Disarming Anger & Resolving Conflicts // Pastor Jimmy Evans

If our marriages are going to remain pure and intimate, then we have to have an effective system for processing anger and problems. A good marriage isn’t a marriage where there is never conflict. A good marriage is one where anger can be processed and conflicts can be resolved.
Watch this special sermon from Pastor Jimmy Evans that will give you biblical understanding of how to deal with anger and how to resolve conflicts so you can have the pure and intimate marriage that God wants you to have.
SERMON HIGHLIGHTS:
THE 4 “DON’TS” OF DEALING WITH ANGER:
1. DON’T DENY YOUR ANGER
2. DON’T JUSTIFY SIN BECAUSE YOU ARE ANGRY
3. DON’T GO TO BED ON YOUR ANGER
4. DON’T GIVE THE DEVIL A PLACE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
THE 4 STEPS TO RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE:
1. CONFRONT IN A LOVING AND POSITIVE MANNER
2. COMPLAIN AND DON’T CRITICIZE
3. LISTEN TO YOUR SPOUSE AND BELIEVE THEM
4. FORGIVE AND LET IT GO
GOOD MARRIAGES AND GOOD PEOPLE HAVE ANGER REGULARLY TO DEAL WITH
IF YOU HAVE ANGER AND NEED TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS BETWEEN YOU NOW, THEN COMMIT TO DOING IT RIGHT AND GIVE YOUR SPOUSE THE RIGHT TO COMPLAIN AND BE HONEST
IF YOU CAN’T RESOLVE IT - GET COUNSELING UNTIL THE ISSUE(S) ARE DEALT WITH AND YOU HAVE THE SKILLS TO DO IT IN THE FUTURE

[@TheQueensheeba01]

It’s not my husband, it’s me😢. I appreciate all of your messages. I am a God fearing woman and I have a short fuse, but I have the Holy Spirit. He speaks to me and He humbles me and He sends me back to him and tells me when to open up and calmly discuss where the offense rose up from and My Dather constantly comes to my rescue because I Love my husband and I know that He Loves Me. Your messages Bless me. Thank you

[@TheLoveOfJesusChristIsReal]

Best sermon ever 🎉

[@marygarrett9724]

I’ve been nailed OUT of the house, with my 8 year old son!! That man has since met the Lord. He had to explain himself😊

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

Encouraging testimony...my situation is more emotional abuse.

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

Yep...I get all of that: criticism, shame, anger, attacks, rejection, ignored

[@Ashley-id2cb]

Excellent message! I love the complaining and criticizing example. ❤

[@eileenevans6189]

Excellent Message! Thank you Pastor Jimmy. 💕💕🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

My husband is that bomb....he is also passive aggressive and likes to stonewall and gaslight

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

I can't tell my husband ANYTHING that he does wrong....he takes offense immediately and wears the anger all day...I walk on eggshells and wonder if we are going to be normal the next day.

[@kamesha_lavon]

Same. So sad and stressful.

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

@@savageriverandthepoet6309 Thank you. Followers of Christ Jesus, Holy Ghost filled.

[@777TSG]

🙏

[@candlehatchett9911]

Same thing here. He just told me he's moving everything out of my room that's we turned into a closet and start sleeping in there. You'll move out eventually. Yay fun times

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

@@candlehatchett9911 🙏🙏🙏

[@Zsuzsanna0]

I appreciate so much your teaching . It would be nice to know explanation Matthew 5:22 . It is mean literally or figurative ? All over in the Bible advice is be slow to anger but this verse says not be at all.

[@ojamagerrits]

From reading the kjv, niv, nlt, nklt, and esv translations. My interpretation is that you need to be careful of being angry because every way you treat someone you are now open to that same treatment, whether socially or literally to court. Being angry at someone for something isn't necessarily a sin but this verse is saying to be careful of getting angry and how if you lash out in anger, how it now opens you up to that same treatment, but if you are angry and act in grace and forgiveness, now you are covered in that same scenario because you reap what you sow.

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

23 years of marriage and my husband has apologized on his maybe twice...

[@jaredshowers1]

Better than nothing!

[@marygarrett9724]

Once

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

@@jaredshowers1 It's not so much THE apology...it is the repeated hateful acts without any remorse....no apology given unless what was wrong is pointed out...I apologize ALL the time...and yet I'm accused of never apologizing. When I try to address issues we have he deflects...points fingers...blames....changes the subject...I remember when. He wants to PRETEND like everything is ok...sweep everything under the rug... He is also domineering. "I'm the man" "I wear the pants." "You need to OBEY me." I'm still here. Hanging on to Jesus.

[@arnocilliers5324]

Average income of people in Africa is around $700. Do we have to pay 10% of our income to access all Tipping point teaching???

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

This is all well and good...but what do I do if my spouse REFUSES to work on this or talk to me about it. He blames EVERYTHING on me and refuses to own up to his faults. He is angry ....a lot...and when I ask him what is wrong he won't own up to it...he lets it all build up and then it all bursts out...we never resolve conflict...it all gets swept under the rug until it bubbles up again.

[@Jenoveryonder]

1 Peter 3 is what I’m told. I haven’t mastered it yet but I’ve heard success stories.

[@julseemann3575]

Walk away

[@rod.79]

What's the name of the book?

[@sherenemartinez]

I believe it is School of the Spirit: Living the Holy Spirit Empowered Life Lee M. Cummings

[@rachaelwalvatne6221]

After the beatdown you and Joni gave her son and daughter-in-law, it’s obvious you have no place teaching on resolving conflicts and managing anger. You have no business teaching others.

[@JewandGreek]

Ouch! 😂

[@reneheshion4633]

Jimmy , a word of caution to you brother. You are very wrong in your involvement to Joni Lamb and her children!! You have sanctioned an adulterous marriage to Joni and her new husband. Obviously you think you are above the Lord and His Holy Scriptures. Please repent and tell Joni and the world you were very wrong in this! I also heard what you told Johnathan about to submit to the voice of God through her!!! Brother you need to repent immediately!!!

[@June-y4y]

I'm sorry Mr. Evans but you seem to bully those who want to hold to their convictions as heard in the Johnathan lamb tapes therefore I can no longer hols respect for you. I do pray for you though