Ditching Your Principles For A Girl?!

A man recently posted a text conversation of him lying to a girl about his political beliefs in an attempt to impress her. The internet mocked him for not standing up for his beliefs, which led me to look into how often this happens. To my surprise, not only is this common, but it has coined a nickname, “woke fishing”. Let’s talk about it.
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[@user1029xspl8dy]

I literally put in my dating profile that "we'll get along if you're Christian, conservative, and family-oriented." Now I'm blessed to have a sane, level-headed gf.

[@Dartht33bagger]

That isn't overly difficult to find honestly. Try putting "Agnostic, libertarian, family oriented" into a profile and see that both sides want nothing to do with you lol.

[@JudithBisson]

Ty I’ve been single for awhile. I’m actually scared of the online world due to experiencing crazy men. But I have to try something, I’m special 🙂and deserve a good kind man. 🙏

[@Soksss]

that's what i'll end up having to do in this day and age

[@EjayT06]

Glad it worked for you, suggest to other people tho try not to cave into dating apps

[@JMBBrasil]

I think I will do the same, it’s good if a girl does this on her profile?

[@beansproutuncreative]

I literally put "Christians only" and got responses of like, "do you really only date Christians?" Yes! That's why I put it in there. That wasn't an invite to debate.

[@torch_fire9218]

It's unfortunate. Christian girls have the best profiles, so even if we didn't believe in god, many of us would love to get to meet you.

[@hatefuleightyseven2962]

Fair enough, I only date atheists.

[@Bella_Love_123]

Same for me when I put that I’m looking for an unvaxxed man. So many tried to negotiate with me, I just ignored them

[@hatefuleightyseven2962]

@@Bella_Love_123 When you say unvaxxed, do you just mean covid, or ALL vaccinations?

[@Sammy12099]

@@hatefuleightyseven2962I’m assuming just covid

[@ORRiginalCreations]

The last dating app date I went on was with a guy who said he was center right, but was very liberal. My profile said I was ultra conservative and a strong Christian. It was a horrible date. I insisted on paying for myself because I knew the date was over the moment I left my seat. He said he had to use the restroom, and paid for my half too. Then when I said I hope he had a good night but I did not think we would work out, he said okay and then asked if I wanted to go back to his place. I gave him a funny look and said no. He told me he paid for my dinner and I should not be playing around online if I didn't really want to date. I told him I didn't want to date *him* and walked quickly to my car. I decided apps were not working because even when you put down that you are a strong Christian, you still have to make it clear what that means because the world has no values attached to the label anymore.

[@Tential1]

He told you he paid for your dinner.... Wow.... Wowowowow.....

[@Tential1]

The population of actual strong Christians is probably 5% of the actual Christian population. Christians are no where near as serious as Muslims are. Christianity is basically people picking and choosing what they like right now.

[@Moonbunny55]

@@Tential1 Welcome to the 80s. That expectation was the norm. Gross

[@pinkroses135]

Sounds like a manipulator. Whoever gets him is probably getting an abusive/toxic relationship.

[@abbiereynolds8016]

That's why the who pays for dinner on a first date question always stumps me. As a conservative woman who believes in traditional gender roles, I would expect the man to pay for the date. However, in todays world, that doesn't mean what it used to mean. There's an expectation nowadays that if the man pays for the date, the woman gives him sex in return. Of course as a Christian woman, that puts me in a bit of a dilemma. There's no way I'm having sex before marriage, so now I have no choice but to go halves. I think when dating changed from something you do with marriage in mind, to something you just do for fun with no commitment, that is when this became a problem.

[@alexscharlotte__8550]

The amount of times this happened to me when I was dating is laughable. Then they get all surprised when I tell them that I don’t think this will be a good match then and try to backtrack. Like no sir, now you’ve just proven to me that you are willing to lie to get what you want and that’s an even less attractive quality than being on the left 💁🏼‍♀️

[@torch_fire9218]

Nothing is more unattractive than being on the left.

[@usedforks]

You say it’s a less attractive quality than the latter, but they’re actually one and the same.

[@flannelfield5255]

i was dating this lovely centrist who was holding out on me and around the thirdish date/hanging out i asked if she knew who ben shapiro was and it looked like she felt as though she was on a date with michael myers after that, i do resemble him slightly anyways but she was just appalled when i gently asked what she didn't like but also i was kind of gleeful and couldn't hold back that i was amused at how much it triggered her.

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

​@@flannelfield5255it didn't trigger her, it disgusted her. Men that sit around right wing commentary, FOR FUN. Are a hard no to dating. Imagine how addicted to social media that guy is. Gross.

[@alexscharlotte__8550]

@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816 idk, I mean it is incredibly ridiculous for somebody to get triggered just at the mention of a name. And Ben Shapiro is the best one to use to test the waters because they absolutely despise that wonderful man lol. I would probably be amused too.

[@MonkeyspankO]

If you're a young person dating at this point you have my sympathy

[@RoofKoreanInTheWild]

Thanks

[@KittyUnicorn56XD]

💀 We screwed lol

[@Devin7Eleven]

I look at married couples and wonder if they ever look at gen z dating culture and feel like they caught on the last chopter leaving Vietnam

[@RoofKoreanInTheWild]

@@Devin7Eleven couldn't have said it better

[@KrimsonStorm]

@@Devin7Eleven I've already seen people say that. I myself literally said that during the pandemic until I caught my ex cheating on me less than a month before our anniversary. Now that I am back in the dating world, I feel like my chopper got shot down.🤣

[@SomethingSomethingComplete]

I need a skit of two conservatives trying to out-woke each other after having started dating by woke-fishing to get laid. It gets more woke than either of them are comfortable with, spiraling out of control until one of them breaks and admits to everything. The skit could hide the fact that they're both conservative, so the reveal ends in true love... then it goes hardcore the other way.

[@da3iyd3n]

Ryan Long does these skits all the time

[@ThatBillmanGuy]

​@@da3iyd3nalso sounds like something Awaken with JP might do or parody.

[@strawberrysocks2835]

The novel "The Man Who was Thursday" is this premise - a guy pretends to be an anarchist to infiltrate an anarchist group and it turns out they're all pretending to be anarchists, but none of them know the others are also pretending, so they push each other to do increasingly insane things.

[@hplovecraft1402]

@@strawberrysocks2835 Sounds an interesting read and a conclusion i came to a while back about the most outspoken of people in whatever ideology possesses them, trying to out do each other and pushing themselves into extremism .

[@flannelfield5255]

will be looking that up@@strawberrysocks2835

[@pint_pipe_cross]

Met my husband on Catholic Match. They made you list out ALL of your views on your profile, including views on certain church teachings, your view on social issues, and party affiliation. The top recommended profiles would be those whose views aligned the most with yours. Obviously, you could lie about all those things, but it made meeting my husband so much easier. I never had to sit down and ask him about his view on x, y, or z, because I already knew what it was. And the site showed our viewpoints were 96% compatible. Catholic Match certainly isn’t for everyone, but more dating sites should have an option like this.

[@sonoftheredfox]

I wish they had this for Baptists. I could avoided a lot of trouble with my ex-wife.

[@mattlol163]

yeah but where you a virgin???

[@tommoore2012]

@@sonoftheredfox You could try Christian Mingle. I don’t think they offer the same kind of function, but at least you’ll be much more likely to find someone who has the same morals.

[@Tential1]

​@@sonoftheredfoxit's why Asian marriage markets look weird, but they just ask all the questions they want, rapid fire. Lol, when they commit to doing something, they get super cereal about it.

[@hplovecraft1402]

Great concept for a dating site.

[@devonhappe]

This one time i had matched with this girl on tinder and we hit it off really well. Then she asked, "who did i vote for?" and i confidently said Trump. She unmatched immediately and blocked me. Oh well, her loss.

[@glitterkitty1979]

You dodged a bullet there mate

[@devonhappe]

@@glitterkitty1979 you're tellin' me.

[@devonhappe]

@phantomxero1x447 I know right?

[@georgewhitworth9742]

Based. Glad to see someone who isn't being doom and gloom about it, and knows his standards.

[@bolivia.j]

If ur not dating to marry ur dating for heart break. I’m 20 and married to the love of my life due to being up front and knowing what I want

[@Brettcooperandtaylorswift4life]

20 years old, married, and has bibble as their KZbin profile 😭 no hate lol

[@bolivia.j]

@@Brettcooperandtaylorswift4life bibble is love bibble is life

[@Brettcooperandtaylorswift4life]

@@bolivia.j okay then

[@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro]

@@Brettcooperandtaylorswift4lifeshe’s a woman of culture, can’t you see that?

[@crisemm5207]

@@Brettcooperandtaylorswift4lifewell, Brett just became 22 and engaged; and giving her ig followings very soon to be married, to a very conservative man, lol

[@GenocideTV]

75% of women are liberal and 75% of men are conservative. That means that 50% of all of us are completely screwed. What a time to be alive.

[@etracey99]

You mean 25%

[@AcidDotDrop]

Statistically, yeah you are. Realisticly, the women are. Feminism has glorified sleeping around as a form of female empowerment, embracing the saying "Women sleep with who they want while men sleep with who they can". The same is true about men and marriage, "Men marry who they want and women who they can". So in order to get married, women have to change their views or stay alone.

[@twentysecondcenturywoman]

Yeah we’re all gonna have to give and take a little. Happy for the ones who don’t. Looks like everyone’s dating pool is limited rn.

[@TeenageDirtbag8]

cool

[@houseofhas9355]

😂 you can't do math bro. Or I'm I wrong. Public school education. Also wouldn't it mean 25% of us are not screwed on the count of us not getting any action. And we know women are not doing of the action, it's just men. Does that mean my original answer of 25% is correct.

[@samuelcohen2362]

As a Jewish man who's politically Conservative, I REFUSE to date Liberal Jewish women. That eliminates 99% of Jewish women. Gentlemen, if I can do it, so can you.

[@mattlol163]

dont worry man, i will make sure i keep them company since you dont want them.

[@Menace2Society9]

Good on you man!

[@samuelcohen2362]

@@mattlol163 You can have them 😂

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

I’m a Jewish man and I’d gladly date a liberal Jewish woman.

[@DagothChad]

I'm a messianic Jew and I definitely wouldn't date a liberal Jewish woman either. Honestly id prefer a sweet philipina

[@kathymichael2323]

If you misrepresent who you are, you will be lonely, no matter who you are with.

[@mattlol163]

stop it!!! women ALWAYS misrepresent themselves and men ALWAYS come to them. They literally dont leave the house without make up for MOST women.... This is the DEFITION of misrepresenting who they really are. and women do not care..... they will pretend and lie their way through life without a problem.

[@willdegra317]

I had to screenshot this line, don’t think I heard it before but it’s great!

[@hia5235]

No modern women can satisfy even the basic needs of men: lie away.

[@its_me_the_redhead]

This is 100% true for finding friends too...

[@flannelfield5255]

if you represent who you truly are the odds are you will also be lonely but at least you have the satisfaction of knowing you are being yourself, not lying and if you were with someone it would eat away at you if you were lying and being fake all the time anyways.

[@The-Khatalyst]

When I was in college I met a girl and when she asked what I did I told her I was in the Marine Corps. She said, "Baby killer, huh?" I replied, "I prefer to throw puppies off cliffs actually." She said, "That's dark." And we went on to become good friends. Had vastly different views on things, but had great conversations about them. Any time she'd drink, though, she'd tell me, "I am so sorry for what I said when we met. I still feel terrible about that. It was so rude." She was a really good person.

[@larissagomes451]

Are still friends with women? That is not much of a husband material.

[@SomethingSomethingComplete]

@@larissagomes451 Dafuq?

[@victordonavon292]

@@larissagomes451 Troll.

[@larissagomes451]

@@SomethingSomethingComplete what?

[@The-Khatalyst]

@larissagomes451 I don't know what you mean by that, but we don't talk much any more. She left to be a nurse, I went elsewhere, you know how it goes.

[@WickedMuis]

I have zero chance on dating apps, so I have no conversations on apps like that, ever. But in any conversation that starts to lean towards political topics I generally let the other talk and sometimes apply the "10% rule" if opinions differ: give like 10% of the opposing view and see how the other reacts. If they're willing to discuss, you give more food for thought. If not, then leave them believe whatever they want to believe.

[@fibanocci314]

That's a good rule

[@BG......]

When I met my now husband on Tinder, a few weeks into the relationship I asked him to take a politics quiz. I'm in a major city, and all of my friends were liberal. I really liked this guy and knew I couldn't continue if our values didn't match up. He took 3 HOURS to get back to me. Our conversations never had that much lag unless he was at church. He was clear the first night we matched he had to go to bed since he had church in the morning, which was a great start. But at the time the conversations were only based on jokes and 'fun' topic, nothing serious. Anyways after the long pause he 'came out' as a republican. He was typing a whole paragraph explaining how much he liked me and how he wouldn't push his view on me or anything. I told him nothing to worry about, that I was also a republican, and was so nervous he wouldn't share my views. We laugh about it now because I guess I didn't know the optics. I was 'grew up religious' but hadn't been to church in years, vegetarian, college grad with an environmental background, living with 2 guys friends, who were very outwardly democrats. Girls need to make it clear too, very early on about their morals!

[@Marilyn344]

When I was on Bumble, I made sure to put the Conservative only filter on because I was not going to date or marry someone who wasn't going to follow a similar belief system. It worked because I met my husband on the app and we're in agreement in almost every political matter even though we're both opinionated people.

[@scoot5342]

If I had social media, I would put "no wokies allowed." Thanks Brett. Keep shining

[@jimmoffat3599]

Whst sbout Wookies? 😄

[@shoestringfries3418]

@@jimmoffat3599 RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

[@baskinrobin2405]

@@jimmoffat3599what happened to your a key 😔

[@navyseal4000]

​@@jimmoffat3599Don't want wookies either. Too much hair, have you ever heard of a razor?

[@noturbusiness9736]

@@jimmoffat3599 “what about the droid attack on the Wookiees?”

[@Awifeofanerd]

I have been married for 15 years - 10 years into the marriage my husband core values changed dramatically and it got to a point I wasn’t sure if our relationship would survive. Core values are so important in a relationship and being honest up front is very important. Things changed and he came back to most of the core values we both believed in after some time and on his own. I found that even in friendships if the core values changes it is hard to keep them as an intimate relationship because you both can no longer be your true self on some level. It’s ok and people change. When it’s a marriage partner that’s a whole different thing, especially if you value marriage as something you do for life.

[@bufficliff8978]

I think you forgot the word "spouse"

[@IphigeniaAtAulis]

What caused him to change and what changed him back, if you don't mind me asking.

[@navyseal4000]

​@@bufficliff8978The term "partner" fit the context better here. Just because the libs use it to mean any perverse incoherent view on marriage doesn't mean it's automatically an invalid term to use to refer to one's spouse.

[@Jenny-vm3yu]

Sorry this happened in your marriage but glad he came around. You’re right about this happening in friendships too, apart from I was the one who changed. I used to hang out with an ultra woke crowd because I admittedly was very left wing in university. It was literally just something caused by attending university. Then I graduated and reverted back to my original politics (that being centre right), so a lot more conservative than the people I hung out with. I didn’t become “far right” like they claimed but ultimately that was their perception. I just stopped hanging out with them because they began to treat me differently. It’s sad because I still have a very woke friend but she doesn’t care about my political beliefs and vice versa. My other friends are either the same as me or apolitical. I’m lucky that my husband is mainly apolitical, he has grown to hate woke stuff as time has gone on. He still doesn’t label himself politically though. Although I am fundamentally ideologically different to when we met. This is something he doesn’t mind and actually prefers. Although, it would be super hard to deal with if your spouse suddenly went from being very conservative to very liberal or vice versa, if you had the same values when you married. Assuming one spouse still holds their original values of course. It would be incredibly difficult and might lead to divorce if your spouse then forces their new values onto you. Same thing goes with religion. I’ve always been religious (even when I was woke lol) and my husband is agnostic. I have never forced my beliefs on him and never will. If he suddenly converted to a random religion (let’s say Jehovah’s Witness) and started to force those beliefs on me, I would be very concerned and want to seek therapy, if it didn’t end in divorce that is!

[@guillaumeshearmur656]

The major problem nowadays is that everyone is on social media giving their points of view (just as I am doing now), but no platform is made to have proper discussion. Therefore, everyone is making statements that are becoming more and more extreme without actually giving any critical thought about whether their views are rational or not.

[@willdegra317]

This wouldn’t be a problem if people were critical thinkers in the first place. That’s hard to create with a govt education system that has the objective of having an obedient population

[@KevvoLightswift]

The platform for proper discussion already exists. It's called real life.

[@selohcin]

@@KevvoLightswift That's totally wrong. You can't have serious political discussions with most people in real-life settings because the situations don't allow it. For example, you can't have political discussions at work (with rare exceptions) because you're supposed to be working. You can't do it with your family because they just get annoyed with you and don't want to talk about politics. You can't do it in church because you'll just irritate people and then they'll complain about you to church leadership. No matter where you go or what context you're in (with the exception of dedicated political discussion groups), it's never the right time or place. The public square doesn't exist anymore. It was changed into a shopping mall.

[@amonzart2379]

I used to date someone who was really an extremist with political beliefs, never again. Losing yourself to maintain a relationship is lack of character, When someone is forcing you to accept a whole system against your own beliefs in order to be OK is a BIG RED FLAG. Even worst when they treat you like the worst person on this earth if you dont accept them (that includes friendships)

[@codybrown9401]

Telling someone I'm a Republican is my first test when meeting a new woman to gauge what she is really like as a person.

[@bvoyelr]

Yeah, definitely makes weeding out the chaff easier.

[@Shining_Light]

Doing basically the exact same thing, but in a more painful way for liberals - I just say that I find modern feminism pathetic and modern feminists dumb, brainwashed and miserable manhaters. So far got only one liberal after saying that. Turns out that in the real world there aren't that many feminists. They basically virtue signal on social media and... that's it.

[@BruceCross]

That should definitely be brought up in the early stages. Why waste your time and hers?

[@blutomindpretzel1735]

that usually makes the woman get up and leave lol

[@TeenageDirtbag8]

ok

[@HPTFan]

It is never okay to lie. Regardless what happens. Lying creates more drama, more conflicts, more problems, more situations, and distrust. Not everybody is going to agree with me on anything or like me. I got to be okay with it. I got to own my convictions. I agree with you, Brett.

[@curtismatsune3147]

He threw the rake on the ground right in front of himself then proceeded to step on it hard.

[@torch_fire9218]

That was pretty stupid.

[@fibanocci314]

Then posted the video

[@rinoacooly2]

My husband was pretty apolitical when we met except he felt strongly about the 2A. He has grown more and more conservative since being in a relationship with me 😅 When he told his mom he was Republican in 2016, she yelled at him saying they were a family of Democrats. Then my FIL became a super Trump supporter in 2020. Fun times.

[@scotch1993]

So shocked that someone would lie to get sex.

[@Julian-bq9qv]

only the shallow, amoral assholes who live as slaves to their genitals.

[@willdegra317]

In New York the girl boss politicians wanted to make it punishable by law for a man to lie on a date. No word on their stance with fake boobs, makeup, weaves, fake eyelashes or lying about body count

[@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro]

Don’t think anyone is bud, we’re just talking about why that’s a bad idea

[@torch_fire9218]

That also means you're probably a women.

[@balern4]

fr lol

[@JoshMillikan]

i mean lets be honest. the whole woke fishing is not for dating but purely for getting laid. their looking for someone that is easy to get into their pants and has no interest in an actual relationship. being conservative politically doesn't mean you are conservative socially.

[@P.Whitestrake]

A relationship that's formed with lies is like building a house with wet sand as its foundation but calling it concrete.

[@christophersmith8316]

Dating apps aren't for finding a relationship but a hookup partner.

[@MidwestArtMan]

Once upon a time, I was a college kid. It was 2016. There was a very cute girl who I wanted to date. In one of our first conversations, I told her about my friend who said that when he goes to college, he's going to stay close to home because everyone he knows who went out of state came back more liberal. I let out a hearty laugh, and I believe she did, too. Then, she asked, "What are your beliefs?" I was an awkward introvert and just kinda didn't really give an answer. Little did I know, the 18 year-old Indian girl I liked was big into Trump. While I did ask her out later, I did not get a date. Twas a missed opportunity. Learn from my mistakes, young ones, and be true to yourself when dating.

[@jeffw5733]

If it was 2016 that you were in college, you're one of the young ones lol.

[@WastedBananas]

its not worth your time, Indian women do not date outside their race.

[@TeenageDirtbag8]

ok

[@Psycho_Raged]

I used to put moderate on my dating app when I used to use it. I lean to the right more than the left, so choosing conservative would be more accurate. I ended up hanging out with a girl that is against the 2nd Amendment and she lost her shit when she found out I had a Ruger. Don't waste your or anyone else's time. Just be honest. Honestly, dating apps aren't worth it for the majority of men. Only if you're above average.

[@bufficliff8978]

That's not true. Below average guys get swipes, too. It's still a waste of time and emotion, but you've been lied to. Women don't prioritize physical traits the same way men do. My friends and I swipe on unattractive guys if they seem cool, below average guys if they seem cool, average guys if they seem cool, and attractive guys if they seem cool.

[@Psycho_Raged]

@bufficliff8978 There are many videos showing what it's like for below average men vs. above average. I'm not a "black piller" either. It's just the truth. Yes, you may see some likes, but nowhere near as much as an 8/10 or above. Guys swipe right way more often than girls.

[@gxooo]

@@Psycho_RagedAren't dating apps majority men too? Which affects the ratio of matches women get vs men

[@JDHarsh]

Unless political beliefs are listed in someone’s profile, I always try to have this conversation early on. It has cost me several potential relationships but saved me from who knows how much headache and heartache.

[@BrianK-zz4fk]

at 44 its interesting that politics were never discussed dating in my 20s and early 30s and was never an issue maybe talked about a topic or two. Its interesting how politics has taken over every single aspect of life but most of us have more in common than we dont. That said if you believe in 500 different genders I dont want to be around you and dont want to date guys 😂

[@lehiviolinist7]

Met my husband on a dating app. I was upfront and honest with my political beliefs and that was the first thing he messaged me about! Once we found out we have that and other values in common the relationship was able to grow from there! I wouldn’t have met and married my husband if I hadn’t been honest and upfront about where I stood.

[@briano9397]

Definitely did not expect her to jump from Morals and Dating to a Bulletproof body armour ad 😂😂 "If you care about morals and dating, you need this Body armour! You already protect your mind and soul, but do you protect your body?"

[@amethyst_ae]

Her ad transitions are always so smooth 😭❤

[@shotgunpete5117]

Honestly the most discouraging thing about that conversation was the girl saying that the moderates are 'the problem' because there is no talking or mediating with 'the other side'. Just shows the polarization and tribalism of 'us versus them' when people who try to see it from both sides and talk to both are considered a problem.

[@BlessThissMess]

Even Brett said she saw that as a problem, which shows how both sides are part of the issue. I really only look for moderates when dating because of that. The world is not as simple as picking a side

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

True that, I'm inherently moderate, partly because I grew up Democrat and concerted to Conservative later on

[@scubasteve2189]

100% agree. That girl is a HUGE red flag for me. If you honestly believe that EITHER political party are the heroes, than you are a brainwashed moron, and you are being used by the system and don’t even know it. 🙄🙄🙄

[@rebeccahicks2392]

Moderates are often just people thinking for themselves instead of along party lines.

[@jacobstevens7046]

​@@Captain_Insano_nomercyHey I'm the opposite but the same.

[@TheCoolwhipped]

"Like are you just trying to sleep with her?" Yes. That's exactly what he's doing.

[@tiagoborges8554]

The saddest thing is that this shouldn't matter. But people are just too alienated

[@LongGone77]

Great episode and I definitely get the point (about staying true to your viewpoints/beliefs and basically not beating around the bush in an attempt to get laid) but the reason I'd say I'm "moderate" wouldn't be cause i'm lying; it's cause I'm rarely on the extreme fringe of any political talking point, cause I purposely go out of my way to ignore the types of people who are (cause really... what constitutes how Right or Left-Of-Center you are in this day and age depends on the person you're talking to, and vice versa). Saying "moderate" is just another way of saying "if you're a fringe militant extremist with not even the slightest interest in reaching a consensus, I'm not interested. And yeah, by saying "moderate", I definitely mean i'm right-of-center. But it's certainly not an attempt to catfish some dupe of media hysteria. It's one thing to be Leftist; but someone who simply identifies as "left-of-center/moderate" at least tells me that there's some wiggle room in their belief/political system.

[@sunshadethedragon]

I get where you are coming from. I’m a democrat but I see the republicans and democrats fighting over every little thing and I realize that if we can’t agree on stuff then nothing will change. It is the United States for a reason, it is based on the principle of uniting to solve issues and helping both sides. Whether you are democrat, republican, or neither, we all need to come to agreements and make sure we preserve the rights of every single person. Otherwise, we’ll never make progress towards ensuring that every person is happy, healthy, and able to make decisions in elections.

[@LongGone77]

@@sunshadethedragon Couldn't agree more

[@PoliticallyIncorrect-]

As a man my dating profile would say "Looking for a woman with a mindset similar to Brett Cooper" 👍

[@J05TI]

I don't think that's a good idea. You don't want to say "I want someone like this other girl".

[@enriqueperezarce5485]

That’s a bad idea

[@crusaderACR]

​@@J05TI Especially an engaged woman. A good man should not do this.

[@POPINCONEJO88]

I'm 35 been single for years, people always tell me I'm way too picky. I'm not trying to "settle" I want to find someone who I can have true compassion with not just someone to have fun. If we can't share similar values and beliefs why even be with them. Dating apps suck lol

[@bufficliff8978]

You're probably too picky and think more things are core issue than actually are. It happens biologically. It's one reason marrying young is so important. Marrying young means you can marry with core similarities but with other differences and then grow together. Once we're in our 30's that ability dies out, and it's harder to grow together or even FIND someone because we become more demanding and rigid.

[@SDWits]

I'm very picky as well and had similar views when it came to dating. I met my now husband when we were 32 via a dating app. I was straight forward in my profile about myself and faith and what I'm looking for, and by God's will, my mate messaged me on the very day I intended to delete the app. We chatted for a week or two then met. Talked religion and politics and finances all by date 4 or 5. No need to waste time, right?! Lol the rest is history. Married in 2020 to the love of my life!

[@Constellasian]

What Brett said about many men over the course of history don't have the spine to tell a pretty woman no is true. It seems like social media made this problem worse. There are bad women who became rich because of millions of simps giving them money and excusing their terrible behavior. Pokimane, SSniperwolfe, and Amourant are living examples of this.

[@navyseal4000]

I don't think it's made the problem worse. I think human nature is human nature and social media simply gave a way to measure and centralize the simps.

[@manuam98]

Excusing terrible behavior? Have they done anything criminal or you just mean doing slutty stuff?

[@irrelevancepersonified]

@@manuam98 SSSniperwolf doxxed someone

[@Tricolorrr533]

I matched with this girl on tinder. She asked me about politics and i said i was apolitical because of how divided people were. She rambled about how the right is awful and then i played the reverse card and said that that kind of talk is what divided people and that both sides were behaving in a bad way. She tried to explain why i should choose her side and i ignored her.. she messaged me the next day feeling guilty saying "i guess maybe im too passionate about it". I just ignored her once again.. she was looking to cancel someone and i lowkey canceled her instead... it was the most chad thing i did on that app

[@barneymiller4088]

I have been married for over 30 years. When I met my wife she was a liberal and I was a strong conservative. Young women tend to lean left. Men tend to lean right. If you exclude left leaning women you throw out more than half of women out there. Fast forward 5 years, we had a baby and she became more conservative than I was. Now she is MUCH more conservative than me. Women tend to move right as they age or turn into cat ladies.

[@MrETtheCrazy]

I'm single as a Pringle, but when I find a girl, I would not lie about my beliefs or morals or how I was raised. I agree with Brett on that you don't have to lie about who you are to get a girl. Because, Guys, in doing that, you not only looking for a one time deal, but that also makes you dishonest and cowardly. I'm sorry to put it that way to you guys, but it's true. Be yourself. Stand out from the crowd and you will get not just a girl, but good friends as well. [Also, again, Congratulations on your engagement, Brett❤. Can't wait to see what your future holds]

[@timtimtimmay4654]

Dude is a simp. I like a girl right now and the major hang up seems to be that she dislikes firearms. I'm like, nah. Not giving in on that one. Other great women out there and all of them will never second guess my 2A.

[@trevie7589]

Not a fan of firearms either but I support the 2A. I honestly wouldn't mind if I dated a guy with an interest in weapons either as long as he's responsible and not stupid. 😂

[@luluopal16]

I recently joined Upward when I was working away from home in a seasonal job because I believed I was ready to find a relationship with someone of like mind. I spent over a month speaking with matches about these topics (politics, religion, etc.) and most of my matches were not very upfront about their values surprisingly. I matched with a guy at the end of September, who I am still talking to and headed toward a Christ-based romantic relationship with, and he was probably the most upfront and honest individual i have ever met. I agree that to live and commit to an honest relationship with someone, be upfront about these "sensitive" topics, or what term you would use to define them.

[@lemonlime8357]

not only do i love brett’s videos i also love playing “guess that ad” whenever i can feel a transition coming

[@daneyal7162]

I agree completely. I believe in honesty, and I've seen the "liar reveal" trope on tv shows and movies so many times, that I made a vow to never be ashamed or a liar about my ideas and beliefs. You don't have to share anything about yourself right away, but when you do decide to share something with someone, then make it authentic, and stand up behind it. Also, good luck with your upcoming Snow White movie, Brett!😊

[@its_me_the_redhead]

As a moderate conservative, I've struggled with finding friends who share my values since moving to Chattanooga... I've definitely caught myself being less transparent about some of my values and giving noncommital answers when some of my newer friends go on about progressive causes. After a few months of that, I realized I'm pretty much just as lonely doing that as before i made those friends, so I've been trying to be much more up front out of the gate about my values when I meet potential friends. Its a struggle...

[@petercena9497]

A real conservative would not call himself a republican.

[@vanillabeanlady]

Agree with you. I used to be super liberal, to the point that I would unironically recite "trans women are women" because I was reciting crap I heard on tiktok. It was super cringe. My fiance' is conservative, and over time I've gone from being a liberal to a Jordan Peterson fan.

[@mynamecausesconfusion9829]

I'm so happy that I found my husband the old fashioned way . I always hated the idea of online dating when I was a teen.

[@dailywire_memes]

Gentlemen, don’t *conserve* your *conservative* views 😉

[@carteroleksyk1599]

Lmaooo Fr though tbh

[@remalies8309]

There was actually an episode of American Dad like this where a DJ was leading on Hayley by pretending to share all of Hayley's beliefs about saving the environment in order to get with her, then after, Hayley finds out that the DJ never actually believed in any of that through a series of events which did pretty much include the 3 signs of woke-fishing Brett listed. Never knew there was a term for it!

[@LordzDominator]

I feel like everyone is looking at this through the guise of wanting a relationship. If he just wanted a one night stand, why would he care about anything except looks? Not saying i agree with him, but the kinda person that does this doesn’t care about other’s opinions on it as long as it works. Plenty of tiktoks about stuff like this, saying stuff like “having to hide my guns and American flag before the leftist girl from tinder comes over”

[@IAWIA5]

If she gets on a soapbox to whine about hating moderates in the first couple minutes of messaging you, then run. They are the type of person who is gonna try to make your pass their far left purity test and bash you if you dont score 99% on it

[@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro]

No dude, I’m a right wing girl and I’d definitely run the other way if a guy told me he’s moderate. Him saying that says that he’s either spineless in his beliefs, or doesn’t pay enough attention to even form his own opinion. That’s a problem for me as a woman because I need to look for a man who’ll lead; how am I supposed to trust a man with the care of me and my household when he can’t even make a strong political opinion one way or the other? Our culture has become incredibly politicized, I need to be able to know where my man stands on things.

[@IAWIA5]

@@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro Cool, but I'm not looking to exclusively date only right wing women anyways so I really don't care dude. To each their own, go look for your right wing Prince Charming if you want

[@noturbusiness9736]

@@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro facts. Most of the self-identifying “moderates” I’ve met are just fence-sitting people pleasers who will say whatever they think the other(s) want to hear. As a generalization, the actual moderates tend to not have the strongest of convictions because they seem to compromise on their values easier than others.

[@rebeccahicks2392]

@@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro Being moderate doesn't mean not having opinions. It means thinking for himself instead of having his views ruled by what Democrat or Republican politicians are saying. Nothing spineless about it.

[@kingbran923]

Yeah don't lie about that, you'll end up miserable. I was straight up about being conservative, and I found a woman that believes exactly the same thing I do and we're perfect for each other 😍

[@dracodragon5291]

Growing up I always lied about my politics in school and whatnot. Even in middle school I noticed very early on that if you pretend to hold more liberal beliefs no one really cares (even the other more conservative kids) but if you were more conservative there was always a few kids or even teachers who blew it up into this huge thing. So I don’t blame these guys for fibbing about their politics cause even as an adult now I still keep my politics close to my chest because that’s what I’ve always had to do

[@sportbikeguy00]

It's a non-issue as most people have no morals, ethics, principles, and such. The majority that claim to have them will drop them fast to get whatever they lust for when opportunity presents itself. I've sacrificed more relationships, jobs, and other opportunities for my morals, ethics, and principles than i can even recall.

[@antonalberts9230]

Similar thing fhappened to me when I was 15 years old(a loooong time ago). I'm not religious and was very interested in a girl who was. She wanted me to come to church with her, join the youth group etc. I considered it, but knew i wouldn'tr be true to myself, nor to her. So I rather called it off. Being true to yourself and to your partner is the most fundamental building block of a relationship.

[@shantel685]

I don’t get why someone would do this? I would be really upset if I met a guy and he lied about his beliefs. I couldn’t imagine wasting all that time, and for what? Be honest!

[@SerenaHung]

you may be wasting your time, but the guy wasn't. He was having a grand old time riding the train as long as he could. Playas gotta play

[@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro]

@@SerenaHung and how’s he going to feel after a few months or years after that behavior, with nothing and no one to show for it? He’s left a trail of broken hearts, at the cost of his own. He’ll have no family, his friends will be just as superficial as he, and all he’ll have is his work; a life devoted to meaninglessness. Ben if he has fun in the moment, he’ll suffer for it in the future. Care to guess who would be happier, the man who spends his early years sleeping around until he’s too old to, or the man who spent those same years building a loving family? I know who I’d rather be with.

[@shantel685]

@@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro preach!

[@shantel685]

@@SerenaHung he ain’t riding any train with me. I’m waiting until marriage.

[@torch_fire9218]

You don't understand that a man might lie for sex?

[@Jasmine_breeze]

Oh, this also applies to politicians whose views are available in the media too! 😱 I live in a small country in Europe, so it is relatively easy to meet politicians in random places. I met some politicians completely by accident - through mutual friends, or because we go to the same cafe, etc. In addition, I had the opportunity to meet people from different factions: from super conservative to the far left. Everyone, regardless of whether they were trying to date me or just talking to me, pretended to be much more moderate than they show in the media. It's as if they assumed in advance that women won't like the way they really are. Some even said things like: I like you, so I can have the same views as you, because I have a feeling that you won't agree with my party etc. Sad, huh? As you can see, this phenomenon does not only concern the US or only the conservatives. This is some kind of epidemic of hiding one's views from women, since it even affects active politicians. Regardless of whether they are on the left or right. Everyone pretends to be in the middle. Why? it doesn't make sense. Starting a relationship with a lie is not a good start.

[@KittenCamper]

Dating apps are difficult. The only way you’ll find a good match is if you are completely truthful about yourself and what you are looking for. Your goal is to show your personality and passions through your limited profile.

[@nira5221]

I was online dating for four years, no luck with anything longterm. Finally i put in my bio "very conservative and feminine, looking for a husband not a fwb." Now it's been almost 2 years with my lovely boyfriend. The most masculine, intelligent and strong willed man ive ever met. And finally someone who also shares my dreams of a fabulous wedding and a big family! 💓 Dont give up hope ladies, switch up your approach, if i could find my conservative bf in Portland Maine, you can too!

[@SilverOverTheRainbow]

hi brett!!!!

[@BlessThissMess]

I’m center right, I would describe myself as moderate because I don’t think the world is black or white and I tend to disagree with both sides on most issues. It’s not a lack of confidence in my beliefs, it’s just that I dislike extremes and love nuance. This generation would benefit from thinking a bit more like that

[@henri191]

Probably on social media for a date you need to put on your "bio" pro-woke or anti-woke 😂

[@billwilson9602]

First question: "Literally what does 'woke' actually even mean?" 🤣

[@kathymichael2323]

​@@billwilson9602nobody can answer that, it's like assuming pronouns that change every 30 seconds.

[@billwilson9602]

@@kathymichael2323 A desperate attempt to change the subject, who could have possibly guessed? 😂

[@kathymichael2323]

@@billwilson9602 that's my take on it. It's very confusing.

[@billwilson9602]

@@kathymichael2323 I agree, the fact that people who constantly call things "woke" have no idea what they're even saying is extremely confusing.

[@johnbarrett4846]

In the late 90s my new girlfriend moved in with me. She was bisexual, i wasn't. I'm a right wing conservative voter and she was a left wing labour supporter. We both knew up front the others views. We never fell out over the others political views and i wasn't too comfortable with her bisexuality. However we got on great for the 3 years she lived with me but there was no way i was marrying someone who fancied women as much as me. Fast forward to 2023 we are still good friends.

[@r-polar5009]

A coworker was asked by a guy she was talking to about what she would do if her future child showed interest in the other sex's things (like a boy liking dresses). The guy continued by saying that he would put the kid on puberty blockers. When my coworker told me I was like "one should explain to the kid that there are stereotypes, but one can like whatever they like! And let the kid live and decide for themselves once they are an adult", and my coworker said that she thinks the same, that we should let the kid experience life before doing anything life changing

[@willdegra317]

That’s the new left. They used to say kids can play with whatever toy but now they’re like “if my son plays with dolls and dresses I’m treating him like the girl he is. Best to cut it off now!”

[@sunshadethedragon]

I am a democrat so I don’t share a lot of the beliefs here, but I’d have to say that your argument is probably the best decision to make here. I’d personally make a choice that is similar to what you are saying and just let the kid work out their gender/identity on their own. I feel that since children are people too, then they have a say on how they identify, but trying to force them to work this stuff out before they are even teens is not good. whether you believe they are LGBTQ+ or you think that they shouldn’t be, I think it isn’t your decision as a parent to manipulate their lives. Children can be trans, straight, bi, queer, whatever. No shame in any of these things. I’d only help a child with gender-affirming care if they ask for it. I can’t decide if they need it. Only they can. It’s their gender and their life.

[@navyseal4000]

​@@sunshadethedragonI'm curious on your perspective... I'll use air quotes only because I don't believe such a thing exists, but I don't intend to be rude by it. What forms of "gender affirming care" are acceptable, in your view, before a child turns at least 18?

[@sunshadethedragon]

@navyseal4000 in my opinion hormone treatments are a good thing for teens to take in moderation. Humans, regardless of physical gender, have both male and female hormones (albeit unbalanced except in some cases) You already have hormones in your body, so including some more to balance it in another way is, in my opinion, fine for teens, especially if you have gender dysphoria and would mentally benefit from it. It's not really like introducing something new into your body since it already produces these chemicals. It's kind of like getting insulin if you don't have enough or getting a chemical response in your brain from exercising. Your body just gets more of these chemicals and can use them safely. Of course, I'm not a doctor, so obviously, I'm not an expert here, but the studies have shown that hormones and the like have a good mental health impact on trans people. As long as said person takes hormones in the healthy amount and is ok with it, then I think it is probably a good choice

[@rhythmsynthesis]

This was one thing my parents raised me knowing from the get-go… find someone who shares the same life values as you. It took me 36 years to find that person (we have been together for 3, so I am 39 now, and we are now married and just moved into our new home 4 days ago). We are each others best friend, love, and home. It is literally the best thing ever to have this type of true, honest companionship with the one you love, and he was completely worth the wait!!❤❤❤

[@Vegito2287]

When Brett asks "Were you JUST trying to sleep with her?" YES! Clearly that's what this dude was aiming for, then shot himself in the foot thinking the odds of meeting an actual conservative woman were so low, that he'd HAVE to bet on the opposite, fake everything, just to have a chance of getting anywhere near that far, then totally blew it with a chick he might have actually hit it off with, if he could have listened to, and I know, this is very basic level dating advice, but I digress...: BE YOURSELF. lol

[@manuelsteele7755]

I like the points Brett brings up. The title reminds me of an old 80s film very familiar to my Generation X - "A Sure Thing" with John Cusack. In the film, he experiences massive rejection at a northeastern college. His friend at a university in Southern California suggests he comes west to "score" with a blonde bikini model/student who the friend insists is a "sure thing". So, John's character travels across the country but along the way meets another student - a woman he gradually falls for during the trip. Once he gets to California, he is conflicted and stalls while voicing concerns to his friend about the "sure thing". His friend says "You have no morals", then John's character half-heartedly agrees to go for "cheap, meaningless sex" and attempts to "score" with the bikini model but backs out. His morals win over the movie, and he decides to go for the woman he had fallen for - a character played by Daphne Zaniga. One thing I would point out is that there really are people who are moderates. Senator Sinema is a moderate here in AZ. She switched from Democrat to Independent. The Republicans love her here in AZ because of her voting pattern, but she doesn't want to be Republican either. The definition of "liberal" versus "conservative" is subjective and changes over time. Many moderate conservative people would have been labeled liberal back in the 80s. Some on the far left actually consider Joe Biden conservative compared to Bernie Sanders. I agree with the principle. I am moderately conservative by today's definition and practicing Catholic. I am not a "strict" Catholic though. When I lived in Boulder, CO, I met a beautiful blonde woman on the hiking trail up Mt. Sanitas at the west side of Boulder. I saw her so many times over years we eventually met and greeted each other by name. She was an extreme mountain hiker and very beautiful. But like a lot of "Boulderites" she struck me as liberal and progressive but not overtly religious. Parallel to my hiking up that mountain, I also went to the Catholic Church every Sunday right near that trail head. I NEVER saw here in there even though she literally lived across the street. So, even though she most likely would have agreed to date me at the time, I just couldn't handle that I never saw her at Mass. So, I never asked her out and eventually moved away from Boulder to FL. Over there, I had more in common with the religious "Southern Belles" of the Bible Belt who are often well-educated, moderately conservative, career-oriented, and progressive but not "too liberal" per se. Here in Tempe, AZ, I just stay out of the dating scene completely and focus on my PhD and full-time job. I KNOW the local population is very young and mostly "woke". When I get done with the PhD I feel like moving back to FL or to a more conservative area to settle down - perhaps even the Midwest or maybe Texas. A good example is the alumni network of ND/SMC in the Midwest or East Coast with Catholic women who are in careers. If I went "woke" it would be much easier to meet women in Tempe, but I don't want to pretend at all - lol. I really am moderately conservative. I don't believe the election was "stolen" in 2020. There are conservative judges appointed by Trump who ruled it that way. But I supported healthcare reform due to my MPH background and revered John McCain for his "no" vote a few years ago to ban healthcare reform. I met him in Flagstaff, AZ as a teen - a great role model. However, like many conservative idealists I am against affirmative action. Moreover, as a Catholic I can't condone abortion - albeit there are gray areas in some cases for practicing Catholics who are physicians. I defer to them on those situations. Some of us really are moderately conservative.

[@explodatedfaces]

I love how innocent everyone sounds suddenly. You don't lie about your politics to date someone, you do it to sleep with them and then never talk to them again lol. Something tells me he wasn't looking to lie in order to date.

[@jmtoobin]

There will always be some people who take a leap of faith, and put themselves in situations deep enough, where they have no way out, because being ignored is worse than being blamed. I think role models play a big part in inspiring confidence among others, and there have definitely not being a lot of good ones recently. If bad influences inflict deep enough scars that can take a long time to heal from, then it can be very hard to correct, rectify, and follow up on with something better.

[@TheAyeAye1]

Don't hide important information at the start. If you do, things might get serious, and it might kill the relationship when it hurts more.

[@kingsqueak2221]

As a man married for 25yrs in my 50s, I dated a few radical feminist vegans and a few very religious Jews (I'm Christian) and being coy about your principles will only waste time or wind up in a disaster. There are things that run too deep to reach a compromise to a point of a long term true partnership. There are core value differences that if not matched will never sustain the true partnership needed for a successful marriage. My wife and I differ on many things, but they are not deep and damaging issues, they are simply surface level preferences.

[@josephnardone1250]

BC, studies have shown, and these studies were conducted many years ago before wokeness came about, that the best person for a man to marry is a woman who votes the same way he does. The same is true, vise versa, for a woman.

[@davidz3879]

There are more important compatibility points than politics.

[@josephnardone1250]

I simply reporting what the studies concluded. If you question the conclusions, then I suggest that you conduct your own studies and have them published in a peer reviewed journal.@@davidz3879

[@lettertree11]

I am a consertative and a girl I was into was a non-affiliate centralist. We disagreed on a few things but we actually agreed on a lot more. I think we got along so well cause we were both 100% with each other. You don't have to agree on everything but if you are straight forward and honest, you are taking a step in the right direction

[@DoNotEatPoo]

If you wish to know how to win zero dates? Say you're Libertarian, you get hate from both sides.

[@Jenny-vm3yu]

Say centrist libertarian and watch the hate roll in. 😂

[@treeorwh2]

I made this mistake once, trying to navigate agreeing with a girl’s politics. It was a nightmare. Do not do it. State your position without any shame and shrug off any push back.

[@bluestarzy1767]

Hi Brett! So excited to see your videos. As a conservative, I've had this happen the other way around. Men pretending to be my values.

[@dawsonheaton5082]

Very true. Don't give up your views for somebody else

[@saigyl9149]

being neutral on something is a very valid political take

[@marcbr2585]

LOL

[@internetcatfish]

How do you even find anyone anymore? I'd never touch a dating app because of all the horror stories I've heard. However, I've always had problems trying to talk to people and have never been able to intentionally make friends. The handful of friends I've had throughout my life all came up to me and basically decided to socially adopt me. I've never been in a relationship, haven't even met anyone who I thought I could try to date. Sometimes it's hard to keep hoping that there's anyone out there who would like me. How do you find someone to be with when almost no one seems to be worth even talking to?

[@joec7217]

I have a dating app, but I am so nervous to use it just because of like you said the horror stories that have happened. Plus, there isn't anybody around my area to talk to because they're all just crazy and/or not my type. It's extremely rare to find someone and I agree with you. What even is the "right person" when they all seem to be already taken?

[@shinian6523]

I'm more concerned with people not liking moderates. What?? Having polar opposite, hostile world views hasn't exactly been working out for western society

[@infestedeagle5215]

I'm a 20 year old guy and I just watched this video as well as the second most recent post pertaining to Gen Z and the draft. The new "normal" for young men this year as well as the last five+ years have made me realize how lucky I am to have had a Major dad in the military who raised me to be a man. I don't care how normal it is to reject reality. I will serve if under orders whether I like it or not. I only say "if" because I do not qualify otherwise. However, I do work for the DoD as a civilian. So I'm at least trying to do my part to make sure our soldiers get home safe. As for this video, any guy who lies just to get some is a coward because if you don't believe in yourself and your morals, how do you expect anyone else to? This is a lot longer of a comment or damn novel at this point, but I just felt like I had to put this out there. Anyone who read this all the way through, here's a monkey for your prize.🐒

[@BSJ-Unparalleled]

I don’t blame the guy. I got cussed out a couple weeks ago because someone overheard me telling my friend that I’m not into women over 300 pounds. I just don’t get it. What’s wrong with having preferences?

[@torch_fire9218]

You're a man, and therefore, you are not allowed to have preferences.

[@navyseal4000]

That's not even a preference, that's a law of nature. You cannot convince me that people genuinely are attracted to clear signs of poor health. Even a 300+lb bodybuilder has gone past the point of healthy and obsessive to the point of straight up dangerous.

[@torch_fire9218]

@@navyseal4000 Ah, but the left believes nature is malleable, and so they can train a man to like a 400 lb transwomen who never showers and has a pustular growth covering their left eye.

[@MrsGarcia2021]

Oh jeez, the worst I ever dealt with on dating apps before I met my husband was men lying to me about their age. Happened to me a handful of times. I really feel for any single people attempting to date nowadays. I truly am lucky I found my husband when I did. I could not imagine dating in these times.

[@juniper2346]

Don't date anyone that makes you feel like you have to hide your stuffed animals...this is the same thing...

[@TheInterestingInformer]

I actually am moderate overall 💀 I’m left on certain topics right on others, I just think labeling myself left or right would be dishonest. Im not “indecisive”.

[@LukeT84]

I have never understood why people are willing to give up their morals just because they have a fear of being alone. If you are pretending to be someone else for her/him, they are not the right person for you. I would rather be myself and alone than someone else and be in a relationship. You won't be happy with them anyway!

[@torch_fire9218]

Something tells me you've not experienced loneliness to any serious degree if you say you don't understand this.

[@brianthesnail3815]

My sons tell me that when they were in school one of their friends pretended to believe in climate change in order to get a girl to go out with him. He didn't believe in it at all but my sons say it is pretty common for boys to do this kind of 'woke fishing' because many girls are fairly hysterical about the issue of climate change. Anyway, boys being boys his mates let it be known that he was lying and the girl immediately dumped him. The boy had to endure that and all his mates mocking him for months.

[@meleebrawler6462]

Compromising on your morals is easily the dumbest thing you can do when it comes to dating.

[@davegamesalot6526]

My best friend lost his chance on getting into a relationship. He has a good paying job where he's in a union with a good set of trade skills, he's very chill and he likes to game and collect. BUT, he shared his political views one day because he votes republican and believes in what he votes for, then gets dumped by the girl because they dont share the same political beliefs. I told my friend he dodged a bullet with that one but he felt hurt by it still. This is the current state of relationships sadly.

[@Julian-bq9qv]

This sweet lady always wins THE most perfect ad segues on the entire internet!

[@jqphg7978]

Core values are a make or break for me in any relationship. Other things can still be tolerated and compromised with, but not core values

[@-huma]

It's time to go woke fishing 😎🎣

[@MaxRovensky]

I live in Budapest and I met this girl from South Carolina who's a raging liberal It's very funny to me how American liberal women reeeeeeally like moving to Hungary for some reason But it was very funny to me how she was complaining about "ughhh I have to take care of all this visa and immigration stuff" and 5 minutes later was like "yea I think illegal immigration in America is totally fine"

[@devinanni8117]

Everyone tells me not to use dating apps. I trust the sad horribly depressed people that it doesnt work for.

[@benburgess9428]

Speaking as someone whose political beliefs are kind of a mess, being upfront is the best policy when asked.

[@Aherb_IRL]

I used to believe and live by this until it started effecting my work life a superior calling me a racist xenophobic homophobic whatever directly to my face. In fact even when I open my mouth regarding something not political that gives up my beliefs I get daggers and dirty looks.

[@joshgomez7522]

It's crazy how I have to be careful with my wording too

[@TryingtoTellYou]

Your boss is incredibly unprofessional and likely to lose an employee because of it. However... I find it hard to believe that you would not instinctively call out racism/prejudice when you see it. We're all conditioned to defend ourselves from the horrors of the past.

[@Aherb_IRL]

@@TryingtoTellYou it wasn't a boss persei superior to me and her mother was one of few people in charge in a state job in an extremely blue state and I'm not employed there anymore because of the abuse I took and lack of help from my union

[@willdegra317]

we *instinctively* call it out? Nah. It’s only called out in places where it isn’t a problem. People are instinctively cowards. And the horrors of the present don’t seem like horrors until a future society judges us. Plus we don’t care about racism, we only care about the forms we’re told to care about.

[@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro]

Unfortunately, freedom of speech and political expression particularly is very limited in professional environments if you lean a certain way. However, it’s historically been looked down upon to talk politics in a place of work anyway, so it’s not unprecedented that your political views be held under wraps at work. However, we’re not talking about work in this video. This video is about dating, relationship building. Relationships built on lies and uncertainties don’t last, so it is a bad idea to hide your beliefs or lie about them in this context.

[@horacehhelmsley9375]

Years ago, when I was dating, my biggest concern was being rejected for not making enough money. That being before she actually got to know me. These days... I would actually not even bother dating.