Does It Get Better After Divorce From Your Long Term Spouse Woman Cries Out - Must Watch

DOES IT GET BETTER AFTER DIVORCE FROM YOUR LONG TERM SPOUSE WOMAN CRIES OUT -
In This Heartbreaking Video A Woman Is Asking If It Gets Better After A Split With One's Spouse, She Went Further To Explain How She Has Been With Her Long Term Partner And How Devastated She Is After Their Split.
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[@cinnamonthomas3075]

Lets normalize being comfortable with staying single. People keep saying that she will find love again but that shouldn't be a priority. Ladies focus on yourself, loyal family and friends. Those are the relationships that are worth fighting for.

[@ashaduplessis2772]

Stating something doesn't mean you prioritize it. People often act as if their former mate is the only person they can ever love or will ever love them. and that's simply not true. Let's normalize letting people do what's best for them. If she doesn't want to be single that ok FOR HER.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

This is exactly what I said!! Like, happiness is WITHIN!! This is not a video game where if you achieve a husband you win. No if you achieve JOY you win. This worshipping of husbands as if he is God is insane and I’m sick of it!!!

[@seekinghimdaily92]

@@KurosakiLuvar01Unfortunately, worshiping men and relationships is probably what got some of these women in these relationships to begin with. Satisfaction with self that has been cultivated and nurtured can not be taken from you *by anyone.*

[@peacejones7648]

Exactly ❤

[@hotties3v3n]

I was thinking that. Well what if she never does find a man? does that mean she's doomed? Her life means nothing unless she got a man to validate her right? Nah.

[@lookatyou5809]

If you're leaving the last thing you should be thinking is if you will find someone else. Because you will wind up not leaving or going back out of fear! It took me years to get over my ex, I had no closure and I think that's what kept me tied to him. I kept trying to make sense of what I did to deserve the abuse. I felt how she felt for a while until this realization. I now realise it was his doing not mine. He kept me at arms length the whole time and never valued me outside of how I made him look.

[@shamekalockwood6789]

I can definitely relate. I was married 11 years and divorced was just finalized this month. I have felt what she is feeling. I have even considered going back to my ex just to avoid started over and possibly being alone. But my sister reminded me today to not settle. I spent years being attached to my ex. Not having a life of my own, no friends and separation from my family. Now I feel so free I almost don’t want to get married again. Lol. You just have to embrace this season. It will get easier as time progresses.

[@hotties3v3n]

You can deal with a man if you choose to. However, I would recommend liking and enjoying and respecting not LOVING very much if at all. This is very dangerous in my opinion, especially if he just a boyfriend.

[@dajewel1982]

Yessssss it gets better after the divorce

[@brys2463]

Oof I’m a separated for almost two years from a DV marriage soon to be divorced mama of 1. I’ve learned you have to keep to yourself, and go to therapy. Idk how to it feels to leave the person and still want to be with them. I do know what it feels like to yearn for the love and value you missed and people are guaranteed to mishandle you and that leaves room for hardened hearts. It just stopped hitting me in waves, the emotions the crying the feeling of failure especially as a parent. but I don’t regret leaving. I don’t have to worry about sharing my spouse or lying or substance abuse or any of the things ! I discovered new hobbies and I’m learning to do things solo because there is the real reality that people around me are either single and no kids, or happily married w/w.o kids. Either way, they all busy lol you get to reevaluate and do real retrospection.

[@hotties3v3n]

I would say when dealing with a man to marry or date. Dont put them on a pedestal. Don't really love them but like them alot. You can respect a good man, but l don't put your heart on them so they can't mess up and hurt you.

[@dream_on_sammi]

Yes, it gets better. It gets way better. Married for 21 years, divorced and single for 26 years. One and done. This is especially true once you’re past menopause and older. Single is where it’s at. A divorce can be brutal. A loss is a loss and it is something you have to work through. I knew it would pass in time. No matter how sad I was after my divorce and I was 41 with two teenage daughters I never thought I made a mistake. I knew I didn’t want to go back. I felt so trapped in my marriage. My ex went on to marry twice after our divorce. He passed away in 2022 while being married to his third wife.

[@TiffanyNicholeCatley]

I hate this for anyone. However, it is completely normal to feel horrible when you have to detach from someone who's had an important role in your life. But, it's a beautiful thing to get to the other side of that pain. I thought I was emotionally strong and secure until I got divorced from my husband of 8 years(Together 13). Having two kids added to that pain. But therapy, trusting God, and then myself healed me. This life is full of uncertainty. Things like divorce and death are painful reminders of that reality. You've gotta keep living in the best way possible for you through all of it.

[@melaniehassler2405]

I ended a 15-year marriage and at first it felt like I had died. Not too long after that, it felt like I was born again 💜

[@DaughterofDiogenes]

Right!!!! I did all my crying during the marriage. Once he was out of my system it was like I was born again.

[@Rice10120]

Women need to let go of these disney fairy tales and happy endings. It's not real. If women understood what men truly think about them, they would not want anything to do with them.

[@brys2463]

I don’t disagree lol listening to some men it’s like whoa 🤯

[@Laoriginal718]

Facts

[@TheCarnivoreSoprano]

Most. ​@@brys2463

[@bodhisattva2348]

This. Once I understood men, it made it so easy to disregard them when I need to.

[@mabel9701]

So true. I really h4t3 this for women. Stop engaging into romcoms and Disney princess fairy tales. Stop centering men and be comfortable with yourself.

[@nomvuyomashile3373]

I understand vulnerability on the internet BUT the fact that the guy she’s crying over is gonna see this due to its virality, possibly giving him THAT KINDA SATISFACTION…could not.

[@Laoriginal718]

Exactly. I wish people would keep their personal business off of the internet.

[@anitra_g_fit5601]

Me neither! I’d call my friends or family 😂😂

[@farmhouseonthemountain]

She's gonna go viral with the manosphere for sure.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

@farmhouseonthemountain She sure will. And they will use her video to say how women can’t live without men, twist what she’s actually saying and everything. I’m honestly sick of grown women acting like this.

[@meganrenee5581]

That part. Cause the way my pride is set up…

[@nnn9854]

If you have to rely on a man on your happiness, of course you’re going to be miserable.

[@SmileyAdventures]

Bingo!!!!

[@peremoboeresd]

If you rely on anything outside yourself and God for happiness, you will be miserable

[@SmileyAdventures]

I had an ex of 4 years ghost me. I called him to find out why he became cold and he hung up in my face after acting like he didn’t know who I was. I knew right then and there he moved on with someone else. I texted him to never contact me again and wish him well then blocked him. I didn’t cry, I didn’t feel hurt, but I felt a relief that I could move on from someone that didn’t care about me anymore. Seen him a few years later at Panera and he aged and looked stressed! Never cry over someone that doesn’t want you! It’s going to be okay!

[@LearnAsYouGo.]

Same! I called an ex back & asked him some normal question & he YELLED at me & I realized “oh he must be in front of his new gf showing off”. I didn’t say another word, I just hung up. Never contacted him again! For years he played on my phone & called me from different numbers but I’d just block & go about my life. I never ever contacted or spoke to him again. Almost 11 years later a few days after my birthday I get a call from a random number & guess who it was! 😂 I thanked him for the late birthday wishes & rushed him off the phone & blocked the number he called me from! He sounded awful but was still thinking about me all these years. I won!

[@raindavisz]

@@LearnAsYouGo. Why did he yell at you on the phone? Were you guys broken up at the time or was he cheating? That's crazy he's still hung up about it 😂

[@LearnAsYouGo.]

@@raindavisz 😂 I was young & dumb back then but we were broken up. I ended things with him & didn’t answer his calls or texts for like a month. He kept calling though so I’d talk to him here & there because he was trying to get back together. One day I remember returning his call & this situation happened. Him yelling at me for no good reason was so odd that I just knew another woman was around. I just hung up & never contacted him again. I think he thought I would be jealous or try to get back with him or want closure, he didn’t expect me to move on as if he never existed. That’s why I think he played on my phone & stalked me on social media for years.

[@Colette-l4f]

We were together almost 20 years and yes, a billion times better. I am thankful every day that I got a 2nd chance at life.

[@HoneyBadgerxo]

This.

[@DaughterofDiogenes]

Congratulations!!! It’s almost like being a kid again. I feel almost like I’m graduating high school and my whole life is ahead of me 😂😂

[@purrfectnails2473]

I think it definitely gets better, but you will always see relationships differently, or you should. Either women find happiness in being single or they learn from that past relationship. Either way it gets much better.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

I find that usually women in long term marriages or “. Relationships “ often criticize other women- who have left a man at the first offense, and say that we can’t understand them. They say we don’t know what the pain is like. But I will tell you this- choosing yourself, living with your insecurities and being that single woman or single mother that society likes to tear down is very painful. You feel discarded, you feel dehumanized and you feel EVERYTHING that you would have felt - had you stayed dealing with that husband, boyfriend or FLING for YEARS out of your life! So I am a bit hardened when it comes to watching these women “cry out”. My mother raised me to understand that the worse a man or person treats you, the easier it should be for you to let them go. The more abuse you take, the more love you should be able to build up for yourself and choose YOU. Many of these women can’t be without a man, they are too concerned with image. Focus on yourself. Focus on your CHILDREN instead!

[@SmileyAdventures]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 PREACH!!!!!

[@wisdomdantecourt8179]

Yep, my man, my man, my, manism is REAL. The ole trusted badge of honor. A lot of women will peek thru a black eye to tell you how gr8 their man is. SMDH, pathetic!

[@staciquinton2794]

Things can get better after a divorce. It depends on you. When I divorced my ex-husband I felt at peace. I was able to focus on me and do things that I wanted to do. No fighting, no more arguing with him over nonsense. Baby, the peace and joy that I have, I would not trade that for the world. I am now in a happy, healthy, loving, and caring, respectful relationship. 6-26-2024(Wed)

[@elsugga3736]

Please the universe don’t allow me to cry over a man

[@hotties3v3n]

Frfr. I did that before but not on camera and never again smh. I think men don't deserve nice things or love. Better to treat them as your friend. Enjoy them, like them, respect them if they deserve it. But not love them or just love them a little. So if they mess up or you split, you're still good.

[@gurlwhowants2dj]

Chile I was a nervous wreck before, during and after divorce. It was more of having to start over, having a child, wondering how I would survive by myself with a child. I have never had an issue being by myself but was concerned about the mental health of our child. Having to take responsibility knowing I saw the red flags and ignored it, thinking about not wanting to ever cohabitate with another human again was running through my head. Please seek therapy, support groups, loving friends/family and meds if needed. Once they start being rude to you (not all people) you will realize you made the right decision. In my case mine is and was hateful during the process while cheating. Just left court today on something petty and we have been divorced for almost 4 yrs. I'm living on my own, in my own space, own career, supporting our daughter (emotionally) when my ex isn't, she loves her dad and mom equally. He is remmaried to someone like him which is another story but she has a little sister which I am happy about. She loves her little sister, content with her step mom and that is all I can ask for. I wish him and his wife could see that.

[@angeljohnson234]

I am so happy I didn't grow up in a generation that exposed all of their business on the Internet. This is something you tell a therapist. Not millions of strangers on the Internet.

[@Missladii]

It gets better with time and prayer. One thing that is working for me is maintaining a healthy daily routine, even on the days where you are feeling like crap. You have to get out into the world and nature and be sure to maintain connections with loved ones. It’s gone hurt but it hurts even worse when you are sitting in it daily and allowing the hurt to take over your existence. This is just a chapter in your story that is over. Let it die and give life to a new story. It’ll be ok when the swelling goes down ❤

[@damascus9876]

Hot take: normalize feeling awful after the breakup. Yes it does get better: INFINITELY BETTER. But it SUUUUUUCKS at first. That’s normal! Everyone moves on at a different pace. It’s taken me YEARS to feel more comfortable about being single. And I’m STILL working on it. I had a friend end a relationship after almost two decades and she recovered WAY FASTER than I did. And you know what? We’re both “doing it right.” We’re both ok. And even if I feel miserable every so often, I know it’s a part of the process and I’ll feel better because I’m doing better now than I was before. 💝

[@trichmomma]

The question/answer is more nuanced than the simple, "does it get better?". Does this get better in reference to what? There will be things that get better in your life after the split and things that get harder and things that take more time to improve. It's a process that takes time. Ive never heard of anyone leaving a long term relationship and the next moment having the life/relationship they always dreamed about. Six years post divirece and there are aspects of my life that have improved, and parts that im still working on to improve. But would I go back to that relationship or be in one like it? ABSOLUTELY NOT

[@itsmekarima]

As someone who has been single all my life, how do people get out of serious relationships and say things like “I know my person is out there”. Y’all are amazing to me because what the hell? Some spectacular form of resilience? 😭

[@estherAgbe]

It depends what you want out of life. I was married for 11years and together for 3years before marriage. I wanted out for peace's sake, I have peace and love the peace. Having said that eventhough the marriage was so bad, after it ended, I had some really bad days but after 2 years, I am happy never to be with anyone again for the rest of my life. I love me, I choose me every single day.

[@Laoriginal718]

You didn’t know he wasn’t the one within the 3 years of dating????

[@hotties3v3n]

Yep the dude can be a loser and you will still grieve for how it could of been

[@estherAgbe]

@Laoriginal718 I was 19 when we started dating and dated for 3years I saw all the red flags with him and his family. I got pregnant, the parents said we should get married. I said no, I don't want to get married to him. My mother said I have shamed her. I eventually relented and married at 22 and 11yrs of control and being a married single mother, shit hit the roof!

[@lovelyscorp79]

Can we normalize taking note of when people are calling out for help. And not drag them for having a moment of desperation and crying out for help. I much rather her cry into this video then take her own life. That is exactly what a anxiety attack looks like.

[@MyLordexe]

the way she feels is an example of why you dont settle for less. youre supposed to walk away in peace by having your prenup as an exit plan.

[@toscadonna]

When I divorced my ex, I was already at the point of accepting that our marriage would NEVER get better, because he refused to be better, and I couldn’t take one more minute of his nonsense even if I never met another man for the rest of my life. You just have to realize that this dream of a life you had with this guy wasn’t real. Believe the bad with males; the bad is how they truly feel about you. The good is the act they put on to trick you into being with them or keeping them around. Hang in there; it gets way better. Just look around and be thankful that he’s no longer there hurting you and being a constant disappointment.

[@mekialovedat]

It gets better. I wanted to unalive 4 years ago. I now work a job I love, constantly travel, etc.

[@Gumbier_Than]

I don't think it gets better, but I've always been unhappy. It's been years, it hasn't gotten easier. I'm just waiting for my life to end. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@hotties3v3n]

Dont think like this. You have to forget this man. I felt like this once, so I know how you feel. You have to mentally take the guy off the high place you put him. See you are better off without him.And I would say its ok to like, have fun, and respect a man you are with, but you shouldn't really love them much, if at all. Dont put your heart on them. *Maybe* a husband, but too risky if something goes wrong. Just have them as a friend who you just so happen to be with.

[@DestinyUteh]

This breaks my heart I hope and pray you find peace and happiness. There’s so much to live for.

[@naturallytajy973]

You don’t think? You will have to get into therapy, due to the comment I’m assuming you have not received the help you need. Every one has their own view of life and how it should go, i believe you getting into therapy will help.

[@SmileyAdventures]

There may be a chemical imbalance in your brain that requires help from a professional. It does get better, you just haven’t seen it yet, so I can understand you don’t see the light yet. But it’s there, you just need some help along the way, which is okay. Sending you healing ❤

[@Laoriginal718]

🗣️STOP CRYING ON THE INTERNET. Please stop coming to the internet with your personal problems. People don’t care.

[@Cantetinza17]

Yes, it gets better! She left him her partner for a reason. What was that reason? It's also not a good idea to put that out to the world and I only say that because eventually the one you left will see it and could further make your life hell. His friends or anyone loyal to him might stitch it and really make it horrible. Make her feel like she was stupid AF for leaving when she most likely had a great reason to leave. She can grieve until the Aliens take us away cause after all it's a death of a relationship. Hopefully no one will rush her through it. After the pain goes away it's nice. You now have all of the time for me. You don't have to concern yourself with how someone is going to feel about what you do. Take this time to get to know the new you. You can absolutely reinvent yourself, heal, do whatever. As you put more of you first, you think less of him and all of a sudden all of the not so nice things and red flags that you ignore start to surface, and you'll realize that you truly are better off. If you find love again, great and if not that's fine too there is nothing wrong with being single.

[@mabel9701]

I feel bad for cringing SO hard. I really h4t3 this for women. Stop engaging into romcoms and Disney princess fairy tales. Stop centering men and be comfortable with yourself. Do things alone (travel, restaurants, cinema, events etc.) and thrive. You don’t need to find a soul mate. A happy ending does not necessarily equal finding a man. Please! It’s miserable if you put your happiness into the hands of another person. A man is a choice not a dependency.

[@jewlzn7130]

*SPLIT Destiny *Split, not spilt

[@DestinyUteh]

🫣🫣🫣🤣🤣🤣 thank you

[@jewlzn7130]

@@DestinyUteh i got you❤️

[@wisdomdantecourt8179]

Soul ties are real. Imagine going through this same pain with someone you’re not even married to. Peace and blessings to all who overcame the nightmare of being with the wrong person.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

Many women suffer through this- from long term “ relationships” or roommmate situations with men that never marry them. They just have a hold on their bodies for years, claim that they have some sort of “special bond” and endure. Smh

[@toscadonna]

Soul ties are a manipulative term made up for women to believe in. How come the male never feels this soul tie?😂

[@wisdomdantecourt8179]

I said what I said. Men don't bond thru sex. Women do.

[@KathleenFulton-u1x]

I was with my ex-husband for 35 years. He cheated on me and divorced me. He made the divorce horrific. At first, I thought I would find someone else. As time went on, I've decided to be on my own. It is much calmer and I can do what I want.

[@cuethelights8195]

The woman's perspective MATTAERS!!! Me: 18 yrs married @ 20 / 4 kids too. 4 yrs liberated!!! Happier than ever. It took 6 months. BOOM!

[@kimberlymatthews4480]

It absolutely gets better. You gain peace which is amazing! Together 24 years it’s been 5 years since I left and it’s been the best years of my life thus far.

[@Laoriginal718]

“Who’s gonna want me with 2 kids”. Very accurate because there is no benefit in being a step parent.

[@BABYDOLL87LOVELY]

💔 REALLY MF SUCKS...IT IS EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY & PHYSICALLY PAINFUL. TIME DOES HEAL ALL WOUNDS. SINGLE 4 YEARS. INITIALLY & FOR ABOUT 6 MONTHS IT HURT & ALL I COULD DO WAS CRY. THEN I ACCEPTED IT WAS FOR THE BEST. SHE WILL BE FINE. LOVE & LIGHT 2 HER!!!

[@fitnessd8402]

Imagine the ex seeing that, embarrassing.

[@MB-xv7er]

Most times you won’t find another man after divorce. I suggest women be okay with being alone and unwanted after divorce if they’re wanting to end the marriage. If you’re codependent, divorce is NOT for you

[@purrfectnails2473]

Most women don’t want men after divorce. Men are the ones that women don’t want.

[@divamarvalousoneal2454]

Women are still wanted and lusted for after divorce. Your advice is red filled minded

[@naturallytajy973]

This comment is problematic

[@divamarvalousoneal2454]

sure why my last comment got deleted. But women are always wanted after a divorce

[@hotties3v3n]

Well the men are unwanted too so....💅🏾 I mean you the ones making videos in mass about being lonely!!

[@southernb3ll5319]

🎬 Record myself crying my eyes out. ACTION 🎬 AND SCENE. Yes, that was a great angle. Post on the TICKY-TOKY 🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️