Do Gay Relationships Move Fast?

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@charlessteiner6122 5 ай бұрын

Thought I would chime in. Old guy here (67). Enjoy your videos. You appear very intelligent and well-spoken. Your visibility especially to young people has great value; thank you for that. Wish I had something like this to click on when I was 15. As to your topic...husband and I got together very fast (7 weeks). He was in 'outer orbit' of our circle of friends because he worked long stays in Europe and S. Africa so he popped in rarely. An electronics engineer designing financial software. So I knew him slightly for a few years and he was well liked by people I respected and was obviously intelligent. Spent time helping friends or his parents. Knew nothing of celebrity/pop culture...big plus. Financially conservative. Worked out regularly. And somehow managed to be totally gorgeous and totally clueless to that fact. He was returning to his project in Spain and I know felt pressured, afraid his chance would be gone when he returned months later. I was definitely scared of the short time but also felt if I didn't give this the chance it appeared to deserve, I think I'd always look back and wonder. So...in we jumped! This coming December, that leap will be 39 years ago. No, not all roses. I remember some friction at about 5 years that was looking serious. A friend recommended a counselor which we did. Turned out rather simple. These 6+ month separations were taking their toll. Adult couples go through normal adjustments when they blend their lives and living space. We were dealing with issues at 5 years that should have been processed ages ago at 5 months! It all made sense and became much easier. It is very possible that saved our bacon. And Jax, you mentioned taking some heat by siting differences from our straight counterparts. That's totally absurd. The dynamics in a same-sex marriage are NOT the same. Not better, not worse just different and to deny that is idiotic. Yipes, I wrote a book. Please continue to video! Thanks :^)

@margueriteware9499 15 күн бұрын

Totally agreed. Common longing for empathetic connection. Heartstarved.

@dubon9999 5 ай бұрын

Happy Pride Month Gays 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

@dominicportelli7468 5 ай бұрын

Gays!? Didn't that go out in the 70's!

@cesarg.escobar-viera2644 5 ай бұрын

Great video. Tied to the need of "connecting" (which I totally agree with), there is also the need of "belonging" to something bigger than oneself (e.g., a community, a family). There is also financial reasons. Unfortunately, a lot of queer folks still experience family rejection and when that happens, folks are left without a huge source of support, which includes financial support. That is when sometimes amidst despair to make the ends meet, queer folks enter into relationships that move quickly into moving together, just to be able to face the financial pressure.

@kimmann-tg8gx 5 ай бұрын

Mr. Jaks, I am relatively new to your channel, and I must say I'm impressed and reassured, that as a young man, you have the ability to reach out to so many queer people regardless of age and so many relevant topics. Your command of language is purposeful. It has a clearly thought-out process with a beginning hypothesis, a middle fully developed presentation of both sides of an idea, and a clear conclusion. I can only imagine how powerful a one-on-one conversation with you might be in a world dominated by social media. There are a few points I'd like to reinforce from one of your other posts which I think are related here: * Personal Health - physical, mental, and emotional health. I believe these are selfish areas that can't be compromised. For me whether I'm single or in a relationship, I come first here. These are the things that attracted me to another person and them to me. I have seen so many queer people live for their relationships and stop living for themselves. It's my belief there are three components that make up a relationship: the relationship, the other person, and me. If any one of those is absent or on shaky ground, it's over. *Goals - both independently and as a couple, I think goals and achieving them keep a relationship interesting and keep it from stagnating. *Thoughts directly to "moving too fast". I'll put this out there up front, I prefer to be courted. I know it sounds old fashion and I like it. I've told potential suiters; you'll have to date me for a year before we move in together. During that year there are lots of conversations that have the opportunity to take place about monogamy, jobs, money, parents and family, politics, religion, and a host of others. Don't get me wrong, in that year, we choose to be exclusive sexually while we explore the warts and diamonds of each other. I'd be interested in your thoughts. Kim

@corgiowner436 5 ай бұрын

Like the haircut!

@Dragonmoon1598 5 ай бұрын

Ya, I can agree with that. There's nothing to add, really. Love and relationships take work. It's not surprising when you find someone to have that with you hyperfocus on them and your relationship. You were afraid it wouldn't happen. To being afraid to lose it. But, like you said, things are improving, and sonI feel it's less of a need to take the first person to come along. As far as media representation. Let's not forget that the two "lovers" tend to be ridiculously compatible. So, while it does give an idea about dating and love. It's grossly simplistic.

@Thegaygatsby 5 ай бұрын

I think, as always, you hit this one right on the head.

@TheBee87bee 5 ай бұрын

Happy Pride month to everyone ❤🏳️‍🌈!

@someinteresting 5 ай бұрын

You're not an idiot, but I'm a hopeless romantic myself, so maybe we're both idiots. But I don't care. All I know is, I was ready to marry my husband the day we met. We both were. Best decision ever.