Decluttering my FANTASY SELF | closet declutter & minimizing my wardrobe

[@Christinamychas]

What have you decluttered lately? Who is your fantasy self?

[@jessie3234]

Dresses and heels are something that I NEVER wear in my closet. Time to declutter !

[@hannarellah8497]

My fantasy self wears size XS and is super slender. Having been through anorexia and years of disordered eating, I've recently discovered that wearing an M doesn't mean the world will crumble. So getting rid of skinny jeans that were a bit too tight was my latest focus ;)

[@michelepaccione8806]

I used to be a competitive amateur ballroom dancer. I had a closet full of dance clothes, most of which I designed and sewed myself…so you can imagine my emotional attachment. I finally admitted I’m not dancing any more, and got rid of 95% of these clothes, keeping a few items I can transition into my regular wardrobe. It made me sad to let them fo, but it’s ridiculous to store them in a closet and never wear them.

[@laurenstylish]

I’ve done several decluttering sessions in 2021, clothes have been the main focus and with each round I’m more able to get honest about what I’ll likely never wear again due to style or size, no matter how many good memories I have of wearing it in the past. Also duplicates - I have 5 maroon T-shirts, didn’t even realize that until I had decluttered enough to get them all in one place in my closet! My fantasy self apparently has as many arms as an octopus 🐙 because I have a purse affinity/addiction and that’s my hardest category to declutter.

[@LL-ix5gj]

Oh, the fantasy self! Having kids brings you back down to earth pretty quickly. All my pencil skirts, stiletto or uncomfortable heels, fancy lingerie (super push up bras, uncomfortable undies, etc), tones of costume jewelry, all the eyeshadow palettes 🤪! (Can you tell I relate well to the concept of fantasy self?!) lol)

[@moneybee]

The concept of a "fantasy self" is so interesting, and once you realize the little "fantasy self" traps that you fall into, it becomes so much easier to think critically about purchases and if you'll get use/happiness from items down the road. Great video Christina! 😊

[@whiskersBOOSTER2]

Absolutely!!

[@jennbatman]

work clothes! Permanently working from home now and realized I never liked most of that stuff anyway. I just bought it because it looked work-y. I've whittled down over half of my wardrobe and probably still have a little bit to go. The money spent sting hasn't left yet, but I do feel better and more free when I get ready.

[@elisasosa7651]

I love that they were so few pieces, I admire that.

[@emmsies223]

Love your channel so much, it's inspired me to look at my wardrobe, I love that you discuss this fantasy self, something I've struggled with for years! Wonderful video Christina!!

[@estelle8508]

Really interested in the concept of the fantasy self. After watching some of your videos I went into my Pinterest fashion board and cleaned it up for actual inspiration

[@jessicamcleanGG]

Love it! Thanks for the constant inspiration. You've come such a long way and are doing amazing. Also, I love that your screensaver is your pup Chaika and that you're eating a whole cucumber. LOL. LOVEE it.

[@stylistcamilla]

Time to declutter again. Thanks for the inspiration.

[@susanvelez6534]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 okay I will be decluttering my clothes I just have too much

[@ShakeMyWay]

You have beautiful skin like Snow White. I would say, in color theory, you are a winter, but your style is classic & romantic, with a touch of natural. You might find that wearing color, is to find "true color" without white or black added to the tint/tone, and the saturation, pretty strong. You are Just lovely. I feel like I could get rid of lots of things in my wardrobe, but my hubs guilts me into keeping things. I still sometimes hear about old purchases I spent money on and then didn't wear. He's right, but keeping it to not have to hear about it, weighs on me. :( I am getting more vocal about having "paid enough" for poor judgment. Finally, I am understanding my own style better. My fantasy self has a lot of "going out" clothes, and I just really don't go out. It's a waste. I am learning not to buy that stuff. I live in sweaters, jeans, tanks, and leggings. So, I should stick with that!

[@faithredpath8218]

Have you considered selling or donating those unused pieces? That way you could either recoup some of the cost, or bless someone else with them. Either way - the money has already been spent and keeping them won’t earn it back ❤️ hope he can change his mind, and you can let go of the guilt. We all make mistakes!

[@azoe6764]

Easy way to keep track of what you wear: put your hangers on the bar in the same direction (hook facing in). When you wear something, rehang it in the different direction (hook facing out). Now you know what you've worn!

[@Christinamychas]

💯! Haha the spreadsheet can be a little much for some 😬😬

[@azoe6764]

@@Christinamychas everybody has their organization thing! And yes it's a fantastic way to argue against your fantasy self inner nag! Here's the proof, buddy!

[@annoinas8230]

Great idea🤩Will definately start doing that!

[@pnwalternativebeauty8001]

I have found that even the pieces I don’t reach for currently I want to reach for a few months later. So when I declutter I just store away and then later when I want it again it’s there and I don’t have to buy it again. Cause I go through phases where my style changes a lot every few months and instead of over consuming and or decluttering I keep it because 9 out of ten times I am mad at myself for decluttering. So I have a lot of clothes but I cycle them instead of buying more. So I definitely wouldn’t consider myself a minimalist but I’m also not an over consumer because yes I have a lot but I don’t buy a lot either. It’s a collection of thrifted items I love on and off. Is anyone else this way?

[@Christinamychas]

I’m that way nowadays too! Storing allows my style to shift without shopping. I decluttered the idea that my wardrobe has to look super minimalist 🥰

[@koko137591]

🖐🏼🙂

[@zeinanicolas7359]

I'm 15 and I've found that specifically in my generation, with influences such as social media and of course the stressful social expectations of being a teenager, the idea of a fantasy self has plagued every interaction I've ever had with style! Your videos are really opening my eyes to the fact that my stress over what to wear has been because I've been trying so hard to wear things other people my age do and how my 'fantasy self' is a person that I'm not, and don't really even want to be, if I'm honest - so thank you.

[@Christinamychas]

Learning it way earlier than I did 💕

[@abbysanchez2271]

I didn’t know anything about “fantasy items” until I found your channel. It’s helped SO MUCH not to force myself to wear something because it looks cute on other people. I’m making an effort to wear things that I feel comfortable and confident in🙌🏼

[@deborrasanders]

In my latest clothing declutter, I found myself noticing textures. Comfort and soft textures are my guiding principles in clothing these days.

[@jennbatman]

Amen to this. My (hindsight) revisions were first round like/dislike, second round fits well or not and third round does it feel good on my body. Parted ways with pieces I loved but never wore for that exact reason. Guess it means I didn’t really love it.

[@laurengibson960]

You are a very " together " young woman. I admire you for figuring out who you are ( it takes soul searching to achieve that) and have embraced the real you! You are a true inspiration. I have shared your channel with my 21 y.o Goddaughter.

[@DuvaLH3]

Being real about the fact that you weren’t going to get those pants tailored and parting with your last Bing T-shirt is savage (in the best way possible). Go you!

[@youcansoften]

Look at monks, they see clothes as a piece of fabric. It doesn't define who you are. I used to love fashion, but since I watched so many videos about the industry I'm now seek of it. I'm trying to only own my favorite pieces of everything. Favorite fragrance, clothes, stuff. I try to remember when I was a kid I didn't know what was fashionable I only enjoyed the moment no matter what I wore at the time. I was deeply connected to my soul. That's success to me. I recommend you Joshua's Becker channel it's excellent, perhaps you already know him.

[@fnma21]

Same here! And I watch Joshua's videos too, he's great!

[@npjm.99]

What if the fantasy self is the version of you that you want to grow into?

[@marystewart1292]

My fantasy self was convinced she’d be losing 10 pounds and wearing a late 1990s Lucky Jeans denim skirt again someday. The 1990s finally left the house recently. I think that was actually the last item I own that was a ‘someday, when I’m thinner’ guilt trip.

[@KassWinnie]

So here's the thing about my fantasy self: she wasn't as unattainable as I thought she was. For years I avoid dressing like her cause I thought I would be dressing for a life that wasn't mine... Which was ultimately me lying to myself. So for about a year I slowly changed my wardrobe and decluttered a lot and now I dress exactly how I thought I'd never do (which is both my fantasy self and a bit of a fantasy character as well? Kkkkkkk) Takes a lot of thinking and planning and soul searching, tho, and you're doing it all, it seems, judging by how honest you are with yourself when you decluttered everything. Great video

[@katec9893]

I've been wondering this too, that maybe sometimes we just need to give ourselves permission to become our fantasy self and start wearing the corresponding clothes.

[@yanam6787]

I just pulled a whole pile out of my closet that was there “just in case” special occasion, just in case I lose weight, just in case… and I kept looking at it and kept stressing out about not wearing it or not fitting in it the way I was fitting in ti 7 years ago:( forget it! I was done and over with it - thrift store can have my cocktail dresses and office jackets that I no longer want :)

[@eglesankari8996]

I can resonate, I love to have things because I see myself in different situations where I would wear this and that, but really, it's just fantasy. I went on holiday for 17 days, packed a carry onboard suitcase with carefully picked capsule and I realized that I don't need any more than that. It's 15th day and I still haven't worn one pair of trousers and a blouse. Reality speaks for itself. Thank you for another great video 😊

[@keltay188]

Going on a trip with a capsule wardrobe was also how I realized that I'm happier with less!

[@Onemorebookpodcast.]

I recently decluttered all my polyester dresses, just didn’t feel comfortable wearing them in any season of the year. My fantasy self wears dresses all year round but that doesn’t really work with my work because I do a lot of physical work.

[@nightembergrl]

God, me too. I buy so many dresses and rarely wear them. Active work and usually active when I hang with friends

[@Iquey]

If you still like dresses you can pick out a pretty night gown. That way you can feel pretty when you go to bed, even though you do physical labor during the day.

[@bstrong5016]

I've been decluttering shoes. I have waaayyy too many. I have difficulty getting rid of them because I am very light on my feet and my shoes can look almost new for a decade. I outgrow the style. I finally let go of good quality newish shoes that I just don't love anymore. Why was this so difficult? Loving your content!

[@LifeWithElyse]

I think is so important to learn about our undertones to help choose the right shade of every color. I myself am learning that now and understand why some of my favorite pieces look good on the the picture, but washes me out because it’s not the correct undertone shade for me. Great vid! 💕

[@RebeccaNeffati]

I love this! I wish more people talked about their "fantasy self" and how that affects how we waste so much money.

[@angelagregory2810]

I recently did this as well. I’m not a huge fan of short sleeve button down shirts but I love them on everyone else. I finally let them go as well as many other things. We can love things on others and leave it at that.... admire from afar ❤️

[@katiechasm]

honestly small tone differences make a huge impact on how something actually looks/feels... def have decluttered things for being the wrong shade of navy before

[@wendyespinosa8872]

I have decluttered a few summer dresses, I’m not a dress gal. I’m a jeans and tank kind of gal.

[@Jennie8684]

So far, I’ve maintained a spreadsheet covering everything I’ve worn every single day since 1 Oct. 2020. It’s a habit now and I do it automatically as soon as I dress in the morning. I originally planned to do it for 3 months and started after completing a major clothing declutter followed by curating my wardrobe with items I really love and suit my lifestyle. At the end of each month I find it interesting to review what I wear most often, as well as what I still love but wear rarely. While I have no plans to declutter my clothes & shoes in the foreseeable future, the spreadsheet is helping me to reduce shopping, identify items I won’t need to replace (ie, items I love but I rarely wear), and items I’m prepared to pay more for because I know they will get heaps of wear. It’s also meant that I’ve eliminated my “fantasy self” and my wardrobe is cohesive and coordinated. I always feel like I have something to wear, I am never sick of my wardrobe and really enjoy the process of putting my outfit together, despite having fewer clothes and a more limited palette than I’ve ever had. I plan to continue the spreadsheet for a total of 2 years, at least. Why? I live in a part of Australia that has 4 distinct seasons, very cold Winters (for Australia), cool & breezy Springs, hot Summers, and beautiful Autumns with really cold nights; so I’ve discovered I need quite different items for each season (especially in tops). And of course, the pandemic has meant less time socialising and travelling. I’m hoping to live with what I have for another year at least, and only replace items that get lots of wear.

[@ChelseaLampinen]

It’s so interesting this whole fantasy self concept I never realized it till now! I’m 35 and sometimes feel like I can or should be wearing what 20 year olds should be wearing for some reason even if I don’t like the style of it!? 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@jenniferdossett911]

At the very end of the video you discussed the sunk cost fallacy. I’ve struggled with that a lot in my own closet and I’m just now starting to get over it and move on. Thanks for the great video!

[@asmith9849]

So difficult for me because my weight fluctuates quite a lot. So it sucks to not feel like I can give away my larger sizes or smaller sizes that I can’t wear. About 2 years ago I finally got around to decluttering my “smaller sizes” aka my “fantasy self” and I was so proud- BUT now I’ve had to purchase MORE things because a year later I weigh 25 lbs less and I’m no longer fitting into my current clothes 😞 Now I don’t feel like I can let go of certain things even if they don’t fit bc I don’t want to go through this process all over again

[@cornishsunflower963]

Great video- if you like the jumpsuit you could always dye it black? I do that with lots of my clothes and it’s an easy fix for ‘great item, wrong colour’ situations x

[@SReid111]

Great idea!! I went through a coloured jeans phase and ended up slowly dying them all jet black. Jeans for life now! :)

[@cornishsunflower963]

@@SReid111 absolutely. I often dye my clothing, either to give it a new lease of life, or to change the colour and get a 'new' piece without shopping :)

[@carysa227]

Can you do a video on what you wear to work?

[@Christinamychas]

Yes I can!

[@DemetriPanici]

*The real question is, can I get down to only having 5 grey shirts?*

[@nursescientist2520]

The concept of acquiring "fantasy self" pieces has been MIND BLOWING for me. I never saw it yet it was right in front of me. I am a community palliative care nurse who lives in Central Canada...My real life wardrobe needs to fit my life and climate. Thank you for the tough love!

[@emiliebrunet8739]

This was a good reminder to look back on what I’ve actually worn this summer. I’m definitely guilty of hanging on to those fantasy self items 😅

[@venus_peach]

Can't wait for the fall/winter closet declutter. I tend to buy A LOT of sweaters, turtlenecks, pullovers, cardigans, etc but they take so much space in my closet! Would be fun to watch your closet with clothes-for -not-so warm-weather :)

[@Iquey]

I'm with you on the CDG Play white sneakers. I call that brand the Creeper-Peeper Heart. I wanted to like it because all the cool young Asians in my town were wearing it in 2017/2018 but it didn't seem worth my money imo and I always thought the eyes on the heart looked weirdly..."judgy." But in a minimalist way. I don't like the eyes because I can't tell their mood, if that makes sense. It's halfway between smiling and glaring. 😅

[@allinclusive4943]

I'm so motivated to declutter my fantasy self too! Even the books, decoration, kitchen items... 🤗

[@Goat.Cheese]

Love this! I've been working on tailoring my closet to only include things I will realistically wear rather than impulse-purchasing fantasy items for events that will never happen.

[@vcr6854]

This fantasy self concept has held me back from buying things! And helped me let go of. There’s things I can’t wear in my job now but know I will wear when I get a different job later, so I’ve kept them. Sigh. I feel the same way about those deep navy blues. They make me look too green too :/

[@tulipsalinger1410]

Dresses! I am no longer a dress and skirt kind of person anymore! I use to be but alas since I have gotten older it no longer feels right, I do not feel like me in them and yet I see all these other fabulous older lades wearing dresses and skirts like Beatrix Ost for example (she's so marvelous) and I thought let me give it a go again, NOPE! I had bought 4 cute dresses and I did try, I wore 3 of them and styled them very cutely but it was so not me and I felt awkward it also felt impracticable trying to pick up after my dog whilst on a potty break and I was just not comfortable at all!

[@beautypsycho7139]

You say you don't wear color but you wear blue jeans... I personally gravitate towards black & grey jeans and never buy blue jeans, that's why I am wondering. I also love black clothes year round but I think that's too harsh in the summer so I am changing that and going more for greys and neutrals these days.

[@lizandjohnny]

Really enjoyed this and the first video you did about fantasy self - thanks Christina. I would love to see a 'tour' of what you have left in your wardrobe now! 🖤🤍

[@irtokiekko]

The fantasy me is a stylish party girl D= the real me loves chilling at home with the cats.

[@neon.neutral]

I resonate with your boho-rocker-Parisian-effortless fantasy self 😂😂

[@neon.neutral]

Also love the thumbnail and some of the fun new shots you’ve incorporated in this video!

[@Christinamychas]

Haha it’s a vibe isn’t it? 🥰

[@Knitsbymomo]

Haha omg, thats so me!! My fantasy self felt called out 😳😅😅

[@kathrynp7595]

I got rid of all my heels since they are a fantasy item 👎🏻

[@femkesoetens6899]

I loved it to shop and see new items hanging in my closet. But I had enough. So I made a plan, put everything in boxes and change my closet every season. Summer’s in Belgium can be hot so I have my summer closet and the winter can be cold so than I can wear my wool jacket. And I look forward every time to see my favourite pieces again after months. I have the same closet for years but I change it now and then…

[@guachuleruleru]

I love your videos but it kind of worries me that you might be getting rid of stuff that you might rebuy in the future, for example the pants that were too long and could be easily fixed. From an environmental point of view it worries me that people get rid of things so easily :(

[@Christinamychas]

I can appreciate this for sure! I’m going to be selling the item and I still have other black trousers that look the same so for me no point in keeping it. Selling in a closet sale I hope ensures someone else gets use out of them! Rather than donating and them ending up likely in a landfill 😖 I do regret my overconsumption in the past for many reasons

[@DeborahSutherlandDebinPei]

I have been declutering several large totes in storage while temporarily living elsewhere. My pile of shame is a large bag of fast fashion with the tags still on 2 years later 😳 but really I feel good about my progress of letting go and streamlining, with more work to continue 🙂

[@sarahharris7563]

No shame! Now you know and you’re much less likely to end up in the same place again. Onward!

[@lisaanderson7433]

I have so many t-shirts….. I need to let some go but dang it’s hard!!!!

[@jengenx7729]

My fantasy self chews on a cucumber … but in reality it’s a choc chip cookie….

[@limesrawsm]

I noticed you waving the cucumber in the air while you were talking and was waiting for you to acknowledge it 😂

[@cassandraknight8804]

I thought I could wear navy but had some kind of issue with it and at 46 I have just realised it’s because my school uniform was navy...... oh dear.

[@alanbirkner1958]

We took early retirement in 2002. I am 72. I haven't worn a dress or skirt since 2018. I wear nice slacks or jeans, tees or nice shirts and sweaters, sweat shirts or unstructured blazers. I love big costume jewelry. Tina

[@pretaporterp]

I'm less concerned about fantasy self purchases because those are things I bought more as a fashion collector. It's the things that I bought with the intention of wearing but turned out to be impractical that I'm decluttering. Also just changes in lifestyle, for example I haven't worked an office job in 5 years so I don't need to hold onto suits, Blazers, heels, excetera. And then issues such as wear and tear or weight / size changes.

[@tigrezz0852]

Love how you keep things so real now Christina 👊🏼 Respect! Stay safe

[@amandalh60]

You were the person who opened my eyes to the idea of fantasy self and fantasy life. Have bought items in past as would be ideal to wear to the theatre etc but I never go. Now it is a question I ask myself when I like something.

[@LBDC4ever]

Hi Christina, I'm with you on disliking shirts that feel too starchy or stiff. I recently bought a white woven cotton shirt from Blue Blue Japan, a Japanese brand. It is so soft and outstanding quality, you might like to look into them!

[@catk4659]

Great video! Could you tell us a little more about your excel data? Like how do you keep track, what you take out of it or what are your most worn items. That would be so interesting! 🤔😍

[@irsprst]

hey Christina, maybe you could try to dye the blue jumpsuit black? :)

[@dijanawarrender8627]

Thank you for this great video. It was interesting to hear your thought process for each item. I am the opposite to you in that I have to wear a pop of colour every day. Once I accepted this choosing what to buy and what to wear each day became much easier. We have to go with our gut and dress the way it feels right for us and, as you say, not our fantasy self.

[@maddison5154]

Maybe put the Anita bing T-shirt in a frame

[@mai567]

Calling in it "fantasy-self" helps me so much! I knew that's what it was, at least in part (huge part), but to have it worded as such.. I immediately saw in mind some pieces that need to go and that I had trouble letting go off. Thank you for sharing your process, it's so helpful. I'm currently decluttering ALL of my possessions and this time around I was going to leave clothes for last, because apart from digital clutter, that's the biggest pile of stuff to go through. I knew if I started with clothes that I wouldn't go through all my things. However, this fantasy-self concept clarifies for me what's me, and what's not, so I knowing clothes are coming up soon doesn't feel as daunting.

[@Mialuvsveggies]

Yep, got rid of all but one blazer. My fantasy self wanted to wear them… just not my style

[@olakruk1615]

Would love to see your wear tracker in detail to get inspired 😍 For some it may seem bit extreme but in my opinion it really makes us think about what we do use from our closet and what shopping mistakes to avoid

[@vanessabogaert2104]

You could sell those comme des garçons play sneaker for a decent amount of cash!

[@cl.j.a.a.9492]

Mi “fantasy self” es el estilo parisino estereotipado, simple, casual, y chic. Compré mucha ropa así. Al final nunca la usé y acabé regalándola 😂 mi verdadero ser es maximalista, cómodo, divertido 😅 todo lo contrario y aceptarlo será el primer paso ❤

[@sabrinahsu9567]

“I looked in the mirror and was like ‘are you okay’” 😂 me every day

[@saraleblanc2853]

It took me years to realize I am pattern shy and I never end up wearing items with a pattern, be it stripes or anything else. So, I've stopped buying them.

[@jeffluciani]

Those are hearts on the Cons?!!! I thought that was Gossamer from Looney Tunes this whole time!

[@katec9893]

One of the challenges I have is I live somewhere where its cold, damp, grey and rainy or snowy and icy for half the year so I have to prioritise warm, waterproof clothing for the winter. This often means wearing less flattering, frumpier, more depressing and practical clothes. I'd like to find a way of keeping warm and dry in winter without wearing waterproof trousers, a big jumper and a dark pufffa jacket for 6 months which has been like a warm, dry yet uninspiring winter uniform for my past 3 winters.

[@zoraidarodriguez1761]

Purchasing items for a fantasy self is perhaps best left for a costume party. Beyond that one can easily end up with a closet full of things that are no where near our true self. Less is best and true to oneself as well. 😊

[@JehanineMelmoth]

We moved two years ago, and we’ve only just found a big box of my shoes! In the meantime I’ve had to buy others for different uses (poor me, having to buy a load of shoes!) so now I have a ton of footwear. I can see my fantasy self in some of them - I mean I’m disabled and I’m never going to wear high heels! I’m going to have a ruthless declutter, and I really don’t need shoes for about three years. I need to shave more items off my closet, too. Your ‘fantasy self’ concept has been a real help to me. I don’t even want to be my fantasy self!!! I just like daydreaming, and then I buy outfits for the dream!

[@SoWhosGae]

Wow you are so right, those colours really didn't suit you despite the garments fitting and being very nice. I guess it takes wearing them a couple of times to really detect that.

[@emilyv2728]

So funny Christina, all the colours which don’t seem to work for you work for me! I have neutral tones and I love navy and beige and everything muted. Black and stark white do not work for me :)

[@Marsolan]

While we should not color type anyone without proper color tests, you do look like winter with high contract. Some color professionals call this coloring Bright (muted color will wash you out), Cool ( undertone) and Deep (contrast). What you are saying about colors that do not look good also supports that. So colors that warm, not bright/vivid enough and not contrasting enough may wash you out.

[@Orionwind]

I agree that the navy blazer doesn’t suit you, but the cream white one does. Maybe you’re just pairing it wrong with a white blouse. A burgundy or black blouse or tee shirt would look better for your facial and hair coloring.

[@mysticfox1563]

You can dye that jumpsuit another color!! It’s easy. I’d use the RIT synthetic dye even if it’s natural fibers because threads are often synthetic.

[@Christinamychas]

Ohhhhh good call!

[@mysticfox1563]

Plus it would make a cool video 😉.

[@jennbatman]

Black!… are we voting? I’m voting black.

[@KleineMausii17]

Idk how to declutter when i dont reach for Things bc there was no wheater for it. We had the coldest summer in years with a lot of rain and only 3 days of Heat... Usually we get 2-3 Weeks of Heat and therefore we need usually more clothes for that and now i havent used most of my summer pieces bc i needed more sweaters than everything. Any Tipps?

[@Marsolan]

Speaking of the white button up, I think your body proportions would love softer fabric and cut. Your bones are not sharp. Stiff shirts go against that natural body line. You can find soft cotton, linen, tencel , silk etc. But it might be that the angularity of this shirt that is off.

[@sarahflynn8142]

I know I'm late to this video but what helped me discover colors that worked for me is to pay attention when people complimented a piece of they say that a shirt makes my skin or eyes look better then it's likely a good color, I now only buy clothes that have colors that look good on me. This has fundamentally changed the way I shop and it has helped me avoid some of the impulse shopping pitfalls.

[@fruitsandspiceschannel2235]

I can relate to my self when it come to fantasy self, I thought my style is effortless,sporty,bohemian but the reality I reach more to slip dress, cardigan and maxi dress. Declutter is the answer to understanding your self style.

[@szfrj]

Loved your video!! I don't know if you already decluttered your T-shirt, I have had clothes with really cool prints on them that got damaged, so I just cut out a square piece of fabric with the print intact and framed it for my wall :) It's nice to decorate with sentimental items sometimes, might be an idea for the T-shirt, or it might feel healthier just letting go :) loving your content anyways

[@Marsolan]

In addition to putting something away to see if I reach for it, I also try to ask myself to actively find a way to style something that I do not wear. I would place this item in front and try try try to find new combination to make it work. If this experiment does not work, it's time to let go.

[@a.beaverhausen1140]

The fantasy self resonates so much with me. I'm also a mostly neutral girl but I purchased a ton of colorful pieces, some solid and some patterned, but they just aren't me. I recently accepted it and let the colorful stuff go. I have a long way to go.... it's a process....but I'm on the road at least.

[@patriciainportland5567]

Nailed it! I just did a huge purge of my jewelry. Started w/friends before trying to sell. They couldn't believe I was getting rid of such beautiful pieces. You mentioned how it felt looking at, and then passing over, clothes in your closet. I experienced the same thing w/these jewelry pieces! All of the emotions: regret, shame, resentment... Then came the, "I just need to make the time/effort to come up with an outfit that will go w/the pieces." Which I never did. Oh, hello guilt and disappointment. No more! Off they went, and I feel so much better looking at my jewelry. I can see everything and it's all being worn. Take control of your life and grow stronger.

[@tulipsalinger1410]

also, I think your style is wonderful and that you look cool and really pretty, also comfy!

[@amma7244]

Really helpful video than you! I just put things aside in another closet that I was bypassing without making a final decision on them. I put in my closet just what I grab for and realized I weeded out synthetic and vegan materials and warm tones caramels and beiges and olive green. As I’m aging some colours just wash me out and looking back at the finished closet gave me more clarity on what I like now as it did change. I also pulled out the stiff button ups in favour of softer cottons snd linen. Thank you for sharing your thought process it is inspiring.

[@c.r.8528]

I am a color/style analyst and you are most probably a winter type. :-) Look it up, just cool colors...

[@Christinamychas]

Wow I just looked that up and I think you’re right! Cool! ❄️

[@c.r.8528]

@@Christinamychas yeees it changed my whole outlook and it stops you from buying the wrong pieces💪🏼🌟

[@alyx4458]

Really related to you discussing colour and aiming to try something new (but not wearing it in practice). I think it's important to be open to experimenting style wise but when it's clear it doesn't resonate, it's time to move on. I did the same with a suit in a colour that actually doesn't work for me. I now understand that I prefer colour in my accessories (bags, nails, jewellery) while the rest of my style is pretty muted.

[@aizkirad3251]

Great video! I loved the point you made about colors for the jumpsuit. For me, I tend to gravitate towars a couple of colors for winter and summer and I've come to the conclusion that it's okay to not want to bring up other colors into my closet because at the end of the day, I won't reach for them anyways

[@Blima-us1ni]

Taking photos and having my clothes in an excel sheet has been helping me to both wear items I love and did not wear regularly (afraid of them losing their quality / shape?) and also to donate what I happen not to wear much :)

[@kliving1210]

You look like Catriona Balfe. Has anyone ever said that to you

[@mysticfox1563]

Here’s what I don’t get about the Bing tee shirt. It’s aggressively American and isn’t she Danish?

[@Christinamychas]

Haha yes - she mentions she takes a lot of inspiration from LA style

[@mysticfox1563]

@@Christinamychas, that makes sense. I am American and I don’t think I’ve ever owned that much eagle. Maybe that’s the point of a fantasy though, it’s not exotic to me.

[@joyous2theworld]

Thank you so much for your stark honesty even about the hard things.