Dissociation: Common Symptoms Experienced by Child Sexual Abuse Survivors | Saprea

[@StressRUs]

I'm a retired psychiatrist and have only realized at 76 that my lifelong "night terrors" were actually reliving dreams of sexual abuse by an uncle. I was an All Mid-Eight League football player, but remember only a few plays, as I now realize that I dissociated in dangerous situations. I'm, also, a recovering alcoholic and for the first 8 yrs. of this recovery episode when I shared in a meeting I only saw black, not the faces of others that I do now, 11 1/2 yrs. on. In my childhood, I never received the protection and care necessary for the development of basic trust and only found it in safe, secure 12-step groups. What a blessing to finally find the "protection and care" I have been searching for all my life, including the 25 yrs. of chemical dissociation. Thanks for the video! Stress R Us

[@peterlohnes1]

Can I ask a difficult question. My friend was abused as a child, she totally dissociated. Whats the best method for coping? She can't cope, she has night terrors, shes constantly lacking trust. I have no idea how to help her, but shes constantly entering abusive relationships

[@StressRUs]

Dissociation is a defense against overwhelming emotions, usually fear. Abuse survivors most often dissociate in a flashback to previous but still very real and scary abuse situations. In my 42 year psychiatry practice, I witnessed one "miracle cure" after another result from treatment by a well trained, experienced psychotherapist trained in a technique called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization, and Reprocessing". You may see this done on the net in KZbin videos by Jamie Marish and others. As soon as the flashbacks and reliving dreams are released into the past, where they belong, the need for dissociation leaves as well. Make sense? Good luck!@@peterlohnes1

[@StressRUs]

@@peterlohnes1 EMDR in the hands of an experienced, well trained psychotherapist is very healing and can alleviate the PTSD symptoms. I was an Ohio HS football hero, but recall NONE of it, thanks to the earlier sexual abuse by my uncle (once removed) and didn't realize the full extent of my CPTSD symptoms for 77 yrs., in spite of being a well trained, highly successful clinical psychiatrist for 42 yrs. that material was buried so deeply, that I wasn't ready to remember it until I retired and was in 12-step groups that finally provided the "protection and care" I had so long sought myself. Good Luck and God bless you!

[@AstridNagelSA]

Ditto. It was 45 years down the line, that the recall hit me like a punch in the stomach.

[@aeloniaebhaben]

Jesus loves you ❤

[@TheJesusgurlie]

My childhood abuse is a blur because I had to disassociate so often. My abuse lasted from 5 years old up into my teen years. It serves me now but sometimes it doesn’t. It’s very easy for me to detach or remove my self mentally from a bad experience. The only time it doesn’t serve me is when I truly need to be present at times. God bless all survivors of sexual abuse as a child, it’s something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

[@AllysonOrlov]

I really feel you. Mine was from age 5 as well, up to 13 when I finally escaped. I struggle heavily with derealization/depersonalization.

[@Katalinmason]

Mine was from 4 years old into my mid teens. It’s only now in my 60s that I can look back on my life and say “OMG, that’s why I have done so many things that were so not right.” It messed up most of my young life.

[@SonyaDulcie]

Im sorry that you all have had to go through that. I hope you have some suitable support. Not sure when mine started but maybe 6 up wards. Anyone else have parts? I have a variety of my warriors and 1 upset who holds all of the bad but also my alive so when Upset comes out so do all my emotions and aliveness and memories as if present but we also have a bunch of warriors and protectors who distracted us from that stuff ... anyone relate? It all started to burst out last year. I'm 52 now. Be good to find a similar friend... it makes a difference when talking with others who fully understand

[@axinator]

Good for you! Im a recovering alcoholic myself with 2 years of sobriety. Now I'm trying to understand and work through my trauma(s). Never too late!!

[@joseph8468]

It is never too late and worth all of the work involved.

[@elfenlied_girl1238]

I’ve realized this when o was having sex and I’ve stopped it cause I can’t remember if I consented to some things or not, I end up pondering about it, and as a result I’m off sex until I’m comfortable again, I’m just scared to put myself in a vulnerable situation

[@marisabeltran3084]

I’m not an introvert… I just lost faith in humanity 😢

[@meggrotte4760]

I am a survivor. There are thirteen perverts in my life, male and female, from the ages 9 to 14 I'm still working through it but I find that having good christian friends helps. It's not always easy to trust people. But I think you're likely to find better people in the christian community People who really love jesus is quite obvious. I've had many friends helping me walk the last twenty years God has brought a lot of healing. But I understand why you would feel like humanity is not worth it. I had to work through a lot to feel like humanity was worth it once more

[@estheradao]

Same

[@ericaerazo5681]

@@meggrotte4760God bless ❤

[@karenlacy8950]

Didn’t know about this condition.

[@IRONHEART-mu2em]

Emotional numbness is what disassociation perhaps is Thanx for clarifying as far as out of body perhaps when I assaulted or grabed the third rail and failed a suicide attempt and in reference to disassociation perhaps me celibate for the last 9 to 13 yrs God only knows I will try to erase this comment of ventilation by 9:00 am ciao 😊

[@hanksnapper4269]

You'll be good brotha, just ride out the rough wave. All I ask of you is that you try your best to find supporting people who love you, eat healthier, get a little bit of exercise. Getting out in nature for a little, always reminds me that of the yin yang concept, and the balance of good and bad throughout our Earthly existence. Find things that matter to you, follow your heart and soul. Try to connect with your spiritual side. Much love to you. Goodluck and godspeed ❤🙏✌️

[@mole_withfries]

I feel like I’ve been sexual assault but have no memory. Nothing at all but I feel like something happened to me

[@KAmani11-91]

Do you have faith? I was the same way. I didn't want to believe it but I had a bad feeling and I prayed into it and Jesus revealed the truth to me. It's something I couldn't have done without him

[@mole_withfries]

@ so were you sexually assaulted or not?

[@KAmani11-91]

@ yes at a terribly young age

[@Paulp-y8p]

I know so many girls with sexual abuse growing up and watching and helping everyone of them I feel I been sexually assaulted myself being a young girl alone undefended and no one to help sitting there having to take it it plays in my mind frequently and it’s so hurtful because I am a man of god and I don’t no how people can be so sick to people I get that sexual morality exist but you think of someone lost and needing help you would help them with all your heart but why would a man sit there and abuse a young beautiful daughter and destroy her life you don’t realise the the destruction to a young girls body the loneliness you feel when your family wasn’t there to help yes they can support but why couldn’t it be provented i pray to god for all the young Beautiful girls to shine there light there beautiful and ain’t no smelly rotten rat gonna let them dimmer I love you all and anyone experiencing sexual abuse I couldn’t imagine what plays through your head but I really hope you get through it it’s a dark world we live in and rape victims barely get there day because they shut there mouth and no one notices there change of emotions💔😔

[@ABlessman]

Mole_withfries: in to process anything painful like sexual abuse you must be in a safe place. you must have safety and feel safe. Most trauma like this cannot be processed by yourself (it's relational trauma so you need to talk about it by being in a safe supported relationship (best if a therapist) and best when you have a good chunk of time DISTANCED from unsafe people. You'll need safety AND a safe ( preferably trained )person to be able to process. May I ask how old you are and when you first had the suspicion and what might have been happening when the suspicion emerged? Also, do you have access to any childhood drawings of yours? If so please let me know and send me photos of a few if you can.

[@TVSoaps-c8n]

Feel sorry for the kids

[@IRONHEART-mu2em]

PS my torso is in critical,***CONDITION AND CANT FUNCTION WITHOUT 3BACK BRACES AND CRIPICAL IS A TERM I MADE UP TO IDENTIFY THAT I WILL BE CRIPPLE VERILY VERY SOON TO ME THAT WOULD BE LIKE PRE-K AGAIN OH NO NO NO I'LL HAVE TO DELETED MYSELF TO ME MEANS THE HIGEST LEVEL OF PAMPERING MYSELF

[@blade00000009Windows]

what happened here?