Dementia Refusals Medication: "I don't need these"

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[@daylight1992]

My 95 year old Oma refers to all of her medications as Vitamins. Not because she has dementia or because she's confused about what they are, she calls them vitamins so that she can say she's the only one of her friends to be her age and medication free 😅 I love that lady she'll make us laugh till the end

[@ClaudiaG.1979]

my Oma was funny till her last day. One day she lost her dentures and made her family search for it. 3 adults and one 12 year old were searching everywhere.. Then suddenly she made a "shhhh" noise and with a dramatic gesture she opened up her hands to reveal her dentures to my little nephew. She had it in her pocket all the time and she knew it!

[@jennifergraceh]

@@ClaudiaG.1979hahahahaha 😂 what a pistol. You can’t even be mad at that.

[@kingkat_]

ngl this gave me whiplash, i call my gma Oma and this is the first time i've ever heard someone else use it

[@cerys113]

@@kingkat_its grandma in a few languages (german for example)

[@user-wt7ug1ox8y]

In Spanish as well.

[@upwardsandonwardshealing]

i used to call them hair skin and nails vitamins for the ladies!! worked like a charm!

[@frog_humidifier585]

This is a great idea!

[@nursenicole222]

I use the terms memory supplements for the dementia meds. I get a lot of “I could use all the help I can get”. 😂😂😂😂

[@thekiwibird37]

I mean, they;re not wrong...that's cute tho

[@MimiNwabuokuMD]

Ohhhh, I LOVE YOU for that!!! 🥰🤗

[@goingslowlynowhere]

I really, really like that. It is less lying, and if you can get away with it? Awesome!

[@vvitch-mist20]

😭😭😭

[@jbtpa895]

We went to every appointment with Dad. We had a colorful notebook and wrote everything down. He remembered and recognized the notebook. Any time there was pushback we did the , let's check what Dr Johnson said. As long as we checked the notebook he was fine.

[@ralphralpherson9441]

Thats actually brilliant. Find a source HE TRUSTS implicitly (his own writing in his book) and then use that to back up your requests.

[@Oh4FoxsSake]

You sound like a very loving child. How sweet of you to care for your dad in his last days.

[@DaughterofBabaYaga]

Absolutely brilliant. Tucking this away in my back pocket. Dementia and alzhimers are my biggest fears both to get and have happen to a loved one. Thankyou for sharing your experience ❤ and for loving your Dad to find those methods.

[@dagneytaggart7707]

This is good. Even in periods of confusion, elders will often not question what the doctor says, but argue you over the same thing. I help several older ladies with varying memory issues. I have a notebook for each with doctor visit info. I also got an electronic medication wheel from Amazon. You can set up multiple times per day. You set alarms for the med times. The wheel has an audible alarm and flashing light for each med time set. The alarm sounds until you turn the wheel over to dispense the meds. It only allows the meds for that time to dispense. Next alarm, the wheel advances to the next section of meds. This allows my ladies to have a sense of control and ownership. Greatly reduced refusals and missed meds. I can see through the locked lid if and meds were missed.

[@formulafish1536]

It’s so important with dementia care that you’re able to do this. What I find sad as a Non-Emergency patient transport officer is that I am better at doing this than those that work in aged care and have training for dementia patients and work with them on a daily basis… sure, the vast majority of people I transfer are older and many do have dementia, but I am not working every day, and certainly don’t have the formal dementia training. At a Nursing home I was the one to de-escalate a patient because they had a power outage and her air mattress had not been reinflated. They wanted this elderly lady, who was bed-bound, to sit in an arm chair for half an hour or so until the bed had reinflated, and wouldn’t budge. It wasn’t until my colleague and I asked if there was another mattress they could substitute, and leave her on our stretcher until the new mattress was in and bed made that we had a solution, and the patient calmed down. She was adamant she was not sitting in the chair, and was having a full-on fit about it. I turned and explained to her that we won’t make her sit in the chair. Explained that a new mattress is on the way, and you can stay on our bed until it’s made, and then added in “how does that sound” on the end, making her think she had a say. She was very happy. 10 mins later she was happy and in her own bed in her own room.

[@prettyevil6662000]

Dementia patients, like children, often behave better with strangers than with those they are familiar with. It's not necessarily you are better than those who are trained, but that the patient doesn't know you and will put on a show to convince you they are not ill. Just like children often go to bed on time for their babysitter but will fight tooth and nail against parents. The babysitter isn't better at childcare. The child is just less likely to misbehave with someone they don't know the limits of. It's good that you were able to help. But it's important to remember not to put down those who are doing the work daily who have to deal with a different set of issues than you.

[@pendlera2959]

@prettyevil6662000 Good point, but they gave a pretty clear example of how the nurses weren't doing a good job of deescalation and they (with less training) were able to do it for them. It probably wasn't a one-off.

[@Oh4FoxsSake]

To me it sounds like you were more empathetic and offering her choices than the other staff who sounded burnt out. Which isn’t their fault, and is honestly more the fault of the company and the people who trained them than anyone else. Sadly, it seems as if the staff in the SNF and LTC homes in the USA lack serious training and experience but it’s honestly not their faults as the pay and education just aren’t there! If wages were higher and these facilities demanded more training we wouldn’t see situations like these, or at least not as frequently!

[@user-ob9rx2vs5p]

So many people "in charge" can only communicate in ridged unflexible terms. No "thinking" outside the box.

[@miadiaz9677]

This is what I did with my grandma, I always gave her her nighttime medications and sleep aids. She would fight and fight. If she wasn’t actively hallucinating I’d tell her they were her vitamins, but if she was (and too worried about her hallucinations that she was too freaked out for vitamins) I’d tell her they’d help her get rid of whatever it was. Either way she’d end up taking them.

[@whychoooseausername4763]

Something I'm not proud of, but I was serving as an ER NA while a med student in May 2020 (all our rotations had been cancelled, I recruited about 400 volunteers for ICU and emergency positions). This poor little grandma kept begging me for for paracetamol when she wasn't allowed more, and I decided to use the placebo effect. I diluted a bit of sugar in her water and told her it was paracetamol. I'm not proud but it worked.

[@sexygirlmax2019]

I love you for this. But im also angry at how hospitals refuse medication as if they think that will stop addiction when in reality it just causes it. I relapsed as soon as i got out of the hospital after nearly dying from Rhabdomyolysis, my left arm and right leg had zero muscle left and it was like a wet noodle, which made my joints and my everything be in screaming white hot pain. They offered me aleve by mouth and thats it. As if a stronger NSAID would help when i only got addicted BECAUSE shit wasnt working....Sad

[@jeffsanter4889]

​@@sexygirlmax2019paracetamol is Tylenol

[@dhrousseau]

@@sexygirlmax2019hospitals refusing pain meds is definitely a problem, but to be clear, paracetamol is Tylenol. it has a max dosage because it can cause liver injury when taken in high amounts.

[@sylverscribs0490]

@@sexygirlmax2019yup. came into the hospital with a severely herniated disc and they gave me a menthol patch and some advil and told me to go home, despite me bawling my eyes out in agony, having been unable to eat or even sleep for a week. i switched to a different hospital. after an mri, they scheduled me for urgent surgery, because the disc was pressing on my sciatic nerve and would cause permanent damage if it was left any longer. the healthcare system can kiss my disabled a$$.

[@dragonsheen3049]

@@sexygirlmax2019paracetamol is Tylenol. I doubt addiction was part of the equation here. The only reason they would deny NSAIDs is because they’re really rough on the liver and can cause stomach ulcers, among other things.

[@fallenshadow3584]

I work as a med tech and care giver for people with dementia, I experience this scenario every day and I'm glad to know I've been doing it right!

[@aleenadavid3490]

I LOVE your channel so much this reminds me of when my grandpa died and we were going through a tough time

[@Connie45cook]

You do such an amazing job with your Myriad of scenarios you role play. So many people benefit from your videos. What an amazingly positive ripple effect you are creating out into the world. God bless you!

[@figmo397]

I remember this with Mom. She didn't like taking ANY pills (and yeah, she was IMHO on way too many). I would take my pills with her to emphasize that she wasn't the only one taking them. I also, whenever possible, would slip her meds into her coffee or juice.

[@xgalaxy5071]

Worth noting in professional environments we can't lie about what a medication is or hide it unless covert meds have been prescribed by their doctor

[@_Oof_]

Good thing she isn't giving advice for people in professional environments then

[@SeekingTheLoveThatGodMeans7648]

@@_Oof_ it looks like taking care of a relative at home

[@_Oof_]

@@SeekingTheLoveThatGodMeans7648 Exactly

[@melkeekiper3293]

I wish my family had you around 10 years ago when my grandmother was here. None of us were prepared for dementia. 😢

[@bethfromchicago8719]

My husband's grandmother had Dementia. I remember she had agitation many times. My heart goes out to you if you are caring for a loved one with Dementia. One of her infamous stunts was hiding her prescription medications in her underwear drawer. She didn't want to take the blood pressure pills because they were "water pills". We found the medications when we cleaned out her room after she passed away. They were bunched up in her drawer. Just one story of many.

[@AllynHin]

I can so relate. My mom would not take any pills unless she knew what they were, what they were for, and why she needed them. Just saying her doctor prescribed them wasn't enough. Twice a day I had to had to explain to her what each pill was, what it was for, and why she needed to take it. Only then would she take them as long as the explanation was reasonable.

[@ashleycnossen3157]

That's going to be me.

[@athenaa.bosendorfer]

This instilled fear in me to become old and dependent because I feel like no one is going to listen to me. Most people just want to be listened to.

[@Mary-cz5nl]

I will sometimes list what some pills are for, then change it to something silly, that works....sometimes (like every other plan)

[@Langwidere903]

I spent Christmas with my extended family, including my grandma who has dementia. She definitely reacted better when my aunt said it was time for “vitamins” instead of medication.

[@bringmychariot]

I'm hoping that I don't ever have to go through this, however, I feel like a method that could work is (if you're taking any meds yourself) you can turn it into a routine. My response to the "I don't need those, I'm as healthy as a horse" would be "These are to *keep* you as healthy as a horse. I have to take my medicine too so, let's take them together to stay healthy and so we remember that we took them already." or something along those lines. This could also work with vitamins, I would guess. But I feel like showing them that you're taking your own medicine would help a lot and would help them feel safer or more comfortable because they aren't the only one taking medicine.

[@patriciatoomingtheplantpar2558]

That's exactly what she said

[@rociopaoloni5080]

​@@patriciatoomingtheplantpar2558not exactly, she didn't mentioned taking something (being actual meds one may need or some candy that looks like meds) so they feel is an "us" thing instead of a "you" issue. It sounds like a good idea to me in case what the video says is not enough.

[@laurenjones9924]

I think I got lucky with my mamaw that had dementia. Myself and my mother (her daughter in law) were Uber only people she trusted without a doubt. I’d cook her dinner and mom made sure she got her meds. We never had issues like this, but dear lord she hated her children ( my aunts and uncle). She trusted my father a lot, but I think it was because we were the people that were with her every day. She knew she knew us and knew she loved us. The confusion set in when it was people she didn’t see every day. The best advice I could give someone caring for a family member is to just be there. The more you’re there with them, the more at ease they will be instead of being the stranger. One of the happiest days of my life was one of her good days when she instructed me as her granddaughter.

[@selfgaming1456]

When I was a caretaker some people refused to take meds no matter what so we would have to put the pills in a syringe with water and pull it so the vacuum breaks up the pill into a slurry, then we would put it in their chocolate milk or a smoothie

[@purringbaseline]

That's not legal in my state.

[@NationalHooeyLeague]

​@@purringbaselineit can be legal if the dementia is advanced enough that the person is assessed by professionals( social and health care professionals along with input from family/primary carers) to lack capacity to make decisions about their health. Then you can have a written plan that the whole team has agreed to is a reasonable way to take care of them. In the UK there's a lot of paperwork and formality done before this sort of action to make sure that the benefits outweigh the risks, it's a last resort action, their lack of mental capacity to understand and use logic means they will likely suffer bad consequences if medical decisions are left upto them.

[@snapperqh]

Thanks for making these videos ❤

[@newrealitywhodis]

another thing you can do is take medication together if you have any. that's a great way to show them there is nothing to be worried about.

[@AbbyWoodlandAuthor]

Yeah. It’s better to say vitamins. We call the boost shakes chocolate milk too bc they won’t drink it from the bottle.

[@classysnowflake]

You have no idea how much your videos are helping 😢

[@ballerina2rockerchik]

When I'm old Imma need all my meds in gummy form, that way when my memory starts going the nurse can tell me she scored a boatload of edibles for me from the dispensary.

[@teresaellis7062]

😂That is awesome! Write that down somewhere important so if you get to that point the people caring for you will have that information. It is one of the reasons I have playlists titled, My Memories. I know that music can bring back memories to someone with dementia and so I collected all my favorite songs that I have loved over the years for the future.

[@SeekingTheLoveThatGodMeans7648]

unfortunately for some of them that would be totally bletch.

[@rain_c1oud]

The mall just for taking my pills? I can’t wait to be a grand parent 😂

[@chestersnap]

Got to stumble upon the take "vitamins" with your grandma together the hard way. Another helpful thing to do is to try and see if it matches a habit they may already have. Set up breakfast with the meds next to their drink and they may take it without saying anything.

[@valeriebrousseau1053]

Its sad that we have to lie for their own good😢 Dementia is like a horror trueman show😢

[@Faye1993]

As someone whose grandmother suffered from dementia, I thank you greatly for what you're doing.

[@sidneyhasnohorses789]

We lived on a farm. My grandma called it her horse pills and sometimes would joke to get the pill straw and shove it down her throat for her.

[@Jennifer-gr7hn]

Great recall of grandma with short term memory, remembering what you just said, in that order --blood pressure and dementia! :) Great stuff. You're using this platform for GOOD. And you are who I will watch. Not a narcissistic Petri dish of selfish "content." I appreciate you. As a nurse, a human people. Thank you! May it helps others too. With PATIENCE and understanding. That's what love is.

[@lauriepetersen4324]

I really appreciate these short videos. My grandmother just got diagnosed with dementia. So watching these helps me both cope and better understand what's to come. Thank you ❤

[@suzs3770]

This is the best way to do it calling them vitamins but always make sure the doctor isn’t overprescribing

[@ms.jbelle]

Thank you for this, my grandma was recently diagnosed & i moved back home to help, she's still in the beginning stages So this information is really good to start my toolbox when things get to that point

[@deloresbias1003]

Hallelujah 🙏🏼 we have to think our head to get people to do things that we care about or we're trying to help other people care for their loved ones are friends of ours or total strangers on the street. Thanks for sharing this lady. 🙋🏻🛐🫂🕊️🌞

[@thricecursed50]

I am a nurse and have really found a lot of your information so helpful! We don’t get a lot of training in dementia care and I really appreciate the knowledge you are sharing with the world. ❤

[@cielo4191]

I'm an NEMT. You've helped me get used to working with dementia patients. I was worried about the transition but this really helped me out. Thanks.

[@seniathielmeier7769]

I went through that with my mom. It drove me crazy! She is in a home now, we had a house fire and she moved to the home shortly after. She wasn't happy with us, and the home is taking better care of her than we could have. She is happy there most days.

[@erinlucero7499]

I don’t know anyone with dementia but I really enjoy watching your videos I have learned alot

[@bethfromchicago8719]

One of our neighbors were taking care of the wife's sister. The lady got out of the backyard one day and was walking around the neighborhood. Early Dementia includes loss of memory. A person in the early stages of Dementia could be driving home and get lost. One of my great uncles landed up 45 minutes in the wrong direction. If you are aware of what can happen you can then gently help someone get assistance.

[@whyisthisachannel]

I took over a lot of care for my granny's husband in his last years. I'm not a nurse, he'd never met me before, but I'm really hard to offend and I did by best to treat him with the same respect I gave my granny. I never asked him to take his pills - but I would ask him what he wanted to drink with them. He had so many things he couldnt control any more, so it always seemed to help to offer him the power of choice when I could.

[@hmmm2680]

I really synpathise with people who deal with this, it seems so tiring to have to care for someone who doesnt even remmeber you or themselves sometimes and im glad youre showing people ways to make it easier on their own soul and the person with demetia. You're doing some good work here keep it up ❤❤

[@Essouza81]

I’ve been working with people who suffer from dementia for the past 25 years, I wish it were that easy to give meds. I’ve had some very spicy patients 😂😂

[@WakeupAmerica777]

As a Pharmacy Technician this is so hard. My Mom had dementia. In her opinion she not only didn’t need medication, vitamins, nor supplements but she began hiding them under her mattress, under the sofa cushions, etc. She started leaving notes all throughout her apartment that I was trying to poison and kill her. It’s not always possible to deflect. My Mom is in heaven now. Rest easy Mommy.

[@caramac6382]

A social worker found out mum wasn’t taking her diabetic medication and said if she continued that she would be out in a home. I had no choice but to tell mum off and keep pushing. Thankfully she now takes them for her carers

[@TerminallyPerky]

This NOT “just advice”, this amazing woman is giving us. It’s a way of life. We should always treat the young and old with gentleness and respect. This way of kindness can help with dementia to ppl w adhd! It runs a spectrum for EVERYONE. One example is that she is not only helping dementia patients, but mothers: My mom (almost) never had to yell at me to do something bc she was such a positive person. Everything she did was in this same vein: not “get off the swing bc you have to go eat dinner! And finish your peas!” She would say things like “hey, I’ll race you inside and if you win, we can have a bite of a cookie before dinner as a little prize!” And “I know you don’t like peas much, I don’t either. But I have to eat mine to make me feel strong and happy, and I’d really love if you could try some with me! We can cheer each other on to take a spoonful so it goes faster!”. Now she’s approaching 70 and it healthy (aside from a wicked battle with Crohns). We both had to take care of my dad who suffered with cancer all over his body and many illnesses stemming from it. We did the best we could to always keep it positive. He was quite a wheeler and dealer in his healthy days and when things got bad such as anger at himself for being sick or depression that he couldn’t be who he wanted for us, we came up with similar ways to validate him and help him see things were still okay and he could control his environment. He was still a great husband and daddy. An example is- him having to be restrained by the wrists in the hospital bc he wld take his own breathing tube out, I learned I could make deals with him- so I could leave him free and he would “pretend” to be restrained. We worked covertly together and that gave him a headspace of being in control of his own body and situation while still getting the treatments he needed. I thank this method of communication and explanation every day of my life. And thank YOU for sharing it with the world!!!

[@marilynteichman3060]

Such great ideas for helping those with mental disabilities. These are such helpful videos. Thank you

[@strawberrysangria1474]

Wait, do some people with dementia not know they have dementia? I can't imagine losing my memory and feeling unsafe, but also not knowing why. Poor things!

[@stormyskys]

that is exactly how it is for a lot of people. they wake up somewhere they don't know, with people they don't recognize. that's why there's so much " i need to get to my car to go home" or "where's my purse" etc. they wanna get their stuff together and get out of that place

[@ClaudiaG.1979]

yep, this is how dementia works.. they knew at the beginning that they have dementia, but later they wont remember

[@Lorqu1n]

Yep, it's horrifying and I've seen it first hand. Confused and angry because nothing makes sense anymore. It's been years of constant stress for her and us and she still doesn't think she's ill. She punched a nurse giving her an IV once, those guys are heroes. I only hope as it progresses she becomes more oblivious, cloud cuckoo land would be easier.

[@miadiaz9677]

My grandma forgot she had dementia, each time she was reminded of it she broke down like it was her first time hearing it. Safe to say we stopped reminding her and that helped a lot.

[@floofzykitty5072]

Unfortunately dementia can get so bad you literally forget you were diagnosed with it

[@user-ql5gx6eb9e]

Your work on that project was incredible.

[@user-ws4eb9ut4r]

The cinematography in this is top-notch.

[@Tootsie806]

I have a double whammy situation, adult autism and early stage dementia. Most of the time, the only thing that defuses a meltdown is to just agree with him, and try again later.

[@Fidi987]

I am not sure that is allowed in German nursing homes. I read that nurses are not allowed to hide medicine in food or pestle it and make the residents take it that way. So, I believe lying about it will be forbidden as well? However, it seems to be not big deal if residents just decide to refuse medication. If it is vital, nurses are supposed to use various tricks, ways of persuasion but I believe making the resident believe they were taking something else would not be allowed among these.

[@ClaudiaG.1979]

you are right, they are not allowed to hide it in food or pestle it.. unless they have the permission from a doctor or close relative.

[@Cyntaria]

Lucky for me, I can take "vitamins" with my parents too thanks to a cocktail of mental illnesses that are currently in remission and unnoticeable. Without those meds though, I'm like a different person and probably at the same level of functioning as early-mid stage dementia, only slightly less confused unless I'm manic or something triggered a trauma response. If either of my parents ever reach this stage, if I have capacity, I want to care for them. Ex aged care nurse here. I'd rather die than be in a home and same with my mum who's a pharmacist for aged care and group homes. Very few nurses and carers have time to properly communicate with confused residents which leads to more outbursts and unnecessary sedation, and very few of those who have the time actually care enough to sit with people, talk to them and comfort them or treat them with dignity when doing things like pad changes, washes, etc.

[@user-xd7qu9zv9l]

in early stages of dementia i usually put a cup of water and the meds on the table, so the granny thinks she prepared to take meds herself.

[@jenniferhill7265]

Thank you for these videos…❤

[@aesopmeeps1762]

Your videos really help people

[@desi69420]

I wish i knew all of these things when i was helping take care of my grandma...

[@undertaken5200]

I literally can’t face my grandma anymore after she kicked me and my boyfriend out at gunpoint. She’s not doing well but I can’t stand to see her again :(

[@MyaaaaaLoVerock]

I always call them vitamins. And the chewable ones are sweets. It works pretty much every time.

[@valerief1231]

My cousin who cares for her mom gets so righteous about “ you want me to LIIIEEEEEE to my mother?!?” Ok Becky. Have fun staying high drama and exhausted

[@waltershumer4211]

Thanks!❤

[@user-cs4bg1by2p]

I wish I'd known about this with Mom. She reached a point where she was convinced I was giving her .(things) to unalive her, not medications or vitamins or the pain patch. The worst were the weekly vitamin B injections and the insulin shots. Those were instant screaming and physical fighting them off. Then her grandson moved in. My boy distracted her while I did shots and he gave her pills I had put in dispensers. She'd cooperate with him!

[@fluffytrees7279]

I tell my dementia patients “these are to keep you healthy” works 9/10 times

[@jennymoore2083]

I called medications vitamins in Aged Care. If they still resisted, i told them the doctor said it will help you poop. The elderly are knowledgeable on the importance and their ease of pooping.

[@calderpierce8774]

I work food service in a CCRC with a corner shop for the residents, and a dozen times a day I get nurses running in for cookies or ice cream "She said she'd take her meds if I get her candy! I could dance!"

[@luannemcnab7455]

My mom continued to refuse no matter if I even got her doctor to call her and tell her so I started Crushing them up and mixing them into a yogurt.Drink with extra sugar in it or into a coffee drink with extra sugar added to mask the bitterness of any of the medications. She came to look forward to these drinks and would always have the yogurt in the morning and the chocolate you drink at night and was perfectly happy and never knew the meds were in there. I just couldn't fight her on it anymore and she wouldn't change what she was doing no matter what

[@archerisblind6045]

I had a lady who called them her birth control. She knew they weren't but it made her smile so we were happy to be "the pill pushers giving her the birth control" evey day.

[@sloene72]

😂

[@rocb1319]

As a nurse I can tell you with end stage dementia most meds that have been prescribed aren’t necessary unless they are being used to control negative symptoms like pain anxiety etc and using creams or sublingual forms you will be far more successful with administering them

[@bertbaker7067]

"Grandma the pink ones give you a great buzz"

[@celtaciaclemment1229]

I used to say "Here's what you asked me to bring, Dad." He NEVER would take vitamins except vitamin C, so it was always described as an aspirin and a loratadine and a vitamin C. If you asked him to take vitamins he' d say "I'll eat or take vitamins but not both!"

[@fayophelion8097]

My grandpa with dementia just doesn’t even ask, he will take whatever you hand him

[@ILoveYou-rv3pd]

That seems like a good call. Lots of people take vitamins everyday.

[@n3wb1shness]

I was only 20 when my mom got dementia, thankfully she never forgot who I was and trusted me enough to take the meds I gave her. I can see this being really hard.

[@kariziebarth7581]

What are you do if they tell you that they don’t want to take the vitamins?

[@petlover0231]

One of my college classmates whose a CNA says that if the patients don't want meds they just come back later and keep asking and the patients eventually say yes and forget they said no earlier

[@qotice]

My ancestor really just was like “yeah I’m John from triangle shaped parcel of leftover land”

[@kelliebach5240]

I love your content, but the music was a little distracting on this one. Just wanted to give you that feedback and I hope everyone sees your content that needs it. It is very helpful.

[@benitomartinez8524]

Dunno know about in ur hand but yea great redirection.

[@izzyperezfernandez4697]

he always asks who told him to take this, but when we say the doctor he says "the doctor is lying, he doesn't know what he's talking about, never trust doctors" etc

[@waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa9739]

My grandma with Alzheimers was the exact opposite, she was convinced she had hundreds of different conditions and was constantly asking my parents to buy her lots of meds she didn't need. If they didn't, she'd throw a tantrum. I was too young to interfere in any way, but it's honestly jarring that they complied. It could have killed her before her illness did. They could have simply given her candy pills instead.

[@juliemoore5688]

You are sooo good at impersonating the residents in the retirement community I work for 🤣

[@lorisreality8681]

" take them together real quick" yeah ok that would result in grandma giving you half the pills and saying, " here honey, you have some too. You said we were sharing." Lol😂

[@MADDIEWILSTON]

My patients could never

[@AverageEggmonEnthusiast]

I’m curious, is it easier for patients who took meds before dementia? Since maybe they won’t question it as much?

[@lokimulder9295]

We just handed my grandpa his pills with a glass of water and said “here you go.” and that seemed to do the trick for him 😂

[@ACL7211]

If they refuse their anxiety/depression meds I tell them they are stress pills. Then they say, "Oh I could really use a pill for stress" and take them.

[@Rhoose123]

For a start I'd never dementia in front of my mother who has it, I just tell her they're her smarties (sweets in Ireland)

[@aSUGAaddiction]

I say its blood pressure medication and try to get the most important one in them esp anti-psychotics and heart meds. All pain meds are "Tylenol" or "aspirin". Also splenda in applesauce masked the bittertaste of most meds esp senna

[@seasmacfarlane6418]

Sometimes it's unhelpful to let dementia patients tell deliberate lies because it can introduce the suspicion that if you are knowingly letting Mum, or dad, or granny get away with lying, then you are probably dishonest too, and you might create a situation where your loved one no longer trusts you. I cared for three close relatives with dementia, and this happened twice. It was incredibly hard to regain that trust, and it's hard to know the best thing to do. Generally speaking, I would always try to maintain as high a level of truth and honesty in all situations, both with dementia sufferers and their carers. My prayers for all carers and sufferers, are that you'll keep your loved one as whole as possible for as long as possible.❤

[@flxmkr]

It wouldn’t hurt to have vitamins of your own, so you can both take vitamins. It’s easier when someone else is also taking some. And if you don’t take vitamins, maybe try a white goodnplenty.

[@Lifeafter40]

We used to take our vitamins with my dad’s vitamins, then they don’t get all suspicious

[@angelwishplay]

I wish it was that easy....😅

[@melocake1000]

Can you please make a video when people with dementia dont wanna get a haircut ? My grandma gets so angry and she never wants it to happen

[@alfyc6970]

Yeah, unless they’ve got covert medicine paperwork that’s been singed by their doctor or social worker and or a section 47 in place this is mega illegal.

[@pin4767]

my grandma always has trouble eating and taking medicine because she thinks it’s poison. is there any way you could go about that instead of saying “no it’s not poison it’s all in your head”? my parents don’t really do about her dementia in great ways

[@nicolewills2448]

My worst fight ever my gma saw demons in her medication

[@peetonpeetoff7654]

One time we gave my grandma her meds and she asked what they were for. My mom said “these are vitamins, like this one is melatonin for sleep” and my grandma said “i don’t want to sleep with melatonin, I want to sleep with Jim!”… We aren’t sure who Jim is, but at least she took her meds!

[@theflamingumbreon6748]

Great if it works. Routine is key for them. Goodluck folks, it doesn't get easier only harder as it progresses. So if you love your Gram, Pap or maybe your parents don't put them in a nursing home when it gets rough. They didn't abandon you, so don't abandon them when they don't know you any longer.

[@DreamsOfFinland]

Just have a glass of water in one hand and give the pills to the person. Not everything has to be a trick. I admire the women doing this series.

[@alanaj5]

My mother knows which are the real vitamins and which are the medications. She takes the vitamins and pockets the medication. We find them hidden around the house.

[@phantomkate6]

Ah, a keen observer of The Pills, just like my Gramps. 😂 Alert enough to know what's happening and dementia'd enough to do the opposite of good for them. You have my sympathies!

[@Putalittleloveinyourheart]

I give the excuse that they are vitamins to keep them with us long and to make sure they are that way for a long time

[@poplinalma]

I used to crush them and put them in chocolate pudding and tell my dad it was chocolate ice cream he loved it . He still love it ! It’s easier because he used to deny medication all the time .

[@nailartcrafts6320]

Mine always says she already took them. How do we deal with that?

[@hevskitronic6342]

Covert medicating is illegal in the UK!! :/