How to Talk to Someone With Dementia

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@joejoseph3078
@joejoseph3078 3 жыл бұрын
Im a nursing student from the 1990's. When I was learning we were taught to provide reality reorientation with each approach. In my first job as a RN after graduation I worked in a nursing home. I did what I was taught and provided reality reorientation until I realized how pointless it was. When an 80 y/o farmer is trying to get out of bed over the handrails at 2am because he has to get up to go milk the cows, there isnt any amount of reorientation that is going to help that. In fact, in many cases I pissed these people off because here is this 22 year old man in what they think is their bedroom telling them "No Sir you are in a nursing home and its 2am and you need to go back to sleep". I mean, who in the hell wants to be told they are in a nursing home? I finally learned to just go with it. Id act surprised and look at my watch and say, "Oh shit, we're gonna be late, we better get your clothes on". If I had to Id get him up and dressed then send them off down the hallway. After he walked down the hall few times I knew his short term memory had expired and I would approach him with a surprised face on and say, "Well arent you up late tonight, but you know its 2am, we should probably be getting to bed if we are going to milk those cows on time this morning", and back to bed he would go. I mean I dont if thats all ethical and what not, but its better than trying to have a fight with a man about something that ultimately doesnt matter and just do whats needed to respect him and his dignity, while also keeping him safe from injury.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
Amazing how behind nursing education is regarding the value and utilization of the social aspects of people's lives, isn't it? I also learned reality orientation back in the 60's and the fact that you learned the same in the 90's makes me sad. We embrace changes in medical knowledge and only wish we would be as quick to embrace technique aimed at mental issues! Gotta keep trying to teach this! Thanks for sharing.
@edandnannettegerman4146
@edandnannettegerman4146 3 жыл бұрын
My mother in law would get up in the night and be looking for papers she needed to grade. It was very important. I would tell her that I would find them and have them ready in the morning. She would be satisfied and go back to bed. She was the sweetest person ever but she needed me to be her friend which I was. I never regret the three years she stayed with us until she passed and think about her almost daily.
@ritabillings1507
@ritabillings1507 3 жыл бұрын
We need more of you. Bless you.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
@@ritabillings1507 Not sure the world could manage more than 1 of me! Seriously, thanks so much for your kind words!
@suepringle6642
@suepringle6642 3 жыл бұрын
You are so on target!! Glad you switched to going with their flow...it is the only good way - = it lets the person keep their dignity, their good mood, their confidence that they're okay.
@lauranorwar
@lauranorwar 3 жыл бұрын
I remember walking into a facility once to visit a friend. One of the patients walked up to a staff member and exclaimed “I’m here...I’m ready to start work!” The staff member didn’t miss a beat. She looked into the woman’s eyes, took her hand, and said “oh! I’m so glad you’re here!!” They smiled at each other for a moment and the patient walked away with a sense of purpose. Ready to start “work.” It was beautiful.
@ellenhofer3343
@ellenhofer3343 3 жыл бұрын
When my dad was first in assisted care & then memory care, he wander into the early morning kitchen/eating area and tell them he was ready for work. They always saved the napkins for him to fold & he was happy as could be.
@yuribezmenov8804
@yuribezmenov8804 3 жыл бұрын
Handled perfectly 😄
@olivepierse9888
@olivepierse9888 3 жыл бұрын
@@yuribezmenov8804 ohb
@olivepierse9888
@olivepierse9888 3 жыл бұрын
Well handled
@happy1831
@happy1831 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful 💞
@Cayuse2009
@Cayuse2009 Жыл бұрын
Your discussion on the Bible was interesting. I taught Bible studies since I became a Christian in 1977 and still do even though I have had Dementia for I think 7-8 years. What amazed me is I can still teach it, remembering where the scriptures are, but can't remember any of the students' names. I put it down to when I studied the Bible all these years, I would pray the LORD would put it deep down in my spirit. Not in my brain, but in my Spirit and that is where the memories come from.
@cindym.1618
@cindym.1618 4 жыл бұрын
My dad was a commercial airline pilot. He can't remember much anymore, but if you get him talking aircraft, glide path, airport approaches and all that stuff, he perks right up!
@cathyvice1971
@cathyvice1971 4 жыл бұрын
Yeah, my dad is the same. He’s writing a memoir about his days in Korea and remembers every detail.
@allolobophorus
@allolobophorus 4 жыл бұрын
If you want to preserve your brain functions then stop eating sugar and carbohydrates. Take coconut oil, MCT oil or C8 daily, and give it to your loved ones who suffer from dementia, it will improve their condition within half an hour.
@julianfrederick9082
@julianfrederick9082 3 жыл бұрын
My grandad was a naval pilot and an admiral, he doesn’t have dementia, he’s actually really smart still, but he was talking to me the other day about the approach in Hong Kong
@EagleMiles
@EagleMiles 3 жыл бұрын
Try playing his favorite music He will enjoy
@janetpattison8474
@janetpattison8474 3 жыл бұрын
If you haven’t already tried it, consider getting your dad on at least 2 ounces (1 oz. = 2 tbs.),a day of coconut oil. It worked an amazing miracle for a family member. At room temperature the coconut oil is usually a liquid. It must be unprocessed and “virgin”. I blend it with pudding or yogurt, which both need to be at room temperature. I absolutely cannot believe how the coconut oil has Improved the brain of my loved one.
@Asherz1
@Asherz1 3 жыл бұрын
This lady is extremely emotionally intelligent the way she's able to speak and relate to so many different people is such an underated skill not many of us have that or can learn it easy. She's exactly the type of person you would want caring for your loved ones
@nicholeparrish5253
@nicholeparrish5253 3 жыл бұрын
I so agree... 😀❤
@nancyshus2jjs66
@nancyshus2jjs66 3 жыл бұрын
Having gone through this with my dad who passed at 94 she is exactly emotionally gifted through relating she's relatable and she's got a lot of answers and at my stage of life I'm starting to become my mom and then I see my dad in me also so she is a good person to listen to and pay attention to what's going on in your own heart and mind as you develop and get older thank you
@ahmadabdulrasheed5375
@ahmadabdulrasheed5375 3 жыл бұрын
kzbin.info/www/bejne/f52ud6VmadmnjNE Dementia well explained
@devonseamoor
@devonseamoor 3 жыл бұрын
I agree, it's why I listen to the words Diane speaks, and those of the others with her, meanwhile observing the manner of communication and engagement, the quick anticipation and mindful agility in Diane. Partly, it comes from being with people, but I feel that the crown fit for her head, so to speak, is the dedication in her big heart open to others
@phyllisprince6491
@phyllisprince6491 2 жыл бұрын
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@cheshirecat6518
@cheshirecat6518 3 жыл бұрын
I knew my mom didn't know who I was...she looked at me as if she was trying to remember, and I didn't want to put her on the spot. Also, I didn't want to know that she didn't. I could tell she knew I was important to her, and felt comfortable with me, and I made that enough. I also didn't tell her she was in hospice. I told her she was in a part of the hospital where they did physical therapy and recovery. I didn't want to scare her. She passed after I told her she could go, and that I was sorry for anytime I hurt her or disappointed her, and that when my time came, I wanted HER to come to take me, because I loved her so much.
@M-hc9xm
@M-hc9xm 3 жыл бұрын
You were a blessing to your mom! I had somewhat similar experience with my mom's dementia. People would ask me all the time ... Isn't it hard to go there all the time when she doesn't know who you are? My answer was ... Doesn't matter; I know who she is.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
Good memories last. Thanks for sharing.
@ksmith2852
@ksmith2852 3 жыл бұрын
If long term memories are solid..why do people forget the person they have given birth to?
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
@@ksmith2852 Don't know for certain, but we change as we age and no longer look like the baby or the little child we once were. Wondering if they are seeing you as the younger person so you don't look like what they remember? Pictures of you from your younger days might just trigger their good memories of you. Bottom line is we can still recognize them even as they age and have the ability to help with good memories from when you were that young person. Diana
@angelictigerette
@angelictigerette 3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry for your loss. You have me over here tearing up.
@hibarb5192
@hibarb5192 4 жыл бұрын
I remember my grandma when she had dementia she would come round our place and help set the table but everything was in the wrong place and we didn't tell her it wasn't correct we just put things in the right order after she was done and never corrected her because I think she had a hard time accepting her dementia in the moments she realised her condition. She was the kindest person on the planet and she's long left her body, but I felt her presence at the funeral and haven't stopped talking with her since. Just because we can't see her with our physical eyes anymore, doesn't mean she's gone to me. Her spirit is always smiling now.
@Deejaay83urj38
@Deejaay83urj38 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@jokenor22
@jokenor22 4 жыл бұрын
Barb, I don’t know you, but after reading your comment, I know I love you!
@coconutsnap
@coconutsnap 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, loved reading this
@ladykat6569
@ladykat6569 4 жыл бұрын
Barb, I think your grandma and my grandma are soul sisters -- Reading your remarks, I could swear it was me writing about my dearly departed grandma. I love for your appreciating the beautiful person your grandma was.
@pennywaters2740
@pennywaters2740 4 жыл бұрын
i totally get your understanding of your nan - my mum was treated dreadfully by my two sisters and others in the family consciousness is a wonderful thing
@nwunder3
@nwunder3 3 жыл бұрын
One more comment on this topic: "Maya Angelou - 'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'"
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
What a great quote and so true. Couldn't agree more.
@Hunnie_B
@Hunnie_B 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, I wrote it down.
@lucywright6814
@lucywright6814 3 жыл бұрын
Great to remember, so true and uplifting.
@joyasandiyt464
@joyasandiyt464 3 жыл бұрын
Omg that’s my model, and is so true. Many senior at work would ask for me by just hearing my voice.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
@@joyasandiyt464 Thanks for sharing! Diana
@jackiecarter6704
@jackiecarter6704 4 жыл бұрын
The best advice I’ve heard, go with them into their world. If they think there is a bathroom where there’s not, say “oh that bathroom’s full. Let’s use this other one.”
@ceces8947
@ceces8947 3 жыл бұрын
I disagree... memory loss doesn’t mean one is suddenly stupid... just a bit confused....be honest and say ... not a bathroom...the bathroom is down the hall ...
@bobbiejpickett6001
@bobbiejpickett6001 3 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips H 😂
@keepcreationprocess
@keepcreationprocess 3 жыл бұрын
Do they remember their birthday ?
@idklol4925
@idklol4925 3 жыл бұрын
@@keepcreationprocess my grandma dose but it might depend on the person
@keepcreationprocess
@keepcreationprocess 3 жыл бұрын
@@idklol4925 How to live with dementia? Or with a person of dementia? Or to be family or to understand or to deal with...
@fishl94403
@fishl94403 4 жыл бұрын
As a 94 year young kid, I am amazed how you are reading my my mind and my actions. Your advice is prophetic. I "fake it" to it makes it work. Physical and mental exercise plus a nap during the day makes all the effort worthwhile. Having a wonderful, helpful and caring Sally has kept me going. I'm sending this video to my family and dear friends.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for your kind words and your support! Thanks also for sharing.
@daleval2182
@daleval2182 4 жыл бұрын
God bless you dear, I like to see my elders here on the net
@Ladybellefiske
@Ladybellefiske 3 жыл бұрын
It’s good that you know how to take care of yourself. Please continue to think of yourself as a human being, and smarter than A lot of younger people I’m sure. I dislike the Way in which many people will “talk down” to older people…I didn’t like it when I was a child either, but and it’s even more annoying now that I have had the whole experience of being an adult. I am not quite your age yet, but I do have a seriously arthritic back And I’m hunched over, something I never expected for some reason. I once was stopped on the street by a lady who insisted on buttoning up my coat and talking at a scarf around me even though my car was only a few pieces away. It was very kind of her but it really was quite a shock to be treated that way. You deserve to be dignified and be treated with dignity although it certainly isn’t bad to have a laugh at yourself now and then. Take it easy.
@Ladybellefiske
@Ladybellefiske 3 жыл бұрын
Forgive the typos. I was dictating.
@Annewillis46
@Annewillis46 3 жыл бұрын
You're amazing Mr. Kutner! If my Dad were still alive, he would feel just as you do. Thank you for helping all of us!
@CharlieMorningstar
@CharlieMorningstar 3 жыл бұрын
They taught us this when I worked on the memory care units at work. We often would have a guy who would tell us that he had to go find his car, so we'd take him for a walk to find his car. The hardest part is family who keeps trying to correct the person, confusing and angering them. You just have to let them live in their world.
@billtessgreatadventure1481
@billtessgreatadventure1481 3 жыл бұрын
The family is often in denial. They still have expectations and don’t understand how their loved one they have known for their lifetime is not able to remember or function as they once did. It’s one of the most heart wrenching parts of the job.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
You were very fortunate to work at a facility that utilized this concept. You know the value of this approach and what a difference it can make for everyone involved. Thanks for sharing.
@yolandatriana1558
@yolandatriana1558 Жыл бұрын
Very wise outlook on this.
@oceaflow
@oceaflow 7 ай бұрын
Thanks I found this so helpful as a carer ❤
@maxineamon
@maxineamon 3 жыл бұрын
My best friend got dementia at 55. Having now watched this video, I now realise I did all these things instinctively and protected her from others who just blurted out very unhelpful questions. And then got upset or confused by her response. When this happened I would just drive the conversation away from the awkward and uncomfortable by butting in with a less confronting non-sequitur. Sometimes I had to be very forceful. I moved to another part of the country so last year got to see her again after 4 years. She had been institutionalised by then and I realised she had lost so much. I had no expectations. I brought a bunch of spring flowers and just chatted quietly about them while looking kindly at her and trying to find a connection. We spent quiet time as well as my chatting away quietly. I added a little touching ensuring it wasn't uncomfortable for her or was unwanted. After 2 hours there was a glimmer and then a sparkle of flickering recognition while I was chatting about our two sons being friends when they were boys. I know she connected at that moment and that was special. Toward the end we both gained a lot from a few deep hugs. So for her it was mostly two hours with an undemanding stranger who kept her company. But then we also had that one very special moment between us. I have been looking forward to being able to visit again. Hopefully later this year. Again, I will have no expectations but will just be grateful that I can have that time with her. Another thing, feeling sorry for my friend does neither her or me any good so I do my best not to let those feelings linger.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
You couldn't be more correct if you tried! Thanks for sharing. What a wonderful example of going into her reality with the good feelings that occurred for BOTH of you. It can be a win-win. I appreciate you! Diana
@carolalbright1655
@carolalbright1655 3 жыл бұрын
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@buddydog8755
@buddydog8755 3 жыл бұрын
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@hots7134
@hots7134 3 жыл бұрын
One thing that I did to remove that hateful comments... I picked up a card from the Alzheimer's association that said something like this. " This person is suffering from Alzheimer's Disease, please be patient with them." I would hand it quietly to the waiter when he arrived and they were always real good with my Mom then. People do understand when you tell them.
@vivinamorrison9424
@vivinamorrison9424 3 жыл бұрын
You are very special ❤️
@joyceanderson3165
@joyceanderson3165 4 жыл бұрын
When I was about 19 I had a client that had memory loss. I washed and rolled her hair as she entertained me with stories from when she was in her 20s. I knew naturally just to listen to her and join her world. I enjoyed listening to her. After I was finished her daughter told me everything she was telling me was true but it was 50 years ago. Honestly she had great stories of her interesting life. She was back there in time 100%. Lovely lady.💜💜🌸🌸💐
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this, Joyce!
@marianfrances3057
@marianfrances3057 4 жыл бұрын
My grandfather too.
@denisemullarkey5117
@denisemullarkey5117 3 жыл бұрын
I lost all voluntary movement, talking, walking and just being able to use a call button, I couldn't use. I was that was completely four days, around a week, I could nod and shake my head. It was huge. It took 2 weeks to learn to walk, talk, feed myself, and even to shower myself again. I wasn't doing well but at least I was doing better. Hated the new age frou frou music, I am a more of a rock n roll mom , but I was grateful to get better. It was almost a year before I could read a novel. My favorite past time. But I am now a home health care provider
@shirleyrombough8173
@shirleyrombough8173 3 жыл бұрын
You're a lovely lady for treating her with care and respect. Best to you.
@BEAUTYnIQ
@BEAUTYnIQ 3 жыл бұрын
Long term is committed to memory in a much more Finite way .. its all sad tho .. we are such carbon-based, chemical beings ..
@susanmacaluso5218
@susanmacaluso5218 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for covering the "Do you remember...?" question [24:00]. As a palliative caregiver for ten years to many comfort care residents who were *also* experiencing dementia, I often found that the visiting families would start conversations this way. In their case, they knew their loved one was actively dying, and they wanted desperately to connect over shared memories as a way of saying goodbye. We would do our best to guide them in rephrasing the memories, i.e. "I remember that time you..." rather than..."Do you remember the time you..." Very glad you included this!
@mohammadjaved6628
@mohammadjaved6628 4 жыл бұрын
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@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
You are totally correct. I have found the phrase "I was thinking about......" works well. As you bring up the long term memory it provides the person with the opportunity to get into the conversation successfully. Thanks for sharing.
@maxwellmark986
@maxwellmark986 3 жыл бұрын
Hello Susan.... 💝👋👋👋
@kholstein64
@kholstein64 3 жыл бұрын
Yes I think this will help me alot!! This and also not asking short term questions. I may have to listen to this 100 more times to get all the information
@Flammingnutcase
@Flammingnutcase 3 жыл бұрын
Yes I needed to hear this too and to stop saying this to my dad, I can now imagine him hoping he doesn't fail my question, I won't ever say that again. Thank you
@cre8magic253
@cre8magic253 4 жыл бұрын
Music!! Music brings back memories so beautifully. My mother was suffering from dementia and I when I sat with her near the end we sang hymns and her favorite song over and over... and she knew me when I sang, “Somewhere Over the Rainbow.” She would smile and sing along with me. I will never forget that.🥰💕
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
You are right music speaks to folks. We need to utilize the other senses that are just as vital as hearing. We don't want to forget smell, touch, sight and taste...all of which relates to good memories.
@cre8magic253
@cre8magic253 4 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips ❤️🙏✨yes!
@glendahall9421
@glendahall9421 4 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips Do you recommend that someone who is feeling like they are losing their memory, should they just write down their favorite things now to give their grown children to have for later on when they are in a home?
@patriciarobinson1149
@patriciarobinson1149 3 жыл бұрын
True music is really one thing they always remember, they even remember the words ! When I was a charge LPN on a dementia unit before I retired in 08 , they loved The Bee Gees , Elvis , George Strait and All Green I would burn the CD’s at home and brought them in to play for them and Christian music too !!
@karenestes8364
@karenestes8364 3 жыл бұрын
Awesome
@awestdawn1
@awestdawn1 4 жыл бұрын
A relative has dementia. He asks a question. We answer it. He asks again. We answer it the same way as if he never asked it before. I took notes while watching this. A lot of the things mentioned we already do. But I'll add to my list to keep my relative's thought processes moving! One great thing is he has NEVER lost his sense of humour.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Andrea, we have a free guide full of easy, purposeful activities for people with dementia: training.mmlearn.org/activities-for-dementia-patients Hope this is useful!
@joangray7579
@joangray7579 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Diane! I just visited my 93 year old mom in her memory care facility for the first time since watching your video. Following your suggestions made our visit one of the best we’ve had for awhile. Again, many thanks❣️
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 3 жыл бұрын
Wonderful!
@godislove7500
@godislove7500 2 жыл бұрын
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@godislove7500
@godislove7500 2 жыл бұрын
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@frankialthuas7168
@frankialthuas7168 3 жыл бұрын
I am caregiving for my 82 year old mom. I am sad because I have been doing things wrong. I am going to take the lessons I have learned with this video and make my mom's life better. Thank you ❤️
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 3 жыл бұрын
You got this, Franki! We also have a free guide for family caregivers that you can download: training.mmlearn.org/family-caregiver-guide-caring-for-a-senior-at-home
@FernieKisses
@FernieKisses 4 жыл бұрын
This is beautiful. Made me cry. I’m having a very hard time with my 80 year old dad. Very heartbreaking yet frustrating all in one.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that, Fernanda. We have a free guide for family caregivers that is available online: www.mmlearn.org/family-caregiver-guide-caring-for-a-senior-at-home Hope you find this helpful!
@lauriewright388
@lauriewright388 4 жыл бұрын
Made me cry too! I’m 61 year young Man, from England🇬🇧 My dad passed a few years ago with the entire family around his deathbed, my brother,sister and I were stroking his head holding his hand, his breathing became faint, and we started to tell him it’s ok Dad, go find mum😔 he passed soon after. One thing I will take to the grave with me is, my mum was in a nursing home trying to recoup. She said to me please take me home😟 what could I say? Mum I can’t take you home with me, you are better being looked after here with qualified nurses, with that she went limp and gasped. I personally felt I had let her down at that moment, had I known I would have carried that little lady in my arms out of that place! The dementia was unfair with her, it drifted in and out. But it affected my entire family..
@janetpattison8474
@janetpattison8474 3 жыл бұрын
I got a nudge for years to give my loved one coconut oil, the Alzheimer’s is advanced, about eight years into it, and I just got her on coconut oil, and the improvement was absolutely unbelievable, and it happened within 24 hours that the brain improved dramatically. Too bad my family didn’t get her on the coconut oil years ago. It may have prevented the Alzheimer’s from getting worse.
@hots7134
@hots7134 3 жыл бұрын
@@lauriewright388 You know Laurie, that is the bad thing about dementia. It not only affects the person who has it, but it affects the caregiver and friends and family. Everyone who is near to them feel it and suffer it too.
@lauriewright388
@lauriewright388 3 жыл бұрын
@@hots7134 Live with the guilt everyday, wishing I could've done more for my mum & ultimately my Dad😔 I think my sister's guilt is even more so, she would shop for my dad once a week, which was never enough at least I would visit with my family or on my way home, always took him warm meals when we could my wife ended up doing more for him than her! I hope you feel you helped your loved one as best you could.
@oh2887
@oh2887 4 жыл бұрын
This lady Diane Waugh, what a brilliant communicator , she gives examples in real life of how to talk with someone with memory loss, very glad this video was in my recommended. Thank you
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Couldn't agree more! Thank you for watching!
@oh2887
@oh2887 4 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips , Thank you Diana, I will do that !
@rebeccaadams1385
@rebeccaadams1385 4 жыл бұрын
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@aleyammamathew8463
@aleyammamathew8463 4 жыл бұрын
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@pamadams6898
@pamadams6898 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! My husband had a mental breakdown and I was told he needs testing for possible dementia! But during these times of lockdown from COVID-19 has not been able to get in for that for any outpatient therapy/treatment in 2 months after 24 days in patient from being catatonic! Our family is having a hard time with how to talk to him!!
@estheranthony7539
@estheranthony7539 3 жыл бұрын
What an empathetic, gifted, intuitive educator. I'm not sure why KZbin recommended this but I'm very glad I watched it. Definitely worth re-watching so as to master the way to successfully and compassionately communicate with persons suffering from memory loss.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks and I think I'll put you on my marketing team!! Just in case you might be interested in more tools.... My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ Here's to more successful conversations. Diana
@thatsmuzik2570
@thatsmuzik2570 3 жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. I wasn’t searching for this, glad I ran across it. Watched my father decline from early onset Alzheimer’s when I was in high school. He finally passed when I was 23 and he was 53. When mom was 74, I brought her home to care for her. She had a nightmare experience in the hospital, leaving her with a stroke and medication-induced dementia. I got her off all drugs except one and her conversational ability returned. I am going to be sitting with an elderly gentleman with Alzheimers so his wife can take much-needed breaks. This is the perfect refresher, although his wife said he’s not really conversational. I think I will just sing to him. I guess I will have a captive audience. If he finds the words to say “stop singing!”, I will take that as a kind of success lol.
@ceciliasciglimpaglia4850
@ceciliasciglimpaglia4850 3 жыл бұрын
This lady is absolutely right mate God bless her and I hope that she goes in to the poor places where people who take care of dementia now cyber people learn this because they don’t care and sorry if I offend anybody because you guys know me
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
@@ceciliasciglimpaglia4850 Thanks for your kind words. I've been trying for 20+ years to get those folks to listen and learn more successful ways to communicate with those with short-term memory loss. I'm afraid my approach is too simple, doesn't include hi-tech or medications. Unfortunately we keep seeking for the magic answer when as you can see we hold that in our hands and approaches. To the future. Diana
@neldadwyer548
@neldadwyer548 3 жыл бұрын
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@amazinggrace5692
@amazinggrace5692 4 жыл бұрын
Mom used to say “good-bye for now”. Until our last phone call when she was dying... then she said just “good-bye”. At her memorial service I ended my tribute by looking upward and telling mom “good-bye for now”. My daughters tribute ended with her reminding the family to be kind. My daughter died one month later. We had four family deaths in a 12 month period. Thank you for posting this video. I plant to write down my smells, songs, stories, etc for the future so that my caregivers have the cues that will work for me. Much love. 💕🐝 #Bee Kind.
@makaha5750
@makaha5750 4 жыл бұрын
I hope you are well, Cathi, as losing 4 family members in a 12 month period is difficult.I am a carer for me brother-in-law who has early-onset-dementia and other people would ask me if I am ok as well and they would tell me to make sure that I look after myself too. Thanks for sharing.
@parwinali5823
@parwinali5823 4 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry 😢what happened to ur daughter
@susanshea4679
@susanshea4679 4 жыл бұрын
O dear Cathi, how hard that must have been. It must take a long time to process, so to speak, losing your mother and then your daughter. Sending prayers your way that you are well and healing from these traumas. May God bless and keep you and your family. Much love.
@iry40
@iry40 4 жыл бұрын
I am sorry to hear that must have been very difficult take care of yourself
@amazinggrace5692
@amazinggrace5692 4 жыл бұрын
Parwin Ali she got pneumonia from Influenza A, was put on a ventilator in the ICU. We never got to speak to her again. After 2 weeks, she was unable to recover and we stopped her ventilator. She donated her organs and then we sent her body to a research lab to study. This was her fervent wish. She had many medical problems all her life, starting with rheumatoid arthritis at age 4, and she felt she could bear it all if someone could learn from her body when she was gone. Her life lasted 32 years, but she truly lived, uplifted, inspired, left everyone a little bit better. The world lost a beautiful soul that day and I lost my best friend. I’ve cried every day for 15 months. 💕🐝
@lsusanna3
@lsusanna3 4 жыл бұрын
What a profound relief to hear someone else say “I messed up everything with my mom.” I did too. I’ll carry the weight of that guilt & regret & pain to my grave. All I can do is try to help others-but without coming across as condescending or like I think it’s so easy, which is much of what I heard when I was going through it. Everyone seemed to know what to do and how to handle it emotionally-except me.
@sandywhat2429
@sandywhat2429 4 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️🙏
@Arthur5260
@Arthur5260 4 жыл бұрын
I'm willing to bet you did what you thought was right at the time. Hug to you.
@Mokoia63
@Mokoia63 4 жыл бұрын
Don't be hard on yourself, we live and learn, your mum would forgive you from the space she now occupies. Easy to say. Say a prayer and ask for forgiveness if you need to so you can move on without guilt.
@marionoz9980
@marionoz9980 4 жыл бұрын
Your mother would never want you to feel guilt or regret I am sure. We don't get a manual to tell us how to get through this, you gave your love to your mother and nothing is more important than that. Focus on the good things you shared in your relationship, I am sure there were many. Be kind to yourself, your mother would want you to do that. Sending a virtual hug.
@anital5020
@anital5020 4 жыл бұрын
It is not easy. I didn't do everything right either. I did the best I could with what I had to work with. Getting my mother to take a bath was my biggest fight. She always went to have her hair done every week. Probably the last year of her life she started refusing to go. This lead to dirty, smelly hair because she refused to bathe. When I would finally get her into the shower, she refused the bathtub, she would scream and yell the entire time. I think that was the worst part of it. What I really needed was to hire a nurse to come in and deal with her because she wasn't going to do it for me. I know I did the best I could. Had I known then some of these things I could have done better.
@nwunder3
@nwunder3 3 жыл бұрын
I am a Speech Pathologist for 30 years (and have extensive experience treating patients with dementia and educating/guiding families and staff/caregivers) who has had a grandfather and father who had Alzheimer's disease/dementia... listen to this wonderful, knowledgeable and generous woman. Do what she says and share this information with everyone you know. Suffering from (of inside of) dementia is like living in a world of confusion and anxiety, when you are not happy or content. Imagine being placed in a country where you don't know the language and only have some familiarity with the customs... advancing in later stages of dementia seems to be similar to that. A kind gesture, a caring person guiding you, a reassuring voice, feeling safe, and being included/valued/entertained/loved becomes a lifeline and the point of interacting. Please remember Diane's main points: don't ask short term questions and leave your loved one feeling useful and successful.
@ambercochrane5594
@ambercochrane5594 4 жыл бұрын
I have worked on a dementia ward for 10 years. This lady said it perfectly. Thankyou.
@magdalenalombard3256
@magdalenalombard3256 4 жыл бұрын
Mò 8
@sarakhaldi5085
@sarakhaldi5085 4 жыл бұрын
She’s amazing.
@debbieedwards420
@debbieedwards420 4 жыл бұрын
God bless you
@brendavananna9117
@brendavananna9117 4 жыл бұрын
who?
@glad2bveggie
@glad2bveggie 4 жыл бұрын
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@rottenapple_
@rottenapple_ 4 жыл бұрын
It's so heartbreaking to witness someone's memories slowly start to fall apart
@sunnypan9057
@sunnypan9057 3 жыл бұрын
This video is saving my mom and my family. She's got dementia and I have done everything I thought was right to help and correct her without any good result. I felt so frustrated facing her everyday. Now I know how ignorant I have been. Thank you! It's also so nice to read the comments. God bless you all.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 3 жыл бұрын
So glad it's helped! We also have a free guide for family caregivers that you can download: training.mmlearn.org/family-caregiver-guide-caring-for-a-senior-at-home
@tonimoore8371
@tonimoore8371 4 жыл бұрын
Thank You. I took care of my Mother in law for thirteen years. I never tried to correct Her memories, and I discovered some amazing things about Her. Her long term memory was spent primarily in the 1940s. Her husband was off to war, she was a single mother and working as a secretary for Philips Oil in Bartelsville Ok. She loved her independence . She was a singer,and sang back up ,on a few, Patti Page songs. Clara had a beautiful voice. She would start singing songs in the waiting room,at her doctor's appointments. I would watch the other patients that were her age. They would become 20 , 18, ....... It was a beautiful thing to watch. I would tell my Husband and his siblings to enjoy their Mother and let her tell her stories without correcting Her. They would stare at me as if I was clueless. I miss my days with my Mother in law. Yes , there were days I would wish She was still cognitive and wouldn't ask Me the same question every 30 seconds. But then I would remember She wished She could remember the everyday things.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, Toni! 🧡
@greeneyes2256
@greeneyes2256 4 жыл бұрын
Toni, you are so sweet and loving. I lost my wonderful mother in law to dementia/Alzheimer’s. As a nurse, I hated the disease, as a relative, the despair I saw in family members became very real.
@aaminamian2722
@aaminamian2722 4 жыл бұрын
Toni, God bless you! I also took care of my mother-in-law and was blessed to have done so. She was an beautiful, caring, and my go-to-person for anything. I along with our family members took care of her during her last 5 years on Hospice in our home. I would not trade that part of my life for anything because she also told me about her youth, learning how to cook and become a part of a larger family. More important she always took the time to listen and give good advice. Now that I am a mother-in-law also, I value her advice to me and hope to be a better person. I never corrected her and that allowed us to have some funny conversations. I do miss her a lot as she was the glue to keeping our family together. Now I am entrusted with keeping our memories and family together. Both my children have fond memories of their Dadi [grandmother in URDU] and the times they watched sports together. Having a cookie with tea with her some afternoons after school and making sure Dadi was always included in our family life. She didn't speak a word of English, but would always greet her care takers with "How are you?" and "Thank You." Take care and know you were lucky to have some good memories of your mother-in-law.
@tonimoore8371
@tonimoore8371 4 жыл бұрын
Aamina Mian Thank You for sharing your story with. Me. God be with You also. I can't tell you how much it means to me to know I am not alone. My Mother in law was a dear friend and if truth be told. She did not approve of Me when her son and I started dating. Clara and I bonded when I offered to take her to her Doctors appointments. Mind Yoy, this is 20 years into our marriage. She would always tells me, I couldn't be kinder to Her if I was her own Daughter. I miss Clara. She was smart, well spoken and spunky. For 13 years She grew to depend on Me and never wanted her own children to take her to any of her appointments. She would tell them, "You make Me nervous. Toni and I have a routine and she knows when to back off and allow me to talk to my doctors with out correcting everything I say and we always have pancakes after my appointments."😊 God works in mysterious ways.
@johnsonjack4611
@johnsonjack4611 4 жыл бұрын
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@sharonromer6606
@sharonromer6606 4 жыл бұрын
I retired last year at 68 from nursing education. God gave me 2 passions...nursing and teaching. I was blessed to do both for over 30 years. I can tell they are your passion/gift also. Thank you so much for sharing your gift with others. ❤
@BloomingRose862
@BloomingRose862 2 жыл бұрын
I'm a nurse of more than 30 years. Now looking to get back to work.
@kamhart
@kamhart 3 жыл бұрын
You are so spot on! After 40 yrs in ICU & confused patients, at all different levels, causes... biggest thing is... don’t DONT try to “reorient” ( hate that word) ... Don’t try & bring them to where we are... go where THEY ARE!! I have found so many times they tend to go to happy times in their past/memory... and laugh, with them not at them! Don’t argue, they will shut down... gently lead them where they need to be. It’s about trust! And when they get frustrated... they will bluff, block, get angry. There is no point! LISTEN to them! You learn a lot!
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
I couldn't support you more! I really like the use of the word "Trust". That is really the key for them to feel respected and supported. Thanks so much for sharing and keep on sharing your ideas!
@ellenoshea7155
@ellenoshea7155 10 ай бұрын
A powerful message that makes sense. I tried drawing on a card because my friend was a writer and illustrated. Depression can be similar but things can return to a more normal / world but the madness is there.
@janetwheeler6424
@janetwheeler6424 3 жыл бұрын
As a caregiver for my husband who has Alzheimer, this is a very informative video. It was good to know that just a little re-phrasing of a sentence makes the difference between good communication with your loved one versus abruptly ending it.
@reneeca5696
@reneeca5696 4 жыл бұрын
I love this!! I’ve been a caregiver for 12 years and have cared for my parents- Dad’s got Alzheimer’s, for 6 in my home. I really appreciate the insight on asking, ‘ How are you?’ I ask him that in the morning or ‘Did you sleep well?’ and even though he struggles to answer it just didn’t register until now-so thank you. Also, the ‘empty drawer’ for short term memory vs the ‘full drawer’ is such a fantastic visual for me to show my mom! She struggles with comprehending the fact that he lives in his past where the mimicry drawer is fuller. It’s getting harder now that the disease is progressing and even past memories are diminishing. But, utilizing more of the senses does make life more enjoyable and always remembering to smile and laugh-humor and faith in Jesus is everything ♥️
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Renee! 🧡
@johnsonjack4611
@johnsonjack4611 4 жыл бұрын
*DEMENTIA CURE:* Thanks for all these comments and for sharing some of your own story. I am a 74-year-old man, I was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease 15 years ago, I always like to use my experience in a positive way to educate others. It is common knowledge that Alzheimer's robs people of their ability to remember. Having dementia for me was lonely, isolating and scary. But when people share their stories, it can provide inspiration, hope and a welcome reminder that you are not alone. Homeocure Worldwide is natural cure medicine. The professional had earlier told me there is no cure, I asked professional to explain this to me? They said it is a miracle. All the patients I have directed to Homeocure Worldwide return with thanks. Don't let drug companies keep you as a slave to their mediocre medications. Don't let them tell you there's nothing that will help you. Today I can say that I'm living life instead of surviving it. For more info, contact Homeocure Worldwide
@maxwellmark986
@maxwellmark986 3 жыл бұрын
Hello Renee.... 💝👋👋👋
@maureenkarkos9882
@maureenkarkos9882 3 жыл бұрын
I came upon this accidentally, and I’m so glad I did!
@geneticepistomology
@geneticepistomology 3 жыл бұрын
The drawer with the long-term memories had incredibly strong bottom for my grandmother. She passed away about two weeks shy of her 103rd birthday. Because of where she was, and the job she held after World War II we had a no doubt she was a member of the OSS. She and I were incredibly close and she almost told me once, but she was sworn to secrecy. Even when she no longer recognized my father, though remembered only me, silence. We were able to actually visit thanks to Sirius XM Radio Classics. Jack Benny, Suspense, and The Whistler, were new to me and warm memories to her. (OSS was discussed after one of the radio news excerpt from the era). To the OSS/CIA, she never uttered a word. :)
@johnspence8141
@johnspence8141 4 жыл бұрын
Love the fog analogy. Because of that fog they are unable to make any decision, which creates more fog. And it becomes exponential. The more they get frustrated, the more calm we have to become. I have found just providing that guiding voice/light helps a lot. I remember hearing a nurse who said she would start singing. I have tried that, and surprisingly it works. If you can get them out of the pattern (the fog) by doing something unexpected (especially fun) they break free for enough time to get over it. Laughter helps. Anything that takes them off that decision making loop
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your addition to my analogy. You are so right.
@lauriesolis1026
@lauriesolis1026 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your post. I've been hearing about the"singing " as a distraction and couldn't quite bring myself to do that. But I tried it last night, and for some reason, it really does work.
@johnspence8141
@johnspence8141 4 жыл бұрын
@@lauriesolis1026 I think its just another access pathway that shuts down the other pathways. And it triggers happiness...people sing when they are happy
@pennypenny2588
@pennypenny2588 4 жыл бұрын
Just ordered your book. Oh my, I have done everything wrong with my loved one..... no wonder he thinks that I am so confrontational. I needed this! Thank you so much.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Glad this was helpful, Penny! We have a free guide for family caregivers that you can download: training.mmlearn.org/family-caregiver-guide-caring-for-a-senior-at-home
@indytoby1
@indytoby1 4 жыл бұрын
I am having trouble with my 88 yr old mom 2..i dont know what to say to her..
@dntwnWD
@dntwnWD 4 жыл бұрын
@@MmlearnOrg7 OMG, I thought I was doing pretty good but everything she said not to do, I do... suggestions for someone who has speech difficulty? Stutters, stammers, mumbles, wrong words etc
@aprilcontessa
@aprilcontessa 3 жыл бұрын
I've done a few things wrong myself. I've got to learn to converse in a different way.
@kholstein64
@kholstein64 3 жыл бұрын
I'm feeling the same way I just had a blow up with my mother over medication because I feel like she needs my help but doesn't want to need it. I give suggestions and she shoots them down without even considering them. Yet... she can't do it her way or she'll be taking them wrong. It's so difficult to know how to handle her. She's very independent and also can be a pistol. I've also noticed she is so negative about everything ans everyone. It makes it almost unbearable to be around her. Im Going crazy!!!
@marshanotmarcia7433
@marshanotmarcia7433 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t know why this popped up on my feed, but Dear Lord is it exactly how I handled my mom and her Korsakoff Syndrome Dementia from the age of 10 until her death. It took years and my own growing maturity to finally understand and help her. I continue to share my experiences with others dealing with this heartbreak and frustrating confusion, even today...
@sonjavandam1306
@sonjavandam1306 3 жыл бұрын
Hi, you said your mom had Korsakoff from 10 yrs old my understanding of this is through alcohol.???
@chainmail5886
@chainmail5886 3 жыл бұрын
Google's probably been spying on you.
@jeffreyrossman8661
@jeffreyrossman8661 3 жыл бұрын
Hellow Marsha. How are you feeling today I hope your day is as bright as your pretty smile today.
@jeepgurl1379
@jeepgurl1379 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, I like that. “Don’t drag them into your reality”. Types of memory: 1. Functional Memory (comprehension) 2. Procedural Memory (things you learn) 3. Emotional Memory (unconscious)
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for listening so carefully! My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific to the person. If ou haven't had a chance take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/
@jayvogelaar4033
@jayvogelaar4033 3 жыл бұрын
One suggestion I've used as a pastor visiting my "shut-in" nursing home members: Look at the pictures that are hung on their walls at home. Take two or three of them and put them on the walls of their rooms. (Usually a nursing home will allow that.) Then when you are visiting and doing routine things such as bathing or dressing, talk about the picture--what's special about it, what the subject is can give lots of conversation material. Long-term memory will recall where it was (or where the person thought it was), what was special about that place, what season it was, why was it such a nice place. When my mother couldn't speak a sentence anymore, and didn't understand what was going on around her, she could still play her piano hymns and recite the Lord's Prayer word-perfect. We rolled her to a piano and her muscle-memory kicked in. And we made sure we prayed often and slowly, so that she could participate. I've also found that objects from home help a person feel more "at home" in the nursing home: a bedstand lamp, a doily on a table, a sun-catcher in a window. As Ms. Waugh said, use all five senses. These folks still do.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
These are perfect suggestions. Seems so simple to help them use their long-term memory strength. Thanks for sharing! Diana
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
@@ACatherineHanni Thanks for your clarification about the use of pictures. They are never to be used as a "test" but rather as you have stated. Diana
@Barky2424
@Barky2424 Жыл бұрын
WOW, just WOW!! I listened to this on the eve of my Mother's 93 birthday. I have been asking her the wrong questions in ignorance. My birthday gift to her is to review this video and learn how to better communicate with her. Thank you~
@jamielang4449
@jamielang4449 4 жыл бұрын
In my nursing career, I cared for Alzheimer’s patients. I knew how to talk to my patients without triggering them. My mother had Alzheimer’s and my family kept her at home, her husband, my sister, my daughter, and myself. My family was mainly in denial of her diagnosis. I tried to educate them on how to talk and care for her. I was met with anger, but I continued to stay involved in her care. My difficulty came from myself having bipolar disorder. Mom said many hurtful things, to me, thinking I was my brother. She didn’t get along well with him. There were times when she said hurtful things, I had to back away for time until I could cope again. I never showed my hurt or even anger to her. She couldn’t help with the things she said. I continued to drive to her house daily to take care of her. My mom passed away in her own bed, in her home. It had been a long difficult journey. I gave her her final bath before the funeral home arrived. I also walked her body all the way out to the hearse. That was the final thing I could do for my mom.
@jamielang4449
@jamielang4449 4 жыл бұрын
For a few years, I had to drive 40 miles one way to care for her.the last 2, we moved nearby, so it was easier. It also made it possible if needed, I could get there fast to help.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing that with us, Jamie. Our roles as caregivers can be tough and rewarding at the same time. 🧡
@amandaturner8928
@amandaturner8928 4 жыл бұрын
It was a beautiful thing you did with your mother. God bless you
@michellejean8068
@michellejean8068 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your dedication to your family. Hopefully you can have peace within yourself. I've been very lucky. No one in my family has any demi enitia. My uncle 93 writing another book my mom in her late 80s. So I can only imagine all the hurt you were around. Thank you for the link im EduK . Kinesologist . So I see what the brain body movements. Again thank you for the link. God bless you for your dedication and service.
@evs950
@evs950 4 жыл бұрын
you are a very caring and kind person and VERY strong. Be careful and kind to yourself
@carolbenson6524
@carolbenson6524 4 жыл бұрын
I took care of dementia patients in their homes or in a facility. I learned so much and I was thinking about writing a book too. I miss those patients because I also felt I knew how to take care of them. It was the most rewarding work that I've ever done! Loved your video...you are right on!!!
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Carol!
@mayageo2010
@mayageo2010 4 жыл бұрын
You missed them because you knew how to take care of them. How have you learned or knew take care of dementia
@janmixon9506
@janmixon9506 4 жыл бұрын
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@sheilahammond4260
@sheilahammond4260 3 жыл бұрын
I cared for my dad for some years when he suffered dementia. I found it quite pleasurable to spend time with him. Keeping a sense of humour is all important. Never get too serious about anything a person with dementia says. It usually only lasts for a short time, if they are talking nonsense. I just agreed with him most of the time, rather than argue. It's pointless arguing! So long as we are happy, so will they be, most of the time. Changing the subject can work. Keeping it simple. I might tell my dad I will make you a cup of tea, rather than say what do you mean? A lot of the time he just needed to rest some more. Just letting someone know that you love them is far more important than anything else.
@pattysylvanbutterfly433
@pattysylvanbutterfly433 4 жыл бұрын
Even though I’ve been a hospice & palliative RN for 20 years, I still learned many concrete, practical, & compassionatetips on how to work with my patients & their families. This was very easy to listen to, a lay-person friendly discussion; such a good speaker with great visual aids. Could have listened for a few more hours :-). Thank you so much for sharing your gifts!
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Now stop making my head swell! Seriously, I totally understand, as a fellow RN, the wide variety of skills we can employ. Just in case your interested.... My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ Here's to more successful conversations. Diana
@pirjodolley6261
@pirjodolley6261 3 жыл бұрын
She said she some times talks too much, but I could have continued to listen to her way more! She is so good, so down to earth, so real! Lucky and blessed are those people she takes care of and those she teaches!
@beatriceconverse8409
@beatriceconverse8409 4 жыл бұрын
I'm taking care of my mom, she is 80 and some days we are doing good and some we do not. This was a very good talk I enjoyed it . It did help me alot .
@JodBronson
@JodBronson 4 жыл бұрын
Love her more instead !!! Dementia = The brain is running through old memories and some cases, it's a protection of the brain.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Take a look at conversations that start each day. Many times a simple short-term memory question such as "How are you today?" can set the day off on a not so successful journey. None of us want to fail and when asked a question they can't answer easily often results in frustration which works it way to anger. Just a thought. In case you are interested....My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ Here's to more successful conversations. Diana
@JodBronson
@JodBronson 4 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips - Well, writing a "Book" and YET, you aren't able to understand a simple concept! "Failure" is my greatest achievement and here is why. Because of "failure", I am able to grow and learn! NOTE: You have lots of learning to do !!!
@gayemoore5650
@gayemoore5650 4 жыл бұрын
As a genealogist, people with dementia are wonderful people to ask questions to. They may get muddled in their story but often they repeat stuff over and over and so far, they are always accurate. :-)
@edithtaylor9688
@edithtaylor9688 4 жыл бұрын
I worked with clients with dementia. I loved driving them around and they told me what the area used to look like. That was fasinating.
@bethanye.2377
@bethanye.2377 3 жыл бұрын
not my grandma. She exaggerates things she never used to, tells tales about things that never happened, bad mouths people
@lorilair461
@lorilair461 3 жыл бұрын
Advanced Bionutritionals Memory Formula - 60 Tablets Has helped me immensely. I implor anyone no matter what stage you're at TAKE THESE YOU WIIL SEE A DIFFERENCE
@pagen5219
@pagen5219 2 жыл бұрын
SOMEHAVE DELUSIONS
@anndrake492
@anndrake492 2 жыл бұрын
You are wrong. They only sound accurate. Much of what talk about is nonsense, in fact. You cannot believe anything a person with dementia says.
@mjohnson-hills2668
@mjohnson-hills2668 4 жыл бұрын
My Grandma makes so much more sense now. Thank you for this. I will share with my family
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Please feel free to subscribe to our enewsletter! It goes out monthly with useful information to help you in your role as a caregiver: training.mmlearn.org/enewsletter-for-senior-caregiver
@lucywright6814
@lucywright6814 3 жыл бұрын
Soo educational and helpful information to effectively help your loved one with understanding. Tnank you.
@rainbowaviator7096
@rainbowaviator7096 3 жыл бұрын
Someone in my family had progressive memory loss when I was growing up and they passed away before I was a teenager. I remember them feeling almost unreachable. I've been terrified of it happening to my parents and other people I love, and ultimately myself. Im much older now and watching this makes me feel comforted. Thank you for this Diana:) I hope you are doing well.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
You are most welcome. I hope that by sharing my techniques lots of folks will win. Both the person who is having short-term memory loss and their loved ones. It truly effects all involved.
@8675-__
@8675-__ 3 жыл бұрын
It's often not heritage, it's long term diet. Try intermittent fasting to prevent dementia...watch 'Bread head' the movie on KZbin
@pattitriplett5818
@pattitriplett5818 4 жыл бұрын
This was so amazing. I have been searching for a good way to communicate with and assist my mother who has short term memory loss due to stroke. This has been amazing for me and things I never thought about, like simply rewording to help her stay calm. This has been an answer to prayer to listen to this morning. I took notes too. ☺️. Thank you for sharing on KZbin.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much. My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ These materials might reduce your need for note taking.
@kholstein64
@kholstein64 3 жыл бұрын
I'm going to take notes the next time.... I may have to watch it 10.times. lol
@kholstein64
@kholstein64 3 жыл бұрын
Ahhh even better I'll check out the website thanks 😊
@8675-__
@8675-__ 3 жыл бұрын
Try serrapeptase! (1 capsule twice daily) And have her drink 1 tbsp of wheat germ oil 3 times daily. Remove all bread products from her diet immediately, tell her they're rotten or unavailable temporarily. I really believe you will see a vast improvement and within a week!
@RetrieverTrainingAlone
@RetrieverTrainingAlone 4 жыл бұрын
Wow! Excellent tips! My mom is in her upper 90s and this talk is spot-on! Clickable Outline: 0:30 Screwed Everything Up With Mom 1:15 Memory Loss Common (Elephant in the Room) 2:30 Over 100 Reasons For Memory Loss 3:20 Three Categories of Memory: Functional (Comprehension), Procedural (Automatic), Emotional Memory 8:00 All About Relationships 8:30 Analogy Driving Into Fog on Road 9:30 Tell Me About That Pin! 10:15 Brain Has 2 Jobs: Control and Emotional Safety 11:45 Short Term Memory Loss 14:15 DO NOT Ask a short term memory question to a person who has short-term memory loss 16:40 Learn to Give Up Expectations 17:30 What Are The Strengths? Often Long-Term Memory! 19:50 Humor/Music/Spirtal Base---Playing to Old Memories.... 21:50 Playing to Strengths and Making Visits Enjoyable 22:20 What NOT to say? 24:45 Conversation Starters 30:15 Have a mental list of 3 conversation starters 30:45 Memory Tests 31:15 Support 31:40 Family photos to initiate story telling as long term memory reminders 34:00 Don't Say Goode Bye, Say See You Later, Love You 34:50 Example on stopping a conversation 36:20 Do your homework and be ready! 36:45 How to recover if you make a mistake and ask a short-term memory question 38:40 Research on memory loss 40:00 Goal is a calm, contented day
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, thanks for the Outline! I'm keeping it for future reference. Just in case you might be interested in additional resources..... My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ Here's to more successful conversations. Diana @UCsQ4-X-Q7W_zDzkKAQ7b_kw
@paulineprojectlove
@paulineprojectlove 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!!
@cherellestanton6428
@cherellestanton6428 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this clickable list Missy! It makes it so easy to bounce around a review the sections quickly! 😎👍
@cynthiakammann7368
@cynthiakammann7368 3 жыл бұрын
Very helpful outline! Wondering how to copy it, link to it, or save it as I will be sharing this particular video with friends. It's such valuable and accessible insight. I cannot think of anyone who couldn't benefit from listening to this video, unless they already know it. This goes in the category of 'basic life skills.'
@lesliekendall5668
@lesliekendall5668 3 жыл бұрын
I was my Gma's caregiver from 99-103. I couldn't even bear to tell her good-night so in a sing-song voice I would always say "see you in the morning!" and she would repeat it back to me. Miss you Gma.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
Good memories were made with such a simple change in a phrase! Thanks for sharing. Diana
@helenphelan8184
@helenphelan8184 4 жыл бұрын
That was one of the most compassionate pieces I have listened to. Amazing!
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for listening
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much. My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/
@mariecooper5964
@mariecooper5964 4 жыл бұрын
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@mabelcassens2190
@mabelcassens2190 4 жыл бұрын
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@gracestauffer5749
@gracestauffer5749 4 жыл бұрын
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@dianaspataro808
@dianaspataro808 4 жыл бұрын
Wish I saw this video when my mom was suffering from dimentia. This desease ripes your heart out & changes you forever. It's 10 years since my mom's death & I still cry because I remember how it affected her. If you know someone with dementia please watch this video, it will help you so much.
@vmiximv
@vmiximv Жыл бұрын
thank heavens! You're one of the good people who deserves the title "social worker"! ty fer sharing this.
@brokensignals8370
@brokensignals8370 4 жыл бұрын
Just like Kathryn I came across this item by accident. So glad that I did. I am posting this to my family to make future difficulties easier. Thank you so much.
@tigger402
@tigger402 3 жыл бұрын
I did the same.
@robertahubert9155
@robertahubert9155 4 жыл бұрын
I screwed everything up so I wrote a book. Made me laugh. My husband has dementia and it’s a minute by minute challenge.
@blingmomangie
@blingmomangie 4 жыл бұрын
My Rheumatologist recommended the book, The 36 Hour Day to me when we were dealing with my father in law's dementia. It was very insightful & helpful. Your words are so correct too. One night my husband & I were at my inlaw's home because my brother in law(husband's twin) had passed away. I was working on all the details of his death & planning the service. He lived with my in laws because they were slowing down and the rest of us were married with kids. It just killed me to watch my family tip toe around my FIL because they didn't know how to talk with him. I remembered that I had made 3 large Memory Boards 3 years prior for my MIL'S funeral. They were displayed out in the Game Room. I went out there and got them. I brought them inside and placed one infront of him. His eyes lit up instantly with recognition. I prompted him to tell me about each picture. It was so wonderful. He looked so happy for that 30 minutes we sat with him. I made sure to leave them out and gave the caretaker instructions to let him look at them daily and engage him.
@anniemarie4120
@anniemarie4120 4 жыл бұрын
It explains why when I would talk to my Nana about when grandpa gardened she would tear up. That was his passion. She couldn't remember me but she remembered grandpa and his roses. So I just focused talking about Grandpa and the things he loved to do. She missed him so much she wore his watch to keep him close. I would always tell her that I saw she was wearing grandpa's(Paul's) watch. Then she trusted me the rest of the visit.
@susanaquintana1525
@susanaquintana1525 4 жыл бұрын
What’s the title of her book?
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
@@susanaquintana1525 I see you asked about my book. Here you go: My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ Here's to more successful conversations. Diana
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
You were right on the money. Thanks for sharing.
@maxwellmark986
@maxwellmark986 3 жыл бұрын
Hello Annie.... 💝👋👋👋
@jeffreyrossman8661
@jeffreyrossman8661 3 жыл бұрын
Hellow Annie Marie. How are you feeling today I hope your day is as bright as your pretty smile today.
@colleenbogovich5435
@colleenbogovich5435 4 жыл бұрын
My mom is in Memory Care. She is 94. I wish I had known these tips when she first started showing signs. The one that hit me was the menu at the restaurant. I would take her for lunch or dinner and one day she handed me the menu and told me to pick something. Sometime she would just say I'll have what you are having. Thanks for all your good suggestions and for caring so deeply ❤️.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching, Colleen!
@melanytodd2929
@melanytodd2929 4 жыл бұрын
Taking my Dad to a restaurant (pre-lockdown) was his best treat❣. A fast food chain, Wimpy, has full color photos of all the meals and beverages. This is great, as he can identify what he wants. He always orders the same thing, but he is very sure of what he's getting, and gives him a sense of autonomy, maybe?🤔❣
@melanytodd2929
@melanytodd2929 4 жыл бұрын
Diana Waugh : Thank you ❣. I will do that. Thanks for the reply 😘
@maxwellmark986
@maxwellmark986 3 жыл бұрын
Hello Colleen.... 💝👋👋👋
@johnspence8141
@johnspence8141 4 жыл бұрын
Music soothes. If you can find the eras and the specific music that they loved at different stages in their life, you can actually trigger emotional and positive results. During anxiety removing the stresses by sitting quietly and listening to music. Also print out some lyrics and sing together, it works really well.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Works well. Thanks for sharing.
@marykcummings
@marykcummings 3 жыл бұрын
I am an ER nurse, I use my spotify on my phone for patients quite often, it can be a lifesaver
@terrencewinterbottom4049
@terrencewinterbottom4049 3 жыл бұрын
Nursed in nursing home 40 years. I would sing with residents all the old songs.esp in the shower. They would join in .may not speak or communicate during the day. But would sing along with me in shower. And knew most of the words.a great start for both our days.i miss those times
@katsmeow123
@katsmeow123 3 жыл бұрын
Oh goodness. My gram had memory loss for the last few years of her life (probably longer). She passed at 102 after a long, happy, healthy life. This information gives me peace of mind and heart that I did the right things in my communications with her. It just confirmed what I felt was the right way to approach her. Invaluable information and presented so well. Thank you ❤️
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
So great to hear your success. You needed to write a book! Diana
@katsmeow123
@katsmeow123 2 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips 💕
@gingerfavret9961
@gingerfavret9961 4 жыл бұрын
I came upon your video by accident. I am only care give to my sister who has been in a home for almost 2 years. You suggestions of how not to speak to a person with dementia is so very helpful to me. Thank You.......
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
You are most welcome, Ginger! 🧡 Please feel free to subscribe to our enewsletter. It goes out monthly with useful information to help you in your role as a caregiver: training.mmlearn.org/enewsletter-for-senior-caregivers
@ruthwhall3020
@ruthwhall3020 3 жыл бұрын
This was a lovely talk. I worked on a dementia ward ,its very hard work especially when the dementia patients turns violent ,which isn't uncommon ,and it's hard as there are often staffing shortages with in this profession, and very hard to remember to never say no don't do that especially if your being hit ,kicked ,or spat at .All staff members i worked with did a wonderful job ,there undervalue and usually under paid ,but normally they have the biggest hearts .then all medical professions as they get to know there patients, they keep either your mum or dads dignity as they look upon them as people ,there not just numbers like hospital wards .So please thank the staff it makes a very hard job worth it .
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
Too often anger is the result of frustration which is the result of caregivers trying to bring them into the caregivers reality rather than going into the reality of the resident. I'm 100% (OK 92.5%) convinced that we get the behaviors we ask for through our interactions. It starts with the first comments in the morning and the anger continues all day. The change MUST come in the caregiver approach. Just in case you know anyone that might be interested in more tools.... My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ Here's to more successful conversations. Diana
@kimfleury
@kimfleury 3 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips I wish I could send you to my dad's nursing home. There are a few staff who are intuitively able to let the resident shine, but I get too many calls about dad's "abusive" behavior, which I know is from some strong willed staff member giving him orders to make their job easier (which may also come from being overloaded with patients, but it backfires). I've tried to train them, but I know well the resistance to the idea that family members know what their job is like. Even though I've worked in nursing homes, as a cook on ships, and am now a teacher, and when Dad retired he went to work at the nursing home he's in now, but it was under different ownership and has been completely remodeled, so he doesn't know where he is. It's even more difficult with Covid-19 restrictions keeping me out of the facility. I just wish I could send you there.
@kathleenrushing6897
@kathleenrushing6897 3 жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this conversation. My husband is starting to go into this . He is angry all the time. Thank you so much.
@skibeesmith5952
@skibeesmith5952 3 жыл бұрын
hope u get him on some anti-depression medicine.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 3 жыл бұрын
Hi, Kathleen, we also have a free guide for family caregivers that is available online: www.mmlearn.org/family-caregiver-guide-caring-for-a-senior-at-home Hope it proves helpful for you and your husband.
@GeorgiaUnity
@GeorgiaUnity 2 жыл бұрын
It's usually hardest for the partner or family member who ends up being a caregiver because even if your rational mind knows they aren't responsible for their lack of awareness, you are still stuck in the mode of seeing them how they were--as the person you knew a particular way. You're still in the position of getting your brain wrapped around all the changes...and then there are different ways the dementia takes form every single day.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 2 жыл бұрын
The good news is there is an increased interest in learning more about working with a loved one with memory loss now than ever before. It certainly requires the caregiver to look at the situation from a different angle...which is tough but so beneficial when it occurs. Thanks for your supportive comments. Diana
@crystalb410
@crystalb410 4 жыл бұрын
Her saying she should've went into her mom's reality is 100 percent correct. If you can't/won't do that, you will cause the patient to be stressed out, anxious, or more confused.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
Yep, it is truly the key to successful interactions.
@deeveasey713
@deeveasey713 11 ай бұрын
My husband was diagnosed with dementia and alzheimer's disease and cognitive impairment 😢 I've been with him for 6 years but married for 1yr. I'm thankful of listening to you on here thank you so much there's so much to learn
@judyball2552
@judyball2552 4 жыл бұрын
My mother was diagnosed with dementia. She lived with dementia for 12 years. This is so helpful and so true.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind words.
@MagnoliaZZZZ
@MagnoliaZZZZ 3 жыл бұрын
I take care of my Mom (8 years now)and she has short term memory loss. This talk is going to help me immensely, thank you so much. Everyone with elderly people in their lives need to listen to this. My mom was my rock too, and it has been devastating to me that we can't discuss a book or play a game or do quilting, cooking etc or have in depth conversations, that is pretty much gone. She excelled at everything, and now she can't do much, and that makes her upset. However, she enjoys watching cooking shows on youtube, and we can do that together. I have learned to create a world she is comfortable with. She wants to be RIGHT! LOL When I corrected her, that just made her upset. Two things that help a lot, Number One, make sure they are drinking enough water. I have noticed my mom is more "with it" when she has proper hydration. That is an ongoing concern, older people never seem thirsty. Number Two, make believe your memory is not so great either...LOL. She loves it when she can correct me in some way. I do misplace things, so it becomes a game for her. She feels very triumphant when she can remember where I misplaced something. Love and a lot of patience, that goes a long way too.
@celynnjay9633
@celynnjay9633 Жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@Mill835
@Mill835 2 жыл бұрын
This video is so vital for so many of us so we do not live with the what if, I had, what if I did, What if I. In my moms first year of Demential I made a mess of it, I truly thought mom was trying to get attention, calling the fire department constantly, inviting people to her home she didn’t know, giving her debit care and pin to a neighbors and asking them to go the store for her letting her food burn on the stove and then saying it was an accident, and finally this woman who had a home you could eat off the floors, allowing her dogs to poop all over the house including her bed, and none of it actually her fault. Had I known then it was not her trying to get attention it was all real and she was in her first stages of demential.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 2 жыл бұрын
I certainly can relate to the "mess of it" comment. It's tough to learn to live in their reality. Sharing is caring. Thanks for your story and please share my video with anyone you know that is currently living with a loved one or friend with memory loss. Helping others does make a difference as you review your interactions with your mom. Please encourage them to sign up for my newsletter where I provide tips for specific situations such as eating out, bathing, answering challenging questions, etc. www.waughconsulting.info/contact-us/ Just in case you might be interested in more tools.... My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ Here's to more successful conversations for all. Diana
@judyjackson2260
@judyjackson2260 3 жыл бұрын
My mom died at 82 of Alzheimer's. I loved her so dearly. She wanted to die at home and she did. I knew Alzheimer's was about memory loss but there was so much I didn't have a clue about. It is a horrid disease. And I know my mom always loved me dearly and she knew I loved her dearly. I was her 24-7 care giver on my own. The last 6 months I was exhausted. Really mentally and physically near collapse. Hospice did visit for a half hour or hour two or three times a week. But they really only advise or care for a sore except for the bath help. They don't really give you relief like a nurse or family giving you a break. Even the bath, if my mom wanted me in there because she was scared they did the work but I assisted a little. Some of the things the nurse told me, I just didn't believe. Now I can see how right they were. At the time it was more pain for me and mom because I just didn't expect what tapped so I said the wrong things. I meant well but even now a year after her death I still feel terrible that I handled some things wrong. The hospice people were usually checking up on changes good or bad and medicine and how to care for her. They talked about the changes some as they happened. I was getting about 3 hours sleep a night the last 6 months. My own health was bad. So they gave me a little booklet that explained Alzheimer's things I needed to understand before they happened, but I was so exhausted it was all I could do to see to her needs. I didn't start reading some of it until the last two weeks. Way to late. Then so much made sense. The memory loss, even when she thought I was her mom. Even when she wasn't really sure who I was she knew to call out Judy if she needed something. The last few months was when it got really bad. The hallucinations, she thought everyone was trying to kill her. She saw things on tv a man with a gun that just had a microphone, she heard voices outside they were going to take our home. I'll never forget how I stupidly told her some of these things when her mind was clearer and she just balled and said then I'm crazy. I will always hurt over that one. I tried to comfort her and tell her not to worry because it was the medication and she would be fine later. Or when she thought I was her mom and I called her mom and was talking about my siblings and her grandson that she adored. She looked at me so funny so bewildered. Then I made the mistake of saying how her mom died 59 years ago and the shock on her face. These memories haunt me. And I did go along at times but she went in and out of reality and her memory too. So I never knew was I her mother today or her daughter or that mice girl that took care of her. It was shocking because I didn't understand how she was going backwards even to a child or toddler. So now I feel like I did so much wrong and it hurts. They could have spent 20 minutes of the time they discussed her care with me and explained all this but they didn't. They were sweet and helped in many ways but I really wish they had truly explained about them going downhill in age. She didn't drink or eat the last six days. And the death rattle and sounds that sounded like she was in pain or couldn't breath good nearly killed me that last week. They said she was not in pain and could breath but I didn't know if they really knew or if it was true. My aunt helped the last few months. She stayed with me and my aunt the last week. I simply would have collapsed without there help. And at first they kept saying dementia, it was only the last like three weeks they started saying Alzheimer's occasionally. So I was confused because they had told me they weren't the same thing. I didn't really know it was Alzheimer's until I got the death certificate. Sorry I wrote a book, but I'm just now starting to deal with the mistakes I made and trying to face and cope with my feelings of letting my beloved mom down. Maybe you can save others from the heartache I'm suffering from because of my lack of knowledge. I just love your steps to understanding and giving dignity to persons with dementia and teaching medical workers and family how to deal with them and how to cope. Thank you!!
@CynthiaWord-iq7in
@CynthiaWord-iq7in 3 жыл бұрын
Great "book"/capsule--I didn't know almost any of it, thanks.
@marynnalindseykerce7510
@marynnalindseykerce7510 3 жыл бұрын
Judy, you are so sweet to love your mom so very much. By your presence and your caring, she knew of the immensity of your love, and that's what matters most. That's the best gift of all. ❤
@patmelton43
@patmelton43 4 жыл бұрын
My husband who died in 2016 had dementia and he also was blind with hearing impairment. His disease got so bad that he could no longer drink coffee. His throat could no longer swallow. I kept him at home until he died except he was hospitalized 5 weeks before he died. I wish I had this information when I could have used it. Thank you for making this stuff available. It is so useful.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, Pat. Our hearts are with you.
@MegaBpop
@MegaBpop 4 жыл бұрын
My condolences on loosing your husband. Sounds like you gave him unconditional love till the end. What a blessing.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much. Perhaps you wish to share my information with others who are currently on the journey. My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific to the person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/
@maxwellmark986
@maxwellmark986 3 жыл бұрын
Hello Melton.... 💝👋👋👋
@wendybourke6894
@wendybourke6894 4 жыл бұрын
Diane did a good job with this subject. My father began his downward journey with dementia at age 52 and died when he was 64, when I was 20 and my siblings were 18, 16 and 12 . We learnt a lot watching our mother cope with Dad and her young family at the same time. It was a second marriage for both of our parents, with Dad being 43 when I , his first child, was born. Mum did well, including Dad in the conversations we had, telling us how proud he was with our achievements at school , and teaching us compassion in how she coped with Dad. One frustrating symptom he had was nominal dysphasia, and we all tried to help as struggled to find the right words , which led to a lot of guesswork on our part and frustration on his. He also got cranky with his limitations.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your kind words and sharing your story.
@Joflowers4
@Joflowers4 4 жыл бұрын
So true about the driving. It was one of the hardest things for our family when dealing with my poor dad. My mom struggled with how she spoke to him. It's so hard. Thankfully he is now in a good home and very safe.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching! Please feel free to subscribe to our enewsletter! It goes out monthly with useful information to help you in your role as a caregiver: training.mmlearn.org/enewsletter-for-senior-caregivers
@Kate98755
@Kate98755 4 жыл бұрын
This is so hard, my sisters fought taking driving away from my dad, so i had to write an email that reflected my fear and recommendations, i had to get it in writing to absolve myself in case he had an accident and hurt or killed someone. Having family members who didn’t think he was really losing his memory made the task tougher...
@Joflowers4
@Joflowers4 4 жыл бұрын
@@Kate98755 I can relate - I had issues with convincing family about my dad as well. One uncle was particularly difficult and caused a lot of problems. My parents had a negligent physician (whole other story) who'd had a CT scan in my dad's folder for 11 months before we knew the Alz was confirmed my detailed scans of the brain tissue showing the amyloid growths. Up till then I had nothing to substantiate or prove that he had dementia. It wasn't till then that he was referred to a geriatric psychiatrist and given proper care. My sister and I first saw signs something was wrong with our dad 4 years earlier but our mom was in denial. It's an awful disease and nobody wants to hear it diagnosed.
@Kate98755
@Kate98755 4 жыл бұрын
My mom was in denial too, which i do understand, but so much made sense, years of odd or rude behavior. It’s a horrible disease, we have ALS in our family as well, another horrible disease, enjoy NOW, it’s all you have...watch Ekhart Tolle....God bless
@Joflowers4
@Joflowers4 4 жыл бұрын
@@Kate98755Thanks - u 2. xo
@mauracole9219
@mauracole9219 4 жыл бұрын
our mum died wit Alzheimers. WISH I HAD HEARD OF THIS LADY BEFORE MY MUM PASSED AWAY
@msr1116
@msr1116 4 жыл бұрын
Now, you are able to better communicate with any future dementia sufferers you may encounter, and you can personally recommend this video to those in close proximity to them.
@lenniewatson687
@lenniewatson687 3 жыл бұрын
Mine too.😭😭
@kathyk1690
@kathyk1690 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this. I am guilty of so many of these with my husband who has vascular dementia. I will change my wording now. Thank you thank you thank you.
@lilianchin-mason7885
@lilianchin-mason7885 4 жыл бұрын
Diane, My mother is living with advanced dementia and I am her caregiver. Thanks for the straight talk. It is very helpful and i am going to share this with my family, support workers, and friends. Thanks again for the explanations and how to engage with persons with dementia. - Lilian
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much. My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/
@susancrounse9921
@susancrounse9921 4 жыл бұрын
Give her hugs and kisses everyday ,my mom is not on this earth any longer I loved her with my hole heart and kissed her everyday I would say your nose is cold mom so your heart is warm I always said I love you mom she would say ditto honey ditto, she was my best friend what I would give to hug her and kiss her nose cold once again to hear ditto Susan ,God BLESS YOU AND YOUR MOM MAKE AS MANY GREAT MEMORY WITH HER AS YOU CAN ,😇😢😤
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@rabbiyisroelmeirpopack4362 4 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips not
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@michaelademola8170 4 жыл бұрын
@A Javid so what do you want me to ddo for your mum?
@lifecloud2
@lifecloud2 3 жыл бұрын
When Diane said that it's best to step into the person's reality and not try to drag her into yours, this really hit home. This is exactly what I've been preaching to my friends who are currently taking care of someone with Dementia. I took care of my mother-in-law during her final years with Dementia. This was the most difficult thing I've ever done, but in the end, I felt so honored to be part of this woman's experience. I always thought of my time with her as a type of dance ... and I let her lead.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
I really like your dance analogy. I might just have to use that as I teach others how to enjoy time together.
@lifecloud2
@lifecloud2 3 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips Thank you, Diana.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
@@lifecloud2 You are very welcome! Diana
@sislau
@sislau 3 жыл бұрын
This was fabulous! I'm going to watch it again. And AGAIN. *AND AGAIN!* ... I screwed up my relationship at the end with my grandmother, doing all the wrong things, getting confrontational, telling her the things she was hallucinating were not real and she was wrong. My mom is now headed down the same path (someday I will be too--I already forget where I park). I don't want to continue to disrespect her too. Thank you for this presentation! We need more like this. Dementia is WAY too prevalent in our society. Gotta help our elders, and continue to show them the respect they deserve!
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 3 жыл бұрын
We're so glad it was helpful! We also have a free guide for family caregivers that you can download: training.mmlearn.org/family-caregiver-guide-caring-for-a-senior-at-home
@violetmartha916
@violetmartha916 4 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful lady!! I love her.... She cares and I'm sure enriches so many lives. I wish I knew her. 💗💗💗
@violetmartha916
@violetmartha916 4 жыл бұрын
@@WaughConsultingVideoTips ha ha ha. I wish Diana! I live in the UK and am in my 50's but I am thinking of looking into what I could do to get involved with supporting and helping people suffering with memory loss. A close friend of mine went through it with her father a few years ago, and I became interested in how families cope..what support was available to them etc. As a result, I watched some documentaries and videos on KZbin...some of them were informative and positive, but some made me cry because I didn't like how some of these people were treated. One gentleman posted daily videos of his father's struggles with alzheimers....he asked his father, rather a lot, "Why are you doing this?" " You don't need to do that... You've done that several times today." I understand he wasn't trying to ridicule him and he wanted to show a "realistic" picture of the disease, and maybe off camera he was completely different, but I felt that it wasn't helping the situation. I work in an art supplies shop and had a wonderful conversation with a lovely gentleman one day... He told me he sings in a choir, but he couldn't remember where they meet up....so we talked about voices and music. His wife was looking around the shop, so he kept me company.... When she came back, the first thing she said to me was "He's got Alzheimers you know." Gosh that made me mad ( I didn't let it show off course) so I replied "Well, your husband and I just had the most wonderful conversation. He certainly knows his music." I truly love your whole attitude to these wonderful people.
@viewfromaustralia3198
@viewfromaustralia3198 3 жыл бұрын
There’s lots about talking to people with dementia. There needs to be much more focus to listening to dementia sufferers.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 3 жыл бұрын
Hi there! We have a library of videos for caregivers, which you can search by topic and other filters: training.mmlearn.org/caregiver-training-videos Hopefully some of them are helpful for you!
@happy1831
@happy1831 3 жыл бұрын
And invisible disease......fibromyalgia
@valtooby4822
@valtooby4822 3 жыл бұрын
How true,we must listen to these people, that’s the key answer, to helping them . VJ NSW Australia.
@gingerbaker4579
@gingerbaker4579 3 жыл бұрын
They don't start speaking an alien language, you numpty. You listen to them as you would a normal person. Nothing less. If you can't, then you're insulting.
@DOLfirst
@DOLfirst 3 жыл бұрын
@@happy1831 which might be Lyme disease after all
@mariannegermann
@mariannegermann 3 жыл бұрын
My MIL has a full time aide living with her in an independent living community. Family visits about once per week and calls each day(7 children). Poor eyesight and hearing plus cognitive issues preclude her from most activities. Reading, watching TV, no hobbies. Insists she wants to go home, that this not her apartment, wants whoever comes to visit to get her out of there; talks about dead babies in boxes, that various family members have been killed or are in the hospital and the truth is being kept from her; she's being told over and over again that her youngest son is dead(he died 16 years) because she thinks she injured him and he's in the hospital! She's 94 and in good health otherwise. I have sent numerous emails to the family members about how to and how not to converse with her, info about dementia, etc. Somehow people just don't get it! I'm sending them this video, it's wonderful. Maybe they will listen and learn from it.
@lifecloud2
@lifecloud2 3 жыл бұрын
The sad part about Dementia, to me, is that it often includes repeating information ... and not getting frustrated by it. I think some people believe that they can restore a person's memory through reminding them or through correcting their thinking. I know of two friends who are taking care of their parent's who have this. Trying to set the Dementia patient straight or correct them, etc., just stresses out everyone and it just doesn't work.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
I wish you success with your education of the family members. Because there are over 100 reasons why folks have short-term memory loss there is often fear in family members that "it might get me" and ignoring it becomes their way to manage their own feelings. Helping them with what to say rather than what not to say might be helpful. My book helps families capture the "who" of the person. I would urge you to consider gathering good conversation starters. All family members can work together to capture these pleasant long-term memories that help you MIL feel successful and useful. If we aren't ready with a conversation starter, we default to a short-term memory question such as "Hi, how are you?" Those short-term memory questions set the conversation up for failure and frustration. might be interested in more tools.... My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ Here's to more successful conversations. Diana
@suewright1299
@suewright1299 4 жыл бұрын
Thank goodness I saw this and listened. It was amazing to have so many ideas to, hopefully, call upon when I next see a very dear neighbour who has Alzheimer's. Sadly her husband is so very impatient with her, yet it could all too easily be him! My dear mother died in 2005, as I couldn't 'reach' her, I went back to stories of her and her friends that she'd told me some years before. Her eyes lit up, she was there reliving it all again with delightful giggles and smiling so much, it was a joy to see. Hubby & I bought her a CD player and some Perry Como and Glen Miller CDs which she came alive to. As she was in a home here in the UK I asked staff members if they would put the CDs on to help her. Anything, no matter how small can be the best help you have and need. Very many thanks indeed Diana Waugh, bless you and the staff with you, and for reaching out to us all to help those who desperately need it. ❤️
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much. Sure sounds like you did it with your mom. Perhaps you wish to share my information with others who are currently on the journey. My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific to the person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/
@johnsonjack4611
@johnsonjack4611 4 жыл бұрын
*DEMENTIA CURE:* Thanks for all these comments and for sharing some of your own story. I am a 74-year-old man, I was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease 15 years ago, I always like to use my experience in a positive way to educate others. It is common knowledge that Alzheimer's robs people of their ability to remember. Having dementia for me was lonely, isolating and scary. But when people share their stories, it can provide inspiration, hope and a welcome reminder that you are not alone. Homeocure Worldwide is natural cure medicine. The professional had earlier told me there is no cure, I asked professional to explain this to me? They said it is a miracle. All the patients I have directed to Homeocure Worldwide return with thanks. Don't let drug companies keep you as a slave to their mediocre medications. Don't let them tell you there's nothing that will help you. Today I can say that I'm living life instead of surviving it. For more info, contact Homeocure Worldwide
@phyllisroberts4190
@phyllisroberts4190 4 жыл бұрын
My mother passed away two years ago after a long 15 years slide into dementia. There's a few things that I observed with her (and keep in mind I live 3000 miles from her in another country so we weren't around each other much while she was in the hospital) but I found music was something she really enjoyed and pulled her out of her confusion. Also I was sitting there with her one time and she had her eyes closed and sitting on the edge of her bed and she was folding laundry. In her mind she had a basket of laundry and she was taking pieces out and carefully folding them and letting him down and grabbing another piece. I think this is what kind of things help people who are in deep dementia. Why don't they keep baskets of laundry to fold or maybe some easy tools and something people can tinker with etc. maybe a vacuum cleaner or brooms.
@maureenlanducci2216
@maureenlanducci2216 2 жыл бұрын
This woman is such a good speaker and really appreciate her insight.
@kriskennedy1544
@kriskennedy1544 3 жыл бұрын
This has been so helpful. I remember the mistakes I made with my mother and make today with my father. I strongly believe you must help with keeping their strength strong or they live a living death.
@dixiesland2786
@dixiesland2786 2 жыл бұрын
Hi criss im sorry your father and mother have this my granda has it to its awful good luck x
@suttone1
@suttone1 4 жыл бұрын
My dad is 88 years old and everything you said I have experienced and you have helped me very much with how to handle this better. I have always been the type of person to say it like is! Even if it is confrontational, but that has got me nowhere with my dad except for huge arguments! He always tells me that he was a business man for 40 years and do you think I'm stupid!
@kristinehatkinson7323
@kristinehatkinson7323 4 жыл бұрын
Oh boy, can I relate to all you say!
@kristinehatkinson7323
@kristinehatkinson7323 4 жыл бұрын
@Cat Magic I think you misunderstood Eric. He's saying that honesty was getting nowhere, and his father's defensiveness only led to arguments. Dealing with this type of person, with a lifetime of always knowing they're right and getting their way, is particularly challenging in dementia. Caregivers and loved ones often fall into the trap of thinking they're talking to the person who used to be. Being ready to handle combative behavior in the later stages of the disease, and aggression, is something not talked about a lot. Seeing the life in an Alzheimer's care facility is a real eye opener.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Eric, we have a free guide for family caregivers that you can download: training.mmlearn.org/family-caregiver-guide-caring-for-a-senior-at-home Hope this is helpful!
@judyslone6367
@judyslone6367 3 жыл бұрын
My husband of 58 years has begining dementia. He is living in a time when he was in high school. When a movie comes on in the !950's era he is all smiles and in a happy place.
@carolynwoodruff3709
@carolynwoodruff3709 3 жыл бұрын
This woman is a gift to us from God. I just love her!
@dianejohnson1991
@dianejohnson1991 3 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this. My husband has Alzheimer’s in the early stages. His brother is younger and has or is near dying. I’m going to listen to this again and hope it helps me. Thank you ever so much.
@youngteacherguy
@youngteacherguy 3 жыл бұрын
I don't understand why anyone gave this video a thumbs down. This info helps me understand my grandma's thought process and gives me tips on ways I can carry a conversation with her.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 3 жыл бұрын
Hey Young Teacher Guy! We have a free guide full of easy, purposeful activities for people with dementia: training.mmlearn.org/activities-for-dementia-patients Maybe some of this will be helpful for you and your grandma!
@reneecoulson9724
@reneecoulson9724 4 жыл бұрын
Like Kathryn (see comment below), I came across this video completely by accident but I'm so glad I did! Diane's presentation is really helpful and I'm sure I'll draw on her advice frequently as I visit people in care homes and in their homes. This is such practical advice and has helped to remove the anxiety I feel at such times and get conversations started with those who can often feel bewildered and undervalued - unloved even. Thank you Diane Waugh.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching! Feel free to subscribe to our enewsletter. It goes out monthly with useful information to help you in your role as a caregiver: training.mmlearn.org/enewsletter-for-senior-caregivers
@galeharris6696
@galeharris6696 4 жыл бұрын
I did as well, just wish I'd had more of these tools to communicate better with my step-mom, as she went through the cognitive changes she faced in her memory journey.
@kathrynhichborn8390
@kathrynhichborn8390 4 жыл бұрын
I just happened on this video quite by accident, not even looking at anything remotely related, but I so wish I had been given this information 2 decades ago. My mother, who was one of those people who did the crossword puzzles in ink, died of Alzheimer's and this would have helped immensely in communicating with her. I feel as though I did so many things wrong, but nothing I read helped as this one presentation would have. God bless you for this! I will definitely be picking up the book in case I or anyone I know could use it in the future.
@bestlikehelponline
@bestlikehelponline 4 жыл бұрын
Wow what an informative comment! Love it, and thanks for sharing!
@michellejean8068
@michellejean8068 4 жыл бұрын
I understand what's she's saying. I just totally agree. Memory lose comes in and out. And the person may remember something one day and not the next, but the day after. So No I'd never bullshit them just to get a conversation. Memory is lessened but not their body's intelligence. A lie is a lower frequency. Truth is a higher. Your physical body can sense fear memory stored in our DNA. But if lies work for you. Good. Kinensology for elders literally reestablished the neurotransmitters to the brain easy fun movements. Memory loss is a disconnection to different parts of your brain. Reconnect them. Try it you will be amazed.
@richieriddle1167
@richieriddle1167 4 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely my mother as well. My sister is her caregiver and has no training in this. I happened across this accidentally as well and she explains it so beautifully.
@ivahammond5608
@ivahammond5608 4 жыл бұрын
Memory is by association.
@johnsonjack4611
@johnsonjack4611 4 жыл бұрын
*DEMENTIA CURE:* Thanks for all these comments and for sharing some of your own story. I am a 74-year-old man, I was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease 15 years ago, I always like to use my experience in a positive way to educate others. It is common knowledge that Alzheimer's robs people of their ability to remember. Having dementia for me was lonely, isolating and scary. But when people share their stories, it can provide inspiration, hope and a welcome reminder that you are not alone. Homeocure Worldwide is natural cure medicine. The professional had earlier told me there is no cure, I asked professional to explain this to me? They said it is a miracle. All the patients I have directed to Homeocure Worldwide return with thanks. Don't let drug companies keep you as a slave to their mediocre medications. Don't let them tell you there's nothing that will help you. Today I can say that I'm living life instead of surviving it. For more info, contact Homeocure Worldwide
@marybrand1977
@marybrand1977 Жыл бұрын
I wish I had this information when I started this journey with my husband. Expectations, you have to let them go and realize they are doing the best they can. Excellent presentation.
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the kind comment. Diana
@susanvandenbrink488
@susanvandenbrink488 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your video. What I have learned here will help me with talking to my sister in a memory care facility 1400 miles away. She was diagnosed with Dementia 3 years ago. The long-term memory info in this video is going to really help me in my conversations with my Miss Peggy!
@patriciahoke4722
@patriciahoke4722 4 жыл бұрын
Whatever reduces blood flow to the brain contributes to memory loss (paraphrased). BLESS THIS WOMAN!!!!!!!!
@annabizaro-doo-dah
@annabizaro-doo-dah 4 жыл бұрын
I'm noticing memory loss and I have issues with edema in my legs and swelling. Also I'm struggling to walk and have put on weight after a life time of being very skinny, so I have higher blood pressure. I'm convinced high BP is associated with my memory loss.
@patriciahoke4722
@patriciahoke4722 4 жыл бұрын
@@annabizaro-doo-dah I agree. I'd like to recommend a podcast hosted by Dr Peter Attia. At times, it gets a bit technical, but it's worth a listen, though it is long. It can be found here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sHTNfnmre9tsfck He hosts Francisco Gonzalez-Lima, Professor of Neuroscience and Pharmacology & Toxicology, I think in Texas or maybe Chile. It's been a while since I listened. They break it down nicely. There's another youtube vid from January of this year with Ivor Cummins and Dale Bredesen on Alzheimer. They talk about the five causes of dementia.
@annabizaro-doo-dah
@annabizaro-doo-dah 4 жыл бұрын
@@patriciahoke4722 thank you so much for this.
@dorisgriffith9522
@dorisgriffith9522 4 жыл бұрын
Patricia Hoke 8
@dorisgriffith9522
@dorisgriffith9522 4 жыл бұрын
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@jeanbates4849
@jeanbates4849 3 жыл бұрын
My husband has dementia & although I worked with dementia patients for 25 yrs there is a big difference between working with & living with dementia sufferers. This video & presenter have really given me new tools that will help & also reminded me of things I used in my work life that some how had slipped through the cracks but will now be resurrected & used in our home life with dementia .It is so nice to hear from someone who actually has been there , not just speaking from books , research etc. but who has actually walked in our shoes . Thank you so much .
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
You are most welcome. Thanks for your interest and your order. I'm positive you'll be able realize successful and useful conversations. Diana
@theblissgarden
@theblissgarden 3 жыл бұрын
I love talking to those with dementia. I learned really young with my great grandmother and helping my grandmother take care of her friends. When I got to doing home health I became everyone’s favorite because of my patience and ability to engage them. I pray my kids are able to do the same.
@mberriosarroyo0407
@mberriosarroyo0407 3 жыл бұрын
OUTSTANDING! Thank you, Ms Diane. Sadly I know it can’t be dementia in a 20 year old, but is happening when in the middle of a conversation you lose your train of thought. 🤔 one slight detour and you’re asking “what were we talking about” I can see it at my age, but I see it happening more often in youth as well. 🤷🏻‍♀️
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 3 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to your thought. The difference is that your filing cabinet is stuffed with lots of tasks that take your attention. My test is when someone helps you with the "what we were talking about" question, you can hop back on that topic. Diana
@cassieblack1776
@cassieblack1776 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes family or caregivers don’t understand the approach of people with dementia and that’s why caregivers are trained and families need help . This video is so crucial and excellent e example of education. I worked in a senior living facility and there was two sides one being the locked dementia unit. I worked both sides and it was such a learning experience! I had to tell the managers 19 year old cousin to leave ! I reported her! She was taunting patients and laughing at them. Taking there stuff so they would chase her!? Then we had a sometime’s aggressive resident. She needed to go to bed and so the girl pushed her into the bathroom slammed the door shut and starts ripping off her clothes . The elderly patient began to clearly cry , yell and thrash ! I was mortified! The women was so scared she began to grab me and pull my shirt and almost tearing it! I told her to exit the bathroom immediately! At this point the patient is hysterical! I had to hold her tell her it’s okay! It’s okay! She was hitting m me. I began to distract her by saying let’s get ready for bed huh! Then showed her her favorite shirt 👚. She could dress herself so I asked her can you put your shirt on ? She excitedly said yeah! Of course! So she did . By the end of it she was calm and content. That girl was investigated and fired! Thankfully!
@WaughConsultingVideoTips
@WaughConsultingVideoTips 2 жыл бұрын
The situations you shared are exactly the reasons I have focused on this issue for many years. Short-term memory loss requires an understanding of techniques and approaches. Education is certainly the key. Please feel free to sign up for my newsletter where I provide tips for specific situations such as eating out, bathing, answering challenging questions, etc. www.waughconsulting.info/contact-us/ Just in case you might be interested in more tools.... My book I WAS THINKING captures conversation starters specific for a person. If you haven’t had a chance yet take a look at my For Families page on my website for information about the helpful materials and on purchasing my book and another DVD for families. www.waughconsulting.info/for-families/ One more reference is my KZbin channel where I offer Video Tips addressing specific conversation techniques. tinyurl.com/WaughconsultingLLCHere's to more successful conversations. Diana
@tuipalmer5866
@tuipalmer5866 4 жыл бұрын
Priceless, thank you. Too late for my Mom but this will educate future generations and my loved ones...possibly for me too.
@MmlearnOrg7
@MmlearnOrg7 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Tui, if you're looking for more information, we have a free guide on understanding the most common types of dementia: training.mmlearn.org/most-common-types-of-dementia
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