decluttering my FANTASY SELF and the 80% I don't use. (2023)

I had the motivation and the momentum so I just went with it and did a huge wardrobe declutter. If you've never heard of your fantasy self, it's basically having clothing items in your wardrobe that you imagine yourself to wear but you don't actually wear them because they don't suit your lifestyle. I love the idea of having a small wardrobe, uniforms, or a capsule wardrobe created with pieces that make me feel my best and all sort of go together and can be mixed and matched.
The reality is we only wear about 20% of our wardrobe, 80% of the time. Today I took a hard look at my closet and although I was a bit indecisive, I was ruthless with myself and did some MAJOR decluttering. I hope this video was something for you to listen to while you did your own closet decluttering or organization! 💕
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[@thesimplechiclife]

sorry for the minute toward the end with my cat when the sound cut out!! Not sure what happened there!! Also I must apologize for my rambling; I was very undecided in this video and I really took you guys for a ride with my indecisiveness. I hope the video was somehow helpful or that you enjoyed it anyhow!! 💗 I'll try to fix the sound issue with the youtube editor. ❤

[@lindamayer4697]

I can relate to the indecisiveness and it's inspiring to see you bulldoze through it.

[@paulwade4322]

I found that what really helps with decluttering is to try on every piece. You may have a fantasy that you look wonderful, but when you put the piece on you will notice the fit is not quite right, it requires undergarments that you don't want to wear, etc. Also, I sometimes model the piece I am contemplating if I can't make up my mind, and my husband gives it a thumbs up or down, with no other comments. Ultimately I decide, but it makes the decision easier. Linda

[@thesimplechiclife]

Such a good idea… thank you!! 💕

[@theluxuryminimalistraveler]

this video is the REALEST declutter i think ive seen on social media. i am also doing my own "fantasy self declutter" hope you continue this series!! we are all so influenced by peers, media, corporations, ofc we end up with so many things we dont use/wear. well done❤❤❤

[@janigirl2296]

My high heels phase is over😭. I decluttered them all.. kept a few low heels and wedges

[@meh5069]

Mine too😢 I miss them! But my feet literally couldn’t take it after having my first baby, now after two kids, it’s a wrap. It’s hard because I don’t like most flats out there 😫

[@loreeryan2348]

I love how brutally honest and ruthless you were with your clothes. You're obviously in a different season in your life. Going forward you probably won't buy as much so your next declutter will be so much easier. You make me feel braver to declutter nice things I just don't wear.

[@jenniferdransfield3840]

"a human, going through life, trying to get your life together"

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you for being here 💕

[@Theabsolution86]

I really like your videos. They calm me. Especially your voice, the colors you wear and how you use to touch things. Sounds a little strange probably, hope you don't get this wrong. Anyways, it relaxes me a lot, especially when I am at home after night shifts. Thank you for motivating me to keep my things tidy.

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you so much 😊 ❤️ not at all, I’m glad you enjoy them! ❤️

[@catharinacamenisch752]

Congratulations- it helps me understand myself. I am not the only one who bought clothes for the fantasy self. Being realistic is what makes sense…

[@user-xs4vv9gt2e]

I enjoy your videos. I keep a special occasion capsule wardrobe in another closet and am always prepared for an unexpected event without having to panic and run out and buy things I am not really crazy about. I like having it in another closet - so I don’t have to look at the items every day.

[@marthavanderpool6829]

Great solution! I’ll try it!

[@ileanacardona2248]

That’s a really good idea!

[@maryam.m]

Glad you decided to keep the cat 😉

[@thesimplechiclife]

😂

[@wandering_dreamcatcher]

😂😂

[@dandelionDub]

Declutter starts at about 20 minutes in.

[@Thelifeswork]

IMO life is too short and there are so many comfortable beautiful heels, that one shouldn’t be wearing uncomfortable shoes in any occasion! Chloe and SE

[@22696]

I sooo struggled with buying for my fantasy self. I realized that I needed to buy things that worked for my present self!

[@Jenny-uv4dl]

Absolutely

[@NorthernScentsAlaska]

You need to bring those fancier items on vacation with you, and just wear them! Life is short! Wear the nice stuff out to a nice dinner, go to a show, the theatre, opera, concert, comedy show, or new years dance or party...something like that..and wear those fancier items then!

[@angelfac3007]

This makes so much sense. I work from home and this helped me realize I don’t need 5 different items!!

[@sigridmorse8345]

This is the best lifestyle video I’ve ever seen. Your insight and honesty are so good. I love how you empathize on high quality items and deter from mindless consumerism. Keep up the great work💗

[@akaMcSassy]

I've totally been angry with myself at past purchases. Money wasted. It isn't even who I was nor who I'm becoming. What was I thinking 😅... I took the emotional ride with you and am currently feeling ready to aggressively declutter.

[@misssinister7936]

I’m not a dress girl but always thought I needed a funeral black dress. Equally I can wear a black pantsuit, so we’re our own worst enemies

[@linziibinzii]

You did an amazing job decluttering! 🎉

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you!!!

[@mymerrymorning4092]

I love listening to your videos! Only just a month ago I started decluttering my home and next weekend I will be having a stand at a flea market to sell my clothes, so this video was perfect motivation during the sorting proces. I'd be lovely if you had a podcast. That makes listening even more easy :)

[@map.1870]

I paid $20 a pair to get my shoes professionally cleaned. It was worth it because I put the trust in and knew they would be clean

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you! Yes you’re right. Someone else recommended a magic eraser for the shoes! I might try it!

[@swimmerchick1113]

Magic erasers worked wonders on my dirty shoes

[@jackiemadden4024]

I have a whole house to declutter I love your wardrobe that’s definitely what I need a new wardrobe I have clothes in my wardrobe that have been there for some years with the ticket still on never been worn

[@wandabandojo6138]

Been watching you for 2 years! Love your perfume and declutter videos. :) Your voice is so soothing and I listen to you whenever I'm copywriting, which is almost every day. haha I'm due for a major decluttering! I bought so many things for my "fantasy self" like sky-high stilettos that still have tags, never worn, and just collecting dust. :) Sending love!

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you for being here this long and your support and kindness 💕

[@lorrainebazydola816]

I'm 60. I agree on everything but the black sock boots. They'd look great with jeans or the skirts

[@kiyyaakuullee8685]

I am so glad I found your channel!!!!! You are amazing ❤ this is the channel I need.

[@yessibee5236]

Great video! Love watching anything you put out. I’m inspired & ready to declutter my fantasy self now, thank you!!

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you 😊 I’m glad it wasn’t too rambly! Or I hope it wasn’t!! Lol 😆 💕

[@yessibee5236]

Never 😊☺️

[@madisonwestwater7665]

Love this video 💕 so powerful and an important message xx

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you 😊

[@NancyThecheerfulheart]

Even though long (which I don’t mind) so much good thoughts. This helped me so much to talk through my closet too. You totally right on so many things. Thanks for taking us along on decluttering your closet.

[@marciagarcia8486]

Beautiful things you are decluttering today! I hope someone will enjoy everything. I would never be able to

[@Thelifeswork]

Chance EDP is the classiest and sexiest perfume I own; good longevity and projection as well!

[@karigriffith602]

You need a LBD, a red party dress and a white summer dress. ✅

[@concettaciaccio4543]

Love your videos! Could you please do a video about your bags?

[@thesimplechiclife]

Yes for sure 💕

[@debrawells-hopey1980]

I am literally editing my closet right now! So happy to see this - it will give me some "umph"! Thanks for all your hard work. I appreciate all your videos 😊

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you 😊 ❤️

[@pilar689]

I love your Celine bag! Amelia from Amelia's Closet had a sayings regarding bags. Not every nag has to serve the same function...maybe one can be used solely as a crossbody and that's okay! Great video and motivation!

[@faithsteele4006]

I'm in this season too, this video is so timely, thank you!

[@Crafty_lady42]

This is great ! I’m planning to world lobe declutter and I don’t need some this summer

[@_dewinther]

Need to do something like this, loved it Thanks 💖💖💖

[@angelwings1]

I’m currently overhauling my clothing/look. Feel it’s my age lol I’m very nearly 44 and want to look more toned down & stylish, but more casual stylish as I prefer comfort.

[@jowilde4702]

That cat looks worried now 🤣🤣🤣

[@thesimplechiclife]

🤣

[@claribelgarcia6482]

With shoes it’s easier, personally, is because u can wear a tshirt & jeans & those shoes u hvnt wore

[@thesimplechiclife]

Agreed!!! Good point!

[@Blo039]

The shoes on the perfectly white bed 😣😣😣

[@thesimplechiclife]

Someone always comments on that but I’m careful that the soles that touch the bed are clean. Trust me I don’t want my white bedding messy either!:) 💕

[@amychen2504]

I appreciate you make mistakes because I make so many ugh

[@mirandafriday4023]

I am glad you kept those dresses. A wardrobe set up can look great but the most unpractical items are sometimes the things i can feel good in.

[@mirandafriday4023]

Dont be hard on yourself for the choices you made in.past purchases. The dresses were great nothing wrong with them really your just in another phase and tastes have changed. X

[@nirvana-fabulous]

Thnx 4 sharing your experience with us.. I really need to hear it ❤

[@tink268]

Great decluttering ❤

[@srey_p]

Great video! Decluttering has gotten so easy that I’m able to declutter without second guessing myself and that’s an awesome feeling to love and wear your items. Now the thing that really is my pet peeve is shoes on the bed, especially dirty shoes. Maybe that’s just the Asian part in me but seeing your shoes on the bed is like nails to a chalk board for me 😅

[@joannametcalf8113]

Happy Sunday! Your style is so elegant and feminine. 😊🌺 Are you a nurse? 🌹

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you so much and yes I am! 💕

[@joannametcalf8113]

@@thesimplechiclife ❤

[@20vannesa]

Where do you buy your mugs? They are so cute! Great video btw ☺️💕

[@s.sflower]

Did you declutter the pastel colorblock dress? 😮 if so, will it be on Poshmark?

[@thesimplechiclife]

Yes although man … it’s still hard to let it go even though I know I’m not likely to wear it!

[@s.sflower]

@thesimplechiclife it is a stunning dress! I can't seem to find it on your Poshmark tho? Can you possibly link it here for me pls? 🩷

[@lindybright1938]

Great video! What does 'decluttering my fantasy self' mean?

[@pattibrown2939]

Great video,and love your tortie cat. New subscriber here. Have to catch up.

[@tommyz1463]

White leather Keds Champions originals I think you need a pair

[@lorraineburke9980]

I would love to see yourself in a video

[@melissalay2523]

Where do you find your mugs??

[@drc4168]

Cat!!!! Dilute tortie cat!!!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@roseg1333]

Oooo have you tried regular Fireside by BBW? If you like Smokey wintery scents it’s deeeevine so smoky so woody and Wintery/autumnal I have like six backups Lol so much better than Marshmallow fireside imo but it only comes out winter/ Christmas season 🪵🔥🌲😍🥰

[@youcansoften]

I think knowing your season helps a lot when decluttering. Since I know I'm a true autumn and what looks the best for me... I stick to it. ❤ I recommend you @stylebyfrancescacairns. Super good well trained stylist. Maybe there is a reason why you pick white over the beige one... Because white is a cold colour, maybe you have a cool undertone and makes you look way better than beige. 😊

[@tikanidoo]

I actually don’t even wear perfume… good video… it was entertaining