shitty thing to do bro

[@chamberofsecrets9647]

let me tell you that btch probably is still alive. ppl who act like that and treat people like shit and the=resten them eith suicide are narcistic. narcisists dont kts that easily

[@May-Bae]

Nah using suicide as a manipulative tactic is wild… so glad you dropped her

[@Ich-Existiere-Nicht]

That's called "emotional threatening" and it's one of the most toxic things anyone could ever do. I hope things are better for you now and I wish you the best. And you did the right thing to cut her off. People who threat others with killing themselves don't know how terrible that is.

[@kelandryyemrot1387]

One of my psychology professors pointed out that EVERYONE should see a therapist. It's not possible, partially because there aren't enough therapists, but EVERYONE can benefit from therapy. Therapy isn't just for trauma. Therapy can help you better understand your environment, your relationships, and your own thoughts and behaviors. Therapists can help you with communication with others, reducing stress in your life, developing coping strategies and working with your weaknesses, understand other people's viewpoints, deal with grief, manage anger or toxic behaviors, and more. And best of all, your therapist can tell you whether you're the asshole or not! There isn't a single person who couldn't benefit from a good therapy session.

[@turddude]

Yess I’m glad someone spoke abt this, there is this stigma around therapy but it’s not just for “mentally sick” anyone can benifit from it, venting and having someone to listen and respectfully give advice is a wonderful thing even if ur fucking richest

[@_lexi]

i hated therapy so much, and i agree that everyone Theoretically can benefit from it but it also isnt for everyone

[@turddude]

@@_lexi definately, not for everyone but the stigma shouldn't be the reason you don't go to one. very good point

[@beansworth5694]

The function of a therapist has been fulfilled by others in an individual's environment since forever. It's not the same as someone who has training in how the mind works on a technical level, but a good mentor with a healthy dose of compassion, active listening skills, and experience is a substitute that shouldn't be scoffed at for those who don't have that option. I still think people should have access to therapy universally, I'm just putting this out there for the benefit of maybe opening some people up to the opportunities in their lives that might be neglected because certain criteria about them aren't met. This isn't meant to be an endorsement to just make a mentor/confidant out of just anybody- they have to be willing and able to hear your struggles without using them against you to even come close to fulfilling this role.

[@StarStarPlayz]

I have about 4 years of pent up rage, I need to let it out but I know that it would only hurt me worse, (fear of therapy, psych wards, hospitals, doctors, ect)

[@terrortax]

I hate when people feel like they have the “right” to be in a delivery room. The only person who has the right to be in there is the pregnant person delivering and any necessary doctors. All other people should be invited, INCLUDING the father.

[@tata8495]

I don't understand your comment. All other people should be invited but only the one giving birth & doctors have the right to be there?

[@hamildiggthonysauce]

@@tata8495 correct. what dont you understand?

[@tata8495]

@@hamildiggthonysauce So the other people should be invited but don't have the right to be there?

[@terrortax]

@@tata8495 yes - in other words, nobody should be allowed in the room unless invited (besides necessary doctors)

[@tata8495]

@@terrortax oh thx

[@viljaurvik6103]

Fun fact: The whole «checking if youre eligible for therapy” thing is like actually a thing in my country. You straight up can be refused help if they think you’re not sick enough, and the waiting lists can be yeeears long. A lot of people die just waiting for therapy. And even crisis help is hard to get, if you’re suicidal they likely won’t get you committed before you actually attempt, sometimes if they don’t think your attempt was bad enough they don’t do anything then either. It’s insane

[@shelbyzimmerman]

holy fucking shit. i would’ve kms-ed in your country!!! i’ve never attempted but without therapy i probably would have… that shit is CRAZY!!!!!

[@bbt5823]

Is there no option to pay for therapy in your country? In the US people pay for their own therapy unless they have insurance.

[@Anna-pj8te]

Where are you from?

[@paum7395]

Finland?

[@marinaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

Gosh u cant be serious where are u from???

[@Caroline-tb8eh]

Saying "going to therapy should be like getting a check up or going to the dentist" was actually a really good observation. I never thought of it that way but it makes a lot of sense, someone's mental health can be just as susceptible to illness or stress as their physical health.

[@abbybrickley9674]

The therapy one…… YIKES!!! Telling someone that they’re not “messed up enough” to go to therapy is something that should be discussed with her therapist bc that is toxic

[@Israel_Augustine]

I thought it was a guy.

[@ilyrae]

@@Israel_Augustine it was

[@madi_is_very_cool]

Dw they had an update, They ended up talking it over and they ended up encouraging their bf to get therapy and talking to their therapist ab their own insecurities and behavior!!

[@stayhungry7509]

@@Israel_Augustine they are both men

[@snuggleawards9583]

The last story tho, I can't imagine being around someone so toxic that they will not pay you back EVEN THO YOU GOT ROBBED and won't even pay for your meal, THEN GO AND ORDER SOMETHING BIG INFRONT OF YOU and say, "oh I can't afford to buy you food just sit there and starve" 😘😍

[@yasminxx9329]

Frrr tho drop his ass asap

[@izzy-ky9yz]

they need to drop that baggage asap. delete the whole relationship

[@wienersoldier]

BRO EXACTLY They borrowed money that haven't payed back yet AND refused to buy them a meal, that's an INSTANT break up. They need new friends too for thinking that getting up and leaving was an overreaction.

[@raerohan4241]

I can't get over the friends' reactions. Like, it's one thing to have a toxic SO - it's so common that you basically go "oh, here's another" when you hear about it - but how the hell did an entire group of people she think _she_ was the one in the wrong? Even if they didn't have the full story of her getting robbed and him owing her money, how did they think it was okay for the SO to get a nice dinner and toss her scraps as if she were a begging dog?

[@rachelxu8229]

@@raerohan4241 I agree, I couldn't believe that none of her friends offered to pay for her meal or just have everyone pitch in a little...

[@Okiee_dokiee2]

THE TEA IN THESE CONFESSIONS IS MORE FUN THAN ANY TWITTER SCANDAL

[@F3L1XLUVR]

FRRRR LOLLL

[@F3L1XLUVR]

FRRRR LOLLL

[@ilxvs]

@@F3L1XLUVR agreed so much she commented twice

[@Whothefuckisgrey]

@@ilxvs Go to jail!! No.. PRISON 💀💀😂

[@Okiee_dokiee2]

@ilxvs SHE WAS PASSIONATE-

[@tiannagraham5210]

the last one threw me for a loop bc at first i was like “a relationship shouldn’t be so transactional and you shouldn’t demand someone to pay you back like that unless it was a large amount of money” i’ve had friends demand i pay them back for meals (when we go out to eat and it’s just easier to pay all together) when it’s easier to just go back and forth paying for both meals (it’s not perfectly even but we were both financially comfortable and i don’t mind it not being totally even). it just feels so transactional to keep a tally of how much i owe you. of course it’s not right to take advantage of a friend’s kindness and just be a money leech but that wasn’t the scenario. anyway, i feel like this situation is completely different. this person got ROBBED and their bf won’t even get them a meal??? i get being broke but goddamn why even go to dinner if you’re that broke? at that point, stay at home and figure out your life. also why do ppl date ppl they obviously don’t like. it does not feel at all like the bf likes his partner one bit 🙄

[@kennedywatts5221]

The therapist one rlly had me on the edge of my seat. Like yes of course u have trauma but that doesn’t give u the right to say someone who’s had a supposedly good childhood doesn’t “need” therapy. It’s for anyone who’s interested and yes there r always things to improve. To me it seems like HES the one undermining his bf. and for all he knows maybe he just inspired him to finally get a therapist to, it doesn’t mean he never had the thought of having one before. Sorry for the paragraph, luv you deb

[@jigsawpiece8690]

I've always said regardless of childhood everyone should go to therapy after a friend of mine started I might go as well. I am amusing the bf started to think about some things in his life after OP mentioned going 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@intakvr8758]

Exactly!! Just because one had a good childhood doesnt mean that their mental health is okay…

[@hana0647]

why does the guy in the therapy one remind me of my friend when i was going through something like she was getting therapy for the first time and then someone in my family died and i had a breakdown in my exam and this girl acted like i infringed on her rights of being the mentally ill friend

[@kuyoshie]

omg ikr 😭 and it’s also the fact that even dealing with a person who went through trauma (and, i can assume, discussed it with them) can be really taxing on their own mental health. why is OP so against his BF getting a safe space? god i was so mad when deb was reading that post.

[@malakadel6243]

This hurt me personally cause on the surface level i too seem to have a good childhood, a perfect one even and for a long time i thought so too I'd be like i have this and that so i have no right to be sad about such and such but then when I took my mental health seriously i started to realize many issues in my childhood and the way i was raised that contributed to me having to deal with anxiety and depression among other things now and if it wasn't for me taking that step even though I thought everything was fine i wouldn't have gotten better. So i agree with the friends,you have no right to tell someone wether or not to get therapy.

[@lunamoonlight7068]

Deb: “we are keeping this channel pg “ Also deb: *reads dirty wattpad stories rates thrist traps makes dirty wattpad stories* (Dad can u come home now i’m famous)

[@Velvet62211]

And calls us Debussy’s 😭😭

[@debsmikle]

WAIT HOLD ON HOLD ON

[@ghostlysquids]

@@debsmikle GOT CAUGHT LMAOO

[@plateofpasta835]

@@debsmikle GOT CAUGHT IN 4KKKKK 🤳🏾

[@arianananana1]

@@debsmikle got caught lackin 📸

[@ruskov5685]

The last one i must admit i didnt think such a horrible and disgusting behaviour was even possible.

[@elizabethboone8240]

The dad is correct to meet the people his 14 y/o daughter dates, teens are so impressionable and could easily get caught up with an older guy

[@CursedCaptainGaming]

I felt it was a little bit overbearing personally, maybe he could just ask for a description of him or why he doesn’t want to meet him

[@NoiseDay]

@@CursedCaptainGaming it's not overbearing if she's 14.

[@CursedCaptainGaming]

@@NoiseDay ah yes, if your daughter is 14, you are not legally allowed to ask her any questions about the guy she’s with

[@lilbuttfart7652]

@@CursedCaptainGaming it’s for safety, she could be going on a date with a senior as an 8th grader and that’s not safe

[@CursedCaptainGaming]

@@lilbuttfart7652 That’s not safe I agree, that’s why you should just ASK her questions about him, you’ll probably know if she’s lying too.

[@susanedwards47]

"he made therapy seem so casual and easy to do" isn't that what it should be?? isn't that what therapists hope their patients feel like??

[@maumaumai]

Ur right but also i feel like for HIM it was probably hard to go to therapy And its hard to talk abt ur trauma so i feel like thats what he meant yk

[@mybittersweetme]

Maybe after a while, but when you've lived through very traumatic and painful experiences, reliving them in therapy can be extremely hard to do even if you find the right therapist for you. The healing process is not the same for everybody and it's not necessarily easy or enjoyable. It's like saying that someone who is on rehabilitation for a broken hip should find their sessions easy and casual just because the person with a wrist sprain finds them easy and casual. The pain and complexity levels (plus the person receiving the therapy) are just not the same.

[@corinaferrara1164]

God I hate hate hate when people gate keep mental health. This person is either extremely immature or weaponizing their trauma or both

[@Papasmurf47829]

I understand what some of these replies mean but people have different ways to cope and react to trauma. Not everyone feels like it’s hard to go to therapy. Perhaps that’s what the situation was for the guy

[@milaklipic7075]

@@Papasmurf47829 mental health and trauma do not justifie your actions. This is why generational trauma happens with kids who had bad parents. The parents are traumatized, justify their actions and abuse their kids through that. Same situation with this person. They're justifying their actions by having a rough childhood.

[@s3rastars]

I love deb's little giggle it's so cute 😭

[@samaraangeline5779]

right!!

[@des_elise]

Fr ❤

[@wherethequietbeingsgo]

Agreed💕

[@lunar_lights1303]

I was just about to comment that lol

[@mttex2628]

Imagine you feel horrible and feel like you need to talk about something, so you call a therapist and they’re like “Sorry, but i can’t give therapy. Come back when you have a little more, mmm, trauma.”

[@nomoretwitterhandles]

About the BF Going To Therapy one: I have had a much, much, much worse childhood than the guy who posted that AITA. But I am NOT going to gatekeep therapy. In fact, I actively ADVOCATE for "normal" people to go to therapy because it is HEALTHY. Therapists and psychiatrists help us understand how to process our emotions (and for others, our trauma) in a HEALTHY and POSITIVE way, and I think more people should really learn about how to do this stuff! And just because someone had a "good childhood" does NOT mean they're mentally stable. Plenty of people who end their lives have had a "good childhood" or have "seemed normal". It is NOT okay to tell someone not to get therapy just because you have trauma they don't have. I knew someone IN MY OWN FAMILY who passed away from a sudden pill overdose, and they were an incredibly cheerful and "normal" person! You NEVER know what someone else is going through, EVER. And it is fucking INSULTING that someone would think that way about other people. So yes, OP is 100% the asshole in that situation. NEVER tell people NOT to get therapy, and shame on him for thinking that way!!!!

[@shutup....]

i had a pretty depressing childhood and never got a therapist, my friend got a therapist, and from what i heard my problems were worse?? idrk, but literally had no issues, its helped her so good for her.

[@JustRaven00]

They're making this whole therapy thing all about them too. I'm glad their friends know that's messed up. Good friends let you know when you're wrong.

[@bgggg4168]

Uhm ur right and all but let's not compare traumas

[@cupcatte]

@@bgggg4168 no ones comparing trauma

[@pumppumpking]

@@cupcatte they literally said “i have a much, much, much worse childhood than OP”…

[@Kashloo]

If your partner says "oh you can eat the scraps off my plate" instead of just like, ordering appetizers to share, nah. I'd toss his food on him, flip him off and leave. Like we're done, you're done.

[@aligoeswest]

THIS energy 💯

[@lol-wt3td]

If I had a girlfriend who was like that- Like it's done. We are done. Your DONE

[@tedsbutterflytattoo9532]

nah fr cuz wdym i can have your scraps when im literally ROBBED 💀

[@Graves933]

When I heard they were 14 and one didn't want to meet the parents my immediate thought was the "shy" one was probably older or was sketchy. As a parent you should never let your kids go off with someone you don't know, if anything happened you don't know anything about the stranger last with your child.

[@lilcia6237]

No because why was that dad’s confession actually good in terms of the writing 😭

[@NightOwlSG]

Fr like wtf?? It puts wattpad to shame lmaoo 😂

[@Idk-fy8pk]

Boi has been paying attention in English class😂

[@charlotteemily146]

@@NightOwlSG that’s not much of a comparison TBH

[@michelle-qg9td]

The Therapist Gatekeeper definitely has some unresolved envy from his traumatic childhood towards people who are able to openly express their needs and wants and having access to a safe space. While the Gatekeeper mentioned that he had therapy when he was younger, he claims it was just sort of like making a pros and cons list for each parent. Seeing his partner just being able to up and say "I think therapy would be good for me because I feel like I could work on a couple of things in my life" pisses him off because he wasn't able to have that in his childhood, and he probably couldn’t properly communicate his needs to his parents like his partner did to him so easily. The focus was on his parents and their divorce, who's fault this and this was, not on their child and how it was affecting them. The way the Gatekeeper reacted to his partner wanting therapy was definitely shitty, but I can see why he acted that way if he has never been able to resolve his childhood trauma from the divorce and has had to be a parent to his parents, rather than living life as a child and having his problems truly dealt with. Good on him for getting therapy now after all that time; he needs it. Keep doing these videos, I like Dylan’s reactions to r/AITA submissions as well, and you both have great things to say about the submissions. If you’d like, you should also look at and include some of the comments under the submissions (what other people are saying/think about the situation, and whether or not they’d deam the submittor the “a**hole”). Dylan did that in one of his videos and I liked seeing his reactions to what other people had to say/ just him reading the comments in general. Love your hair by the way, the blonde is super pretty! I have been debating whether or not I should get blonde colored braids, but I fear it may look weird on me. May I ask what type are they, and how did you get the pretty curls at the top? :) Have a great day!

[@angelab4077]

the curls at the top of her braids are from curling the ends and using a claw clip!! (half up half down style)

[@theasewell4037]

very well put, i completely agree.. you clearly have an amazing amount of emotional intelligence and empathy- this kind of response is what i hope to see from everyone, but rarely find, especially on the internet

[@michelle-qg9td]

@@angelab4077 thank u so much!!

[@michelle-qg9td]

@@theasewell4037 thank you so much, i totally agree. It's definitely easy to see the submitter of that as selfish, but it's important to see why they reacted that way. have a great day

[@YeeHaww]

@@michelle-qg9td yea everyone should be able to get therapy if they want to no one should be stopped because you think your trauma is bigger then theirs that just sounds selfish and bad

[@NaNaydo]

you’re the perfect person to do Reddit reactions I’m so glad you made this!!!

[@alainakelly8209]

same

[@lmxxq]

FRRR

[@hohoho2368]

Imagine not knowing Eugene 🤓

[@cloudysupreme9859]

@@hohoho2368 who..

[@-sincerelyaj9776]

Breaking the likes of 333 likes

[@Little_Lepus]

Your braids look like they're made of gold, and I am HERE FOR IT.

[@certified_l0ser]

The fact that her friends thought it was low of her her to get up and leave, and she should just be polite and stay there 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@hey-gp1oe]

Like those aren’t friends…

[@rootheoneandoni]

right, because it's rude to not stay and watch all your friends eat while you sit there starving

[@wienersoldier]

She DEF needs new friends

[@youhavebeengalaxyd9674]

and the fact that if the roles were reversed and she was the boyfriend whose girlfriend wouldnt pay them back, NO flack would have been given. almost guaranteed. it reeked to me personally of "well you should just be polite and stay (because it's more lady-like)"

[@syntheticsilkwood2206]

Those some fake ass friends she's got And also like the boyfriend is so inconsiderate like I would throw his meal on him if I was in her place

[@daisyodunze3350]

“The gf after eating a fresh bowl of oxygen for dinner” had me dying on the floor. I can’t Deb is soooo funny 😂

[@thapelosishi]

She’s way too funny for her own good😭😭😭

[@cutiepatootie3640]

Ain’t no way the friends WATCHED her being fed literal SCRAPS AND SLOP and didn’t say anything or even offer to pay for her. I really hope that she isn’t associated with any of those people anymore and I hope the next time she goes out to eat she buys herself a nice meal and posts it for her (supposed) ex to see because girl you best believe I would’ve done the same.. Edit: OMG I just checked this comment and it has 1.8K LIKES? Thank you so much :)

[@peep113]

AGREE. This story literally ruined my whole dayyy They must have been her bf's friends because there is no way real friends would just watch you starve, knowing that you got robbed

[@sparkleytxt4041]

This!!! I was so confused on why her friends didn’t even bother to ask if they can pay for her meal or even let her borrow some money to get a meal

[@stormy3758]

Yeah I would’ve definitely left them 😒

[@YeeHaww]

@@stormy3758 literally the boyfriend said eat my leftovers ?? HUHH bye he better be her ex now 🙄😪

[@rootheoneandoni]

if I were one of her friends I would just get up and leave with her then pay for dinner at another restaurant or just go home and order pizza

[@alissaoldham7128]

I'm not a parent but it's very important to know who your kid is going with incase you get kidnapped it's a huge red flag that the guy was so sketch about meeting the girls father I wish teens knew about safety and just how important details like this are the dad wants to keep you safe you're lucky you get dates most dads say no all together

[@shreea7835]

idk if i should be intimidated, impressed, or scared after those confessions

[@maggiiee3583]

why did i read one of those as impregnated- 💀💀

[@des_elise]

@@maggiiee3583 👀

[@00OreosAreYummy00]

brooo the birth one 💀 imagine how dehumanizing it is just being seen as a birth giver by your ex. Like, shes not even friends with that person at that point but shes expected to do something so personal and vulnerable as let him watch her give birth??? And not him being SHOCKED that she would say no to that?????

[@catsaregreat6314]

Honestly the therapy one enraged me. Regardless of trauma or past if you feel you need therapy or even just want it go ahead. Nobody gets to judge why you get to go to therapy, because things effect people differently, so something one person doesn’t need therapy for another person could. I first went to therapy because of an irrotational fear when I was a kid, my parents didn’t think I needed it but they decided to try it. After doing therapy frequently we realized I had multiple anxiety disorders and some trauma from being forced into things that terrified me too fast. Therapy helped me and my family realize that I, unlike was first thought was not mentally healthy and probably never will be. It helped me realize that I need and always will need extra support, and to not be ashamed of it. Therapy is an amazing tool and I recommend everyone who can tries it at least a few times. Rant over, just wanted to complain about how gatekeeping therapy is awful lmao

[@Galaxylion_omega]

Exactly everyone needs therapy for something and I went to therapy for the same reason like as a young kid I had irrational fear of death and I would think of ways I could die in my head or how my family could die, like anything triggered those thoughts even just walking down the street made me think of buildings falling on me. So my mom got me therapy and I was diagnosed with anxiety, unfortunately I stopped going to therapy but I plan on going back when I can.

[@catsaregreat6314]

@@Galaxylion_omega yeah, mine was a different fear but it was kinda like yours because I would think of it every time I was around water even if it was just a glass of it, which is kind of a problem lmao. I had and still have a lot of ear problems as a kid and my entire life I was strictly forbidden from getting water in my ears so when I was allowed to for a couple years before it went to shit again I was terrified to even take showers because it was just something that I was told my entire life. Last year I was told I can get water in my ears finally and it’s the same cycle again unfortunately:(

[@wetsockfullofhotmeat]

As someone who's been in therapy for five years, I always advocate that people go if they feel they may need it, no matter the reason. Even if it's "just" the daily stresses of life, having a non-biased third party to help you think over big decisions, work on personal issues, etc can be a huge quality of life improvement.

[@Zoe-Jewel]

​@@Galaxylion_omega Literally the exact same thing. Thought I was okay, that my intense crippling fear of death was normal, went to therapy, yeah no. So happy I went, because now I know how to silence those fears.

[@LucaGlitchy]

I hope the kid from the dad story learns that her dad cares so much about her, as a teenager it might not be obvious at first but the date could have been a horrible creep, not wanting to meet her parents is a big red flag. I wish I had a dad like him

[@ukiyo1640]

as someone who is currently invalidating my own mental health, the therapist reddit post really got me. i've personally put off seeking help because i believed my trauma, childhood, and mental health was not as bad as others and therefore therapy can't be an option. also opening up to someone whom i don't know and being alone while discussing my problems seems so scary to me (it genuinely makes me feel anxious), i feel like i'll immediately start crying as soon as i speak and that i'll be judged for being so sensitive lmao. i recently had a huge rant about my mental health on a gc with two of my very close friends, it felt good finally being transparent and honest about my health to them. im so thankful that they appreciated me being able to speak about my slight childhood trauma and all the events that lead me to who i am today, i remember that they told me to try to get help. but like- girl i dont have time?? anyway the main reason i've kept telling myself not to get therapy is the anxiety, what if my problems aren't that bad and that it's just a phase and that i'll get over it? despite what everyone has been trying to tell me, my brain cant help but deny it and invalidate it. i genuinely feel so lost and wrecked. school is stressing me tf out, my self esteem has gone to shit, but i feel like it'll just go away over time. sorry for the long ass paragraph, whoever read through it ily and i hope you're doing okay

[@raenia3655]

idk where you live, but any form of trauma, little or big, is trauma and if you've been having all these issues, you should definitely get therapy. if u don't want to go out, you can get online therapy, if it's too expensive, idk where you live but where i live, the government covers therapy bills and there are free therapy services and activities program for teens so maybe you'll have that where you live?

[@1dlce1]

I immediately had tears running down my face during my first therapy session. It was like all my feelings had been bottled up too long and I never let them out to anyone, until that point. I was in your exact spot once. I thought those feelings would go away too, but I found that talking to someone and letting them help you is better in the long road. Even if you feel like your problems are minuscule compared to others’, therapy is still good if you feel you need it. People go to therapy for all different reasons, it doesn’t have to be something big. Problems are problems, don’t let other people make you feel invalid or like what you’re going through isn’t worthy of being talked about. I feel like getting/needing therapy can sometimes have negative connotations when in reality, it’s the complete opposite. Therapy is meant to help you and I feel it’s a sign of strength when you go out of your way to get it, and you seek help; You want to get better, so you take it into your own hands to do so. It makes me proud when people do that.

[@ukiyo1640]

@@raenia3655 fortunately, where i live there are some places where therapy is being funded by organisations and the government so i'll do some research and try to figure out some places, but i wouldnt wanna be doing online therapy when my family is in the house all the time. i still havent opened up to any of them and i'm still way too afraid to be honest with them. anyway ty for your reply!!

[@ukiyo1640]

@@1dlce1 thank you for this, i'll try my best in finding help. i still have underlying worries about opening up and talking to a therapist but your reply has definitely lifted some of those. ty for sharing your first experience and ty for the reassurance, it really means a lot!

[@incertis_itineribus]

although from this youtube comment it seems to me like it's not just a bad phase, my point of view is: if it is, so what? why would it being a phase forbid you from going to theraphy? the worst that can happen is you doing something pointless for an hour a week. your brain may not see any good reasons to go to theaphy but there aren't any good reasons to not go either! if you have the means, trying it won't be worse than not trying. wishing you all the best 💕

[@eyeluvlee8798]

not that one guy gatekeeping therapy ☠️ his logic in questioning: “why do you always have to copy me 🥺🥺 be original for once 😒”

[@tosinalade853]

No offense but he sounded like a crappy bf like your bf just wants to self improve but you don't like it cause he lived a good life and doesn't deserve it like you don't want him to be happy. The bf seems too nice to just quit exploring his mental health just for a self centered bf. It might be from all his trauma so I hope he gets help from therapy

[@livviemercado2496]

LMFAOOO FRR and the fact that he thinks copying is a bad thing in this situation like what

[@tsu4595]

The lady that made a scene of people talking a different language... where does the confidence come from when she thinks strangers shittalk her? ☠ Edit: I loved the video, Deb, more wouldn't be bad at all! Also, bro if my boyfriend tried to be cute like that at a restaurant, giving me table scraps like a dog? Done and dusted. 🥰 Like, no.

[@haechqn]

right, like everything ain’t about her

[@r-v4429]

Maybe she has schizophrenia and she hears voices that aren't there, +it would explain the paranoia. She's likely just insecure and had a bad day though.

[@iamobsessedwithshadowsight]

I can kinda understand how she feels (I get paranoid really easily due to childhood trauma from bullying), after going through that for your developmental years I can certainly see where you’d automatically assume people are talking about you, in fact I’m guilty of it too (I’ve never lashed out or anything but I’m constantly worried people are judging my body/actions or talking about me), but she certainly wasn’t in the right for yelling about that. I understand it’s a really difficult thing to overcome but it doesn’t excuse being a complete asshole to strangers

[@roserain7034]

If anything, I thought the whole story was going to lead to a third friend making a scene. Not a random person on a different table lol

[@user-ot4lx2mj4p]

I got karen vibes from her tbh

[@maeeliz]

OH MY GOD I’ve never seen another trouble maker before 😭 love him

[@ellyisjelly1504]

Regarding the therapy one, whilst I agree that this person is indeed the AH, I also understand where he's coming from. His reaction is something that can happen to trauma survivors or mentally ill people. Trauma is an isolating experience and often certain disorders can lead to extra paranoia or taking people at their worst and believing that they're out there to hurt you (his description of events reminds me a bit of BPD actually). Was he in the wrong? 100% yes. But I think this reaction was likely painted by how painful his past was and often how people tend to minimise traumatic experiences.

[@sofiasofia-em]

So, in conclusion, thank god he's going to therapy

[@angelsofalicia]

i agree, like hes not gatekeeping it hes just interpreting his bfs decision as smth its not. and it makes sense like he said his bf was making it almost casual, coz ofc therapy can be casual, u dont need trauma, but op clearly worked so hars to get to the point where he could get therapy on his own terms and here his bf is also getting therapy just coz. its understandable and its rly good his bf was understanding too

[@rory8308]

I was thinking the same, he's got a lot of trauma and mental health issues to unpack that made him lash out at his partner, I've seen a similar kind of reaction with former foster kids saying that "your life was nowhere near as bad as mine" whilst both people in the equation deserve to feel loved and fulfilled and trauma isn't a competition where the one who had it worse gets to win. I won't blame a victim for lashing out but it's very good he's going to therapy

[@bunnywavyxx9524]

also if you have someone copying you a lot then it just feels minimizing and belittling that a milestone for him is possibly just a cool quirky thing for his bf, so I understand where he's coming from

[@ellyisjelly1504]

@@angelsofalicia yes this is what I was thinking! in his head it’s not gatekeeping rather it’s him interpreting it as a personal attack

[@SparklyDemon2798]

As someone who has had therapy gatekept from them while needing to go for help dealing with past issues, that person was 1000% the ahole. Can we just stop playing the pain olympics? Let people do things to better themselves and/or heal without guilt tripping them about it, saying something like "i had it worse" or "your life isnt that bad". Basically forcing his BF to not go to therapy is manipulative and toxic as hell.

[@bigfacts8603]

i dont think you exactly understand where hes coming from but yes he is the AH

[@clownrat5759]

@@bigfacts8603 That’s exactly what it was. He was mad his boyfriend wanted to go to therapy because he “didn’t have a bad life” like OP did.

[@bigfacts8603]

@@clownrat5759 thats not what i mean

[@charlotteemily146]

@@clownrat5759 right, his ego was so fragile that he thought his boyfriend was trying to invalidate his trauma because he also wanted to attend therapy.

[@sin3358]

I had the opposite issue lol. I used to think everyone was in as much pain as me if not more and HAD to get therapy 😂

[@romeISdead]

Wtf if she's not comfortable with him being there while she's giving birth, why is there a problem? Like the audacity of this man.

[@jenguiix]

Fr let me just leave and come back and now that I’m back in your life for a second I want to see the baby 🙄 that not how it works damn people have audacity fr 😫💔

[@almahermanus35]

The way the boyfriend in the last story is basically eating the meal from HER money cause he didnt even pay back yet UGHHH AND SHE DIDNT EVEN GET TO HAVE HER OWN FOOD

[@oohmymiyah508]

That therapy one in the beginning has me looking at the person sideways... Why wouldn't you want your partner to also work stuff out?? I would go as far as to say, I wouldn't be surprised if your partner broke up with them after that because that is honestly so disheartening. Someone going "Your life wasn't as bad as mine, you're fine-". The hell... No matter if someone had a bad or "good" childhood, I've seen people with amazing parents still carry shit with them. A therapist isn't for the damned with no hope of helping... A therapist is someone who you can have mental health check ins with. Someone who can help you negative life decisions with. Someone who you can go to when you want a relatively unbiased and educated outlook. It's really really sad that person got angry with their partner :/

[@oohmymiyah508]

Ayo who knows the name of the OUTRO SONG???? PLEASE I'VE BEEN SEARCHING FOR AN HOUR

[@multistantrash62]

@@oohmymiyah508 another guy - Margareta feat. LaKesha Nugent

[@oohmymiyah508]

@@multistantrash62 I'm so happy I could kiss you- THANK YOU

[@HJ-ju4ui]

I get that and the gatekeeper is absolutely the a**hole but i also get were he is coming from. We talk about online so much about how trauma makes people sensitive that we forget that sometimes trauma really does make people hard, bitter, angry and turn inward a.k.a never share emotions with others. I unfortunately am one of those people and get were OP is coming from, i sometimes catch myself (in my head) talking down on people with ''lesser'' traumas and ''easier'' childhoods but that obviously comes from my own hurt and jealousy and in those moments i realize i'm not good mentally TLDR its a trauma response and thats an explanation not an excuse

[@chacharealsmooth7322]

the girl: i have anxiety and i think those people are talking about me also her: im gonna go confront them

[@thriftskull5549]

PLSSS like why she so bold and for what 🤣

[@chacharealsmooth7322]

@@thriftskull5549 fr like if she really had anxiety she wouldve sat there and minded her own gd business

[@gracie20]

For the last story….Good friends would’ve bought that girlie a meal themselves and told the guy to kick rocks. I don’t think I’d be involved with any of those people anymore tbh

[@tinanana-]

Yeah those were not her friends. They were her bfs friends

[@scotchedtapee]

The first story. Smth like that happened to me and my mom for speaking Spanish…….in a Mexican restaurant…..and our server was also Mexican and speaking Spanish. The Caucasity

[@aliyaharroyo1907]

I know everyones paying attention to her beauty but debs editing skills 😩🙌

[@NightOwlSG]

Right?! It's just like the cherry on top 😩 ✨ always gets me laughing like a damn gremlin 💀

[@aliyaharroyo1907]

@@NightOwlSG IK SAME 😭😭

[@xxcryssmarie224]

The stepmom is just one of those rude stepparents who try so hard to control and low-key harass their other partners children

[@RoxxyKaosGG]

The therapy one is... f'd up. Everyone DESERVES to have a therapist. No one's life is perfect and trauma is not a competition. Not to mention therapy can bring about revelations of your past. I used to say my childhood was "not so great." Therapy made me realize it was actually really terrible 😃

[@Chirp-chirp]

I simply DEMAND 😩👏 more of these videos this is entertaining af

[@sophia-ik5nc]

THE WAY THE BOYFRIEND EXPECTED HER TO JUST SIT THERE WITH NO FOOD AND ALL HIS FRIENDS MADE ME THINK OF THE ALL TOO WELL SHORT FILM, SHE EVEN GOT GASLIGHTED SMH-

[@SoniaAlese]

The therapy one is pretty wild, I would be HAPPY if I was able to inspire others to "copy me" and get therapy to work on themselves. Even if you had a seemingly 'good childhood' it does not mean you won't have any anxiety or relationship issues or worries in life. She should be glad she inspired him to also do therapy, it is toxic to try to tell someone they can't do therapy just because you don't think what they've been thru is that bad as what you went thru.

[@zero0703]

it was a guy.

[@rootheoneandoni]

I don't even understand why he thought his bf was copying him, it seems to me like the bf wanted to do therapy and wasn't comfortable with it and his s/o starting therapy gave him the confidence to do it as well

[@wetsockfullofhotmeat]

And even then, people who have a "good childhood" on the outside might have skeletons in their closet or hidden demons. A child can have two loving, well-off parents and still be abused by a teacher or babysitter, witness/experience a horrific event that may traumatize them, etc. Not that you can't go to therapy if you had an easygoing childhood, obviously, but it also seems like OP was assuming a loooot of things based on an outside perspective.

[@katielowery1925]

omg if i decided to go to therapy and my boyfriend was like “i think i should go too” i’d be so excited like YES! let’s work on our problems!!

[@Zoe-Jewel]

Fr, like people think I have a loving home and a good childhood, because on the outside looking in, I do. And I usually let them think that, rather than feel sorry for me. Seeing a therapist was the best decision of my life too.

[@Emma-ry4mo]

Concerning the story of the girl who had her money stolen and couldn't eat anything at the restaurant : If I was her, I would have broken up with the boyfriend and then looked for new friends because...😬

[@yukiandkanamekuran]

Same

[@magot7188]

Ngl I would sit back and stay quiet as a friend to see how the boyfriend handles the situation before offering to help or leave the restaurant with them

[@picklepirate]

Girrrrrl I would have taken him to a small claims court

[@louisastone3510]

See it depends if he said "we can share" and like asked for a second plate - alright. But as long as he's keeping the plate-dominance it's weird.

[@mybittersweetme]

I think she might've not broken up with him because of she does that, she'll never be able to get the money back... now that I think about it, maybe that was his plan all along. To get her to break up with him and that way he can disappear with her money.

[@misternonchalant]

I had to qualify for therapy, I’m not even joking. They talked to my mom and went At first I didn’t qualify, but they decided that I would have a few sessions to see if I did. It’s been around a year since then, and I’m still in therapy

[@yarrow5621]

As for your favorite dad writer and his 14yo daughter, I think that situation is pretty normal. Though when it comes to dates, especially at that young age, you should be at least comfortable with saying a simple, "hi" to the parent of the person you're offering to take out. I mean, why be afraid if you have nothing to hide? p.s. that dad also really got me twirling my hair and smiling ;)

[@gromplin]

Yeah by that age, I was told that I needed to meet parents who wanted to be met, and to have anyone significant meet my parents in person and have contact with their parents. I've never minded meeting parents (I haven't had a bad scenario yet), but I understand some people's fear of it. I used to not like meeting dads of ANYONE, specifically, because my own was pretty... Fierce.

[@yukiandkanamekuran]

For some reason i feel like we don't have enough info,,

[@gromplin]

@@yukiandkanamekuran What other info would be relevant to to this to make it complete? Genuinely curious

[@yukiandkanamekuran]

@@gromplin I don't know, we don't know why the kid acted like that, we don't know how the Dad usually acts. I don't feel like I can make a proper judgement.

[@girlwthevintagemask]

i was like damn how many dates is a literal FOURTEEN YEAR OLD going on. i'm 15 and have been on only ONE date, and my dad was there 😭

[@aviancoleslaw]

I totally understand feeling like your trauma is being downplayed or that it isn't being taken seriously, and I can see how a situation like that might bring up those sorts of feelings. But one person's trauma doesn't cancel out your own. Just 'cause two people got stitches doesn't mean that one wasn't in worse condition than the other. His boyfriend sounds super supportive and understanding. I hope the therapist helps OP work though his feelings of being trivialized. That really sucks.

[@tehyasimone5147]

girl, i think my exact words while you were reading was "is mans trying to gatekeep therapy right now?" lmfaoo the audacity

[@melissajunge2578]

Girl, I am in fact subscribed. I want an apology video with tears asap cuz I feel aimed - Melissa

[@ayshasiddika1806]

Deb: “Why does everyone think I’m a furry??” Also Deb: “Subscribe or I’ll BITE YOU” 😸 *edit* Holy tysm for the likes 😭

[@pwrtothelocalclikkie5296]

that’s what i’m sayin

[@spiritsofwolves]

But humans can bite too and it’s actually quite dangerous with the chance of getting infected by one

[@Mayysflores]

@@spiritsofwolves the comment was a joke idk if yours is satire tho 😭

[@spiritsofwolves]

@@Mayysflores i am confused can i not say that when someone is joking?

[@Mayysflores]

@@spiritsofwolves you can

[@sarahcampbell3104]

The boyfriend not paying one: IMMEDIATELY dumped imo. How you gonna marry/continue to be with someone like that? How can you have any faith that they will at least TRY and provide for you when you have literally just been robbed😭😭😭 that's not love to me, that's indifference over wether your partner goes to bed hungry (and probably still a little on edge from being ROBBED earlier)

[@cameron_0496]

I like how she says “Your Honor” but, she said she felt like the judge. She’s more like the juror.

[@expensivecrayon]

you make these stories so much more entertaining with your commentary and editing

[@xxmyblackrosexx]

there's no way the story about the girl who was robbed was real. Theres no way everyone she was with knew her situation and treated her like that. She needs new friends, new boyfriend, new everything

[@punkisdead2662]

unfortunately, ive met multiple people with that nasty mentality that they'll treat someone like shit after an event like that. it's sad.

[@xxmyblackrosexx]

@@punkisdead2662 that's insanity

[@Noooo._.]

New friends, boyfriend, meal, and credit card

[@VainHarmony]

That's how people in my life treat me and have always treated me. I'm confused when people are like not nasty and terrible like that.

[@xxmyblackrosexx]

@@VainHarmony that's awful 🥺 I hope that all the other people that come into your life treat you better

[@hypphen]

reddit is absolutely UNHINGED sometimes😭

[@yesha3306]

Ikr

[@swain-Ix1tv]

no it's unhinged like all the time

[@gretablackwell495]

That first one reminds me of: “You’re in England, you should speak English!” “We’re in Wales, and I was speaking Welsh.”

[@leaena6029]

DUDEEEE I TOTALLY AGREE! as i was watching i was like i would directly break up with a boyfriend like that. you are NOT alone LMAOOOO

[@D0M1IN0]

11:42 no because i love this dad for even letting her date like the way he presents the situation and everything makes it sound like he just wants her okay and he’s looking out for her stop i feel bad for him

[@justanopinion7199]

🐝 To anyone who doesn't agree with the therapy one, the reason that deb put them on the "you are the A-hole" is that everyone should have the right to go to therapy without having someone tell them that they don't have the right. If the partner makes it seem so easy to go to therapy then it means that he's improving and trying to just get on with life. I don't judge people for finding it hard to go to therapy but if someone is finding it easy that's good. Just because one has experienced a good childhood and good life it doesn't mean that they cannot go to therapy. Anyone can go to therapy and they shouldn't have any problems doing so. I understand the point but at the same time, you shouldn't be stopping someone from going to therapy. If you think that the partner was the A-hole just keep in mind that he isn't a copycat for trying new things and he is most definitely not disrespecting anyone by going to therapy. 🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝

[@xxcryssmarie224]

@Raye it was a guy who didn’t want his bf to go to therapy

[@crypticshadows]

bees!! i like bees thank you 🐝

[@crypticshadows]

@@xxcryssmarie224 it’s ok they just probably didint notice

[@xxcryssmarie224]

@@crypticshadows I didn’t reply to you & That’s why I told them bc obviously they didn’t notice. My response wasn’t rude so your comment was not needed ☠️

[@zaander2228]

@@xxcryssmarie224 omg calm down..? The commenter wasnt meaning to offend you, why r u so mad tf😭😭

[@chai7766]

16:06 bruuuh if she had Arab friends they would legit fight to pay for her meal💀

[@-autumnfeelings]

Honestly, I think therapy should be casual since it makes it easier for everyone. Making therapy a more normal thing takes the tabu that seems to still be there away or at least makes it smaller. It makes it easier for everyone to get help without the fear of getting judged

[@firestarthunderclan5714]

The last one was making me soo mad. None of her friends would cover a meal for her and then say she shouldn’t leave. They said “no, stay and watch us eat” like what? I’m sorry but I’m that one friend that is extremely nice so hearing this makes my blood boil. I feel bad she got robbed and nobody even cared. She should get some new friends, and a new man.

[@lov3.elliot]

I love how deb even fell in love with a single father (prob late 20's) over a few paragraphs 😭 (its okay though i did too)🐝

[@gubbyrelle]

i think hes probably at least a bit older than that considering his daughter is 14 maybe closer to like mid-late 30s if they had her at a normal time

[@gravityfalls1826]

The auntie called the nephew inconsiderate because he left the bike there. But truthfully she is the inconsiderate one because she is living at that house rent free, does not have to a lick of work, she should be grateful that she is living there.

[@potatowellcox8870]

16:16 those friends are fake af. The boyfriend is a bum, how do you borrow money from your partner and you can’t even pay for their meal wtf.

[@StarGirl11Galaxy]

That slick kid that didn't want to meet the dad at 12:00 is definitely a red flag---- the other friends didn't have a problem meeting the dad

[@zizi921]

Yep. Any boy who didn’t want to meet my mom or let our parents talk had no good intentions between our relationship.

[@StarGirl11Galaxy]

@@zizi921 yep! 💀😳

[@yukiandkanamekuran]

I don't really think it's a red flag but it's a possibility,, just that whole situation is weird We don't know what the dad is like so we don't have all the info.

[@heyyall2341]

deb :“im keeping it pg” also deb: “hey debussys”

[@emmascape42]

@our hero stoppp

[@glitchsky_gacha7617]

@our hero Bro stoppp ur on almost every comment section saying this😭

[@Capt_Sunfish]

I mean Claude Debussy was a composer so it could be pg to unknowing ppl ig ✋😌

[@Boomshakalakaa69]

The way she always bites her finger when theres tea 😂😂

[@Annicahoover]

“Subscribe or I’ll bite you” love the positive energy 😭

[@cheergc2011]

not only would i break up with the guy that refused to pay for my meal after i got robbed, i would no joke do extensive research into my options for suing him for both the money he owes me but also for mental anguish. I work for a lawyer, not one that does that type of work, but from what I do know, i think anyone in that situation would have a good chance of winning a case like that