Dementia, Delirium, and Drugs. Our experiences

In this video I talk about my mom who has dementia, and how she suddenly went off the deep end.
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[@dudanunesbleff]

It's heartbreaking to see this lovely lady in this condition. My mother has dementia, and delirium some times, it's a hard thing to deal with.

[@manueladarazsdi9675]

Deborah, you and I have had similar experiences with our moms. It helps me immensely to hear that I am not alone in this.

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-thed8114]

Sadly, it's a long journey.

[@pintsizestories196]

My mom, who was doing quite well even in her 90's suddenly had delirium - hallucinations, mania - pretty scary for us. Turns out it was a urinary tract infection. A few days of antibiotics and she was back to herself. It happened a few other times but each time the antibiotics fixed it. UTIs are very common in older people and delirium from them is also common in older people.

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-thed8114]

Very true.

[@sundoesshine8583]

Wow, that is AMazing, the difference. So glad you were able to get her back to her baseline, she seems so much happier.

[@staciroberts7057]

This is just like my mom. We didn’t know she had dementia, she hadn’t been in our lives for 40 yrs. Now we are caring for her and learning. The hard way.

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-theg4767]

You don't understand it until you live it.

[@susancrowshaw9878]

Hi Deborah, your videos are really helping me on this journey. I'm so glad that I found your channel.

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-theg4767]

Glad it helps!

[@AnaLopez-se7xi]

God bless you for taking care of her.

[@lanapoulliot7682]

That music was really loud, and not of her generation. That was probably a contributing factor. God bless you and your mom

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-thed8114]

It was loud that day. She had a rough time for a little while.

[@juliamundt101]

This is one of the reasons I can’t take my husband with dementia to popular family restaurants. We have a few local favorites that cater to a primarily senior client. Less visual and audio clutter, either by accident or by design. We go for a calm & peaceful breakfast, timed way before meds begin to wear off/Sun downing starts.

[@ramijoy2633]

Thank you for sharing your story.

[@ginawhittaker2585]

This was so helpful, thank you.

[@freezerburnednomore]

This was very difficult to watch. I so appreciate your sharing these videos. I’m not sure it will make it any easier when the time comes with my loved one but it gives me insight into how to handle it.

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-thed8114]

It doesn't happen to everyone. If it does, the thing to look at is how quickly did it happen? My mom' progressed over about four weeks which is why we figured out it was due to medication. If it happens in a few days, it's more likely to be some type of infection.

[@1HeathersJourney]

We’ve learned there’s any rapid change check for an infection/LAB/UTI as my stepmom has had delirium sometimes it’s caused by an infection sometimes it’s not but not that long lasting usually a couple of days and then goes to the hypo active stage of it. And you never know with medication we had my stepmom on Bactrim an anabiotic and actually made her off the rails delirium crazy

[@juliamundt101]

I’m 59, and find that music so loud & distracting. The beat and speed is too stimulating.

[@onthehill3381]

I was thinking the same thing. I’d be upset if they had Bruce Springsteen blasting loud.

[@AnaLopez-se7xi]

Agree

[@SheOpines]

What is your opinion of giving these patients a baby doll or a stuffed animal? Someone gave my mom a doll. The doll bothered me. The stuffed animal didn’t. She also told me she was pregnant and had a baby. AKA the doll. I didn’t see her make an attachment to it.

[@video198712]

I keep telling one of my two sisters, that we should take our mother back to the neurologist for check up, she's had dementia since 2020. My sister is like, "why, it's not going to change anything, she's not going to get any better." should we take her to a neurologist every now and then and not just her internist? Plus why do people with dementia always say they are cold

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-thed8114]

I don't have the answer for neurology. It depends on which doctor you prefer.

[@earlyriser4033]

Love your informative videos. She must have been in a horrible facility for you to find her with greasy matted hair,, no shoes, sleeping on floors etc. I have never seen anything like that at my mother’s facility from any patient and I go 5 days a week. Bad facilities can kill dementia patients but good ones can enhance their days

[@MrsMartin0831]

Is she in assisted living?

[@AnaLopez-se7xi]

Music is loud and what is flashing??? She needs it quite??

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-thed8114]

Yup. She was in the common area right next to the recreation area which is why the music was loud. The flashing was a ceiling fan that was rotating in front of an overhead light. I don't think anyone realized it.

[@ranchoboomerang]

What the heck is that awful music? Its not soothing thats for sure. 😮

[@KiKiQuiQuiKiKi]

Thank you for sharing the details-this will help many. 🪻🪻🪻

[@lifeunderdeborahspalm-thed8114]

Glad it was helpful!