A Daughter or Girlfriend?: Alexa Smith v Jaqirah Wright-Whitney

[@KWin-ik5cl]

Girlfriend in the green is not ok. She’s lookin to boss her relationship. Wait, did she use the word “leash”………..nope.

[@redgurl60]

The defendant is controlling, and it almost boarders on abuse. If the plaintiff was my daughter I would be dragging her away from that woman kicking and screaming. The defendant doesn't respect the plaintiff.

[@maddenmaze6891]

They picked the perfect judge for this show!!!!!!! So sweet and genuine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@MrsMeeker0328]

Definitely a good choice. She's still no Judge Toler, lol, no one ever will be. But she's for sure a great replacement!

[@maddenmaze6891]

@@MrsMeeker0328 I agree but judge star is way better than judge faith… I don’t think she cared about it that much as far as the people

[@MrsMeeker0328]

@@maddenmaze6891 oh I wholeheartedly agree with her being better than Faith. Just cant agree with her being better than Toler. I like Star and how she's developed her own flow, but I will always hold a special place in my heart for Toler 💙

[@robbbietheim2096]

Both of these women are far too young to be playing , "The Happily Ever After Game" GROW UP FIRST 😁💯

[@2intriguing1]

This isn't intellectual advice, they both are far more mature than most grown ass "men" walking this earth. They have kinks to work out...thats it

[@cfav16]

The amount of insightfulness both of these women have is amazing being so young. They are well aware of their traumas and why they need help which is far better than some people on the show that are much much older.

[@adaevelyn7837]

She knows why she is the way she is but instead of healing she thought having more control in the next relationship is the solution

[@LataraReed]

EXACTLY 💯💯 & THATS SO RARE

[@LataraReed]

IKR AND THATS SO RARE 2

[@ariamarshall5161]

When she said earn an allowance at home but she must act right 1st? Huh? She’s an adult. She’s controlling & insecure & she is doing too much……..She needs healing not marriage.

[@smithgabrielle101]

You know if it was a heterosexual relationship, we would tell the plaintiff to run fast and don't turn back

[@biblosantral]

lol. sometimes the double standards are lopsided and this is a good observation

[@opulence_prime]

I said it. Don’t matter the type of relationship if it’s bad it’s bad.

[@shanzi9009]

The defendant really got away with saying some wild things

[@kirronlewis4806]

Yes

[@charliedontcare3349]

Yup. I came here to say the same thing. 🤔

[@rtyoung527]

We all could use an Aunty like Judge Star 🌟 . So full of wisdom and calls a spade a spade. Loving her on this show.💜

[@entrepriseenfondcommun2024]

Ma’am, let her breathe. Don’t bring your insecurities to someone who actually loves you and wants to be there for you😤

[@SuperDeddeh]

never let someone control you or your money.

[@happybakergirl1292]

😢😢😢 "Sometimes she doesn't earn her $." She's not a tool or hired help. Give her the space to choose responsibility on her own, and to understand if there are natural consequences vs. imposed GF consequences. And if you can't rest in and trust in her love from afar when you're apart and away, how will you trust it when she's close by?

[@cadillacdeville5828]

Wow , just wow. Earn her allowance? Good grief....she needs her own.

[@deegumbs1306]

Yeah, this sentence is concerning. 😟 🙄 🤣

[@butterflyblessbless5836]

From my observations….they need to enjoy life separately. This seems REALLY controlling and the location thing is a big problem.

[@mosesmartin588]

In the words of J Anthony Brown,” Same sex, same problems.” 😂

[@beverlyrhame3692]

Nothing changes with being in love no matter who is involved, eh?…Opposites attracts and that’s always a problem😊

[@donchrisrecords9281]

@@beverlyrhame3692 Come on....same sex is tags along with all sorts of challenges. Opposite sex will clearly establish the roles both partners play if there is a clear relationship goal

[@sweetsweet81]

Both of them need to heal from their past trauma before engaging in relationships. Being controlling and angry all the time makes for an extremely toxic environment.

[@WesleyLindsey]

People need to look into their attachment style. There's 4 of them. The defendant is MAJORLY an anxious-attachement style.

[@biblosantral]

At 23 years old I was partying from Thursday through Sunday, wearing high heels shoes for 8 hours shift, quiting jobs when I didn't like my manager, had no skin care routine, didn't care about dieting, I am not convinced that 23 should be an age to settle down, I mean obviously they don't know how to because they don't have enough experience. take a breather for real ladies, be friends if possible but not a committed relationship. nah uh

[@MaskedMadmann]

Sounds like you were a very immature 23 year-old.

[@biblosantral]

@@MaskedMadmann for the most part🤦‍♀️but after all there's no set age for maturity, I feel they're no different

[@Zee-ob1pe]

I became a mom at 22. Everyone is different.

[@opulence_prime]

@@Zee-ob1pe she’s still right. I was a young mom at 19 and now that my daughter is 21 I tell her everything the OP said. Early 20’s are when you learn who you are by living care free.

[@jaredlhulum]

@@Zee-ob1pe was that your plan though?

[@tjones2235]

Can we just appreciate all the beautiful melanin on screen? The defendants, and the judge

[@alkalinelifestyle638]

Absolutely!!

[@malenkadivine]

They aren’t ready. Just walk away and grow!

[@annwilson90]

If you ladies are reading these comments, I just want to say that you both seem like genuinely beautiful people, both inside and out. Judge Star was right to suggest independent counseling. As humans, we can't build a foundation for anything, if the materials we are using are damaged. As a 43 year old woman, I can truly attest to the fact that past trauma can cause emotional instability. And until you deal with that trauma, it will always manifest itself in the worst ways. Take your time ladies. Learn you before you bring someone else into your world. I wish you both all the best!

[@queenv9412]

These two are wise beyond their years. They fully understand the elements of their relationship and what they want moving forward. Beautiful.

[@valpooh7532]

Way too young. That’s exactly why they aren’t understanding each other. They don’t quite understand themselves yet.

[@tipdog36]

Using past trauma for bad behavior has gotten really old ladies...time for a new excuse.

[@zulu3274]

🤣💯...

[@marvinsmith1652]

First mistake don't move with someone who you just met 2nd sometimes people use hurt as a mask for control 3 never give someone full control or full power to lead because you will loose your voice and existence 4 never say you can't live with out a person you will justify staying in a unhappy relationship So this is some Game

[@stacyb6461]

Even in the end she still did not hear that her girlfriend needs counseling and self healing. She said “well I guess you need time alone then”. Total bully. The girlfriend should not only seek counseling but end the relationship period.

[@queenb2713]

They give sister vibes

[@sharee6319]

"Acting up in the house? So no allowance" WHAT!!

[@het-herukhepra752]

That's what i was thinking!!

[@sharondriastradford2907]

Acting up in the house?!? WTF They both are adults

[@janetvansky3621]

I used to work with battered women. Ms. Wright-Whitney is showing what we called then "pre-battering" behavior, the need to control. Without intervention, it leads to abuse. That's what I see here.

[@sonyadrake3428]

I believe there's some physical abuse and maybe that's why the plaintiff hangs out with her male friends and the defendant doesn't like it.

[@moussabby]

Well, counselling is certainly going to help both of them. I appreciate Judge Star giving room to Ms Smith to talk. I also wish she could have talked a bit more with Ms Wright-Whitney. One thing I don't understand though is why they're rushing to get engaged and married. These young women are barely into their 20s!!! Live life a little before settling down, so you don't end up in this type of relationship. I hope they're both doing better now.

[@thefreequency]

Whewwww some of these women act like the men that traumatized them in the first place. The defendant is a textbook misogynist---but we ain't talking about that today 🤫

[@carolpenn8455]

These 2 very nice young ladies Need to find themselves first they have their whole life ahead of them!!! Judge Star is just so intelligent and classy I just admire her intellect!!! .... Great show !

[@simplyclaireese]

Girl leave her butt anit no way you’re 23 and treating somebody like your pet . Let alone making decisions for somebody else. Next thing you know she’ll be putting her hands on her . Sis already looks tired and broken down , it’s to early for all of that

[@sonyadrake3428]

I believe there's some physical abuse and that's probably why she hangs with her male friends and the defendant doesn't like it.

[@sammhammiam]

Red flags all over. Leave her!!

[@maxineadderley5378]

No one can be there for this woman unless they want to be owned by her..🤮

[@jo-annbastings]

Very well said!

[@happybakergirl1292]

Imho, I think they should be apart couplewise while they do their independent counseling. If GF1 can't even go someplace without being tracked and stalked and suspected of wrongdoing, how will she feel safe voicing her OWN individual, maybe different thoughts from GF2 if she's still tied to her while counseling. "What did you tell the counselor about me? That's not true. That's not how I am."

[@jeanp1323]

I like the fact that they show gay couples. I get to learn how they operate and for some reason, i thought gay couples didn't have the same problems as the heterosexual ones with the power struggle

[@MouthPeaceCorbett]

I like the plaintiff, she seem a bit wiser than her age suggests.

[@Leo_Guy4life]

22 - 23 and on a Divorce Court show Smh🤔

[@missmimz7455]

Lol😅she wants a control 🧸!! She needs to check her location 24/7

[@virginiasweets5530]

I love how honest they are with each other

[@cassandramae85]

It seems like these two women have both been through a lot in their lives and they love each other but their past traumas keep getting in the way.

[@cwyounger7306]

Earn her allowance? Say what?! Acting up? Run away as fast as you can. The woman in the green needs to work on herself before marriage.

[@Inuyashasgirl8]

They both need therapy. I got it at their age and im so much stronger mentally because of it.

[@genesis9087]

I love cases like this bc you can see that whatever kind of relationship you’re in, pain is pain. Everybody needs healing and sometimes when you have someone who wants to pay for everything, it really is bc they atleast want full control of that aspect of their life when they don’t have that kind of control in other areas. I wish both ladies the best!!

[@afiabrown6073]

wow.. this episode was amazing and insightful... these women expressed themselves thoroughly and beautifully... and I adore how the judge responsed to their needs...awesome!

[@NikkiTheBaddie]

Awww when she said for a second @16:34 I felt her genuinely happy I wish them both the best

[@ashnicole6554]

Chile, RUN GIRL!!!

[@dariusshy1796]

It’s the guy in the blue with the chain shaking his head in disgust for me😂😂 I don’t blame him

[@krystalroney]

Some of the language like "allowance" and "my little princess" is alarming af to me. Me and the brother in the audience was on the same tip lol

[@missj26]

I really feel the plaintiff isn’t going to allow the defendant to get that one on one counseling that they really both need from just listening to them as they walked away

[@Sweet_Tooth_Artistry]

Right! It's like she was starting the guilt trip as soon as they walked out. Like obviously she said you need a second to yourself right. I think she's afraid of having separate therapy because they might tell her the relationship isn't for her.

[@wanariddick9165]

This world 😢

[@adaevelyn7837]

PLEASE LEAVE!!!!!!!!!!!! She thought the solution for her insecurities was to control the next person even more than the last and trying to isolate her is weird

[@henryashmeal8724]

Sometimes when your partner is to nice, kind,and loving if you have a jealous feeling in you it can cause insecurities

[@saturnladee110]

They are the same age as my daughter and I live in Philly. I am about to send this link to her to see if she knows either of them. #messy.😆😆😆😆

[@romi460]

😂

[@zulu3274]

😁 you need to offer them babies some help rather than be messy Saturn... But let me know what you find out tho...lol Just kidding but I do think the Dynamics within lesbian relationships are interesting, personally I feel Wright Whitney's pain...lol

[@saturnladee110]

@@zulu3274 I think they are too young to be living together in a relationship. My daughter done took her lil pandemic baby and moved with her baby Dad. I am still traumatized 🤦 but I just think at that age they are too immature to navigate life and a relationship. Those girls are living in a room where they don't even feel safe. If I was the girl's Mom, that would be my main concern.

[@saturnladee110]

@@zulu3274 these Philly famous people be hosting lives where people come on there and tell all of their business. My daughter sends me the links whenever it gets active. 😆😆😆😆

[@farmermarshall]

@@saturnladee110 pandemic baby...WOW

[@annabella7188]

Needs control but it's protection 😒 she needs to release her hurt and just let go of the past. I'm surprise she didn't run away from this walking red flag.

[@latoyas191]

The defendants behavior is what's going to drive people away from her.

[@carlab4760]

Made me cry on the conclusion 🥹

[@karmengreene9611]

And they both look like respectable young ladies. Hallelujah

[@solokizzy737]

They both need therapy REAL BAD. It seems like they know what’s wrong but aren’t taking any steps to fix it. When you know better do better.

[@yung1717]

The defendant is controlling and it’s kind of scary

[@xantheamckenzie1978]

Star You are Amazing!!! Thank you Queen for your "Representation"👑👑👑👑

[@TheDevilishDesires]

And theres the truth.... "sometimes I don't know how to be happy". These are two very young ladies...and they still don't know how to love themselves properly therefore I believe therapy and learning how to properly communicate and LISTEN to what the other is saying is so important. I personally live in the statement... "What I hear you saying" ...then repeat exactly what they said and I make sure I have it correct. It gives your friend, family, partner the reassurance they need to feel heard and understood.

[@christinesmith1558]

Being spiritually connected to God is so much more fulfilling!

[@theexperience4267]

It's financial abuse. She needs to RUN!!!! we would bo way be telling her to stay if this wasn't a same sex relationship. Abuse is abuse.

[@laquasiacherry-mack2542]

They both have a lot of insight but don’t know how to change. Therapy would be helpful for each of them.

[@Donmecca415]

Omg now if the lady with the short hair was a dude, people will tell her/ him to get help for insecurities & that her girlfriend needs to RUN!

[@browngoddess5340]

The defendant sees something special in the plaintiff and she is holding on so tight so no one else will see it too. She can control her business not her gf.

[@wordplay6665]

They are pretty mature for their age, but this relationship is too much. Defendant needs to be alone to look in the mirror and understand her value

[@tanbutterfly8282]

This relationship is out of order. U have 2 women and one is trying to take the masculine lead and be controlling

[@vonahlee5887]

I need to tell you. Robert's haircut is always tight. He looks like his woman is taking great care of him, and he must be treating her right. The both of you, together, are a good team. Thank you

[@oddchocolate964]

I was their age when i dated a woman who tried to be my "daddy". I stayed 8 years. Longest years of my life. Leaving wa the hardest and BEST choice I made for my own sanity and maturation.

[@poshpearls23]

I couldn't have said it better. The plaintiff is getting worn out and is definitely getting bullied. Unfortunately I can see it going bullying to emotional abuse to physical abuse. They are both hurt and in need of therapy.... and not right for each other. The plaintiff's soft personality will always be a magnet to the defendant to run over her. They both seem nice though... but not right for each other.

[@shaniciablake6037]

I love how they post these everyday

[@nicolebond3992]

Good advice Judge Star👍🏽

[@vanessakenney3144]

I never understand people saying "I moved myself into her house" or "he came over and never left". It's like some people don't have a say so as to who stays at their house.

[@xelTonE]

This world has changed sooooo much

[@michellefeurtado8010]

Everyone in a relationship looking for someone to control. You both have to share to work. The one in the aqua is too controlling. She appears to be an abuser.

[@abdulwaheed5367]

The defendant talking about giving her girlfriend allowances that sounds to me like she wants her to be more of a daughter than her girlfriend

[@het-herukhepra752]

I've never Heard of earn your allowance in a relationship 🤔, we're together, our money?? To young, already these problems, not ready !!

[@bernardjackson3247]

Ms Smith needs to run

[@carleebhoward1]

Ms Smith RUUUUUNNNN SIS RUN!!! The other young lady IS TOXIC !!

[@rappercosa]

Please stop putting these people on the show they are not here for relationship advice just for social media likes

[@lisagibson3414]

Both of these lady are young and need to find themself and be friends only

[@sophiaandre139]

Stop tapping your fingernails on the surface. 😩

[@Terryreality]

This is a PRIME EXAMPLE of working on yourself 1ST First

[@lindacox4188]

Ms Wright-Whitney needs lots counseling b4 the relationship can move on

[@Meta-llicana]

These are kids playing house

[@xantheamckenzie1978]

Young women with so much Wisdom 🌻 But they need to complete themselves First 🌹

[@mringram]

Welp there it is

[@sunshinebutterfly4654]

Looks like she wants to be in control...all the time. She is a woman with feelings. She sounds jealous and insecure...thats a problem....

[@lfm7978]

I wasn't expecting the Muslim, hijabi, SUPPORTIVE mom in this homosexual relationship

[@biblosantral]

right? but hey when ppl are grown you just learn to accept them and love them but I appreciate her insight

[@saturnladee110]

I live in Philly, I see women in Hijab curse, fight, smoke weed ECT. It is normal to me now but when I first moved here, I said the same thing.

[@romi460]

Lol

[@biblosantral]

@@saturnladee110 they're the real deal, Allah never said they couldn't do these things. Lol

[@saturnladee110]

@@biblosantral ok, it just seems weird to me but I also do not read the Quran to know what is law. Thanks for sharing.

[@northern179]

Thank Goodness for Judge Star Jones, she doesn’t cut through the chase, she’ll tells the real, how she feels deal…She’s the other, Judge Maclean…❤U

[@thayungprince2]

Why do people think they can be at home all day and do absolutely nothing? You're not a child clean up.

[@gailsmith836]

MS. Wright-Whitney is really controlling.

[@lovefire6856]

They need to breakup, she basically treats her like a dog and child.

[@dwelanesepelle6842]

This young lady the plaintiff is young and Confused not sure what love is . The defendant is controlling she takes the role of wanting to be her mom not a lover , they don’t know what love is

[@VexlaOrg]

Beautiful gracefull humans

[@annmagati8681]

I honestly don’t think this two should be together . The other lady should check herself and work on herself .

[@shaunlewis8484]

Sad…are there any heterosexual couples in this world? Sad😢, just sad

[@shanzi9009]

I think Judge Star should have said some of those things 18:45 during the case