When Is it Safe to Speak Out? -- On Being Honest and Real in Dishonest and Unsafe Places

[@RoSario-vb8ge]

'Jobs that don't have my psyche invaded' - this rings my bells...

[@PassionateFlower]

It seems it's never truly safe in our society to speak out about abusers.

[@not2tees]

Daniel, you would be a most interesting friend!!

[@antiprismatic]

AGREED @@!!!@@@@@@@@@@!!!!!!!!!!!

[@YaSeSomosAtomos]

I concur 😊

[@cynthiapetro8708]

Yes, I agree. Sending friendship vibes to Daniel and to all of us who listen and appreciate.

[@JoeyyDoesLife]

Yes, I wish he was my friend

[@VALiantiosous]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. You are one of the realest people on KZbin. I binge watch your videos after having breakdowns from dealing with inauthentic people which seems to be a daily occurrence these days. I can't take them anymore. I am straight up telling them, " I am not playing this game with you." The look on their faces. They know they are being dishonest and manipulative. Little tricksters everywhere. It is physically painful for me to not speak my truth. My body (as of two years ago) tortures me when I am around toxic people and environments. It is a rough life for sure. I am a single mom, so I find myself in continual vulnerable situations due to finances, disability, and no family, no community support. If I played their game I could probably receive more help, but beyond the somatic pain reactions, I re-traumatize myself every time I put on a mask and act. It is not worth the possible money and the support. Being alone and poor is worth maintaining my self dignity and inner peace. Of course I would like to have financial security, community support, and be my true self but I have not figured this out yet. Also many of these "shut-down, " dishonest people are poisoned and its affecting their ability to think and feel. My "super power" is hypersmell - I can actually smell the toxicity on people (and it hurts). Even know while I am learning how to reduce the hyper smell (it hurts), I can sense the toxicity. Eventually I will make videos about my findings. Many people are blocked from their true selves, their inner voice/intuition, because of toxicity - almost as if it was by design, huh?

[@nancyneyedly4587]

12:15, This whole thing where someone can't be your friend because you "threaten their denial" is pervasive. I like the way you worded it.

[@ajmosutra7667]

But sometime s people just hadnt grown yet

[@the81kid]

You're right. I've noticed it, encountered it, in every type of relationship. I've experienced it in familiar relationships, friendship relationships, sometimes in professional relationships, and I've noticed it a lot in would-be romantic relationships.

[@Medietos]

For ppl like I, pedagogic calm, kind explanation is affective: There is good will but a LOT of stress and pain stocked up, and lack of knowledge /awareness, since society doesn't teach that we are in fact in denial as a protection etc tool. The kind, compassionate-warm address/care with explanation how it works, helps me relax and then be able to better take in the message. Even better is getting it written down, so I can go back many times, since new info/world view can take time to integrate, esp. in severe stress/PTSD. I have been one, because it has been too confusing and painful , feeling denied my reality, not knowing that it was a false hypothesis/fanatsy/ assumption of reality. I took it to be rejecting me, (over-sensitive to it) when it was in fact helpful as soon as I learnt to re-think. 12-step progr helped, but took time. And it is hard to be friends until then, is it not? The ones who have got it, mostly don't have the patience and compassion to teach another, but reject them/ us as impossible, tiresome etc. Which many are of course. Bút not I.

[@lughlamhfada2523]

Person 1: "I think you're in denial." Person 2: "No I'm not".

[@ukaszpospiech3817]

You're not crazy, you're wise. I appreciate your honesty. Pleasure listening to you.

[@Rose_Ou]

One of my favourite bloggers when asked what she did for work answered "my main job is to take care of myself". I loved it.

[@maquantotempo]

Omg Daniel! How much I can RELATE!!! My view is that if we can't share in depth our truths, however uncomfortable that might be for others, it's time to pack and find better, likeminded people who are on our same wavelengths...I found particularly inspiring your comments on your frugal lifestyle and how you can manage to be a sane/honest/non hypocritical person on all levels. To be truly intellectually honest we need to be free and economically independent. You have something so rare: it's called COURAGE and INTEGRITY! The whole world claims to want the same but almost no one is prepared to live frugally with DIGNITY. They are so attached to silly materialistic things and ridiculous job titles! Small people!!!💖Thanks so much for circulating these ideas

[@tbd5082]

I feel you. It takes a long ass time to get reborn.

[@pod9363]

We're combating the thing that's held mankind down for hundreds of thousands of years. Gonna be hard :C

[@Ot-ej5gi]

@@pod9363 "Held down" or held behind?

[@Ot-ej5gi]

Sorry, I've realized it's synonymous)

[@bunnyval7724]

As a recent graduate student studying Counseling Psychology, I'd like to thank you for your videos. I've talked about your videos in my classes since they help me open my mind and think outside the box. Thank you for all your videos, keep inspiring.

[@jeannebraun367]

If you want to have a look at your field from an outside perspective, I'd recommend having a look at the anthropology of psychology. It's very eye-opening.

[@jeannebraun367]

@@skyeblu817 That's a pretty good training method for psychologists I'd say.

[@jeannebraun367]

@@skyeblu817 Wouldn't recommend putting yourself in danger to "train", though. Be careful not to do the job out of a kind of masochism. It's an occupation that is very hard on you, which is why you can easily stumble into it out of a kind of masochism...

[@christinebadostain6887]

I love when you say "The Truth." It actually takes courage to speak The Truth rather than the more palatable "my truth."

[@johnfogarty1874]

thank you so much for your efforts it's been a guiding force along my journey to escape a terrible environment. I feel rather fond of you and nearly always resonate with your videos you have been a friend to me when I've had no one

[@dmackler58]

You're welcome John.

[@efehansahin2172]

Also I got asked very nasty questions in front of others(!) by some people. And I reacted calmly and said it was private. That's boundaries!

[@Natybsg]

The funny thing is I woke up thinking about some people who were really mean or hostile to me. I've seen another great therapist say that 'sometimes rejection can actually be the best thing' and avoid us to have a job or relationship that wouldn't even be good for us. Now, hearing that "Rejection is God's Protection", I just thought about what would have happened if these people DIDN'T reject me. I could have kind of become "friends" with them, and this would mean that I'm like them! And, by spending more time together, I could become more and more like them.

[@dimitrifeher1232]

Oi, Natália. Você é brasileira?

[@Natybsg]

@@dimitrifeher1232 sim. Parece que Daniel tem apreciadores no mundo inteiro 😀

[@dimitrifeher1232]

@@Natybsg (；^ω^）

[@leighsanders8825]

I love everything about this video! I have arrived at virtually the same points of view that you have discussed here in my long 63 year journey through this life. As I have said to a few memorable people, thank you for speaking my mind!

[@tbd5082]

Donated. You speak my jam.

[@jeannebraun367]

I usually don't comment on things like this but I think you are incredibly brave for speaking your mind on topics that are very controversial and even taboo in society. I have come to pretty much the same conclusions that you have over time and time and time again, I have seen how hard it is to speak your mind on this - to the point that I would almost consider it self-harm to even try because you can anticipate horrible backlash. To me, what you are doing means a lot and is extremely important for society. It is very hard to criticize the field of psychology but in a field that is not a hard science and fundamentally affects the whole world view of so many people who seek help and are vulnerable, it is also equally important to regularly question what you are doing and be open to listening to other perspectives. I am saying this as an anthropologist (where it is highly welcome and even expected of you to question your profession) with a sister who is a psychologist (where it is not welcome to question what you have been taught) - when I was still in contact with her, we definitely budded heads on this.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Jeanne.

[@bernadettebockis4120]

Daniel, when people hear your truth (our truth, one's truth) and you're very honest, they may decide to exclude themselves from you because you're too honest. So you might use discretion, but you still went too far for them. You might want their friendship, but they're gone! I remember dates telling me I was too honest. I never saw them again. I might not have wanted them, but they certainly did not want me.

[@thediabolicalempath7246]

I’m very honest and people push me away. What if I told them the undisputed lie, would they continue to be my friend?

[@cynthiapetro8708]

So much smarter to find people who fit with you rather than change yourself to fit in with non-authentic people. I never got to learn and practice discernment as a child because questions brought attack.

[@anaallanpoe7308]

I've been watching your videos for a long time and I think I hardly ever commented on them. I want to thank you for being confident enough to speak about all this on youtube. As a person who has a graduate and posgraduate on psychology in Spain, I can tell you it's quite difficult to find people who think outside the box and try to be true to themselves here (at least on the public healthcare system). I want to become a clinical psychologist and the process to get there is quite long but I want to keep being true to what I think about mental health, therapy... there's still so much I need to work on myself and deconstruct some of the things the system forced us to believe. Videos like yours are fuel for thought.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Ana!

[@tbd5082]

My kids love goodwill stores because it’s fun and a good idea. Me I shopped there because we had to. So much shame I’m breaking free from. Thank you for sharing.

[@yelena3583]

I'm grateful for you sharing your truths, it's been helping me immensely. 💚

[@MVVV3.3T1V]

Love love loooove your videos! So liberating, true and actually what real unconditional love of self is all about! Thank you🤍

[@daisy7066]

I was told what do followed by "I'm trying to help you!" which just made me feel worse by parent. (A therapist told me it was "un-asked for help" as if that was a crime, but there's nothing wrong with un-asked for help in other situations like opening a door, telling someone they've dropped something, responding to someone's apparent need, etc. I think the point was it was actually a controlling demand purporting to be help depriving me of autonomy, the same had been done to them by their parents).

[@ryank6322]

"Help" is not always helpful.

[@alexisscarbrough4083]

If I base it off of my childhood experience --never, ever, ever ask for help/admit you don't know/show you have needs/show your true self/tell on the family... to speak is to "air out dirty laundry" and our boundary-creating words are accused of being abusive, hurtful, hateful, and selfish --all words they blamed and accused others. Since the first time I tried writing my life's story as a 12 yr old, my toxic > family defend, minimize, blame shift, then refuse to listen, look, or even acknowledge. Pretending. False friendly, plastic smiles in public with rough, foreign hugs. The usual was to pat my head like a good dog: pat, pat, pat. And they laughed at me because I wanted to be an actor... My family has also flipped their wig over the things I've brought up online; the crazy stories they run off with, spreading like wildfire --mine poo-poos the psychology field, tells me to go to a "shrink" (but I do, and a therapist!), then she milks the free-clinic drs for paxil and xanax. She's very persuasive. Recently, I received a cease'n desist notarized warning me to take my stuff down --all my artwork, my story? No. They're so focused on destroying my memory and rewriting it. They want to silence me. WIth therapy and self-help seeking, I have learned that a symptom of narcissism is to use someone as if they were an extension or object... children born, adopted, or given to angry, hurting people have to climb out of the self-hatred program, similar to a slave's experience; being controlled creates deep scars; wounds that could take a lifetime to heal. I'm currently reading C-PTSD by Pete Walker & wow. It's helpful understanding what contemptuous parents can do to a child... I know personally, and it sounds like you were, too. Our parents were emotionally illiterate, I think that's the current pc phrase. Hilarious. They'd never admit that. Oh well, ya can't do everything 100%. Thank you for sharing your life here, Daniel. You seem like an interesting person.

[@pod9363]

I run into this problem all the time. The more I get to know people the more I start seeing how their trauma runs them. People are a glass menagerie.

[@pod9363]

Re-listening to this I actually sort of understand the logic of spoon feeding this stuff to people when you feel it appropriate. I would think the urge someone gets to just spill their guts about this stuff to someone who's not familiar comes from a desire to want to create an ally. The obvious way out of this, I would assume, is to work on grieving so you can dry-up this desire to create allies out of people, and once you don't “need" this person as an ally (they can sense neediness/desperation from a mile away), you are then free to assess them as they are and dole out what’s appropriate. It all seems to come from a fortitude in yourself, and once that's established, people will unconsciously sense that you aren't crazy but the exact opposite. It all comes down to grieving every time.

[@JustBelieveInChrist]

Daniel, you speak the truth that I've lived every day of my life. I agree with your perspectives. I've been on the same unrelenting journey of healing and the right to exist for over 50 years. From one brother in trauma to another, you are a warrior. Thank you

[@efehansahin2172]

8:30 "it's safe to speak when we become strong enough". This is so true for me! And it makes me feel free! I am feeling that the words I speak are instinctive. I just talk without fear of rejection. This is when I talk to people who are on a level with me. Seek out people you feel good being around!

[@the81kid]

Thank you. Although, in my humble opinion, I disagree with a few relatively minor points, these videos help with real healing. Plato said, "Know thyself." It's amazing how many people want to avoid knowing themselves at all cost, to the point of destroying other human beings and rejecting the chance for real human connection. The Ancient Greeks knew more than virtually our entire society.

[@gaiadance]

Navigating was my word for last year in everysence Safety first

[@Classycardrawings]

For some reason when you're outdoors doing your video somewhere really focusing on what you say. The way you explain these lessons is incredible

[@dmackler58]

Thanks :)

[@MichelleHell]

Exact same struggle in my working life and dealing with trauma.

[@frannyfrandsen]

I am a counselling student of the psychodynamic modality. My training is very challenging and I use your videos to nurture my own grounding process. I cannot thank you enough. Eternally grateful.

[@dmackler58]

Wishing you the best!

[@2.A963]

16:30 that’s also what I learned in my experiences. Observe, don’t speak too much at first, tentative like a wolf. then choose the person who can be your friend 😊

[@bhajandaniel9771]

Disinherited by your father! I am impressed because I push things very, very far to be genuinely authentic and you stand as an example.

[@Emile-philia]

I share so many perspectives with you. Your take on work and finances is my own exactly! Spending wisely can be a powerful leverage-point.

[@ps1473]

Daniel, greetings from Czech. I'm a big fan of yours. I find your videos very interesting, important and useful. You are doing a great job. Thank you!

[@annejohnson8890]

Very, very, very true.

[@annejohnson8890]

Maybe the most insightful video I have ever watched. You have explained so much.

[@michelekurlan2580]

Wow! This brings to mind the interview you conducted with Martin Miller about his book about his famed psychologist mom Alice Miller. Too bad some of us get scapegoated and burdened with family secrets.

[@kristinamullen4066]

I'm a big mouth truthteller and I've probably driven people away.Its very tiring.Its scary to feel that you can't trust people whom you work with and must interact with.I feel isolated and will continue retreating from society, and into my own world.Especially if I must live in a country run by a demented old man who is controlled by communists.

[@saumitrsharma2816]

Which country?

[@marik6025]

Strangely, I feel exactly the same way. It does make me feel a little better knowing that there are others who share my point of view..

[@paperfrost]

Can relate! Except my country is run by a corrupt drama teacher controlled by greedy, unethical billionaires... Don’t blame yourself for “driving people away” though. I mean, yeah, sometimes I think that if I had approached a conversation in a more stealth way instead of just blurting out facts and my perspective I might’ve gotten a better reaction, but a lot of the time people don’t want to challenge themselves to look at a scenario differently no matter how delicately you attempt to get them to do so. This is going to be way too long, but recently a woman who is older than me, and whom I have looked up to since I was a teenager, blocked me on Facebook because I had tried to inform her an article she had shared was inaccurate propaganda. One of her friends implied I was islamophobic for doing so, which was baffling because I am agnostic and the conversation wasn’t even about religion lol. She made illogical arguments based on misinformation, which I pointed out to her. But the woman I admire private messaged me and told me she would delete my comments and that I was “bringing bad energy to her wall” and it “disturbed her serenity” for me to “come for” her friend. She said she didn’t want me to reply to her posts, or she’d block me, as she had already done to her sister, so it wasn’t anything personal against me (oh really?). I told her if she didn’t want to have conversations on social media with anyone other than “yes men,” she could go ahead and block me. She did so instantly lol. The thing that annoyed me the most was that she claimed she was “too empathetic” to handle even hearing my opinion and that it “broke her heart,” even though it was she who had falsely accused a teenager of being an example of “toxic masculinity” and “white supremacy.” I’m no less empathetic than her (actually, since she is prone to demonizing people she disagrees with, which I do not do, perhaps she struggles in that area more than she thinks), I am just empathizing with someone she choses to demonize for political reasons. SIGH. She is truly lovely in many ways, but is so thoroughly on edge and brainwashed thanks to the “demented old man” party propaganda she can’t think straight. It makes me sad because her emotions are manipulated in such a negative way by it, and you can tell that has made her relationships with her family members worse. Gotta just accept that some people want to live in a destructive, cult-like political echo chamber, I guess. =/ But it did make me feel pretty alone hurt, so I had to grieve the friendship in order to feel better.

[@marik6025]

@@paperfrost You sound like a very insightful, intelligent person. You can see all points of view. And discuss them rationally. I wish there were more people like you in the world right now...

[@paperfrost]

@@marik6025 Well, I try, but I can get impatient and judgmental sometimes. 😝 It is frustrating when people don’t realize that demonizing one another is unproductive... But I played into that negative dynamic by engaging on such a controversial and heated subject, so gotta learn from that, too. 😆 Anyway, thank you for the encouragement and reading my (long) story. 😊

[@annastone5624]

Wow Daniel Mackler your choice of topics is absolutely fantastic!! On the healing path there are so many vague ‘commandments’: We must speak our truth We must be authentic We must love Then we get into serious trouble, because not only are those very nuanced things, but we are traumatised, vulnerable, often in toxic situations and we throw ourselves at these things hoping they’ll improve our lives - but can put us in real danger….

[@calmy6430]

youre helping alot of ppl with those videos, thank you very much💜

[@godfather2556]

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing wen I heard your video I had this same epiphany 19 years ago and you are so right people flee from the truth my sister won’t invite me to any party’s but she only trust Me to watch her house when they go on a two week cruise. It is not at all a popular way of life. And it commands tremendous respect in and of itself you do not have to ask for it. I have never expected this level of respect before in my life. The price I pay skipping all the parties is a bargain. I feel that everything that I put my hands to do in life is a direct reflection of a person’s character. It’s such a wonderful feeling of contentment for life that I never know previously. I also have experienced an enlightenment as I like to call it. This ability to recognize truth from lies and even see the character of others around me. It is a harsh feeling most of the time to see and recognize the ugly truth of society. I think it would be wonderful to sit and talk with you it lifts up my spirits hearing views that mirror my own so much.

[@priscilam.9808]

Wow! Thank you for another video! It was very interesting to hear about it

[@wpiab4]

wow so needed that now, thank you

[@Serenedove]

We can never feel safe unless we start becoming brave! Because people who are brave are able to speak out! But when you are not brave, we just wait until it is safe! You will rub people the wrong way. As children definitely we cannot feel safe. But as we grow up, and get some muscles, we actually can! And it is a journey in continuing to become stronger and braver. But being brave doesn't mean you will not be hurt. But that you will be able to deal with it. You will not worry about it, care about saving yourself.

[@JD-de5mq]

Omg I love you! So real and raw! There is definitely consequences to it but you are a legend and it will help so many people!

[@matilda4406]

that's true, one of the scariest things from trauma is the frightening thought that we may copy some things ourselves, massive determination is required to not repeat, to absolutely cut the cord of abuse

[@amberfuchs398]

I often feel like an undercover operative behind enemy lines. I try to sus out who understands abusive, neglectful systems and who's still trapped in delusional denial and ignorance. It seems most people are ignorant and in denial. Discernment and discretion are part of staying safe.

[@bartjohnston]

Thank you Daniel, continue with the best view, angle, TRUTH on ALL your videos

[@HowAboutThat3]

Another beautiful, Truthful (with a capital "T"), incredibly helpful video. Daniel, you are so Brave to share and we are all so grateful. I so resonate with your every wise word. Thank you for your Courage and efforts to help us others. ♥ You would be an amazing friend ... as so many others have posted. ☺

[@amayiahgenrt]

Thank you for this video, Daniel! Wish you are well!!

[@cheronwhitestone3704]

Excellent!!

[@annbell8748]

Everyone should get an unvarnished funeral. Then parents will think twice about their behavior. We started a new tradition with my grandpa’s funeral. We wrote a funeral service for our immediate family. The day of the funeral we were extremely surprised to find a full house, a funeral space packed with people from way back in out lives. And we changed nothing. And it kicked off revelatory funerals that reverberated throughout the family. I loved being a trailblazer. That is who I essentially am and always was. My core.

[@tonywright8342]

What is an unvarnished funeral?

[@annekegermers821]

I really appreciate your videos, which I just discovered. One thing I miss is a spiritual component, that puts suffering in a context.

[@smoozerish]

There is no God, and there is no perspective to suffering. Suffering is suffering and you just need to grieve and not look outside yourself for answers and "perspectives".

[@Hemulionbotanisti]

Thank you! 🙏

[@laraoneal7284]

Ppl still talking to abusive family members are trauma bonded and are not growing and headed for a lot of problems and more than likely are repeating the same cycle of abuse and toxicity.

[@iamthatiam4637]

Second video i watch of yours and already feel like i can relate. Keep up the amazing work.

[@lonepheasant3489]

Thankyou

[@eastalawest1633]

Great videos lately. I'd love to see one on the topic of cptsd.

[@karenc.9298]

Thx Daniel. Another helpful video

[@conniepinter1862]

Well spoken

[@rosettesionne9139]

I feel like you are my spiritual father. You speak openly about what I had hidden within me all my life, I really would have loved to have a family member like you maybe I would have felt less alone. It is both strange, and irritating and also reassuring that a perfect stranger understands your pain more than the very people who surround you.

[@patralink]

I think it's only safe to speak out after they die. I'm 71. My parents are in their 90s. Their memories are not reflective of what actually happened in our past. They have gotten even further from the truth in their old age. I could write a book about my family but wouldn't do it until after my parents die.

[@audreyweigel4620]

I found it helpful that you gave a realistic view of the social environment of the world and gave guidelines for living and expression for more aware people. Keep on being brave. Audrey

[@jaysmithcool]

Due to the trauma I went through I've found it really hard to completely break away from my family financially and emotionally although I am working on it but it's not easy.

[@tnt01]

the sooner the better your life will be, don't waste years of your life.

[@ChooseLoveToday316]

This. Guys. Videos. Are. Soooooo. Good.

[@maggie0285]

My parents have passed away. My only connection left to family is through my niece. We had a big falling out 20 years prior where we stopped speaking. It is very tragic. I want so badly to speak out on how I needed her and she was never there. On how her and my entire family went to my dad's funeral and nobody could tell me he died including her. That was my DAD! We speak, we are friends again but are issues were never resolved. I think we both pretend it never happened. I won't say anything because survival is everything. I lose her, I have absolutely no one

[@rudirudi1495]

Thank you from germany. Your videos are really helping me. You are a humble and precious man. What about some humour 😊?

[@gaiadance]

You are sooo worthy I so appreciate your offering I'd love to donate I just dont have the means or credit cards to do so and if you ever came to NZ theres a home here

[@annmarie6870]

I honestly felt better when I watched your video. I really need to grieve all the things that have bothered me in my life by writing in my journal but haven’t gotten started yet. I get sick and tired of not feeling heard by family, my friends, co workers. I’m upset about certain things at work so I finally went to HR about it. Sick of feeling like I’m being harassed because I’m breaking “rules” at work. I left work crying and at this point just want another job. I can’t stand when someone tells me why I can’t do something yet doesn’t explain to me why I can’t do it. I’ve been told I have to ask why I’m breaking a certain rule. That’s not my problem it should be the co workers job to tell me why I’m breaking a certain rule not just tell me no and not why. So I’m just done

[@thebeigesheep6132]

I wish i was your friend. You are the type of person i would like to be around. Your friends are lucky to have met u

[@tnt01]

i know right.

[@practicalphilosophy9031]

Well shared thank you!

[@alexxx4434]

I now see inter-generational trauma as part of the larger evolutional process. The uncoscious transfer of trauma from generation to generation is the same as passing genes. If the trauma allows to become more fit to the environment it's actually a survival advantage. And we all see how narcissistic traits (the consequence of trauma) are often linked to more success in our society. I think most parents unconsciously traumatize their children to better fit the environment. So, it's not as much individual parents blame, it's societal. But not all children react the same. Some become broken and dysfunctional. That's negative selection. And there are rare individuals like Daniel, who have became more conscious and healed most of the trauma. But those are few and far between and their insights are not really accepted by the society at large. It's scary to think where we are heading as humanity. I often think that society wants from each individual to be obedient emotionless robot, good little cog in the machine. Everything is industrialized, leaving little to no room for the humanity. And the impending replacement of humans by AI and robots in the workforce isn't something ground shattering, because even without them we were already treated as some kind of robots.

[@SatansRoerhat]

🔥🔥🔥

[@ajmosutra7667]

I also believed you were crazy, but after a year in philosophy college i have found you were a genious!! Haha funny how life turns itself on its head

[@dmackler58]

haha! warm greetings--Daniel

[@scaringclaring5240]

A child would not have hampered your healing because you are self-aware and just plain aware, Daniel. You would probably be a good a parent because you are aware and sensitive to needs of a child.

[@jhh2001]

Amen

[@annmarie6870]

And it’s sad because the company I work for wasn’t this bad in the past and at this point all they care about is money and not the guests. Guests are over it and over the prices of everything. Don’t want to wait in line (I work at an amusement park) pay money to wait in a shorter line. Unbelievable. 🙄

[@1sanremy]

I do agree with everything you say. I would add that : now that PSYCHOLOGY is considered as a corpus of ideas worth to be learn & followed, there is a rise in psychological standards & confort , wanted by the new generations of humans on Earth. Each new generation gets better education than the previous generation, because the collective wants to produce happyer people (with more MASLOW's hierarchy of needs satisfied). Our standards are harder to meet than those of our parents or grand-parents. But i am not going to judge anyone, and shall simply remind what the DALAI LAMA said on this topic: " We forgive but we never forget" I think that we should try to follow this recommandation in our relationship with people who harmed us in the past. Sorry for my bad English. PEACE & LOVE from Britany FRANCE ( where MERLIN is trapped in his underground crystal palace)

[@Haleh1]

Im a bit of a bull in a china shop when it comes to this. I tell myself I want to remove people from my life that are not a good fit so there is room for the people who are. It worked. But it still hurts.

[@michellecampione7991]

❤️

[@bernadettebockis4120]

So what is this life, if it's filled with lies, deception. We're all walking around in our deceptions, on our own stages, actors all.

[@bernadettebockis4120]

@Astro Since I have realized life is very different than I had thought, I have decided to become more of a fabricator of truth to explore being someone else. It seems we are always/often trying to deceive anyway, so why not steer the deception into something more fun? Or am I lying now?

[@mayda2060]

Guys..I have noticed there is a fast growth of the channel!! I am happy

[@NJGuy1973]

Only give answers to those who ask questions. This channel is only going to give answers to those who seek it out. Daniel Mackler doesn't stand on a street corner and yell at people to heal their traumas. He simply assembles information of trauma healing and lets people seek it. If a person isn't interested, they won't find it. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

[@Isthisthepharmacyhornburger]

Thank you for sharing youre truth with us Have you been canceled by the mental healthcare system for speaking out against them? If so how did you deal with it?

[@caggieasmr9966]

你是我最喜欢的KZbinr，就像我的朋友一样！

[@raphaelleislip808]

What about speaking the truth in a time of coronavirus? When I saw the title I was hoping you would talk about this. How do we go out into the world and become independent so that we have a platform from which to speak our truth, when doing that is essentially against the law? How many of us have to chose between speaking our truth and keeping our relationships at the moment?

[@alanaverdi5133]

The thumbs up button for KZbin on your sight is not working properly.I had to keep pushing it to work?

[@patrickporco6972]

It's never 'safe'... that's why it requires courage...and tact...but born again...that is religious...no way around that...in fact...what you do for a living is religious

[@gingerisevil02]

“Born again” as in know yourself again...

[@elenab1380]

'Rejection is God's protection'

[@Natybsg]

My favorite phrase from now on 🙋

[@paperfrost]

Lol nice one. 😂

[@nobutterinhell]

so true How honest can i be? rub people the wring way Oh yeah now that is very honest right there!!! Real Reality !!!! i love it !!!! dependent on my friends and family of course i still want you to love me !!!

[@firenbrimstoneangel]

Nooo arent you paying attention to the TV!!! YOUR neigbors just rolled up deep and energy has turbulated...lol

[@tedoymisojos]

What makes you so sure they are wrong and you are right? Its hard to have large disagreements. Maybe some people would be open to listening to you but notice that you are too invested, inflexible, and unmoving on certain topics, in which case that would become a double rejection, them to this potentially (because of course, i don't know) inflexible idea stack of yours, and your rejection of their truth, both of which have value.

[@svalentina3075]

So how do you heal yourself?

[@tbd5082]

Let’s be friends. I like you. Let’s eat some antipasto and play some drums.

[@elizabethgalipault8295]

I would love Danial to be my friend

[@whitehawk23]

Do you do calls, therapy or otherwise?