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@TheTcl1233 күн бұрын
I’m a child of divorced parents and my only advice is to not talk badly about each other in front of the kids
@MEASURETWICE3 күн бұрын
My biggest tip as a child of divorce is to stay as civil as possible for your kids and don't talk shit about each other to the kids. My parents got divorced, never spoke to each other again and constantly talk shit about each other and it just feels like me and my brother are in the middle of it and it sucks. 15 years later and they still don't talk🤦♀ Not saying you have to be besties but I would try to be friends for the kids sake x
@brookedrummond53683 күн бұрын
Same!! My parents were incredibly uncivil and it was the most embarrassing thing when they were both at school events and sports games. It would always turn into a shit show and then it would somehow be our fault if my dad brought a new girlfriend or something. Just keep the kids out of the drama😭😅
@marinamerch3 күн бұрын
Yes, I completely agree! Respectfully, I think answering questions like this in front of children can have an impact. As a child, I could feel the energy, and it affected me on some level. It was tough to realize that even if a child can’t articulate what they’re hearing, they’re still absorbing everything.
@maddyelliott73393 күн бұрын
One of the lady’s I work with recently got divorced (she had 3 or 4 kids I’m not to sure) and they decided to keep there home for there kids to always live in. Mom and dad each got there own apartments and will come back to the house when it’s there days to be with the kids. I thought this was interesting and very thoughtful on the parents behalf to always make sure there kids always feel like they have a place that doesn’t change and is there’s. Obviously this isn’t always possible but thought it was really cool.
@jennifermakaiwi3 күн бұрын
I'm a child of divorced parents and I think it's so important to not talk badly about your partner in front of your kids (or publicly). If your goal is for them to have a happy, healthy, loving relationship with their dad, it absolutely will not happen if when they're with you, they hear you saying horrible things about him. They love you, and they trust your opinion. How you talk about him will 100% affect their relationship with him. Again that's just my advice if your goal is for your girls to still have a positive relationship with him throughout the years. If that isn't your goal, then you definitely don't need to do vacations together.
@LifeStyleBri3 күн бұрын
from a very very very young age i remember a lot of stuff that went on with my parents split and new partners. my tip would be to protect the children and not talk about this stuff in front of them. they are taking everything in and some people dont forget (yes even this age). they are aware of way more than u think they are
@jackicouturedehernandez48493 күн бұрын
AI really wants to get messy with that title LOL
@g0dhatesemma3 күн бұрын
as a child of divorce since i was 2 (i'm now 24), i and everyone around me feel like my parents did a spectacular job and my advice is to NEVER talk poorly about the other parent ever. my parents have always been friendly with each other and we celebrate birthdays and events (graduation, etc) as a family even their spouses and my siblings on both sides, my mom never said no when i asked to see my dad, and my dad never took it personally when i cried about wanting to go home to mom, i always knew i had the freedom to come and go. basically i'd say try to be friendly, don't ever put them in a position where they feel like they have to walk on eggshells, let them be kids and enjoy their family freely without worries. now that i'm older my mom has expressed to me how she feels like she's had to swallow her pride and basically force herself to not hate my dad after divorce and i feel sorry that i never knew how much effort it took to just make my life feel normal but she also said she feels proud of herself and my dad and that it was so worth it and i feel so grateful to have had such a happy, normal (to me) childhood. i hope this helped, just try your best, your kids love you and you're a great mom, you're doing great!
@claire37613 күн бұрын
From being a kid that my parents have been divorced my whole life i would say always try to do things together as a family as much as you can and never talk bad about the other parent in front of them
@RubyWaller893 күн бұрын
I’m a child of divorce too. My dad messed up, and I saw my mom go through a lot because of it. It felt like we were both carrying the weight of it. She explained everything to me, and honestly, that was traumatizing. It kind of made me think that this is just how men are. So, for a big part of my life, I kept picking the wrong guys because I didn’t believe they could be any different. The explaining also made me feel like I had no worth since my dad would rather do crazy things than be there for us...
@had20013 күн бұрын
My parents divorced when I was 11 and I feel so fortunate that we still did things together as a family for holidays/events, and that my parents were civil and could be around each other for me and my brother’s sake
@marinamerch3 күн бұрын
I absolutely love your videos and really appreciate how you balance vulnerability with clear boundaries - it's so inspiring! As someone who experienced being a teenager during a divorce and growing up in a dysfunctional family, I wanted to share one thought. If possible, answering these kinds of questions away from the kids might be helpful. Hearing these discussions as a child made me feel like I had to manage my parents' emotions, which was a lot to carry. Kids are so sensitive and absorb so much, even at a very young age. Of course, this is just my perspective, and I’m not sure if it’s entirely right, but I hope it helps in some way!
@oxfearless3 күн бұрын
I met my husband at 19 and we didn’t get married until 27. Could never imagine getting married that young, there’s still so much life to experience and you grow and change so much throughout your 20s
@mimzf-r3763 күн бұрын
As a child from divorce, where the fault was on the father's side. My mum never put her opinions or biases onto us as children. She never stopped us seeing him. She just simply listened to what we had to say and our experiences. This meant we had to make our own informed decisions about whether or not we wanted to have a relationship with him. If she had made the decision for us not to see him, then we likely would have put that on ourselves and felt a sense that there was something wrong with us. But instead we felt empowered and in control of our relationship with him, and our relationships going forward. That we have the choice. Best decision my mum made. However I appreciate situations and scenarios can be very different.
@Grace-hv2gw3 күн бұрын
I’ve been a child of divorce since I was 3, I don’t remember my parents ever being together so it’s always been very normal for me. BUT it was difficult how my life with them was so separate. They only were together if they had to be (graduation, birthday dinners, etc.) watching Alix Earle’s family is actually so healing for me. I wish my parents could have done more things together!
@dalehna43933 күн бұрын
as a child of divorce (my parents divorced when i was 6), I feel so lucky that my parents kept communicating for us even when they literally hated each other lol. We still went on a couple of family holidays and my dad got sick when I was 14 and my mum was literally there without any hesitance to care for him until he passed away. Obviously this isn’t the case for everyone and she definitely didn’t have to do this but it really made the whole situation so much better for all of us and I have never felt affected by their divorce, maybe because I don’t remember them even being together (so grateful they had the choice to leave and maintain a healthy-ish relationship for us)
@amberhuezo2 күн бұрын
Coming from divorced parents, I agree with everyone’s comment about not speaking poorly of the other parent. And one thing that I love that my parents did, is that they individually always reminded me to always respect the other parent and always listen to them. Basically they never tried to belittle each other. And it’s funny bc neither of them even knew they’d both tell us to always listen to our other parent and to never lose respect for them bc at the end of the day, they’re both still our parents and if there’s one thing in this world that they still love and will forever cherish- it’s us kids. They’ll never stop loving us. And both my parents til this day have never been disrespectful towards one another when at a same family gathering or even if they were texting about whatever coparenting topics there was to discuss. If anything, both my parents became better people once they split, and both grew a better respect for each other as well. They would just never get back together! Haha
@mirandaperry18892 күн бұрын
9:01 love this because I did marry my first boyfriend but I made us wait because you grow and change so much between high school and your late 20s. So we got married on our 10 year anniversary because I did not want to make that leap while we were still growing and hadn’t even lived on our own (no roommates) yet. I feel like that decision was the best thing we could have done.
@brooklin_bernek3 күн бұрын
I HIGHLY RECOMMEND- no family trips together , as mean as it sounds - family vacation will eventually END , if not soon - sooner than later that won’t last so it sucks to even try it .
@caitlinmchenry804Күн бұрын
my biggest tips as a daughter whose parents got divorced when I was 5 years old: - always speak positively about their other parent because not only do you want them to have a good relationship with them, but your child is half of their dad too, so when a parent speaks negatively about the other, the kids may internalize that 💕 - if possible, living in close proximity to the other parent, especially during school years, makes it so much easier for the kids to have quality time with both parents while still getting to have a normal social and school life! Mine lived over an hour apart and it made things much harder. - save some photos for your kids of happy memories of your family together before the divorce and some wedding photos. your kids will love to see that there were happy times too and they were brought into the world with people who once loved each other❤️
@brendachaves63753 күн бұрын
Could you film an updated makeup, skincare, and haircare routine video?
@abbyzr3 күн бұрын
Ooo yes would love this!!
@reyesmalexander3 күн бұрын
I also married my first boyfriend. I dated him for four years and then married for 10 years. I waited 10 years to have our first baby, and we still divorced right after I had my baby. The moral of the story, never marry your first boyfriend. 😅 Date/get to know different ppl, have experiences and choose the best one for you.❤
@NoItGrl3 күн бұрын
Financial stability is really such a flex
@vpr18_3 күн бұрын
My parents got divorced when I was 2 years old, and I had to split my life in two, weekends with my mom and then living with my dad. the best advice I would give someone is don’t talk bad about the other parent because both parents can say bad things about each other, don’t stain the reputation of the other person regardless of what they did, yes be straightforward with them but don’t forget he acted that way or you acted a certain way inside a marriage. As much as one person has certain percentage of the blame to play in the divorce don’t forget that you played a part in the blame too. Neither of the parents is perfect and both made mistakes
@savannahnbruno2 күн бұрын
Honestly crazy people asking some of these to me. You have to heal first before even considering those kinds of commitments with someone else it’s good you’re focusing on your well being and kids rn. Like in what headspace after a divorce/breakup do people think about being w someone else. Idk love you tho ❤you deserve the best and someone who gives you the same love and effort one day tho
@toriifaithКүн бұрын
Long time silent follower here but future Q&A question. With you wanting privacy for your kids, how do you plan to do schooling for them or like yearbook pictures if they go to public schools? You helped me decide for my future kids that I want full privacy for them and just curious how you will navigate their privacy when it comes to the next stage like schooling etc. I adore you and the little ladies 🩷
@jsam783 күн бұрын
Just in case you weren’t aware you actually shouldn’t mix any other products into your sunscreen 💕 it messes with the efficacy
@mikailastorrs11Күн бұрын
i’m late to this video so you probably won’t see this but as a child of divorce who’s parents divorced when i was super young like your kids PLEASE go on vacations as a family and remain good friends with parker so they see that sort of care this was such a huge help in my life as a kid knowing i didn’t have to choose between parents and spending holidays together
@laynepiedmont76433 күн бұрын
The perfect amount of tea! 😂❤👏
@Efkdy17173 күн бұрын
lmaoooo the title.
@JennyTee3 күн бұрын
"Look at what I found" is so wholesome 🥺🥺🥺
@jessalinaaa3 күн бұрын
Aspyn, if you happen to see this - My degree is in Early Childhood Education. The way I was taught developmental stages, 3 year olds were not considered toddlers. Of course, every child is different. Some may develop a bit more slowly and still seem like a toddler at age 3.
@kacy77782 күн бұрын
Child of divorced parents… don’t make your kids be the messenger. Communicate with your ex. Do not try to make your kids “pick a side”. I feel like this didn’t happen until I was a little older and my parents remarried. Don’t talk about your spouse. And don’t try to compete financially with your ex. Like for instance… which parent got the better birthday gift or Christmas present. It doesn’t matter. All that matters to me was to be able to see both my parents without the drama. Your kids did not ask for this. I feel like a lot of divorced parents make those mistakes unintentionally. But it’s huge because it messed with me growing up and my siblings. I will say I’m the kind of person now I know I don’t want my family like that so I know not to make those same mistakes but it messes with each child differently and some of them may go down the same rabbit hole. There’s so much more honestly. Having divorced parents is hard with so many different families too. It’s too much. But I’m so glad my mom did not stay with my dad.
@jenamiller5024Күн бұрын
Similar to others about not talking bad about the other to kids, but a next step further- don’t use your kids as a middle man for messages! Like “remind your dad to xyz” or “tell your dad that you have xyz” because as a child the mental load of keeping the other parent accountable for things can be a lot!
@shelbyim5vaughns3 күн бұрын
I still love vlogs at home for the KZbinrs I watch but I’ll watch anything that my favorite KZbinrs post
@JuliaRainelle2 күн бұрын
my parents were separated from when i was 1 or 2? but knowing now as an adult that they apparently fought so much is shocking because i never witnessed it and always thought they were best friends. they did all activities together, birthdays etc.
@naishaaswani23053 күн бұрын
So happy to see you moving on Aspyn. Keep shining! ✨
@Hailey91823 күн бұрын
A few things I’ve learned over the years are never talk badly about the other parent(s). And never make the children feel sorry for wanting to see the other parent/ go to the other house.
@mirandaperry18892 күн бұрын
Me sitting in my parked car drinking coffee watching you film a q&a in your parked car 🤝
@Kovatti_3 күн бұрын
12:51 the eyebrow brushing 😭💗
@HollerAtChurMother3 күн бұрын
my parents divorced when i was in high school but it was in the talks for a long time -ever since I was little. However, they did stay in the same house for a long time (for me and my brother) because at the time, i wasn't old enough to understand how an unhappy relationship could affect a household, i just wanted them to remain together. Looking back now, I am grateful they continued to live in the same house for me as a child but as an adult, I feel bad because I'm sure that was very difficult for them. But they still made sure we felt like a family that could get along/do things/go on family vacations despite their desire to get divorced way before it actually happened
@emilyturi9587Күн бұрын
I wonder if you could do a generalized (nonspecific) Q&A with jaci or something for when your friends are going through a divorce…how to be there for them an alternatively not…etc
@ashleyblackford49183 күн бұрын
My advice would be to do things together, like a family trip, go to their events together, their plays, sporting events, etc. I always said I appreciated that my parents stayed friends even though they couldn’t stay married. Both having the best interest of the kids is important, and just judging by watching you both online, I feel as though you will both do that.
@AdakatabaКүн бұрын
Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
@ladida94611Күн бұрын
the change to mom voice talking to us at 13:47 lololol
@sammiranda5163 күн бұрын
Could you make a video on what exact legal loopholes you have to jump through to get a divorce? Nothing personal, just literally what you had to untangle. Bank accounts? House titles? I genuinely have no idea and don’t know where else to get this information in a digestible manner. I think it would be so cool if you could help inform your (probably) primarily female audience on what that looks like. Maybe it would bring you some peace with your situation to not only save your daughters from repeating your mistakes, but also thousands of others❤❤❤
@vp52163 күн бұрын
I like you a lot as a person I’ve watched you since I was younger I love your character and personality you’re authentic ❤️
@ranch2603 күн бұрын
Im a child of divorce and both my parents are either remarried or in long term partnerships and I have an additional half sister now. I def don't think you need to do a vacation with parker. I really appreciated my parents not talking bad about each other until all my siblings were adults did they tell us everything. My parents for 20 years would come together for each of our birthdays and only now don't do that any more but as a kid that was a big deal. And my parents continued to make parenting and discipline decisions together so that there were consistent rules and they were united in that way.
@mattdench8504Күн бұрын
Once again fellow mama and child of divorce here commenting from Hubby’s KZbin account because he’s got premium. But we don’t know what happened between you and P, but I can assume because of your history, and kids together you can be civil together. Over time it will get easier to co parent, and your lucky you if can be civil because it will preserve that relationship you have with him and your daughters will see and respect that. My parents split when I was 3, things were messy, they off and off tried to get back together until I was 10. But didn’t work. They can now be civil and just be “old friends” and my parents. Nothing else. Time heals all, and it will get easier for you two. Don’t expect it to happen over night, but it will happen. It will get easier to as he dates and you date xx
@brooklin_bernek3 күн бұрын
As young as you still are you really had some great tips! Legally married is soooo hard to really divorce! I married my daughter’s father 11 years ago and we’ve been separated for 9 years! I attempted to file for divorce and they wanted sooooo much money and I’m so irritated to pay that! Of course I have to but time really has flew!
@kaitlinpersia28943 күн бұрын
I am getting married next year to my first real relationship and we have been together for 14 years and have 2 beautiful boys. Also I love watching all your videos and think you are doing an amazing job with how you are dealing with everything!❤❤
@kj37353 күн бұрын
That was a chaotic Q&A 🥴 I didn’t hear anything you said 😆
@lovelivelaughtaylor3 күн бұрын
I fully love and support you girl. I grew up in a broken home. My advice is never fight in front of them and yes I promise they can hear you yelling downstairs.
@KhylaTapawan3 күн бұрын
I MISSED CLAUDIA & ASPYN TOGETHER OMGGG ❤
@itsbrynnleebish3 күн бұрын
I think that you are a beautiful mom & person. I’ve watched you for years and am so proud of how much you’ve grown, especially when having to deal with such hard things. I am a child of divorce, and I think the things can recall damaging me were the fighting about who was going to pay what (I was a teenager and didn’t have a job) and my parents talking bad about each other or involving us in their drama. It is so saddening to not be able to get your medicine or things you need because each parent doesn’t think they should have to pay. I don’t see that being a problem in your life because you are financially stable and very generous to your kids- I can tell that. Also, the constant degrading the other parent and involving my siblings in their drama was hard- no kid should be forced to pick a side (mom or dad?) or to be given adult problems at an early age. I also grew up in Utah as a jack mormon, so that added to all the craziness as well (glad your kids won’t have to deal with that). However, I think my parent’s divorce was very necessary, and I think you did right by your children. The number one thing I wish my parents focused on more was prioritizing their kids needs rather than being prideful and prioritizing their own needs just to spite each other. I can see that you are very much prioritizing your kids, and I commend you for that. I am happy that your kids will grow up within a cordial situation (as I see you are trying to make it cordial), and that you will do your best to break the cycle with them. Being in Utah, it’s very hard because everyone gets married so quickly and early.. and like you said, I don’t think it is a good idea. I have been single my whole life, and I’m 24. LOL. But being single is fun, and I hope you continue to explore and enjoy life and be good to your kids and love yourself!
@maleniromerofigueroa77963 күн бұрын
I just see a more happy, go with the flow you and I love it!
@TSagi_01273 күн бұрын
My parents split when i was 4 . Im now 26 my advice to you is to keep your thoughts about parker as positive as possible towards them . Also really coparent and make sure the kids see you both getting along , being respectful ect . My parents put us in the middle they did not speak and it was horrible
@EmilySmith-sq9dm2 күн бұрын
the hospital def checks!
@NicoleLottLife3 күн бұрын
I think you’re a super smart woman and you will thrive no matter what- however, try not to give ANY man OR woman the power to make you bitter and jaded long term. I only say that because at the end of the day, letting someone make you jaded and bitter about partnership and love affects no one but you. Parker will “move on” with his life eventually and you will be the one left with the hardened heart. You’re in your 20’s and you’re beautiful- but eventually any bitterness you carry will eat at your soul boo. But I get it- I’ve been there. I hope you and your girls have a great xmas! Wishing you all the healing🙏🏽
@anakouts5652Күн бұрын
My biggest tip is… Be honest with them but keep grown up things to grown ups only. Be honest though. Like never lie for the other parent.
@BrookeVanValkenburgh3 күн бұрын
What was the lip pencil she used? Love the color!!
@kaitlynwhite6218Күн бұрын
Where is this top from?❤
@christinahaythorne3633Күн бұрын
I was so young i don't really have many memories of my parents together.
@chalenem3733 күн бұрын
Hahahaha already dead with the title! Love seeing more content on KZbin again 😊
@kyleee83 күн бұрын
*AI really said here for the ViEwS*
@SlumberandBloom2 күн бұрын
You’re doing an incredible job being a co parent. Give yourself some more credit! You’re amazing.
@laurabalboa9963 күн бұрын
What lip product did you use while you were doing your makeup at the beginning of the video?
@jennae0333 күн бұрын
loooove that you're hanging out with Claudia!!
@MyMySharona2 күн бұрын
Having got married in the church and with my first boyfriend and partner young and then with 2 kids, then divorced by the time Im 29.... Im much older now, and I recommend enjoying your life, not getting married again but having a legal document for your protection of you and your finances. I am all on board with also. I enjoy my peace and my alone time so much more now and wish I invested so much more time in my own career and income when I was your age and then I thought I needed another man as a plan, NOPE.
@abbyzr3 күн бұрын
Hi Aspyn! I love the white top you’re wearing in the Q&A, can you link it for us?
@partyy__martyy19 сағат бұрын
I might be an unpopular opinion here, but doing things as a whole family doesn’t always work. It totally can, but not always. My parents divorced when I was 2 years old, so I have literally zero memories of them ever being together. So the few times they tried having us all do stuff together as I got older, it was super uncomfortable because I saw my parents as two separate entities and it didn’t make sense to me to ever pair them together since I had never known them together.
@destinynoel97143 күн бұрын
At 9:07 me who did marry my first bf/HS bf and waited 10 years 😂 I 10000% agree with that statement, my neighbor is childless & divorced twice, she said if she were to do it again, she would do it the way I did lol she was like that’s the only way people that young should do it 😂
@carleehodgins2 күн бұрын
I feel like once they hit five they are so much fun to do little errands or dates with them! I have 3 girls too! 7yrs, 4yrs,1yrs
@RiannaAlvarado3 күн бұрын
I think you are really great at not doing this, but as a child of divorce, I was 3 when it happened and I’m now 27, it really messed with my mind of them both talking bad about one another to me so to this day I have bad thoughts of both of my parents when I really shouldn’t since their divorce was never my buisness. I hope that makes sense!
@Danijoy8273 күн бұрын
Expert as if this is your fourth divorce 😂
@isabella-blackm3 күн бұрын
does anyone know where her top is from!
@martaregn40923 күн бұрын
where is cream mock neck tank from!?
@greyskiesartify3 күн бұрын
Where us your jewelry from?
@denise73453 күн бұрын
ASPYN you were in the IE going to that mall 😭😭 how was it I really wanna know hahah it’s the ghetto side I feel like I’d Cali haha I love 20 mins away from it 😊
@eileenzajac47653 күн бұрын
What lip liner do you have on and what shade 😍😍
@lainegendary2 күн бұрын
I hope you date Harry Styles. I will pray for it 😊😊😊😊
@christinahickey79503 күн бұрын
Aspyn I love the title
@Mallorylkrieger2 күн бұрын
What are you most excited about for your future ❤
@cmconcon2 күн бұрын
You do change a ton, however you can grow together I married my HS sweet and only bf 💜at 19; we’ve been married almost 23y years and have 4 kids!
@stephaniea.56483 күн бұрын
How is parker? Does he do yt or what does he do for a living now?
@AmberSmith-zc4yg3 күн бұрын
If you can just blink once if it’s church related that’s all I need to know 👀
@jorjal7253 күн бұрын
please what is the lip colour
@its.emma.official2 күн бұрын
I agree the new photos app is weird
@meganculhane53513 күн бұрын
Oh my gosh I had no idea you were friends with Claudia!!! Two of my favessss
@danielaosorno48723 күн бұрын
lol what prompt led to that title? bc I fear the title could actually be accurate
@ZoeJoycex3 күн бұрын
haha the title is great
@themckenzies3 күн бұрын
So early I already watched it
@loufur45023 күн бұрын
I like this style you have. Don't change anything. It's working.
@Janiiii3 күн бұрын
We love matcha
@_Nats_Nook3 күн бұрын
The title 😂😂
@ValerieAlexisss3 күн бұрын
I love being early. 🥹
@cascascascascas9543 күн бұрын
Your arms look slay
@taylor33423 күн бұрын
It’s such patriarchy bs that people ask if you tried everything before divorcing