Derailed Development | a Detrans Story, with Abel Garcia

[@savvygood]

I want to give this guy a hug. He’s such a sweet heart. You know he’d be a good gentle husband who’d never hit you.

[@jasminedavid2756]

Agreed 😊

[@MariaWitlof]

Amazing that detransitioners get the chance to share their stories on bigger channels ❤

[@proseccoorwhisky5300]

Abel is such a sweet guy. I’m so glad you had him on your channel as he deserves more followers on his channel and X because he is very open and honest about his experience.

[@Gingerblaze]

Thank you Abel. Much gratitude to you for sharing your experience. All the best to you today!

[@karinelaxa959]

Thank you lovely Abel! ❤ I've been following you ever since you started detransition. You detransitioners are all so brave.

[@NinjaKittyBonks]

Not yet been introduced to Mr. Abel. Welcome and thank you for sharing your story with Mr. BenJammin' 🐈

[@criticalthinking9924]

Such a nice guy.Good luck to you Abel! May you find happiness!

[@recynd77]

Thanks Abel; I think you’re terrific. 💚💚

[@poonamsvideoblogs]

Oh. Abel. You always move me and make my heart melt. I know you will find purposeful and meaningful paths in life. In time this will bring better joy than any social acceptance. Also u r such a cute man that I am sure the most amazing woman will find you.

[@sueciviero3866]

Everybody wants a cop when they are threatened - activists included. Abel, I hope you find peace and a meaningful career of your choosing. You come across as a wonderful human being. My adult child is transitioning and at 30 years of age can give informed consent.

[@carolynbrightfield8911]

Best wishes to you and your child's journey. At age 71, I look back at age 30 and think how young I was and how many life altering decisions I was yet to make, and regret. But, age 30 is as close to mature enough to make informed consent as one can possibly get. In my experience, the length of time between regret and informed consent gets further and further apart with each aging year. P.S. my 84 year old friend says to me, "You're so young, so much more to learn yet."

[@sueciviero3866]

@@carolynbrightfield8911 I was taken by surprise but I had a good head on my shoulders at 30 and believe my child does, too. I am 61 so I guess you and your friend would consider me a Spring chicken...haha. I appreciate your comment.

[@carolynbrightfield8911]

​@@sueciviero3866smiles. My sister is 61, and you are correct, 61 is very young compared. At 61, I bought an evolved kombi camper van (VW transporter camper van), had lots of energy, went on the road, singing camps, pagan camps, women's camps (lgbtq+ welcoming) 11 months of 12 each year. Home for Christmas. Then, the plague arrived. Home 24/7 - I have a history of serious medical issues and co-morbidities, so isolation was the go to. Then I broke my knee on a flat footpath at 69. I started meeting the knee replacement brigade the hip parade, the pacemaker crew (youngest 63), the stent survivors. And I'd seen the serious inside of hospitals since I was 53, but I still didn't realise how precious it was. A 70 year old writer friend once said to me, "It's like a switch, Carolyn, and it's a switch that gets flicked at 70." Coming from a Buddhist, this was a very Biblical moment, lol. (Three score and ten.) For some, they're 91, and still take no medications and have no operations, but they are a rare bird. May you be one of those. Enjoy. Chirp. Chirp. (Thankyou for being my inspiration today for my journalling.)

[@carolynbrightfield8911]

@@sueciviero3866 thank you. I hope your child achieves what is wanted. May your child have a long and happy life.

[@customera7945]

Abel is a sweet, caring man. He's young enough to become whatever he wants. God bless him. ❤️

[@michaelweber5702]

Thank you for telling your story , Abel and thank you for your bravery !

[@violetstameski664]

Good to see you back on video, Abel!

[@jasminedavid2756]

Hey Abel, I loved your openness and honesty, you are amazing! One thing I learned in life is that when I was being selffish, I had a hard time believing others would give to me or help me, because I projected my selfish onto everyone else. Once I started practicing giving my whole world changed. Maybe you can think about that in regards to your not being able to forgive yourself. Maybe, practicing forgiving others will help you see the hope beyond your regrets, and will change your whole world. I'll be praying for you! Much love!

[@rebeccapenders5050]

Thank you for your bravery, Abel ❤

[@littlemascara6385]

Wow, Abel looks so good. Happy to hear his life is getting better.

[@Florida_Woman]

Thank you for this interview. It was really helpful. ❤

[@marwar819]

Abel, clearly you are a very brave thoughtful person. Give to yourself what you want to give to others. You are going to be fine. IMHO, nothing feels better than mastering skills. It majorly builds self-esteem. I graduated college when I turned 50. Don't wait until everything is as you think it should be before you love yourself. It will never be. Be happy today.

[@chandraspam4796]

I am horrified that your father would pay some adult to rape his child. OMG!!!! My heart is broken for you.

[@TheCheeseBaron]

This is a very common “fix” in hyper macho cultures

[@gaylehudson7267]

I feel like the society I began to be part of around 1980 (when I could vote for the first time) has utterly failed the younger generations, and I have no idea what I could have done differently to have interrupted the nightmare that is 2023.

[@kw5839]

I for one will never ever vote for a Democrat.

[@experiencemystique4982]

The results to have two Masters, my friend. When the model is supposed to be outside, every bad treasure inside "have a market of emotional gadgets " to lay ours doubts, rejection, hatred, envies only cause we have not place on compétition...winner or loser only,

[@Flightsuit]

​@@experiencemystique4982❔ what ❔

[@carolynbrightfield8911]

As a baby boomer, who had my babies in the 1980s (so they are millenials), I'm an elder with wisdom baying in the wilderness (now writing on the biggest graffiti wall in the universe.) My generation experienced huge changes, many of which we instigated in an attempt to make society a better, more accepting place. We were children who were seen but not heard. The "do as you're told, or else," generation. We tried to raise our children differently. We still set boundaries, but, increasingly fewer, smacked, it was ever increasingly frowned on. (agree). We grew up when homosexuality was illegal, we worked to change that. Then the personal computer monster arrived. And the internet etc. We have gone past the railway station, because we left something to believe in (God/spirituality/search for meaning in life /call it what you will) on a broader communal or societal basis behind. So, now, each individual is left flailing around in the water trying to find their own way. We also failed to give the next generation something real to strive for (we had basic human rights for all). In my opinion, we allowed our young to lose touch with reality (internet world) and not remain earthy. Too many creature comforts. Get down and dirty once a year for a month or two, or. maybe, a weekend or twelve. Switch off the phone, the electricity, park the car. Maybe then we'd still appreciate natural raw childbirth, how fragile life is & how inevitable death becomes. Instead they scream climate change, AI and interplanetary exploration (like we can all just pack up & leave home, ha ha). The same people scream all three things while chanting rights, trans rights, bipoc rights, never human rights. The earth is our home, nature will win, we are not gods. We are narcists. Remember when we thought the Sun revolved around us? We still do, but, we've just replaced Sun with Earth. Mother Gaia is going swat us like a fly if we don't walk bare footed, use a pit toilet, think a candle is the best thing we ever were gifted. And books ... well, they didn't exist 600 years ago.

[@randomcomment6068]

​@@carolynbrightfield8911"We"? Speak for yourself. Such a manipulative usage of plural is usually reserved for activists. And the spin on things so western. The world doesn't consist only of the west. The whole response is cringe - as the today's folk would say it.

[@georginawhitby1320]

KZbin is pushing an ad to some viewers of this detrans conversation offering " trans healthcare without the long waitlist ".

[@AndyJarman]

Last year I was seeing ads for anti-conversion legislation. I looked into who was sponsoring them. It was a gay conservative member of the UK parliament. Have a look who's sponsoring your ads might be interesting. You probably have to rummage around on their website.

[@rebeccalloyd6681]

Such a sad story. So glad he didn't go all the way. I wonder how many young people are so desperately lost in life that they follow this ghastly illusion that man and women are interchangeable.

[@kw5839]

Boys like Abel used to just be that, boys. Now any boy that’s not typically masculine is trans and similar for girls. I’m starting to think some of these therapist so quickly ready to attach trans to anyone seeking therapy for normal teenage feelings might be getting kickbacks for every patient they refer for hormones or trans surgery. It’s just a thought, but why are they so willing to make it a trans issue when there’s many other things that can cause a person to feel like Abel did.

[@inkoftheworld]

I also wonder how much of this stuff is funded by money. All the big institutions, government, police, charities, schools, etc, are they all getting on the trans train because they are receiving funding to do it? It's more believable than everyone actually buying into this stuff...

[@Flightsuit]

​@@inkoftheworldthere are millions and millions of "true believers" out there all because of the suicide-baiting. It's seen as potentially causing someone to off themselves. And then eventually people start to settle into the brainwashing.

[@amyb.6368]

There's also the issue that if there's a whiff of "might be trans", they are required by law in some places to just go along with it or else lose their license or even get charged with a crime...

[@believeintheheroic]

That is so weird that they didn’t ask about trauma when he transitioned (or didn’t think of it as something that should stop transition) but when he wanted to detransition then they brought up trauma as something to consider to not go through with detransitioning …. Like what… that’s so backwards.

[@bsavenkova]

Abel! You are a very good looking guy! 😍 Also you are a very good person! Dream of many girls! Your scars - they are your battle scars, that made you stronger!

[@kimwiser445]

I really don’t understand the desire for everyone to be activists.

[@myt110]

A big part of it is the fact that all of Western education follows a Frierian model which is designed to turn students into activists.

[@summertime104]

And why do they have enough money to support the nonsensical work while not earning a paycheck.

[@hancehanson4000]

I think it's a reaction to realizing the self-meaninglessness.

[@robinpesek3657]

@@hancehanson4000 What?

[@smooth_pursuit]

They’re trained into it in school.

[@Ariel-ck9he]

Abel is CUTE. 🔥

[@helenablavatsky9136]

Good afternoon.

[@NinjaKittyBonks]

bonk

[@helenablavatsky9136]

@@NinjaKittyBonks You're not posting from the basement, are you kitty?

[@NinjaKittyBonks]

@@helenablavatsky9136 ... uh huh 😿His Holiness, Prince of Furrballs, King of Kings, Ruler of all he survey's (I have to not only call him that, but made to promise not to ever look him in the eye) forbids The Kitty to have access to interwebz. However, Ms. Leslie has slipped an iPad under the basement door, so I can haz interactions with hoomans. . 🙀...OMG, someone is coming...

[@helenablavatsky9136]

@@NinjaKittyBonks Maybe it's.... ME!

[@NinjaKittyBonks]

​@@helenablavatsky9136 ... we need a code word. Just quote Biden saying ..."shrorudavasidaapsaapressruews" and I will know it is you 😸 . SIDE NOTE: I just tried to look up a meme so I could spell whatever the hell Biden was attempting to say and when I searched Duck Duck Go, 100% of Biden images were totally presidential and something he would be happy to see on the Oval Office desk. Not ONE SINGLE IMAGE of the endless showing him befuddled, confused or walking off into nowhere land. . I honestly do not know how America, or the West for that matter, will survive when we are gas lit 24/7/365 by Joseph Goebbels Propaganda, social media, Biden and his corrupt as F admin, DOJ, FBI, academia and all the cult minions that have infested our earth 😿Did you see that the UK Parliament sent a letter to Rumble asking them to "join in with other platforms" and demonitize Russel Brand? How about he actually be legally charged and have a trial, rather than Scarlet Letter him and have some due GD'd process? I think I am gonna need one of those internet breaks again and dive back into video games for a while :/

[@summertime104]

Dancing will bring you joy. Try line dancing with a cowboy hat in.

[@AndyJarman]

This is the first non Anglo detrans interviewee I have seen on Mr Boyce's channel. They've all been educated white people until now, perhaps fifty people!

[@9395gb]

Educated white people? I don't know about the education part per se.

[@littleboots9800]

I just watched him interview a lovely black guy born in the US but whose parents came from Nigeria. But anyway, this is predominantly something that affected white, middle class lefty types, though it is now making its way into working class areas.

[@Thavar91]

Except for the monotone, depressed demeanor he is very well spoken and could definitely start dating

[@MPW66]

So strange that so many people think that transgender is a valid option

[@atarifanboy1977]

Estrogen doesnt make your vision worse.

[@magdam5413]

Brave, smart, funny human being. Very smart that he want to repent for what he done to himself (its rational) and then he will forgive and be forgiven God bless you all You are on good patch

[@amyb.6368]

40:24 hate to bring it up, but has he had the jab? That's also been linked to sight problems and muscle spasms. My mom had her retina detach. (She is fine now, they got it repaired, but it wasn't fun.)

[@radubradu]

This poor man, what a horror story. He's very atypical, as men who transition either get a sexual kick out of it as AGPs or they are gay men who want to escape homosexuality or live the fantasy of being desired by straight men. He seems to be neither. I do get some major gay vibes from him though. He seems to have experienced the encounter with the sex worker as rape, which I'm not sure many straight men would. I hope he finds peace and that he sues the bastards for what they did to him.

[@dwightschrute8726]

Please stop with the cop bashing. Really and truly had enough. I don’t listen to this podcast for that

[@BenjaminABoyce]

He literally wants to become a cop, which is the inverse of what you heard.

[@dwightschrute8726]

@@BenjaminABoyce I’m talking about you

[@magnolia3671]

He wasn't cop bashing where'd you get that?