Deleting Social Media Changed My Life

No social media for 3.5 years. Here's what happened.
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[@joemanicom3498]

I met a girl the other day and she told me that she didn’t have any social media purely because she doesn’t want to have to deal with the pressure of liking everyones posts and trying to be cool by showing what she was. It blew me away and I actually just took a moment to think about it and I was instantly attracted to her. Definitely motivated me to focus on myself 💪

[@diceslicethatrice]

Keep going my brother! 💪🏻💪🏻🔥

[@Highrepcalisthenicsislife]

Probably met a transgender 🤡🤦🏻‍♂️🤣

[@FransceneJK98]

I had dudes tell me I was lying as if it’s something soo unbelievable. Like what?? I get most people are probably on social media but don’t accuse someone of lying when it’s actually a healthy thing to do. It’s like saying “I don’t believe you don’t eat fast food cuz everyone does.” 😂

[@linda.yuri999]

@@FransceneJK98 😂❤️

[@user-hm4hd8ib7c]

Loneliness is the price to pay for improving yourself, and I don’t regret deleting social media one bit.

[@tatibynati]

You are so righ. I feel you have to be in the "zone" in order to be included, if not is like you never fit in.

[@user-ok7yy4ou3f]

Indeed 😊 ​@@tatibynati

[@Mission989]

Go out and meet people! I had a hard time being in big crowds and starting conversations with random people unless I was drinking. Then I went to rehab for alcohol, place I went was huge and almost seemed like a college. When I first got there I almost left because of it. Told myself I can either avoid everyone and be the weirdo hanging out by himself in the corner or grow some balls and talk to people. When I left that place 30 days later I knew everyone by name and made several new friends I still talk to. Way better talking to or meeting new people in person!!

[@mechanichix]

I deleted social media too. Now I am playing keyboard, reading, swimming, gardening

[@elliemichel7560]

“You will never hear someone say, my life got worse after I deleted social media.” I’ve learned it’s such a damn black hole honestly.

[@ShanKayV]

So true!!

[@Pluty80]

Facts

[@hansinigeesawor1319]

the joy of missing out >>>>>

[@Zeh______________n]

I like mistery, it’s been 7 months now without social media and I’m living my best life offline, happily…..I love this life🥺

[@Carol.justina]

❤

[@nathanjohnson4721]

Same

[@stayingfitandfocused]

Before it was weird to have it now it's weird if you don't have it. Social media is cancer

[@linda.yuri999]

😀❤

[@Pluty80]

Facts

[@stanzin11]

You start living for other people, this line hit hard

[@Star______86454]

Just deleted all of my social media and I already feel way better!! 🎉

[@dj_bubbs-TXQ]

It’s been 2 years since I left social media. I have no regrets at all. I got sick of people gossiping, drama, negativity & people faking their lives & friendships and sharing everything that should be private or craving attention with provocative pictures & selfies. A number of things I realised: 1. People who added me as “Friends” didn’t really care about me. They were “So called Friends” just to increase their friends list. 2. When people were going through their hardest times of anxiety, trauma and upset, I went out of my way & made an effort by helping & supporting them. But when I was going through my hardest times, including anxiety, trauma and stress. The people who I helped & supported never reached out to me to help or supported me even when I struggled. Everything has become one sided. 3. Certain posts or videos get blown out of proportion or completely taken out of context even if it’s nothing negative. 4. People lie about the amount of friends they REALLY have. Who in the REAL world has 100s or 1000s of friends WHO?? 5. Communication is very one sided. The same person had to make the first move to start a conversation as the other person doesn’t make an effort themselves or just can’t be bothered. 6. People lie about their lives, they only show the positive side of theirs lives which doesn’t show the real truth about the person. You can’t tell and don’t see if someone is REALLY depressed, upset, isolated, lonely, feeling suicidal or what’s actually going on in their actual lives. Even if people post how they really feel, people don’t always care or not interested. 7. It makes people fake and insecure. It’s not just school kids or teenagers in schools, colleges, universities or workplaces doing it, but adults as well are also being fake & insecure, especially managers. 8. People compare themselves to others just to get loads of “Likes” & comments. 9. Social media has increased loneliness, isolation, anxiety and depression which can be severe. 10. Due to social media and the increase in technology, it’s causing destruction & destroying peoples lives in the sense of their is no sense of unity, community, love and nobody wants to help each other. If they see someone doing something constructive and productive and they’re doing well in a community or society, people will laugh at them in an act of ignorance, and cannot wait for them to fall down. Social media is dividing people, not bringing people together. 11. Having a proper conversation or being real is considered not normal and people think it’s creepy. People don’t like having real conversations. 12. It’s made people to be narcissists, self entitlement, ignorant, prejudice and bullies. 13. People can say things or make comments that are abusive, racist, sexist, ignorant, prejudice, misogynist, homophobia, xenophobia, discrimination openly online, rather than to your face. 14. I have seen Boys & Girls take provocative, selfies / pictures to get attention from so called friends / strangers, sometimes in a negative way, for example, woman having their boobs / chests hanging out, body image, men & women showing off muscles, six pack & more. 15. With social media & the young generation with regards to friendships, people feel that if they add someone as friend request and they accept it, or meet someone & they click with them they automatically think that’s “friends for life” people need to realise that’s not how friendship REALLY works. Friendships are & should always be a 2-way street. Real friendships would make the effort to support & be there for each other through the good times, fun times, hard times, sad times, upsetting times & more. Communication & making an effort should be equal on both sides. Not the same person who always makes first contact. The other person should also make an effort too. We need to ALL learn the skill set of when we suffer from stress, anxiety, trauma, facing problems & more, that we should reach out to our friends or professionals for help & support, NOT social media. 16. Our young generation has grown up addicted. They have been addicted to mobile phones, alcohol, drugs, social media & more at a young age It’s very sad. I never had TikTok, Twitter or Instagram. Glad I didn’t sign up to any of them. Facebook was the only social media platform I had and it was recommended to me back when I was in my teens. I only use KZbin as I can look at interesting things like cooking recipes and motivation videos and music videos of festivals & concerts and more fun stuff. I enjoy going out in nature walks, bowling listening to music and learning new hobbies and watching movies. Since leaving it’s been the best decision of my life. I enjoy life more, I can now enjoy doing the things I do or want to try without being judged or told what to do without being made to feel guilty. I feel more happier and a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I think if social media disappeared forever, I can guarantee people will spend REAL quality time with friends and family. People will know who their REAL friends are and that they will do things together and have a good time doing it. I also feel that people will have proper conversations and listen and engage. I do feel sorry for our young generation. The young generation is lost. There is so much talent and ideas in young people and they need to show that in a positive & constructive way. We can make change for the future. The young generation needs real positive role models to look up to, for them to succeed in life & beyond.

[@shabanaparveen8918]

So 👍 true

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Facts👏

[@DforDostoevsky]

FACTS💯🤌🏽

[@borntoclimb7116]

Im a guy who use not much social Media. During working and during my time in the nature, there is No Phone, No music. When i releax at home i watch some yt videos or documentarys, have no Twitter, no tiktok and dont play Games.

[@nathanjohnson4721]

Damn fact

[@Therynk_]

Deleted all my accounts last week. Been online since I was 12… at 33 it was time to go.

[@tecnikstr0be]

Deleted or deactivated?

[@Pluty80]

Damn u was a real social media head bro

[@oldcreekroadpictures]

Been saying this for years that social media is destroying the fabric of everything a human being does. Good video

[@tatibynati]

An the most horrible part of it all, is that they make tons of money out of it

[@alandouglasbr1839]

I just deleted social media. They've been so bad for my mental health, I realized I had to cut it off entirely. I can say I am much more willing now to do other productive activities in my life and I feel much better.

[@jdbruiser]

All you need is discipline or to make social media work for you. Sure deleting it eliminates the problems, but if you had more control then you'd be able to find a balance.

[@BrandonWilliams-st8tb]

SHUT UP​@@jdbruiser

[@lukahmad5683]

I deleted all my social media last week. It was weird that all my friends were shocked and they're all like "are you okay, do you need help?". Now, it open my eyes, I go out , I saw everyone was on their phone. Eating, walking, at the bus station, train station, even hangout with a lot of friends, all of them are on the phone scrolling, I can even see their thumb pushing up, every each one I saw. So strange. I only have KZbin accounts and I only watch what I searched, I don't use shorts scrolling and recommended videos anymore. Thank you for sharing this, Matt!

[@AzeAlter]

it's a wild world

[@Yazzer1844]

I had a similar experience last week! 2 days into deleting my accounts - I noticed everyone in transit and walking the streets on their phones. Like no one even looking up. It’s been 8 days and my life feels new.

[@brantfekete7812]

@@Yazzer1844that’s ok I deleted all my social media as well one of the best decisions I ever made sure our smartphones have made a lot of things easier but they also have robbed our world and society of so much happiness as well and brought so much more stress that many people don’t even realize it!

[@RamboQuellz]

And I don't think people realize how much social media makes you very lustful of people you'll never have direct access to! People have parasocial relationships with people who don't even know they exist!

[@JaydenReacts81]

I just deleted mines after a mental breakdown 😭 thank you for this video

[@shadeismael7460]

Its been a month now for me without social media , life feels so much better , now i’m more focused on my studies,my life, family , friends and inner peace

[@Pluty80]

Don’t relapse u just got off that devilish platforms

[@ZKTheGreat]

It's been 13 months for me. I became so much happier and I don't miss it at all.

[@fromtheraq3898]

We were never meant to see thousands of peoples thoughts within a span of hours man. That in itself can influence your thoughts

[@EjoysArtSpace29]

I searched for this kind of video. Yours popped out first on my screen. I got tired of posting my stuffs every day on social media. It's a lot of pressure. I decided to delete them but not YT. Thanks for the enlightenment.

[@whome6081]

I haven’t had social media for like 4 years and it’s so great! People are always in complete shock when I say that.

[@jamesarnold1123]

Thank you for this video Matt. I am so done with social media in 2024.

[@Hilary945]

I'm a senior in college. The day before fall quarter started, I deleted my accounts. Now I have a 3.5 GPA. I don't care about TV either...why would I waste time watching someone else's character when I could focus on mine.

[@besttravelguides8767]

I wish I did, I graduated with 2.75cgpa😢

[@Hilary945]

@@besttravelguides8767 But you still graduated from college! Even that's a huge deal.

[@puhatus]

Good point. Absolute most of that information we comsume on social media has zero value. It's just a Distraction.

[@intuitivelymagician2076]

my goal for 2024, reducing social media phone usage. replacing healthier habits, back to meditsting , journalling exercising, making side income, back to finishing college, getting my kife in order quitting my current job

[@dosomestuff1949]

Why 2024? Start now

[@intuitivelymagician2076]

@@dosomestuff1949 I meant to say starting early for 2024

[@dosomestuff1949]

@@intuitivelymagician2076 ah okay

[@brahimiwafa9298]

هل فعلت ماقلته؟

[@Ketankumargothi]

Literally Doing the Same here.. All the best Bro💪🏼

[@ravimakwana992]

Its been 4 months without a social media and I can tell anybody reading this that there are no negatives. The validation that I get from myself after accomplishing anything is more authentic and powerful than any validation i can get from anybody. Unless you have FOMO, its quite easy to do it, but you gotta learn that the happiness, fulfilment and excitment that you brew within is the true one and not the one that you get off from posting stuff online. You'll see it when you do it. Also, there's no point in seeing what everybody else is doing in their life if all thats gonna do is frustrate you up. If you really stop that and actually start enjoying your life you'll find yourself have that life too!

[@joeshmoe8952]

I felt such a weight off my shoulders when I deleted my facebook. It was annoying me after a while so I deleted it. It has probably been 8 years now but I will never go back. My privacy is something I actually cherish now, I feel better being a mystery just like you said.

[@Andromeda.422]

People always look at me crazy when I say I don’t have social media…the longest I’ve ever went was 18 months and I was so happy and content…I’ve been off since October and I don’t plan on going back, my friends think I’m crazy being that I have 21k+ on tiktok and was getting paid but none of that matters to me…I enjoy my high vibrations 😊✨

[@Starr_lit]

That’s not crazy

[@Acoffeewithlotta]

I deleted all social media yesterday. I felt very lonely spending time there.

[@ChrisSonTalks]

Certainly did for me as well. Your story about deleting Instagram inspired me to delete as well-all three of my accounts. Thanks for spreading a great message Matt!

[@MattSpear99]

Let’s go Chris thank YOU

[@user-us1lf7yg8y]

@@MattSpear99I certainly enjoyed the way you explained how social media can be very obsessive cool bro. I have just recently commented on how I reach out to anybody that I have known for years. I’m also new here and I’m very happy that I have noticed you on KZbin. Hope to someday physically meet you in person which would be very nice one of these days.

[@krzysiuup]

I love that feeling, when I'm watching your videos and can relate to all this benefits you are talking about ❤

[@gerardomercado2357]

Social Media turned into a popularity contest and its no longer about looking back on old photos

[@lailak482]

Yes

[@sierrasedlock7013]

This month is 6 months without social media for myself!

[@prophecyrevelations5653]

I didn't delete social media I just don't engage publicly anymore. I check DMs only about once a month. Not interested in people's random posts anymore. My DMs are DIRECT MESSAGES from people I like, I never view any timeline...cuz in my book, if u didn't say it to me directly...u didn't say it✌️

[@annaliseoliver1693]

Love this video!!! Love your brutal honesty. Straight to the point. Subscribed!

[@CesiraKelleher-im5nu]

I am a Gen X er and the first part of my life no social media when I hit 35 got a phone and “it” started. Now at 56 more unhappy then ever with constant scrolling. This video really motivates me to end it. Thanks and you are correct so busy focusing on other people when we should really be focused on our own journey.

[@elliemichel7560]

Love this so much. Thanks for sharing

[@Tommy_Univerxse]

Im so inspired by this. Im really struggling here with it, looking forward to this change

[@trainmaster1548]

i’ve just deleted social media myself and i could not relate more to your video. to put it simple you read me like a book. this video has finally made me recognize what my problems were and how to improve myself, and i’d like to thank you for that.

[@masonduffy820]

Little late, but I just came across this video. This story is really uplifting to me as I was in a very similar situation in middle and high school where I was always brought down by my peers for not ‘fitting in’ or matching their vibe. I ended up tuning those people out and deleting Snapchat once and for all, and it changed me life. No longer was I unsatisfied or anxious over how I wasn’t fitting in with other people- that never ended up mattering. Now that I’m in college, I’m the happiest and most confident that I’ve ever been thanks to deleting social media and not getting tied up in what people thought of me!

[@antoinemouthon6501]

Hello Matt! I really like your video. I haven't deleted my social media but I've been setting methods to decrease the time I spend on it. For example, I put the social media apps on the 2nd page of my home screen so I feel less tempted to open them up, and it worked. I've never really considered deleting though because I like to see what my close friends are up to without feeling too insecure.

[@theblessed5737]

Bro, this message really touched me🤝 REAL TRUTH!

[@tk-hf4oz]

Hell of a motivation speech. Thanks.

[@elliemichel7560]

I realized that my REAL friends call me and text me. My fake friends only talk to me through pictures! I literally deleted my instagram yesterday and I deleted my Facebook about two months ago.

[@lailak482]

Yeah I just deleted it today

[@brantfekete7812]

You made a great decision and trust me you won’t regret it. I deleted all my social media a long time ago. One of the best decisions I have ever made and I ain’t never going back!

[@anaestelagutierrez4319]

Amen!!!! thank you for sharing this, it really helped

[@hypnotize107]

Bro you are speaking facts, listening from germany. I hope this message will reach more young people.

[@LawNerdSoph]

I just deactivated my TikTok, Instagram and Facebook for alllll of the reasons you said in this video. Right on!

[@ValerieMonae]

Absolutely love this video ! Free from the addiction. Thanks for this !

[@shalxnda]

I love watching these videos and reading the comments since I like knowing everyone's thoughts on social media.

[@mjlivetv8065]

I'm 100% ok with deleting Snapchat and Instagram but KZbin is something I don't ever even think about to delete it because of the knownledge you can gain due to high quality videos like your's. Thanks for these advices and the good content🙏.

[@brantfekete7812]

I agree with not deleting KZbin I also deleted all my other social media about 7-8 years ago but you know I personally don’t consider KZbin social media even if the general public says it is I guess KZbin is social media in a way but it feels so much different than the rest of the social media platforms

[@ShanKayV]

YT also isnt something i watch on my phone, i only watch it on my TV or laptop when id otherwise be watching a TV show or something. 99% of the time im watching videos like this one which align with my values.

[@jeremyleary411]

I totally agree and relate to the courtside seats story. Thanks so much for sharing your story because that helps a lot with my own life!

[@raeesah8050]

same here, it’s really sad when you think back to times in your life where it has been the same situation as the courtside seats story 😭

[@davidmay-jr4zf]

So true mate, I'm going off as from today, thanks for your video

[@samxia7008]

LOVE this video Matt!! I burst out laughing so many times cuz you descriptions are spot on

[@abbys104]

👏🏼 👏🏼 I've been social media free for almost a year now. It's been great

[@nikoo8035]

Your past video motivated me to delete Instagram (only social media I had). I am like 10 days into it and I am feeling so better. Guys just do it. Seek absolute freedom.

[@doseofmyreality]

I’ve been watching a lot of these types of videos lately but this one is by far my favorite that I’ve watched 🎯

[@reggiebuttsmash2321]

In high school used Facebook to make post about poops and toilets while everyone else was posting selfies. Good shit Matt!

[@fhgwfggfbhuyt7563]

You are right when you said, brother, stay away from distractions to develop yourself. Thanks

[@minhyuk1902]

Thank you so much i needed to hear this today

[@danharper7560]

Very powerful my brother. Appreciate you taking the time to create this.

[@Jxfunfg]

I did delete social media last year n was so focused on school and passed, I opened it again n deleted today to get that same focus back❤❤

[@malikgray6615]

Been had my social media for wayyyy tooo long and I don’t even know why I still had them for this long it’s crazyyyy !!!! I just know I’m 2024 it’s gonna be HUGE changes for one I’m gonna start living more in the present

[@jarie9375]

Thank you for this video!

[@MathewStephen_ForeverYoung]

I deleted Facebook last month and got rid of Instagram today. I do feel blank but not bad. It feels like exiting a loud pub with endless music. I am hoping to make the best of my short span of existence.

[@luismas4612]

Thanks man. I’m thinking about this a lot. Stopped using Facebook already and IG is next.

[@AdamsOsiris]

Hi matt this video was truly inspirational and had tipped me off the edge for good, Social media has brought me nothing but grief. As I've grown older I desire privacy and I don't wish to be searched or judged by other people that don't know me personally. A realisation that has sadly become more noticeable in this generation.

[@derekthompson9317]

I am been off social media expect youtube .don't miss it. This guy is so correct

[@Colesbaby1999]

I’mma be doing this real soon, the addiction is crazy

[@lailak482]

Yeah I did for 3months my life was different more in real world I just deactivated it today again

[@exeriadc7485]

Hello! Currently two months into social media free and I am loving it

[@MattE477]

I recently deleted social media two months ago and Matt you are so right

[@MichaelElam2]

Bro you funny 😂, but yeah I feel you on the disappearing and reinventing yourself part

[@makinatol45]

Total respect bro. One day all those addicted people will chase you as a Successful guy

[@MrBucketlist]

Great heartfelt video.

[@ingfrappa]

Totally agree with all your words!

[@GabrielXDrums]

I agree with this video 100% thanks for this man.

[@madkittyjoey70]

Great video and a funny one too. I left Facebook in 2022, but came back in late 2023. After getting nothing but messages from random guys asking me where I lived and if I was married, I decided to leave for good. I don't have a TikTok or Snapchat, but am getting ready to leave Instagram. I don't have anything more to say on there that's special.

[@Goodliferalphyyy]

I am now trying this matttt 🙂 thanks buddy 🙏🏾

[@FransceneJK98]

I deleted my socials last year and I feel soooo much better!!! More time for me, my hobbies, my family and friends. My stress levels went down big time which actually helped me lose weight cuz high cortisol levels prevents weight loss. However, KZbin on the other hand 😂 I still spend too much time on that. But now that I’m off socials, I have days when I even wanna turn my phone off all day and night. I realized I get so stressed out when I wake up and see tons of messages and notifications on my phone. It feels better putting my phone on airplane mode and no wifi. No messages when I wake up.

[@Chriscarper]

Thank you mate, done it myself today, its something I've been thinking of doing for a long time, permanently deleted today 👍

[@SenyoritaStoic]

Nice video, man! Keep it up!

[@Allysroadtorecovery]

Awesome video now subbed, thank you brother agree 100%

[@Luigi2Wild]

This guy is very inspiring 🙌🏼

[@saleebaan84]

Thanks for speaking about this issue. I have deleted all my social media accounts. Today when I woke up it was peaceful.

[@Roman_CK]

I'm just going to enjoy this much of your video. And yes. That's a good thing.

[@ShinarMoshi-vi5zb]

God Bless You 🙏🙌

[@WinterMocha]

I AGREE!!! FOCUS ON YOU AND NO PRESSURE

[@marcfrancisteodoro7720]

Amazing content brother 👏🏼

[@Bonkers26]

This is an excellent video.

[@Fridayy.Blessed]

Great video Man

[@aarjuthind]

Bro , I could really feel each and every word you said , because me suffering from the same

[@mtresmoore]

I’ve been going back and forth between having social media for years now and now all I want is to do is focus on myself so I can figure out what I want. I’m 32 and I want to completely disconnect from this energy. I do want to have a KZbin eventually but it stops today.

[@feryelzoghlami3832]

so i used to have social media (i had it bc i was following the crowd aka my friends have it so why dont i used it too) anyway i didnt care less ab posting anything bc i was worried to post a stupid picture. but the sad thing is like u said u start to waste ur time and u compare urself to others too much. everytime i look at my friends stories i feel lonely (they are not acc my friendd we were just classmates.) i always be like " why i dont go out with ppl like that?" and when i saw these delete social media vids i did it and now i feel way better

[@_ileaj_]

Thank you🙏🏽❤️

[@rarissime_bey]

True brother . I can relate 👍🏻🌙

[@ElisiasEvolution]

This is the best video I've seen so far, it made me laugh and it was candid!!

[@user-us1lf7yg8y]

It certainly is both good and bad. Even if you do contact friends by phone call or text they sometimes really are too busy with mostly work or family which is why they never answer. This is why I only reach out to my friends once in a while whenever possible by not constantly going overboard with it. You are certainly correct Matt. I even video call a few friends sometimes as well on my messenger just to see how they are doing as well. Mostly I use social media since my family is on there as well as many of my friends that I actually do know for many years because I either grew up with them have worked with them or went to school with them. I myself only do a combination of social media,inbox messenger,phone call,text and video call.

[@brahimiwafa9298]

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[@anacruz7264]

social media is a waste of time. last year, i was at my lowest because i was a senior in college with alot of stuff to do. i had to focus on my assignments and graduate, but the same time i would care about another people and what they would do. i would compare myself with other people especially girls. Right now, i’m youtube videos about how to better myself and get a better job. Social media is just a distraction. I am 23 years old right now and I never really liked instagram cause everything is just super fake.

[@khrystihh]

omg i really resonated with this comment, i’m a senior graduating at 23 as well!! def taking this as a sign

[@anacruz7264]

@@khrystihh social media just keeps getting worse and worse. you just gotta focus on yourself and grow. it’s so much hate and negativity out there’s

[@lfy24964]

Facts

[@lfy24964]

I don’t have social media either

[@alenaadamkova5322]

The thing is if people would be allowed to use it only 2 hours a day, the content would be much better quality, more engaging, less spaming. Less spaming in videos, less desiformation and less spaming in comments.

[@vikramrajurs5252]

Thank U 🙏

[@sweetdoll19]

I love it after deleting,except my yt channel .. because there u provide and share my experiences...loved it ...

[@imgoodkinda]

As much as I want to delete social media, I can't because I need it so that I can get informed for any events at groups or something. Such as a sport club that informs me when we should continue training for example.

[@lilcryptoworld7]

CONGRATULATIONS 🎊🎉🎈