Do I Need Self-Esteem to Love Myself and Others | Eckhart Tolle Teachings

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Yes very helpful

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[@181yq]

ET.. do u speak with aliens? Cause I doubt.. who it was I met.. or hallucinated.. Im dissosiative and bipolar but not schizofrenia

[@DeannaAKADeanna]

As you spoke, I realized that I've largely lost that relationship as I've been working on releasing so many ego-based concepts that have weighed me down for so many, many years. It was good to realize it consciously. Thank you.

[@Christina-zr8lz]

For myself Self esteem has been a necessary step to get to the point of not needing self esteem any longer in order to live a full and aware life.

[@mirjama1813]

Eckhart, the Life Champion. He cracked the code to life.

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@අන්ඩර දෙමළ ( ආන්ද්‍රා දමිළ ) Wonderfull❤

[@kuuleihunter1044]

Love seeing everyone become more conscious, we are truly evolving in an awakening as a whole and its truly beautiful

[@brock1216]

Heck ya it’s a conscious party 🔥🔥🔥

[@nightside7409]

I had low self-esteem as a child and young adult, now i'm 33 and it has improved a lot. Thank you for you teachings, I read and watch you everyday! Namaste & lets spread consciousness and happiness.

[@speedyenglish9640]

Namaste! :)

[@unconditionalfreedom]

I would like to say that ET is such a clear speaker, this is work for most not an overnight experience for most. Make it your purpose over all to practice--it may take years but it is worth everything to be at peace /to be conscious. Thank you Eckhart

[@monicapatel8098]

I could not attach myself to this talk.

[@rainerohlms1012]

I read about ET before, but listening to that was like a hammer of self awareness right on my head...amazing these precise and clear words..they go right in my heart..thank you ET 🙏🙏🙏

[@unconditionalfreedom]

@@monicapatel8098 that's okay, maybe another time. And really it's not about attaching yourself to anything,

[@monicapatel8098]

@@unconditionalfreedom you are very smart there!!!!!🤣

[@tomjackson5415]

@@monicapatel8098 ◾sometimes, although very rare,...-the talk ain't about me 🔸 This was ,not just because it was short and sweet ▪️

[@philipcoffey3617]

My relationship with myself is better than its ever been in my almost 40 years. I changed many habits I did not enjoy or appreciate and respect myself more than before. Loving yourself is important

[@connied8507]

Self acceptance without judgement is the first step to accepting others without judgement. The next step is seeing ourselves in everyone.

[@melbadee8301]

Always grateful to you, Eckhart Tolle ❤🙏

[@yukio_saito]

06:05 "You don't need self-esteem anymore." I have recently noticed that "esteem" and "estimate" have same etymology. So, self-esteem is just an estimate and non-entity.

[@GratefulZen]

Someone has suggested that instead of self-esteem we focus more on self-acceptance. At any rate, I love Eckart finding the humor in our “having a relationship” with a mind-created entity rather than something that is real. I also like the idea of letting go of our self-obsession and instead humbly being present. Thanks, Eckart!

[@tillyvickers2721]

Can't thank E Tolle enough❤

[@rickyale1618]

True Eckart, thank you again. Being able to feel the presence and knowing that it knows more is amazing.

[@mjoachim9554]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. After having covid and really getting tired of living in a state of fear and letting anxiety build up in my body, I've decided to let go of fear. And allow peace to be my constant state of mind. And this video is exactly that.❤️

[@ruthmore8803]

This is my new favorite of ET's excerpts 💐 He explains so well what is at the core of awakening. I've had glimpses of this state and with his explanation, I can now better work through the mind storms that occasionally arise. 🙏🏼

[@normavoyton3208]

I love seeing young Eckhart... Having said that, I appreciate his teaching on self esteem a lot 🥰 more than anyone else I've heard speak on the matter.

[@chairshoe81]

thank you mr.yoda

[@gavinspeaks]

The probability of being born. Is roughly 1 in 400 trillion (or more). You are a miracle, an extraordinary event manifesting divine intervention. You are the embodiment of magic. They teach us otherwise and we have forgotten how special we really are. Remember your innocence as a baby, remember the unconditional love you held, remember your truth. Live life through this miracle energy and watch your life transform 💜 Heart-Based Manifestation KZbinr

[@NondualityChannel]

Self-esteem is just how positive or negative your own self-image is...which influences the narrative of the compulsive and repetitive self-reflective and self-centered thought. It is possible for self-image to shatter and hold no image of oneself. Then there is no self to have self-esteem...no self to feel good about (or bad about). Having no relationship with yourself...just being the Self.

[@kareemmohammed5270]

feel so great full to hear these words while I'm still alive!

[@marybasto4187]

very grateful for your videos bring peace and serenity!

[@lucidbeing618]

The joys of the many things we work on!

[@TheDhammaHub]

We like to see in others what we see in ourselves... and that is also true for loveable qualities

[@louthefou4052]

We like to stop breathing, thinking some „spiritual teacher“ can make us start breathing again

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@@louthefou4052 p .

[@danielpaulson8838]

We see in others what we like for ourselves. We hate in others what we deny in ourselves. AKA, Everyone is known by their fruits.

[@rogerlin9602]

Is it possible to have relationship with yourself? Mind made image of self is mind made movements. It's your thought image. It's story based self. Step back from thought. Let mind made image of self dissolve. What's left is the true I, the presence of being, I AM. Then you don't need self esteem anymore. Self esteem is an intermediary difficult to sustain. Once you drop it, you no longer have the self to love or hate. You just have being, which is love emanating. Thanks Eckhart. 🎡🥂🌈🎡🍁🎈🌎💎🦋🤩🤠🌈🥂🦋🤠🌈

[@لحظات-س1ن]

This is the Best education

[@LadderProductionFilms]

Indeed

[@antoinettefisher6895]

Thank you

[@speedyenglish9640]

To love others, you need to love yourself. That's for sure!

[@1Strawbz1]

He always sends me to sleep literally , its his voice

[@PremRohan]

Love you Eckhart thank you

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ECHKART TOLLE YOU HAVE COME AT THE RIGHT TIME TO HELPING US ALL🙏🙏THANK YOU AND BLESSINGS TO YOU FOREVER WITH HAPPY MOMENTS IN YOUR LIFE🙏🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🦋🦋🐳🐳🌸🌸🌻🌻🌴🌷🌹💓💗🤗😊🍀🍀

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

Yes.. Thank you for clarifying this. So rare that "people get it" for what it is. We don't need the "ego"/person, it is not real, not an "entity" as it may seem. We are so blessed to have you.

[@christinestone3552]

Thank you Eckhart this was very much needed🙏💜

[@xnxbxs_zx]

Thank you 🙌

[@BecomeConsciousNow]

Amazing! I love it. It's so fascinating and intriguing. I hope to break free from myself to be the real me. It sounds wonderful.

[@Bandgeek601]

If you still don’t understand what he’s saying, this might help: By being present in the moment and simply becoming the “Observer”, you detach from your ego. The “observer” is what you and I know as God, or unconditional love. It’s considered unconditional because observation without judgment is truly seeing someone and accepting them for who they are, and in turn, that person feels seen/heard/understood. And by the law of attraction (also the law of mirroring), you become the source of that which you need, which is love. In other words, by being unconditionally loving through the power of being in the present moment (being the observer) you become one with God and you feel whole/complete, and this feeling disintegrates the feeling of need. Therefore, everything shall be given to you. “Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all of these things shall be added unto you.” The kingdom of God is that which is already in front of you. Presence = Just paying attention

[@tiuticcarefreelife974]

I am not my mind. Step back from thought. Let mind made image of self dissolve. What is left is the true I, the presence of being, I am. Thank you.

[@psycheread3258]

I have learned to question my negative self-talk, and live more in the present moment. My mom told me at the end of life she didn't like herself. She died from cancer.

[@IAn0nI]

Fantastic message.

[@amirzekri887]

Dear Eckhart as usual great

[@catherineadair5677]

nice one

[@jazzflyers]

Trushing in one's self is what we can only know...

[@mariansaines5021]

SO relevant to my current overthinking while ill! Truly horrid 😢

[@marywright4934]

The most important relationship you have is with yourself. Once I stopped the self loathing my life got much better. My spiritual beliefs moved me to a different state

[@leer9874]

How did you stop self loathing?

[@YuliaDrummond]

Wow very deep!

[@odysodys1098]

I know that's true because Eckhart Tolle me so. Thanks teacher!

[@tracezachdaniels4264]

and yes right on point....MUCH LOVE..!!!

[@عبداللهعبدالعزيز-خ7ي]

Love you 😽

[@kareemmohammed5270]

his words pierce through the fails of falsehood.

[@sophiestj]

Yes I found this helpful… I an really at à point where I am seing accutely why I cannot dépend on the external to find my sensé of value as indeed it simply doesnt last and keep going up and down depending on the image of yourself your circumstances and the people around you sends you back… And I know the long term answer is not either to keep building and rebuilding an inner positive self image, so I am seeing how liberating it would be to no longer have any need for it…

[@silviaselem8034]

The true I emerge That's it The only truth of oneness 🙏

[@cliffordtaylor1806]

I'm very Close To Surrendering The Self that can't Live with 😌❤️

[@mindfulnessatplaywithmarci2079]

"Self" esteem: which 'self'? Is this not what we are exploring? The key seems to be finding unconditioned love --period, which is to 'esteem' --to hold in high( enough) regard to lend compassion, kindness, friendliness to. To either or both my sense of 'small egoic self,' and/or greater Self --which is no self at all --aha!--and can only be esteemed or regarded highly by the local, physical, 3-dimensional self. I love this Stuffe --and appreciate you Eckhart, tremendously, and all those listening, asking these kinds of questions. I also found these quantum questions/Answers through periods of tremendous egoic suffering, suicidal depressions, many years ago... And moments of Grace, surrender portals to joyful Being. Blessings

[@regplate2923]

I have a voice that tells me everyday, all day to be careful with money. It warns me about being ‘poor’ and destitute. The mad thing it that unless it burn through it like a total fool it will never happen. But my ‘little friend’ won’t leave me alone. So I sit in darkness and have the heating turned down in case I run out of money in 20 years when I am 80! Ha ha. It’s so draining to fight with myself everyday.

[@giselar.12]

🌈Thank you, for this interesting Video.🧚🏾

[@zingerflippinz2066]

When I was a child I would hear from others, primarily older relatives, "You can do better." My young mind translated that to "Nothing I do is good enough." While it did inspire me to do better in everything I did it still wasn't "enough." it took years, decades, in fact, for me to realize that my worth had nothing to do with the views of others. Awkenings I have had prove otherwise.

[@Robinson8491]

This is great

[@tomkahusi7914]

Love.

[@sun018]

Beautiful 🙂❣🍀

[@zaringonda6068]

In the eyes of the ego, self-esteem and humility are contraindicatory. In truth, they are one and the same.

[@GratefulZen]

In the 12step programs as described by Bill Wilson, humility is the recognition that we are no better or worse than anyone else.

[@carpenterfamily6198]

Self esteem is like beauty, if you rely on it to make you feel good about yourself ~ you’ll be a mess when it’s gone. Don’t rely on the wrong / incorrect ( untrue ) thing.

[@मोहनसिहॅबिष्टमोनू]

Speak good,See good,Hear good "Goodness good " Think Positive Be Positive" "Being Be Religious Devotional"

[@goldielocs4359]

So I have been"binge watching" you and have been awakening! I am so happy and peaceful! The question is, now how do I do life? I have no motivation to do anything because I feel so happy and complete. But I can't even seem to get myself motivated to even do the laundry, let alone anything else. Doesn't craving have a purpose too? Namely to get us off the couch?

[@alexknox1704]

Yes i have the same problem

[@Kim.Miller]

Just be conscious in the moment as you do your chores. Nobody is coming to do them for you, so if you want to eat or live in a clean environment, you'll need to get off the couch. You can still function in Presence.

[@atmavidya9305]

Om

[@someonewhocares5924]

I believe ego is false belief and can be taken in an instance For me esteem is something created by living as well as possible and being true to yourself. No one can take that away

[@m2pozad]

If I could not put together positive self-esteem, I would replace it with present-moment-awareness essence.

[@tiffanygruzdis6757]

Love this 💜✨🌅♾️

[@chandnisingh8707]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@denzpants9285]

These last few thumbnails are captivating questions. Too bad i haven't taken the time to watch.

[@eugeniarodrigues5817]

Hola 👋. Cuesta seguirlo . Agradecería activar la posibilidades de subtitulado en español. Gracias!!

[@leolok2632]

Psychologists and counselling therapists are still struggling desperately with a fixing mental form or thoughts of clients which are no real or without real existence. The confusion of what is ‘I’ cause all human sufferings. Dissolving the fake or fictitious I will evolve the real, true Self or I.

[@leolok2632]

In essence, Tolle says that self esteem is a human construct of the mind. Trying to make or maintain relationship with an idea, a thought, a belief or illusion simply doesn’t make sense.

[@tracezachdaniels4264]

SO SHWEEEETTT...much love Tee with LIONS NAMED LEO.[the music worldwide} YES..GREAT VIDEO..!!!

[@maggie1321972]

I got so sick of myself that it caused a big change in thinking, and feeling, much better but I don’t remember what my thoughts were.

[@lu_re7198]

If there’s no self, then you cannot know that what you’re feeling is “love”. A “nothing” has no feelings. You must have “self awareness” to know that you’re feeling this “love”.

[@Facehook42]

Its hard for me to experience that separation from the storyline of ego because I am so entrenched in it. I identify too much with the doer and consequently I suffer everyday. I'm a scared, angry little boy even though I'm 41 years old. And really just started meditation, although I don't do it every day. But I feel like meditation will be a method that's going to help become more present not just during the moment of meditation, but hopefully the sense of presence will naturally flow into my everyday life. I'm hoping anyway. Still get extremely angry over small things. This rage is really scary, lol. It seems like it comes out of nowhere!

[@Gaurav.P0]

More power to you 😌

[@broken_clock_right_twice]

I'm here to tell you the average person has not a clue. Their judgement on you bars no effect. Self esteem or allowing others to judge you is a problem with you! I removed myself from those crowds. Life has become lonely at times. But I never question who I am based on someone else comments.

[@amnaj2503]

❤❤❤

[@timbeao9405]

My experience with self-esteem, much of what ET, refers , it helps but is not a solution, if I want peace...This self sometimes ..or most of the time its so thick, so apparently true, that to disassociate from it seems very difficult....I ask , clarity, enlightenment, just happens?, ..one day puff! there you are??, seems to be the a never ending path...cooking it till its ready...maybe...

[@alandry6872]

Dear Eckhart, what do you think of psychotherapy and such like? I come from a dysfunctional, alcoholic background and have been having psychotherapy for nearly 3 years. Also, I've recently been going to ACA meetings (Adult Children of Alcoholics). I love your videos and writing and it's occurred to me that, if I could only follow your advice by quietening the mind and the ego, I wouldn't need any of the other stuff 🤔 I'd be so interested in your reply. But if Eckhart can't answer, I'd also love to hear what others think about this question. Many thanks (PS I suppose there are degrees of everything; I don't consider myself mentally ill or unable to manage my life.) PPS I posted here because it's the latest video, not because my question has anything particularly to do with self-esteem.

[@Omnipresence101]

Can relate to your question and journey, has been a process for me, since the age of 28 have been in therapy and found as I grew therapists changed too.It's ended now and found with the last one it felt very equal in that there wasn't a therapist and client, but more like a friendship even though it was professional at the same time.Have in between backwards and forewards written to my True Therapist That feels True And know no matter what I'm never alone, am not attending al-anon meetings at the moment but have found them to be helpful, am finding it is a journey and whatever works works.There is a time for everything, just trusting the journey now wherever I may be.

[@joejo7698]

🙏🏽

[@Belfreyite]

Self Esteem comes in handy when trying to mate. If the love object senses that you are at home with your self-worth and have genuine confidence, you are halfway to the conquest. Do we learn how to cherish and regard by being loved as a child? I think we do and I think it is a part of an evolutionary cycle.

[@newheavenuniversegoldenglo2734]

Eckhart

[@איריתאורבך]

Thank you Tolle. 💙🇮🇱💙🇮🇱💙🇮🇱💙🇮🇱💙

[@davidbrown1566]

My daily process of being in the present moment involves acknowledging thoughts that pop into my consciousness and allowing them to be and subside. These thoughts often relate to the image of myself that has been created in my mind. I can be plagued by negative thoughts, shame, guilt….all sorts of unpleasant thoughts. When this happens I refocus my attention on my presence and try to power through these moments. Is there some other technique I can employ to stay in presence? Am I right in thinking that this mind image of self will always exist?

[@manuel-8277]

please, would it be possible to have the Italian subtitles of Eckhart's videos?

[@sydney.josieee]

Wow

[@Steve197201]

I'm not a psychologist, but I would think that people who are self critical might have grown up with narcissistic parents. A couple of great channels to learn more about that are Dr. Ramani and Dr. Les Carter.

[@epicmindtricks]

❤️

[@soulstreams333]

🙏🏻❤️

[@helenstauffer579]

Eckhart, why does the negative side of the conscious mind get more attention then the positive? Why does it overwhelm the mind?

[@carlasousa8623]

I have this need to be loved and admired and when someone else comes along that is more cool I get jealous. Low self steem . I now realise… now how to get out of this horrible place?

[@nobodyreally]

🌻

[@mr.c2485]

How many “selves” do we have?

[@josephmarcello7481]

Continue from previous... Whether one chooses Zen Masters, such icons as p Krishna murti or the halcyon and Olympian Ramana Maharishi, close inspection and experience bear out the confirmation that there is indeed a personal selfhood in process However, groupies and wannabes will be the first to decry such realities, so bent are they upon having their preconceptions confirmed.

[@Tanyabah1]

I am telling my false self that I can't live with you any longer. And I mean it. Nothing happens.

[@feelovenergy]

Like indras net !

[@707josh]

He looks like Phora if he was old

[@richardcrocker8048]

Self Esteem is related to conditioned social/cultural values

[@nickstoic2944]

Need self-esteem to love myself and others....Where does the ego part fit in this headline?

[@Iamyoung445]

So I take it that Eckhart is vaccinated since he is from Canada and is traveling freely around the world? Or does he own his own plane?

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[@janethoward1936]

Eckhart Tolle Is Mary the Chosen One of God, the Divine Feminine?

[@snaxolotl2.0]

Interesting question for sure. 🤔