Do Single Moms Have a Bad Reputation in the Philippines?

[@TheFuentesFamily]

Hi everyone!!!!!!!!!!!! Enjoy the video! Please like and comment; much appreciated! ❤ Have a great weekend, guys!!! ❤

[@user-zy1oh8jk7j]

Thanks for the video ☺️

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

@@user-zy1oh8jk7j you’re welcome!

[@shannonholliday412]

My wife was a single mother when we met, she made a mistake when she was young and got walked out on. We’ve been married for a year and she’s amazing.

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

God bless you and your family @shannonholliday412! We’re happy for both of you😊.

[@kalasatwater2224]

Pass this knowledge to the younger generation of women so they don't do the same mistake

[@amazonseller-yf8vv]

Very nice interview and excellent work!!! All the girls are so nice but i especially like Cherry and Diana May!!! Keep up the good work!!!

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thank you Amazon Seller!

[@davidlampkin1121]

In a man's point of view the mom should teach the daughter to keep her virginity until a man is able to support a family and has his own house and transportation and mature enough to provide first.

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Hopefully every daughter would listen to their mothers or parents. Thanks David for sharing your thoughts!

[@sale8085]

avoid single moms, no matter what nationality

[@PassportLife]

Exactly 💯

[@protegelin]

@@sale8085 in single mom relationships...YOU are NEVER a priority. YOU are definitely the ATM

[@garrieWalker]

Hi Johnny & Lorie, Thank you both for an interesting subject that was well put together. Lorie, you seemed a bit nervous with your outfit, don't be, you looked really nice, sweet, really slim and very professional too................ Both have a wonderful weekend too? Garrie Chan

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

You’re welcome Garrie! No I wasn’t😂. They’re actually comfortable. But yeah, thank you and have a wonderful weekend too.

[@eurasia1963]

Very sad situation there,I know first hand.Ive been with my filipina 8 years,she had 2 kids in their teens when I met her,single mom,living in poverty and handouts from aunty abroad (that's how I met her introduced through the aunty)her husband was a bigamist,happens a lot,these single mom's take a lot of discrimination, a lot unfairly.Mine is the love of my life,lovely lady,its definitely been worth the time and effort 100%,just a personal anecdote,guy from uk

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thank you for sharing that to us @eurasia1963!

[@chicagojimholdcroftsr9749]

GOD BLESS Everyone 🙌 🙏 ❤️

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

God bless you too Jim😊!

[@tonig.]

For me, these would not have a worse reputation . Especially not if they are not directly responsible for it. However, this could possibly be attributed to naivety, maturity and a careless approach to responsibility. But you can also learn from mistakes, so there's nothing to stop you going on a date.

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Learn from mistakes. That’s beautiful Toni!

[@johngalt6708]

Lack of sex Ed and the refusal of the Catholic Church to endorse most types of contraception are the main reasons. Kids are fantastic, but best brought up by two commited married partners. Choose wisely in all things!

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thanks John for sharing your thoughts!

[@stevenr1354]

Another interesting topic! IMO young women in the Philippines, particularly in lower income households, are generally more romance oriented and less financially motivated in selecting a boyfriend. So a poor guy who is cute and has a good line of BS can do well. That plus lack of emphasis on birth control has inevitable consequences. The ladies don't "wise up" until it's too late. Ms. Lorie, Beautiful yellow and green outfit btw!

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thank you Steven! We’re happy you find the topic interesting.

[@chicagojimholdcroftsr9749]

Fuentes Family is the Best 🤙

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thank you Jim! We really appreciate it.

[@PingYmsum]

I married a filipina single mom with two kids. We've been married for 12 years. Our anniversary was yesterday. My wife took me to a restaurant, she paid for it. FSM's are underrated...

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Wow. God bless you and your family Ping! 12 years, that’s beautiful.

[@MUNDONGHIWAGAPH]

I actually prefer an older single mom. They are more responsible, settled down and just have their priorities straight. I know people won’t agree with me but that’s my preference. My wife was a single mom and she is a truly amazing woman and I’m blessed to have her and her daughter a part of my life

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

They are very lucky to have you😊. God Bless you and your family @MUNDONGHIWAGAPH!

[@ahmedelsray]

She from ph ?

[@PassportLife]

Good for you. More quality, non single mom's, and no extra mouths to feed.

[@moderndaydrifter4672]

Single moms is where it's at, you cant lose by going with a mature, experienced woman.

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thank you for sharing that Modern Day Drifter! There are really some matured single moms.

[@PassportLife]

You can find a mature woman who isn't a single mother, and what do you mean by "experience?"

[@moderndaydrifter4672]

@@PassportLife life experience

[@islandborn9649]

@moderndaydrifter4672 not so much in the Philippines, the laws are not on your side. Example: since there's no divorce the husband can come back and off you and get away with it. Also if the child is young, you can't be alone with the child. Let's say you want to take the kid/kids to a mall (without) the mother, you can be arrested. It's not favorable to you, to be with a single mom. Please be careful. Research the laws about this subject.

[@josebonete]

40 years ago there was a lot of teen moms here in the US. When access to contraceptives and sex education in public schools those statistics began to drop. The main concern back then was overpopulation with dwindling resources. Countries like Ethiopia, Somalia millions of people died because of starvation. Even before that in China millions also perished because of lack of food. With billions more population growth the resources seem to have been solved. Now the concern is negative birth rates. The US and the Philippines are also on the path of negative birth rates. As affluence increases birth rates tend to decline. Here are some of the fastest depopulating countries based on birth rates: Bulgaria: Expected to see a 22.5% decline in population by 2050. Lithuania: Projected to experience a 22.1% population decrease by 2050. Latvia: Anticipated to have a 21.6% decline in population by 2050. Ukraine: Expected to see a 19.5% population decrease by 2050. Serbia: Projected to experience an 18.9% decline in population by 2050. Bosnia and Herzegovina: Anticipated to have an 18.2% population decrease by 2050. Croatia: Expected to see an 18.0% decline in population by 2050. Moldova: Projected to experience a 16.7% population decrease by 2050. Japan: Anticipated to have a 16.3% decline in population by 2050. Albania: Expected to see a 15.8% population decrease by 2050. All moms and their child should be celebrated and supported no matter their marital status. This non-sensical stigma does not belong in our modern society. Let's celebrate father's too because they are just being shamed for not being able to support his family. I can suggest things like what if fathers get priority in hiring for all jobs and government can supplement a company with a tax break and the father gets a small monetary benefit for the family's health and well-being. Start celebrating and stop shaming.

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Wow. Thank you Jose for sharing that to us!

[@Dus306]

Well, I was with one for nearly a year until she came clean about still being legally married and didn't have just one kid.... but 3. All while knowing my plan was to get married

[@chrisgoeswest9882]

Interesting topic as always. The answers of course make a lot of sense, although it also seems there is a tremendous pressure on young women (even girls) to have babies to “complete” their lives. I am sure this makes it easier to overlook red flags in a partner or “forget” to use a condom. I love the responses to your “second chance” question. Your videos frequently give a nice shot of compassion for the day :)

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thank you Chris!

[@timdavis2285]

I am talking to single mom. Two adult children. No relationship since her husband left 13 years ago. she seems legitimate. Any advice going forward. Also is Tumauini safe for foreigners?

[@protegelin]

Tread with care...beware the red flags and any requests for money. Take care. God bless.

[@bluesart7]

If they want to know how serious the guy is about them, just tell him no sex until marriage. They will soon see how serious he is about them. Or not.

[@aicsusa]

Every single mom I have talked to says they were with a Filipino guy and when they got pregnant he left her. The last girl in the dark top and blue jeans is very beautiful. I am surprised she is single. She probably has many offers already so I won't even try. I wish the government would make the guys responsible for the children they create. Especially financially! In the USA we have child support systems in place and they really do make the guys responsible financially. Filipino guys do not want a woman with kids and the single moms hate Filipino guys after what they did to them or their friends so they look for foreigners who will accept them and their child and create a happy family. Many young Filipinas do not even consider a Filipino boy they immediately want an American man to be with forever and know he won't leave them.

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

She just broke up with her ex a month ago. Maybe that was the reason why Diana Mae is still single.

[@philaufan6]

An unwed mother in America is not that big of a deal nowadays but not so in the Philippines. There it can be a major social transgression or looked down upon. She might not be able find a Filipino husband because he would be stigmatized as well. Filipino men can barely take care of themselves much less another man's child. Most of the time an unwed mother in the Philippines has no real choice but to seek a foreign husband. Given their good feelings towards America and Americans very often it’s going to be an American or other Westerner. My Filipina is a single mom and she's wonderful. I just am going by what I have learned from her.

[@dominicurso691]

Yes 100% they do. Broke phone. Baby needs food. Red flags.

[@ejtaylor73]

Let me preface by saying my opinion excludes widows, they are a completely different topic. I wouldn't say Filipina single moms have a "bad" reputation, unless it's from their own people judging them. Single moms, not just Filipina's but every where, get the reputation of being promiscuous, and that leads men to believe she won't be faithful, loyal, and trustworthy, things men VALUE in a woman they will commit to. They can also be seen to make poor decisions, they don't regret the child, just the person they made it with, which shows they made a poor decision and should have taken more time before jumping into bed with them, and for an allegedly religious people, they don't follow the morals and values set by the religion they claim to have faith in (MANY verses against sexual immorality). Single moms bring a lot of extra "baggage", emotional scars from previous relationships, the ex still being inside their heads; comparing the foreigner to the ex and going into the relationship with low/bad expectations of the foreigner because of it, and now the foreigner has to prove he's not the same which will get EXHAUSTING, which will take away his PEACE and happiness and make him miserable; the biological father getting involved in the relationship and if he knows she's with a "rich" foreigner you can guarantee he is going to come back into the picture; her priority is HER child (As it should be) and not having time to spend with the foreigner so he might as well be single; the cultural differences and differences in discipline; the foreigner has no say in how the child is raised because it's NOT HIS child. The only thing the foreigner gains is extra stress, drama, headaches, and financial burden, the same thing he would get with a single mom in his own country. This is generalizing and does NOT apply to ALL single moms, there are SOME unicorns that none of this applies to, but good luck finding them, and again, this excludes widows. On a separate note, there is NO such thing as unconditional love, there are ALWAYS conditions. "Love me unconditionally, accept my flaws and as I am." IMPOSSIBLE, accepting you as you are and your flaws are CONDITIONS. Any preference, standard, boundary, etc., are all conditions on that love. Thank you Lorie and ladies for the interviews, I hope you all have a wonderful day.

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thank you Eric for sharing your thoughts. We appreciate it.

[@Dennis_Heaton]

You should have asked for ID for the lady who said she was 31, I don't believe it either!

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

You were right Dennis LOL! A lot of Filipinas really look younger than their age and Gretchen is one of them.

[@johnv5156]

It's simple, men of value with options typically don't want to care for another man's child.

[@CarlCutts]

Biggest problem regardless of age they can't budget money

[@stevend474]

Let make it simple as possible. No man wants to play on another mans saved game.

[@stevengonyaw1617]

It's not a PRIVILEGE raising someone else's kids !!

[@jdsim9173]

Dating a Filipina mom is not out of the question, as long as she can show she doesn't want me for only money.

[@bryanlonger8646]

Good job

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Thank you Bryan!

[@jes2731]

It’s not the single mom in the Philippines stigma from the viewpoint of other Filipinos that is the issue. From the Westerner, and American’s mostly, we call an illegitimate child, BAGGAGE! In the States, a mother with baggage is an issue, and most times they become unapproachable by a prospective man for long term relations. Mainly because she may become unfaithful with him too, and have more baggage in the future, and not with the prospective man that she may be currently dating. Most westerners don’t understand the difference with Filipina’s with a child versus western women with a child, and there’s a HUGE difference! My Filipina wife of almost 33 years had made the same mistake early in life, and had a 3 year old son when we first met. Obviously we worked through the issue, and are still happily married 30+ years later. Westerners, i.e. Americans, are for the most part very understanding and will warm up to, and accept the young children of of other Filipino men with their prospective girlfriend on most occasions.

[@bespokearms]

No Boyfriend Since Birth (NBSB) seems straight forward, but what does that actually mean? Everything except bedroom time? Or is NBSB mean never held hands or went to dinner and a movie. Or can you 'date' a person and be NBSB because you never introduced him to your family. When does a person go from NBSB to having a boyfriend?

[@travels129]

Problems is there way way too many single moms its not good

[@davey_M]

In the worst case, in the west, a single mother will get government support, and the father will be forced to help their child, they do not get away scot-free like I hear about the irresponsible Filipino ex husbands. The Philippine government needs to step up and try to help to make things easier for single mothers where the father of the child has deserted the relationship of supporting their own child. In the best case, in the west, the single mother has a good job and can afford to remain single until she finds a partner, this choice is not available to Filipino single Moms. It's a shame if they have a bad reputation, as it's more than likely not their fault and survival is not always under their control.

[@tedjohnson4451]

I have no problem with Single Moms... Stuff happens... A guy running off after getting a Young Lady pregnant is a "Story-as-old-as-time"...

[@ahmedelsray]

I hope find Single mom for marriage i will visit phil soon ❤

[@TheFuentesFamYT]

Good luck @ahmedelsray😊.

[@ahmedelsray]

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[@mtnmandeluxe5429]

Hi Lorie,,by now,you know I say what I believe,,,and again,,this is just my belief! I think the big issue is this,,pretty much everyone knows the ridiculous catholic laws of the Philippines,,no divorce,,EVER. Mom's are more likely to have been married and people dont want to be involved with a woman that's still legally married. And it seems that ,,even though Filipinas expect honesty from a partner,,but arent bothered at all if they feel they need to lie. In the Bible,,God doesnt differentiate between regular lies and little white lies,,because a lie is a lie,,,so with this habit being well known,,,its kind of hard to trust. Lies arent just from women,,most guys lie their butts off. Personally,,I hate lies,,and I dont lie,,,since I'm not perfect,,I cant claim that I have never ever lied and anyone being honest cannot claim they've never told a lie. So ,,between having a kid and possibly being married,,and the Filipina habit for covering up by lying,,its actually pretty scary. Sometimes you have to keep yourself safe. In this country it's pretty easy to see if anyone has been married and been divorced. I've dated Moms,,and even with divorced women,,you usually end up mentally with the ex inside the new relationship. I know it's not fair to moms,,because there are some really good ones. The only way I'd date a Mom is if her husband had died. Lorie,,did I state my point of view clearly,,so people can understand what I'm saying?? Hope you have a happy Sunday! Ttyl,,,Marlon

[@richardguthrie6765]

No, the sorry dad's that leave the women to raise the children on their own have a bad reputation

[@CharlesBrown-q8q]

Because single mothers have ex partners, if they truly are exes. If you can find a partner with less baggage why risk it.

[@lukeArmstrong524]

yes they do have bad reputations and are judged by other Filipino. That's coming from there own race

[@PinoyZo1]

Single moms every have a bad reputation. Most people don’t want to play a video game in someone else’s saved game.

[@RainMan52]

Playing another guy's saved game is rough... sorry

[@Meta-llicana2]

Because just like a lot of western women they keep making bad decisions and poor judgment