Decluttering After Loss of A Loved One || Decluttering The Junk Room || Declutter With Friends ❤️

[@TheCarlaProject]

Give Leesa some ❤ + get my free decluttering workbook here: thecarlaproject.com/clutterfree thx for watching love y’all!!❤

[@lagunagrrrl]

Thanks for mentioning Suay LA for undonateable clothing. I've been searching for a place like that. You know, there's so many videos out there about decluttering, but not any information on resources to actually get rid of things. We should never put clothing in the trash bin 💚

[@carrie3206]

@@lagunagrrrlgood to know.

[@minimallyleah7208]

Thanks 👍🏾 Carla, you're the best!

[@melody7779]

Hi Carla, just thought about you after seeing the national news. Be safe with this storm. It's hitting about 27 states. Here in Charlotte it's in the 70's and partial sun. This weather is bipolar. Also, please make sure you and your father stock up on food. What people are not paying attention to is that the Ohio chemical spill will have environmental consequences for years. Remember this years can food is from last years harvest. Moving forward unless you buy local produce, like I do, trusting food moving forward towards the end of this year, I would not trust because the gov't is lying to this nation on what has really happened in Ohio. Those people are suffering. Be blessed!!!

[@allioakley3372]

Idea for the cords and cables: set up two boxes one full and one empty. As she uses cords and cables from the full box she can place it in the empty box when she's done using it and after a year she'll see what she's used and what is probably trash.

[@TheCarlaProject]

That’s a brilliant idea!!💖

[@valeriegilbert8873]

Label the cords as you use them

[@sarahperry1976]

Such a fab idea!!

[@christineshultz7615]

Best buy recycles chords, old phones, computers ,etc. If that becomes necessary.

[@laurabotts4064]

And as she's discovering what they match up with she could label them in some way for future use.

[@danoyse8233]

I felt Leesa’s anxiety at the beginning of the process. Then she became more positive about what was going where. Great support from you Carla. Best wishes from Devon UK

[@carogravel1071]

That long grey dress with a black pattern is amazing on her 😍

[@TheCarlaProject]

I know right!!

[@SpaceMakerMethod]

Everyone needs a friend like Carla to help them 💛

[@buutifuleyes]

Leesa has a beautiful spirit, coping w/grief and releasing personal items is very challenging, having friends that are willing to help getting your home in order is a true blessing. My sincere condolences to her and their sons. I hope they emotionally support one another. ❤

[@tinajohnson5685]

We have a junk room. I go through it every few months and find anything I can get rid of and rearrange and clean floor. However, I have been watching your declutter videos and have been going through it again and STILL finding stuff that needs to go even though I go through it pretty often. In one of your videos you said “we are blind to our clutter.” That is so true. You look at an item so many times saying “Oh, I need to keep that b/c” or “oh that’s sentimental” and you keep that mindset unless you literally pick each thing up and make a decision about it.

[@susannovak8263]

Thank you, Leesa , for inviting us into your home and allowing yourself to be vulnerable. You did a fantastic job! And I am very sorry for your loss. ❤❤❤

[@kerrybee1327]

I'm 5 minutes in and I LOVE this woman!!! Carla, Samson... protect her at all costs!!

[@TheCarlaProject]

She’s incredible truly!!🥰

[@A-couple]

So sorry for Lesa’s loss. This is a great opportunity for a fresh start and glad you’re helping her. I hope like she LOVES Sampson maybe she can be a foster for pets to keep busy and give back. That’s what my aunt did after my uncle died. Because of that two years later she met a nice gentleman and has happily remarried ❤.

[@thankyoudoris]

Aww look at Samson...😍😍😍

[@comosi519]

Leesa needed a helping hand and you were there for her, now that's friendship.

[@JudiHodgkin]

I love that you are so sensitive to how someone decides what to get rid of and what to keep. The exercise gloves were a perfect example: you asked what she wanted to do and she wanted to keep both and store them. Over time, you persuaded her to try them on to help to work out which she preferred. You were gentle and kind until she had worked out what _she_ wanted to do.

[@candylove1234]

I cant imagine how tough it was for her to go through that grief, the fact that she is still standing is incredible! ♡♡♡

[@TheCarlaProject]

Seriously!! She’s been through ALOT!!

[@capturedbyannamarie]

She reminds me so much of my husband’s aunt. Such a sweet lady. Such a hard thing to do, and she did great!

[@lisbethkelsey6622]

I haven't even watched the full video and I already love Leesa. What a bright spirit! So sorry for her loss!! I can't wait to see how this turns out. Love your decluttering with friends series!

[@TheCarlaProject]

She really is an incredible woman!!

[@kellygosa7438]

This is such an important vid Carla. Thank you and Leesa. A very close friend passed away unexpectedly and a group of us helped go through some of her items. People’s items are so personal and often hold so many memories. 🌈🌸💜

[@TheCarlaProject]

I’m so sorry for your loss! It’s one of the most difficult things 💖💖💖

[@laminage]

You got that right! They say how important it is for an Older Person to Declutter so when they die, the children can declutter in a more sufficient fashion. In My Family, My Great Aunts had alot of stuff but since they grew up during The Depression they kept alot of stuff. In The Book Mama, by Terry McMillan Mildred Peacock The Main Protagonist found out her Late Stepmother had all kinds of Non Perishable Food Items in her Attic. She was scared there would be another Depression. The Room has so much History with Family, Friends and Roommates. Each item has a major memory for her.

[@martharushton2314]

Thanks so much for this show in particular. Lost my husband in July of 2021. I’ve packed some of his clothes up and given some to a gentleman in an assisted living facility who has no family. Im sure my husband would love and approve of what I’m doing. You are helping me move forward in this very difficult situation. Thank you both for covering this subject of what to do after a loss of a loved one. Just another note I love your choice of songs you play. Blessings to you ❤

[@maureenmatthews4586]

I love that you both were hugging dolls while doing the intro to your video. I am in the process of decluttering my house too. Slow going but getting done.

[@Spikeswift]

Leesa's personality is magnetic. It's easy to see why you are friends Carla x

[@katgallardo2797]

I can relate. When my stepdad passed away in 2018 and then a couple of months after my youngest son left to the Airforce I felt so lonely even though my husband and my oldest were still with me. I became a shopaholic and stored everything in my sons room. Till this day I’m slowly purging everything and had a yard sale. I’m almost done and it feels so good. I was filling this void with material stuff. It’s crazy how different we all cope with a loved ones death.

[@Thirikalee]

"I'm so excited to find this and throw it away!" That was so cute!

[@ameliegifford1477]

She just needed someone to do it with - such a wholesome declutter!!

[@tarat26]

What an incredible woman. Such strength. Loss is so tough and heart wrenching. It took me over 3 years to go through my mums things after she passed. Bless her, considering what family members may want to keep and cherish. I haven't finished watching yet, but hugs to both of you. You're also incredible for helping her. Xx

[@Kay-12345]

Leesa we are cheering for you! Wishing you a positive future 🙏❤

[@TheCarlaProject]

YES!!❤️❤️

[@twinmom5138]

You're such a wonderful and patient friend, Carla. ❤

[@TheCarlaProject]

Thank you love I have the most wonderful friends❤️

[@brennagreenglasspeacock]

When Leesa put on her gown she was glowing!! Amazing job, ladies ❤

[@SorrensSorrow]

That dress she wore is beautiful on her. Glad she kept it. Totally her vibe!

[@CoolInOlympia]

That black flower dress looks GORGEOUS!

[@debbieriddle9429]

What a wonderful person she is. That had to be tough for her. I've had a lot of loss of immediate family...it was hard to let go. I finally understood that holding on to everything, wasn't going to bring them back. I still have a hard time with photos. Still hurts. Thanks Carla for helping her.

[@patticakesintexas]

I keep my cords in gallon size Ziploc bags. C chords in one bag, labeled, android old style in separate bag, labeled. On and on. Then when i need one, i go find the bag and i don't have to go thru 25 to find the one i need. Works well! ❤

[@wendyeskelin8765]

What a great video. Junk rooms are the hardest to do because it's stuff you weren't really ready to let go of or don't know what to do with. Plus when you add in sentimenal items it's even harder. You both did a great job. Wishing Leesa a bright future. I think her stepsons are going to appreciate her keeping some of that stuff. At that age it doesn't seem as important as it will later in their life. It's a really loving and kind gesture on her part !

[@labradorite8256]

I find the junk room hard because it's the room I store things that need to be rehomed! If I can't deal with it straight away I don't feel like I've achieved anything.

[@idid138]

Yes, her step son, are blessed to have such a thoughtful patient step mom.

[@dw5593]

The two of you did a fabulous job! Would she consider letting go of the two black bookcases? It would make the room seem bigger and she doesn't have much on them to relocate. Love this series of decluttering with friends.

[@TheCarlaProject]

Yea good idea! She could actually probably use them in the garage for organizing!!

[@unakeane532]

Does that mean that there’s a part two with her garage involved as she’s so charming to watch

[@TelevisionwithTricia]

Carla, your face when looking at the box of cords was priceless!!!! So thrilled for your friend, I hope this new, clear room helps her as she pursues this new chapter in her life. Loved the chaotic energy!!

[@TheCarlaProject]

😂😅❤️

[@shellycottrell433]

Lisa looks amazing at 55 wow 🤩 What a great achievement in that 4 hours you both must have been tired after that. Glad you are feeling better Carla best wishes ❤

[@TheCarlaProject]

We were BEAT!!😅😂❤️

[@marygeorge3853]

Yes!

[@toddylu6869]

This video was more difficult for me to watch. I think it was her initial issues with focusing and refocusing… but know that is very very important to show. I also think it is because I am a nurse who educated a lot of patients in loss and acceptance. So it did seem like work for me. I think you were the perfect steering mechanism for her and she is a bundle of energy. I know why Samson loves to both. Please thank Leesa for us.

[@largok1255]

Haven’t even finished the video yet and I have to say I am so proud of this woman! Great job getting through it bit by bit!!

[@TheCarlaProject]

You're the best!

[@thesnoopydance645]

Learning HOW is half the battle. Carla, you're a gem. 🙂

[@marygeorge3853]

Yes she is!! Everyone needs at least one friend like Carla. Thank y’all for letting us in on the fun/work.

[@SillyMeKimmieG]

Carla, I love your declutter with friends series. This was a great one. I love that you all spent $0 to accomplish this.

[@Adrianaaaa17]

Love how you updated us on the sales progress!! This was an amazing project! You are really a great and loving friend Carla! 🥰

[@lindaroyal8161]

She did really well for such a difficult room to tackle with the memories associated. I'm surprised how large the room actually is after it was decluttered and didn't even notice the windows when you 1st got there. She has a cute dog and I can see why she's a friend and a Sampson Buddy.

[@DipityS]

Such a positive and beautiful lady! Please pass on our thanks for her allowing us to share her journey. I think having you there there was both sensible but also kind - as she's in a situation where she needed a helping hand. Making decision after decision is a brutal process - so having someone in your corner is crucial to get to the end of the project.

[@katespurgeon5572]

Leesa is an amazing woman. And storage of items the sons might like to have later is so heartfelt.

[@plaisirdelanglais]

Your friend is adorable! All your friends are. More declutters like this please!

[@kc3503]

Hi Carla! Leesa did an amazing job! She just needed a friend there to stay on task through an overwhelming space. Great teamwork! I refer to my junk corner as my donation staging area. But lately 2 other piles have accumulated next to the corner, and you hit on the reason why. Those pesky procrastination/deferred/undecided decisions. I thank you for that segment and am going to go make decisions about those pesky piles. Sometimes we just need a friend to keep us on task. ;)

[@TheCarlaProject]

yesss it is ALL about decision making. lots of little decisions!! totally relate ❤️😅

[@AndreaD.]

I was actually watching a video earlier today that mentioned that if you have things from people who have treated you badly that you should let them go than keep them as a reminder of how they treated you. As I have been trying to declutter my life & things I think that this is something that I need to look into doing. Thank you for sharing these kinds of videos to give us inspiration to do this for ourselves Carla!

[@KWilliams22]

I completely agree with that!!!! It helped me a lot 💖

[@AndreaD.]

@@KWilliams22 well it’s been 2 months apparently since I wrote that comment & I was just notified that someone had liked it. My daughter (youngest) graduates this weekend from grad school & is getting her first apartment. After a discussion with her on what she wants, I have been able to declutter A LOT of things from my past that where collecting dust & reminding daily of how much I didn’t meet some people’s expectations in my life (yes, even deceased parents can be this way!). So after we move her into the apartment, my husband & I could technically fit into a smaller house. We decided that we’re not going to fill it back up again either!

[@thedirtprincess3293]

She did so great especially since it involved stuff from the person she lost!

[@CaliAnimalLover]

Damn girl!! Smoking’ hot in the black gown! I’m so glad you tried it on, and it fits like a glove!

[@Noreenlee1]

This was so much more satisfying than watching the video with the woman who wouldn't let anything go!

[@mariannedressler6784]

Miracle worker!!! Everyone needs a friend like you Carla. 😊

[@zabmcauley5647]

Clothing is hard to recycle when it's mixed fabrics. I would be very surprised if bathing suits would be recycled through clothing take back systems. Company's like Zara and H&M are known to green wash

[@JustCallMeAnnie]

That dress looks gorgeous on Leesa!

[@sherri.]

Carla, you are AWESOME! Thank you so much Leesa, for sharing this amazing day online. 💕 My problem-room is 1/2 office and 1/2 clothes to sell on Poshmark (that I procrastinate like crazy in doing).😮 Other stuff is sitting in my Dining Room in boxes since I want to give it away, but it takes so much darn time to post pictures on FB and wait for people to pick up. I think donating to Goodwill in one delivery is what I really need to do!!!

[@hoppiw5735]

😄😄😄 that part 1:55 "so many people can relate " then Sampson appeared.😄😄 Love how he ran to Leesa 3:00 to greet her -such a loving dog 🐕 he's well trained ❤️

[@TheCarlaProject]

He’s an angel!!

[@Ann-vr1qr]

Sorry Leesa has been through so much. ❤️ She seems like such a fun, sweet friend. You ladies did a wonderful job getting the room in order!

[@brendadeatherage4543]

Part of the chaos was that you basically blocked the way with that red filing cabinet so had to go over or around it every time things went out of the room which was probably exhausting.

[@TheCarlaProject]

Seriously that’s what you get from this video?? Annoying!!

[@vee8648]

Thank you so much for doing & sharing this, Carla.😘 Decluttering after a close loved one passes is very difficult. It is rare to see it handled thoughtfully.💔

[@TheCarlaProject]

yes it really is thanks for watching and commenting ❤️❤️❤️

[@MickeyC321]

I watched this ❤for the second time. Well done ladies. My condolences to losing your husband. I love how thoughtful you are with keeping your stepsons fathers possible mementos in mind for future needs. Very kind. I just went and cleaned out my shoe and purse section of the closets because you motivated me. Thank you.

[@charisedaniels1237]

Very peaceful transformation. The thing I love most to do besides decluttering my own home is helping someone else do the same. You helped empower your friend. It can be esp difficult to let go after a loss.

[@jen....]

So lovely of you to help your friend ❤ You're a diamond.

[@orainey890]

I can definitely relate. I just don’t how to began. Feel smothering, overwhelmed when even think to start get rid of things

[@TheCarlaProject]

It can be very overwhelming but just start with one item. It works. Even if you Declutter five things a day in a month that’s 150 items. It adds up.

[@paigepatrick7099]

I like the music you use. Terrific content and editing. Your videos are so real life.

[@TheCarlaProject]

I appreciate that!

[@pamelawantsmusic]

She’s giving Sigourney Weaver in the best possible way! ❤

[@TheCarlaProject]

That’s right strong boss ass woman energy I luv sigourney!!!

[@SadieSmith-h2g]

Wow, huge difference! This was not only inspiring, but helpful on so many levels. Leesa is lucky to have you (and LUV your hairstyle).

[@karenmcneill2602]

Oh Carla, I am so sorry your Mum's message was lost. Good thing we have memories. Not the same but a bit better than nothing.💚💚💚

[@TheCarlaProject]

I was gutted! It was a recording of her talking about her life before I was born 😢 ❤️

[@kathleenharris8824]

You were the perfect friend to help her. You had the laser focus she needed. I love the one touch rule. It forces you to decide immediately what to do.

[@carlyshuman6048]

First of all, sorry for your Leesa's loss. I can't even imagine. That's a lot to handle and I'm glad you're there to help her. You're very good at what you do, along with being empathetic and personable. You girls did awesome! I love Abbey and Samson! Btw, i had that same Cabbage Patch doll as a kid.lol.Take care.😍🌼🌻❤

[@bekanimal]

If you are using the velvet hangers, I heard somewhere that for items like heavy coats, to just double up the hangers, so hang the heavy coat on two velvet hangers at a time. I use velvet hangers but haven't tried that trick yet!

[@TheCarlaProject]

Love this tip!!

[@briashubert2489]

o my goodness how lucky you are to find a pet sitter like that! u can tell he loves her!

[@TheCarlaProject]

I KNOW!! it was an answered prayer for real!! met leesa through my friend jennifer and yes samson and leesa...they equally love each other 😍

[@teri8964]

Great job ladies! So sorry for your loss, Leesa. Love that blue & white bag you are putting in the garage sale! I'd come buy it!! My mom passed away a couple of years ago, and I just turned her junk room into a beautiful media center! Such a great feeling to see progress being made!

[@kaythegardener]

Like your shorter hair cut!!

[@awildapproach]

Wow! What a great transformation! She's a great sport, and very good at letting go of her things. I think having her wonderful friend there really helped make it go by quickly and be a more fun process. Thanks for sharing. Very relatable! We all have clutter to get rid of at some points in life!

[@donnajones9006]

I have such a room. We had 2 bedrooms. My granddaughter stayed with us a year. When she mooved out we turned it in to a storage room. Now it's a mess.

[@TheCarlaProject]

so easy for things to spiral when you have the extra room without any specific use for it

[@andreakissinger2165]

Oh my god, Abbey is the cutest little ragamuffin! I love her! So glad Samson also got to hang out with a friend, too.

[@TheCarlaProject]

Isn’t she the cuuuuutiesstt!!

[@rexyzvent5864]

The amount of floorspace afterwards is impressive!

[@ShellyLiving]

You are very patient! Also Leesa reminds me of Debra Winger

[@TheCarlaProject]

Omg yes!!! I can really see that one. I love Officer and a gentleman one of the best movies😍

[@lennyburdick3192]

Yep. Cords are a level of hell. I kept a whole file drawer of cords and when I needed one I would dig through and keep trying one after another nd eventually give up and buy a new one. Through the whole pile out, donated to an electronic re-useum…

[@lennyburdick3192]

We have to get to where we are going at our own speed…

[@jessicaallen7103]

I love the music you pick for your videos. I wasn’t surprised to learn you’re a musician.

[@greeeneyes91]

I am always amazed by the amount of bathing suits people living in LA have :D I have had summers in which I have not needed one at all because of bad weather and have in total 4 bathing suits that have lasted me for years at this point. If we have a bad summer and do not go on holiday, 1 bathing suit for the ocassional public swimming pool visit is enough :) interesting how it can vary

[@pamelabaskett9062]

Love when you "Declutter with Friends". Also, love the shorter hair.

[@marykaren7542]

Thank you so much for helping Leesa.🙌 She is one of the kindest souls you could ever meet. ❤Also loved seeing my fur-neice Abby! 🐶

[@TheCarlaProject]

Oh yay!! Leesa is the best and you’re a lucky auntie cuz Abby is a little gem sweetie cutie pie 🐾 💎

[@marykaren7542]

@@TheCarlaProject she sure is!!

[@chr.orzschig926]

Let me just say you do a wonderful job. I wish you were here and helping me. I declutter once or twice every year and have given things either to friends or donated to charity. What I realized is this lady here is the first woman in your videos who is not grossly overweight. In fact she has kept her beautiful figure. Also she owns very valuable clothing. Somehow I thought ' like a European ' bc. women in Europe keep quite a strict regime. Before they get fat they will go on a diet. And yes, so do I. Don't hate me

[@ThereseDavidson]

Strong woman! What a difficult thing to go through

[@TheCarlaProject]

Agree!❤️

[@halfheartdead7149]

omg i love the little club penguin puffle on the chair at the end! great video as always carla and your friend did great! 🎉

[@karenmcneill2602]

Lol, I had to go back and find him! Sweetie😍😍😍

[@fionaludbrook8193]

I can relate. Bedroom turned to junk room and in the same scenario. Geeting started is the hardest part!

[@annakout]

This was such an amazing transformation and I love how patient and understanding you are when you’re helping someone declutter their space.

[@TheCarlaProject]

Wow thank you so much!!

[@rayvenhoward1163]

LOVEEEEEE your hair like this!!!!

[@lollypopliz4]

At my parents house we have an extra room that we call the HR, short for Hoarders Room. When we first moved in it was defiantly a place where things went to die, but it's evolved over the years. But the name still stands!

[@julia.a1390]

omg she is such an positive and kind hearted person❤

[@carolann811]

On his own my son cleaned out drawers in a desk and got RID of CORDS. We no longer have tiny drawers of hell in the lower level. We're both moving house this year and I have discovered he does not make decisions. He moves things from here to there. But today was a good day with decluttering.

[@ellenherman9543]

Love your new hair!

[@TheMariapigen]

OMG she has got a Danish Hoptimist. That is so fun. 😊

[@Christine_1111]

That declutter was fabulous! I have a room that needs this! Learned the clockwise is helpful! Thanks Carla! Your friend is darling!

[@TheCarlaProject]

Glad it was helpful! She is a doll!💖

[@marciapickens7444]

That job was AMAZING! Your friend is so cute, & has such a great personality. She looks like Kyle Richards. So sorry for your loss. 🙏

[@myriamckayreed5028]

Your hair is adorable!! I love it!

[@jenniferg9641]

What a kind sweet friend. She was lovely!! Nice work ❤

[@DH-wq3mo]

Great declutter/reset! I love watching your videos because they are real - you show the real process. Design wise (for your customer) I would move the bed to the bookcase wall (with or without the bookcases), so that it faces the windows! The bookcases can act as a headboard with clip on modern lamps! 💖 (if they don't fit elsewhere). Great job!

[@corrinnacorrinna5572]

I enjoyed this! I can't imagine how hard this was, but I'm glad she pushed through. This room has a lot of light. When possible, a new paint job, new curtains, and splurging on new bedding will aid in creating new memories. Sheer curtains over the closet would be nice. Maybe painting the black shelving close to the new wall color would make it seem more like part of the room. (480.00 yard sale is wonderful)

[@ritaamor283]

Carla is such a good friend ❤ Leesa is wonderful ❤

[@celestewatson4874]

Yes, i have a holding cell too. It also has lots of things needing further handling. And grief has made it considerably worse. Im watching/listening to try to break thru my mental roadblocks, which are MANY, it seems. I am your friends age.

[@stella_m_nz]

Such a transformation! One day when the momentos are paired down or recontained, that wardrobe would look So Cute with a built-in office set-up inside it. 😊

[@LaurenOliviArt]

I love the bathing suit section!! Like go through it now! Haha she got it done ! ❤